Dr. Krakower gives his unfiltered (and unapologetic) opinion to Carmella - and the audience - reminding her of what type of person Tony essentially is: a depressed criminal prone to anger.
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@shrapnel773 жыл бұрын
This guy provided more help to Carmela in one session than Melfi did to Tony the entire series.
@jameshawk24702 жыл бұрын
Melfi was entertaining herself with Tony. Whether she knew it or not. Once she realized tho that she was making tony a better criminal with her “therapy” they parted ways.
@evanlee66442 жыл бұрын
You can't treat sociopathy lmao, idk why you're surprised
@DemonofLight802 жыл бұрын
Melfi didn’t entirely quit Tony until she caught herself just before she ordered a hit. That’s when she realized how HE was affecting HER.
@dylanshackleton16082 жыл бұрын
Good point@@evanlee6644 . Like Tony would last one session with this guy. He'd have a temper tantrum after 2 minutes and never come back.
@paulgilbert25062 жыл бұрын
To be fair, its probably FAR easier to help Carmela than Tony.
@RedBricksTraffic3 жыл бұрын
I love the brutal, unapologetic honesty of a wise old man.
@foxibot3 жыл бұрын
@@tommysoprano1441 is that a line from the show? Or your own life? If it’s your life, then decide if you love the person you are cheating on, and try your best to think what you would feel if she or he was doing the cheating, think if she or whoever loves you, how would feel if you hurt her, destroyed her trust, and remember she is gonna lose faith in you, & she will not see or look at you as them man she loved she or thought loved her. I was told “he took the light out of your eyes, what a sad day that was, when my best friend who knows me said that, sad for me! Can you live with that disappointment when she looks at you, even if she forgives you and takes you back? Can you leave with the light that was in her eyes being gone, when she tells you she loves you or shows you love, and you aren’t the man she loves anymore, if you can then it’s time to maybe leave and let her find someone who won’t cheat and can love her the way she loves you. Because once she finds out even if she forgives you, things won’t be the same, she won’t be happy, so either quit doing it or get counseling and leave your lover, or move on with your lover. It all comes down to how would you feel if she knew, how would she look at you, & how would you feel if she was doing what you did. She deserves better if she is a decent person, not perfect but decent. Me I can’t hurt anyone like that, even though I can tell you that for the most part my fiancé has been pretty good. I have told him that I long ago i repeatedly warned him I was not his trophy to be paraded around or his damsel in distress because I am sick, (don’t ask for kudos for doing the things people do everyday for loved ones) and that if he lied to me about being able to handle my issues, when I had warned him then I refuse to feel guilty because he lied. And that the light in my eyes and joy in me and love is quickly being drained, and if he does not get himself together and tell me the truth, I have no choice. If he’s honest then tells me he lied, and gets help I can work with him, but it better be soon. And cheating was never negotiable, so I am talking about the mental part of the lie that has exhausted me. He’s worn me out even though he does many many sweet things, I don’t care about what he bought, he knows what I am saying but HE wants me to lie to him and I won’t. I deserve the best, I have had the worst because people lied, and deceived then begged for forgiveness, robbing me of precious time, and joy! He was warned, so when I walk away I won’t apologize even though he has done some nice things, I told him what I needed. I never lied. He can never said I did not tell him.
@gastonbell1083 жыл бұрын
Psychologists and psychiatrists are specifically supposed to avoid moral judgments on their patients. Like Melfi, it's supposed to be all about making them happier and more day-to-day functional. Unfortunately, as Melfi learns only too late, that makes you an enabler of their behavior - you're simply making them a better criminal. This scene was well-deserved and much needed, but IRL the shrink would never have expressed his opinions so openly. If he didn't want to see Carmela, he'd simply wait until the last minute of the appointment then say "I'm sorry, but I'm unable to accept you as a client" and refuse to take her calls anymore.
@thecancelling28703 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. Also, few priests who do marriage counseling would advise a woman to change a psychopath. The Church is strong on marriage but it's not stupid on this issue at all, at least not now.
@passiveaggressivenegotiato80873 жыл бұрын
yeah, wise for not wanting a billing record with her
@MarkT17003 жыл бұрын
I want him to be my therapist
@duncanidaho21303 жыл бұрын
"How's that going?" Killed all further arguments.
@beastdclxvi59593 жыл бұрын
They should have kept him on the show!
@N-wordScissorhands3 жыл бұрын
@@beastdclxvi5959 I think he has the perfect amount of time on screen.
@ShreeNation3 жыл бұрын
@@beastdclxvi5959 he died shortly after.
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
It was actually an excellent line. Here, he gives credit and opportunity to the priest and Carmella's religion and without being condescending or judgmental, he makes Carmella see that she did in fact try her priests suggestion but it did not work. So now she MUST try something different.
@billballinger56222 жыл бұрын
@@retroguy9494 Yea this scene is amazing. We need clearer honest thinkers like that. Dude reminded me of Thomas Sowell
@pjg197517 жыл бұрын
Just when we were rooting for the crew, along comes Dr. Krakower to remind both Carmella...and the audience...of who exactly these people really are.
@sherene77 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@stretch903 жыл бұрын
The show always did that. Every time you started to empathize with them the writers would remind you that they're horrible people.
@AbdulGabagool833 жыл бұрын
Amen, everyone talking about Carmella's reality check, it was as much to give us one
@Schrodinger_3 жыл бұрын
This was the episode after Tracee. I'm not sure the rafters were filled with the crew's fans at this point.
@ccgbassandmore33 жыл бұрын
@Leif H lol what's that supposed to mean
@SaudiHaramco3 жыл бұрын
Krakower: "i'm not charging you because i won't take blood money" Melfi: "..."
@lurk79673 жыл бұрын
he is simply imposing his own morality now I know we all know Tony Soprano is far from a good person But people like this doctor want a world without crime and that may sound good to a lot of people on paper but with the world without crime we wouldn't have any drugs anything illegal that people enjoy such as driving cars spirited etc More so Tukwila, Goldman's 1913s a anarchism what it really stands for people that hold the Lauper to a gold standard and truly believe that no law should ever be broken I want the world and the people that inhabit it to be the equivalent of a flock of sheep walking down a straight path with two high walls on other side Harley obedient if you really think about it that is how we are in this world Referring to the American government, the greatest American Anarchist, David Thoreau, said: "Government, what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instance losing its integrity; it has not the vitality and force of a single living man. Law never made man a whit more just; and by means of their respect for it, even the well disposed are daily made agents of injustice." Indeed, the keynote of government is injustice. With the arrogance and self-sufficiency of the King who could do no wrong, governments ordain, judge, condemn, and punish the most insignificant offenses, while maintaining themselves by the greatest of all offenses, the annihilation of individual liberty. Thus Ouida is right when she maintains that "the State only aims at instilling those qualities in its public by which its demands are obeyed, and its exchequer is filled. Its highest attainment is the reduction of mankind to clockwork. In its atmosphere all those finer and more delicate liberties, which require treatment and spacious expansion, inevitably dry up and perish. The State requires a taxpaying machine in which there is no hitch, an exchequer in which there is never a deficit, and a public, monotonous, obedient, colorless, spiritless, moving humbly like a flock of sheep along a straight high road between two walls." Yet even a flock of sheep would resist the chicanery of the State, if it were not for the corruptive, tyrannical, and oppressive methods it employs to serve its purposes. Therefore Bakunin repudiates the State as synonymous with the surrender of the liberty of the individual or small minorities,--the destruction of social relationship, the curtailment, or complete denial even, of life itself, for its own aggrandizement. The State is the altar of political freedom and, like the religious altar, it is maintained for the purpose of human sacrifice. In fact, there is hardly a modern thinker who does not agree that government, organized authority, or the State, is necessary only to maintain or protect property and monopoly. It has proven efficient in that function only. Even George Bernard Shaw, who hopes for the miraculous from the State under Fabianism, nevertheless admits that "it is at present a huge machine for robbing and slave-driving of the poor by brute force." This being the case, it is hard to see why the clever prefacer wishes to uphold the State after poverty shall have ceased to exist. Unfortunately, there are still a number of people who continue in the fatal belief that government rests on natural laws, that it maintains social order and harmony, that it diminishes crime, and that it prevents the lazy man from fleecing his fellows. I shall therefore examine these contentions. Search Emma Goldman.anarchism what is really stands for on google.for the rest
@MagnumTriumph3 жыл бұрын
@@lurk7967 Normally I don't read tl;dr comments. But this was ok :)
@thugmonk98373 жыл бұрын
Silly old man. All money is blood money
@jarmonjohnson3 жыл бұрын
@@lurk7967 I apologize if this sounds ignorant to you, but I understand your criticisms of government and agree with most of them. The problem is whenever I have a conversation with some with anarchist political beliefs we end up agreeing on the flaws of certain economic models and government institutions, but I've never heard of an anarcho alternative that sounded realistic and reasonable to me.
