The Real Cost of Clutter | Sandra Lane | TEDxWilliamsport

[@brianniegemann4788]

I held on to my departed wife's things for 6-7 years. Then l let her go. I sorted through her belongings a few at a time and said goodbye to them. I stopped whenever the sadness overtook me, then started over when l was feeling better. I buried her last pair of shoes in the backyard. The biggest thing left by now is a shoebox full of pictures. I'm going to send them to a company that copies them onto a dvd. I did the same thing with my father's 900 color slides. I have the comfort of saving all those memories, but they no longer fill a closet. Thanks for listening.

[@alyssawoodman]

Sweet =)

[@kamcorder3585]

I wish I could give you a big hug ❤ Letting go is hard. Your wife and father would be proud of you.

[@alisab3041]

Thanks for your story. My husband died 2.5 years ago and I’ve steadily tackled his stuff, some days just 15 minutes, some days 2 hours. It’s exhausting. He was a professor and the amount of paper and books in his office is my largest burden; it will take me another year to finish discarding and distributing this stuff that means nothing to me. I am slowly creating a home that better reflects me and my more minimal style. It gives me more peace. I wish you peace too.

[@Romans15.32]

I'm sorry for your loss. Your statement "I buried her last pair of shoes in the backyard" struck me. We are quite alike. I'm glad you're getting through it. ❤

[@graphite282]

Been there. Not yet done that. Letting go is tough. But it has to be done. Takes a lot of resolve.

[@virginia_in_the_rearview]

"Clutter comes from unmade decisions". This hit home! It's so true.

[@NostalgiaSue]

This week I gave away my son 1rst bicycle. It was like new. So many sweet memories attached to it. A man with 6 kids that was doing my roof was looking at me putting everything out of my small shed. Spring cleaning a bit late I guess. I asked him if he need a bicycle. His face lid up. Big smile. He said well my little Jack would sure love that. His 12 year old son was in the roof working with him. He said: Oh My he would just have so much fun. I teared up. I finally found the right person to give it to. 30 years I kept that tricycle for a special boy or girl. I pick it up and put it in the back of his truck. I went to get them lemonade and a gift certificate for the 12 year old boy. Before they left we took a selfee together. I gave double what he ask for the job . I made sure to give the boy his gift certificate and tell him how impressed I was of him. I will miss my little bike but it's making new memories with a beautiful family. My memories will never go away.

[@monawilliams286]

What a beautiful story!

[@lisaryherd4685]

Oh my gosh, this had me tearing up in a very good way!!!

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Love that story- thanks for sharing.

[@manuelescurra9950]

Thank you for sharing that memorie.

[@mikeifyouplease]

Who's cutting onions?

[@sl-oq3fd]

Words of caution and tears: For several years I paraded in the de-clutter movement. Then in several bad decisions during a stressful move, I gave away antique family items that left me gripped in grief and regret throughout all the many years that followed. Never let go of things with which you have deep family or emotional connection when you are unsettled, rushed, moving, under pressure, angry, feeling on-top-of-the-world, flippant.... or in poor health. Your decisions would likely be based on stressful urges to purge the imbalance and chaos you feel in your present circumstances. Decisions out of touch with your deepest feelings and ability to come up with creative, heartfelt and rational solutions that are right for you and your future.

[@internationaljetsetguru]

This is an excellent point and I know exactly how you feel. As a girl in the USA, I painted a trio of mountains of a landscape I'd never seen before. It was actually a decent enough painting so that my family had it framed and kept it until they moved, 30 years later, when I took the decision to throw it out. Now I live in Switzerland and guess what vista I see each day outside my living room window?

[@internationaljetsetguru]

@@jcrook5904 Yes, but I wanted it later, when I was ALIVE. You miss the point of the OP.

[@papabear2515]

It can be helpful to realize and remember …. Every THING is just a THING. It’s our emotional attachments we give to things that pull on our heartstrings. All that truly matters are those things that are not THINGS/OBJECTS. By holding on to things emotionally - sentimental things, for example, we are mistaking the THINGS for the memories and experiences. No one can ever take those away from us. There is grace, freedom and gratitude in letting THINGS go. All the best to all.

[@wintersprite]

Good point. I collect dolls and stuffed animals. At times I try to downsize a bit, however I usually will put the items away in a closet for awhile and if, after a bit of time, I feel I can let go of those things, I do. If I miss a specific doll, for example, then it means I’m not ready to let that one go. In the end, even though I do sometimes miss the dolls and stuffed animals I’ve sold, gifted, or donated, it hasn’t been enough to rebuy that particular one. I also have a sort of unofficial list of which dolls are the top ones I would keep if I ever downsized a lot (such as my top ten or top five).

[@alexstokowsky6360]

@@wintersprite The doll thing I just don't get. I have a couple of dolls from my childhood my mother saved for me, and I want to get rid of them in my heart, but my mother made clothes for them and saved them for me, so it is out of love and remembrance for her that I keep them. But really, do I play with dolls anymore? No. Are childhood toys what I want to decorate my home with at my age? No. Are they kind of spooky, as replicas of humans with open realistic eyes? Yes. I just don't understand the fascination. I would also find this hobby to be somewhat embarrassing.

[@juliannacalifornia]

I started with one drawer. 5 months later I had gotten rid of 99% of everything I owned, rented out my big house, purchased a van that I turned into a home on wheels, and I've loved every minute since. Things can be anchors. What really matters is people, and experiences.

[@catherinepoloynis]

@@juliannacalifornia A nurse around the corner from me did the same thing. It sounds great.

[@livingdeadgirl8074]

God I'm jealous.

[@purpledancerbmw5279]

Things are fine unless you are tripping over them. Yikes!

[@t.h.nguyen5193]

Wow, congrats! I want to learn to do that? How did you learn to detach and part them? I have items from my daughter since birth and need to part them.

[@purpledancerbmw5279]

@@t.h.nguyen5193 Amen teach us!

[@tomaszwyszkowski2253]

When this lady said: Got clutter? I started crying. I grew up in cluttered home and after years of struggling I found minimalism and got rid of all the clutter.(layer by layer). So, I'm finaly free and I can say: No, I don't have any clutter. We don't realize how heavy the clutter wait on us until we get rig of it and become light and free...

[@ItsMeAnn628]

That’s inspiring!

[@CopingwithGrattitude]

Same here…I am trying to learn a different way of being. I am so overwhelmed.

