The Secret To A Successful Relationship

[@regierse]

When I started dating my future husband, we didn't have a lot of interests in common, but whether it was by conscious effort or not, we have started sharing interests. I love trying the things that he's interested in, and sharing my interests with him. It sounds corny, but I feel like our relationship is stronger after we try new things together. We also talk pretty frankly about our feelings, how the relationship is going, what our goals are, etc. So, I hope this means we're going to have a strong and happy marriage :)

[@Blake4014]

+Stephanie C hey that sounds lovely, ideal, and nice. good luck!

[@gauravdubey6989]

What are his interests? What are your interests? To List them

[@gauravdubey6989]

@@Blake4014 You will also get one. Don't Worry

[@alecjordan6100]

2:09 that Eminem reference, I was NOT ready. XD

[@serhumano3516]

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[@WaterPickle]

That is so oooo fucking funny

[@henrymontero4470]

that moment when the nerdy white guy drops a Eminem line or w.e you call it

[@fayerstalkshow6792]

Look at my channel

[@TheDrexxus]

I mean... Eminem is also a nerdy white guy.

[@imadgibbs9063]

" Eminem - Lose yourself" lyrics @ 2:12

[@mewwew411]

yessss

[@Infinit3Enigma]

SHIIIEEET, I hope that was just based on pure coincidence..when I heard that I was like daamn.

[@itsyaboinoel668]

You better lose yourself in the music, the moment You own it, you better never let it go You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow This opportunity comes once in a lifetime

[@IowaShihTzu00]

2:10 lol Never thought I would hear Eminem lyrics in a scientific study. (At least one that's not trying to bash him)

[@TheAngel6864]

lol i was amazed too! good job Dnews!

[@theflyingspaghettimonster3138]

Fuck.Yes. My life is complete. There's already been like 8 of my top youtube channels mention Eminem or an Eminem line... Fuck yea...

[@EmeliaSings]

haha I can dig it!

[@KWallace2010]

Joshua Alleman lmao. It was perfectly done. Bravo

[@TajulIslam-ei7gd]

Ikr

[@jlindsa]

I'm not married but it seems like having someone you can talk with is really important. Not just the easy topics but also the uncomfortable ones like: how do you want to split the bills, your spending is out of control, I don't like your mom/dad/best friend, or even "I believe or don't believe in x religion" To go along with this, being able to laugh at yourselves in conversation is important too. I imagine a lot of people focus more on laughs and having fun, and then try to skirt the serious topics for "another day"

[@sam47881]

First the voice, then the hands and finally Eminem. I'm in love with that guy.

[@maretsukii3313]

2:10 DID A SCIENCE VIDEO JUST MEME ME? ....THIS IS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE

[@TheRealSuru]

2:08 after that sentance I died. MOM'S SPAGHETTI!!

[@ZpeedTube]

On of the keys are to be forgiving to each other. Much easier to love someone that is forgiving! :)

[@VexylObby]

I'm surprised there is such a lack of critical thought on the subjects of marriage and conventional relationship models. People assume these norms should be what we pursue, and not even question them in the first place.

[@Vevemusic]

Oh my god i'm laughing so hard at the eminem reference. You dropped that like a real man, with the perfect intonation!

[@zedsquid4002]

Every time i see a joint facebook account, i question who was caught messaging their ex lol. Me and my partner are both open and honest. We've always got each others backs and end small arguments before they erupt. Things like that can lead to a long wonderful relationship.. When my friends are fighting with their partner over the dumbest things, hearing about all the mistrust and paranoia that comes with a sketchy relationship.. I realize just how good i have it. If you're more willing to ignore and argue over your partners requests, than to fulfil them... Then you're priorities need a revision, or that relationship won't go far.

[@feileks5031]

Wow. I think the last bit of what you said there has just helped me! :o

[@rayhoodoo847]

made me think much about my relationship. thanks. the thing for me is, that I cant not-argue about the little things. if I dont talk about them, they start occupying my mind more and more and eventually I get mad. but when I talk about them, then through out the conversation i get mad. i know that sometimes i am irrational in my arguments, but the thing is i am really nervous. i can hate the other person more than any one else during an argument and i know it sucks. its like when im a completely different person then. i dont know how to deal with it. any advice would be nice.

[@zedsquid4002]

Kirra Immokalee haha awesome.. Its not always easy, but its totally worth it in the long run. As long as you receive the same treatment anyways.

