The Secret of The Sigma

[@jimvanbemmelen4131]

I completely fall into this category. Sigma's are also able to read peoples energy. We avoid people who drain us. Energy vampires is what they are called. Sigma's have an amazing natural instinct which are able to read and decode people who are fake, and or make promises but never come though. Others may never see this characteristic in people or if they do, it takes them years to figure it out. Sigma's can read this instantly. This world is filled with energy vampire's.. Your description of Sigma males is amazing!

[@SufferousTosh]

Thank you very much Jim... "Energy vampires", which reminds me of a quote from William S Burroughs: "If, after having been exposed to someone's presence, you feel as if you've lost a quart of plasma, avoid that presence. You need it like you need pernicious anemia. We don't like to hear the word "vampire" around here; we're trying to improve our public image. Building a kindly, avuncular, benevolent image; "interdependence" is the keyword -"enlightened interdependence".....

[@omnivincitveritas]

We are so rare, people don't know what to think or say about us. When I was younger I met a woman and she told me I was one of those sigma's. No idea what she meant at the time. Now I am older and have realized I was always the misfit. I could never find any friends, nor anyone that even understood me. To this day, I have zero friends, my family they don't get me either, they put up with me. Now I understand I scare people because of who I am. When you are self confident, challenge authority, speak your truth, don't need validation, tell others the truth and can read people like a book, they don't walk away, they run from you.

[@SufferousTosh]

I Love You, my friend. That is exactly my experience...

[@jscanl]

I can relate. I have no true friends, just acquaintances. Having Asperger's Syndrome doesn't help my situation either

[@SufferousTosh]

You are totally on our spectrum.... Its ok though, right? The elevation is extremely high but you can see everything...

[@SufferousTosh]

When I was very young around 14, I started to notice how people treated me from the outside. It's like I could be the witness of my own experience... It occurred to me, people treat me differently than they treat other people, there was always an uncertainty in their eyes and it always confused me. However, from time to time I witnessed people confide in me about deeply personal experiences, it is then that i realized my significance. A Sigma will carry that information to the grave... It is our honor to carry that for you.... I am witness to your pain...

[@scottwagner6302]

We aren't the misfits, everyone else is.

[@DarrenSmith-x6h]

Even before I realised I was a sigma ,before there was any talk about sigma I always thought I was from a different planet

[@SufferousTosh]

You are... It's a very special place. I consider us the recorders of the human experience. When we die we go back and report our findings...

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Well, I say, I feel the same way.. But however like to call it old souls..

[@russellharding3371]

I've always felt that I took a wrong turn at a nearby galaxy and ended up here by some strange accident 😂

[@SufferousTosh]

Nah, your purpose is here, and your sector needs you, to balance the energy.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

@SufferousTosh Smashing....!!!!! Now that is a good answer/ responce..!!

[@backintheday5350]

What a great video! I resonate with you very much. I would say, you wouldn’t be able to go into a sigma males mind unless you’re a sigma yourself, right? If you are someone of depth and have the capability for empathy and compassion at a very deep level, you will feel the need to isolate go within and really learn about yourself. So like you said it is a gift, but it can be lonely. Thank you for sharing Yourself with us. I’ve been single since I was 52. I’ll be 62 this year! 😅 Stay open and hopeful 🙏🏼✨🎶❤️Robin

[@SufferousTosh]

Hi Robin! Thank you for your comment. Yes, although lonely and a balancing act with depression, it is that isolation where we come to terms with our nature. We are deeply sensitive creatures and our empathy abilities beyond any other human I have come across on this planet. A few years ago I came across another male sigma. we immediately recognized each other as the same. It was a 5 minute conversation but I will never forget it, because he knew me and I knew him without even expressing one word about the knowledge we both had.

[@domesticatedwolverine4152]

Sigma's don't need validation from others and much less from society. Sigmas do what is required to carry on without all the unnecessary baggage.

[@SufferousTosh]

Really this is all about checking in with each other, to make sure that you are all ok? Hanging on strong... Hit a bit of a rough patch there, but things are getting better.... I sense we are about to experience one hell of a ride, and its fucking beautiful.... You can coast for a bit now, and relax.... Like a child giggling again after years of despair...

[@5DollarNukes]

Great video. To me, it's about seeing the cycles and wanting to break free from them. It's about coming to the conclusion that if there are infinite degrees of freedom and infinite paths, then only I can walk this one. Sometimes I find myself with someone on this path, but I always come to quickly realize that they have their own and our time together was merely a crossing.

[@SufferousTosh]

Very well put, 5DollarNukes... I could not have put it better myself. In fact, I'm struggling to come up with a response that could elevate this comment.

[@paulhumphries4023]

Thanks, really resonates with me.