[@Petra44YT]

I grew up in a cluttered home, too. I had come to the point when our guest room had an old baby bed that was no longer usable because it was damaged so a child might hurt their little fingers. But my mother "needed" it to store the empty suitcases. I convinced her that the suitcases could pretty well stand on their own. We had a table football which no-one was ever using. I convinced them to give it to my nephew (who doesn't use it either) and use the space for an exercise machine instead. We threw out an old wardrobe with a warped mirror and bought an IKEA closet that fit nicely into that gap and held actual stuff, not clutter (envelopes, paper, duct tape, light bulbs and such).

[@Zelphraeya]

Same here. I became a hoarder and an impulsive shopper when I was a kid. Minimalism for me was a God send that helped me figure out what really matters to me and why I should or shouldn't choose to make particular purchases. Collections, "What if" items, supplies for projects that were never fulfilled, and things that were gifted to me were the biggest hurdles I had to get passed.

[@purpledancerbmw5279]

Oh we realize.....try Grave's Disease. Broken immune system, the body is fighting back. Stress stress stress.

[@amandadavis5658]

"We shop for the thrill of saving money". Oh man, what an oxymoron that totally hit home. Very hard to save money if you are still spending it!!! Great talk, an easy voice to listen to!

[@01JH]

Growing up that was one of the weirdest things grown ups would say. Adults complicate the simplest things.

[@abstring]

I totally feel that and can relate to the thrill of saving money.

[@jamiesimpson8602]

EXAMPLE; A Chain of Department stores usually as an attached anchor to a mall. The above store is advertising a 25% off regular merchandise sale. And, IF YOU USE YOUR STORE CREDIT CARD - TAKE AN ADDITIONAL 20% OFF PURCHASEs. Sooooooo, SPEND $$$ TO GET 25% .PAY USING store card-+20% NOW, STORE CREDIT CARD =29% Intererest

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you! Glad you found it valuable.

[@stephanietedder330]

@@sandralane5235 You are an amazing presenter. I really enjoyed this! I am pretty organized and have alway loved to organize drawers and pantry’s, but I realized I can not deal with photographs of family and my madame Alexander dolls. I become paralyzed to do anything because of facing the memories. That’s the hardest part. I need to take a little bit of time and start and I will feel the relief. Thank you for this.

[@GantsilyoBaguio]

"Look inside of you. Everything you want, you already have." So precious. Beautiful talk.

[@Juxtapose76]

Amën.🙏💖💯

[@carolkennedy2400]

CHAOS =can't have anyone over syndrome, caused by the shame, embarrassment, guilt and impacts on every part of our lives and identity. Thank you, Sandra, great talk

[@savage22bolt32]

I tell people if you don't like my cluttered house, we can sit outside under a pine tree. Most people love to look around, and have said my house is like a museum!

[@SF-ru3lp]

Great definition of 'CHAOS'. G Ire

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you Carol.

[@jennw6809]

CHAOS Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome came from FlyLady. Highly recommended.

[@pamtopham1746]

Love Flylady. Kitchen Sink Reflections was a great help.

[@kent8780]

I recently developed a health problem putting my own future in huge question, and really waking me up to the necessity of letting go, both toward "stuff" and even toward people. I almost feel like I can take the first step, but it is still a struggle. Here, I've been the one wanting to keep everything, as though it's a proxy for keeping alive the person attached to an object, or of honoring the associated sentiment and wishes of that person via keeping it. To toss something out is to toss the person out, or so it feels. To hold an object makes me happy, like a bit of that person is with me. Plus, I am (along with my elderly parents) the end of my once-grand family line, with no wife or children, feeling the weight of so many ancestors and lots of history, all funneling their legacy only to me, including piles of papers and objects going back even 300+ years, and including all the family's intangible history and passed-down stories. Even going back generations, we always kept almost everything, and we still have the full households of stuff of my grandparents from the 1920s-30s on, and my parents from the 50s-70s on, plus practically everything since my childhood. I always had assumed I would have my own kids and family to pass the torch to (that is, to pass on the stuff-burden like generational hot-potato), but that now feels ever more unlikely. Outside of me however, nobody cares, nobody will know the backstories, so in truth the meaning behind it all is really only in my own head, and the objects a burden in the absence of meaning. I recently was involved with the care of 3 elderly family friends prior to their passing. In each case, their houses were packed full of mementos and photos and sentimental history that meant so much to them. Yet, after they had to leave their homes, each household of such meticulously cared for stuff met the same fate of unceremoniously being heaved into a giant dumpster. It was painful for me to watch, as though "they" as people were being thrown away. Given enough time though, that same fate is inevitable for all of us and all our stuff, however much it means to us. At some point in the future, no one left will remember anything of us anyway, so hoarding to prevent loss is only a poor attempt to postpone the guaranteed end. Why not lighten the physical load it while it's still within our own control to do something good with it? But even with this thought, it's still near impossible to know where to start. I can see this stuff-management selfishly and disproportionately sucks away so much thought and energy that should be instead others-focused, like what good can I do for someone else with this object, or with this time or this effort? That's all that should really matter in the end, that all the "stuff" is a temporary tool within our life to support us as needed physically and emotionally to ultimately let us manage to do something good for others.

[@theynot4u]

Kent, your comment was better than the video. Your insights and thoughts are appreciated. I'm so sorry you're experiencing health problems. I pray your health improves and you have the support and friendships you deserve. 🙏

[@BrendaAvadian]

Heartfelt life-long lessons shared eloquently. Thank you.

[@deborahrossi8963]

Wise words. For the family history and papers, get in touch with the historical society that would be most relevant to the history. I'm sure they would be happy to have some of it.

[@catherinepoloynis]

My cousin recently cleaned out her deceased mother's barn. There were things stored in the rafters even, that came to California on a wagon train. She donated heavily to the local museum, and kept her great-grandmother's table ( from the rafters) for herself. this week, my mother's estate id being dispensed... and I'm already cluttered. This Ted talk giving me food for thought.

[@graphite282]

Kent, what a lovely thoughtful piece you have written. All you say is correct and true. We should keep things for a purpose. That purpose is to use them for our well-being and happiness and that of others. Hoarding for the sake of hoarding is pointless and destructive. God bless you.

[@DimaRakesah]

Where I live there has been a severe housing shortage for years. Yet repeatedly, when I see buildings going up in the area, it's for storage businesses. We're using our space to house inanimate objects instead of building homes for people.

[@katesomething1701]

Yes.Know a guy who has been WAITING 10 years for section 8. Why can we get a couple of rich cats together and build some affordable condominiums especially for tbe working poor.

[@celieboo]

Truth!

[@triciadilligaf1933]

@@katesomething1701NIMBYism is why

[@CasualBeliever]

i see the same thing in canada, wonder if this is a global coincid3nce?

