The Problem With Reality TV Dating Shows | The Russell Howard Hour

From The Russell Howard Hour, Russell takes a look at some of the issues around shows such as Love Island and Ex on The Beach.
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[@user-ow4es8ds5z]

He is so right about kids and social media. Scary and sad world for kids growing up now.

[@_____alyptic]

But the cabbage though, I have to know 🙈

[@Nostripe361]

Social Media didn’t really take off till I was already a young man in college. Thankfully by then I already had a fully formed personality. I didn’t really feel like a knew myself till my senior year of high school. I shudder to think of how I would have turned out as if I had gotten into social media as awkward teen with no deep friends. Ended up trying Facebook and tumblr for a bit. I barely used Facebook except for checking some announcements from my college and I only really was into tumblr for the cool anime art. Now a days I don’t even remember my old login names

[@mmr4595]

Kids don't grow up so much anymore as much as grow out. Little shits are either eating or complaining about being fat

[@aliciles]

saw a tiktok of some girls like 6 year old sister on a treadmill and said she did it every morning... really sad

[@zaink7037]

As a support worker in my local hospital with a mental health department it's sad to see the amount of young people going there for mental health. Most of these young people are in there 20s. Social media and society itself is to blame.

[@The482075]

As a child, his mates made fun of him for his wonky eyes. Now he is a successful comedian married to a doctor. (Edited due to feedback).

[@gary-from-smiths-across-th9641]

So who is the real loser now, HUH, NEIL JOHNSON?!

[@chuckdeuces911]

He's lying

[@ryqn1402]

@@chuckdeuces911 wtf u know

[@aaroncousins4750]

I thought shes a nurse

[@thesmilingdog3629]

Woopty doo bazil but what does all mean.

[@maureenackerley8024]

I love his humour, there is always an underlying message in what he says.

[@christopheredison2094]

Best comedien for this era, he can do humour whilst tying it to logic, bring important subjects to the surface with the bare truth, even when hes pointing out negativity or being sympathetic and heartfelt he can still make it lighthearted and funny creating laughs.... Now thats a fine art to do that, intelligent all round great bloke from what ive seen of him, no bad news in the media about him and he doesn't have to use dark humour to get noticed 👌

[@countywhereverfan9960]

I also recommend watching Isaac Butterfield, he is an Australian comedian who sheds light on issues as well

[@christopheredison2094]

@@countywhereverfan9960 i will have a look tomorrow 👍

[@countywhereverfan9960]

@@christopheredison2094 will you let me know what you think?

[@daveg5590]

He's crap. He laughs at his own "jokes" too. Simply not funny - at all. He's as entertaining as an empty suitcase.

[@biggusdickkus2956]

Virtual signalling warriors arise

[@smileguy1287]

Let's be fair, the perfect beach body isn't muscles or a magic neck parasol, it's (from a evolutionary stand point) a crab. Think about it though... I mean it'd be horrifying to see a 6 foot humanoid looking crab but it would be the best for the environment.

[@chuckdeuces911]

Not smart

[@jbmaru]

@Sharee Mitchell Onepunch Man Episode 1. You're welcome ;)

[@aderi31415]

Can't argue with evolutionary history. Crabs are the perfect beings.

[@js66613]

Clearly, the crab is superior to us lowly humans.

[@JenksCraft]

Crabs rein supreme (Dr. Who)

[@bilindalaw-morley161]

I've been on a Russell binge for days. There's a lot I've loved, nothing I've disliked, but the moments I laugh most are when he can't stop his own laughter! With his political stance, and social commentary he should be the epitome of "angry comedian" but instead it's comedy gold all the way.

[@michaelsmith7425]

I had to crack up about his teacher joke. Years ago in woodwork our teacher Mr Baston would get so worked up about people cutting what they needed for a project from the middle of the sheet rather than the edge, (waste) . He got so angry one day with one kid for doing just that, that he went ballistic anbout the money that the school was wasting. He yelled at the kid "That wood doesn't grow on trees you know !!!" A small voice from the back of the shop class said, "Erm Sir, yes it does ?" The teacher was totally deflated and went to his office for the rest of the class period. 🤣🤣

[@Fledhyris]

Hahaha that would have been my kid. And it wouldn't have been in a small voice!