[@lanarogers1535]

This resonated with me on so many levels. It’s funny that I have been married to the same beautiful man for over 30 years and almost daily he says to me, “Man, I really thought I knew you but the surprises keep coming.” (I like to think he means that in a good way!) I just never feel the need to purposefully divulge things about myself, to anyone. Time spent with me and my “quiet confidence” reveals what it does as required (or not)… Ah! The secrets of a SIGMA😎 I just found you and am very much enjoying your videos! It looks like you’re in a climate much like mine here in Winnipeg. Happy to see you out enjoying the beauty of winter!!

[@SufferousTosh]

Thank you! My entire family is from Winnipeg! I am not there, but in New England. I am first born in US, in my family. The Delta, I have spent many days sitting on the edge of that massive body of water. We have many duck and goose hunters in the family.

[@lanarogers1535]

@@SufferousTosh Hah! There must have been a Winnipeg vibe about you that sent your videos my way. The Universe is strange and wonderful😆

[@Hay1325]

Yep im a watcher, l see more than others know, l sense energies, and sense the unspoken word,pain. Its a super power. I reflect often in my lone time, l refuel,l energise.

[@SufferousTosh]

It's painful to watch as we have to let it unfold naturally. Some of us have a tendency to want to push them towards growth but I think it's in the waiting, where we develop patience in the quiet. Just stand guard and keep watching.

[@Hay1325]

@SufferousTosh yep it's within that quiet time, reflecting, becoming aware, listening to our inner core.

[@jansefran1752]

This is GREAT CONTENT. Very deep.

[@stuford]

Hello, really great video. I think Im a sigma too as have many of the attributes you talk about. Best wishes from England!

[@VickiCataldo-gy4bn]

This is so impactful. Smegma is so profound.

[@cristinaferreira2230]

Very interesting, thank you for sharing.

[@GudetamaEggson]

Is it me or does this dude remind me of Tim Heidecker.

[@johnjennings9693]

Exactly always on the outside looking in, deep thoughts, can be tough life, greetings from Eire,

[@SufferousTosh]

Thank you!

[@filoblack]

I had to send this to my family, because I was never able to articulate really what is going on in my black hole, lol😂 thanks man!

[@scottwagner6302]

Well said sir, and spot on.

[@russellharding3371]

New to your channel... Appreciate your vids Hello from South Australia 👋

[@SufferousTosh]

Hello, love the Aussies. Thank you.

[@af5094]

The part where we choose last option because that urge to know ALL paths! HA! Made my week!

[@SufferousTosh]

When I was very young around 14, I started to notice how people treated me from the outside. It's like I could be the witness of my own experience... It occurred to me.... people treat me differently.... why? There was always an uncertainty in their eyes and it always confused me. I noticed from time to time people would come to me with questions about their own experience, like they trusted me with very confidential personal information. That is one element of the sigma I have not mentioned here, but one that needs to be understood, the Sigma will never betray your trust. ever. We will hold the secret all the way into the next life....

[@Norwaywildlife]

Hey ! I think I have allot of those attributes...or I know I have. What I want to say...is that this was well spoken and talk about interesting thoughts...concerning attributes some have. Well said.

[@SufferousTosh]

Thank you Norway! Everything is a spectrum so there is no absolute definitive 100% category.

[@SilkeK-h1e]

😇 I know this feeling ^^

[@jayumble8390]

Best Sigma explanation I've seen! Spot on...thank you!

[@tentimestwenty]

very eloquent and concise

[@SufferousTosh]

Thank you very much

[@FrankMSeleno]

Sigmas alot like HSPs (Highly Sensitive Person). Maybe just one in the same ??? Good insight/explanations, on 1-point, you are sharing alot of emotion.

[@SufferousTosh]

You are absolutely correct, we are ultra sensitive. The Empath. It's here where you will find us, in a deeply sensitive place few have the courage to look, afraid of the pain, afraid of the abyss. I have been hiding for years but I have decided to come out into the open, in a very big way. Now that I am getting older and time is limited, I feel a strong pull (inspired) to teach the younger ones coming up that this is the greatest gift. However, it comes with a great cost...

[@FrankMSeleno]

@@SufferousTosh I'm dealing with something similar as the bachelor/truthteller in a narcissistic family. .

[@FrankMSeleno]

I see what others don't see or don't want to see due to their self interest/false fronts. Truthtellers get scapegoated. Kept quiet a long time to keep parents happy in the family system. Achieved more full understanding later in life. Sharing my insight hoping it doesn't get passed down to next generation. Mot easy.

[@SufferousTosh]

It's a tough place to be, always aware of the truth.... Ask yourself this question..... Can you be sold by a salesman on anything? Will you ever be a victim of a cult? Do you recognize when you're being lied to? Dumb people will think you are an easy mark. They have no idea who they are dealing with. Smart people have a tendency to stay away from you because they can't figure you out. So they write you off and give up. They might even label you as off your rocker or eccentric.

