The Real Trick To Long Term Motivation: Daniel Pink | E130

Daniel Pink is the best-selling author of books that show the hidden ways to motivate yourself and those around you. He’s the man behind Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, To Sell Is Human and Free Agent Nation. His new book is all about The Power of Regret.
This weeks topics:
0:00 Intro
01:05 Where do your skills come from?
06:59 How to be consistently motivated
08:37 Manifestation
11:51 How to keep people motivated
19:46 How to fuel purpose
28:16 The skill of sales
38:28 The secret to pitching
45:56 The type of sleeper you are
53:40 The Power of Regret
01:07:50 Counterfactual Thinking
01:11:50 Me & Daniel: Sharing our regrets
01:29:20 The power of experimentation and failure
01:35:46 The last guest’s question
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

These are insights into your behaviour that I think you need to hear 🤯… hit like and subscribe for a new episode every Monday and Thursday 🙌🏽

[@mariaware8445]

Will you do a regret questionnaire on insta etc.. get the ball rolling. The dad one got me. My mum died in her sleep. So many regrets not telling her i loved her enough amongst so many others. But... it taught me to say it now to those i care about and make time. Ring your dad!

[@e12sahimali]

Would love it if you could interview Daniel Priestley?

[@abdulmunim4937]

I HOPE EVERYONE IS LISTENING & IF YOU ARE, THEN PLEASE SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD

[@madeleineqiex6327]

Already here, though I’m keeping it to myself 😹💓🫠

[@madeleineqiex6327]

@@mariaware8445 at least you learned… 🫶🏻 hard way to learn that lesson… actions speak louder than words, forgive yourself because you actually learned the lesson of letting people know beyond the words ❣️👍🏻 Hope you’re okay ❤️‍🩹🎁

[@mutnurusrinivasa7940]

"When in doubt...Act." That's a wonderful statement that i will remember from now on whenever i am in doubt/procrastinating . excellent episode by the way Steven .

[@artistryartistry7239]

If people had the character to do this, they wouldn't need to be told. What people really need help with is cultivating the ability to act. Success is a habit, not an act.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks so much for sharing!

[@svetlanavanwyk5623]

Consider that perhaps your hesitation is a good response. Hear me out. When you act, you get consequences, which could be potentially detrimental to your well-being. That's a risk, that you need to at least consider. Acting without thinking is the #1 reason most people suffer at their own hands. I suggest that once you make a decision--and decide it is a good decision--act. Do think first, but don't allow it to become an excuse for not acting, especially because often there is a time limit on successful action.

[@tchai91]

I actually only watched this episode by mistake (as I didn’t realise that my previous video had stopped), but I’m so glad I did, as this is arguably my favourite episode. What an interesting man, and what a criminally underwatched episode.

[@jcvirtcloudconsultancy7552]

## This is gold - I would be very surprised that this episode is not the most watched on this channel. If you are a leader and want to improve your team morale , this is the episode that can help.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙌🏽

[@GoddessSeleneHypnoDomme]

Definitely I got value from it. Agreed with 👌

[@susan5933]

Thank

[@jeremyfrancis3696]

Great conversation! I have not seen a single episode that didn't make me think about my life critically and I have a great appreciation for what you do for all of us listening.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you Jeremy! 🙏🏽

[@leighashton321]

Dan Pink is one of my favourite authors...love his books and he speaks good sense. So happy that you've had him on your podcast. I love "manifestation without work is delusion", "Successful businesses go with the grain of human nature" and "sales has changed more in the last 10 years than it has in the previous 1000". Thanks Dan and Steven for a great episode!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you Leigh!

