The real reason he treats you like trash

[@cookee888]

I was at an art expo with my boyfriend of 8 years and I found a deep connection to an art piece..... I remember him saying " I hate wen u smile like that" under his breathe. Going out to a party..... " I hate wen u dance like that". Anything that brought me joy and had nothing to do with him he criticized. Thank goddess that shyt is over!

[@nikkiReal111]

Happy you got out of that dark place.

[@KarmaCame]

Wow smh

[@whitneyluvlife]

Debbie downerssssss

[@ToniaAlex13]

Smh, some ppl are just hateful. You said boyfriend though, so I thought you were still with him

[@wins.8073]

Wow. I'm so sorry. Glad you are freeeee! 💪🏾

[@ZetaCancri]

The way they treat you is how they feel about themselves.

[@user-wr3ij3rl7q]

The way he treats you is how you ALLOW him to treat you

[@tjaspire]

I don't give a crap what the narcissist wants. He couldn't break me, although he tried every way. He observed who I was closest to and tried to turn us against each other. Spreading evil, ridiculously unbelievable lies to try and tarnish my reputation. And some people eagerly believed his outlandish stories. He told me, "I love you," within three weeks of meeting, because I wouldn't give it up. I said, "How can you love someone that you really don't know?" Silence. He tried to spy on me and record me in my house without my knowledge. He tried to destroy me because I have ambition and drive, I'm beautiful, and I am going places. I have a future. He could see all of that. He was a demon incarnate. I later found out that he has a whole family and also he also likes men. Typical with narcs. But the gates of hell did not prevail, Hallelujah! Keep your legs closed and do not tell a man where you live. Narcs are almost always stalkers.

[@akualaps180]

Thank God u saw through him. We need to keep our legs closed. Ir helps prevent a lot of things

[@ToniaAlex13]

Someone said they love me, the second time he Dm, don't know anything abt me. I totally ignored him after that. Wanted someone to take care of his kids. Damn bright!

[@ineedhoez]

Girl, you sound stupid AF. At least if you were sleeping with him, it would make sense as to why to you stayed. You stayed with him and allowed him to treat you like crap and you can't blame it on the D?

[@Kiwi--nk6dq]

I’m do glad you were saved. Unfortunately some of us suffered, are still suffering and by the Grace of God Almighty we shall be saved too. The first step is seeing the light, the second step is preparing to exit. May Lord help us all 🙏🏼

[@princ345]

​@@Kiwi--nk6dq you can do it pray to God to remove this person out your life he will do so with high faith . I got out of a Narc life so happy now Self love works

[@vl786]

Very true! I lived this life for almost 20 years! We're now divorced, thank goodness but while I'm happily divorced he's bitter and angry still!

[@kimberlytaylor7869]

Currently

[@desarieholmes4103]

Verbal abuse, emotional abuse and psychological abuse is still the elixir of the abuser and it continues to pour out onto those who consistently need external validation,acceptance and approval from others. Unfortunately the smallest act of kindness will over shadow the most egregious acts of abusive behavior when one's soul is in need of repair. Fear of abandonment and rejection will keep a person tied to toxic relationships. Trauma is real people. Set your soul free.

[@viviancheek8044]

I'm free.

[@armyofthedead5443]

Those narcissists will call you a feminist, a 304, a low value, they will require you to submit completely to then and not allow you to have a job to be 100% dependent on them so that you don't have a backbone or self-esteem to support yourself and you will be stuck forever with them yet get bashed for having a trauma.

[@SB-mn4dy]

Its true. My ex was a total narcissist. Destroyed my self esteem and shamed me for wearing makeup and deodorant. I realized he wanted me to be unattractive so nobody else would want me and so I would feel bad about myself. Finally was able to leave him and heal

[@reasonali]

Protect this man at all costs.

[@desireebryant9523]

I’m so glad the nightmare is over, what a waste of time energy !

[@ashauntemorant5676]

This man's way of thinking is 🔥

[@MegaRose1958]

My ex hated I had friends, family and even coworkers that were looking out for me!! I didn't realize what I was dealing with until I got PTO and started recieving clips about Narcissistic personalities. I knew something was wrong!!! My ex called me our my name, was controlling, became physically abusive and that was the final straw!!!! I am so happy to be out of that Toxic relationship!!!!

