The Science of Soulmates

How many Americans do you think believe in the concept of soulmates? Which part of the percentage do you stand in?
In this video, I talk about the science of soulmates and the difference between destiny believers vs. growth believers in romantic relationships. Whether you believe in the idea of soulmates or not, the concept can really affect your mindset when searching for a partner, what the longevity of a relationship looks like for you, and success rate.
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In this video:
0:00 Intro
0:30 Statistics on Soulmates
2:05 Destiny vs. Growth Beliefs
3:15 Shift In Beliefs
4:00 The Demise of Destiny Believers
4:28 Advice to Destiny Believers
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[@ScienceOfPeople]

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[@jdnz5963]

Hey vanessa,how are you....i just want to know...Have you found your soulmate🥰🥰

[@gadbenezer9329]

Soul mates is basically our soul connecting with each other to a point it's not lust but true pure love a wonderful feeling that shall never end.

[@SNAKE-od8se]

THEY DON'T EXIST

[@strawberries322]

I agree hope I find mine

[@leahmurray8456]

I like this Idea ..lots .

[@lonefaith9962]

@@SNAKE-od8se People have find them, soulmates or whatever name you give them.

[@Blessing_tv]

Exactly

[@melodyindigoestell7920]

I truly didnt believe in soulmates until I met "mine"... this is 100% accurate

[@yasmineb6252]

How did u knew him

[@asmaeelasri5797]

Please can u explain how you knew them

[@devonnewcombe9523]

Same here Melody Indigo Estell

[@KlngVJames]

@@asmaeelasri5797 you just know for some reason even if you haven't spoken a word to them. You drawn to them like magnets. They have a similar personality to you. You want to spend time with them and there will be some random thing that will make you break up with the person which is the hardest part because once you seperate you have to work on yourself to be yourself at your truest potential then once both your egos drop you can forgive eachother for abandonment then finally be together in the long haul.

[@asmaeelasri5797]

@@KlngVJames I liked a person so much I was attracted chemically to him it was like a magnet in my heart that push me to him I had butterflies when I see him but I couldn't talk to him because he had a girlfriend and I was so shy it was 2 years ago and I Connot forget him

[@geraldinescissorhands7445]

I believe in soulmates but I also believe in growing with a person and I think it's part of knowing he or she is your soulmate

[@RottenDoctorGonzo]

Geraldine scissorhands Based on?

[@chlariepeace6058]

Wrong

[@MathiasManser]

word!

[@stevestone2900]

Interesting! That's so true, believing in Soulmate doesn't mean that the first person in your life must be your Soulmate and doesn't mean you are not realistic! You sound like you have a beautiful mind :) Good luck

[@kielanderson4447]

What if you lose a person. Are they still your soul mates.

[@mayawantstowatchthis]

I don't think many people understand the meaning of a soulmate. A soulmate is someone whom you meet that you share a spiritual connection with. It is also believed that a soulmate is a person you have been aquatinted with in in past life, hence the familiarity. But what many fail to recognize is that a soulmate doesn't always have to be a lover. It can be a friend , a family member or a mentor. Soulmate does not always refer to a romantic relationship. But when it does , people fail to recognize that even these relationships are not meant to last forever. Soulmates enter our lives at times for specific reasons and then we must let them go. People have this idea that soulmates are this one person that we are destined to be with until our dying day , the truth of the matter is that we have many soulmates not just one and when the universe is ready we meet them. However, we must be ready to embrace them and then unfortunately let them go.

[@chlariepeace6058]

I do understand and I no who my soul mate is but cannot have him

[@fawnomenal7097]

Maya Perfect example of both types of beliefs and why people like you will experience the most fulfilling relationships.

[@susan9188]

That's a twin flame, not a soul mate! Everyone has a soul family that you meet over many lives. You only have one twin flame, but do not meet them in every lifetime.

[@tarikhendrix1930]

It's when we're ready to meet them (and when they're ready to meet us), not when the universe is ready. And when you meet your twin flame, you don't have to let them go. Not always. In fact, the purpose of a twin flame is to have a special bond with someone for life. Soulmates are temporary, twin flames are not.

[@susan9188]

Deni H You have to let them go if they're already married to someone else!

[@AnthonyLiccione]

"Most people give up finding their soul mate, and settle down to just having a flesh mate."