[@zedsquid4002]

Ray Hoodoo I can relate... People always say to just talk to the other person when you have a problem, but half the time the other person will take offence that you're upset.. And then its all downhill from there. Negative emotion gain traction and a small fight turns into sometime more. I always try to keep things in perspective. If you have a hard time not arguing over problems, it could just be who you are. But you can always try to keep your perspective grounded. If you start getting angry while trying to express how you feel, tell yourself its not worth it. Step back and think before you speak. Instead of cursing or yelling, just remember you're only getting angry and upset because of chemical reactions in your brain. Dont surrender to the negativity, fight that instead of fighting your partner. Hell, sometimes people just need med's. Nothing wrong with it, but chemical imbalances are real and they can ruin relationships.

[@srgwarcock]

I might be a giant piece of shit for admitting this but as a person who has been happily single for years, seeing my friends argue with their girlfriends is soooooooo amusing. Especially when it's over something tiny that the guy won't just drop and then it becomes a whole thing, and sometimes there is crying involved which makes things rich. I've been in the position of my guy friends when I was in an on again off again relationship that lasted years and got pretty toxic, but since then I've learned not to sweat the little stuff, and ultimately when to let go.

[@Toastmaster_5000]

To me the key to a successful relationship is much simpler - trust, compromise, and enjoyment. Trust accounts for things like honesty and loyalty. If you can't let your SO go out on his/her own without the need to check up, if you feel threatened or jealous of "potential replacements" easily, and/or if you feel the need to lie then you've got a problem. Compromise is your ability to look the other way when something doesn't go the way you want. It also accounts for accepting your losses. If you expect perfection, you'll never be happy. Enjoyment is pretty obvious - you can be the most cooperative couple ever but it won't last if you don't enjoy your time together. You don't have to share all interests, just as long as you like to be around each other. If you are missing any one of these 3 things, the relationship will at some point fail, its just a matter of when. Appearance is also important, but, you don't usually attempt to get into a relationship without some sort of physical attraction. Of course there are other things that can IMPROVE a relationship, but to me, there is nothing else needed to sustain one indefinitely.

[@Chevifier]

2:10 Slide in that Eminem lyric XD

[@ImNotGenerous]

Moms spaghetti

[@kamaroma982]

Hahaha love it

[@iTzHuGzz]

ImNotGenerous Hey Cory, still living in the house?

[@ImNotGenerous]

Cradman Whoo! Yeah! Yeah. What's up? Go Cory! (Go, go!) Go Cory! (go, go, go, go!) Listen up: here we go! I'm the new kid, moving in, getting it done. and I'm officially the candidate for having some fun. You know (you better calm down Cory) (yea yea) I'm talking 'bout all-out party and we're getting it started. Mr. President, do you mind some eletric guitar? Washington D.C wil be never the same. cuz we've got Cory, Cory, Cory in the House. yea. It's a party every week, baby Cory, Cory, Cory Check it out. That's right, I'm in the House He's gonna shake it up and change it (shake it up) Take it all and rearrange it (just a little bit) Got a new plan, Hey Uncle Sam!(look out now) we've got Cory in the House (Par-ty!) Cory in the House! I'm your man!

[@selvmordspilot]

I liked the slim shady reference/quotation (arms spaghetti etc.)

[@BobTheFlyingPig]

I also liked it

[@xBradRame]

I third that notion

[@EmeliaSings]

"Half of all marriages last.. Forever" oh DNews, lovely lovely DNews x'D

[@GaborGyebnar]

Julian, now you're my favourite DNews host.

[@garretag4042]

Never Forgetti Moms spaghetti

[@Macblackstorm78]

I want to know how long it took for him to think about how to properly incorporate that lyric, it was beautifully done.

[@xXFunkyMonkeyzXx]

Yo, his palms spaghetti, knees weak, arms spaghetti. There's vomit on his sweater spaghetti mom's spaghetti. He's nervous but on the surface he looks calm spaghetti.

[@relapse87]

This. HAHAHA

[@thejumbalia]

Yes

[@ramenchuu]

lol

[@SachinKodate]

Loved the usage of words from "Lose yourself" at 2:10

[@ATtaKGaming]

How could anyone dislike this video with a golden Eminem quote like that?! XD

[@roseyrobin97]

You all should do a video on what makes a person shy. I've been finding lots of cool articles on that subject, and I feel like you guys could make a really interesting video on it.

[@kingtrow2648]

3 simple rules. Trust, communication and honesty.

[@dominoh5922]

Oh snap! 2:10 don't lose yourself dude xD

[@benjaminbazi9355]

Guys if you want a long lasting relationship you must always say the following: "Yes dear, of course dear, right away dear. You are soooooo better than all the other." Then you give her a kiss.

[@theflyingspaghettimonster3138]

Am I ugly? "Of course dear" Am I fat? "Yes dear" lmao

[@unluckymoirai]

The Flying Spaghetti Monster Yeah, I could see that not going so well...

