The Story of Gossip: Why Gossip is Essential to the Survival of Women | Her Story is Our Story

[@johat1219]

This reminded me, idk if I heard this on a movie or somewhere, about soldiers in the middle east, fixing constantly a pipe that allowed people from a small village to have current water instead of going for it to the local well, they didn't knew why it kept breaking, until they discovered in the night, the women of the village were breaking it, when they asked them why, why would they want more labor, when they were the ones carrying the water to their homes, they responded: because going to the well it was the only time they were unsupervised by their husbands and they can speak to each other. Everywhere else they must remain silent, including their own homes.

[@Izzymeakin]

Thanks for sharing! I’ve never heard that story before but I think it adds so much to this whole argument 🤍

[@emyelhsa]

wow. very enlightening video. i can't believe i've never heard about this history before. thank you for sharing!

[@Izzymeakin]

So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for commenting 🤍

[@affnt]

This is an incredibly important topic and you’re the first person I’ve seen discuss this on KZbin. I’m glad this was suggested to me. This was a really good analysis and I think you could even go deeper on it.

[@Izzymeakin]

Thank you for the comment! I'm so glad you enjoyed the video. I agree 👍 I was just scratching the surface; there's so much more to explore on this topic!

[@affnt]

@@IzzymeakinWell my bell is on, immediately followed and I’m really excited for what you talk about next. You’re smart and engaging and I love discovering channels that really have something to say. Great job! Happy to be here now.

[@Izzymeakin]

@@affntthis means so much thank you!

[@Kaylaisnotasoup]

I'm really glad I stumbled upon this video! It was a very intriguing listen. Reclaim quality gossip, girlies

[@Izzymeakin]

Thank you for your comment! So glad you enjoyed the video 🤍

[@joiedevivre2005]

I just stumbled upon your channel & I'm so glad I did! Excellent video - not only enlightening us about the importance of informative gossip among women, but also shining a bit of a spotlight on the "pick me girls" who accuse women (& work against women as a whole) in order to boost their own position in the patriarchy, as well as the dangers of revealing too much of our personal information to men. Very relevant video for what we are currently experiencing here in the US. I've subscribed & will be suggesting your channel to others.

[@Izzymeakin]

Thank you so much for commenting! So glad you enjoyed the video. I also made another one on pick-mes in relation to Caroline Bingley but I think you have found that one now too. So happy you found the channel 🤍

[@TheSouthernLights]

Holy shit that was a great video! I’ve not heard anyone speak about gossip this way, thank you!

[@Izzymeakin]

Thank you! So glad you enjoyed it 🤍

[@v-zr9cz]

Have been thinking a bit lately about the way allegations rarely ruin mens’ careers, yet the backlash against anyone making them is extreme and severe - my conclusion being that men simply do not want women to be able to protect one another. *binary approach to gender used here because of the binary system that creates these dynamics, gender is not inherently binary

[@Izzymeakin]

I think about this as well. It’s better for us to be a divided group and unfortunately I think a lot of the time we are :(

[@Eloraurora]

It's depressing, but the pattern I've noticed is that 'I was assaulted," will generally be believed unquestioningly, but 'I was assaulted _by_ [name]" will more likely trigger denial and equivocation. An anonymous attacker can be pictured as whatever outgroup scapegoat the listener pleases, but as soon as he has a name, they have to accept that ordinary, familiar men can do monstrous things.

[@RevelwithaCause]

Thank u for making the term in a Positive light. Super Important tool to protect Females!!

[@Izzymeakin]

You are very welcome! So glad you enjoyed the video 🤍🤍

[@untroubledwaters2137]

So sick of hearing "not all men" used to shut down the conversation about how dangerous men are to women.

[@Izzymeakin]

Honestly same! 🤍 It winds me up that I even feel the need to make the point 🤦‍♀️ I think it’s best to avoid anyone who tries to use that statement as a counterargument… like what are you hiding 💨🪞

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

Gossip isn't just mere story telling its when you unecessarilly spread information (wether true or false) that puts someone in a bad light unnecessarily. In other words talking shit behind peoples back and ruining their reputation without just reason to do so (i.e your own or other people safety) its hurtful.

[@Izzymeakin]

Thanks for your comment. Yes there are two sides to gossip. I do make this point in the video, and highlight this conversation/video is about good quality gossip designed to educate, empower or protect. I also use this video to ref the origins and history of the word itself which was initially positive and was about the bonds between women :) women supporting each other and friendship.

[@hannahlorna8800]

This was discussed on one of my fave podcasts “goes without saying” too (I can’t remember which episode sorry!) but I love seeing you articulate this so beautifully Izzy

[@Izzymeakin]

Thank you!! Oh amazing I'll add that podcast to my list 🤍