[@shanemcguire6428]

i think your more right women want kids and men need an intimate mate in life its just that way but as you get older love is a choice commitment is a choice period

[@dinopremilovac8763]

or in some cases, a flesh light

[@evelynlynch3957]

The blonde lady is salty af lmao

[@heybhabe]

lowkey evie 😂😂😂😂

[@baileyerinsmith4680]

She's seen evidence against the truth and needs proper science to see why soulmates are real.

[@Xenlacasa45]

In every video she look salty

[@BrandiNaugle]

lowkey evie Lol Saf

[@PUREtrollin]

She probably went insane after rejecting the right men and going after the wrong men in her early years lmao.

[@thomasgrabowski2202]

I've never believed in soul mates until I met this one girl. I won't mention her name but I know deep inside my soul we will meet again and we will be together.

[@tanu56789]

So did you met her??

[@oldsm572]

And once you two start living together you will get back to believing that the soulmates concept is a lie. Sorry for bursting the bubble

[@mrssomeone2143]

@@oldsm572 lol yeah. bcos let's be honest no one is perfect the way we want them to be. so just be pleased n thankful n laugh a lot, hehe

[@sakshipriyadubey]

I hope ✨✨✨✨✨✨💚

[@MBD12367]

I actually believe that if someone feels that they've found their soulmate this actually motivates them to fight for the relationship and give their all to make it work despite the difficulties. I know many people who believe in soulmates and none of them has the attitude described by Vanessa. If two people are soulmates that means they will always search for each other and fight for their love no matter what even if it seems impossible sometimes. The people who don't believe in soulmates and are like "Oh, there are thousands of people compatible with me" tend to give up way easier because why make the effort to fight for someone is there are many people who suit you just as well so you can just jump onto another?

[@456leh]

I think when we are in a soulmate/meant-to-be relationship, we eventually, effortlessly, come back to each other even after really bad conflicts and turning away from the other (but never really able to go away). There's a gut feeling about them that they are the one, no matter the doubts. There is courage shown, and effort put into growth and learning, despite ourselves, if the relationship has to work. Both recognize this, and work towards it, since both want peace and for love to keep flowering ultimately. Conflicts do NOT mean both aren't meant to be. They could be our "shadow sides", our fears playing out. It could be because of having different styles/habits. They can all be worked out!

[@manonvankooten4648]

Harshi N. Twinflames!!! :)

[@Alice-ze9en]

totally agree, boyfriend and I broke up but I still feel that we are meant to be. I trust that since we need some time to grow we will find our way back to each other once again as we have many times as friends before even being in the long relationship we were in. I hope in the future whether it be in a few months, a year or even 5 years I will be able to tell people my story of how we came back to find each other and start where we left off but with more insight on our relationship and each other.

[@deeshelby7532]

You said ALLLLLL that beautifully ❣️. Thank you☯️

[@incogb6696]

@@Alice-ze9en any updates? and why did you break up

[@Alice-ze9en]

​@@incogb6696 We're very close to reuniting

[@walkerskii]

That lady interviewing you can't talk about anything but divorce! Obsessed much?!

[@salsaspartan7]

I know right

[@JasonThinks]

Lol

[@heybhabe]

She’s hurting

[@StrayKidsAHHHHHhhh]

Maybe she divorced

[@mrpea7674]

Brainwashing. Keep talking about it to normalise it.

[@anewloveofficial9137]

I dont believe in soulmates but I do believe that there are people who are meant to be part of our life not because we're destined for each other but sometimes they came to our life to teach us a life lesson and eventually that situation will lead us to finding the right one. We couldn't understand it at first but in the end we'll realize that everything has a purpose.

[@shellyortiz1977]

I cannot wait to meet my soulmate to feel the connections physical, mental spiritual the whole package.

[@SNAKE-od8se]

You're setting yourself up, soulmates don't exist, but you'll find someone who's cool

[@angelus_solus]

@@SNAKE-od8se I cannot agree more.

[@12345flowersun]

@@SNAKE-od8se just cus u had shitty experiences and even ur soulmate would probs reject someone as pathetic as u doesnt mean other people wont experience pure happiness

[@Sugarskulls_forever]

You can be soulmates with someone, but sometimes life happens. Sometimes you won't work in this life, but perhaps in the next. That lady is so negative about love. She must've been so hurt at some point. I'm glad Vanessa keeps her composure and continues speaking in a positive manner.