@chadwells75623 жыл бұрын
@@lurk7967 This is way too insightful an analysis to be stuck in a KZbin video. Thanks.
@Poopscipade3 жыл бұрын
Her reaction to merely hearing the word "mafia," said bluntly, with no varnish, instead of the usual "this thing" or "this business" is so fucking great. Just that one word was enough to obliterate the walls of denial and justification she built up around her for so many years, just for that one instance. And it scared the living hell out of her. Brilliant writing elevated to even greater heights by flat-out superb acting.
@ignaciogodoy70953 жыл бұрын
She was shock for something that was all over the news, books, and tv.
@lemankurtz89502 жыл бұрын
Yeah, but they're just "Jersey Mob"
@bostontowny4life7442 жыл бұрын
Wrong. No one says “the Mafia” because it’s not really called “the mafia” in America. It’s called La Cosa Nostra, which literally means “This thing of ours”. That’s not trying to be all comfy and “in denial” about it, that’s what it’s literally called. The feds and the police are the ones who call it “the mafia”. The only “mafia” is in Sicily. That’s who actually invented the word Mafia. The Mafia is Sicilian thing. There are other “mafia” like organizations throughout Italy. In Naples it’s The Camorra, in Calabria it’s called “Ndrangheta”, in Venice it’s called the “Mala Del Brenta”, Apulia has the “Safra Corona Unita”. There’s a different organized crime group al throughout Italy, but only in Sicily is it “the Mafia”. At first, back in the early days, 1800’s to the first half of the 1900’s, The American Cosa Nostra was more of an extension to the Sicilian Mafia. It was started by Sicilians and only Sicilians were allowed to join, and both of your parents had to be traced directly back to Sicily. The only early guy they let join the commission was Al Capone, and Capone didn’t even want to be apart of it at first because he wasn’t Sicilian, he was Neapolitan. After time went by, after around the mid 1950’s, they started allowing non-Sicilians join. That’s when America became its own thing and operated separately, and completely different from the Sicilian Mafia. Nowadays you don’t even have to be full Italian to become a made man. You have to be at least half Italian and it has to run through your fathers side. Meaning If you’re Italian, but through your mother’s side, you can’t join (Idk don’t ask, maybe it’s because the last name? Idk). So yes, it’s not called “the Mafia” in America, at least not by wise guys, because it’s not exactly Mafia. To everyone else, “Mafia” just means any organized crime group. To Italians in the street “Mafia” strictly means the group in Sicily.
@bostontowny4life7442 жыл бұрын
How do I know this? My father and uncle are made men. My uncle is on his 12th year on a RICO down in Coleman max federal prison down in Florida. My father was allowed to retire after he did 10 years. Now, believe it or not, my father is a changed and good man. He helps me manage my dog walking, dog training, pet sitting and boarding business up here in New England (not going to say exactly where). My parents live 1 block away from my own family and I’s house. Honestly, I couldn’t ask for a better way to live. My father is finally happy after 6 decades of hell working for a family (won’t say exactly which).
@gladysmueller50622 жыл бұрын
@@bostontowny4life744 quality posts
@ovskii962 жыл бұрын
"Probably the least of his misdeeds." I love how he's calling out Carmela for her self-centeredness. She's whining about Tony cheating on her, yet he's done so much worse that she never says anything about. To other people.
@TunaSubAlert Жыл бұрын
@@akshaynatu1084 one character that comes to mind who didn't deserve Tony's power trip was the cop who pulled him over. Tony promptly got him fired, found out the guy suffers from depression like himself, considered getting him his job back, but decides against it out of his own pride. He even goes to taunt the poor guy at his new job and tries to make him take his money so tony can free himself of his guilt for getting him fired.
@whatamidoingeatingsushi2677 Жыл бұрын
@@akshaynatu1084 But Tony didn’t kill or hurt any of them for the sake of justice. Not even Ralph. I remember after they killed Ralph and dispose of the body, Christopher and Tony were at the Bing and when Tony woke up, he looks at the picture of Tracy. And I thought that was an amazing scene. Tony looks at Tracy showing that he is excusing himself by saying to himself what he did was a good thing because Ralph is a horrible man who murdered a 20-year-old single mother. That makes him feel like he has morals. But in reality, he just killed a made guy over a horse. Not only that, Ralph killed the horse only for money when his child had just become a vegetable. If Tony had killed Ralph after he killed Tracy, then he can say to himself “hey you know what, I did a good thing.” Only that isn’t the case, he killed Ralph because of a horse and his own mental issues. Which is inexcusable both in mafia morals and regular people's morals.
@tony020480 Жыл бұрын
@@whatamidoingeatingsushi2677 “She’s a beautiful innocent creature! What’d she ever do to you?” I’d like to think he had Tracy in mind, but I know he didn’t. He really did kill him over a horse.
@Inbraneinthememsane Жыл бұрын
@@akshaynatu1084 the crooked politician did no less deserve it
@Rabithebengali Жыл бұрын
best comment
@purplesword43948 жыл бұрын
Carmella was never leaving that life of relative luxury for lesser financial circumstances.
@MultiEvil857 жыл бұрын
purple sword I think the psychiatrist knew that secretly.
@Mickieshelton6 жыл бұрын
MultiEvil85 we all did
@WestIndianAK4 жыл бұрын
Notice right before he said "Probably the least of his misdeeds," she said "So what? So what? He betrays me every week with these whores!" *THAT'S* the only aspect of Tony's lifestyle that she has a problem with. Not the human suffering he causes.
@ShaneSpear023 жыл бұрын
As soon as she said the word "apartment" it was over. Just like Chrissy seeing that family at the gas station, it broke them.
