The Science of the Friend Zone

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Can guys and girls just be friends? VIDEO: bit.ly/UO8R4H
Jenna Marbles on "nice guys" [NSFW language]: bit.ly/UOdpIa
FRIENDS episode about the Friend's zone: www.imdb.com/title/tt0583579/
Clip of friend zone moment on FRIENDS: bit.ly/10iUITd
Know Your Meme on the friend zone: knowyourmeme.com/photos/241341...
Limerence: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence
Bateman's Principle: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bateman'...
Assortative mating: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assortat...
Homogamy: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homogamy...)
Marshall Fine description of the friend zone: www.huffingtonpost.com/marshal...
Scarcity principle and attraction: www.psychologytoday.com/blog/t...
Escaping the friend zone (includes Ben Franklin effect): www.psychologytoday.com/blog/t...
Good article on other reasons we desire what we can't have: arabia.msn.com/lifestyle/valen...
BOWLING ALONE book: bowlingalone.com/
Sad article about friendship decline: usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/n...
Cyberbalkanization: www.wisegeek.com/what-is-cyber...

[@patrickbatman1908]

Wife: I'm leaving you. Vsauce: *OR ARE YOU?*

[@h3llboyyy407]

lmao why am I imagining a psycho serial killer vsauce now?

[@rohilkuhad8277]

Vsauce music intensifies

[@thecube844]

*Wife Orgasm

[@fakefirstnamefakelastname8305]

nebulaCHRIS Wife: Oh dear

[@notyourbilly3609]

*Grabs the baseball bat*

[@TheJordanChronicles]

I forgot where I heard it, but the funniest thing I ever heard was a guy saying, "Dude, I'm so deep in the friendzone that I've met her boyfriend's parents."

[@LicoriceLain]

Little Oven I have preferences (as a lady person) and I don't have that much trouble. Just don't get too caught up on one individual.

[@kudacg1389]

hahahahahahaha

[@alphajnitro0072]

+LicoriceLain a lot of people frown upon leaving the friendship. a lot people assume that if the dude leaves he was just in it for sex/romance. Also some say "if you really like her then you would be happy that she is happy with someone even if it isn't you."

[@dimitrispantazopoulos378]

Oh god that poor guy

[@INTJ92]

So deep Adele is still rolling in it

[@comedyclosure4144]

Crush: No, we're just friends. [V-Sauce music kicks in] **Or are we?**

[@grudeasnaots210]

Welcome to fact or cap

[@pistooki7774]

Bruh this got me laughing

[@starlight7866]

Lmao

[@isabellach]

Crush be ready to question literally everything you ever though before

[@zigzag8338]

*pulls out knife* "Or are we?"

[@tommasobanfi8133]

came here to know how to escape friendzone and got a lesson on how important friendship is

[@redrosin99]

Women friendzoning men is an abusive behaviour. If that's your concept of friendship, seek therapy.

[@tommasobanfi8133]

@@redrosin99 🤓☝️

[@apcebat]

​@@redrosin99wtf therapy? Just leave her and that's all

[@cantthinkofaname5046]

@@redrosin99a therapist would tell you thinking women owe you any type of romantic relationship when they don’t feel the same way is deluded and selfish. If you can’t handle rejection to the point where you need to lie about what healthy is, YOU need therapy

[@techoutsider5631]

@@redrosin99and trying to force a romantic relationship isn’t?

[@Ray-jg5dj]

"The Science of the Friend Zone" - Vsauce *recommended for you*

[@JohnSmith-wz9cx]

Ray it hurts...

[@amyanmarcitizen7030]

@@JohnSmith-wz9cx yup

[@real_mushroom_hunter]

Wow thanks youtube

[@ARandomOven]

Bro same

[@schatzi333221]

oof

[@hastley64]

"how did you guys get married?" "yeah he used the Ben Franklin effect on me"

[@Yuti640]

But should you use the Ben Franklin effect?

[@milkbread5036]

looool

[@ahmadsaleem9384]

or did he?

[@coremanishmehta]

Scarcity effect didn't work😂

[@CozmikOra]

Hahaha

[@shresthaditya9731]

1:08-Limberance 1:50-Batemen Principle 3:28-Homogamy 4:14-Unobtainable 4:45-Scarcity principle 5:08-Ben Franklin 5:58-Robert Putnam Social Media is less about conversation and more about being stage 8:15-Cyberbalkanisation

[@dusted_mello]

helped, thanks

[@mr.schnitzel4654]

Limerence*

[@heatherperleberg7816]

"Bateman's Principle" Uh oh "Named after Angus Bateman" Hoo boy, dodged a bullet there.

[@strelokand7306]

I need to return some videotapes.

[@Tiernan422]

Michael as a kid Girl: I just wanna be friends Michael: well actually...

[@smradztoiek]

Michael Myers?

[@coneac1]

@@smradztoiek what the fuck is wrong with you

[@UtubeAccount84]

Michael Jackson

[@p7outdoors297]

@@smradztoiek Do you know who the heck Vsauce is? Michael Stevens

[@smradztoiek]

@@p7outdoors297: Yes, it was a joke. Do you know who Michael Myers is?