[@jasonjayawardena8512]

Looooool whoever said that is a legend

[@mistermack4987]

I have now officially adopted " He looks like a dropped pie" into the American vernacular. Thanks, mate

[@oceanmythjormundgandr3891]

Social media is a double-edged sword. It has both kicked me down with pressure and also provided platforms for me to get better, figure myself out, and have fun. Russell really did have lots of points though. Kids shouldn´t take frequent pictures of themselves (or videos) and put it online for others to judge. It has and can destroy them thanks to the people that exist online. Same with reality-tv. It has set standards that not many can reach, and even then... will they ever be satisfied with themselves? Some people will always find something "wrong" they have to "fix" about their apperance.

[@theenigma2861]

I wish I could phrase things this well

[@dragontoothless4351]

Another thing which children and young teens don't tend to understand (and some, but not all adults) is that most reality TV shows are scripted by the producers and have no real basis in reality itself. People will act as they are told to by the staff, regardless of whether they are really like that themselves. So you can find someone who is really a very heartwarming individual, acting like a complete jerk, or someone who likes to torment others, playing the hero who stands up for the same folks whom they would normally bully, etc. Since it is viewed as someone's chance at being in the spotlight, they'll do as they're told to ensure they aren't edited out of the finished product.

[@chuckdeuces911]

It's not double edged. It's all bad. This isn't social media.

[@sorrowandsufferin924]

Most of what kicked me down were pictures, most of what lifted me up were texts. That's why I use tumblr instead of instagram..

[@frcluc]

You've just dercribed the Internet.

[@CuriosityJuice]

Raising awareness about real issues at right time 💯

[@dorissaclaire]

“Last of my mates to lose my virginity…when I was 15…” damn they do things different in Britain

[@VaftrudnerKGA]

Hell, i was 23 when i lost mine.

[@bilindalaw-morley161]

Bit backward. Although, I grew up in rural Queensland (Australia). With only three TV stations at most. There wasn't a lot else to do.

[@MagiksGirlBunny]

Definitely agree on the need for positive female role models. I grew up in the 90s in Mexico and on TV all there was was damn telenovelas with characters and plot lines that made no sense. I turned to English media and I can't mention a single strong, smart female role model. I had to turn to male role models, Mr. Rogers (RIP), Neil deGrasse Tyson, Bill Nye and the female I remember being most prominent is Martha Stewart: a house wife (nothing wrong with that but she didn't fit my vibe). My role models pushed me to be smart, question everything, expand my knowledge, experiment with science, language, archeology, astronomy, math. During high school my final paper was on Black holes. I went on to study Industrial Engineering and found it quite easy. I remember being told I was too masculine, "That stuff is for boys", not going to get into Engineering School "it's too hard", I was warned that there was going to be no women and I would feel "alone" as I had been born attached to someone, I never heard anyone say that to any boy.... I was already alone. My peers didn't believe in me, some of my teachers didn't believe in me, only my parents. A woman teacher (Industrial Psychology) im Engineering school told me in 7th of 9 semesters that I should have gone to art school because my diagrams and work were so pretty. The AUDACITY! I was only praised for doing "girly" things and people were surprised when I did better at electrical unions than ALL my 19 male classmates. I learned to brush it off to prove that women are capable of more than housework and pretty things like Martha Stewart (no shade). My parents were always the ones that kind of believed in me, they saw me making my own way and how far I got so they just did all they could to help support me even though I could see they had their doubts. I had learned from MEN on TV that I was strong and capable, that I could reach and touch the stars, that no goal was too big or idea too small or unimportant. I learned I was an important human being that could make an impact on history and be successful at whatever I wanted. At around 30 years old I found more women that have felt like me and we just click. We didn't conform to society's assignment of what we should be, do or look like. It's never been easy and with shizzy programs it won't get any better for the following generations.

[@mmr4595]

You aren't married are you

[@MagiksGirlBunny]

@@mmr4595 get well soon

[@benzaiten933]

on the other hand now YOU can become an inspiration for other girls and young women interested in fields still dominated by men. as I grew older what annoyed me most was that there are even some women who think men are just 'better' at certain things. so I always reply to such nonsense "oh, do you need to operate the computer with a penis? no? then it makes no difference and the best person should be chosen for the job, regardless of gender". no really, you don't need a penis to operate a computer, you don't hold a scalpel with a penis, you don't pilot a plane with a penis, outside the adult entertainment industry a penis isn't needed for any form of job so why wouldn't women be able to do it?!

