The Real Cause of Procrastination Explained

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Dr David Maloney Psychotherapy

Dr David Maloney Psychotherapy

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@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching. If you're short on time, skip to the 22:00 minute mark where the underlying cause is outlined. The earlier parts of the video talk about things to avoid when overcoming procrastination. If you found the video helpful, please leave a like and subscribe. Thanks, David
@wqftyzfs2y6
@wqftyzfs2y6 Жыл бұрын
i consider myself one of the lucky few people who have watched this video. very enlightening and illuminating.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome 🙏
@mayfair10
@mayfair10 3 жыл бұрын
I cannot thank you enough for your channel. I've just signed up for your membership and can't wait to do the Procrastination course. I have been paralyzed and suffering from this beast of procrastination and experiencing the horrible feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. A terrible spiral. And the worse it gets the more i punish myself by depriving myself of time for fun and rest. Thank you, thank you for offering this work to the world.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Diane. You are very welcome 🙏
@juliob.6537
@juliob.6537 3 жыл бұрын
This video just blew my mind. I have been sitting for more than 20 minutes after watching it, as I am mentally digesting what I already knew very deep inside of me. Other videos I have seen have been eye opening, but yours has been eye, mind and heart opening...so much that I am in awe at how peaceful I feel now by just understanding the real underlying cause. So many things make sense about my life now. I am so glad an algorithm took me here, ironically while procrastinating, in search for a reason for my persistent procrastination. Thank you!!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the great feedback. Delighted this video spoke to you. Keep working on the mindset shift and great things will happen!
@nensi1972
@nensi1972 Жыл бұрын
...❤
@KilgoreTroutAsf
@KilgoreTroutAsf 3 жыл бұрын
I noticed lately when I'm wasting time procrastinating, it's not like I even want to do the things that I'm doing.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
100%. Its that little guilt voice that seems to taint it. We also stay in these things longer than we typically would when in avoidance mode. You're not alone my friend. Don't beat yourself up for this.
@lechatleblanc
@lechatleblanc Жыл бұрын
its amazing how after decades of using will power and hard work, this all eventually fails,.. eventually u feel hopeless and like life isnt worth living.... u feel numb and like u just want to get drunk on the couch... lol.. eventually u feel so exhausted, u cant do anything.. its amazing how ur mind can make ur body feel extremely exhausted, like ur dying...like each cell has a heavy weight on it... like each limb is so heavy....ur blood feels heavy... ur bones feel heavy.... everything is heavy... each step is a struggle ... like u have a 200 lbs on ur back
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
Yes, will power is typically not a sustainable long term solution I feel. Balance and compassion are very often overlooked in our conditioning. It leads to an exhaustion or psychological weariness.
@RaraRemi_312
@RaraRemi_312 3 ай бұрын
​@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy couldn't agree more
@RaraRemi_312
@RaraRemi_312 3 ай бұрын
Very well-expressed; couldn't have put it better myself. I can relate to everything you said
@JenniferG-te4kh
@JenniferG-te4kh 3 ай бұрын
I'm there now
@imperialeagle564
@imperialeagle564 3 жыл бұрын
I wish I came to this before. Unfortunately self-declared masters of productivity and time management are somehow more popular and famous than the professionals with degrees in the field ,who can actually help us become better individuals. What I have learned from this video is that the underlying cause of procrastination is guilt,fear and old limiting beliefs that form themselves to due to procrastination,paradoxically.
@gj1695
@gj1695 6 ай бұрын
Yes. 💯
@isaac10231
@isaac10231 3 жыл бұрын
What the fuck this is crazy... 🤯 This is truly mind blowing. Rarely does a KZbin video leave me speechless, but this one of them. Especially the point about the guilt. That's crazy.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Glad this helped 🙏
@RaraRemi_312
@RaraRemi_312 3 ай бұрын
I agree totally. He is so educational with his videos
@nensi1972
@nensi1972 Жыл бұрын
...i have lost years and years in my way of procrastination, ...i am 51 , now...and unfortunately, havent yet overcome it by now,...praying for breakthrough...🌹❤️🙏🏻...