[@michaelcutler5538]

Science of the friend zone: She's not into you bro.

[@yudodis7475]

Mi Cu 😂👌👌👌👍👍

[@morganharper3459]

Mi Cu rip

[@espresso3550]

Mi Cu 😂🔥

[@adventureguy4119]

why tho?

[@androidedoidao]

This

[@_Infocars]

The fact that you presented this 9 years ago & this holds very true in 2022

[@fivemagics18]

Why wouldn’t it?

[@kopiro]

It’s incredible how Vsauce videos from 9 years ago still looks like 2022 videos; the quality of the video and the density of the content aged very well.

[@catchyname58]

Yeah, when he shows other people videos like jenna marbles, there is a huge contrast which feels like as if he is mentioning past

[@AquaSkye]

why does all vsauce videos look like they were made in 2018 even if it was actually made in 2012 or 2013? like damn, that quality

[@sladechan368]

Cause he's smart. Or, is he?

[@isaacandersen1]

He has been doing this for a while so hid equipment is top of the line so he doesn’t need to upgrade.

[@Monika-nu4ie]

Time travel. Or is it....?

[@brandonjennen3673]

Slade chan *music starts

[@kokonut373]

How does jurassic world 1 better than this

[@clasby2378]

Michael’s son in the future asking for relationship advice: Michael: ah yes, but first, what exactly IS a relationship?

[@Jupiter_Claw]

He has a daughter

[@mightyc3313]

varun mahankali and a son

[@6telephone]

cue the music

[@miraeja]

@@6telephone this comment is underrated

[@6telephone]

@@miraeja ikr

[@kierenmoore3236]

Wow, I actually feel pretty great now about being friend-zoned … Thank you, Vsauce, for stretching my self-delusion to even greater heights.

[@godnyx117]

Hahahahaha! At least you are cool enough to have fun. In contrast to all these people who want to keep their delusion and even pass it to others. Good luck man!

[@kierenmoore3236]

@@godnyx117 “You can use your illusion, Let it take you where it may; You live n learn, and then, sometimes, It’s best to walk a-way …” (Before you become Mayor of Friendzone Town)

[@kayskreed]

Seems to be a euphemism for unrequited love or general incompatibility. The tricky thing is that it cannot progress if it's one sided, or if only one person is sexually attracted and not the other. So it's fairly common, but it shouldn't be viewed as the end of the world. Even in the most stable of long term romantic bonds, friendship represents the foundation. I think part of the solution is that we have to start valuing friendships again.

[@brucenadeau2172]

but it is not real friendship the friend zone is a place they put a guy so they can use the guy he bad guy if want to leave because he respect the woman that does not want or he is a creep for trying to get more then she want to give him

[@bnhalemon7098]

@@brucenadeau2172had a stroke?

[@bnhalemon7098]

Another major problem is that people, guys especially, either believe that a relationship should happen when sexual attraction is present, *or* they confuse sexual attraction with a romantic one. People who are sexually attracted to each other can be, and often are friends

[@vx8093]

when you can't afford a therapist

[@dantesalvaggio9732]

true

[@bringbackmemesineurope1576]

LOL

[@Javi-ok7kt]

when you think you need one.

[@xtank5555]

Feels bad man

[@owenf2835]

@@dennischritskou3631 lmao

[@rougenarwhal8378]

"video title* reccomended for you gonna need some ice for that burn

[@jim4671]

Mr. Narwhal, I feel Sorry for you, BUT THAT WAS HILARIOUS! XD

[@kevindevos4698]

Your comment made my day!

[@MeinDeinSeinCraft]

Same here FeelsBadMan

[@Creeamie]

it's OK same here bruh 😁

[@theromanpenguin1051]

xD

[@Monipm54]

Vsauce: makes a video about beds Vsauce at the end of the video: "And that is how nuclear fusion is created"

[@zedankhan6123]

"The Science Of The Friend Zone" Me : You know , I am something of a scientist myself

[@schlaemzas]

Girl: I like you.. but as a friend. I'm sorry.. Guy: Am i getting friendzoned? Girl: Umm yes... i think so.. Michael: *OR AM I?* **Vsauce music plays**

[@TheYoungSeth]

Hey Girl, Michael here

[@miguelchacon2717]

Or are you*

[@restiaashdoll6179]

@@miguelchacon2717 r/wooooooosh

[@adrian71807]

@@restiaashdoll6179 r/itswooooshwith4os r/ihavereddit

[@patatos879]

It's 666 so i liked it

[@fxscorpio2458]

me with some friends at a party : wow that girl is hot af Vsauce : *Or is she? And what is even beauty?* _(starts talking about quantum physics)_

[@aguy7726]

Stefan Iliev 😂

[@tay-tay-tay-tay4314]

Vsauce: How many men a day spend time in the comments of my video telling strangers they go to parties and objectify women? Hmm...

[@neuroticallyghast6313]

Surfs Up Tay how is that objectifying?