[@ayseyurukcu9306]

Thank you for your story. There are so many women who feel like you, but weren’t supported by their parents. My parents didn’t send me to the technical school I wanted to go to „because there are no other girls in my class“ and they sent me to economics school. After high school I finally could decide on my own what to study and went to the technic university to become an engineer. It was more difficult because I had an economic background but I still managed to be best of my class most of the time and got only A‘s. I married pretty young because I also wanted kids and a family of my own. But little that I know, that even though I had a very supportive husband the society judges you constantly for not being a 100% full time mum and for wanting to achieve more. Having to deal with postpartum depression and constantly being judged by parents for being a „bad mum“ because I wanted also a career etc. slowed me down, but I managed to get up. I gave birth to my second baby boy and did my phd during the pandemic and will now begin to work again. But it was very very difficult to get to this state. I love my work but too often I felt like the whole world is against me doing my thing and too often people tried to convince me to give up on my dreams even though I was really good at it.

[@MagiksGirlBunny]

@@ayseyurukcu9306 Bestie... You do you. As you said, it can be "very difficult to follow your wishes" in a society that doesn't see women as equal or capable. My dad always encouraged me to be self sufficient and capable. He always had me with him when he was doing dad things, we even carved out the part of the hill we live in which I "did all by myself" at 4 years old 🤣 My mom wanted me to be a girly girl always putting me in braids and dresses. I can't thank them enough for that support. I also experienced negativity from the world saying I was too masculine (like grade school and such) because I knew how to do "boy" things like kick a ball propoerly and other places (like uni) I was too feminine because I knew "girl" things like sewing buttons. In high school I took up a Technical Degree in Business Administration and found too easy. I went on to Industrial Engineering with even my classmates thinking I wouldn't make it in. In Uni I had ups and downn but found my people. We were a group of about 13-14 friends in which we were only 2 girls and later another girl joined us. At work I was the only woman Engineer in my area. About 4 years later I moved departments and 1 year later a Jr. Engineer joined us. At the last department I was in, I was under intense pressure and didn't realize I had developed depression and anxiety. The breaking point was an a.hole that joined and I kept complaining about his abuse. They kept telling us to "make it work". I ended up writting a letter to HR about his gaslighting, raising his voice and attitude in general. He got fired. About six months later I was given a letter saying I was "difficult to work with" and to sign I would improve or could be fired without benefits (mandatory in my country). I didn't sign and the next day I was fired with 80% benefits. It also turns out I had been paid half of what other Engineers with less responsibility were being paid. I did get experience in many areas of manufacturing so at least I got that benefit. I've been staying home working on my mental health for about a year now living off the severance money. I had high functioning depression, was disconnected from my family because of the long work days, I had given up my hobbies yet kept buying materials "to use when I get a chance". I'm better now. I've mostly healed. I've become closer to my family. I've retaken my hobbies and taken them to higher levels. I'll start working again soon. My background in Quality Systems for Medical Devices, Molding, Extrusion, Incoming Inspection, Failure Analysis, Medical Device Assembly and Design, Testing, etc are a major asset I gained. Children are not something I want for many reasons. But I was also pressured about it. Thank you for your story as well. I hope you can continue to live your life the way you want it and not the way people EXPECT you to live it to their standards 💕

[@Miss-Anne-Thrope]

I was putting on coconut scented lotion on when he made that joke... 😩 🤣🤣 It's so sad that there are so many girls resorting to self harm because of social media 😔 I deleted my social media years ago (other than KZbin and a support forum for mental health) and it was one of the best things I ever did!

[@Venemofthe888]

Hes very much right about this like there is so much focus on how you look only and that absolutely sucks. So many people are body conscious all because others are airbrushed to look better because they aren't what people want to see and it can be a vicious cycle. Natural Beauty isnt just on the outside its on the inside too because a personality is always more beautiful than how you look. Treat Everyone with respect and hopefully you have respect for yourself and if not i hope you find it one day

[@benzaiten933]

meh, bodies are just meat sacks to carry around the mind. do look after it so it stays healthy and functional for a long time but outward appearance is not important.

[@tman5634]

That Kim woman, what a darn sad individual. She's deffo got issues. Brilliant Russell, so funny & yet true shit.