[@ihuomatuesday1600]

This was my life for 5 years. So glad I got out of that mess

[@AdrienneJung.M]

The more insecure a man is, the more he acts like this.

[@hershekissed]

It’s not just narcs. Be careful of the ones hollering about masculine femininity💯 they want you stuck too

[@414-ForSuch-A-TimeAsThis]

Yep, they will tell you with lying words they want good for you but their actions only try to break you immediately after.

[@amyratcliff3843]

I love this man he reminds me of a good big brother who puts you on game & encourages you to love yourself with or without a man.💜✊🏽

[@servantleader9036]

Right!! Love this dude

[@noshaderaine9111]

Ra I literally just discovered him and he’s had the best advice and delivery for anyone who needs it. Not putting anyone down but just telling it like it is!

[@treyw.warchild8863]

He doesn't say anything positive lol

[@bluehaze6729]

@@treyw.warchild8863 not to you, cause you’re probably who he’s talking about, be gone dusty..

[@treyw.warchild8863]

@@bluehaze6729 you women are so simple minded..you gonna get tricked again like that Derek Jackson...

[@barbigrlrichmelan8590]

I left my husband after 15 years a few weeks before I left he told me that he hit me with his best shot he did everything in his power to break me but somehow it didn’t work. He said he doesn’t understand how I’m still standing and smiling and thriving.

[@Kiwi--nk6dq]

Wow what an evil Pos. This reminds me of the saying ‘Listen to what he says, but even more so listen to what he doesn’t say and believe it. The majority of Men especially Narcs tell on themselves, women just don’t pay attention cause they don’t want to hear the truth cause it hurts.. I hope you are now in a better place. Sending you positive thoughts and best wishes ❤️

[@barbigrlrichmelan8590]

@@Kiwi--nk6dq Yea her was evil you are so right about narcs. I am in a positive place and life is so much better now thank you 😊

[@flamboyant731]

Wow that's terrible 😕

[@ReginaGg]

Goes for platonic female friendships/family members that become controlling/passive aggressive/manipulative etc too!!! LAWD! I finally liberated and empowered myself from a whooooole bunch of these type of close, 4life “friendships” last year! Best life changing self loving empowering decision ever!! ❤ I never comment now I’m ranting all night 😂…ah well maybe this will empower someone. Will never have friends like this again! Thankfully. This was a HUGE element of those bonds that I FINALLY understood!!! 🚩🚩Once I truly started healing, eyes finally opened, and really loving myself, prioritizing myself, and not pleasing/prioritizing them all the time, flat out ending my people pleasing ways…mannnnnn it/I didn’t serve THEM anymore (which they loved and essentially why they were friends with me) and it was a BIG problem!!!! 😡 Aka I wasn’t at their beck and call, I was at my OWN beck and call finally! Aka the bond no longer functions when I have a healthy self esteem 😠…Their “benefits” from me ran out, they didn’t like the change and they got mad. Makes me shudder! No matter how someone spins it, that’s what it is. It’s all what we allow though, that’s what I had to learn about myself. Low self esteem had me enabling it for too many years with my need for pleasing and approval. But hey, When you grow….you know. Still f’ed up on their end though! If your friends, bf gf or whoever doesn’t support your ultimate growth, healing and self love and wants to keep you in the lower state you were formerly in to help fuel their ego, control you, whatever…. RUN!!!!!! 😮😡 As I told my “friend” when I ended it finally after many years of this, if your self esteem is boosted at the expense of mine being lowered, that’s TOXIC and I’m not allowing it anymore! BLOCKED and done with! And I never looked back! LOVE YOURSELVES ABOVE ANYONE ELSE! And only have relationships/friendships where you and your GROWTH is CELEBRATED! ❤ Appreciate your videos and words sir! 😊 Very refreshing! Especially in this day and age whew chile…..😅😮

[@ladymarrero617]

Yes ma'am!!! 🙌🏾

[@lynnwhite546]

I appreciate you so much, God's continued blessings upon you .

[@mutha._hubba]

Damn , this really be opening my eyes to certain things .

