The SECRET of Pain: Why My Soul Chose ABUSE

Derech Mitzvosecha - Kohen Baal Mum #4 | The Darkness Is Not You; You Volunteered to Take It On
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This class was presented on Thursday, Parshas Behar, 20 Iyar, 5783, May 11, 2023, at Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim in Monsey, NY.
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[@cbchaimboretsky2869]

This is a revelation. Thanks for being such an inspiration and for all the rest. תזכו לברכה והצלחה וכל הברכות כולם

[@yashamoldavsky4041]

I love you, Rabbi

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Thanks so so much. it means so much to me. Thank you for the love.

[@raquelnaranjo2531]

Dear Rabbi, your classes are such a blessing to my soul. Now things make so much sense. Thank you for making this wisdom available to the public.

[@LetsGoFootball123]

Really helps

[@user-ps6lr5fi3x]

תודה רבה לרב אתה אקבר גבר אמת תמיד מנצחת ❤

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

תודה רבה מאד מקרב לב עמוק

[@wexp3382]

I very much enjoyed jt, thanks! Most don’t realize that emotional abuse is just as bad as other types of abuse but there is no proof either and the abuser will twist the situation, pretending that it’s you, who has emotional issues. I was there and BH fight it and today I don’t have problem to face my abusers (emotional ones) with pride and positivity, so that they just melt away from shame of their dysfunctional and shameful behavior. Abusers lose their power when they realize that they have lost control

[@sarakaplan3396]

A few decades ago, a student told me that she asked a Rav why she had been abused as little girl, and he told her that she must be a gilgul of someone who had committed a serious aveira. I told her that she shouldn’t look at it like that. I told her that every neshama comes to the world to prove its love for Hashem, and your neshama volunteered for the difficult job of revealing its love for Hashem despite having had a painful childhood.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Yea. And ultimately none of us really know the answer.

[@Einoidmilvada]

What a beautiful שיעור ❤

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Thanks so so much. it means so much to me. Make sure to listen to the follow up class

[@juliancruz833]

Exquisite.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

That means a lot. Thanks

[@TheDavidf97]

❤יישר כוח

[@margarethgibson3794]

Ðear Rabbi, thankyou so much every word you said is completely true anti-life suffering from having internalized all you spoke about. Years of therapy with a Rabbi who ran groups and private reparenting and intense courage to dig those entrapments of darkness with a crane and more and more sometimes When arriving home after a heavy session a went to bed. Afterwards not immediately it was completely gone cleared to be able to have a life. Many years later I see theres some more to do in that direction.

[@margarethgibson3794]

Btw: The Rabbi was a licensed Adlerian Therapist.

[@avital2166]

U speak the truth ❤

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Todah rabah

[@pamdewall4588]

Oh wow

[@daisyduke6573]

When I look at the moon…I see so much movement 🦋

[@happycustomer3448]

❤

[@pamdewall4588]

I don’t understand at the speed ur talking but I know ur words are so valid. I love ur lectures rabbi

[@steele0strella]

Hey Pam, down in the right hand corner of the video window there is a settings * symbol to the left of it CC closed caption and to the left full screen options. click on that and scroll up and you will see speed settings. you can listen to it in increments slower or faster. There's also options for auto translate in the settings * into various languages although that technology has its limitations, sometimes it helps, depending on the content; if closed captions is enabled in a particular video. If you have the time, listen to Rabbi YY multiple times, it is worth it, every time a new layer develops and a whole different dimension of the concepts.

[@amyjohoppins1087]

- on my Android phone it is in the upper right corner to the right of the CC (Closed Captioning) symbol - I frequently play at a higher speed.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Thanks very very much. Your comment means a lot

[@elishevabarenbaum5319]

This subject has to be handled with great caution. Abusers can twist this to justify what they're doing.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Absolutely correct. Thanks so much

[@lovethyANGELS]

At 50:20 someone asked how this helps. If someone gets their life back after feeling dead for 40 years, and you ask how this helps?

[@tessajetta8146]

My frum father molested me so this was a very important video for me. Can you refer me to someone to talk to

[@pamdewall4588]

Omg u can talk to me❤️

[@elishevabarenbaum5319]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Please take good care of yourself.

[@miriamtorem6503]

Wish i could talk to you be bleessed to find hashems blessing to find your right way

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Wow wow wow. I’m so so so sorry. This is insanity. You need a great great trauma therapist. It’s so painful. My blessings and empathy.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Tessa, please take care of yourself and lots of self compassion and empathy. And please watch the follow up class after this

[@steele0strella]

😲

[@natashaloveschrist]

😢😢😫😫

[@yitzhaklider8819]

I wonder if Micha couldn't connect with Gd because he was in the wall in the first place? Wouldn't that be trauma and its results

[@TammyCatJo]

Do non-Jewish (B’nei Noach) souls also get to choose to go down to earth and choose difficult and painful lives on earth (for the same reasons)? Or is this something that only Jewish souls do?

[@pamdewall4588]

Like- the moon doesn’t wax and wane. We think - it does

[@sternakeller547]

אותה הגברת בשינוי האדרת

[@sternakeller547]

אותה הגברת בשינוי האדרת.

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Exactly. But still very painful

[@UziMoses]

❤

[@RabbiYYJacobson]

Toda rabah

[@janienyc3741]

❤️