The Pros of Being a Disagreeable Person

Dr. Peterson discusses how agreeable individuals navigate their world with compassion and politeness, while their disagreeable counterparts exude toughness, bluntness, and a competitive streak.
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[@andy764]

I've changed after his lesson. I realised I was an agreeable person. I changed, I speak up, I tell the truth, I challenge. And things changed for much better: people start to understand my boundaries and stop crossing them; and I found respect, from people and from me, to myself. Your words change lives for better Jordan. Thank you!

[@jaredbeckwith]

Had to be disagreeable getting offered $16/hr after my internship. I went across the street and made $25/hr instead

[@EndoftheBlock7224]

@@the_mystic_man That sounds good to the simple minded and ignorant

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@EndoftheBlock7224 What does the minimum wage being raised have to do with being ignorant??

[@kyleboutilier6005]

@@piquedcommenter6252it’s ironic how ignorant his comment was lmao

[@piquedcommenter6252]

@@kyleboutilier6005 Lol maybe I'm just the one who's being ignorant Kyle but yeah I really don't see how Block's reply is pertinent to what mystic man was saying 😂

[@drumyogi9281]

@@piquedcommenter6252 listen to Dr. Thomas Sowell on minimum wage for an argument.

[@jokennedy2943]

I have moved through life from agreeable to disagreeable- it’s liberating

[@kidzextraordinaire]

Real freedom lies in that growth. I'm a naturally agreeable person but learning to be disagreeable has transformed my life completely.

[@jimmoefoe1471]

You're just born like that. There's no going from agreeable to disagreeable.

[@smutz131]

@@jimmoefoe1471 yeah highly neurotic disagreeable people confuse themselves with agreeable people a lot because they act agreeably out of fear and not what agreeable people act out of

[@georgeosborn421]

I am naturally very disagreeable often it feels like a curse in a world that praises kindness and keeping everyone happy like it’s the greatest good

[@theghostinthemachine5602]

This was a lesson I had to learn the hard way.

[@PLAYERSLAYER_22]

@3:59 this is every single nurse that got heralded as a hero while being actively exploited by the medical system....

[@sudasinghethanuja9602]

Ur videos helps me to figure things out about myself...so thank you

[@Razear]

Jordan's disagreeable client sounds very based. There's a time and place to be nice to people, but certainly not in the corporate world. Having to terminate an employee is never fun, but it's a necessarily evil to facilitate productivity within an enterprise.

[@eibhlinnichrualoai]

I'm both... probably more on the compassionate side but when I study, work do anything meaningful I am competitive in the sense I want to be the best ❤

[@Jonathan-ru9zl]

Not giving those life lessons to high school students is stupidity and ignorance

[@KristineEstes-zq8jo]

Damm straight, as an agreeable person it's hard to take the rudeness I get from disagreeable people, but I'm learning 😂

[@sonarmb]

How do you become a disagreeable person, I am willing to learn!

[@luigimarino374]

Be around disagreeable, competitive people

[@theghostinthemachine5602]

After so many times of being taken advantage of, and used, you finally realize you come first. I am not saying disregard others, they can come 2nd , 3rd, 4th, and 5th, but you come first.

[@Jan-jf4th]

You can train to be better at it, but it is highly personality-based. It will always be harder for agreeable people to be disagreeable.

[@ultrafly100]

Lean into the part of yourself that doesn’t give a fuck about any priorities that are trying to impose themselves on your own.

[@aloneboarder]

I want to see a video on pros of being agreeable, hope it exists out there somewhere

[@Kfish55]

Disagreement fuels debate that tells you things about people

[@viaceslavkiptilov1203]

Perfection!

[@Mike__G]

As a fundamentally agreeable person, there were many instances of unfair demands made of me over the course of my career. But I focused on developing a portable, in demand skill set. The result was that when the unfairness reached a threshold, I quietly went out and found other employment and then informed the management (who really should have known better) that I was out of there. Each new employment situation brought either a raise in income or an opportunity to acquire new valuable skills. So I only had to put up with managerial incompetence and abuse for a short time in any particular situation. And I could remain true to myself and mostly agreeable.

[@jamquijano4402]

But in some sense, that's being a bit disagreeable because by you leaving, you're basically telling them to F off, not caring what they think. But then this reminds me of a quote by Dave Chapelle's mom: "sometimes you gotta be a lion so you can be the lamb that you really are."