@NightsChapterSeven3 жыл бұрын
Relative? Dining out in fancy restaurants on a near daily basis is the definition of luxury
@joshamaya1962 жыл бұрын
"Take only the children, what's left of them, and go". Man did he hit the nail on the head with Meadow and AJ.
@Marvin-dg8vj2 жыл бұрын
It is a brilliant line. I grew up with no empathy .You learn from damaged and corrupt people.It is so hard to break free from that .It is burned into your soul.
@DigitalZiggurat3 жыл бұрын
He was honest with her. She didn't go there for honesty.
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
True
@steverogers76012 жыл бұрын
He saw right through her bullsht lol
@lucasrackley2502 жыл бұрын
We all say we like and want honesty until we actually receive it.
@steverogers76012 жыл бұрын
@@lucasrackley250 I mean, getting honest feedback sometimes “hurts” or is uncomfortable, or is unexpected, or is uncalled for at times but I will say that more often than not, I did appreciate it AFTERWARDS when someone told me I was being too nice or if I had a piece of broccoli stuck in my teeth, or if I didn’t approach a challenge at work properly or in an understanding manner. Many folks may not like it or appreciate it at the moment, but I don’t know too many folks who didn’t appreciate getting more insight into what they weren’t aware of before.
@SongOfChaos12 жыл бұрын
@@steverogers7601 It all comes down to the delivery. Honesty without compassion is brutality.
@ikazukison23 жыл бұрын
"So you're saying that I need to keep some distance, stop internalizing . . . " "Dafuq did I just say?"
@walterlv013 жыл бұрын
Right? He said nothing even resembling any of that. Clearly she went to "therapy" to hear that sort of typical jargon so she could twist it into a justification in her own mind of what she does and reassure herself that a therapist "agrees" with her outlook. This guy blew that strategy clear out of the water. Which is why the next time we see her she's at home in the fetal position on her couch.
@vasvas89143 жыл бұрын
"Did I stutter?!"
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
@@walterlv01 He was a damn good therapist.
@SakariHapponen2 жыл бұрын
@@vasvas8914 Man of culture
@CrownOfTheTown11 жыл бұрын
Some forms of Sociopathy include empathy and kindness. It can be reserved for mothers, family, pets, etc. It all depends on the class and degree. Sociopathy is known for a strong lack of empathy, not a complete loss of it. Psychopathy is a term usually used for a person with Zero empathy and complete criminal irritability, and lack of control. It's safe to say that Tony had the makings of a Sociopath, but he never had the makings of a varsity athlete. Small hands was his problem.
@hazardeur4 жыл бұрын
Shineopathy is a term usually used for a person with Zero empathy towards other shineboxes, and lack of control of his own shinebox. It's safe to say that Tony had the makings of a Sociopath, but he never had the makings of a varsity shiner. Small hands was his problem.
@uglymikethethird23413 жыл бұрын
Not going to lie you had us for the half there.
@StopFlaggingVideos3 жыл бұрын
i hate being taken along for a ride like that. have your fucking upvote
@foxibot3 жыл бұрын
Hazardeur Lol.
@joed98493 жыл бұрын
Fucking got me 🤣
@karenabsadie10 жыл бұрын
One of the best scenes in the entire series. Amazing acting from Edie Falco. This guy tells it to her straight, cuts through all the defenses she's perfected and you see her going back to into them with her " you think I should draw clearer boundaries, not internalize," and he brings it right back to her with his "what did I just say? Leave him," and you can see the shock on her face. Love his parting words to her, "one thing you can never say is that you haven't been told."
@MrLamotta869 жыл бұрын
just another example of the amazing screenwriting in Sopraonos
@joee29699 жыл бұрын
MrLamotta86 That, yes - and also the amazing lack of authenticity where anything medical was concerned. I loved The Sopranos, but my one big beef was the gross inaccuracy of every single medical situation, from Uncle Junior's surgical odyssey to Tony's "squaw-moose" skin cancer. This is a classic example; a real psychiatrist would never breach therapeutic neutrality like that. I understand that it was a TV show, and the writers had only 4 minutes to portray Krakower attempting to penetrate Carmella's many defenses; but they could have hired a medical consultant, who would have immediately said, "No! No shrink would ever be do it that way. And that's not how you pronounce 'adenocarcinoma', or how a skin cancer is removed ... " and on, and on. With all the trouble that David Chase went to, to make everything as authentic as possible, it's amazing that he didn't care whether the medical information was accurate or not.
@almuslim23467 жыл бұрын
Joe E what david chase has shown here is a psychiatrist who has become fed up with what psychiatric therapy has become and the results of it show themselves across america.. This wise old man has over stepped the conventional method and told her as it is...and at the end he says at least you haven't been told.. David chase was breaking grounds and even in this scene he has shown that americans have become too soft and politically correct.. Any how carmela only saw rhis guy once...melfi was the one who was working on the proper guide lines.....and what was the result there....
@carlastaton41507 жыл бұрын
Good points. Melfi is actively if at first unwittingly enabling and encouraging Tony, whereas Dr Krakower gives his personal advice. He knows he won't see her again.
@foxibot3 жыл бұрын
al muslim I agree. We have many people all over the world in “therapy” for years instead of getting them to make healthy choices, & break dysfunctional relationships. All original sin is is crazy dysfunction taught to other generations. People go to church, synagogue mosque, Buddha instead of breaking those nasty habits. We can still have empathy but we got to be straight with people. Dang my mentor wanted me to practice, this is making me think I may give it a go. If I can direct patients to getting healthy, instead of keeping them coming to me. It’s ok to check on once in awhile but I am astonished by people that go for years with no progress.
@annaelisavettavonnedozza96072 жыл бұрын
Carmela’s tears dry up real quick when Tony gives her jewelry & cars 😂
@deathbastardable2 жыл бұрын
"It's a Cayenne. Like the peppah."
@spiderrico18532 жыл бұрын
T always knew when to provide...
@ikemotosystems14342 жыл бұрын
The butter not melting in her mouth, whatever happened there...
@johnnyvonjoe2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what Tony meant during all their arguments and clearly he wasn't wrong either lol
@CheerfullyCynical829 Жыл бұрын
Her tears dry up TEMPORARILY. Then they flow like a river when she's lying in bed next to Tony's fat a$$ who is snoring away like a freight train after eating three big plates of Rigatoni washed down with a few glasses of red wine. "What the fuck kind of life have I settled for?" is Carmela's thought every night. While she fantasizes about Furio.
@62SG7 жыл бұрын
"Take only the children, what's left of them, and go." What's left of them, as in what of them hasn't been corrupted by Tony.
@carlastaton41507 жыл бұрын
It is already too late by then.
@Mickieshelton6 жыл бұрын
James Fielding that was why Carmella was never innocent. She let her daughter be subjected to that life and money...it was all fucked up.
@goodplenty5343 жыл бұрын
Only Meadow had any sense at this point. She had an independent streak and questioned Tony. AJ was already ruined from being so spoiled he wouldnt make it if his survival depended on hid willingness to work. By the ene of the series, Meadow was a full apologist for Tony, engaged to another mobsters son, becoming a lawyer to defend people like Tony by trade. AJ who after all of his fuck ups, was given a good job by his dad and after burning his suv was seen driving a new beamer and as we all know with Carmela, she realized she couldnt do it on her own, all it took was Tony buying a spec house and she could live high on the hog still.