[@PakiiiBux]

Just search MGTOW , you will not regret one fucking thing ;)

[@stephaniejoseph8514]

It works the same if you're the girl.

[@MrCarpediem6]

love how this young kid is schooling us older ones.. good on 'em; his naivette personality is certainly contagious :D

[@AceKite00]

I've never seen the point in marriage to begin with. To me, as long as your together, what else matters? why get all the extra stuff involved?

[@Edited6]

Because the government rewards marriage.

[@Skyturnip]

Marriage as a contract use to have a function in society but it's lost its purpose to become a weapon wielded by (some) women with the help of anti-male courts. Doesn't mean you cannot have a relationship with a women - you just don't need a menage-a-trois with the state so much anymore.

[@Edited6]

Skyturnip Putting divorce and it's potential abuses aside, there are financial benefits to both parties by being in a marriage.

[@MissLilithLilium]

If your life long partner ends up in the hospital especially dying, you want to have the right of hospital visitation to see their last moments. You would also want to have the inheritance to the things you built your life upon with your shared finances, your house, your pets, step-children, etc.

[@AceKite00]

Gasai Yuno I suppose your right Yuno. I think my views have been slightly changed by all of this. Btw, how have you and Yukiteru been?

[@shkpotter9844]

You are awesome Julian.

[@MrCombineGuy]

Communication goes a long way, but is not always a surefire way to get a successful relationship. Communication nonetheless is fundamental and has to be a big part of it.

[@VariantAEC]

Did he quote an Eminem song?

[@TheBearrish]

VariantAEC Yes he did. He quoted "Lose Yourself"

[@TheBearrish]

Contrary to what you might think, some people may not have known that, so piss off.

[@srgwarcock]

***** You spell fuck with a U, you fuck.

[@srgwarcock]

***** What is happening??? ... Oh that's right, I called you out on being stupid.

[@stephentroyer3831]

Quoting the actual divorce statistics and Eminem in the same video? D News for the win!

[@lovemecom3832]

Wow these are very useful tips for all newly wedded couples as to how to have a successful relationship. Thank you for giving us some insights.

[@sonny2480]

D-News resident Eminem. Nice.

[@CorySmart]

Camping is the best, what're you talkin about

[@Jenovasreunion]

This is a pretty narrow margin of factors on couple bonding, but that's obvious. There are so many other factors including mental illness, financial circumstances of both partners when entering into the marriage, and sexual habits. The majority of people are mentally ill in a way that they can't control without outside help and can't afford to have treated. Eventually, one of the partners identifies this and has to choose whether or not they can deal with this. You might think you can deal with something like OCD, but could you deal with borderline personality disorder and actual psychopathy? People tend to now, and really should be, waiting to get married until they are older and have not only a clearer view of their goals, but a clearer understanding of psychology and how it relates to adult bonding. It all goes back to your childhood, and YOU may not even know how deep YOUR rabbit hole goes until you've been in enough relationships. You also have to have a clear idea of what you'll put up with, that only comes from being in several relationships, fucking up, and watching them fuck up. "Yes, I can deal with the dish on the counter." "No, I can't deal with you molesting our son." That stuff.

[@hijiledwag]

Liked the 8 mile reference

[@princeofexcess]

ok where is the statistic 20-25% divorce rate coming from. The first thing that pops up on google search is "However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher." - (American psychology association, which is qouted from Encyclopedia of Psychology: 8 Volume Set Alan E. Kazdin, PhD, Editor-in-Chief ) And i cant find the other number anywhere. btw just because you stay married doesnt mean you are happily married or even together anymore. You can live away from your spouse and still be married.

[@kimberlycortez3767]

key to a long relationship is to not be curious.

[@candiceblack86]

Best delivery of data ever!

[@DamianReloaded]

Too many variables. Ideally, yeah. Realistically I don't think so. The first thing that will ruin a relationship these days will be lack of money.

[@JacobWilson777]

C.R.E.A.M

[@ReubenAStern]

***** Cash rules everything around me CREAM get da money dolla dolla bill yaaaa.

[@HeavyMaster99]

Yeah because a lot of people don't even love each other..

[@AuroreCosplay]

Thumbs up for the reference, nice one!

[@InMaTeofDeath]

4/10 too much spaghetti not enough water.

[@BookerDeShaq]

Pokemon reference XD

[@ephoenix7]

where do the photos come from?

[@Bakedbaconbread]

I like this guy. Also nice Slim Shady line there!

[@S.F.S.]

I hear you Lockon, I'll change right here, I'm gonna reform myself.