[@yourlocalhopedealer2162]

Exactly 🥺 as a currently homeless person? I too have been on waiting lists for years and years. I would give my right arm away for s chance to have somewhere to call "home" and i would honor that home by keeping it the best it could be at all times ❤️ i let go of my possessions long ago. It's the experiences of life i want to keep.. not the things or items.. ❤️

[@dsr8223]

This lady has excellent presentation skills. I look at every item I own as inventory to manage. The less stuff I have, the easier my job is.

[@JBplumbing12]

Yes, she is a good presenter, indeed. Our houses seem much more cluttered than they were in the 1960s and 70s.

[@savage22bolt32]

Her enunciation is spectaculistic!

[@TheHeartMystic111]

The stuff you own, owns you

[@JBplumbing12]

@@TheHeartMystic111 There is truth in that.

[@hotels2008]

@Colleen From NH 7

[@makoa143ify]

I got rid of so much clutter for the past 2-3 years. I even Sold 2 of my prize vehicles. With all that extra money,I booked a month long vacation in california and Washington with my family.

[@monawilliams286]

Yessss 🙌🏾

[@sandralane5235]

Love this!! Experiences verses tangible stuff! You can’t take with you so use it up.

[@annphetamine1]

I've had over 30 addresses. Every house move was a nightmare I had so much clutter. 3 months ago I moved country and brought only hand luggage. I didn't need any of it

[@sincerelysandi]

@Ann F what a great transformation.

[@sidstovell2177]

When I retired I moved countries, carrying only two large clamshell suitcases. 15 years later, it look 6 months to sell/donate/give away, all the stuff, I'd collected, paring down to the bare minimum. I love it.

[@Jen-zi1dy]

That must have felt so freeing!

[@amywalker7515]

How can you accumulate anything when you move that often?

[@an67481]

I love how this speaker has the perfect use of her words and collocation for people who may be sensitive, overwhelmed etc. She has finetuned her communication

[@celestealtus1687]

She is a MASTER in both words and presentation. I'm in awe.

[@justinbetland9792]

I noticed the same thing. Her voice is flawless

[@organizationlanellc1320]

@@justinbetland9792 Thank you!

[@organizationlanellc1320]

@@celestealtus1687 Thank you!

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you!

[@rodolforodriguez2592]

This presentation is worth millions. I like how she mentioned that day may never come when you might need something. A thought process that helps me let go of things I'm not even using is that somebody else needs this more than I do.

[@pagan_suburbia]

She speaks so eloquently and clear….just lovely.

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you!

[@caspiana3623]

Great speech, but why the smile? No need to keep it on your face permanently...

[@cherylhickmon8573]

@@caspiana3623 stop it!! Better than a frown anyday!!

[@hitchjack]

@@caspiana3623 it’s actually a great way to give a positive presentation or animate your voice. If you say the same things with a glum look on your voice it won’t have the same bounce and interest. My parents always taught me to smile whilst on the phone. It’s true and works, maybe you should try it!

[@yverocks64]

I am drowning in 4 corpses worth of clutter, I inherited my brother's, mother's, father's and best friend's stuff. I can barely move through my garage, dining room/kitchen/livingroom and guestroom. Plus I am paying for a storage facility. Plus I shop for the good feelings not for the need or use. This Tedx talk was PERFECTLY TIMED, as I try to figure out how to schedule this weekend to start letting go. Now I realize I need to let go a little today, tomorrow and every day.

[@stephanietedder330]

I heard a great comment. “We fill our garage with junk and then park our valuable, expensive cars outside”. I immediately cleaned out the garage of the junk that wasn’t worth as much as the cars.

[@wintersprite]

My family can’t do that as we don’t have a garage. We have a shed for things like the lawn mower and snow blower. My dad decluttered it a few years back as it had gotten full of old things we no longer used, such as my childhood tricycle.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

I never understood that. 14 years w no car payment and the car looks like new. Funny part, "they" don't like when you don't owe anything, so they ding your credit!

[@lesliemccauley2003]

I love this lady's style. I struggle with clutter but I always win. My mother's words are a positive reminder for me. Her famous quote anytime we were shopping or buying was "well, did you find anything that you can't live without?

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Love that saying.

[@susiebaxter2235]

At the end of every shopping trip someone will ask if I bought anything, my answer usually is “nope, didn’t find anything I couldn’t live without!” Thank you to my mom! ❤️

[@uncapabrew4807]

That is priceless! Love it!

[@deesjeans]

sounds just like something my mom, aunt, and grandma'd say!

[@cherylkeller5181]

love that❤

[@2000disneyland]

“Family heirlooms holding you hostage”, I relate. When loved ones die, their “stuff” ends up in my house, because I am the oldest daughter. I don’t want it anymore.

[@dedhampster4730]

My mom has this issue. She says that certain things need to go to cousins she hasnt spoken to in over 40 years. She gets mad at me and says i dont value things, but refuses to hand things down. Example being dishes. She said i wasnt grown enough to have grandmother's everyday dishes at age 26, so i bought my own dishes. Now at nearly 40 she is trying to give me dishes because i have proved that i wont break them since i havent broken my own. Bu now i dont want/need them because i have my own set and i have no room for the dispay cabinet they go in.... grrrr fustraiting.

[@juditharsenault2131]

Get rid of "it"! I did and am glad I did.

[@LEIGHandME]

Hey, be gentle with your self

[@Tina-si1gz]

My older sister keeps giving me stuff. Some are clothes she can’t wear but one Sunday she gave me a big bag with the building plans, loan papers etc of the house our dad built in the 1940’s, the pretty dress mom wore at their 50th Wedding Anniversary reception. I have reels and antique voice and movie equipment my dad recorded in the 1950’s and later. No idea what to do with these items. Have had a few transferred to DVD’s and CD’s but it’s expensive and there are literally boxes of these most unlabeled. In-laws died and we have a garage packed with their stuff. My daughter and granddaughter moved in with us then moved out but left all their stuff. One nice big bedroom full of their clutter. Yes it’s stressing me out.

[@2000disneyland]

@@Tina-si1gz I completely understand, and sympathize.

[@dechinta]

My parents died within weeks of each other after being married for 71 years. They never threw anything away. ALL their stuff came to my house. I've been going through their "stuff" for the past 10 years. It's overwhelming and I'm disabled. So I can relate.

