the 'soft life' is TACKY, i said what i said.

The soft life and femininity trends have gotten out of hand. Keep watching to remain tacky-free.
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[@GabbyTeAma]

Agreed!! I live a "soft" life and I don't spend thousands of dollars on anything. I just work a normal job and live within my means. Making me free of stress, worry and unpaid bills. I have a great marriage, a beautiful community surrounding me and my identity is rooted in Christ. I have everything I need.

[@EvieAswiti]

Hey now!!!! 👏🏾 We love that IJN 🙏🏾

[@pamelajordan7339]

Agreed 100%

[@EbonyRivers1]

All of this!!❤❤

[@AbrakadabraAcrylics]

Sis they all say the soft but the don’t evolve CHRIST! I’m in my Woman Mother GODLY FAMILY ERA

[@I.am.hooked]

@@AbrakadabraAcrylicsnot everyone is religious or a Christian. 😊

[@Maria.Aurelia]

Preach!! This is exactly why I hate social media. People are so materialistic and make such small things their personality. Nothing else interesting about them. Like talk about life, deeper stuff. When we all die, none of this matters. Doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the things you enjoy but it’s like don’t think you’re better than others. People need to kill their egos honestly. People also think soft life is always having expensive things and it’s like no. Soft life can be buying cute purses at TJ Maxx too! People need to look within! Great, great video! Happiness is truly an inside job that even me is still working on!

[@EvieAswiti]

Yes! The most important inside job. Thank you for sharing your perspective and watching 🤗

[@qcouple4930]

Thank you for telling the truth. People don’t like the truth. I know exactly what you’re talking when you say people are doing certain things to attain the “soft life”. Then they go on social media to show the world what they have but never show the down low things they do to get it. I hope young girls can see through it all and focus on themselves.

[@EvieAswiti]

Yep! Not knocking the lavish life, but it’s such a novelty now the way people are morphing it into a “trend” and aesthetic. Appreciate you for watching!

[@DevinDomino]

Yessss!! It’s giving you need external validation. Then the whole “black girl soft life” trend. A soft lifestyle is a soft life regardless of race

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you, Dev! There doesn't need to be an asterisk next to every trend. We are tired lol

[@baindub3669]

I love how you are not afraid to say what you want to say, even if it ruffles feathers and you do it in a very graceful way. Yes I agree with this topic by the way lol it’s so tacky girl lol. You look gorgeous as always ❤️😘

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you love! Yeah I’m always going to speak my peace, because it’s gotten to a point where the trend is not even organic anymore.

[@belindagichuki3349]

This! I wish I could like this message 100 times because if you’re living a certain way, it speaks for itself and doesn’t need to be broadcasted to the masses, you’re simply doing you! Love the new look btw!

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you so much! I’m glad you get it and understand where I was coming from. Letting lifestyle speak for itself is definitely the underlying premise of the video. Appreciate you for watching!

[@MsBlackIntrovert]

I never understood the term acting like you are used to good things. If the “good things” are new why wouldnt there be some sense of awe. Why would I pretend to not be in awe of something I never experienced?

[@EvieAswiti]

Thanks for your question. A feeling of awe vs feeling of undeserving of “good things are two different things. I am referring to the latter.

[@Malcolm_LaFlare]

Its placing all your cards on the table. You open yourself to judgement from how you respond.

[@EbonyRivers1]

It’s the way some people react, like they have no class. There’s nothing wrong with being in awe of something new or different. But you don’t have to make a spectacle of yourself. Huge difference.

[@patricialohraa9520]

Love this! I went out to dinner last year with a girl I had met at an event & she was so loud with everything😭. She pulled out her camera & phone for everything. What’s worse is she would do everything with flash😅. I almost passed out from wanting to fade into the background lol. She asked to take pictures of my bag too for the “content”😅. I really enjoy documenting things to make my own little video memories but also I try to be discreet, quick & not super loud about it & act like I’ve been somewhere lol. & I do it based off of my comfort as well, the environment & never with anyone I’m meeting for the first time. Even if we are familiar it’s 30 seconds- 1 minute max for pictures on food then phones get put away & we spend our quality time. & also I’ll gage the comfort level of the person I am with. If I ever choose to include a friend in something I’m posting, I always ask permission.

[@EvieAswiti]

omg I resonate with this soooo much!😹😹😹 thank you thank you for watching - I know exactly the type of person you’re talking about?

[@jaykitykat]

Love the new look Evie💕! Gorgeous as always! I saw the topic and I screamed 😹. In Swahili we say, “Chema chajiuza na kibaya chajitangaza”. Like moving in silence you never have to prove anything to anyone because you truly are happy and in enjoyment!

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you so much ☺️ you are only speaking facts! nothing to prove ever

[@thirtyyearcosmetologist]

The soft life is comparable to quiet luxury and old money.

[@EvieAswiti]

quiet luxury video on the way! 😉

[@rondrekarichardson8661]

Yes, I know people who are claiming the soft life on social media but sleeping on blow up mattresses, working multiple jobs... begging and borrowing money, and/or living in the hood. I agree it is tacky. When you have something worth bragging about, other people will do it for you. It just seems like these people aren't used to having nice things.