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
Hope you found something insightful here my friend. I've been there too.
@Jean-luccharlebois
@Jean-luccharlebois 2 ай бұрын
WOW MASTERFULLY UNDERLYING THE CAUSE OF PROCRASTINATION
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much 🙏
@micaelat3734
@micaelat3734 3 жыл бұрын
A consequence of procrastination (guilt) is not the same as a payoff. Guilt, which is self blame, is a desparate way of trying to motivate someone to take action.
@waris4thewealthy549
@waris4thewealthy549 2 жыл бұрын
I wasn’t always a procrastinator with a certain skillset that I achieved but once I quit drinking I lost the desire…what the hell is that all about? Now I’ve committed to a project and I’ve turned into a major procrastinator…Ill learn what I can from you and KZbin..your information is giving me some hope and insights I had not considered so far…Thank You Dr…🧐
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear this. Hope the videos help you understand the issue a little more.
@waris4thewealthy549
@waris4thewealthy549 2 жыл бұрын
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Thank You Dr..people really need your book…I really appreciate the comment back to me! 😁
@tesscot
@tesscot 2 жыл бұрын
It leads me to a feeling of loser, failure and trapped, so my basic self identity. So procrastination promotes my self image.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I think procrastination reinforces this self-perception. When we learn to stop it, we then go back to the root to address the misperception 🙏
@Abhishakasyap
@Abhishakasyap 4 ай бұрын
This youtuber is so underrated Love fom nepal🇳🇵❤
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 ай бұрын
🙏
@RaraRemi_312
@RaraRemi_312 3 ай бұрын
He so is!! I'm so thankful I came across his channel so I've subscribed
@jimcole4692
@jimcole4692 2 жыл бұрын
Having said that, I've never heard such a lucid and exact discourse on why I procrastinate. Bravo!
@ashima5721
@ashima5721 6 ай бұрын
I have been procrastinating whole week and i dont know what the reason is I have studies those topics before but when now i want to study because its my exams i cant even read a word Its really is stressing me out because even if I have studies the whole year If i dont study now it will all be a waste I am frustrated with my self, i dont even like waking up and bringing my self to just read even a line. What am i supposed to do
@LaloGuzman-u1p
@LaloGuzman-u1p Жыл бұрын
Hi David, Thanks for your analysis; a lot to work on. Are your familiar with Badre`s "On Task"? Great book; but, funny thing, if you search the pdf file, you'll see that the words procrastinate/procrastination are not used once. Neurologically, the PFC (his acronym) is responsible for initiating and sustaining action. It's malfunction is the reason for self destructive behavior and though you won't find the word, procrastination. Would love to get your take on this.
@PrakharAvasthi
@PrakharAvasthi 2 жыл бұрын
How 40 hours a month converts to 55 days in a year? 40 * 12 = 480 Hours / 24 = 20 days
@boyakashaman
@boyakashaman 10 ай бұрын
This was really insightful and I think will help me immeasurably. Procrastination blights my life I’ve always known from past trauma that I had low self esteem but never saw the correlation between the two before. I absolutely crucify myself with guilt and berate myself for being a failure for not doing stuff I know I can do but just can’t at times. Can you do a video on techniques to overcome low self esteem and negative self talk? Anyway just wanted to say thank you, this was an excellent video.
@angelique1508
@angelique1508 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this. It really hit hard. A true revelation.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
Most welcome!