[@vonettalcooks3536]

So true about men.. But think of different scenarios when parents do it to you ..thank you for your lesson 💯

[@TheGuniverse2k]

Lol my comment. My dad. Man o man it's like getting out a bad movie when it's your parent.

[@vonettalcooks3536]

It's my foster mom I'm just learning how to leave her alone 💯🙏

[@traceenoelle]

My mother 💔 💔

[@vonettalcooks3536]

@@traceenoelle my mom also

[@traceenoelle]

@@vonettalcooks3536 💔

[@phenomenalmenandwomenwithkidz]

A narcissi is a demon.

[@maureenmorgan1852]

And they do it for many, many years. You are so correct. In what you're saying, nothing will ever make them happy

[@shamch22]

I wish I had this advice years ago. You can be the most loyal , loving person and not appreciated. Thank you for speaking truth my brother.

[@bonnercoeurline589]

Thanks brother. I pray that god covers u. U give good advice to men and women.

[@marcycat]

This man sees the forest through the trees. He's telling the truth.

[@CL-es1nz]

Sounds like the Devil to me...run for the hills🏃

[@v.b.6559]

Thank you, brother. I needed this forever.

[@dorothyjohnson8051]

I meet an narcissist working at my apartment complex he was our matinence man. They are evil personified. At first they are nice and helpful and then their true colors come forward. I thought he was a nice person but man. 😈 EVIL AND SCARY

[@lorrainepowell3764]

That is soo TRUE,the lower you feel the Better they Feel.

[@cherisebrown3028]

He is so telling the truth listen up!

[@MsKwesi]

I am so glad I no longer deal with that type of a-hole. God showed me that I deserved better, and I ran 🏃🏽‍♂️ to get back to being me.

[@lataciajackson6574]

Praise God for Saving me in the MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN 🙌

[@shaybuttersbm]

Love hearing this dude 🔥💯👏🏾 he speaks the truth 💞

[@carrieduvall4579]

That explains why I was never told anything kind by an ex. It really does crush your spirit and ruin your self esteem and confidence. I’m so glad I am learning it’s them not me!!! I always tried to lift them up and they never did the same .

[@quitageorge7532]

You are telling the absolute truth... Keep preaching

[@spektraelectra8677]

Oooweee this was a burning truth!!! Thank you!! ❤ God bless you!!

[@sugarandspice2136]

It was my last relationship with a narcissist when I realized I was raised by one and I was finally able to put the pieces together. Talk about DEEPLY devastating, but it made sense why I settled for people like that in my life.

[@sunnyflower1979]

STOP 😭 this got me reliving stuff Ive healed from.

[@NG-sw3fi]

Preach King! Too many women are destroying themselves for the sake of these relationships.

[@veronapaisley6915]

A narcissist can be a man or woman. Both use different abuse tactics, coercive control, bullying, fear, isolation from kith and kin, character teardowns.

[@carolinehill8826]

This is a Man that speak facts and straight to the point , very motivation encouraging words

[@guirlandedelva3240]

AMEN ! I went trough it all, now I’m free and won’t trade that freedom, peace of mind for nothing else

[@angelitalee4727]

One guy tried to turn me against my sister. Also told me my fam don’t really love me. Said he have ppl watching me. Now I know he was trying to destroy my support system. Thank you for this. You’re a blessing

[@user-yc3qv5yy3j]

Why he wanted to destroy ur support system?

[@Kiwi--nk6dq]

This brotha needs protecting at all costs. Thank you, TY, TY, for your honesty and saving women from hell. God bless you. I’ve only come across your content recently and I’m so grateful my Lord has put you in my path for I so very need this right now.. ❤

[@valeriepetty5853]

Listen up Ladies!

[@chriscelladean165]

You hit it right on the head 😂😂😂😂🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️😂😂 chriscella Walkes Dean

[@deborasampy2762]

Yup that's what narcissistic guy said wants to have you like putty in their hands they are so sadistic and calculating smh ......