[@FrankMSeleno]

@@SufferousTosh Yes. They' do most anything to avoid accountability for their behaviors and maintain the false self. Very calculated. To avoid any accountability and the feelings of shame /guilt they will blame shift, project, gaslight, scapegoat, control, manipulate, lie, triangulate, etc. In their minds better to rewriting history and control the narrative. Simple B & W thinkers. They'll deny there's even an issue unless it's to blame you. So you'll almost never get an apology.

[@chriskitchen4772]

I consider myself a Sigma, sounds like you nailed it.

[@Tommy__C_G]

Great video so relatable

[@teddy122389]

I liked this talk. I wish I had known more about this when I was younger.

[@SufferousTosh]

We need to reassure The Youth who feel the same, they are not alone In the way they are feeling. and there's nothing wrong with you. Take pride in knowing that You have the most significant and important masculine trait. It is the trait that keeps all the other wolves in line without lifting a finger.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

​@@SufferousToshSo important. No more generation gap. We're all brothers. We need each other so much right now. I'm 34.

[@SufferousTosh]

@ You nailed it my friend. It’s the only way to get through this and that’s the whole reason for me reaching out to you. I really just need to know that I’m not alone here... let’s just keep talking and keep expressing what we have never been allowed to express before.

[@davidwhite4874]

I've only got to know about "sigmas" in the last month or three when I've been absolutely bombarded with stuff about them on KZbin. Most odd........

[@SufferousTosh]

The algorithm, is an oddly organic system, in constant mutation. Do you relate? or...

[@russellharding3371]

Wow..I've just someone speaking my language Thank you 😊

[@Johnnyroten]

Dude, you’re spot on.

[@royarildcorell]

❤❤❤

[@dorn885]

I already felt so in kindergarten.

[@SufferousTosh]

Its your spirit, maybe in a way, The Watchers, keeping an eye on the souls down here. Making sure they don't get Too far ahead of themselves.

[@tomkrzyt]

"quiet observer" - like an alone owl 🙂

[@jotilochun80]

Sounds like sigma is another way of saying enlightened to the pretentious facade and chasing success. Brilliant way to live in peace

[@westernsellers9148]

Huhhhh?????!!!!

[@SufferousTosh]

Here folks, if you look to the left of the trolly you will see a person who paints in the color black...

[@zephyrien4990]

Sometimes I find that people envy us for some unknown reasons, both men and women

[@SufferousTosh]

They don't know why, but they know there is something different about this person. It's that quiet confidence...

[@salomedebski9430]

Lovely wise man you are. Shame you are far from france😂😂.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

Never ending consciousness. 😊❤

[@VickiCataldo-gy4bn]

I meant sigma. Sorry for typo.

[@NewRealitySystem44]

I choose solitude in all dimensions its a journey

[@waykiwayki]

The imagery of the Sigma...is the Lynx.

[@SufferousTosh]

Can you please enlighten us...

[@xaraha4884]

The Lynx 🤍 Highly sensitive deeply intuitive solitary that finds and knows the transparent truth through facades I am lynx spirit and dragon as the guardian of lynx

[@SufferousTosh]

Beautiful...

[@paulmitchell5349]

The sigma never gives away his hand..................except to thousands of viewers on the internet. He is totally fine on his own, until he needs an electrician or plumber.

[@SufferousTosh]

Right? I got tired of talking to the walls..... I am the electrician, tile setter, welder, plumber and carpenter. Construction is my business... Also, I am a great cook... Thank you for commenting, you put a smile on my face.

[@rebeccaxodonq7893]

In superempath + sigma female. I'm always alone even when I'm surrounded by others. I'm like that from childhood.

[@SufferousTosh]

This conversation has been wrapped around the masculine. I know that the feminine sigma is also just as powerful... My apologies I would like to recognize The Feminine Sigma as having exactly the same qualities as the masculine sigma. I don't think I have ever met a female sigma. She may just be more elusive than the male counterpart.

[@zephyrien4990]

I live on a van always on the road ❤best way to live as a sigma.

[@SufferousTosh]

I dream of this every damn day.....

[@zephyrien4990]

@ i am now in the very western point of north Europe near the ocean in an empty place watching the sea and the Milky Way ♥️ van life mate 💫 go for it !

[@craiglakin-ck5ow]

You could be a good honest man, Jesus lord amen, they will still tear you apart

[@SufferousTosh]

Proving, there terrible behavior to themselves, they will become aware that they, themselves were the first to pick up the stone. It was they who crucified the innocent.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

I'm Watching You By Jay Reatard 🎸⚡😋🍦

[@SufferousTosh]

I had to look that up and I read the lyrics…. Funny

[@chrisseeley1677]

Greetings from another Sigma

[@SufferousTosh]

Respect, love and a bow...