@ehsaankhan70783 жыл бұрын
@@goodplenty534 yupp, not only a mobsters son, but a guy who was on track to be in that life as well, kind of already doing small crimes
@jimrockfish18753 жыл бұрын
@@ehsaankhan7078 Finn? Son of a mobster? Small crimes? I missed that part.
@dbrjaxfl7 жыл бұрын
One thing you can never say - that you haven't been told.
@reubena78543 жыл бұрын
Could be the most brutal sentence in the show when you think about it
@aghadmtl3 жыл бұрын
They’ve been told. Twice. Now I’ll tell em
@prairie_dog_54433 жыл бұрын
Yep
@Gemmarose90123 жыл бұрын
Of course it won’t stop her from playing the victim in it all.
@vegetavsgoku23 жыл бұрын
So powerful and so true.
@jmad718 жыл бұрын
One of the most subtle, complex, convicting and powerful scenes in the entire series. I think about this one all the time.
@mikefingers89096 жыл бұрын
it wasn't subtle. it was as blunt as can be.
@tchoupitoulos4 жыл бұрын
@@mikefingers8909 Seriously subtle as a sledgehammer. "I won't take blood money, and neither should you."
@gregaroivadilinovich2803 жыл бұрын
”Take only the children - what’s left of them” Greatest line in the series
@cogen6513 жыл бұрын
Why would you think about it all the time, you in the mob
@TraumaER3 жыл бұрын
@@cogen651 we all can’t grow up in fantasies.
@rambojohnj.61176 жыл бұрын
This guy deserves a raise from whoever pays his paycheck. “Enabler would be more of an accurate job description of you than an accomplice.”
@NightsChapterSeven3 жыл бұрын
He says “neighbor” not enabler
@rambojohnj.61173 жыл бұрын
@@NightsChapterSeven Try again. He says “enabler”, and “enabling” Tony makes perfect sense, as opposed to being his “accomplice.” “Neighbor”, which he does not say, doesn’t make sense.
@detectiveh73993 жыл бұрын
Enabler
@vijays2963 жыл бұрын
@@NightsChapterSeven he says enabler
@vijays2963 жыл бұрын
@@josephpalacio2343 enabler would be a more accurate job description than accomplice. A neighbour would be a more accurate job description than accomplice. The first comparison makes sense and the second doesn't in this context. Besides you can hear the L too
@mightymate96508 жыл бұрын
"Probably the least of his misdeeds." How's that going?
@rayjr624 жыл бұрын
Man, was that deep.
@foxibot3 жыл бұрын
mighty mate lol. Love this character, I met real psychiatrist’s like this. He is great. And I wish this for every patient!
@lurk79673 жыл бұрын
It's line like that make this guy a pretty terrible doctor to his patients at least in a realistic this show is very he is simply imposing his own morality now I know we all know Tony Soprano is far from a good person But people like this doctor want a world without crime and that may sound good to a lot of people on paper but with the world without crime we wouldn't have any drugs anything illegal that people enjoy such as driving cars spirited etc More so Tukwila, Goldman's 1913s a anarchism what it really stands for people that hold the Lauper to a gold standard and truly believe that no law should ever be broken I want the world and the people that inhabit it to be the equivalent of a flock of sheep walking down a straight path with two high walls on other side Harley obedient if you really think about it that is how we are in this world Referring to the American government, the greatest American Anarchist, David Thoreau, said: "Government, what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instance losing its integrity; it has not the vitality and force of a single living man. Law never made man a whit more just; and by means of their respect for it, even the well disposed are daily made agents of injustice." Indeed, the keynote of government is injustice. With the arrogance and self-sufficiency of the King who could do no wrong, governments ordain, judge, condemn, and punish the most insignificant offenses, while maintaining themselves by the greatest of all offenses, the annihilation of individual liberty. Thus Ouida is right when she maintains that "the State only aims at instilling those qualities in its public by which its demands are obeyed, and its exchequer is filled. Its highest attainment is the reduction of mankind to clockwork. In its atmosphere all those finer and more delicate liberties, which require treatment and spacious expansion, inevitably dry up and perish. The State requires a taxpaying machine in which there is no hitch, an exchequer in which there is never a deficit, and a public, monotonous, obedient, colorless, spiritless, moving humbly like a flock of sheep along a straight high road between two walls." Yet even a flock of sheep would resist the chicanery of the State, if it were not for the corruptive, tyrannical, and oppressive methods it employs to serve its purposes. Therefore Bakunin repudiates the State as synonymous with the surrender of the liberty of the individual or small minorities,--the destruction of social relationship, the curtailment, or complete denial even, of life itself, for its own aggrandizement. The State is the altar of political freedom and, like the religious altar, it is maintained for the purpose of human sacrifice. In fact, there is hardly a modern thinker who does not agree that government, organized authority, or the State, is necessary only to maintain or protect property and monopoly. It has proven efficient in that function only. Even George Bernard Shaw, who hopes for the miraculous from the State under Fabianism, nevertheless admits that "it is at present a huge machine for robbing and slave-driving of the poor by brute force." This being the case, it is hard to see why the clever prefacer wishes to uphold the State after poverty shall have ceased to exist. Unfortunately, there are still a number of people who continue in the fatal belief that government rests on natural laws, that it maintains social order and harmony, that it diminishes crime, and that it prevents the lazy man from fleecing his fellows. I shall therefore examine these contentions. Search Emma Goldman.anarchism what is really stands for on google.for the rest
@heinrichvonwicker1683 жыл бұрын
@@lurk7967 Oooookay.....
@PayneLive2 жыл бұрын
@David Cat did you get that from somewhere? ;D
@alanzom15033 жыл бұрын
Her reaction when he says "the mafia"... it's like she tiptoed around it all her life and suddenly someone spits it out in her face.
@vasvas89143 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Denial as a way of life
@dtschuor4592 жыл бұрын
That and the way she moves her hand in dismissal of its truly criminal nature by saying, “organized crime” as though that makes it less awful than the more disorganized type… Good acting by Edie Falco. She truly understood Carmella Soprano.
@John-sr2hr Жыл бұрын
@@dtschuor459 yep. She always acts like people such as drug dealers are wayyyy worse than her husband, yet most dealers have probably never killed anyone and are actually rather "good hearted people". I've met a few dealers who were incredibly nice and caring people, they just needed more income and had little to no other means of getting it. Plus, without drug dealers we wouldn't have drugs. And idk about you but a LOT of people are fans of drugs. Without them there'd be a hell of a lot more angry, stressed out people in the world lol.
@dtschuor459 Жыл бұрын
@@John-sr2hr It sort of depends on the drugs…but yeah. Dealers aren’t a universal evil…there are predatory “lenders” who do it with the law on their side, and nobody refuses to invite them to a barbecue 🫢
@John-sr2hr Жыл бұрын
@@dtschuor459 yeah, the fent dealers and the violent pieces of shit who will kill you because you owe them $15 definitely aren't the nice ones I'm talking about lol
@cometface2 жыл бұрын
“One thing that you can never say, is that you’ve never been told.” Completely strips the mob wife of their immunity to guilt, regret and shame. Brilliant quote
@finarrykahn1310 жыл бұрын
This is the only responsible medicine administered in a shrink's office during the entire series. Sober her up to the immorality of her life, don't get her high on psychotropics or Freudian rationalizations of that life. Dr. Melfi should have perhaps listened to her mentor. Instead, therapeutic neutrality and her own fascination with treating a mafioso renders her precisely what Carmela is: one of many enablers of Tony.