[@iLiokardo]

Yes.

[@chamibrosnetwork7043]

OMG 666 likes

[@dontreadmyname5165]

Vsauce’s girlfriend: We're breaking up. Vsauce: *Or are we?*

[@bitonic589]

Lmfao

[@millerrepin4452]

I really like that recontextualization at the end. Where friend zone isn't a knock down but instead an outside 3rd party that can give you insight on yourself. This can give step ahead of finding a mate as you may finally realize who is really compatible with you rather than who think is.

[@AveRay_]

a very rare phenomenon- A vsauce video where he actually stays within 10% of the actual topic

[@funnylazychannel]

very rare

[@zynischekartoffel3779]

there is only one in which he stays on topic for the entire time prime numbers for 3 hours

[@buoghuoj]

Maybe michael was friend zoned

[@drgeorgek]

You can tell he’s definitely speaking from experience ... especially the “nice guys finish last” comment

[@jamyjansen5614]

exactly

[@MinimiMax]

But.... what about the "brother zone" where they tell you "you're like a brother to me"?

[@morgancarr9037]

I get that all the time

[@wolfmiawolf]

+MinimiMax i get "your like a sister to me"

[@MinimiMax]

Clau007 That's fucked up, dude.

[@clarenceconstantino5237]

well thats even worse than the friend zone... good luck bout getting outta that bruh

[@BlakeSOTC]

+Clau007 A1 comment sir. April can not get here soon enough

[@FahradPraktikant6969]

so crazy that it doesnt feel like this video is over 10 years old

[@americaandrussia9688]

True

[@JayFlowie]

I can't believe this was made 9 years ago. The last 2 minutes feel eerily current more than ever.

[@Josue-kr1jv]

The last thing I need is a scientific explanation as to why I can't get a girl goddamnit

[@seanp4644]

Yeah... Watching this probably isn't a good idea

[@mikkow54321]

+Reps ForJesus Get outside more and talk to people. Keep moving.

[@TheSamttatze]

+Reps ForJesus then i guess you dont want to change something about it. which is great if that makes you happy. rock on ;)

[@Josue-kr1jv]

it was a slightly true comment but mainly said it to try and be funny. im doing better. just being friendly and outgoing can do a lot. im talking to a girl right now that may or may not go somewhere but its progress.

[@ashtonsmith1252]

+Reps ForJesus or you might just get friendzoned

[@robertlewandowski3973]

Who tf friendzoned my guy Vsauce???

[@mohamadalsawafi6017]

No one. He is a scientist. #ISSAJOB

[@DantesInferno96]

Lol he has a wife.

[@geo-lite69]

My sister

[@robertlewandowski3973]

Mohamad Alsawafi no shit sherlock I was joking

[@SGTemerario]

@@robertlewandowski3973 wife friendzoned him?

[@loonitick]

being recommended this video on valentines is incredible. thanks youtube

[@mintyhippo8125]

Naming something the friendzone is so sad because it diminishes the value of friendship. Platonic love is still very valuable and fulfilling. Plus, you can’t date everyone. If you start viewing all of your relationships as “what value can I add to their life, and what value can they add to mine?” Instead of, “why don’t they like me?” Then you start seeing life more as passive positive experiences less that the labels matter. What can you do to make your situation better? And, part of that is understanding your boundaries. People can’t be available 24/7 and you can’t be either, etc. it’s much better to have a friend or partner who is honest with things like that, too. A true loving relationship is balanced between what each person can contribute.

[@jrdan2628]

i don't think the problem is being "friend zoned" the one time lol, it comes from the consistent act of it, not to mention holding the bonds one already has with their friends.

[@dopamineinaformofashort]

Men have already friendships and it's witg other men. We see women as mates not friends.

[@niranjanrajesh1058]

You went so deep on this even though there was no reason to. Seems like you just wanted to write an essay. I already have friends. I want a girl to be even greater than a friend,someone i can confide in,talk about everything to,be one with. And if they then make me just a friend,its coz they are doing it as a last resort. Its an insult basically

[@mintyhippo8125]

@@niranjanrajesh1058 you confide and trust friends, though.

[@DajuSar]

@@niranjanrajesh1058 so they either go out with you or they are being rude? wtf haha

[@chester0104]

How to get a friend: 1. Tell a girl you like her 2. She tells you that we can only be friends Bammm You got a friend!

[@Jojo-sh7xp]

Instructions unclear theres a miniature human thingy that's been walking around in my house im scared help!!

[@Cat-ki3hy]

@@Jojo-sh7xp rip, gotta shoot it with a gun I guess *THIS IS AMERICA*

[@FranciumBoron]

@@Cat-ki3hy 'Murica!