[@francesaquachapman7631]

Great insights! I often fall into the aesthetic trend and I’m learning it’s a mindset shift. Embracing ease, letting go of things that don’t serve me, and healing. It looks different for everyone.

[@EvieAswiti]

definitely a journey - thanks for watching!

[@tiffjobs7570]

Personally, I like that I found this term. When I was married, I gave over 100% to obtain the softlife, because my ex was taking everything from me. He was holding me back. Could have acheived more in less time. I am used to working hard, so it flew under my radar. One of the biggest mistakes of my life - him. He wanted the softlife on my back (no work). I will not make that mistake again. Everyone, choose wisely.

[@playitpurple007]

I think soft life means staying clean and organized and looking natural… but some people over due it essentially 🤷🏽‍♀️🤌🏽

[@EvieAswiti]

Good point!

[@vam9785]

Its tacky cuz it makes it obvious that u struggled before and all of sudden u have some kind of freedom of staying at home and u want to show others that u are better than them. Girls making videos about being stay at home gfs 🤦‍♀️ thats not a flex … thats a given in many cultures. If u live with a man the bare minimum he has to do is to pay for things. U are making his life easier by living with him. It gives kinda “hungry girl” energy.

[@asiajannea8806]

I seen the title of the video and instantly liked. I seen so many women being so loud with proclaiming their soft life. And yes girl. My mother taught me the same thing “act like you’re used to something”. So many people act like they aren’t used to things. It’s like “you’re new here” type of thing.

[@EvieAswiti]

I'm so happy that you get it! I think it takes some level of growth and awareness to get to that realization. I'm all for being soft and buttery, but it feels cringe now.

[@andiwallace]

I think the key here is bragging. If you want to promote less struggle and trying to promote more self care whether that be mental or physical that’s awesome.

[@bikerandspice3706]

I don't think a KZbinr is in a position to tell other people about what content other people should upload. If content offends you- just don't watch it. Everyone defines their lives in different ways. You filming with products in the background can be seen as quite pedestrian/typical/ tacky out of a bathroom cabinet- but you clearly don't. It's all about personal choice- lets Live and Let Live!!

[@crissiluveslife3802]

I’m sick of the level courses 😂

[@thisgirlisfancy]

With all due respect, I just think you missed her point. And you don’t have to “watch it”, I know I do NOT watch or expose myself intentionally to this phony aesthetic however, the ads and the promotion are everywhere. Im rarely on social media and yet I still see it a lot. I remember a pre-social media world, and it was much more refreshing listening to others’ experiences or seeing their pictures organically rather than now to prove something as most do. Of course, I do think people should make their lives comfortable for them but nowadays everything has an agenda behind it and no one has their own personality/life path anymore. We’re not learning one another. People are just following what they see. Wanting to fit in, sort to speak. I don’t see her telling people what to upload, just being real about the influence of passive aggressive agendas. Of course, live and let live…that goes both ways.😊

[@EvieAswiti]

Pedestrians do have right of way 😉 Thanks for watching.

[@EvieAswiti]

This was a very thoughtful and gracious take. Thank you so much. 🫶🏾

[@EvieAswiti]

Omg not the courses 😹

[@TikaRose222]

People share information to help themselves and other people, very smart allow it to become the normal reality; you will be seeing alot of this, because for so long people have been able to gatekeep information, feel shame for wanting more, even guilty for putting themselves first... I love seeing women express themselves in a way that's not harmful by way of belittling themselves for other's trash validation.... Women should definitely be inlove with themselves, have boundaries, live amazing healthy lifestyles...

[@LifestyleArmyWife]

So agreed 👌🏽 I truly don’t understand what was the point of making this kind of video… There are other things that hurt our image in THIS isn’t one of them. 🙄

[@ismalaz9448]

I knew there was something off with that trend but didnt quite know what it was. YES, QUEEN. THIS IS WHAT IT WAS.

[@EvieAswiti]

See, you get it!

[@sunpi]

soft life isnt about money/

[@alexandriahaynes5943]

Everything YOU said is so relatable. Unpopular opinion or not. This is me to a tee. I move in silence I don't need you to know what I am wearing, what I'm doing and how I'm moving. Just know I'm put together and I embrace self care and I do my best to attain it.

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you! I’m glad you get it

[@ellasabe6377]

The definition has certainly changed over generations: back in my day it meant following principles of uncluttered simplicity, with a slower, more poetic approach to life, filled with beauty, peace, joy, and simple pleasures.

[@EvieAswiti]

I love that!