[@grantsenzani7264]

I like Daniel Pink's honesty - it's that type of honesty that will bring the world forward. We need more people being that candid.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

He's great 🙌🏽

[@annaw7437]

SUCH a valuable conversation!!! Fellow Owl here 🙌🏻 I always say that I love (well, used to, before I had a child) to stay in the office late, not because I had sooo much to do, but because 6-7pm have always been my most productive hours, by far! I am brain dead in early morning until 10am at least, in terms of creativity and focus.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙌🏽

[@theyellowhouse3569]

Hi Steve I’ve been on a journey of self discovery now for about 3 years, ever since my split from my daughters father. I’ve been delving into meditation, gratitude, mindfulness and listening to podcast after podcast. I knew of you but it’s only recently I started listening to The Diary of a CEO. I love your work. You are a fantastic interviewer, you put all your guests at ease, you have a lovely way about you and your empathy and understanding towards others is amazing for a young man. I had never heard of Daniel Pink. His books are now a necessity for me to purchase . Continue being you, I hope your phone call with your dad bridges that gap. Take care. Lots of respect. Bree

[@csleung444]

Love this guy on so many levels, esp what he said abt bullying and regret and doing better today by including ppl. Love also what he said abt no one teaches you abt how to deal with negative emotions. I struggled for so long.

[@tracydavies5702]

"Treat yourself with kindness not contempt" - so true that we talk to ourselves in a manner that we wouldn't dream of talking to anyone else with! BRILLIANT conversation yet again, thankyou Steven!

[@Userpk7193]

please never stop making these podcasts

[@homeatnumberninetyfive]

Just wanted to write a comment which I don’t usually do hahaha, but I will say that true manifestation isn’t just dreaming big and thinking you’re good enough for those things to just appear to you in your life. True Manifestation is about showing up, doing the work, knowing that you have whatever you want for your future, because ultimately doing the work will get you there. There obviously may be people in the world who think manifestation is like you were saying, just dreaming and it coming to fruition (if that helps people then show me the flip in way because I want that too hahahahaha) but True Solid Manifestation is not just that. It’s turning up, showing up for yourself, doing the dam WORK, and know that your dreams are yours because you work dam hard and you’ll get there. Hope that makes sense but just wanted to clarify haha! I know it may be confusing but Roxie Nafousi is amazing at this and has written a book, and you need to get her on here :)

[@constructenglish1]

I really love this one! I didn't know Daniel Pink before, but I definitely will read his books now

[@dswain1981]

Dan Pink's Drive is a masterpiece for me, can't wait to listen.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks David, let me know what you think 🙌🏽

[@dswain1981]

Great balanced conversation with good reflection on both your lives. The last bit about privilege was the cherry on the cake, such a great point about "birth lottery" and playing it back.

[@sabrikay3877]

Dreaming and action should go hand in hand, dreaming itself is not enough to keep you going! Loved this

[@sallymcmullin]

What a wonderful conversation! So many takeaways! I for sure want to purchase the book and do the ‘failure resume’ exercise. Happy you decided to reach out to your father. One of my regrets, not going to my biological mom’s funeral because I was so upset with her. Daniel Pink was right, that regret doesn’t go away. Fantastic conversation. Pages of notes! ❤️

[@nath9697]

Wow! How powerful, so many things to take on board. Decision making based on yourself in 10 years .... omg game changer! I need his book!

[@OhTheBakers]

I did not expect this episode to be one of my favourites but WOW. Got so much value from this. Excited to read some of DP’s work. Thanks to the incredible DOAC team for continuing to raise the bar around both quality/quantity in content creation!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@arete1394]

Loved it. Thanks Steven. Regret/Failure resume is a good point and for me, I leant the best lessons because of wrong decisions and failure. No birth lottery for us in the 3rd world - we got to create it and win it for us.

[@crowley144]

Storytelling for business marketing 🙌 absolute GOLD. I have heard this before but didnt think too much about it. I feel like this will be a hugely important piece of the jigsaw puzzle moving forward! THANK YOU 😉

[@JP-xl3wj]

I love Daniel Pink, and you are asking great questions, Hurray for you, thank you.

[@progressandproductivity]

One of my favorites so far. Well done. Control leads to compliance; autonomy leads to engagement. - Daniel H. Pink

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks so much!