[@countywhereverfan9960]

So true

[@benwilton5307]

And the thousands of fans who pay attention to her smh

[@Elwaves2925]

@@benwilton5307 It always makes me want to puke when people defend her and call her a role model. She's also a huge hypocrite as she did one of her infamous nude shoots, then later called out others for doing it, then shortly after that she did that 'break the internet' nude shoot. That whole family is a huge waste of life.

[@AtheistOrphan]

Kim women? How many of them were there?

[@Andytheevien]

​@@AtheistOrphan I think they meant woman.

[@annarasmus8737]

"Is brexit a cabbage?" 😂😂😂...and then "is it a cabbage though?" 😂😂😂😆

[@theoriginalalias]

Can I just say, I am over the moon to see how many people are loving you as much as I do… Please don’t ever change. I think you’re fucking awesome ❤️

[@canoeman621]

Russell, I have been watching your videos for the humor. Today you earned my respect. Good job mate.

[@ryu.2382]

Thank you daniel, hope you enjoyed my show

[@bernadettevallely4939]

@@ryu.2382 always most positive person and a comic too thanks so much for everything you do

[@ryu.2382]

@@bernadettevallely4939 😂 your welcome love ❤️

[@lovelygirl18]

'21 reality stars killed themselves in a decade', I remember a recent-ish documentary with Kelly Osborne in it.. she said that if social media had been around when they were on tv she'd probably not be here anymore. The abuse in the media at that point was already bad but you could at least try to avoid it, now people attack you directly from all angles

[@catferreira5598]

The Hermione one was me, too, only I was older, and wha it did was validate me...! It was the first time I saw bookishness positively represented. It was the first time I read about a character with wild, curly hair, who was three dimensional, not just the butt of hair jokes. For a little girl growing up in Portugal at a time where diversity wasn't really a thing, this was everything!

[@mirandachristina3412]

Hilarious, witty & poignant! Thanks Russ! Using your platform for good xx

[@earthtigerwitch8302]

As someone who has mental health problems dating back from a kid, what Russell Howard is saying is so true. Social media is so wrong how they go about things. Dating shows please have some real people on these things that are more relatable.

[@einundsiebenziger5488]

Well, even better to not produce these shows in the first place. No matter if they feature "beautiful" or "ugly" people, these shows are an insult to the most basic human intelligence.

[@earthtigerwitch8302]

@@einundsiebenziger5488 yes this is also true.

[@JAYDOG1337A]

speaking as someone born in 96, I've never understood the obsession with social media, I haven't logged into my facebook in like 4 or 5 years

[@JargonMadjin]

The closet I have to social media now is KZbin comment sections, that's all we really need in my opinion

[@decodolly1535]

Speaking as someone born in 66, the closest I've ever been to a 'facebook' was when my brother threw a copy of Lord of the Rings at me.

[@gretebremseth1622]

@@decodolly1535 😂

[@mallow173]

You speak the truth sir!! Love your approach and how you put funny into explaining reality! Rock on sir!

[@BeccaAl]

Russel, you’re so funny, thank you I needed a laugh today! My partner is also from the west county, we came to see you once at Notts arena when we first got together. Hopefully we’ll get to see you again one day bc it was a great show.

[@rachaeljohnson3217]

His rant is so true! Love him!

[@lorrieashe8613]

This so needs to be said... thank you.

[@noahandreasen9221]

Im goin to ya stand-up show tomorrow. Super exited lad

[@kevinman8763]

Tell me how it went

[@noahandreasen9221]

@@kevinman8763 once i’ve been to it, i Will

[@mattk4110]

@@noahandreasen9221 you mean you can't see the future and tell him now??

[@noahandreasen9221]

@@mattk4110 i mean. I’ll try

[@mattk4110]

@@noahandreasen9221 😂

[@wickedrocketelvispel]

I missed your show so much! I’m so glad you’re back on!

[@terrycook1513]

Love Russell he's hilarious and smart, a rare combination these times !!

[@yippee8570]

Absolutely spot on and one of the reasons we stopped having TV when my kids were small!

[@33sugaD]

Love all you do Russell! Love your content!

[@maddyc2412]

This is why I love Russell, he's hilarious but also gives a shit about important matters

[@davidhori4899]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you! One of the best ways to communicate important messages is through (brilliant) comedy, and this message is SO important.

[@voulafisentzidis8830]

Thanks for your glorious humour whilst enlightening us with the tragic reality. Your mum sounds delightful!