[@Mike__G]

@@jamquijano4402 😎

[@jadonharper1493]

Old school Peterson

[@tomzachchelseamay]

What was the test he referred to?

[@philipsturr8410]

Have you heard Tony, Wilkesbarre PA Thought Broadcasting!!!!!

[@Nohandlethankyou1]

6:21 is why guys best friendships usually come from them duking it out because of whatever reason. My best friend for many years came from a fight over some misunderstanding. After we realized we’re so alike. Also why women relationships are toxic for many years. They seem to snake eachother smoothly and never resolve whatever issue they have.

[@TwattyWankers]

Agreed

[@TremendousAblutions]

im disagreeable but i dont think of myself as competitive im not afraid to challenge people though

[@mathieudeboissypro23]

You’re impolite but compassionate

[@mathieudeboissypro23]

Low in politness but high in compassion

[@Victor_Biset]

a good point. Just a question, is there a shadow ban going on you by youtube ? There isn't any recommandation in search bar when writting your name anymore

[@yowwwwie]

Why do disagreeable people think that they have a hard time saying "no"? This is not a joke. One of my sons who I love dearly recently told me that he has a hard time saying no......as I recall, he started saying no when he was 2 yrs old and continues to this day. Please give me some insight. יוי

[@AGAG226]

I would be filled with joy if my father asked me questions about me.

[@TheHumanRanger]

He needs more self awareness

[@hexagram531]

No, it's agreeable people who have a hard time saying no, not disagreeable ones. (Think about it. "Agree" means saying Yes, doesn't it?)

[@yowwwwie]

@@hexagram531duh....read my post again darlin'.... יוי

[@TheHumanRanger]

I am a more disagreeable person, almost all the time it's easy for me to say no. As a side note I also find it hilarious how when you tell people no when they're expecting a yes they got offended even when it's 100% your choice to agree with them or not. I think people have gotten so agreeable without actually thinking about what they agree to with this overly woke crap we've been dealing with that they just agree with it so that they don't get into an argument with a pink haired nightmare of a person screaming in their ear because they don't want to be vegan or whatever!@@hexagram531

[@Phobos11]

Just a note, being unnecessarily rude while being incompetent will not get you very far. You need to be useful before being disagreeable

[@lovetownsend]

I see tough guys.... either celebrities or cops or CEOs acting all opinionated and independent.... and I just shake my head cause its EASY to be tough guy when got the leverage. It's the little man with everything to lose that says "Fuck you." to his boss that I commend. It's way too often taken advantage of in workspaces the boss forcing employees to do things cause they can't lose their job they got families to feed.

[@ejp246]

You’re mistaken if you think CEOs were not acting like that before they became CEOs. They were opinionated and independent when they were at the bottom too. Maybe that’s how they got to the top….

[@MrSilver2nd]

Your friend would have a field day at my last place of employment...

[@S.P.01]

I am flexible, agreeable, and play along as long as I am treated fairly and justly. I become highly disagreeable when I see people are taking advantage of me being nice and co operative. I know I am telling the truth, if i get fired or something.. be it. It is their loss. They will loose a highly commited and productive person. The world is filled with opportunities for those who take themselves seriously, those who are committed, and those who work hard.

[@junevandermark952]

Thanks for honoring my freedom of speech. Jordan loves to preach either Catholic or Protestant doctrines from his bible. As we don't know whether Jordan is a Catholic or a Protestant ... we know he is disagreeable to one or the other ... but we don't know which side he is on. Protestant and Catholic wars suggests that the factions that hated each other ... always were "disagreeable." Could it be that Jordan is disagreeable within his self?

[@alphabeta8403]

4:00 Don’t be exploited

[@fernandocubas8655]

Give them hell...

[@mihalisg6940]

you just described me to the tee doc

[@fredfernades8109]

Is it me or did he describe Dwight from the office

[@RanciDMonkeY01]

Disagreeable people aside, is there any truth to JPs hospitalization?

[@keithjohnsonYT]

Thank you, KZbin! (We’ve got him right where we want him.) 😉

[@andypandy6063]

I would like to know if I am an agreeable or disagreeable person. And if you say I am an agreeable person i will disagree, and if you say I am a disagreeable person I will agree. :D

[@susanparker767]

✨🙏🏼✨

[@unbrokenspine]

Disagreeable people build their lives on agreeable people. I don't think it's a very healthy approach. It's like the embodiment of the proposition that there are only wolves and lambs in this life, choose your side.