[@pinkyplonks]

What an episode. Thanks Steven, Daniel and team for amazing insight.

[@lizziflaherty4317]

I'm so happy to hear Stevens thoughts on manifestation! This fashionable fluffy essentially wishing that's been rebranded and sold to so many people. You can't just lay on the floor and wish yourself some thing better and have it happen. It just doesn't work like that.

[@Ragg3h]

As a guy who has lost his goal/way. This is possibly one of the most "real" motivational, self searching videos out there. I find that this/these videos are so important for people like myself. I'm not a business owner or a CEO, just an employee who has lost his way. But seeing your videos I've finally found a drive to move forward and stop being hesitant. Thank you so much for your time, energy and informative response, you put into these videos. Although I am listening, I will keep this to myself.

[@PropertyBySM]

What I loved about this is that we were given concrete, actionable steps that we can take to improve ourselves. Defo gained a new sub!

[@Allyblly]

An incredible conversation with excellent questions and answers. Thank you for sharing this.

[@jessamyn-rosie755]

Omg I just realized I have a podcast version of these!!!!!! Yayyyyyyy

[@s.kintuition]

this was the podcast i didn’t know i needed to hear… i was gonna to skip this one but listened anyway because i was free and picked up so many gems. amazing episode

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽 thanks Joanne, glad you found it insightful

[@maja_sukara]

Concerning the different sleep/wake times, I would like to mention this: My children have the privilege of going to school in the afternoon every other month. So my teenager loves the sleeping in. But, the month when they go to school in the morning, she enjoys as well because it allows her to be disciplined which she loves every now and then. I see how they are profiting from this way of schooling not only sleep wise but also psychologically and especially the fact that they are learning to stay flexible and how to break habits (stay detached from some material things). 😊

[@benandrews9007]

Book time out in your calendar for family time the same way you do with your work. Get your PA to do it and hold you to account the same way they would a meeting. I’ve got into the habit of doing this and it’s helped so much with switching off and appreciating the time. It’s soon goes and you’re too good a guy for that regret so get it done 👊🏻 possibly my favourite podcast this one. I’ve taken so many little nuggets of wisdom away 👏 thank so you both.

[@shabanadonaldson7455]

I Loved this. So many pieces of brilliance, such wisdom and great light bulb moments. Daniel Pink!!! You are definitely one of my Top Three......

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Wow, thank you!

[@ryanashmore1398]

Another incredible podcast! Scooter Braun as a guest would be next level!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Great suggestion Ryan, thanks!

[@ryanashmore1398]

@@TheDiaryOfACEO I have a connection with somebody in his team if you need 👍

[@smar4433]

Excellent episode with so much gold 👏 the 'no regrets' mantra always bothered me but couldn't put my finger on why until he explained it so well.

[@Allthesamesea]

Life navigation tools- grateful and learning 🙏🏻💙

[@davidlakhter]

never disappoint with the guests Steven! thank you

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks David, hope you enjoy!

[@pfoggin]

One of tge best, informative and helpful podcasts that I have seen in a long long time...wait a minute...it is the best! Thank you Steven and Dan.

[@TheDottyRoom]

Loved this episode so much! Daniel talks a LOT of sense 👏🏻

[@SHETALKSCARS]

I loved this episode so so much! Feeling so validated in my owl like chronotype. All the best ideas come at night for sure! 🙌 Thank you!

[@BenJordy]

Amazing content. I was using this episode as some positive procrastination to an essay I was writing and not only did it inspire me to stop procrastinating I used Pink's regret book as a source for a reflective essay for University. Sometimes the universe is on your side! Thanks for the source ;)

[@CurzeDesigns]

As someone who has just started therapy because I have a serious lack of motivation, this couldn't have come at a more perfect time!

[@andymcgrath5472]

This guy is absolutely fascinating. Great Podcast. Stephen getting the best out of him as well!