[@vikj1255]

Oh Russell, that is one of your best. I was in tears! And great message.

[@crowleylan]

"i read an amazing thing on tumblr" i had to rewind to make sure i heard right. no one is doing it like russell😂

[@mayflowerlash11]

Thanks Russel, you saved the best gag for last and now I can't get the image or the words out of my head. LOL

[@jeffbrownstain]

I'm laugh-crying while simultaneously cry-laughing. It's so weird so be this entertained yet so consciously sad.

[@tyriaxepheles7996]

The automated closed captions make this so much funnier "we never had bones when we were kids"

[@bigb853]

Beauty fades, the heart stays 🦋🦋💖💖

[@moomoocachoo9025]

Even on shows like, Love is Blind, everyone is attractive. And if you do go on these shows, you might think you're attractive and then get blasted on social media by people who will call you ugly and point out things you never had an insecurity for. Which will make you have an insecurity about it. It sucks for those who go on the shows and it sucks for those who may be impacted by them.

[@JargonMadjin]

TV: Wants to compete with internet streaming Also TV: Promotes Reality Shows and has ads at louder volume than the actual programs

[@benzaiten933]

well yeah, can't have 'ugly' aka normal people on those reality shows! but I mean Hollywood is the same, if they weren't the most pretty 1% of the people those actors wouldn't have become famous in the first place.

[@oyst75]

So good, keep it up.

[@oliversherman2414]

I love your channel keep up the great stuff

[@derekcomer4858]

He always makes me laugh, absolutely top bloke 🙏

[@edgarbthurson1256]

The "mom-part" really cracked me up...

[@adrienne3334]

And I liked the last line of this comedy act, before the show finished. Thanks for making my Monday morning with no mourning involved...xx

[@jammaschan]

I don't usually agree with all the viewpoints russel has but this is spot on.

[@foxymanaic5934]

I can't stress how much I agree with Russell on this. TV shows say that it's only people's body that they need to develop, nothing else. Screw your personality, it's all about appearance. Now I know that for most people you need both, a good body and a lovely personality but I personally think people need to be looking at personality more than their body. I love what Russell said at 5:00 "Not all blokes should have to have a perfect six pack". He's so right about that because that's all that people make you think about, just their bodies, forget anything else, only body. I hate it so much, that people only care about their body that puts pressure on anyone who is overweight but still looking for love because TV shows and other things are pretty much saying, "if you don't have the perfect body, forget it". It hurts people so much that look for love but never get it, or they know they'll never have it anytime soon. Which could also lead to depression and other problems in your future life, I feel so sorry for those people, I know loads of people like you and I wish you the best of luck with your future love life.

[@k1ll4w4ttnohacks7]

You never fail to put a positive spin on my daay

[@greg49908]

Love your work Russell Howard.

[@erikstolzenberger1517]

As always, thanks for the upload mate, just one tiny critique: this time the audio was awfully hollow sounding ;) But keep up the good work!

[@netkat7486]

Russel; "We're like potatoes with eyes." Me; "Ummmmm......"

[@JargonMadjin]

*Elder Scrolls Oblivion Intensifies*

[@anndeecosita3586]

😂

[@danielolson437]

"Lydia....." 🤣Dying!

[@Devilsmygrandpap]

In fairness on The Little Mermaid thing, wasn't Ariel literally mute for most of that film as a plot point?

[@s.c.3308]

Yep , she traded her voice in exchange for legs.

[@drewlovelyhell4892]

It's called "Cherry Picking". Disney has made tons of movies where the dialogue is mostly female, but he needs to select examples that support his narrative.

[@dougalbadger4918]

@@drewlovelyhell4892 do you have percentages for those movies you’re claiming women talk more in?

[@drewlovelyhell4892]

@@dougalbadger4918 No, but "Sweet home Alabama, Parent Trap, Sister Act, Hocus Pocus, The Joy Luck Club" are good examples of Disney movies with mostly female dialogue.

[@mydogeatspuke]

​@@drewlovelyhell4892 Hocus Pocus is great if you can look past the bizarre obsession with children. Witches are usually women though, that is true.

[@LimeyRedneck]

Empathetic, nice turns of phrase and funny!!! 🤠💜

[@cookeymonster83]

Makes me miss the glory days of the internet where there was no pictures and you just liked someone you chatted to based on what they actually said

[@mydogeatspuke]

That's how I met my ex at the back end of the 90s. He's in his 40s and sleeps with girls in their 20s now, but those 15 ish years before I got too old and wrinkled were fantastic.