[@user-su6js9po4l]

oh yeah its big brain time

[@neoncosmo.garden]

@@Jojo-sh7xp hol up

[@michasbagietka8281]

"I'm Coyote Peterson and I'm about to enter the friend zone"

[@vbuszko]

Miguel La Baguette 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂

[@jamesplatt6738]

Lmao this is underrated

[@dimitripapadinikolaus]

*Starts screaming*

[@cerve6853]

hahaha

[@itrains1841]

*Insert Dora theme song**

[@happygolucky9004]

Friend zone is pretty easy to understand. The person likes to be around you but for some reason isn't attracted to you. That could be physically, lifestyle, some other fundamental incompatibility. So it's not something you are put into. That person offers you friendship and it's your decision to take it or leave it. The only person who puts you in the friend zone is you.

[@seanking6184]

Bingo, if you don’t like it don’t stick around 👍

[@_--Reaper--_]

Yeah but its more insulting to a guy who has genuine feelings for a girl because whenever she eventually finds a bf he's just gonna have to sit and watch them make love from the side lines, knowing she's getting her back blown out. It's like a form of cuckoldry, it's better for his own mental state to let him go and not put him through that if she really cares about him. And the guy she chooses alot of the times treats her badly so eventually she's gets her heat broken and comes running back to mr friendzone guy but will never give him a chance. Thats like if a girl really likes a guy and they have so much fun togther and she really enjoys his company, he gives her butterflies in her stomach and she really loves him and she cooks and cleans for him, yet he ignores all that and goes to be with some trashy bimbo slut who treats him like crap, then complains about it all the time but then tells this female friend, she's so special any man would be lucky to have her yet, he would never do it and they can only be friends while he only goes after trashy women then keeps complaining about. Sounds kinda stupid doesn't it?

[@_--Reaper--_]

@@panthornberry do you even know what you're talking about? No one said they shouldnt have the ability to say no 🤡 The op was insinuating that it is some how a good thing to be friends with a guy thats romantically interested in her

[@_--Reaper--_]

@@panthornberry bruh🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ (reading comprehsion is needed) Thats not what it's talking about... or atleast that not what _I'm_ talking about here

[@_--Reaper--_]

@@panthornberry i didnt delete anything lmao

[@shivanshsinha426]

Micheal on his marrige- The priest: Do you agree with this marriage Micheal: I do......or do I?

[@nox1633]

Ok so this is recommended to me on Valentine's day *Perfect*

[@virajkaushik3440]

r wooosh baiter or was it?(Vsauce music intensifies)

[@fps9920]

F

[@unumwetwetwe]

Sad pepe noises

[@SF-hc4tb]

Love it

[@kaushikshettigar1631]

F

[@jacobpeterman2046]

When Vsause overthinks why he's in the friendzone

[@jacobreed8753]

I can't stop laughing

[@sebanovonpiano6793]

xD

[@linel2130]

rip

[@BrainiacN5]

Intelligence is attractive to some people just as fame is. He's got both. What about you?

[@ilyasssaadi9594]

+BrainiacN5 Well said brainiac

[@aleksmeister92]

Put this on my watch later list 12 years ago. Feel like it's time to watch it

[@PRubin-rh4sr]

I am back, I watched this 6 years ago. I fell in love, we dated twice just last year but ultimately it's the friendzone for me, time to rewatch.

[@bradymassimiliano888]

the "friend zone" more like palcatraz.

[@TheRedstoneTaco]

True. So true.

[@radiocontrolled3958]

my soul.............. and the official definition of my dating life

[@attekayhty7584]

pretty much... both are just pure ass

[@ameliacrossley8485]

I found the one tru friend

[@SimbaBrank23]

"Palcatraz"...coining it...

[@GoldenTV3]

So Harvard university recently published a new way to get out of the friendzone Step 1: Be attractive

[@nickjohn2051]

What the journal dumbass?

[@liquidpebbles7475]

Is this what you tell yourself to justify your lack of girlfriends?

[@ScarletEdge]

shallow, you get fans not friends this way

[@rubysauce]

Explains it to a certain extend, since attractive people will get chosen instead of brushed aside, no matter how incompatible they might be. The relationship won't last, but attractive people are much less likely to be friendzoned I'd imagine

[@papychull]

Shit... Already failed

[@soeungseyha3820]

On 6:52 2013: we're also now spending time on this new thing called the Internet. Now : Tiktok takes over the humanity.

[@NoodlesUniverse]

There will always be vsauce videos I haven’t seen yet

[@sophiedufresne7459]

You know it's bad when you turn to Michael Stevens for relationship advice

[@Rockytubes123]

Too much panic! Not enough disco why you so LOUD!?!😭

[@sophiedufresne7459]

Cheesey McCheese 😖 I'm sorry!!

[@primerprime596]

You kidding? Michael is the best at this! I'd turn to him even if I wasn't desperate.

[@sophiedufresne7459]

Primerprime 5 😂😂 I mean yeah, he is pretty good at understanding things us plebs don't and the first time I watched this video I was binge watching vsauce videos, so I was just desperate for vsauce knowledge tbh 😂 but fast forward like 3 years and now it's back in my recommended... yt's really tryna tell me something eh 🤔

[@false7095]

Lmao that shits funny

[@monarchblue4280]

It's safe to say that Micheal has transcended relationships.