[@chelsnicole98]

The title of his book at first made me a little unsettled but actually listening to him explaining it wow yes has so much sense to it, very wise, loved this one!!❤️

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks Chelsea!

[@drewsteroriginals4564]

Some great takeaways from this, when in doubt act and what did you learn from it. Great video looking forward to more.

[@chellemartin3271]

Purpose is a sense that is beyond explanation, but all I can say is that it will never be found in self gain. People can agree or disagree, but I'm yet to find a person that can say that living selfishly for themselves brought them some form of purpose.

[@JoJo_GSD]

Incredible 🙌 Thoroughly enjoyed this episode🤗 Thank you Mr Bartlett & your team. Daniel Pink, thank you so much. I came away from this podcast feeling quite refreshed & I will be doing lots of work on my self and regrets. 🤗 Take care, Jo

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Glad you enjoyed Jo Jo 🙏🏽 Thank you

[@nicolamatthews2993]

Love the impact idea, so many of these podcasts have saved me 🙏 thank you

[@mweembesikaulu7758]

Thoroughly enjoyed this conversation! So many great take aways and points that force one to be introspective! Absolutely brilliant!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@margaretbishop7001]

Thank you for this great conversation. I will definitely read his books.Never heard about him until today great guy thank you 😊

[@snehamorjaria8101]

I see so much about “manifestation” on social media and I am so glad I wasn’t going mad about finding it almost comical that you can “manifest” something without doing any work! Another excellent episode 👏🏽

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for sharing!🙏🏽

[@kyracl7318]

Just ordered his book! Such a insightful episode. Thanks!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for listening Kyra!

[@monstertobias]

This really helped give me the nudge I needed, definitely been struggling with motivation and my mental health, a different perspective really helps to get past that mental block. Props to the team for amazing podcasts 👏

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for sharing Toby 🙏🏽

[@TheWriter86]

Super great interview. Thanks for sharing and for asking excellent questions. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@jimperezcadena]

Killing the fluff. Thank you.

[@TobyNewbatt]

It's hard to keep getting better each time Steven..a lot of pressure but these are essential viewing/ listening now. Thank you :)

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks Toby 🙏🏽

[@nicolamatthews2993]

Will be watching Daniel's ted talk asap after this 👍

[@alanadixon82]

The best episode for me to date by far! I got so many great pieces of information/advice that are actually practical to apply, and actually gave me so many ‘aha’ moments.. brilliant episode!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for sharing Alana 🙏🏽

[@Nathan-jl1ce]

Another quality guest Steven, really good listen 👍

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks Nathan!

[@podcastsyoutube5524]

Great interview. Currently reading his book "Drive".

[@ldevon2318]

Loved this episode!

[@_kentoe]

BEST EP YET!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙏🏽

[@cheyenneh752]

I would love to see you do a podcast with Sean Cannell!! Please consider this!

[@mickandtraceycope7826]

Was this filmed slightly different to normal? I can't recall you looking down the lense so much. It's a good touch if it was, kind of drew me in even more. Loved his non-nonsense replies to regrets. 🤛🤜

[@RicherPodcast]

Super valuable as always, would love to see David Goggins on here 👍🏼

[@24jocy]

Great conversation😃

[@suzanadilibero1173]

Great interview!! Thank you.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks Suzana! 🙏🏽

[@user-mp7gj4gk8t]

Looking forward to it

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Let me know what you think!

[@wjtgbio5218]

Cannot wait

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Enjoy!

[@KingaGorski]

Most anxiety comes from not doing what we know needs to be done. To alleviate anxiety, *act.*

[@ioanagrancea6091]

Wonderful!

[@svetlanavanwyk5623]

To point of regreting eating bread (gluten): perhaps consider the type of bread you are eating. There are non-gluten breads out there. Exchange wheat bread for bread made of other grains. Try it.

[@veronicastein7097]

Great interview!

[@derekcavin7665]

Great stuff.