[@chrisoliva530]

I can relate to your story. Greetings from Aus. :)

[@SF-ru3lp]

Oh dear, Dechinta, you have my condolences. I do think you might consider some talk therapy to help with the overwhelm of the loss and help to separate your parents from the things they used. The lady talking gives some good tips. Every blessing to you in your situation. G Ire

[@graphite282]

Greetings from India. I walk in your exact same shoes. My parents died 8 years ago. A huge mountain of their clutter was left behind. I ignored it for 6 years. Then I started to wade thru books, personal items, clothes, ....you know. I feel I have hardly scratched the surface . Many things hold childhood memories and are difficult for me to throw away. But I am taking small steps. It is tiring and overwhelming.

[@exploreyourweb]

@@graphite282 Keep going Ajit, you are so on the right track. Blessings Love sprinkled with Peace and Happiness to you on your journey. xxx

[@graphite282]

I want to share one psychological insight which may or may not relate to you : in India, many in my parents' generation went through years of shortages, unavailability of things, stretched resources, etc. Hence the urge to hoard as it may be of use later . Additionally, everything would some day be "of use to the children" . That day never came. The children saw days of plenty. Everything is available in abundance. My mother hoarded crockery and utensils for the childern to use at some future date. The children use mainly microwave hence don't want metal utensils . The world changed and parents did not notice it. "The children" are left with a load of clutter to deal with. I don't want to repeat this mistake.

[@gwolf7716]

I love the acronym, SPACE: Sort, Purge, Assign, Combine or Containerize, and Evaluate or Equilibrate. I’m proof eliminating clutter is easier said than done though.

[@ADHDDoc]

I gave away our Christmas tree with all the lights and ornaments to our housekeeper--three days before Christmas. I did so because the tree meant so much more to her family. Days after I gave away the tree, I told my wife about it. She was confused, because she thought the tree was still in our living room.

[@OurLargeFamilyLife]

😂😂

[@mangoyacho]

🤣🤣🤣 That's so funny! Goes to show...

[@MieshaMBass]

Wait a minute I don’t think you’re supposed to give away things if you’re still using?😫😂

[@jiver2u]

🤣😂

[@notstarboard]

@@MieshaMBass Why wouldn't you be supposed to do that? You can do whatever you'd like with your own stuff, and it makes complete sense to do something like that. It's just a generous move and adds a lot more to someone else's life than you're subtracting from yours.

[@maggiethomas6836]

Clutter breeds clutter. And chaos, with time. Excellent presentation!

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you Maggie.

[@emilybahr3021]

I feel like she approached the topic from compassion. 💞

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you! There is no room for judgement in this business.

[@FellyMahlatsi]

That’s what I felt too

[@kerrymartin7557]

She also has a very pleasant voice & gives off non-judgmental vibes.

[@kathyn1343]

This was absolutely wonderful and insightful. As the wife of a hoarder who has no idea how much stress the clutter puts on the rest of the family, thank you.

[@TheBLGL]

This was my mother-in-law. Now she's gone too early. I'm so sorry. I hope your partner wakes up and realizes what they are doing to you, but sadly, they rarely do.

[@RingyDingDing]

One really GREAT tip I got from another KZbinr was to take a photo/video of that sentimental item you want to keep for the memory. Seeing the item will still trigger the memory so you can reminisce without having the item cluttering up your home/mind!

[@xnaduah]

Struthlessss

[@Linda-loveshomeopathy]

I do this when I want to buy something i do not need. I take a picture and I can look at it from time to time and enjoy it that way and it works for me. This way you are not bringing too much stuff home. :)

[@kathidau2869]

@@Linda-loveshomeopathy Great idea.. plus saving money

[@littleblackbabycat]

I disagree. The tactileness, the abilities to hold the object is comforting. Looking at a photo of something disassociates you from it.

[@eringrey9297]

Excellent! If only my phone/photos are so cluttered 😕 I take so many pics with the intention of deleting the bad and print the good. My kids haven’t had recent pics on the wall in 3 years or so 🤦🏽‍♀️ In my defense, back in my day, we had to buy film and drive back to the store to develop photos. Taking photos -if someone remembered to bring a camera or if someone had enough money to get the film - used to be so rare and exciting. It’s literally in your face all the time now. So, yeah … no recent pics of my kids hanging up in about 3 years 🙈 A ton on my phone though.

[@mwebb3014]

My MIL was a hoarder. My husband is an only child. She filled four houses and five large storage buildings with all her things. She enlarged her main home three times from 1955 to 2007 to accommodate more stuff. We have been clearing out her main house since late 2015 when she went into the nursing home. We had one small house torn down and hauled off including the things in it because it was costing us a fortune in yearly property taxes and was in an unlivable condition. I used to love having things - useful things, beautiful things, cool and interesting things. But, this experience of clearing out a hoarder’s hoard has made me crave a minimalist lifestyle. I’ll go to museums to see all the pretty things and return home to peace and tranquility.

[@stoptheinsanity]

When my mother died there was so much stuff to go through and I was too sick to do it. It was so overwhelming. I decided I never wanted my kids or husband to go through the same thing so I started giving away things I didn't use or need. I used to have a hard time letting go thinking I may need it some day, but now I love giving stuff away or throwing it away. It's freeing.

[@kerrymartin7557]

My mom tried, and was working on that before Covid snatched her away.😢

[@teresaforsyth6185]

Absolutely!!!

[@mariamariscal5616]

Exactly 👍

[@georgiananae7918]

I looked around the room as soon as Sandra asked if I have clutter. I do. It's not bad, but it's there. Today, in the middle of her talk, I paused the video and started with a corner of my room. I threw away papers I no longer needed, small trinkets that held no emotional value and reorganized my learning materials. I feel really proud of myself now. One corner at a time 😄😄😄

[@mommyingBetchay]

14:58 really hit me. Value mindset. I fall prey to this almost every single day. I overvalue things to the point where I find it hard to let things go.

[@katesomething1701]

The Marie Kondo method helps me. Pick up tbe item and ponder how you feel about it. If it brings you joy, keep it. My own hack is to pick up one piece in each hand say you have too many teddy bears and just look at 2 and decide if I only can keep one which one I would rather keep? Than just repeat the steps to where you have reduced the clutter to manageable size. I just purged my closet recentlly and what a difference.

[@katinthehat_81]

Omg!! The value mindset. Absolutely made me feel like I am not the only one who feels this way. I have some clearing out to do.

[@SF-ru3lp]

I agree... Dana of "A Slob Comes Clean" says "Is this item worth my mental health?" G Ire

[@graphite282]

Yeah. I am in this trap too. I paid so much for it ..... I will use it someday ..... My family can use it (none of them want it)... It will not be available in future,......etc etc. All excuses to hang on to it.