@tesscot
@tesscot 2 жыл бұрын
Amazingly simple and massively empowering video. THANK YOU!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@NitinDharmlall
@NitinDharmlall 2 жыл бұрын
This video is so eye-opening. Thanks!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@vincidepo
@vincidepo Жыл бұрын
Very good explanations with a very nice drawing! I love it 💡
@Hamoungg
@Hamoungg 3 жыл бұрын
Very cool. Thank you
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Hamoun 👍
@JeyTruth
@JeyTruth 3 ай бұрын
Dear Dr Maloney, thank you for this great video! This is the most in depth information I have come across so far! Thank you so much for this one❤️ Kindest regards, Julia
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 3 ай бұрын
You're very welcome Julia!
@captaincool6268
@captaincool6268 2 жыл бұрын
literally cry , thank you so much for such a brightfull explanation
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
Very welcome indeed!
@jeff13340
@jeff13340 6 ай бұрын
Well done! Very helpful! Thank you!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 6 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@dielight6908
@dielight6908 26 күн бұрын
Hey, loved It. But I got a question How to do It If you dont wanna do it
@taka9466
@taka9466 2 жыл бұрын
That hit home so hard. Great video!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@kerenbanget1
@kerenbanget1 Ай бұрын
amazing explaination
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Ай бұрын
Thanks so much 🙏
@naman0092
@naman0092 4 жыл бұрын
Well Explained!
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 жыл бұрын
👍
@gj1695
@gj1695 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 6 ай бұрын
My pleasure!
@premmahato3622
@premmahato3622 Ай бұрын
Can you help with the problem of not being consistent
@steenar.9698
@steenar.9698 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@pelobezo
@pelobezo 7 ай бұрын
Amazing video🎉
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 7 ай бұрын
Thanks so much!
@Hosamo7
@Hosamo7 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for digging deeply into the root causes, I'm a typical procrastinator, I'm absolutely investing in your course, however, do you offer any discount coupons? not to underestimate the value, but due to my circumstance.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Hosamo. Contact me through the site and I'll help with this.
@KusmusMasalatea
@KusmusMasalatea Ай бұрын
thank you so much dr. you just open my eyes. i am really great-ful. love from Nepal. someone mention your channel on insta reel. i found and your video. it was really helpful
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Ай бұрын
So nice of you. If you remember where you saw my video, do share. I'd like to thanks them 🙏
@bluesslider76
@bluesslider76 2 жыл бұрын
Great breakdown , thank you !
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@bluesslider76
@bluesslider76 2 жыл бұрын
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy I’ve live that wheel since I was a kid (46 now). What helped you break it ?
@user-wz8yh1ho3e
@user-wz8yh1ho3e 2 ай бұрын
So,in esence (i rebel aginst myself just to show them that what they did and said to me when i was little was bad,and this is how i "pay " them back?🤔in a way we turn against ourselves...
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 2 ай бұрын
Nicely put. It's a sort of misguided attempt to express ourselves, when the people we want to communicate with are no longer in the picture, so to speak.
@mamoako1521
@mamoako1521 Жыл бұрын
23:24 What do we get from procrastination
@johna5099
@johna5099 Жыл бұрын
Hi Dr, please fix your audio in all of your videos. You have best advise but hard to hear you. Thank you
@sarthaksood2819
@sarthaksood2819 2 жыл бұрын
man i wanna hug you so bad.
@RaraRemi_312
@RaraRemi_312 3 ай бұрын
I have to confess I feel the same. He's really dug deep down into the subject and shown insights into it in a way that appears absent in other videos.
@avertingapathy3052
@avertingapathy3052 2 жыл бұрын
This is perhaps random, but is your MBTI type INFP?
@Tape_Recorder
@Tape_Recorder 4 ай бұрын
You spelled disappointment wrong. I guess we’ll just see how long it takes you to fix it. It’s already been 3 years.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 4 ай бұрын
That's very dissapointing 🤣
@jimcole4692
@jimcole4692 2 жыл бұрын
It seems to me that you procrastinate getting to the point.
@bombimpressionsministries
@bombimpressionsministries 3 ай бұрын
Sad comment
@christianbuchner9008
@christianbuchner9008 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this beautifully calm and genuinely insightful video.
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
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