[@felipebrunetta2106]

Underrated comment right here bous

[@paciasus]

But what does SAFE means?

[@Chaloonoupada]

Or has he?

[@shajialamusmani3105]

@@Chaloonoupada you copied my comment by 1 month

[@MichaelMcNay]

atm he's happily married and has a child

[@Delos_Shoe]

His videos really ARE timeless, amazing!

[@NutheadComedy]

Its for some reason so satisfying to hear "or, is it?" And then the iconic vsauce music

[@sangria-margarita]

1:45 “Batman’s Pineapple” I need to go to bed

[@samridhsharma416]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@rayasky9621]

thank you, this made me laugh :,)

[@sadhna7865]

Your hearing power is hilarious. It's a compliment.

[@myalt3019]

Did you go to bed yet?

[@ariz0naheat622]

Same

[@nathaniellancaster2]

Birth control effectiveness: Condoms: 97% Birth control pills: 98% Talking about physics on parties: 100%

[@gido230]

🤣🤣

[@maximilianthomas3006]

If a hot guy talked about physics at a party, the girls would be all over him, take the black pill my friend and enjoy it.

[@nathaniellancaster2]

@@maximilianthomas3006 well some people chill on parties and try to forget about school. But in most *cases* you decrease the probability of getting your chances with a girl.

[@siyacer]

@@nathaniellancaster2 not true, if anything, depending on the type of people there, it increases the chances.

[@frankop3857]

No joke,at university it really does work

[@peteremmanuelkitsamba4867]

love the ending: perhaps the friendzone is where we need you most....😂😂😂😂

[@sabinamakubo926]

yeah, imma gonna use it to anyone who's in my friend zone

[@Kritikanbringer]

​@@sabinamakubo926Either you are joking or you are just a terrible person without any empathy.

[@sabinamakubo926]

@@Kritikanbringer like seriously 🙄

[@sabinamakubo926]

@@Kritikanbringer like seriously 🙄

[@Kritikanbringer]

@@sabinamakubo926 It seems you don't have any empathy. But you're a woman, you're just incapable of empathising in this case.

[@arealhumanbeing4651]

Watching all that older youtube content...feels so vintage. And makes me feel so old...

[@randomsquidproductions4061]

Use the Ben Franklin effect *strolls into room wearing wig* ladies ;)

[@asherlewis5974]

tried it. worked pretty well

[@wolverine9632]

Hundred dollar bills work well, too

[@Spear_of_the_Raven_Ash]

You forgot that he asks them to do him a favor... "Ladies, my garter has become loose, would any of you care to tighten it for me?" At the very moment his garter has been tightened, he farts and cuts the cheesy tension...

[@edoardopulcini9432]

M'lady

[@jacobhise8044]

**gets killed by a lightning bolt while flying a kite with a key on it during a storm** **omg Rebecca no he’s mine**

[@bnhdeluxe]

Doctor: you’re in the hospital, Michael. Michael: *oR aM i?* Doctor: yes...yes you are.

[@fakefirstnamefakelastname8305]

BNH DELUXE Michael: So first, we have to understand the meaning of “hospital”, and what it actually means to be in a hospital. *Starts talking about quantum physics and questioning the universe as a whole*

[@MultiWBN]

But Are we ever REALLY in a hospital?

[@benparsons7480]

MultiWBN or maybe, is the hospital IN US?

[@heinzdoofenshmirtz6818]

Doctor: the mental hospital

[@alexeysaranchev6118]

But what IS a hospital? You see, a hospital is a place, designated to cure the ill, but who decides the designation? Back in 1679 the famous British doctor...

[@MasterCuddless]

why is this recommended to me on valentines day? 😭

[@Piccolo_core]

This video is more helpful than any video on relationships I've ever seen, and this one just randomly showed up in my recommended. It's a gift from God.

[@GooseMcBruce]

But Papa Franku said there's no such thing as the Friendzone and that im just fat and gay

[@mattesses70]

Goose McBruce PAPA FRANKU SHUT DOWN SHUTTUP

[@NikK0las]

Goose McBruce nonono, your mom gay and fat, you are just a fucking goose

[@afnanalnajar9196]

Haha very funny.. but sad

[@en2336]

He's right. Not necessarily about you but the friend zone is a toxic idea that doesn't exist and more people should research it before latching onto it as an excuse for their shortcomings or lack of communication.

[@volatile5460]

Goose McBruce Yeah, that too.

[@lilywalatahersweet21]

Did Michael just spoil the whole plot of Friends?

[@theman1860]

All 10 seasons were out for a while. You should have finished it!

[@lilywalatahersweet21]

I finished Friends way before watching this. But that's not what this is about. Not all people have seen all things. No one was born having watched Friends. I hate people like you who say 'well it's out so doesn't matter if you're spoiled, your fault'. And then there's the improper grammar...

[@GarlicGoat]

I haven’t yet...