[@Petra44YT]

Yeah. Happens to a friend of mine, too. She told me she had 20 plus books she would never read again but wouldn't let them go because she at least wanted a "thank you". ... Nope. Wrong mindset. If I won't read it again, it either goes to eBay or to one of these book sharing boxes that have cropped up everywhere in Germany. I mean, imagine it was yesterday's newspaper or an old magazine. Would you expect to get your money back on that, too? Or would you just recycle the paper? And you don't even have to recycle books. You can donate them.

[@melissac.5948]

Excellent talk. Words are well chosen, and just the right amount of them. Good stage movement, good visual examples, good interaction with audience, good speaking voice, good diction, good speech length. Love the “unmade decisions” concept. No clutter in this TED Talk. ❤

[@spiralpython1989]

Absolutely agree! One of the best presentations about clutter I have seen! And one of the better TED talks too!

[@kimkane135]

Expert huh

[@kniterata]

Disagree completely. All overdone to distraction. Seems to be reading poorly from teleprompter, with unnatural pauses at line breaks. Brings Romper Room to mind. Delivered as if audience is filled with kindergartners. Good points. Canned delivery. The poet is Rumi. Not Remi.

[@anarchisttutor7423]

I like to tell myself, when faced with the idea that I might miss an item if I donate it, "I might think of this item .0001% of the time, but it will take up space 100% of the time."

[@annaalm18]

Her voice is so soothing

[@saelaverdad8183]

This was great. Clutter causes anxiety. ..at least for me.

[@ItsMeAnn628]

Only 3 mins in and I’m SO impressed by her speaking and presenting skills!!!

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you!

[@redjem3333]

Brilliant woman and topic.. Can we just acknowledge how great and relaxing her voice is.. She is so gentle with such a fragile topic. I have struggled with clutter my whole life and come from a family of "clutterers" too.. Thank you for this wonderful message. 💜🤗

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you for your kind words.

[@srajput3247]

I am watching this video after a few very dedicated decluttering and organising days and I agree about the impact of the stress that clutter brings. I am experiencing a lightness about me. I feel like there is a happier baseline, just knowing that I now have a more organized home and am also in the right mindset to let go of stuff that doesn't serve me anymore. It is such a valuable state, and brings such a shift! Whoever is here to gain inspiration to declutter, I wish you good luck with it💖

[@ithacacomments4811]

I am a minimalist. Born a minimalist. My mother has been a hoarder her whole life. My whole life! I have cleared her clutter hundreds of times. Today, I went to her nursing home to declutter her drawers because she said she couldn't find anything. I will have major anxiety for days now. Clutter is like a ton of mud poured over my being.

[@karlap2846]

Two years ago, I started taking care of my mother every weekend. I work from home since then, thinking that maybe one day, I’m going back to work in person and I might wear my clothes. During my work schedule, I take care of my son who is disabled and my daughter who’s also working from home. I’ve been getting a lot of pain in my back recently and I think, I this video gave me the answer. Today is the day, I’m carrying too much on my back:(. I’m going to organize my home the same way, I organize others peoples lives and spaces.❤

[@irenitele8497]

I was mustering strenght to tidy up and I was chilling with youtube and this video appeared! A life saver! Thank you!

[@saphire9823]

I live in 740 sq feet , 2 adults a teen and a baby on the way. It’s so hard to get rid of things. We have no closets or storage space . I’m so stressed. This video is motivating. I find we all just have too much. Then we try and dump it to thrift stores and we just need to stop buying so much

[@sonjak8265]

Your apartment is much larger than an average apartment for a family of four. in Europe.

[@5x8cards46]

@@sonjak8265 That's not actually true. 740 sq. feet is slightly under 68.8 square meters. most of Europe has an average living space of larger than that. Britain is 85 sq meters, Greece is 77. Sweden 83, Finland 82 and so forth. (Italy tips out at over 100 sq meters as do some other countries in Europe, but I was doing the smaller square feet it still isn't rock bottom.) It's a google away. I'm planning on moving in to about 11 square meters (vanlife) and will consider myself lucky when I do.

[@sonjak8265]

@@5x8cards46 With due respect, you did not take into account how many people live in those living spaces an whether it is a house in the countryside or an apartment in the city. In many southern European living spaces, in additional to the family, there are grandparents. When I was a kid, with my family of four, in adition to my grandfather, there was a cousin from the countryside going to school in the city, In 68 square meters,

[@booknerd4317]

Good luck. Hope you can move to a bigger place for the baby.

[@stephanieservellon6880]

Our family of 7 live in an 800 sq ft 3 bed 1 bath rancher. Bedrooms are tight due to bed placement. But keeping everyone to 2 weeks worth of outfits plus 2 jackets (fall/winter) helps tremendously. (helps with keeping laundry done). Never use the attic space for more than Christmas Tree and decorations. Keep toys to a minimum. It is doable.

[@miriamuna]

What a lovely voice you have, Sandra- so easy on the ear. You make your presentation with poise and dignity - no ‘clutter’ in your person either, as you allow us to see the real, beautiful, feminine you. Thank you - and also for the wisdom of all you say. mellifluous voice you have, Sandra - so easy on the ear- a poised and delightful presentation. No clutter in your person! The real you comes across with it’s beauty and grace. Thank you.

[@CasualBeliever]

"those are your parting gifts", so charming and subtle! society pushes clutter on us, putting an armful of items in a bag, giving out "free" items in meals and breakfast cereals, traditions such as party favours and assorted flavours being cheaper than the one you like to eat, 4 pack of hot mustard costs less than 2, etc

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

I'd like fewer/smaller things sometimes and less WASTE in packaging.

[@JohnGalt1960]

It's one of the hardest things I ever did to get rid of my excess possessions.....it has been a ten+ year journey.....I'm doing very well but it's been eye opening.

[@maurawhelan3530]

I needed this.over the pandemic I started accumulating things . It is the brief happiness I receive finding a treasure when I have lost real ones…my sisters…thank you

[@catherinem.g.8845]

Jeez, I felt like she was talking directly to me, I am all that she said. I will try the 2 hours at a time. Excellent Ted talk!

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you Catherine.

[@GrannysGarage333]

This was one of the most impactful 15 min I’ve spent online… it’s like you spoke right to my heart… unmade decisions…😭

[@susanmarie8526]

The visual of the assistant accumulating clutter was awesome.

[@marshashoemake1246]

I can completely relate to clutter being unmade decisions. That is where I am right now. Loved the presentation.

[@bettyduhart6013]

I have so many unmade decisions. Having 7 children it’s as if I never see completion. Thank you for the way you presentation.