[@Zanislav100]

2:10 - 2:16 NO YOU DIDN'T HAHA!! I love it how his expression stays the same afterwards

[@YouNoob573]

The Secret To A Successful Relationship - for men - have money bee a good provider listen and do what ever your "owner" - your wife/girlfriend wants, for women do whatever you want.

[@noodles1916]

If she doesn't like camping, get rid of her, she's spoilt and not for you .

[@hastur758]

I think you caught me off-guard 3 times this video and got me to chuckle out loud. Thank you

[@GuerrillaGorilla023]

Somewhere out there somebody was just like "hey that all rhymed..... this kid is good"

[@faincha123]

2:09 ...Awesome scientifically inspired rap right there! xD

[@TearrzOfficial]

2:10 he went for it

[@m0j0e97]

Thumbs up for the emminem verse

[@incrediblehong]

LOVE THE 8 MILE REFERENCE

[@Rielestkid]

Those "bids of interest/support" is totally legit. Basically just listen to each other.

[@RhinoXpress]

not getting married seems to be one less stressful thing to not worry about going wrong. :)

[@lollsazz]

Oh... I always have shown interest in others' interests - to me it's really interesting how many thinks people can get fun out of... maybe that's why so many guys liked me...

[@ilikecake48]

The first and only step of living happily ever after is finding the right dealer.

[@leanderthal-z]

I hit it off with a girl about a week ago, and she's got me all figured out by now, she told me today... "you're kind of cold, aren't you?" She's right, I am. I don't have a problem with the initial stages of getting a woman, but keeping this woman is a whole different thing, one I fail at. My need for emotional connection is low, therefore I tend to mind my own business. I honestly wish I didn't, would love to be more touchy feely and all that kinda stuff.

[@Symptom103]

U iz my favourite host on DNews. Keep it up, mang

[@antoniofdez]

Very well presented.

[@williamwilkins8022]

2:10 to 2:16 is great

[@vnleao]

The key to happiness is to not be in a relationship with someone with a cluster b personality disorder-which is waaay more common than the statistics let on because of some serious fundamental flaws in the method of data collection and criteria for diagnosis.

[@petersontaylor2000]

Gomez from the Adam's Family is just the perfect example that comes to mind! He's excessively supportive to Morticia and they've got their marriage to the next level... if you know what I mean... ;)

[@illuminateth]

That 'Lose Yourself' reference has earned my eternal respect. Live long and prosper my nerdy brethren.

[@mateuszsoszynski7730]

Sometime you just Loose Your Self in the relationship.

[@vampiricwalrusvii14]

Always say yes

[@evgenygoldin5024]

Now I have to listen to the song!

[@itsyaboinoel668]

Why Im here since Im single most of my life ;-;

[@pieanim]

Secret to a happy relationship? Learn to love without expectation.

[@Lucifer-fj7mg]

I believe you can find more answers from the comments than in the video

[@JesusPedroza]

Hahaha! that "Lose Yourself" line at 2:10 though! Anyways, yea I agree if someone is generally not supportive and uneasy being with that person in stressful situations, then it probably isn't a good idea to marry them. Also, the affectionate feelings despite those factors don't constitute as love in my opinion.

[@maggieshen1886]

That is just like the book "An Abundance of Katherines" by John Green!

[@tosoledo]

In other word, people who are independent divorce more because they don't need others but people who are dependent don't divorce because they cannot be alone. I prefer my independence.

[@KusanoMegumi]

Aww he's from soul pancake !

[@SokeSleezy]

I found it interesting the examples that were given for what a "bid" is. Is someone really looking for "support" when they say something like "Hey look at that bird over there"? To me that seems like a random comment to which what ever response I give will be inconsequential. Am I looking at this wrong? When I think of looking for support I think of your S/O being stressed about something, or just wanting you to really listen to their rant about their bad day.

[@qazmko22]

I think some of these studies should look at gender roles and how when we break from them if that will spell chaos for their relationship. From what I see, it does.

[@linettelow]

Thank you for sharing :)

[@Thegbiggamerz]

That partial Eminem Lose yourself reference I love it! 2:09

[@TaxEvasi0n]

That Eminem meme made my whole life hahahah. Thank you.

[@emil4279]

2:16 - TO DROP BOMBS!!!!

[@havochot]

mad he pulled out the enimem verse so calmly in the middle of his dialogue

[@JonSnowIII]

I once heard, think it was Charlie Sheen who said in Two and a half men, when his girlfriend at the time naggd' on him to go out running all the time and eat certain foods, to which he said (in the restaurant) : 'Why can't women be with someone for who they are, instead of who they can turn them into.' I think it's the same here. The 'get to know'-progress should be pretty much done before you get married. And for all those thinking-- Then what is left of the relationship if they know everything? To that I say-- The real adventure is experiencing things together, following eachothers passion (if you have it in common) setting up your life, family etc.etc Don't get married to someone you don't fully know and can accept, or better yet, Enjoy.