[@MrMalformedllama]

Who gives a fuck, if you think him saying Ross getting Rachael is a spoiler you my friend need some new hobbies

[@SimoneAF1]

Taher Lilywala come on

[@batterysandwich5348]

i never got why being in the friendzone was made out to be worse than never seeing the other person again. every romantic relationship ends in either breaking up or dying, and if in your culture you tend to have only 1 romantic partner at a time, then every single one of your relationships apart from one (if you are the first to die in a couple, or they die and you don't date again) ends in breaking up. Can't say that about friendship!

[@polyforge3d]

Yes, but the friendzone is worse because you suffer throughout that friendship, for the reason that you can't have what you love, or worse - you see that person loving someone else.

[@dopamineinaformofashort]

Friendship is great if that's what you want. But if you want more and can't have it; not so great. So leaving the person is ideal.

[@khangalb.5187]

6:10 2020: *Drops to Zero*

[@vikipetrovic5381]

"wish I had a guy like this" "Sup" "Ew no" "I'm literally the guy in the pic, or am I?"

[@agavini1]

I get it

[@Yuti640]

*VSause music plays*

[@cashewhobbiticus8644]

Bilo kuda, balkan svuda

[@Alberto-zh5yf]

Nice one

[@ellie-qt4bo]

You see, pictures are just a...

[@riley1c218]

Everyone else: is sad about being friend zoned Me who usually has no friends: it is... acceptable

[@soughtthrone1325]

I'll be your friend :)

[@alper8441]

Dumb

[@shanks9874]

Wow we kinda same I want to have experience like going with a group of friends to some place someday , or I'll go alone probably 😂

[@shh4582]

I don't need friends :')

[@MrWeebs-gc2jj]

Wanna play valorant?

[@claysanimation2674]

So this is how my grandpa has so many friends

[@ryanduffy5301]

Michael has always been so good at explaining things even a genius can understand.

[@llibrehpic6886]

This guy could literally tell me about mud for 15 hours and I'd still be entertained

[@Spammard]

“But when you really think about it, what *is* mud?”

[@boogleballs6934]

@@Spammard Does mud even exist?

[@shh4582]

@@boogleballs6934 Maybe not?

[@slowrunn3r88]

“Mud is so boring, it’s just mud…. Or is it? You see, mud comes water mixing with dirt. And little bacteria inside that mud….” “…..which is why, fossils solidify…” “….so therefore, dinosaurs went extinct, except for birds. And as always, thanks for watching”

[@eitan1434]

well, he has a 40 min long video about do chairs exist so knock yourself out

[@Tipen]

He said gay as soon as I took a bite of my banana lmao

[@captaincal6447]

eating banana is gay tho

[@sdsd8122]

Do people really thing eating bananas is gay??😂😂

[@mg-tn2ch]

I'm not liking cuz it has 69 likes

[@darkspd31]

YOU'RE GAY

[@DeepakSharma-rb1gd]

Assuming Gender😂😂😂😂😂

[@annache250]

One thing I find concerning/funny about my experiences on dating apps is that I’m not interested in making friends because I tell myself “I don’t want any friends,” but deep down inside I know I need them.

[@gentleman7476]

Good times, friends are hard anyway

[@matthewhanks7169]

Love the expectation flip at the end. Thanks Michael

[@even42]

Its hard to be hard to get when you are hard to want

[@kahlil2638]

Eivalan lmfao

[@black990ops]

Ffs I loled and woke everybody up lmao

[@sashacarter4251]

Meee

[@Brody1312]

Eivalan had to take like 10 min to think about that

[@goxr3plus_studio]

Eivalan MA Nigga this is so good to read and so deadly to think.

[@shadabhussain841]

it was in my recommended section....youtube understands me better.

[@twinkiesmaster69]

Shadab Hussain cool

[@whooocares2684]

Shadab Hussain oh hell yeah

[@aarohgokhale8832]

Now let's see Paul Allen's principle

[@EnzoHB]

Oh my god. 8 years later and yet so up to date

[@alexanderkutsik9140]

Friend: "Is that your maid?" Me: "No, it's my wife" Friend: "But why is she doing everything?" Me: " *THE BEN FRANKLIN EFFECT* "

[@user-fq4hj8yv2z]

...what?

[@vankyer758]

Lmao

[@Julie-ox1ez]

*it’s*

[@monke6122]

What the dog doing

[@Spiggle25]

Ben Franklin, sigma male

[@yuta.0K]

Me: "would you like to be my friend" Girl: "sorry I only see you as a boyfriend.... wait" Me: Task failed, successfully

[@agenericusername2488]

You: *No tagbacks*

[@simsonchin]

I'm sorry, but this does NOT happen.

[@zynel413]

@@simsonchin wow who would've guessed.

[@TactfulWaggle]

@@simsonchin you're like that one nerdy kid that tells other kids that the "no yes no yes no yes yes no" doesn't happen

[@simsonchin]

@@TactfulWaggle wdym?

[@nape6625]

Jesus Christ, a Vsauce video fully on topic, very coherent and informative. Thank you Michael!

[@zackieboi]

out of all vsauce videos, this one applies to me the most

[@zackieboi]

you'd think i'd know a lot more about it, living in atleast 5 of them at a time

[@WhyAreYouGhe]

This man made the Friend Zone seem like a good thing....someone give him a prize FFS.