[@smallfootprint2961]

I agree. One shelf, one drawer at a time. I've been downsizing for a few years now, and moved. Donated most stuff to our animal shelter thrift store, and Habitat took almost everything. The exercise equipment, they didn't want, but I put a sign on the curb, and it was gone quickly... lol. It hurt to imagine how much I paid for it all, but it had to go. Still in the process, as I use something, I ask myself if I will use it again, and often make a choice to donate it. I keep a bag ready for the small things like clothes. Makes it handy. Good talk. Thanks.

[@dalesands1291]

I went through several years of being anxious and depressed. I couldn't deal with anything. It is a wonder I didn't fall way behind in bills and things like that. Getting things organized was a supreme challenge. I just would look at the pile and not touch it and think I can't deal with this. After 5 years of working where I work now I finally have things organized and they stay that way.

[@carolynstewart8465]

Sandra, you have wonderful speaking style . Lovely delivery and voice modulation. You are a pleasure to listen to!

[@Creativeabandon]

The corporations inflict fear and desire thru media to make us better consumers and this is a trauma that we in our country is always subjected to! It causes addiction which is highly profitable to every field at our expense. Then we are trained to think it's a moral issue so we judge the sick, blame them, yet it is happening to all of us. Over working, and rushing around separates us from each other and causes loneliness and sadness and shame, then retail therapy, mindless droning around with food, Facebook, etc TV, , numbing to blot out the consciousness of our intolerable situation (which is separation) (being away from each other, thru too much work and mindless activities then we gather everything to feel better but the shine always wears off. The real happiness comes from a connection with a higher power and others 💖

[@sandralane5235]

You are spot on Hippie Chic.

[@tinahochstetler2189]

How to add a room onto your house for free: Get rid of the stuff. That money you spent on building up all that stuff will likely be much less than having a room built on. The room you empty out is now available for whatever you would like to use it for.

[@sammycollins3667]

Very good thought. I am on the process of getting rid of stuff. Taking pictures of treasures etc. is a solution I intend to do.

[@ellenh278]

I think I shall listen to this for motivation a couple times a week, as it has already caused me to pause it a couple times and go take care of a few quick items. Thank you!

[@sandralane5235]

So glad to hear Ellen. Listen listen listen.

[@ellenh278]

@@sandralane5235 I am! This is the first time, however, I noticed how nice that shade of blue looks on you, guess I was really listening intently the other times.

[@patbeatty9251]

This is a very good talk. There was no mention, however of holding on to things because many of your possessions were taken or thrown away without your consent due to moves or parents who throw away your toys etc.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

I was mad a long time for a loss of a Betamax, Journey: Frontiers and Beyond video. There was no YT at the time.

[@djw8591]

I really like the sound of Ms. Sandra’s voice, as well as the content!

[@chixbleau7321]

Throughout the years we gather items..to get consumed with all these items cars clothes electronics etc..now I look around and realize..These items were not all needed ..mostly wanted..many sentimental items to from relatives that have passed..I’m slowly giving away items on my front lawn..I see how happy people appreciate these items ..that makes me feel good..my home is feeling more and more at rest at peace..I need this..I just lost my niece ..found out I have a serious painful debilitating ailment ..parted ways with my 12 year relationship..I have not worked in 3 years..and other issues ..but I am strong and I’m better..and getting better then better..I realize what changes I need ..decluttering my home is one of the changes I’m making..I feel this weight being lifted..Good luck to all that came to this page

[@LarryPanozzo]

This is great, thank you. I do not have the unhealthy attention issue that clutter causes in some people, but I live with someone who does! Now I understand better how distracting and stress-inducing clutter can be for people.

[@yit555]

Great talk, I keep my house as clutter free as I can. It’s freeing to rid yourself of items you haven’t used in years and create more space in your house.

[@marih3286]

This has been such a useful video for me that I downloaded it. I am a shopaholic so I have to re-watch it a few times each year. It reminds me to donate items that I have upgraded/replaced if I hadn't done so earlier. It took 2 years but I went from 3 large self storage units to zero!

[@philipo5259]

The issue isn't clutter - it's over consumption. Being convinced by manufacturers that we need 'stuff' that we really don't...

[@AFineLineA]

Totally agreed!!!

[@acomment5991]

Preach!

[@wordgirl6267]

I have worked as a Sales Supervisor ( for a financial service Corp) even tho it was basically selling a "service," not "physical items" , the process is the same : convince the customer that it would cost them MORE (whether it be time, money, etc ) NOT to have this [ appliance, laptop, cleaning service...] than the "INVESTMENT" they make today ! so I try to keep that in mind , their job is to Advertise & Sell. You really DON'T need most things you see in ads . Even when shopping 🛒 for groceries, it helps to Meal-Plan and make a List . Don't just roam down the aisles waiting for something to jump out at you.

[@lizsar2578]

if someone convences you , then the mean you re not in control. Is time to take extreme ownership of our actions, and that goes for my self as well!!!!n GET IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE !

[@acomment5991]

Loving this comment and responses. My grandmother has QVC’d herself into so much credit card debt. She listens to those salespersons sell her a dream lifestyle. She thinks she’ll get thinner with exercise equipment, bake bread with kitchen aid appliances host guests on expensive china and cook in expenses exclusive non stick pots that are better than the other two non stick pots she ordered 2 years before. They sell a dream home lifestyle and she just orders. My mom tells me, two flex pays on HSN or QVC and you can get a new computer (that I don’t need). All I hear is, two flex pays to own more junk and pay towards someone’s yacht and private plane. I’ll keep my money, I’m good. Don’t buy me a gift for my birthday, give me the money you were going to spend instead.

[@charldevilliers9434]

I am in the process of decluttering a 6 storey home filled with decades' worth of unorganized chaos. In order to relocate to a flatlet the size of a single car. Your video inspires me to keep going. Thank you

[@meganm4877]

Good luck! (I want to add: the fate of the world depends on it! ... there is a book called "A Peculiar Peril" that has downsizing/cataloguing a multi-storey mansion filled with decades' worth of chaos as its premise😃)

[@DirtyLifeLove]

6 story home? Is it a castle

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

I lie awake night thinking about compacting about 1,800 sf. Lol

[@susanmessenger9052]

I am watching this TedTalk on the other side...This video got me moving in the direction of clutter free. I made the decisions. It does start small...go for it folks ! The family mementoes are the hardest.

[@kayw.4689]

I Have my Deceased Parent's things, just as Sandra said, in boxes in a room or two, and my daughter's things from college. I'm very sentimental and find it impossible to go through my parent's things and part with them..... My Mom's clothes still smell like her and the closet they're in .....

[@angelahamon6730]

I also have a house full of stuff where I bought myself 20% of what's in it and half of that is craft supplies I use every day. The rest? Just dust it! But hard to let go of stuff that smells like lost lived one!!