[@autumbreeze1129]

I'll bet that teacher regretted her words even as they were leaving her mouth 😆

[@OriginalWillowbark]

"Dropped Pie" I've stored that away

[@lisa.9580]

Love this man always manages to make me laugh which is always good positivity wise And because he is so down to earth in speaking the truth in what actually is going on in England politically wise as well !!

[@CharlotteXMoon]

You're my new favourite comedian!

[@mirandachristina3412]

I hope Russ has daughters because he and his lovely partner would guide and encourage them to be the best women in this world!

[@biggusdickkus2956]

Especially as both parents are women.

[@DjDizzyWales]

Russ you're a Legend 👍👍👍

[@jbmaru]

I did watch some of these shows when I stayed in the UK, that did strike me, especially with Naked Attraction, which had that pitch about being more authentic, but just turned out at the same time to be that predictable show (almost) every time.

[@demons27]

When Kim Kardashian showed up on my screen, you don't know how MUCH willpower I had to restrain myself from punching my device screen!

[@RustyR3volva]

This made my day.

[@lauradewhurst2860]

I am bragging here. But my MD son is actually named Russell Joseph !! I was shocked to see you share the same name and thrilled.

[@owenward4796]

I love how he can be political and hilarious at the same time, on a serious note, mental health, self harm is a problem, but a lot of it stems from poor physical health. If you put mental and physical health numbers up against eachother you'd be surprised how strong the correlation is

[@sazbear3913]

I agree that there is a correlation, however for many people the poor mental health might result in the poor physical health (due to an inability to take care of themselves) rather than the other way around. Definitely works both ways though.

[@kimdenault1300]

You are so awesome!👏🥰🇨🇦

[@davidjones6470]

Awesome 👌💯

[@steviewanderer]

Gym culture has gone mad and taken over our lives. We're obsessed with our looks because we're consumed by vanity and materialism as a result of *being insecure* about ourselves at the basic level. Bigger egos but lower self-esteems. Of course, it is only made worse by social media.

[@sallyroddy6566]

love Russell!

[@HR-od9fl]

Social media is the cancer in our society 🤬

[@adrienne3334]

There could be some truth in your above header, Russell erm Mr. Howard..that TV dating is body fascism. I can think of at least one programme on TV is but don't know what it is, it makes me smile. I think it's the 'People surrendering to the idea of getting their kit off, before a date even occures' Personally I don't want a guys kit off for a long time..(thats why I advocate friendship first) I'm more interested in his mind..and its contents! Thank you I shall watch you later and no doubt end up with tears of mirth trickling down my face..lol x

[@mithinie]

🤣🤣 Thank you ❤️

[@mm-yt8sf]

300 pictures of the same face from the same angle? i can't imagine being able to tell most of them apart let alone the best one.

[@eddietowers5595]

Reality TV, commonly known as trash TV, has become so pervasive it proves you are what you watch. You. Are. What. You. Watch.

[@wenjiatang4029]

Hope to see more people in the media speaking about this topic like Russell does!

[@ariadgaia5932]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@davidlane256]

I’d love to see a video of the teacher saying that.

[@clairethorne5285]

Nice to hear Swindon mentioned again😂😂

[@auroramcbride1688]

I fucking hate social media culture and the Hollywood beauty standard that this world thinks women are supposed to look like. It has given me some really unhealthy ideas for what I need to achieve as a trans woman and what people will accept when I'm out in public. I'm so terrified people will clock me if I'm not super model hot that I'm completely ignoring the progress I've made in the last few years.

[@Elwaves2925]

We don't know each other, so this won't mean much but I for one, would accept you as exactly the person you are in any situation. I'd say if other people have a problem with that, then it's very much their problem but unfortunately too many can make their problem yours. Be strong and remember what a YT'er on here always says - You are beautiful, you are valid and you are loved. :-) I've almost never found 'supermodel hot' to be hot at all. Far too many are generic and boring looking. I'll always take the 'girl next door type' over any supermodel. Thankfully, that's what I got and she's wonderful.

[@WedgePee]

Just be yourself. Being different is praised these days, and that’s a great thing.