[@kerenkares4473]

He said what's wrong with you 🤔🤔🤔 like why you act STRANGE ... I'll translate why can't I break you down why you keep resisting I hate that you're situation is rock bottom and you're always so happy and peaceful...I'm always on top yet I'm shallow and empty...I'm thinking what's wrong with me 🤔... ooooo I see you've met your match you punk a$$ I'm a former narcissist😓 this you see before you now is God's grace covering me otherwise I'd shred your ego into tiny pieces...🤣🤣🤣🤣😓

[@nethaonthewayy3692]

Thank the Lord for stitching this man together. Thank you for him speaking to these Queens and letting it be known not hidden. #ReFixUs

[@KarenDelores]

A Narcissist will break you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually if you allow them to. Be safe out there ladies.

[@maconkimpiregoddess6350]

💥💥💯 This is exactly what low low value Men represent, low self-esteem and High insecurities, so of course they want their victim/volunteer, to be the same. 💯💥💥 Wake it on up King 👑

[@shorlitewhatley5706]

These sort of people are dangerous!

[@DanaRToliver]

true... and narcs can also be woman, fyi

[@KK-bq3ns]

Of course. It's a disorder and it's not gender specific.

[@EmpressJess86]

They make & break you in their minds, they’re all powerful. It’s a mentally I’ll person playing a game with another persons real life, everyday. Periodt. 👀✌🏼🙅🏻‍♀️

[@bardot23bn]

Preach🙌🏽

[@tanyaquinonez7117]

Thank you sir ♡♡♡♡ FROM DENVER

[@alexandraheard7355]

Your mentality is balanced and appreciated. Keep sharing the #TRUTH.

[@hsand8178]

Still. Spitting. Fire 🔥 MY. Brother. Common. Sense. Prevails.

[@liviaserrano7856]

Any expression of joy, fulfillment, peace is frowned upon. They’ll mock your most genuine smile or laugh in the hopes you’ll never dare to do so with or without them. Yucckkk!!! Good riddance! 💯🎯👑

[@mandyclark6782]

Literally all of my exes. So happy I got out, and took a couple years just for me. Now I've found someone who's the exact opposite of what I was used to

[@tracyglenn1727]

Absolutely.💯

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

lived this no one could tell me of the hell i wouldn't believe it

[@carolberry6520]

Thank you thank you for sharing and giving us freedom to love ourselves

[@mrs.tcampbell1249]

Depending on another person is giving up control of your life. Depend and love yourself first before you can love someone else.

[@la.melaninqueentina]

Yep been there before ! Never wanna be in that dark place ever again. 😔😔😔😔

[@lindawood8114]

Mr. Ace you are telling the truth, Lord have mercy!

[@optimalscore]

I didn't know this for a long time! Now my eyes have opened up @ 42yrs old after 16yrs of lies!!!!

[@emmaharper860]

Absolutely true 💯 I lived it. Thank God the trash was taken out for the community trash he is. And the next person think they have hit the jackpot unknowingly they took in decades old trash🎯🎯🎯

[@barbarapeterson3637]

no one could say it any better...you got my back..eyes in the front and eyesight in the back.....you really care about us woman

[@cc-fi1lw]

Wow u are %100 correct. Which is heartbreaking

[@jtonyt1977]

Fr fr. I learned the hard way. I'm an empath, so I'm a target for narcs.

[@benedictachiechem7250]

you are a good counselling master, I really like your words. God bless you real good.

[@jacquelinebrannon1610]

I love that you're helping to assist the young men and women in this generation on relationships thank you

[@trenastewart2599]

He did break me. But I got up and never looked back.

[@purplediamond8739]

Bless you 🙏

[@griseldasmith1652]

Been there done that!!! So true!!!

[@tc1680]

He is basically reading my ex-husband's biography at this point...minus the flower. He accepted and didn't give gifts

[@desertangelfish140]

Ace, you ate an Earth Angel! 💕🕊️

[@empresspizarro9616]

That A INSECURE WEAK MIND IT PERSON THAT NEED TO BREAK OR MAKE SOMEONE FEEL THAT WAY BECAUSE IT TAKE STRENGTH And SELF ESTEEM TO ELEVATE SOMEONE ELSE THAT PERSON ITS NOT CAPABLE TO DO IT FOR HIMSELF HOW HE IS Going To UPLIFT. SOMEONE'S ELSE !