[@katinthehat_81]

You probably feell Ike you're throwing her away. Some things are just too tough. Give it time.

[@angelahamon6730]

@@katinthehat_81 can't throw away stuff that smells like the person. And I hated her perfume when she was here . You're very insightful! 😊

[@utgardloki5]

Me too. I feel like I live in a large, nicely decorated storage unit full of my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle & daughter’s things. I also have all my sons things (he died at age 19 from a heart condition). I don’t shop. I only buy food and household supplies. Haven’t bought new clothes or shoes or anything for myself in many years.. I don’t want to bring anything more into my home and I can find plenty to wear of my mom’s or daughters. I spent about 1.5 years emptying my mom’s house after she died, finishing it up last August. I can’t stand the thought of spending another couple of years emptying mine.. so really trying to psyche myself up watching videos like this so I can do a few very large purges, have a yardsale & get a dumpster and get rid of 2/3 of it by the end of this fall. It’s overwhelming.

[@belove0705]

I LOVE HER VOICE !!!!!!! 😇

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you.

[@belove0705]

@@organizationlanellc1320 😊😊

[@ziggy33399]

Beautifully said. I’m going to begin first thing in the morning. Realize I hardly need anything & will feel so much lighter ❤

[@wrenlittle8826]

It is a shame there are so few in the audience. I love her calm voice and assertive attitude.

[@susanmercurio1060]

If you are gifted an item that doesn't suit you, can you honestly admit it and give it away? I gave a friend an afghan I crocheted. She was honest enough to tell me gently that it didn't match her decor. That gave me the opportunity to tell her that if she couldn't use it, she could donate it to one of the many nonprofits with which she volunteered. It was right before the holidays and they were having fundraising auctions. She was happy that it made a big hit with the group.

[@kamnigam1850]

What a wonderful Ted talk made me cry because I saw so much of me in every reason she gave. Thank you

[@tracie4726]

Spot on!!! So overwhelmed by all of the situational events mentioned. In the last several years... I married and moved. Within months, the place both my husband and I worked closed and we were laid off. Less than a year later, I was diagnosed with cancer and over 9 months had 7 surgeries and my husband was laid off a second time. We had two teenagers that needed a home move in with us in addition to the two we already had. All went away to college but then my 20 year old son was diagnosed with cancer same as I was. He and his fiancée moved back in with us. My father had two knee replacements and I take care of him, my mother and my mother-in-law. Then fall of last year spent a month and half driving daily to take care of my terminally ill brother-in-law and he passed away. 9 days later my mother-in-law passed away. We've been dealing with both their estates since. We have so many of my mother-in-laws belongings in storage and our home. In January (2 months after other deaths) we almost lost my husband. He was hospitalized for two weeks and on home health care for 6 more. Since then my father has had 2 surgeries, my daughter in law has had a surgery, and last week my son had a back surgery. My house definitely shows I have had no time or energy for keeping up with it. I keep chipping away at it but the progress just seems never enough. It is so overwhelming almost daily.

[@lorrainechavez654]

Oh my Dear God, I feel for you. I have chronic illness, I'm collecting diagnosis just like clutter. They crowd my life with the inability to manage my clutter. It is devastating. A whole profession provided to people by your health insurance company should be created to help people like you and i!

[@christinebeames712]

Omg you are going through so much , you have done well to survive all your tribulations , don’t worry about the house ,you are doing a marvellous job supporting your extended family whilst going through illness yourself , sending my love and best wishes fro Manchester England ,xxxx

[@Cat-ik1wo]

I went walking around and looking at the flea market. I saw so many of my past memories of what I had in my home at one time or another. Also tools that was in my dads storage shed and my moms kitchen aids in her kitchen. It all brought back memories. It put a smile on my face to remember. It was like a gallery, a time machine. I am grateful for the memories, it was ours once upon a time, when there was a need for it. But we have let it go. Things and items can trigger memories, and thats good. But my parents and my past is not in those things, they are in my heart. These things were just useful for a time.

[@jamiemelissa1740]

The timing of watching this video is impeccable. I just moved into a house from an apartment a few days ago, and man, so many feelings arise when your house can't hold all of the things your apartment did! All of these points got to me. I need to get busy decluttering and get busy living life again!

[@mtjoy747]

Got a friend who is a hoarder, and his fav expression is "someone else might need it one day", sometimes he's right, when they ask him for it, knowing he does have it and they do want it, he cannot find it. It's literally buried.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

My gramma is like that, but she's almost 100 and damn well knows EXACTLY where it is. Maybe shoot for a very, very old lady? Lol

[@marianamunoz6075]

♥️ The universe is not outside of you Look inside of you Everything you want You already have ♥️

[@thirst4knowledge676]

Watched numerous declutter videos and this was definitely the best. Perhaps if I keep watching, it will reduce that paralyzing feeling of where to start, much less when I do, how I never finish! 🙏🏻 I’ve even hired a professional organizer, but that just unpacked boxes. Now hiring a professional declutter person seems dreamy… jus sayn…

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

Clutter in a HUGE pole barn that my husband filled from top to bottom almost cost him his marriage He called him a "collector" but in truth he was a hoarder. His stuff" nearly cost him our marriage. he would go out there to the pole barn for hours at a time and play with and move his stuff around.... We could have taken trips, gone to dance lessons, concerts, walk, hiked, gone to yoga or even taken trips or done many things, together but instead he was addicted to his stuff and spent more time with that then he did me. I tried discussing, counseling and nothing got through to him, so, I began to craft a life without him.

[@leslieseale9761]

Great presentation. I struggle, with paper clutter. I hate going through it. I think having a big house worsens it w so many places to put stuff. True look inside myself.

[@unanemomanou7939]

Thank you for putting words on a form of pain that is both derived from clutter and ends up generating more. You do not point an accusing finger at people like me who feel overwhelmed by their clutter, you hold out a hand to us to stop us drowning in it by giving positive and doable advice. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@organizationlanellc1320]

I'm glad it was meaningful to you.

[@saradyer9124]

I'm still grappling with clutter, but when last I had a cull, I took photographs of items dear to me before parting with them. It gave me the courage, knowing I could still 'look' at them again. Needless to say, I didn't, but it was a strategy that helped me.

[@TheresaTV1]

That is a great idea. I have done the same thing, and it really helps. Take a photo and let it go, if possible.

[@wintersprite]

I’ve repurposed a few items. I recently turned an old sweatshirt into a little pillow for my dolls. Another similar idea would be cutting and framing a graphic from a shirt to make some wall art.