[@JenniNoMercy]

Hun I have felt the everyday since coming out. God I needed to read this

[@oliversherman2414]

As a 19 year old, I agree with this. People shouldn't have to hate themselves because of some bs "trend" that will inevitably pass. Anyone who judges someone based on their appearance online is the biggest loser in my opinion

[@Turnpost2552]

Yet here you are. And your mate is going to be?

[@oliversherman2414]

@@Turnpost2552 what's your point?

[@SoItGoesCAL34]

Excellent

[@andyhall3122]

My stepdaughter cuts her self,she’s 15 and doing her exams at the moment she is a lot better than what she was but all the scars tell a different story and as for the doctors and cams one Word for them joke.my heart goes out to them all you got this sh#t❤️👊

[@macklinillustration]

I'm sorry your stepdaughter is struggling so, as someone who used to self harm can I offer a strategy that helped me. A flat elastic band worn on the wrist, pulling it and pinging it on the inside of the wrist, it's a sensitive area. This way I could get the pain release without causing any permanent damage.

[@arthurmorgan4041]

Same i literally almost killed myself and was diagnosed with depressive disorder and camhs never helped and the hospital didn't even give me any options for medication or SSRIs

[@johnathanrowley2707]

Been there done that, it's a scary world, the best way is turn the social media off, tv off and don't read newspapers, it helps egnore the the negative things

[@lys2303]

I entered CAMHS age 15. I was fastforwarded into the system, medicated hospitalised- CAMHS traumatised me immensely. 6 years later I’m finally off the most damaging medication of my life: olanzapine, and… alive. My message to CAMHS patients is, not all ‘qualified’ are ‘qualified’ to care. Consent should not be forced. Not all staff are honest. If a staff member does something and you don’t feel it is right, even if they tell you otherwise, you don’t have to accept it. And while antipsychotic medication can be enticing and is too readily prescribed, it will cause more MH problems. It should not be given to children or vulnerable people at all. My message to parents and carers of patients is, do not force your child into MH care. You are more likely to lose your child if you do. My love to all the people struggling. You deserve to feel cared for. 💚💚💚

[@HilalMohideen92]

“Is it a cabbage tho?” 😂

[@michelleaustin2859]

I love this

[@lauragarnham77]

I don't take selfies, but one thing I have been made aware of is that phone cameras are generally terrible for portrait photos, unless you are good at tweaking settings and have a very good phone camera (maybe even one designed for portrait photos) you are pretty much guaranteed to look worse than you do in reality.

[@emmaswanson2866]

role models are so important, as a trans woman i never saw anyone in media who was like me so i hid away, i became depressed. if i had someone to look up to my life might be better. everyone deserves a role model who is like them.

[@douglasparkinson4123]

you know some of the jokes russel makes on panel shows means you really wouldn't think he would open a sentence with "i read an amazing thing on tumblr about hermione"

[@InservioLetum]

One must admit, this chap's powerful

[@WolfgangVonKempelen838]

So true!

[@kanteop7223]

'how would u like it if i banged you against the desk', that cracked me up sooo hard

[@tornadotaylor8956]

For the Disney films. The entire plot of the little mermaid is that she can't speak. (and there are less female characters in the film's)

[@eileenfairbrother2750]

Russell is so clever .so true to

[@swingstylez]

The last time I watched Naked Attraction, a guy narrowed his selection down to two beautiful women, one who matched his description of the perfect girlfriend (based on personality), and one who had the model figure but nothing in common. He chose the model-figured woman and their date went - predictably - terribly. But I'm sure his mates were impressed (eye-roll).

[@citizenVader]

I believe that my total time used to watch reality TV shows is longer than it took me to write this.

[@georgiewalker1069]

Best comedian in the world 💫

[@NewMessage]

I'm honestly surprised that they haven't made a reality show about reality show suicides.

[@Paperbird76]

Sshhhh....🤫

[@mrnicewatch8877]

Because reality show makes them millions. What is a few suicides them ?

[@joshuataylor3550]

Netflix doc soon.

[@mydogeatspuke]

"Tune in tonight to see which of our contestants tops themselves, you won't believe your eyes!"

[@jamesmontague634]

Russell is bang on. It seems all people do is live through Instagram and Twitter these days. I am 28 years old and remember a time before social media and reality TV took over. It was a more innocent time and you weren't pressured to look or act a certain way.

[@snail_smoothie2314]

There was still pressure but not online