[@oscarthagrouch]

it is a good thing 😈😏

[@rebekahmikaelson1198]

it _is_ a good thing. who doesnt want new friends??? EDIT: in general, the friendzone is a sexist concept. if you become friends with someone bc you want them to have sex with you, that's manipulative. the friendzone puts the blame on the woman for the man's feelings. like no, you're responsible for your own feelings for someone and they dont owe you shit for liking them. women arent a vending machine where you give friendship and they give you sex. the kinds of people who complain abt the friendzone just dont see women as people. if you're genuinely friends and then you fall for someone, thats fine. you can go a couple different routes: you can keep your feelings quiet, or you can confess. both are valid. personally, i wouldnt want to risk the friendship, but to each their own. if you keep quiet about it, then you continue being their friend and that's it. if you confess and get rejected, then again, that's it. you're rejected. you can continue your friendship like before (but slightly more awkward now, probably). or you could decide that you need a break from your friendship to get over them. sometimes its just too painful to be around them but not _with_ them, so you can end the friendship. that's a valid option too. but the key here is that 1) you didnt enter the friendship in order to manipulate them into a relationship, and 2) you dont put the blame on them for not returning your feelings. its not your fault you fell for them, but its your feelings that ultimately ended the friendship. which isnt a bad thing, necessarily, but its important to acknowledge that its not their fault.

[@ponternal]

It is a good thing if you wanna emotionally support a girl you like while she gets smoked out by other dudes

[@Broxalax]

@@ponternal just because she doesn't want to fuck you, doesn't mean the friendzone is bad. She is never going to fuck you, either be friends or fuck off. She doesn't owe you anything you fuck head

[@ponternal]

@@Broxalax I agree with you im just saying that you dont owe her anything either. It is much better to move on from a girl you like than to be her "friend" and orbit her.

[@EdrianLP]

This is in my recommended on valentine's day, are u serious ?

[@fandyus4125]

Hilarious.

[@nikoolay]

Oh snap

[@whooocares2684]

Tasty give your heart a good ol rub my brother

[@alexspace4269]

Happy Friendzone, friends! XD

[@SpressieAvi]

Tasty xD

[@daddyeastman222]

bro, the start of this video is a jumpscare ong, i was NOT ready for that

[@gud3742]

You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.

[@kuroshiroOwO]

Is it my imagination or did he actually stay on topic this time.

[@meemstermcgee5405]

lol

[@DreamerTrain]

Well he kind of did when we went on to discuss the social statistics of how much time people spend with friends. The topic I would've thought was attraction (or lack thereof)

[@215dagby]

I'm surprised he didn't start talking out outer space in the middle.

[@KamranYounis1]

I like how he goes and talk about other stuff.

[@DreamerTrain]

But yeah he did actually not stay on topic there

[@pppppaaaaaccccchhh]

Don't you ever stop half way through a video and wonder, "what's this video about again?"

[@dendooz1059]

+ignalb Shoot. I just did.

[@provik1547]

+ignalb haha this goes off tangents all the time

[@akuseru2116]

Hey Vsauce, Michael here. Don't you ever stop half way through a video and wonder, "what's this video about again?" This is called the Stevens effect. It originated in the early 21st century when Michael Stevens, or Vsauce, etc etc.

[@artfarted]

8 years ago and this man was predicting the future

[@menjolno]

Last time I had a picnic was 2014 in Alaska with family. There was no snow. We ate subway pizza. It was also the first time eating subway

[@generichandle7]

Me: Okay how do I stop getting rejected. Vsauce: Mammals...

[@lilag8850]

*_BUFFALO REPRODUCTION_*

[@PaddyHackettYoutube]

y was this so funny to me XD

[@Recondite101]

Ya gotta participate in the Scarcity Principle

[@kingpizzarat8999]

Me going to buy all the rats at the pet shop

[@stackflow343]

how to avoid the friendzone: don't drag your feet hoping the person will magically pick up on your feels don't constantly offer favors when what you really want is to ask them out learn how to actually flirt instead of mixed signals if a 'moment' presents itself, don't hold back stop being scared of rejection don't be a doormat don't listen to tumblr the friendzone is not simply being rejected if you get the "I just like you as a friend" excuse, it's usually just them trying to be polite. respect that instead of summoning your fedora/neonhair trigger powers. feelings might change down the line, but only if you allow them to organically.

[@ivanlagrossemoule]

As some dumbass who got friendzoned throughout his teenage years, this seems quite accurate.

[@evan-dq2vm]

stackfl0w how to avoid the friendzone : step 1: be attractive

[@RedZeee]

Getting someone to like you is fucking science

[@PrometheX]

+L Lawlier Step 2: Be rich.