[@bevhart4604]

I really can relate to the reasons stated here. I have been muddling through my clutter but not nearly as disciplined as I would like. I retired & now have the time. I’m certainly not a hoarder but I did let things get out of hand. And yes this is causing stress & don’t want me kids to have to deal with it when I’m gone. Planning to watch this every time I need that firecracker! Thank You!

[@debbiel1228]

What a gentle spirit she has. Can anyone explain why, within weeks of decluttering, I always find myself in need of at least 2 items I have just let go of? It happens every time so it's difficult for me to downsize.

[@taniahunnisett6030]

I have found this too, but it is always something that I can borrow off someone else or something that I can buy cheaply to use straight away and then its gone. For example I've throw away rolls of wrapping paper that had been sitting in the cupboard taking up so much space. Then of course, weeks later I needed wrapping paper, so I bought one lot of folded wrap paper (not a roll) used it all up and then didn't need any for some time after that. And also, there is almost always an alternative. Just last night I uses Paper towel in place of Napkins. My guests didn't care one bit. 😉

[@monawilliams286]

OMG this is my life! I don’t want this clutter, don’t have space for it and it stresses me out. But I always have what we need Lol *sigh From baby wipes to bobby-pins, people are always surprised when I don’t have something.

[@vidaajoon1881]

Same here. Don't overdo it!

[@kissedbysun2517]

maybe you can reevaluate the criteria you are using for releasing items.

[@Tina-si1gz]

My granddaughter says “I need to find a poodle skirt and top for the school dance”. I say “I have a pink one with a white sweater in my closet”. I’ve had that skirt since 1990. It’s probably been used three times. Crazy 😝

[@MagsChase1229]

Yes, I literally looked thru each box, container and also would spend 3 or 4 hrs per day. Then, I’d take 5 mins to clean up, and put everything away, so we wouldn’t trip over. I worked everyday on so many things. Photos are taking some time, ugh….ton of Christmas photos from same families year after year. I don’t even see these families anymore.

[@msnzbody3712]

I suffer from Anxiety and the more things I have the more anxious I get having to navigate more stuff. Less just feels lighter and easier to find things. I tell myself if I need anything it’s being stored at the store. Plus if you are older sooner or later you will have let go of everything when we die so why not start getting rid of things now. If something has sentimental value take a photo and store it there.

[@GrissyQofA]

Awesome Ted Talk! Sandra Lane did excellent both with visual and auditory during this speech. Everything she said is spot on and less clutter and possessions is freedom to think clearly and enjoy life!

[@sandralane5235]

Thank you Griselle.

[@0616silvia]

Thank you!!! So, it's about starting to make decisions... I can relate to it. I just didn't see the connection before. You have touched my heart and my mind at once. One of the best TED talks I've seen.

[@bluesburg]

I would consider upping the reward of her 'status quo' suggestion that each time you must buy an item, thrown an item out. Make it two! Otherwise, you're not decluttering. 'Clutter breeds clutter," is so true.

[@jackielouyoga77]

Clutter equals attachment. U can learn a lot about a person by the junk they gather! Let go of the clutter and it’s like a new wave of beautiful energy.

[@robertshaver1612]

Great use of examples and props to reinforce the message. Easy to relate to. Thank you.

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you Robert.

[@adriaflorea9848]

This is a seriously skilled presenter. Love this talk. What a ride of truth bombs. She breaks it down so beautifully. It sounds so simple. Yet it is so hard. I’ll throw out some stuff tomorrow. Thank you!

[@josusa1647]

Very insightful and inspiring. Just doing a little bit a day and then taking the time to put things away instead of just setting them down, along with having a designated place for everything are all good pieces of simple advice that I’ve been able to benefit from to help cut clutter

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Don't let stuff in! I'm big on NO JUNK MAIL of any kind! I contact all the offenders and specifically tell them NOT to send any more. If I end up with several, I keep the best one or two and give the others away.

[@happygolucky7112]

I ask myself why I hang on to many things, as my children will just throw them in a dumpster after I’m gone. What has sentimental meaning to me will have no meaning to them.

[@SF-ru3lp]

A contributor to another channel said the she asks herself when holding up and item as she declutters "What insecurity was this item meant to solve?" I find that inspiring... I say on foot of that "Dear God please heal me and heal my life". G Ire

[@OK-wb1dy]

The sentence “…Clutter comes from unmade decisions…”. makes so much sense.

[@purplefox111]

Ive always loved old things collected etc enjoyed it. As we age & collect our own & others things, it becomes the weight around our neck like that encroaching age. Weariness grows seeing oneself as the old struggling hanging on to a happier safer time. Is it really? The imagined responsibility becomes increasing heavier. The mind begins questioning the affects on one's physical & mental health. Especially when the spirit smothers from that torch a younger self felt the need to bear. Caring for others before myself. I born with this mindset..is why the struggle is so great to go against it. Why does it hurt equally to let go or to hang on?

[@ggbice]

My late Mom always said that our homes become warehouses for excess. When she passed, her personal items were at a minimum amount, as she never over bought and watched her spending. She was not frugal, but very practical. I feel overwhelmed when clutter gets the best of me and my time. It's a constant "work in progress". I try to donate or discard when ever possible. Life experience certainly change one's perspective on this matter. Someday, either friend or family will have to dispose of what possessions we have. I don't want to be a burden. I'm attempting to not have this happen by de-cluttering on a regular basis.

[@bonnie4026]

I came across this video by accident but boy did it hit all the high points on this subject in one nice and concise video. I absolutely loved this..... I do wish there were some before and after photos of the basement cleanup. There is something so refreshing about the "after" photos that helps people cross over. It would have been super cool to see the imagination of the woman who framed her mothers doilies as well. Great presentation; I will definitely be sharing this one.

[@organizationlanellc1320]

Thank you Bonnie.

[@naamahsartistry]

"Thankyou Bailey, those are your parting gifts" 😅. Great talk and it resonates so much with me. I end up so overwhelmed with it all, but I'm on the journey to de-clutter as over the next couple of years I will be downsizing to tiny house living.

[@teslaandhumanity7383]

Imagine the clutter you leave when you pass away and burden your kids with what to do with it all ! 😳

[@katesomething1701]

And that is why someone invented Swedish death clean.

[@teslaandhumanity7383]

@@katesomething1701 never heard of that

[@chantellenolan]

Swedish death cleaning!

[@JABrinkley]

The Swedes invented it, it’s tradition.

[@juditharsenault2131]

I think about that, too. That's one of my reasons for getting rid of a lot of stuff. Plus I can't concentrate when there's clutter in my space.