[@Crick1952]

Getting to know someone takes more than a lifetime. If you don't think so, you have a small imagination.

[@JonSnowIII]

:)

[@tsmith7970]

Easy, don't get married. Couples that don't get married tend to last longer or might get back together easier... Because there is no divorce in between.

[@EmeliaSings]

Get married if you want to, and if it doesn't work out, that's okay. At least you know what you don't want in a partner for the next round c:

[@tsmith7970]

cruuushhh I never understood why a lot of people think they HAVE to get married when in reality it's just a piece of paper lol your statement is true, we just have to choose either or but in the end it should be what makes us happier

[@DaJMaster289]

cruuushhh That's what girlfriends are for, i'd say that way of thinkingmight have contributed to the high amount of divorces there is today!

[@EmeliaSings]

T smith people never have to get married, it's just a social construction tbh. but I mean, if you want to get married, I'm not going to stop you haha. DaJMaster289 if people get married or not, or divorced or not, how does that affect you as a person? it's a way to take the relationship to the next level, promising to always be there for each other, even though it doesn't always work out, but that's okay. you should never stay in a relationship where you aren't happy. if you only want to have a "girl"friend for the rest of your life that is your choice and that is okay. But you shouldn't tell people to not get married if they actually want to. heh

[@rawstarmusic]

cruuushhh It's gonna take a long time to finding the right partner sorting them out by flaws. By the time it's done he/she is already married with a nice family.

[@jaimebenito620]

Why don't you do a video explaining how the expression "begs the question" has changed completely its meaning based on a misconception about its (rather complex) original meaning, partly because the verb "beg" has an extra meaning few people know. The original meaning of the expression is a nearly extinct dinosaur, but it still sounds a bit odd if you are one of those few old-fashion freaks who happen to know how it all started.

[@greenlemon4766]

Other channels already did that.

[@PyroOfZen]

greenlemon4766 Other channels have done a lot of things that DNews has done. Redundancy is actually more useful than you may think. One channel might explain just one detail a little differently, and you may find yourself understanding it better simply because they made a slight alteration to the wording of a sentence. On top of that, you may not enjoy watching other channels, but might enjoy watching this one. The list goes on.

[@srgwarcock]

I'm glad you went to all the trouble of bringing up this random topic about "begs the question" and changes to it's meaning. Yet you explained nothing about the subject and raised even more questions in my mind before giving any insight on what your talking about. I'm unhappy with this... There you go, that's all I have.

[@Jonathan-xe4ec]

how many of you continued the Lose Yourself lyrics in your heads... ?

[@kawaiisenshi2401]

Yooooo 2:08 - 2:16 Made this whoooolee video!! LOL Loved this!

[@kamaroma982]

I can't b believe you quoted eminem! I loved watching you before .. Now you're that much better!

[@kerryfoster1]

Married twice. They did not FAIL. The relationship went to its end. Married for life is a result of traditional values. These values have evolved and changed over the century. I don' rule out a third marriage, but I wouldn't worry whether it lasted forever. I know many long term married couples but I don't envy them. What you wanted 25 years ago may not be what you need today. That is the point. Time to move on and find something new.

[@Siberius-]

I don't agree entirely with the "talking about your partner with them in the room" thing.. sure sometimes it will be because they are somewhat lying.. but I think more often it would be because they don't like the situation.. they could completely love their partner, but the situation could still be awkward and weird and not feel right.. and even though you love them completely.. you could still be worried about saying something they wouldn't like.. doesn't mean at all that you don't love them or whatever. If I was in that situation I would be awkward since I'm not a social talkative outward person.. but I do love my partner and we have stayed together. So the results there seem to be fucked up for a number of reasons.

[@FamebasedDeleon]

Liked it because of that clever m&m verse

[@RoBoTrOnIc1001001]

love the eminem reference

[@ajmcrobs]

I can't find your statistics about divorce anywhere. It is all saying it's a bit under half.

[@erocicTheGreat]

Amazing Eminem tie in

[@PewDiePieFqn56]

Did you just quote Eminem? Alright, I need something else to give you more support cuz you're awesome

[@AngelaKyePasiongreen]

I wish Julian is this cute everyday xD

[@julius_trifinity]

YOU BETTER LOSE YOURSELF IN THE MUSIC THE MOMENT YOU OWN IT YOU BETTER NEVER LET IT GO