@josephforte87366 жыл бұрын
That's her arc, though: at the end of the series, she finally realizes how futile it is to treat someone who has no intention of changing. Melfi had flaws, but she was capable of growth.
@petrichorjournal88664 жыл бұрын
Some fans have suggested this is a dream. Carmela subconsciously knows all these unmovable moral truths about her life, and projects them onto a vague preconception of a psychiatrist as an older Jewish man. When we next see her, seemingly depressed on the couch, its been read she's rhetorically positioning herself in a way that gets her what she wants. But perhaps she also just woke up.
@pendejo64668 жыл бұрын
I'd actually pay to see this doc.
@sumukhvaze71613 жыл бұрын
yes that is how therapists work
@pendejo64663 жыл бұрын
@@sumukhvaze7161 Not ALL therapists work like this.
@sergeantbean47623 жыл бұрын
@@sumukhvaze7161 what weed you smokin? Not all therapists are this brutally honest with they’re clients
@stevenspilly3 жыл бұрын
@Zip Zipperhead I actually don’t think this guy would in this situation, given it was her first session. Unless she decided to listen to him and leave Tony and pay for it with her own money. Bud he knows that she very likely won’t take his advice and even if she does she likely won’t be able to afford him. So either way it’s very unlikely he would be giving her ongoing therapy, so I think he would chalk this up as a free first consult.
@aneb.55293 жыл бұрын
He said in one session what other Doctors take ten years to say . Like pulling off a band- aid. No pussyfooting around with this Doc.
@jamesteegardner22733 жыл бұрын
"Take only the children, what's left of them, and go". That is a very powerful line to say to a mother. The fact that she heard that and still didn't listen proves that her character was just as bad as Tony's. Such great writing on this show.
@chrisweber60903 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t say as bad she was rotten for sure but tony was a sociopathic serial killer night and day
@BassssicBasssssssss3 жыл бұрын
How do so many fans of this show always miss the point and say dumb shit like this
@haydeng33163 жыл бұрын
@@BassssicBasssssssss care to elaborate?
@deathrager24043 жыл бұрын
she didnt give a shit about tony, aj or meadow. yet pretended she did.
@thewrongshoes3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisweber6090 she is almost as bad because she pretends to be offended by the stuff Tony does she wants to keep the lifestyle that comes with it
@deathbastardable3 жыл бұрын
The amount of times people got whacked on the Sopranos yet this was the most brutal murder of them all. The psych absolutely shattered her reality and called her on her bullshit more than Tony ever could.
@socomply59633 жыл бұрын
I love his “I’ve been married 31 years” I see it as a sly to Carmellas’ hypocritical excuse about not leaving tony due to the “sanctity of marriage”. His face when she tried to imply that he wouldn’t get it because he was Jewish. Ugh I love how often they remind you that Carmella is only in that situation because she wants to be.
@frannyy93092 жыл бұрын
She knew who he was when she married him. She’s such a hypocrite.
@KimPhilby2032 жыл бұрын
Love Jewish People...They have insight from years of suffering...
@aaronmiles28022 жыл бұрын
@@KimPhilby203 You mean like almost every other sect of people on earth?🤦🏾♂️🤣🤣
@hankster08782 жыл бұрын
she starts by making the point that he would not understand the commitment of marriage family.. etc... ive been married for 31 years.. "well then you know".......
@NothingToPointOut242 жыл бұрын
@@aaronmiles2802 Jews and blacks are the only people whose past suffering has become marketable..so in turn its the only ones people "care" about
@theserpent18932 жыл бұрын
“How’s that going” I almost died of laughter! the delivery was perfection
@stratonarrow5 ай бұрын
Yep. It’s the theme of the whole show.
@andrezinho2142 жыл бұрын
Everyone is focusing on the actual conversation, which is relevant, but I think an equally important aspect of this scene is the contrast with Dr Melfi’s sessions with Tony. The writers are showing us that she is an enabler and only keeps Tony as a patient because, in some level, she’s drawn to him. She only realizes that in the very end of the show!
@watermelonhead80542 жыл бұрын
i hated melfi, she was so selfish. the episode where she gets raped, she didnt tell tony so she could feel some sense of power and control. she allowed that guy to walk free and unharmed when she could have had him killed. anyone after that point he rapes is on her, and because she did it to feel in control i would argue she's no better than a rapist.
@davidgzesh8952 Жыл бұрын
good distinction, very little time used in developing subpoints like that in the show. Very economical.
@Bluemgwes Жыл бұрын
Precisely! This scene reveals so much to which the audience was oblivious to since we were also seduced by the charisma of Tony Soprano.
@gwell2118 Жыл бұрын
Not surprising, it was implied and even stated outright deep down Melfi knows Tony was a lost cause but kept seeing him because it created a sense of danger and thrill for her. Even her own therapist called out the fact that Melfi seems to derive a kind of almost perverse thrill at treating a mobster. Plus heavily implied sexual attraction to him.
@plaidchuck3 жыл бұрын
"If the truth can destroy something it deserves to be destroyed"
@UnoriginallyInclined6 жыл бұрын
Interesting how Carmela throws in that line "you'll charge me anyway". Just like Tony throwing cash at Melfi when they were disagreeing about something.
@Rutherford_Inchworm_III3 жыл бұрын
Carmela and Tony are strikingly similar in some regards - that's why they got married and it's why they're not divorced. They somehow both see themselves as self-elevated working-class Italians who are constantly victimized by the outside world so they're entitled to victimize it back. The famous "poor me". Carmela didn't earn a penny of that money yet she confirms 100% of what the Dr. is saying when she dismissively throws money at him - she's Tony's first moll, nothing more.
@hofx6663 жыл бұрын
That’s her way of trying to deceive that doctor into thinking she doesn’t want to be there and hear what he has to say, carm is very deceitful.
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
@@Rutherford_Inchworm_III Sadly, you're right. And I have knows several Italians who felt the same way. I'm talking about REAL working class Italians, not ones involved in criminal enterprise.
@Pogouldangeliwitz2 жыл бұрын
Every six months or so I come back to this scene. It's the heart of the whole show, the keystone of that gigantic arch.
@amileoj90432 жыл бұрын
Indeed.
@Mutasis_Mutandis2 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@compounding_gains Жыл бұрын
The precipice of an enormous crossroads
@TheRealTurkFebruary Жыл бұрын
Where’s my arch?
@rossyvizcarra1927 Жыл бұрын
I agree definitely
@funguy293 жыл бұрын
1:43 To Carmella, Tony’s infidelity is his only misdeed. She’s fine with the rest of it
@creepspilla3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely - this is because this is the only aspect that affects her personally. Carmella is fine with what Tony does because from a cultural standpoint, they use their Italian/Sicilian heritage to justify what their "family business" is. She is fine with what Tony does because it affords her a lifestyle she has become accustomed to - home maker, giant mansion, fur coats, jewelry, etc. If it weren't for Tony banging hooahs on the side her biggest problem would be chasing after Tony with a suit every time the local cops or FBI drag him away.
@funguy293 жыл бұрын
@@creepspilla Yes for all her moralistic BS she views the Law's treatment of Tony and the mafia as "Persecution" (her words).