[@Strindom]

+PrometheX step 3: blame the cosmos and wallow in pointless self-pity

[@RafaGold210]

The way he said Bateman’s Principal sounded like we were all supposed to know what that is and he wanted us to gasp

[@ggfdd5925]

I actually prefer people who are very kind, chill and dont play hard to get. They bring much less conflict into a relationship

[@vivaciousmyosotis]

Gg Fdd me too

[@gekkokoalaman9385]

Conflict is needed tho

[@SpicyMeatAhBall]

Yea without conflict there is no growth. Soon you're just gonna get bored of each other

[@angelcortesjr5063]

Yea I met this girl two years ago and she’s chill and very kind and doesn’t play hard to get. I told her how I felt about her and all she did was find it adorable. And till this day she knows that I like her but to her it’s like it’s a normal thing so we’re just really good close friends. But here’s the thing she likes some other dude sadly 😔😪. I think he’s too cocky because he likes another girl and he can’t like two girls and expect to be with my crush. My crush is going for the wrong guy. Literally because of him she got in trouble and got all her things taken away, not only that her stepdad was all up on her face screaming at her and since she was frustrated she cried for three hours long. She didn’t do nothing wrong. She got in trouble just because the dude she has a crush on kissed one her friends and she told one of the teachers through messages and her parents thought the teacher had bad intentions so it’s really the dudes fault for playing with her feelings. If he truly liked her. He wouldn’t have done what he did behind her back. They don’t even go out they’re just friends but it’s whatever. And I’m like, “Hello I’m here waiting for you to see that I’m the right guy for you.” (In my mind) But no she still likes him even though it’s his fault that her life right now sucks. 😢 I hate not being her favorite boy 😪.

[@skyriotAndKadeGaming]

@@angelcortesjr5063 tell her directly. Do NOT help her to get with him at all. Tell her the problems he causes and why she needs to snap out of it before its too late. Be bold amd harsh, she would be mad at first but eventually she will thank you for that in the future. Outcomes could include: - Her agreeing with you - Her Disagreeing with you - Her getting mad for a short while before things are patched up - her realising that you're a great person and maybe even leading towards feelings

[@sealion6030]

I bet he always got an A on his essays

[@technoultimategaming2999]

On essays you need to stay with the topic, he strays away from the topic

[@saucepls7530]

@Kyrlics or does he?

[@Extreme11]

@@technoultimategaming2999 when you think about it, what is considered straying away from a topic?

[@Necrodzentelmenel1]

@@Extreme11 And what even is.... A topic?

[@howsitgoingbros3711]

@@Necrodzentelmenel1 *Vsauce music plays*

[@zenekthemonkeydknwknwrk]

You know he is gonna start going off topic when the beat comes in

[@georgedefo3889]

The Patrick Bateman principle

[@mrwise6177]

Can't be friend zoned if you don't have friends 😏👈🏽

[@anacchka]

jack ryan uhhhhh yeah you can

[@manshichhetri5389]

jack ryan 😂😂 lol

[@emmethefangirl8785]

Exactly. Better to just be a shipping fangirl. lol

[@filipedias7284]

Roll safe

[@skaruts]

Ha! True. :)

[@dylanmistretta7010]

Girl: I like you but as a friend. Me: (supper excited) Okay, thank you! Other people: Why are you so happy? Me: I finally have a friend!

[@Robin-jk6wz]

Aussi

[@Hydra2k12]

Auch

[@SreenikethanI]

Au

[@markassbrownie]

supper

[@french_bread_gud7046]

supper

[@docv6950]

Why don't you get any maidens? **Vsauce music plays**

[@gloodgy2774]

Man, there are so many mind games with some relationships, I'm lucky to have just found someone we were both perfect for, built on honesty, and not the human desire to bone down

[@diviyidnani7396]

She: i like you......... But as a friend Vsauce:BUT WHAT IS LIKE?

[@redsuni]

baby you heart me... you heart me...

[@virajkaushik3440]

Mr.TrollgamesXD or did he? (Vsauce music intensifies)

[@c_01m26]

i you......... But as a friend

[@olliecole7163]

oR dO yOU?

[@ariz0naheat622]

FACT

[@wanderingrandomer]

When I was 17, I realised I had friend zoned someone else, and felt really bad about it!

[@ShujitoDM]

I realized that when I was 25...

[@isak338]

WanderingRandomer FRIENDZONEEEED

[@TheFlippyNioa]

? what's the other option here, date someone you don't want to?

[@PujDK]

some say it is better to be with someone who loves you than to be with someone you love

[@marlonbaker4957]

Satan Stan those some are really dumb then

[@kriger992]

got literally friend zoned last night and now I get this video recommended.

[@Angel-ip7pw]

I just got friend zoned a couple minutes ago

[@nashrllah]

after 10 years this video was recommended by youtube and so far Vsauce video where I'm an expert on the topic lol

[@pep3001]

I can't see him in the same way after seeing him on a filthy Frank episode

[@utaghoul1093]

yeess haha

[@armak7774]

Same here! That's the last place I expected to see him :D

[@josgeerink9434]

and at vidcon in maxmofoe vlog

[@rhyno4152]

Don't forget getting McNuggets with iDubbz

[@AllanElMelon1043]

That's actually how I discovered Vsauce