[@tahneeshanicole7015]

bragging about a life that you are not truly living in essence..period lol

[@EvieAswiti]

Yes! PERIOSO 🎀

[@drc4168]

Ignore the defensive comments below. Every word you've said is absolutely spot on! ❤

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you so much. 😊

[@chrisjohnson5011]

Just watching this and it’s giving counter cultural and I’m LOVING IT!😉

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you! the girlies were mad about this one

[@sylmanyeki9323]

I resonate with your content in your videos!! Btw, what’s your opinion on black girl luxury? Im not hating on anyone, I’m just genuinely curious

[@EvieAswiti]

Hey! Here’s an older video I did on it: the girls who get it, get it: black girl luxury chit chat kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmnHhYqVjKpqi7M

[@BellaFontella]

Hi, questions for you. What definition are you using for “soft life?” I heard you say a few words, but not a studied, researched definition. Do you think that social media can be a teaching tool? As everyone isn’t bragging? Lastly, have you thought about what brought someone to the lifestyle? People who have had a very hard life and moving away from struggle. I am doing research on this, and you have a right to your opinion, but it seems narrow and privileged. Maybe people have skewed what soft life is, but escaping horrible work situations or relationships to please yourself and seek peace isn’t tacky. Let’s chat? It is marketed toward black women because of what we have been through… collectively. But maybe you haven’t? Whew 😰 you’re blessed. I think your algorithm has your view narrowed, which is possible!

[@user-jl2mg1ei4x]

I’m happy you gave thorough explanations of “soft life.” I thought it was the same as “slow/slower living.” Great video! 🧘🏽‍♀️

[@EvieAswiti]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@muta_othernames]

Saw the title, and liked

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you love 💕

[@JMilansJourney]

This is exactly how I feel at this point about all of this “soft life” stuff. Spot on! And I definitely I don’t like the lack of individuality now days which is why I am off social media. I sometimes feel like I’m living in the “Stepford Wives” movie 🤣😩

[@EvieAswiti]

hahaha not ‘Stepford Wives’ 😭😭😭😭💀

[@only1dwill]

OMG YOU ARE HILARIOUS!!! 😂☠️🤣 Thank You for not deleting the intro!

[@EvieAswiti]

Haha thank you doll

[@NavadineAntoinette]

I really resonate with the way you think . I enjoyed this video thoroughly. It was a great video idea, and valid points were made. (Unless I’m hearing the word wrong ‘abode= house/home’ 💕

[@EvieAswiti]

Lol! “In my humble abode” - I say that a lot as a figure of speech to be extra

[@EvieAswiti]

I am happy that you spent the time to resonate with this.

[@NavadineAntoinette]

@@EvieAswiti apologies 🥴❤️🙈thanks for not taking it personal

[@EvieAswiti]

oh no not at all

[@Free2rimeanytime]

Mam what are you not allowed to talk about on KZbin @ the 12 minute mark 👀 I feel so similar to how you do. I feel like I would be called a hater for saying what you did, so, thank you!

[@EvieAswiti]

Lol, thank you and and you cannot talk about selling on YT. Also, if a hit dog who hollers calls you a hater, so be it! 😂

[@pamelajordan7339]

Great video

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you!

[@moniqueh79]

Good topic..

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you!

[@ElledotOh]

You are a breath of fresh air!

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you love!

[@everythingispolitics6526]

I'm sure you've probably been told this several times but goodness me, you look like Kelly Rowland.

[@EvieAswiti]

I get told this ALL the time! 🤣 So you’re right. Thank you!

[@joyceharvey410]

You're on point here. 🙌🏾

[@EvieAswiti]

I’m glad you think so 🤗 appreciate you for watching!

[@lux_atl]

I love your channel.

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you doll! Means a lot.

[@samaranova05]

soft life is just another form of consumerism

[@alexisonthebeat2438]

I was so happy to see this video

[@EvieAswiti]

I’m glad! Thanks for watching

[@TikaRose222]

10:15 The other's are claiming it too and getting top views for repackaged, re-branded niches. They're inspired...

[@theconfidentwoman3023]

Love this video

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you boo!

[@apmg924]

Agreed.

[@Denise-wj4yy]

😅😅😅😂😂 I lovei❤

[@joelleweir9535]

11:59 you said soft life originated from something else?🤔 can you speak more about that?

[@EvieAswiti]

escorting allegedly

[@MelanatednNature]

😮​@@EvieAswiti

[@Cristiquirr]

❤️❤️ More videos please

[@EvieAswiti]

You got it!

[@alyxxa6182]

“Humble abode” means “a modest home.” NOT an opinion. It’s also not “Flewed”, it’s “flew”, and “flown”, etc. Please look up the meaning of words/ and proper use before using them. It makes one look ignorant and tacky. In my humble opinion.

[@lavishgirl]

Well someone you listen too or look up too use these very sayings!

[@fallemblem]

@@lavishgirl it's to not too

[@apmg924]

@alyxx6182 girl… these are sayings that have gone viral lol relax

[@lavishgirl]

@@fallemblem who gives a flying fkck

[@Msimportant1111]

My definition soft life is working from home having extra time to go to the spa 🧖‍♂️ go to brunch during work week. Paying a cleaning service or organization company to keep your house in order. Paying restaurant to Carter food for you so you don’t have to cook and meal prep

[@MelanatednNature]

Bingo