@dimebag69963 жыл бұрын
I think Carmela is just totally in denial about the extent of Tony's violent crimes. Her life is a lot easier if she choses to believe the "illegal gambling and whatnot" explanations.
@histguy1013 жыл бұрын
@@dimebag6996 She's also fairly ignorant of the extent of his crimes, unless she researched mafia history. She's not a Karen Hill.
@funguy292 жыл бұрын
@@histguy101 Would knowing about them really make a difference to her ? There is no limit to how much denial one can live with. Everything from an Italian inventing the telephone to discovering America she lives in an echo chamber.
@m_recordz12 жыл бұрын
This is the best shrink ever.
@beastdclxvi59593 жыл бұрын
Jewish version of Dr. House!
@takerdust3 жыл бұрын
@@beastdclxvi5959 Instead of vicodin, he's hittin the Manischewitz.
@lucasrackley2502 жыл бұрын
America needs more like him. We may not like what he says. But we may thank him later.
@robertjohnson16022 жыл бұрын
This therapist is invaluable. He tells it like it is. Love how he ends it with saying " don't say you haven't been told"
@kolbeinngauti39712 жыл бұрын
Dr : " he's a Goodman , you tell me he is a depressed criminal, prone to anger serially unfaithful, and does not have the makings of a Varsity Athlete.. is that your definition of a good man ?"
@stevethomas22852 жыл бұрын
To be fair, I do have my soft drink of choice.
@bludiva272 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@rally_chronicles2 жыл бұрын
He probably doesn't even have a shinebox
@element7202 жыл бұрын
😆
@DeepScreenAnalysis14 жыл бұрын
This is arguably the crucial scene of the entire series.
@squeezycakes2 жыл бұрын
does anything change as a result of it?
@DeepScreenAnalysis2 жыл бұрын
@@squeezycakes let’s just say something festers in Carmela as a result of this session which comes out later on.
@rodrigomunoz9217 Жыл бұрын
last scene: tony and carmela meadow and aj sitting happy in a restaurant. this scene changed nothing
@Phil_Burton Жыл бұрын
@@squeezycakes No, but that's kind of the point. Carmela is just as addicted to the lifestyle as the rest of them, and so makes her choice to stay in it.
@no-barkthechosenone2436 Жыл бұрын
@@rodrigomunoz9217 wouldn’t exactly say that Carmella’s happy. More that she’s accepted that she’s in a shitty toxic relationship with a bad husband since that’s the only way she can make money, as she can’t be bothered to work for a living. AJ was manipulated into forgetting his dreams about joining the army into becoming a producer for Carmine Jr., who literally mainly does porn films. And Tony is a husk of his season 1-2 self, completely forgetting what it means to be a good man and father. Even though it depresses him, he still clings onto his family for pride
@Dan-ys8nk3 жыл бұрын
This scene is another example of why the Sopranos is a masterpiece. Dr. Krakower is a highly intelligent, wise, straightforward and principled man. He sees right through Carmella's bullshit and tells her straight to her face why her illusion is an illusion. Carmella wants to have her cake and eat it too. As we know now with the series over, Carmella made a choice to stay with Tony because of the $500 shoes and diamond rings as Tony pointed out in Season 5. Carmella made a decision to be Tony's accomplice and enabler in the pursuit of wealth and influence. This was a great cast and phenomenal story from beginning to end. Every actor on this show made this show special in every way. I am grateful to have grown up on this show and see real actors shine every Sunday night on HBO.
@MrTony-rx7tk2 жыл бұрын
“Take only the children, what’s left of them, and go” Fucking brutal
@kidddev77922 жыл бұрын
“Is that your definition, of a good man?” Always got me weak😂
@hiiichristinaa3713 жыл бұрын
This is what I love about The Sopranos: uncompromising. Cooperation with evil is on par with evil. The reference to Crime & Punishment is a killer!
@m4cheteaxt1093 жыл бұрын
Uncompromising? Phil compromised!
@hiiichristinaa3713 жыл бұрын
@@m4cheteaxt109 Hehe. Yes, but only because he had to!
@HammarHeart2 жыл бұрын
@@m4cheteaxt109 he did 20 fuckin years!
@slydEvil352 жыл бұрын
Crazy how different Melfi’s teachers philosophy was from hers. Tony would have beat the crap out of this guy if he was that blunt and honest.
@kinkubus742 жыл бұрын
Such a small part, but Dr. Krakower's scene is one of the most powerful, well-written in the entire series
@rebekah5183 жыл бұрын
“One thing you can never say, you haven’t been told.”
@clairestark90246 жыл бұрын
A simple honerable man who said it like it was, all the world ever needed.
@slackerZ12 жыл бұрын
"probably the least of his crimes." And "how's that going?" Are great.
@PR--un4ub2 жыл бұрын
misdeeds*
@reproshenkaMV3 жыл бұрын
I find it very ironic how Carmela actually judged the therapist with assuming about his Jewish beliefs. But then gets offended when he simply states the facts about Tony that she gives him and assumes he’s judging her and her family and status. Like she’s above it all because of the blood money... great scene.
@thereaction86482 жыл бұрын
I don’t think she’s offended _ just freaked out. As the guy himself implied, she’d never been told before.
@reproshenkaMV2 жыл бұрын
That’s just it. She knows what Tony does but is in love with the idea of high status. But blood money is tainted so she’s been exposed. So I can see where I can be both.
@samhurley72583 жыл бұрын
I wanted to get some work done today, but I compromised. I watched 37 sopranos clips by the radiator instead.
@user-wt2me2fe5t2 жыл бұрын
"We don't binge watch. It's embarrassing."
@stevethomas22852 жыл бұрын
@@user-wt2me2fe5t Well, if we do, it's not in shorts.
@georgevanhoose63332 жыл бұрын
Hey Phil: Were you ever in the can?
@reproshenkaMV3 жыл бұрын
“I’m not charging you, because I don’t take blood money. And you shouldn’t either.”
@gigidayz69363 жыл бұрын
SAVAGE!
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
WELL, she could at least take the part of Tony's income that was legitimate. He WAS a waste management consultant at Barone Sanitation. That's not blood money!
@stiofanloingsigh3512 жыл бұрын
Get a fucking job, sweetie.
@scottmatheson33462 жыл бұрын
*can't
@Elcore2 жыл бұрын
@@scottmatheson3346 Good correction - "can't" is the key word. He's not giving her advice on the right or best thing to do; he's saying it's impossible for Carm to continue accepting blood money if she wants to continue to exist as a person, which, given how things go in the final scene, is almost definitely true in one way or another.
@EKJ313_3 жыл бұрын
I wish Dr. Krakower had a recurring role!😂🤣 Edit: I found out Sully Boyar passed away 2 weeks before this episode aired. RIP DR. KRAKOWER
@jordanweller74853 жыл бұрын
I wonder if there was a plan for him to be recurring. Rest In Peace.
@danyramza81943 жыл бұрын
@James Hagan Watch "In Treatment" from HBO too
@beachmasterX3 жыл бұрын
He shoulda took the money
@_zigger_2 жыл бұрын
Rest in piss
@manny4414 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the upload. This is such a powerful dialogue. "One thing you can never say is that you haven't been told". Straight,no chaser.
@user-wt2me2fe5t2 жыл бұрын
"Probably the least of his mis-deeds." Dam! Brutal honesty!