[@georgieeve2026]

Very true.

[@TabletopFamily]

​@@georgieeve2026or another way to look at it, agreeable people look for people willing to "fight for them"

[@shellixrambles9270]

I disagree.

[@AetherialSatori]

Are you? Jordan Peterson? Trying to say that somebody who is "disagreeable" isnt compassionate or polite?

[@JathnielChan]

Jordan Peterson says he’s an agreeable person but he loves the idea of free speech being more disagreeable if able and embracing your shadow or inner monster to get what you want and he thinks it's his place and his right to say something whenever he has something to say and yet! Yet he silences and shuts up and uses his intellect and verbal prowess to stump people and baffle them denying them the very thing he tells them to use, which is their voice for the truth......... evidence is asked for by him on demand... exact precise pristine essay answers are requested by him on cue....... as if he's examining people on something they've deeply studied and need to present publicly right away on the spot pop quiz... like they won't be embarrassed or shy or insecure and that they're used to public lectures and speeches like he is because they're as experienced with public speaking and debating and critical thinking and improvising on the spot as him........... I mean outside of his domain of expertise, he hardly ever says anything that's completely irrefutable or non negotiable or closed to debate though he treats his words and thoughts is if they were and makes that explicitly clear a lot of the time.. because there are a bunch of academics and intellectuals and scholars who have differing opinions and view points than him who don't speak up and he doesn't offer them a proper chance to speak up.... though he seems to be listening for the first second or two after he asks a tough question, he’s looking to reject and deny it if it sounds slightly off as if he were a hot smoking short shorts tall long arm professional volleyball player in tights.... when he says stuff as if he knows what he's talking about, well he actually doesn't provide citations so nobody can confirm or deny it, yet he talks like he’s the expert in many conversations regardless of subject matter.. he just refers to it all as "the literature" as if people know where to start looking those claims up in order to fact check him or as if those things he read have given many final conclusive statements with regards to the claims he likes to make refer to or regurgitate to others...... and he's not the tyrant nor is he the one who needs a prophet to speak to him and address these issues of his..... no..... 😢 .....he's the one who's tackling the tyrants and addressing other people's issues and not becoming like them also...... i mean he's kind of run out of main psychological issues common and some uncommon people face and need his help solving and he's moved into domains outside of his expertise and it shows in the drop of people watching his KZbin videos..... I mean, I found other professional psychologists online who provide some service that actually is better than his in some regards because of how fierce and upfront his all the time...... sure he has a bigger network now among people who've offered him respect and are intellectually sound enough to comprehend and contend with him.... he's gained that audience and those colleagues...... but his help isn't truly that helpful as it's ambiguous or general and problematic and riddled with possible error depending on how you read into it or if you allow someone to twist his words.. and when he tries to make it practical, he gets into nitty gritty stuff that's not always relevant to each person.... when he tries personalizing it or addressing what's relevant to a certain person, he can't always do that because he doesn't know enough about their case or have the time to do a one on one clinical practice because he's too busy talking to an audience being a public figure and engaging with the smartest of all people........ if he doesn't fully agree with something another smart person says, the best he'll do is grant it a fair amount of attention though he often has his qualms with it but the worst he'll do is interject and completely undermine call out and cast aside or crush other people's pearls and ideas and suggestions as if he were one big swine. In practice, he mistakes the idea of Jesus' teaching of sifting the wheat from the chaff and ends up acting like pearls to a swine by crushing people's intellect their ideas and their wisdom and replacing it with his own - as if his were always better - and then he himself hates it and tyrannically punishes people if they disobey reject or ignore his arguments ideas and pearls of judgment.... as if they have to subject themselves to any approval or disapproval of his.... as if he were their god or their ideal or their judge they must present their best pearls and sacrifices and arguments to, which he calls wheat if it's cream of the crop and he'll call them chaff if it's any less than the best he's ever heard........ shame.... years of professorship tons of attention and a position of academic power and privilege may have shaped and warped his mind to be like this....

[@TheKitneys]

I got my 17 year old son to do this test. Tested 0% Agreeable. I knew it was going to be very low but 0% :)

[@ultrafly100]

I also scored 0% Agreeableness on Peterson’s test, which I thought was ridiculous when I first saw it.

[@TheKitneys]

My son is absolutely disagreeable and will counter any request with 5 things why he shouldn’t do it. If he doesn’t go into law, what a waste 😂