The Pain Of RAPE: A Survivor's Story

[@silenebohadana9531]

Please dear rabbi YY, continue to be a "meshugane""!! We love you 💖

[@tessajetta8146]

Thank you for being so brave and covering this topic

[@al2lewy]

❤ thank you to phrase each taboo

[@Gil-n1n]

You loke great

[@jacobweiser7632]

Thanks , what a beautiful lecture!

[@Revekah]

Very awesome teaching, thank you Rabbi blessings.

[@deebz1796]

Wow!!!! You should be gebentched so unspoken so incredible I really needed to hear this

[@rivkarosenthal3277]

Thank you!! This class is הצלת נפשות !!

[@Heartwarrior70]

Thank you Rabbi, I am a survivor, my youngest son killed himself last June, I found out he was raped when he was 9 in his journal he left behind. He said, "I am suspended in that moment and trying to transition from a boy to a man and don't know how." Being a survivor myself I understand the isolation, loneliness, the feeling different the constant insanity of trying to hide yet be a part of so no one suspects who I REALLY AM INSIDE, which for me was worthless, dirty useless to HASHEM. Always feeling attacked, on the defense, couldn't do it say anything right, people were constantly validating how unimportant I was, blaming me calling me crazy, I felt crazy and as you said believed all this time be me. You have helped me with this video to find another piece of acceptance, healing, courage to face more of my personal experience and my son's trauma and anguish he lived in without telling anyone even tho he had oppurtunity to. I struggle with self blame and forgiveness that I missed the signs, I was mad at HASHEM because of all the work I have done on the inside of me and still this happened to my son. I do not know what good can or will come out of this, I did feel like I did as a child HASHEM was punishing me for others sins, you said it's not that but that the soul was sent to destroy the evil. Because of the love in that soul. This helps so much to have a different perspective, my son was NOTHING but LOVE, LIMITLESS. MY HEART HURTS THAT HE SUFFERED AND I DIDNT KNOW AND I COULDNT FIX IT! I am trying to heal. I appreciate the person who shared the story to spark this teaching. Thank you Rabbi for talking about it!

[@mellyssa8303]

😢I am really sorry for all and more.

[@LassieSgr]

Sonnie I send you my love,support, strength . As great as tech is to connect, it is also sad bc we are not really connecting at all. You need someone right there I am not a professional therapist or rabbi or come from a supportive, isolated religious community my entire life. However, please understand your son being raped as a child or his suicide is not your fault at all. you were a normal regular mother. Many children havs been raped and the parents dont know. Yes MANY . Also Please do not believe any religious leaders who tell you that everything that happens in this world is HaShem's perfect purpose . No It was not God's plan and intention that an innocent little boy was raped or that he later was still so overcome he could not deal with the pain any longer.. It happen, it was perpetrated by evil people. ** HaShem with help through the community will help us deal and in part heal after years. HaShem loves your son but like so many he did not have enough professional and community support. What he needed was more than you could have given him. Now despite that horrendous experience you must seek out support, therapy, positive input and teaching every moment of every day. HaShem wants to and will be with you to lift you and I hope this organization and a local Jewish one will take some of that responsibility. Your son did not suffer so you could become stronger. G-d forbid anyone from saying that. ***most important now. . HaShem will help you heal and overcome despite the evil that hurt your son. ** You have an opportunity to grow within yourself and closer to God, your creator. Keep reaching out, read Psalms daily. Listen to positive speakers who will build you up and give you tools to deal with it all. Not necessarily only Orthodox. Be wise in what allow yourself to hear. Do what works for you. Of course beginning place is Torah and all T'nach.

[@Heartwarrior70]

Thank you for your understanding and supportive words.

[@baileysmith2434]

😱😭😢😥

[@Gil-n1n]

Maybe the son was sick in the head and not his fault

[@elisheva7772]

Thank you very meaningful lecture for today's generation. Most of us are the feet of Mashiach walking in dirty places towards a holly purpose.