@paulgilbert25062 жыл бұрын
The implied "yet its the one you care about the most" is quite an indictment of her.
@user-wt2me2fe5t2 жыл бұрын
@@paulgilbert2506 Well said.
@InfectedByZanza3 жыл бұрын
Carmella didnt want to go out there and get a real job
@sn91238 жыл бұрын
this guy was the best lol
@angelinahope54602 жыл бұрын
And she never follows the therapist's advice. The comfort of luxury and familiarity of privilege persuades her to stay, thus trapping her like a fly in a clear glass bottle. Brilliant writing
@hutch11972 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done. She was the boss' wife. He would have tracked her down, especially if she took the children. And he would make it his priority in life to destroy her, if not literally, then certainly figuratively. She was never escaping Tony, if she wanted to. So, she figured she may as well milk it for all she could. Not saying I felt sorry for her. She chose that life.
@koopasteve10 ай бұрын
Recurring theme in the show, people abandoning an honest, better life, for easy comfort and luxury, and in the end they all pay for it. Tony B, Vito, Carmela.
@didncozosksma44664 ай бұрын
Power enables corruption, wealth and influence is the most difficult drug to sober yourself from. No matter how miserable it makes you, you will never abandon it because your on top, and the view is nice.
@az_stan2 жыл бұрын
That cameo by "Dr. Krakower" was the sole voice of truth and morality in the entire series. It is fascinating that the entire series portrays the lives of the characters as a vast construct consisting of a complex yet tenuous web of immorality and lies, and it is all concisely exposed and summarized in a single moment of plain unadorned truthfulness.
@alexfall19893 жыл бұрын
“How’s that going” best bit
@rigfordthebarbarian28953 жыл бұрын
Carmella tries to pull the deer-in-the-headlights act with this guy, and he just verbally puts her down.
@RodneyDodson2 жыл бұрын
The man is brilliant. Gangsters and thugs are not something to be revered for anyone on a spiritual path of enlightenment. They are the spiritually decayed ogres of our world.
@owenb86363 жыл бұрын
Carmela had some nerve implying that the guy couldn't relate to her situation because he's not catholic. So disrespectful
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
You're very obviously not Catholic! And if you don't think the Jews do the exact same thing, you're sadly mistaken.
@stiofanloingsigh3512 жыл бұрын
Low-key racism is almost more insulting than full-blown-in-your-face racism.
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
@@stiofanloingsigh351 The problem is, people think racism is only against immigrants, blacks, Hispanics and Asians. Those of a certain age remember when discrimination against Jews AND Catholics was very much a thing here in America.
@socomply59632 жыл бұрын
@@retroguy9494 as a Catholic, there’s no excuse, and even the church sanctions divorces for infidelity, criminal involvement, etc. What Catholic Church are u referring to?
@retroguy94942 жыл бұрын
@@socomply5963 Oh no no no.....what Catholic church are YOU referring to????? As a Catholic myself, I am SHOCKED that you do not know that the Church never EVER sanctions divorce no matter WHAT the circumstances and never HAS sanctioned it. The very best one can hope for is an annulment. And infidelity by itself does NOT qualify for an annulment. It has to be something serious like being married to someone else at the same time and/or having a child with that person.
@samholder1962 жыл бұрын
this is what therapy should be -- brutal, honest, clear.
@joshuaizly55022 жыл бұрын
Notice how she was about to leave when the Dr. said that Tony cheating on her wasn't the worst thing her husband had done. She was expecting validation just like her priest, Furio and her "friends" had given her, not a reality check. At least she stayed long enough to be told what was the right thing to do and acknowledge that she choose herself to be in that toxic lifestyle.
@freaky_j22072 жыл бұрын
I love when she starts giving the standard BS therapy solutions and he cuts her off. Great scene.
@isabellamansfield99612 жыл бұрын
most important scene in the series. i love that he tells her tony needs to read crime and punishment. after this she went home and took a nap then let tony buy her dinner. choices!
@El_Crazyknight3 жыл бұрын
As others said, I love that this is a reminder not only to Carmela but to the audience that Tony isn't a hero we should be rooting for but a villain.
@hoopahtroopah3 жыл бұрын
This is the most professional roast I have ever seen
@troyott23343 жыл бұрын
This is one of the most powerful and utterly truthful scenes in the entire series.
@jgrothou2 жыл бұрын
Carmela is such a fraud.
@talkindurinthemovie10 жыл бұрын
Priest always give the worst advice. This guy though..this guy.
@user-dx8fk3tt3w6 жыл бұрын
smart jew
@rayjr624 жыл бұрын
Played by one absurdly underrated actor, the late Irving "Sully" Boyar. An amazing talent.
@foxibot3 жыл бұрын
Talkindurinthemovie priest is just as lost as Carmela from what I saw on his clip on YT with his movies and “whiff of sexuality”!
@Fochest0r3 жыл бұрын
I read "This guy though... this guy." in Silvio's voice.
@thecancelling28703 жыл бұрын
Totally disagree. I think many priests understand human nature and most have some understanding of psychology. A priest like Carmela has is kinda getting along. When I was 21 and was having a depressive episode and didn't realize it, it was a priest I spoke to and he gave me great advice, which was get help. Go to see a primary doctor and see if they can refer you to a psychiatrist. He understood stress had put my brain in a terrible bind and he had good advice. I thank him for that decades later.
@pbot20293 жыл бұрын
This is the slap of reality that the audience keeps forgetting for some reason. I loved the show but I found all of these characters loathsome, especially Tony. Great actors, great show, but these are not people you'd want to meet in any way shape or form. Maybe that's what makes them so appealing.
@djrychlak44432 жыл бұрын
That is beautifully stated. I share that opinion: I love the dance and hate the dancers. They are parasitical killers, liars, torturers, extortionists, thieves that make everyone else's lives damaged.
@Marvin-dg8vj2 жыл бұрын
But somehow we are made to feel something for these loathsome self deluded people by the quality of the writing and the quality of the acting. This is a high level achievement
@antoinelachapelle34052 жыл бұрын
I think it's similar to horror movies in a way. We watch them to feel the thrill of fear without the nasty consequences and trauma of it And in the sopranos or many of the classic gangster movies, it's like living vicariously through them, the idea of wealth, power, freedom, the secrecy of it all, the members only club type feeling, being on the margins of the law. It's almost like classic westerns in alot of way. Which I think dr Cusamano brings up at some dinner with Melfi actually
@mja913522 жыл бұрын
and maybe that's why we indulge in fiction because we don't want to meet the people in our lives?
@kathyduby81503 жыл бұрын
Genius writing, brilliant acting, what a series.
@heavenlywhite50713 жыл бұрын
I LOVE......LOVE this scene, the brutal honesty.....the stop the bs way he looked her. He knew she wouldn't leave him
@mortalclown38123 жыл бұрын
One of the most brilliant scenes in the series. This acting. Props. 🌟🌟🌟
@donplimo8 жыл бұрын
This is Season 3, episode 7. Dr. Krakow's character, phenomenal truth in acting!
@carsonkubicki17703 жыл бұрын
“How’s that going..?” Bam
@beastdclxvi59593 жыл бұрын
He’s the Jewish version of Dr. House!
@flightofthebumblebee95293 жыл бұрын
The way Carmella broke down at the mention of the word "mafia" shows her extreme denial.