[@khadijasajid457]

Engaging with books has significantly elevated my perspective on investing. True wealth isn't built through mere savings; financial freedom stems from strategic investments. I've learned that accumulating wealth hinges on making prudent investment decisions.

[@christopherohare6276]

I have been a religious listener for over 2 years and this episode hit hard.

[@kayburnett36]

Steven, check out the Free From section in the supermarkets! Gluten free pasta taste horrid but the bread is yum!

[@desoconnor7445]

In relation to me this is an important interview ..it’s a perspective on fluff…fluff is the dark matter of failure 🧘‍♂️🙏🏿🙏👍🎩🦄

[@NMKY247]

Would love to see you interview Tony Hawk and/or Rodney Mullen. Big ask I know...but can they go on the list please?

[@plaisirdelanglais]

I had to stop to comment...11:50... Can I do it? How? ....Amazing phrase to get into action.

[@FSshizz]

Took away so much from this! What less sugary snacks did you replace in your draw? I love sugary treats but know I need to tone them down and get more healthier ones 🤣

[@olliekennedy5774]

You should get Travis Kalanick the podcast. Super interesting guy with a good story

[@sammcalister5713]

Wow wow wow

[@thesingingsparky6300]

Steven what’s the meaning behind the “I hope nobody’s listening” opening, been bugging me for ages 🤣

[@adamj.davidge7933]

Steven, how quick are you reading a book and how are you reading so many for each guest?

[@chellemartin3271]

I wish you could interview Les Brown, he's amazing.

[@teotzampazis7602]

Why is he always saying that he hopes nobody is listening ....I don get it .This podcast has a tremendous value!

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

13:50, 14:35** Great question!, 20:00** small p purpose! Who are you impacting with your contribution? 32:30 Information curator

[@nicolamatthews2993]

You need an owl made by Craftd, Steven 👍

[@zoehutchinson8053]

Better to regret the things you’ve done than the things you have not done.

[@scottd7209]

When is the Jonny Wilkinson episode coming up Steve!?!? 😭😭😭

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Coming out Monday 🙌🏽

[@LifeCoachJayRiley]

Without direction there is no drive.

[@lukedennis1880]

Please have Wayne Lineker on!

[@thomasturnbull3742]

Guest request - Cal Newport.

[@WilliamJonesChess]

Both Daniel and Stephen burst out laughing at 1:19:50 But what did Stephen Bartlett say?

[@LucyLu98]

This guy reminds me so much of Hugh Laurie

[@WilliamJonesChess]

Top moments No fluff. Lots of books would be x2 as good if they were /2 as long! 04:50 Ridiculous intro = 'That is exactly why she left me.' 44:55 Hence use ridiculous intro ideas in your videos Real courage is 59:00 staring at your regrets and acting When asked what to do 1:06:35 do not ask what would u do, ask what would u tell your best friend to do! Assets 1:30:30 What is overvalued and undervalued Planning is overvalued, Actions are undervalued

[@svetlanavanwyk5623]

Interesting point-- realizing you aren't close to your family and regreting that fact, yet finding yourself unwilling to make a change to improve the situation...ask yourself why? Why aren't you looking for a stronger, more fullfilling relationship with your family? Why aren't you making it a priority? And wait for the answer. It is absolutely necessary to dig and wait for the answer. You will tell yourself the EXACT reason why.

[@rodgeraarons8997]

37:00 tried that with my wife. We just kept yelling asshole at each other.

[@middle_aged_man_podcast]

So I would challenge the ‘regrets’ idea. I have experienced many ‘business owners’ almost having a race to the bottom, because of this messaging. People are almost spending too much time telling their ‘story’ and trying to outdo each other as to how inspiring, motivational and upsetting it can be. Way too many people telling each other they are inspirational because they burned their tongue on a Costa Coffee as opposed to going up a mountain with no arms and no legs…that’s inspirational. The premis is correct, but too many people pushing the dial to far past and therefore losing its impact. IMHO