[@dennisrobinson8008]

It can be normal

[@Magicallotus333]

The truth! Yes yes yes yes! Exactly 💯

[@diamondonpurpose9145]

This guy is on point every time he speaks

[@Lucida1818]

Nah I’m way too independent and they never succeeded 😅

[@kimberlyhicks3644]

Exactly!!!

[@freedomfighter319]

Amen BROTHER, This is why IM SINGLE

[@sandygun8863]

Love this Message 👊🏾

[@beautyinthedark7406]

You’re the brother I wish mine was but he’s a raging malignant narcissist that I don’t f’k with. Glad I found ur channel. I hope you do a live one day🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️

[@princ345]

Thank you Brother this only happen if you let it got to have a better mind set form the start and keep boundaries. Over that ass .then self love you harder them before ladies or mens it works i know

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

They make you feel low so they can prop their feet up on yo back🤡🤛🏿👹🤛🏿

[@kerenkares4473]

I love that comment 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 BRAVOOO

[@treeeasywayne9383]

Guy you are good, you keep touching on the truth.

[@keishaedwards6779]

Ace I been their with my BF. He's a Narcissist, manipulator. I am happy by myself. The right one will come and treat right.

[@miriamwilliam3853]

GOD BLESS YOU BROTHER FOR THIS GREAT INSIGHTS 👍 👌 🙏

[@naamahisrael7977]

I'm glad I stopped crying over dead situations, As soon as the disrespect was becoming consistent, I packed up my dignity and left for the good of me❤

[@_Renee2]

Hell, this applies to narcissistic parents as well.

[@GoogleUser-wy2vv]

Yep want to make sure there's a hundred different ways to say you're not worthy. I've seen it at home between my mother and father. My mother was treated very badly. But my father gaslighted her into thinking that she had a good.

[@TikaCapricornEmpress]

Yep I dated one not to long ago & think god I’m no longer involved in that. Horrible.

[@kerenkares4473]

Be very careful they're channeling in the spirit realm trying to make contact in the natural realm... especially in the wee morning hours trying to get a booty call and start the cycle all over again... I met a lady in therapy she said she went no contact with her narc for 5 years got married had a little girl 5 years later the narc called her job sent flowers pursued her relentlessly she started sneakin around behind her husband's back this went on for 3 months when she started making plans to leave her husband get her own place so they could be together the narc started ghosting and stopped all contact 🤦🏾🤦🏾😖

[@AlmondJoie]

​@@kerenkares4473😮. That literally sounds like a demon she was messing with.👹

[@lorebay2593]

Been there, done that, this is so true, but I had to find myself and take my stand. It was tried, but untrue, why, because I know who I am, I got the victory. When my children went to school, I got a job to have money if I needed it.

[@MZ-jo9ru]

Thank you!

[@tanyaessien6529]

Prophet! Keep Going Brotha!

[@JoyLady-1966]

That is something to think about in my 56 years . The majority of the men who haven’t supportive of me have been black men. Father husband guys on the job and men in the church. It is sickening and disheartening. I will soon be divorced from a narc. After 26 years and leaving to evaluate the relationship. That Negro could not stand me😮😮😮

[@ne-colsimon]

Yep. My son's dad called me a flight risk so I had to stay here. And you are right about the weight comments. He told me I should have been smaller so I hit him with well it should have been bigger. Got to stand up for yourself.

[@AlmondJoie]

Epic comeback! I bet the look on his face was PRICELESS! Hopefully "it heard" and shriveled right on up just a little bit more!😂😂

[@ne-colsimon]

@camikamcam he hug up on me 😆 I was like "hello....hello" done

[@AlmondJoie]

@@ne-colsimonHe probably knew you didn't want him to touch you, so he did it just to be an irritant. I could've saved myself so much misery if I had just stopped dating altogether after I was assaulted.🤦🏽‍♀️

[@ne-colsimon]

@camikamcam after I had my son I tried dating it was a hot mess. So I decided to be celibate. This has been a journey. 17 years of peace.

[@AlmondJoie]

@@ne-colsimon I know what you mean. I haven't dated anyone in many years and have very few friends. Life is far less complicated.👍🏼

[@cathuharris4316]

I love u dude u r speaking the truth my husband says things that to hurt sometimes but guess what it makes me even stronger. So u can't break this I AM A CHILD OF GOD.