[@halfmoonyogi4997]

I understand what she is saying, but don't think it is all true. I believe my partner is my soulmate. We met and instantly clicked, and we both felt like we'd already known each other forever. Every day I become more and more convinced that she is my soul mate and that things happened in our lives to lead us to each other. On the other hand, this doesn't automatically mean that it is easy, and we still work hard to keep our relationship strong. I I think when you have that connection with someone you love, you work even harder in the relationship so you can grow together. In my opinion that is why you meet the people you meet. We all end up helping each other grow in some way. That soulmate mindset comes in when people assume that it will be easy and effortless like a fairytale.

[@1Skorpia]

Sarah Tellier their is a huge misconception that their is zero conflict in soul mates. that is a lie. their will be arguments but the way you fight is what makes or breaks the relationship. if you both are trying to resolve and find and answer that's teamwork!💪👍 if their is the intent to hurt the other that is not a soul mate.

[@marialovesmusicalot]

Sarah Tellier agree agree agree!!!

[@franoliver6057]

Sarah you could be right I actually found that after 4 shitty years my kundalini energy sprang up through me and that is such a fulfilling feeling it's like being totally in love with someone but you have that all the time and you don't really need anyone. Maybe just maybe it is then that you are ready to meet your soulmate but I don't know.

[@Ice.muffin]

Fkg true, it is both about, say, compatibility in mindset and personality (whatever that means for each couple, definitely different criteria for everyone), the feeling that person inspires in you _and_ the *will* to keep that person near you for the rest of your lives, and life sure is tough most of the time (although this surely varies), no one said anything about fairytales, so hello to hardships and compromises. Now the only part so-called destiny could intervene is that where you either ever meet or not such a person you'd think was forged for yourself and you for them, and that's a matter of belief only. Personally I wouldn't know what to say of the fate element, maybe it does exist, maybe not. I'd keep it in for a bit of (thrilling) supernatural effect and a bit of spice in our monotonous human lives even if there's no guarantee it is true😊.

[@chlariepeace6058]

She does not no what she tlaking about

[@lindseymarie2732]

Strange. I sound like a growth believer but the concept of “soulmates” has always been my exception.

[@maxamillion5175]

Same I prefer one soulmate

[@rye_1s_art760]

I believe In soulmates. You will meet your significant other but It's up to you to pursue her or reject her. We all must follow our hearts with wisdom. Just like Adam had eve. I think we have a person made specifically for us.

[@helen51100]

I rejected mine and have regretted it every day for the last 10 years, never thought I would.

[@ChastityBTheEntrepreneur]

Why would a Man reject his own Soulmate? Genuinely asking your opinion.

[@helen51100]

all sorts of reasons, for me I was too concerned with what other people thought and I am generally a person who tries to 'protect' themselves by pushing other people away. I know this person is my soulmate though

[@maix139]

I think about him everyday...no matter how much I try not to. I am sure he feels the same because I feel such a strong connection spiritually binding our souls together. We are so similar...

[@SNAKE-od8se]

Soulmates don't exist, it's a myth

[@litawi7869]

I'm a "growth believer"! But I tend to run into "destiny believers" ALL the time!

[@murrayfarrellmc454]

+Lita Wi I am too, but so many soul mate seekers who are still seeking.

[@cherryketket]

My bf is a GB, while am a DB... we couldn't be any happier with how things turn up for us. And I eventually grew to be a mix of both. Feels good :)

[@buttcheeksmcgee4272]

I used to never believe in soulmates till I met my husband... Trust me, it's real. I honestly believe it's timing I am just thankful we met while we were still young (32) I am so happy

[@marjoriea9079]

Awhwh I'm jealous

[@mariamoore1707]

How did you realize that was your soulmate

[@paulacrowder7701]

Ive had soulmates come into my life they have all hurt me in some way or form, maybe turtle lessons, but I'm still waiting for that unconditional love I'm 48 now I've just about given up to be honest times run out.

[@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL]

@@paulacrowder7701 never say never! Its never to late for anything! 💪🛡

[@milxanya4887]

Paula Crowder soulmates are not meant to be there forever they’re meant to teach you something

[@eagletmars]

It's hard to put into words:what a soulmate is. But all I can say is that when you know, you know. It doesn't have to be romantic, but there is an immediate feeling of 'feeling understood' on a deep, deep, level. Often this understanding is unspoken.