[@libbyfedowitz3075]

this Torah is so beautiful. tremendous healing. thank you so much

[@anavilenchik4810]

Thank you

[@freedom4all581]

Thank you Rabbi 👏

[@daisyduke6573]

Thank you Rabbi🦋

[@azrielisrael8505]

Rabbi yy is awesome! Fuuul Trustworthy

[@Lionface308]

Thank you Rabbi

[@ghislaine412]

Nessya Tova Rabbi. This Shiur was Out Of This World ! Not to be someone else, after Discovery!! being used and over used, Our Holy Souls ; to regain it, its the beginning of The Holy Battle, ending The Game, to Show How Warriors We Were Always be Victorious. Thank you, Rabbi, You opening The Gates Of Revelation. Time is Coming, Big Time.

[@baileysmith2434]

I still can't understand why so many of us are chosen for the horrors. I am not on a level to understand this evil and cruelty.

[@Gil-n1n]

Need a wife

[@rivkahreed]

@@Gil-n1nwho needs a wife?

[@alexsolow3188]

Thanks Reb when I was younger than 5 . I electrocuted myself , I didnt understand all of the hebrew or yidish but some has given some lite onto my life. Bless you rabi .

[@etaishachar7086]

Most rabbanim, as kodesh as their topics are, have zero insight into anything remotely related to this. Too many communities are filled with horrible molestations, and are hidden under the vail of tznius. You should be so proud to speak around these subjects.

[@rutbrea8796]

One reason one can never condem anyone for being angry and revelious, there's always a reason to everything! There are angry people out there, and there's always a reason behind, rape is one of them. Most children and later on adults are ashamed for being raped and abused. They feel powerless, especially when the raper is a relative.

[@agonen9824]

Very nice rebi

[@TheMalka770]

Tears,yashar koach.i know a stunning girl who was raped,and died young from drugs. Nishmata bEden

[@jkobewill]

Shalom.

[@msfuerst1]

איזה זכות. כל הכבוד

[@LassieSgr]

No. Many children are abuse in one or several ways. That person is not alone. It is when people deny and don't want to hear your pain. That will make someone suicidal more than the sexual destruction

[@csm7761]

Rabbi thank you, you are not alone either we are many people working to repair the consequences of nazi sexual experiment on Jewish kids and the holocaust with all what that has done to the Jewish people just tree generations away is now we need and have to start that job, healing....

[@alexsolow3188]

Because of my problem (see above message) I have searched for dates, times, happening s, nicknames, ect. I thought maybe I could be mishkha ?

[@youtub6521]

Being that souls created in the second half of the month are destined for pain, how is it fair to your progeny to be intimate during ovulations that fall out during second half of the month?

[@beans4853]

Most people ovulate at the same time every month, it's obviously bashert if it falls out at that time. Besides, most people don't know this

[@michaelvilmarsh9018]

1) I am a Male. 2) I did not watch the entire video so perhaps I am missing something. 3) A Soul can be raped and your soul can be forced to feel the pain of the soul; which your raped for a very very long time. 4) The mark of the injury will always be there but the pain will become less with G-d's healing.

[@lovethyANGELS]

why don't you just watch the video instead of assuming

[@dennicsisk7657]

Ok I am being made aware of what my uncle did. Who when he was done he says don't tell my parents because they won't understand. It's our secret. At age of 5 or so. I know he is lying. And more because he is a lier do I hate snd feel sorry for him. It changed my behavior. I'm not innocent any more.. the way I stand has become sexual. From then on I always hid behind my mother. I hid in my bedroom. And I protected myself by not talking to loud because it caught people's attention and I was afraid of being noticed. So don't think my soul isn't aware of this but I don't know why the soul , if it knows so much, doesn't have the power to protect. My soul IS involved. I don't know it's position but it can't be blind to the action and my reaction.

[@tessajetta8146]

My no good father yemach shimo had a yetzer hara

[@shlamushaaretz5357]

😢

[@internalinjectiontrulyhere770]

Sore agonys

[@Gil-n1n]

Why dont you enjoy it ?

[@ExtraGifted321]

This is too painful to listen yet im trying to connect myself its harder and scarier then it seems the conflict between my soul and reality 😢 Thank you im lisening!!

[@Gil-n1n]

There it implise that whenavwomen gets raped she could in middle enjoy it and even if she says i would of hiered the rapist She is not forbiden to her husbend ask the rabbi if its true that we pasken rules thise way

[@sacha1259]

Thank you.