[@Starfish2145]

Sufferous isn’t a word

[@lionnelmonaco9464]

Aguanta Sigmas!!🦾

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

They're missing out on great guys.

[@SufferousTosh]

I know right, The thing they don’t know is that we care deeply. It doesn’t come across like we do but I think we’re empaths as well…

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

@@SufferousTosh Yes deeply so. The movie Love & mercy springs to mynd....Brian Wilson was very misunderstood. His outlashes make him seem mad but in reality he wuzz: Pretty. Talented. Romantic til it hurts... aaannd Hurt....

[@SufferousTosh]

Brian Wilson, Surfs up. To die for....kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqGwY597Zqp9ask

[@shhajgwy148]

while i do agree....what percentage of dark psychology do you know as a 97% user and knower of dark psychology, I see some of your flaws

[@SufferousTosh]

I am aware of dark psychology and manipulation tactics/strategy. However, I do not look at this ability as a bad thing... The ability to play with energy, both light and dark is the responsibility of the user. If you choose to be devious, then expect the same in return. The Laws of Physics still apply...

[@LoneWolf-qk9pl]

For Me....(and I don't claim to be one) A Sigma has a much higher level/ sense of self-awareness and awareness in general. I don't think they want to play the games people play.

[@SufferousTosh]

I like your name.... What do you think you are? Do you know yourself? I see we have similar music taste based on your channel, I love Moby.

[@LoneWolf-qk9pl]

@@SufferousTosh Hello, Just lurking. I have alot of the same views to various topics. I question alot and wonder about so much, the journey we are on.

[@SufferousTosh]

Well, hop on board kid we is going for a ride....

[@LoneWolf-qk9pl]

@@SufferousTosh "Kid".....Thanks! Wish I was this "aware" at your age.

[@SufferousTosh]

@@LoneWolf-qk9pl It’s not to mean that you are a kid it’s a phrase we say when we say hop on board We are going for a ride. I think it’s from a movie or something it’s a quote

[@VatoRob]

just an introvert with bonding issues.... "sigma" lol

[@SufferousTosh]

If we do not inspire the introvert to come out of hiding, the depression will kill us. We must color the world.

[@weetodd]

Did you always know you were gay?

[@zephyrien4990]

I tried for 25 years to socialize, people always hated me, so what to do in you opinion ?

[@SufferousTosh]

@@zephyrien4990 Please explain, from your experience how do people treat you?

[@muma6559]

you sound like an INTJ

[@SufferousTosh]

@@muma6559 That’s the nicest thing you’ve said to me all day. Much appreciated and I appreciate you watching. Really it’s just a lot of soft white underbelly.

[@muma6559]

@ lolol

[@SufferousTosh]

You have become curious to me, I am interested in knowing how you made that observation so quickly....? Its very accurate.

[@Facthunt4599]

You seek solitude in places where you can literally only hear the wind & feel the rawness of nature - it energizes you yet unlike an introvert you will not get drained from time spent in social scenarios where you might also enjoy watching the human zoo. You are likely to be independent and have good practical skills Corporate culture will feel oppressive & you probably also have an aversion to LinkedIn You have likely read Lord of the Rings You might have owned a truck or a Saab or quite possibly an older vehicle that is not small but deceptively powerful. You are probably perceived as slightly cynical of the world but that is because you are not naive. Dogs like you.

[@SufferousTosh]

I love it! I tried the corporate culture, I did that for a year out of university. Then I quit a became a welder, then carpenter, then started my own contracting business. Generally we can not be told what to do... We will find our own way on our own terms....

[@deadreckoner5276]

Sigmas don’t wear earrings lol

[@SufferousTosh]

I'm a product of the 1980's, I was the first kid on my block to get both ears pierced. I was so Rad...

[@AmeliaHouck-o9j]

WE ARE SHAPESHILFTERS !! I BLEND !! SO BE CAREFUL !!

[@AmeliaHouck-o9j]

I ALWAYS PREFER A SIGMA MALE !AS SIGMA FEMALE , KEEP YOUR EMOTIIONS UNDER CONTROL !! BUT WE NEVER MEET !

[@SufferousTosh]

This is an interesting observation, as I look back on the people I've met, I can only think that if I did recognize the Sigma Male/Female In the room..... I did my best to avoid that person..... As to not give myself away.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

Gotta be foxy

[@parabellumFC]

8:25 oh shit bro described a dream I had when I was a teen 😳 I thought I was crazy for thinking this, it didn’t make sense to me at the time. It does now 🫡