[@rogwarrior1018]

I agree. A soulmate is unconditional love and understanding. Soulmates communicate without talking, by exchanging looks, gestures, and touches. They "get" each other on all levels. They feel the other's pain, and joy. They support and encourage each other. It is simply another level they experience.

[@natashanottingham1114]

My best friend is my soul mate. I love her but it’s never been romantic. We are so different yet so alike. We could talk for hours with no interruptions and still never get bored. I’ve only known her for a year and yet it feels like a lifetime. It just feels like we were meant to meet. We have both grown immensely with each other, learning new things about ourselves and the world. We will not be friends forever, and that is to be expected but I will forever cherish the time I spend with her.

[@fergoka]

He is most likely in love with you, what you interpret as ,,soul mates''. Possibly he is not ,,hot'' enough for your standards, but most likely you both are on the same level, but social media made women to think much higher of themselves than their real worth/value.

[@rogwarrior1018]

@@fergoka It's a she and they may be friends for life. Distances may occur but sometimes you just have that connection with another person that stays with you.

[@fergoka]

@@rogwarrior1018 yep. You have right. I am not American and gay stuffs is out of my brain's radar. When she was talking about romantic relationship/or the lack of it meant ,,he''in my mind.

[@rogwarrior1018]

@@fergoka I didn't mean to offend.

[@pamelahough3896]

I believe in soulmates. I believe I'm meant for my husband however i believe in growing and compromising. Been reading a lot of relationship books for my husband to be reminded that Im THE ONE! Hehehe.

[@jakefarronmerlin7963]

its about balance, soulmates should recognise that their light bodies connection is forever but shouldn't forget that in this realm things end and to enjoy time and relationships here and now is vital for health and growth in this dimensional plain. the growth philosophy is highly important to include and nurture.

[@sacredthyme4617]

love thy self ~

[@JeremyBec]

We consider soulmates as an unique thing, but in my opinion you can meet many soulmates in your life. Soulmates come from the same soul family and they are souls which you've spent many many past lives with. A soulmate can be your friend, your father or even your son. Soulmates relationships aren't sunshine and rainbows. Your significant other might trigger you more often than you'd like but they're always doing it so you can grow. It differs from the usual relationships where the ego gets in the way, and you yell at each other in attempt not to get hurt but also to feel like you're superior. A soulmate will hurt you, but you will embrace it, because deep down you know you have to get hurt in order to grow and improve. These relationships (not only romantic ones) are wonderful because soulmates are those who will help you grow the most. Sometimes a soulmate might tag along only for a few days or months, but you will always get back a lot stronger. You probably wont meet all your soulmates in this life, and not every soulmate is meant to stay with you forever. Your significant other aka the soulmate you're meant to share most of your life with, will only come when the time is right. You have to love yourself before you can meet this soulmate, else you will only attract karmic relationships until you learn the lesson. If you read stories about people who met "their" soulmate a common factor is that most of them met him/her at the least expected moment and they didn't want to be in a relationship to start with. Most of them were content with theirselves, because when you truly love yourself 100% you don't need someone else to be happy. And that's exactly when soulmates get in your life. If you work on yourself and you realize you don't need another person to be whole, sooner or later you will meet your soulmate. It's when you stop looking for your soulmate than they just drop in your life, just like that. Just like anything else in life. Have you ever tried to remember something you're sure you know but you can't remember it and only when you stop trying, the answer gets to you naturally. Scientists try to rationalize everything. Firstly most feelings that you get from your heart wont be descriptible with all the words that exist. Secondly a soulmate connection is something that is on another level, on a soul level. You just cannot explain it. Those who don't believe in soulmates and have to think thoroughly about their relationships didn't meet their soulmate. Because when you meet your soulmate, you just know and you can't explain it. What's truly unique is your twin flame. But that's another story.

[@chimwemwekazizi3838]

Absolutely right sir

[@anndavis2920]

What is a twin flame? Ive never had that. I stay alone n live alone dreaming of a mature man that is truly single unattached w/no baby moma drama, no exes n hes not trying to screw everything he can find in town. Im a mature woman n i want to belong completely to a man n have him be all mine. If hes w/someone already then i dont want him near me at all n i will block ALL communication. Cuz hes a liar n hes not being honest w/me. Honesty is the best policy for me. No matter what

[@aewtx]

Please do tell us about the twin flame. Your insight is very interesting.