@tomsurber22933 жыл бұрын
Breathtaking television. Perhaps one of the best scripted scenes in the history of the medium. Magnificent casting, acting, dialogue, direction and overall execution. Bravo!
@mja913522 жыл бұрын
As you have seen every scripted scene in the history of TV, what would be the second?
@VTown19893 жыл бұрын
When you're a mob wife who wants to play the "babe in the woods" routine while benefiting from their husband's crimes... but than an old school therapist straight up tells you the reality of the situation. Most just want to feel good about their bad behavior instead of actually fixing the problem.
@thee_morpheus2 жыл бұрын
He really snatched that hag down from her high horse
@stoneharper70382 жыл бұрын
“So enabler would be a more accurate job description for you then accomplice? My apologies” Yikes 😳
@GaigeGrosskreutzGunClub3 жыл бұрын
take only the children, what's left of them holy shit taking no prisoners
@oce19893 жыл бұрын
This scene led me to read Crime & Punishment, and it changed me forever.
@ChicagoIrishman2 жыл бұрын
Just wondering, how? Im thinking of reading it myself.
@djrychlak44432 жыл бұрын
Fyodor is the real deal. You made a wise choice.
@Marvin-dg8vj2 жыл бұрын
@@ChicagoIrishman we say sorry and apologize very easily these days .It has become a fashion accessory.
@elizabethallen43532 жыл бұрын
Her breakdown when he says the word "mafia" - what an amazing actress.
@Marvin-dg8vj2 жыл бұрын
Gandolfini was great but look at the support the series had from the rest of the cast. Edie Falco was brilliant. I cannot see anything getting close
@lynnefeatonby16932 жыл бұрын
This was one of my all-time favourite scenes. The ultimate in telling hard truths to someone’s face. Just incredible writing and amazing acting.
@Hypestrike12 жыл бұрын
The underlying message: You can't help someone who doesn't want to take responsibility for their situation and help themselves. Carmela wanted absolution, not help.
@seanmcaddle61212 жыл бұрын
The single most powerful seen in the show, hands down. Tony was about the life but in the end so was Carmela. She turned a blind eye for the money, the house, the clothes, the status. She could complain all she wanted but she was along for the ride. The whole meeting with the Dr. all she is worried about is the money. That facts.
@Mutasis_Mutandis2 жыл бұрын
I agree with your premise, however will say that you have to have money to live.
@obiwanfx2 жыл бұрын
that short one line "how's that going?" cuts deeper than the ocean. For like always, none of the promises, efforts, mindbending or outside influences have changed one single bit about the reality they live in.
@halfasleepvampire754510 ай бұрын
I had a therapist like this. Not the same context obviously but the same straight forward manner. “What did I just say?” Saved my life.
@brianbernstein382611 жыл бұрын
Just as Tony embodies the worst male stereotypes of unfaithfulness and violence, Carmella embodies the worst female stereotypes: She is as definitive a golddigger as possible, pretending that her unyielding tolerance of Tony is proof of her being forgiving and human, when in reality, her love for material things is the only reason. She associates financial worth with self worth not just for herself, but for all people. I found her character nearly impossible to stomach.
@robertthomas26014 жыл бұрын
Associating self worth with financial worth pretty much makes her American.
@bassmaster8673 жыл бұрын
@@robertthomas2601 Why do people associate Americans with being materialistic? Go to China, Russia, or the Arab Gulf States and it's much worse.
@robertthomas26013 жыл бұрын
@@bassmaster867 I guess Americans just stand out the most for it.
@canguneri83553 жыл бұрын
@@bassmaster867 People in general are materialistic but American culture brought it to a new level. So no, it's not much worse. China isn't the country who's having a huge obesity crisis.
@ivanmarasmiladinov30933 жыл бұрын
I find Livia worse than Carmella, even though she's less materialistic. I understand where you're coming from, since Carmella disgusts me too. Even more than Tony, even though he's objectively worse than her.
@dinitis2 жыл бұрын
'Probably the least of his misdeeds' 😂😂😂 'Enabler would be a more accurate job description -my apologies' 'How's that going'
@callmehanson94662 жыл бұрын
Imagine if this guy was Tony's psychiatrist instead of Melfi.
@mja913522 жыл бұрын
Tony would never return
@Demetori112 Жыл бұрын
He would broke Tony, or Tony would have reacted violent agaist the psiquiatrist
@josephringling7696 жыл бұрын
That man was a great counselor. Last of a dying breed
@stephent96772 жыл бұрын
A key scene in the whole series.
@rusudan96313 жыл бұрын
we're all living in denial one way or another and when somebody calls us out on it or tells us we tend to get mad and refuse to see the truth.
@mylesasipa13323 жыл бұрын
That applies to Carmela. I don't think it's anyone elses place to decide when someone is or isn't ready to confront something.
@willmercury2 жыл бұрын
One of the most powerful scenes in the entire series. Brilliant performances.
@WiseAilbhean2 жыл бұрын
She never cared about the crime that financed her life. It was him cheating on her which as the Dr said, the least of Tony’s misdeeds
@WHR172 жыл бұрын
Brutally honest is an understatement. We all need someone like this in our lives, to tell it to us straight!!!
@kennedy65872 жыл бұрын
“My priest said I should work with him, try to help him be a better person.” “How’s that going?” 🤣😂🤣
@E.C.22 жыл бұрын
My children listen to and watch Hollywood TV Cinema and my in laws are broke because of usury but my govt says oligarchy is the best way for a Country to behave.. How's that going?
@maxspringfield2 жыл бұрын
How great would it have been if Carmella replied "There is no Mafia."
@nihaalsandim99866 ай бұрын
One of the best examples on how to write scenes and dialogues for characters .
@Turn4203 жыл бұрын
It’s like they’re not even acting. Amazing performances
@mja913522 жыл бұрын
That's what good acting is.Duh
@stevedrums167511 жыл бұрын
I wish psychiatry went back to this own your issues, self-responsibility, rather than the enabling, medicine dispensing, self-ego gratification nonsense it has become. This scene is indeed a classic and superbly well acted.
@Kyle25166 жыл бұрын
stevedrums This is a work of fiction, my friend. In this scene this guy confronts her and her hypocrisy because he saw she was indeed just as guilty as him. Under normal circumstances in real life, you never want to just tell someone to take responsibility for their actions. Yes, they should in certain instances do that, but it is way more complex than that. Depression and a host of other mental diseases are PHYSIOLOGICAL diseases; they aren't trumped up tricks of the mind.
@bassmaster8673 жыл бұрын
I went to a shopping mall and ethnic pride parade to witness the results....
@indicatoker4203 жыл бұрын
@@bassmaster867 it's amazing what psychoanalysis has done. For big business and politics...
@briankgruber3 жыл бұрын
Amazing scene. And to be fair, a good shrink, while managing it more delicately, in a process, over an extended period of time, absolutely drives home personal responsibility and honest self-reflection.
@Nomadar2 жыл бұрын
Fuck it I'll drop this here 8 years late-- I see a therapist who basically does exactly this. It's refreshing, it's great, and it's kinda funny, and he's never tried to push a drug on me. It takes some looking, but you've just gotta find the right doc.
@modularmuse3 жыл бұрын
The doctor has several mic-drops in this scene. 'How's that going?', classic.