[@amygalvin1799]

73%! No wonder their are so many broken relationships. It’s just magical thinking. You can have many strong in your relationships in your lifetime.

[@perfectlyimperfectmae6137]

"They tend to pick the same kind of partner first cause they're attracted to certain thing or they have values then one little thing goes wrong and they they're like "oh my God I don't wanna waste my time, my soulmate somewhere out there" immediately back up right away trying to search for that perfect person instead of working on or trying to build their relationship organically." I don't want to stay broken. Even I'm attracted to him.

[@orionlynx.7592]

I am a “Destiny believer” but I think I’m starting to become a “Growth believer”. This has been really eye opening, thanks.

[@mrsele9473]

I met a guy 6 yaers ago, we kissed from the first day and we both felt something that we couldnt explain , we weren t a couple but it was that something......... now it s 2 months that he passed away , i miss him so much !! All the first month i was crying and one day a white Boxer came in to my house , i search in fb and i found her owner we talked , and he told me that he has a shop with marble opposite the cemetery , that cemetery !! Of course i kept the dog ! But also some other things happend . I didn t know anything about soulmates , now i believe !!!

[@mushr00mhead97]

I’m sorry for your loss I hope you find someone u love in the future

[@dakotablueskies]

Very mature perspective on how to weather the inevitable bumps we encounter after we find a “soulmate”. I love your work and your presentations, Vanessa. To think there will be a perfect forever fit with someone is setting yourself up for disappointment. Things change and you encounter challenges as life goes on. We have to start with a good “fit” and someone who sounds and smells right. You have to have an attitude of commitment to growth for things to work. I’m an older lady, have been there and look forward to diving back in.

[@JokhanD]

100% true. There are certain people whom my brain/soul doesn't naturally resonate with and certain people that it feels special with

[@loriedington1961]

does a soulmate exist yes but the truth is even in a relationship with a person you think is your soulmate, you dont stop with the relationship because the passion changes, it just,means your relationship may be growing, things cool down which can be good for the relationship and may make your bond with that,person stronger in the long run, it doesnt mean the flame has died just means the relationship grew and your getting to know eachother in different ways

[@juliettemcmonigle3947]

A true soulmate is a possible

[@AquaAngel2101]

Good information 🙏🏻 I am switching from destiny believer to growth believer!! No more soulmate crap 🙄 will compromise and work to improve my next relationship 👍🏻

[@ActivateDivineDNA]

That was the most comforting advice as I believe in twin flames and have that tendency to drop great relationships rather than giving it a chance to grow. ❤️ you Vanessa!

[@MartinNounaRealEstate]

I agree completely because I've experienced a lot of the deal breakers. Everything was "magical" and "perfect" in the beginning and when something went wrong, we then both thought oh hey you know what "maybe this wasn't meant to be" Now I know that's not how I communicate to myself and others in any relationship. Thank you!

[@BellaEstrella7]

I liked her explanation of fundamental values vs things you can try to grow to love or compromise on. Very important.

[@anjalpatel5186]

So positive and powerful! Much needed. 🙌👏

[@intuitive_duck]

I love this! I've been with my honey for 6 years. I immediately thought the second I met him, "he's the one." No doubt about it. He's my soul mate, but that doesn't mean we don't grow together too. We have changed a lot. It's fun for me to grow together even when it's not roses & sunshine. When we get past a rough patch I feel stronger than ever about our relationship. 😊

[@susanluvsrobbyfox]

Omg thats how i felt when i first met my baby!! As soon as we met i knew he was somebody special and was going to be a huge part of my life and i was right!! We have been together goin on 14 yrs and we have been thru alot and have always walked away stronger than ever , we are alot alike but different if that makes sense lol we fell in love and could not stand to be away from each other for more than an hour...we have grown together in these 14 yrs and we have gone thru changes in life together and although our bond did bend it never broke! I believe we are meant for each other and that we are placed in each others lives at the right time but i also believe even though we are meant to be and he is made for me our relationship takes work from both of us ! I feel like god put him in my life when he did for a reason , God makes no mistakes!! I believe everything happens for a reason but we all having free will can and do change our destiny ! Idk abt all the classifications of it all soulmates, twin flames etc i just know what i believe and the overwhelming feelings that to me verify im on the right path in life and mý spirit guide is always there to lead me the right direction whether i listen or not is up to me!

[@cleopetra87]

I believe in finding 'pure love'.. Soul-mates help you on your life's journey and help you grow spiritually and comfort you during hardship.

[@FashionistaDesigner]

Great video Vanessa, thank you!! This is the cure for a lot of things..and the answer to the real dynamics.

[@rohinimalhotra6931]

Americans love and are so impressed by stats

[@levihayden4880]

Rohini Malhotra Pretty much. I was expecting actual science not survey stats

[@rebeccalanegullett2605]

Rohini Malhotra they are afraid to be their authentic selves.

[@Ice.muffin]

+Rebecca Lane Gullett Isn't this the sad truth about pretty much all of our world today and maybe ever?..

[@baileyerinsmith4680]

Americans are generally programmed to be unintelligent so three people can be extremely wealthy and broken inside.

[@sal4538]

@@Ice.muffin no

[@ng-marc]

I love you work Vanessa. Respectfully, I think both types are possible in one relationship. Growth is critical for every healthy relationship, destiny or not. Cheers :)

[@Ice.muffin]

Exactly exactly exactly.

[@esuaflornce8633]

Still searching for a soulmate [phone]

[@Luciwho1]

I love your chats : ) I really enjoyed the "7 hand gestures" too. Thanks for all the insight!

[@pgkpq2769]

I watched this video before..now that I'm in a relationship it makes so much more sense. I am (or have been a total "destiny" believer)... now I realize those little things are NOT deal breakers, and I prefer to grow together. 😌💗 Thank-you.

[@richardnoah9295]

Aww How are you doing

[@marinasmusings1231]

..just because one doesn't believe in soul mates, doesn't mean their relationships aren't magically special. It means they observe reality and enjoy life for its surprises rather than consistently living in anticipation, in fear of dissapointment.

[@brotherrj6000]

That was helpful and brought some clarification.

[@dreamiedips8624]

Excellent presentation, absolutely loved the discussion. There is a huge difference between destiny mindset and growth mindset, and surprisingly huge disaster that comes with destiny mindset. My mom had this destiny mindset of being partner to a guy in her teenage years, but actually that person was not a good man he was only a smooth talker and not a doer. Then later on my mom got arranged marriage with my father, and my father is caring, protective and providing man to my mother, but my mom has emotional affair with that man for so many years, it seems like my mom had destiny mindset to be partner of that jerk and not a growth mindset that even though having a great husband she refuses to see any good qualities in my dad! And the entertainment industry feeds their public the destiny mindset, and even every Disney movie like Snow white, Cinderella, etc etc storyline/plot is based on destiny mindset! Thanks for sharing and uploading this wonderful and beautiful concept, this makes so much sense now. ❤️🌸

[@MorgulDemonVegeta]

Wow.. that is.. such a mind altering change for me! :D Thanks a lot for this info! It 's actually very... deep and valuable!

[@julmarchiani6563]

Watching this video I finally understood what didn't work with my last relationship. Which basically is that I'm in growth mindset and my ex was totally into the destiny mindset. I don't think he knew it though but he totally was

[@cmacneil777]

So interesting. Love your insights. I may not want to admit to some, but I can generally relate to most. Thank you for your work in the "science of people."

[@MagicTango]

well explained! makes sense.

[@Silirion]

That cleared up a lot! Thanks!

[@esuaflornce8633]

Still searching for your soulmate [phone]

[@darleneeaves4882]

I love your videos. Great advice on understanding personalities.

[@shawnwoytowich5418]

Well said, great perspective!

[@jknl222]

This is a very good video. I learned some things that I'm gonna take into future conversations and my relationship. Thanks for the insight.

[@yourbestbeing]

Loved this video! Definitely worth a share. There was a lot of great insight here - particularly because I fall into the "destiny" category and can have a tendency to romanticize/idealize new romantic partnerships. Thanks!

[@Godwin_Anthony10]

Vanessa you have actually been wonderful always,I have learned a lot of things from your videos

[@sakshipriyadubey]

Thank you !!

[@oreoandoz7723]

Interesting interview, and I really enjoy Vanessa's videos, I've watched several and taken notes. The categories on soul mate belief are perhaps too stark, though, I would suggest - many people believe BOTH in a soul mate and in multiple soul mates, as well as growth and development with each. In other words, the GROWTH and DESTINY groups are in no way mutually exclusive.

[@TheIntuitiveActress]

I love all of your videos. I'm a pro intuitive. I believe in soulmates, but your definition of them on this video is very very narrow. The way the energy community tends to look at soulmates isn't even confined to the 'there is one' soulmate idea. Most of us who actually work in the realm of soulmate stuff, work more like the 'growth' camp. Most of us see soulmates as people who come to teach us what we need to know to help us grow for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Just wanted to point out that now all 'soulmate' believers are lumped into the same category. Again, I love your channel. I watch your stuff all the time. You have great presence and energy!

[@1Skorpia]

The Intuitive Actress yasss! finally someone else gets it. soul mates isn't always romantic.

[@TheIntuitiveActress]

Totally. Soul mates are to teach us as well.

[@cherryketket]

I'm not so much into looking for stuff and reading about such things... but I hav experienced the multiple soulmates phenomenon over my life. Some have passed away, some came and went, others are still around. Just so grateful that I could recognize and learn and receive from them. T'is an incredible experience.

[@hulkman129]

The Intuitive Actress u r pretty I think we can b soul mates:)

[@WordDrink]

The Intuitive Actress i agree

[@JonathanLoganPDX]

Great stuff! Fascinating, too!

[@sta9706]

Thanks goodness I've found this. Never realized about this different mindset.

[@michellemcfarland80]

Thank U very much!!! Very helpful!! 👍💗💗💗

[@olgamono851]

Thanks so much! Now, I'm starting to believe in love. You opened my eyes!

[@mamaortiz5058]

I met my soulmate..5 years strong...we have connected on so many levels..he brings me peace.

[@marshacreary2442]

I would imagine that soul mates would have a deep unexplainable compatibility which would develop with a growth mindset as each person evolves

[@jiwonkim5315]

I don’t believe in one soulmate but soulmates exist. I think our actions ultimately determine the outcome of fate but some ppl are definitely meant to meet one another. I met so many amazing ppl who shaped my life because of our encounter. Soulmates don’t have to be romantic - they are simply ppl who share a piece of your soul.

[@evierussell8260]

This is spot on I’m definitely a destiny believer

[@shoibalfetish7431]

I do believe in a soulmate relationship and when you inquired how many of the American people believe in that, you may have have heard me yelled eighty percent and lo how close I'm. But ya know most of us are fickle to relationship and jump to a conclusion without variefying and judging ourselves what actually we need in our lives to be smooth even in rough weathers and these people are really unstable in themselves, they are liable to regret with their present relation and tries to get out desperately but most of the times they have to regret again for the same mistake. All the same I'm a strong believer and enjoyed enormously the video. Thank you.

[@tdrkl1]

Very good information!

[@serafinaobi]

thank you vanessa! i will try to be more of a growth person

[@yogawithbelle]

I believe in soulmates! I believe that there are multiple soulmates not just one. Love your videos!

[@ryangenereaux1922]

Grest video. I believe that there are optimally complimentary relationships, where core goals and values are mutually encouraged, supported and evolved.

[@edithjacob5115]

Great advice!

[@BrittAnarVlogs]

Wow she actually just opened my eyes a bit. I needed that.

[@richardnoah9295]

Aww, how are you

[@michaelsalvador7842]

Always inspiring

[@MikeKollin]

I Love the idea of Destiny mindset and Growth Believers and how they asses relationships.

[@cheryllesley7906]

Bull! I believe in soul mates, but I believe in growth as well. I was married 17 years to my soul mate and the we grew together beautifully each year. He developed cancer and died after 17 years. I still feel that I have not lost him as I can still feel him within my soul. I also believe I will see him again one day.

[@yoyoli4138]

Very good stuff, Vanessa.

[@ayusmanarya3796]

Loved it ❤️

[@abreckenridge3001]

i learned so much from this one video

[@Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

I had a lady who resisted compromise. I wanted the compromise because I loved her. She left. This explains a lot I think. This says that I am a growth believer. I think life is too short to be picky. Just go for it! I also think that having fundamental values limit my choices of life. In fact, my early fundamental values DID limit my choices of life.

[@aprilmaeveso1969]

Well said

[@perlachua9638]

As they say people come in our life for a reason and for a season. Growth is the flow of life.There is nothing wrong in having value system( if it is right).True principles in life give us stability and character make us real human beings.We should walk towards our destiny- if others do not want to walk together with us, they have freedom of choice but for ourself- choose yourself first and be your own True Friend.

[@ashleighpaige6221]

I believe we're destined to meet specific people. However we have a choice in the matter and don't have one specific soulmate and my choice is always growth based, I won't rush into things just because I believe in destiny (or give up easily either.)

[@matcha.cinnamon]

1:17 who hurt you 💀

[@Feed-My-Mind-Not-My-Ego]

😂

[@abduljabbarmohammed4188]

soul mate do exist.There is a particular person in life once you meet you will find that you click and share so many similarities.Once you meet him or her you will definitely notice he or she is the one.There is always a strong chemistry between the two of you

[@krlzyfeyar8934]

abduljabbar mohammed

[@doobdoob2]

abduljabbar mohammed I lost my soulmate

[@MsBlingP]

I have experienced this however we just dated nothing materialized and became solid...so now what?

[@uberbabe585]

Yeah, keep dreaming

[@RottenDoctorGonzo]

Pre-destined though? That's what some people believe. I am not one of them. Connection is one thing. Pre-destined romance partner? F*** off.

[@lexiallfrey2411]

Obviously if you’ve been divorced several times you haven’t met your soulmate 😂

[@ainsleyemma878]

EXACTLY THANK YOU

[@davejones6863]

😂😂that lady is saltyyyy. Poor thing 😂

[@NehaYadav-rk2yz]

yeah I loved this video ☺ such a leader woman u r definitely u r inspiring me to do great work INSIDE OUT

[@shaktimajumdar3058]

yes I like the way you explain ! I have kept it in my tweet :-)

[@robinkarvonen8557]

Yes I truly enjoyed watching all these videos, good points for personal growth.

[@nelika88]

Beautiful explenation ❤

[@Ricky-ke5qc]

4:34~4:48 very true very important. It's not that you found a soulmate and then everything's perfect. Instead, it is you found a person who shows he or she happens to have the same fundamental values like you(through their actions not words), and then you both decide you'll stay together, and then other little things you both are very willing to put into work to work it out. But that should be easy, not that difficult or cost you all your energy. And if it's unfortunately this way, it's because your fundamental values don't match, that you need to work so hard and still can't seem to work. And you need to simply give up and find someone else, that's not your "soulmate".

[@SIETETIZ]

3:55 I agree, "that's the biggest mindshit"

[@andyw8673]

If you're not a spiritual person you don't really get the concept. A soulmate is a lesson in the universe. A soulmate can be a pet, a sibling and best friend. A twin flame is the other half of your soul which is hard because you're faced with the all your behaviors. Good and bad. If you want love and support in a partner. You need to ask the universe for a life partner.. this is psychology based on people who really don't get what's actually going on this world..

[@sofijadaudoraviciute3931]

awesome stuff.

[@LHTA]

I believe in love. And people's messing up their feelings of like and love. One have only one soulmate and only one time love which will never break whether you meet or not or die. It is a spiritual Bond between only two people throughout life and death and all times. Sometimes you might break up and think i loved someone and broke up then i love again. You never love twice. But you may crush on or like. And you misunderstand that like as love. You may or may not find your soulmate in life and you may not even know if he/she is your soulmate even being with them but the spiritual bond and love remains alive with you all the time😊

[@shantelelewellen2788]

I believe my husband is my soulmate. Just gravitated toward each other since we were 14. We also grow together and only been in love with each other for 14 years now. It just goes both ways. We make mistakes and have to work through a lot, but the connection is powerful. Not passion, but compassion. Yes, we did choose each other, but it also feels deeper than the description you gave “Destiny People.” So you can’t be realistic, believe in growth, and compromise with your soulmate?

[@lorlor8323]

I used to belive in soul mates but now I think it's important to grow as well but more of a organic grower now and I'm 18 now I kinda grew up fast in some senses but I like the break down on this 💜

[@clicclactothebang2640]

I think i found my soulmate! I met him 1 week ago, we talked every day and i am already in love!! We are the same and it's even a bit freaky!

[@Lady_Angela1]

So how did that work out??

[@susanluvsrobbyfox]

Yea how did it work out?? Is he your soulmate??

[@electramoseley883]

We value the little things!

[@annanicholson5309]

I like the videos I have seen of yours so far