The Surprising Reason Motorcyclists Don't Get Therapy

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Lali

Lali

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@ronjones-6977
@ronjones-6977 4 ай бұрын
When my son turned 18, I told him if he took the California MSP, I'd let him ride my bike. He said, "What about mom?" I told him, she's not my wife anymore, you're 18, and she can't tell you what to do. He got his license and rode a few times in the area till he got comfortable. He finally took a long ride into the countryside and came back with a funny look on his face. His eyes were HUGE. He said, "Oh my God, I get it now. That feeling when it's just you and the bike and the wind. NOW I understand. Thank you." My own father talked me out of buying a car when I was 16 by letting me ride his '75 Kawi Z1b back and forth to school. I felt I owed it to my own son to help him find the joy and peace of riding. I'm 61 now and still ride. I don't have much, but I know my '20 Z900rs will be my final legacy to the big moose. Enjoy it, Cody, and thank you, Dad, for giving me this gift that has lasted a lifetime.
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 3 ай бұрын
I bet that first ride was awesome for him! I remember my first one, I was so giddy! 😍
@Maui-Moto
@Maui-Moto 3 ай бұрын
I was one of the guys that came back from Iraq and bought a Yamaha R6. It was total freedom in the seat. The breeze just pulls away everything that seems to be on your mind. It is you, the road and your bike. Total Freedom.
@VNLAGRLA03
@VNLAGRLA03 4 ай бұрын
Your helmet has heard the deepest, darkest thoughts that you can put into words. Your four limbs are always busy while riding…and you’re focused on all drivers around you. Keeps brain noise to a minimum. This is an awesome video…thank you. 😎
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Brain noise that's a good term for it
@irishcoffeetruecrime
@irishcoffeetruecrime 4 ай бұрын
My female friend was a rider for 8 years and took her life last Sunday night and we buried her Thursday. I know personally that riding is my therapy. RIP Ann.
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that :(
@alanbrown5593
@alanbrown5593 4 ай бұрын
Take care of yourself too.
@irishcoffeetruecrime
@irishcoffeetruecrime 4 ай бұрын
@@AntiParallali Thank you so much 💚🤍🧡
@irishcoffeetruecrime
@irishcoffeetruecrime 4 ай бұрын
@@alanbrown5593 Thank you so much 💚🤍🧡
@axelreisdorf4375
@axelreisdorf4375 3 ай бұрын
Hey - I am very sorry to hear that. Don’t loose faith and take care!
@1976Cordoba
@1976Cordoba 4 ай бұрын
All I know is I get on the cycle, close the visor, and it's just me & the road and sometimes that's all I want.
@C01dEyes
@C01dEyes 4 ай бұрын
I can definitely say that there's a lot of truth about what's being said here. I've only been riding for a couple of months now and days before I took the MSF course to get my license endorsement I sadly found out my best friend of 20 years passed away. That first day hit me hard but I carried on and before the end of the week I had my license endorsement. A few days later I had my new license in my hand and my new bike registered. That afternoon, even though I had anxiety about finally hit the streets on my own stacked on top of the depression I was carrying with me I got on my bike and went for a ride. After about 20 minutes of getting adjusted and focusing on the ride ahead of me I started to feel a weight come off of me that had been holding me down for days. The longer I rode the better I felt like I didn't have time to feel sad about what happened because I needed to concentrate on riding. What started as a hour of just cruising a loop to get used to being in traffic and my bike became a trek up into the mountains aways off from home. I rode out to an overlook near the top of the mountains facing west. I felt calm, collected and ready to make peace with what happened. So I sat there, watched the sunset and goodbye in my own way. Deciding to get into riding motorcycles when I did couldn't have come at a better time in my life. Even my friend that I lost was super excited to hear that I was doing it. Only wish I could have showed him my new ride in person. It may not work or feel the same way for someone else out there but I can definitely tell you from my own personal and very recent experience is that I think I got more help mentally from my first day of riding than I would have from weeks of therapy.
@RoninBeaver
@RoninBeaver 4 ай бұрын
Yes, lol. It makes your regular commutes more enjoyable, and getting out and cruising some backroads while jamming your favorite music is a phenomenal way shed some stress.
@Ride_0n
@Ride_0n 4 ай бұрын
Don't ride when you're angry or upset. You won't have the focus required. It's dangerous. But riding is definitely therapeutic. It can help you be a little more centered or calmed to handle what troubles you.
@Angel9932
@Angel9932 4 ай бұрын
I won't ride when I'm upset, tired or not feeling well. However, it is therapeutic to ride but isn't a substitute for medical help. Seeing a therapist should be just like going to the doctor when you're sick and I'm happy that there's less stigma associated it with it these days.
@axelreisdorf4375
@axelreisdorf4375 3 ай бұрын
I totally agree with you!
@Matt9Five5
@Matt9Five5 4 ай бұрын
Helps me zone out. Puts us into diffuse mode, if you’re ever trying to figure something out, go for a ride and chances are you’ll connect the dots.
@Ivaryan
@Ivaryan 4 ай бұрын
10/10 can 100% relate
@NRALifeMbr
@NRALifeMbr 3 ай бұрын
I've been riding for 52 years. I currently commute to work on my Goldwing Tour DCT almost every day. 125-130 a day. The ride give me a little over an hour each way to decompress, enjoy the road and the music in my helmet. My job is somewhat stressful and this time on two wheels allows me time to re-center and be a better person at home. My wife will also ride with me for the same reasons. We head out to go ride around the block and 150 miles later, we get back home smiling. It works!!
@cjkim6796
@cjkim6796 4 ай бұрын
heard some online physical trainer say one time, "no one's depressed while jumping ropes". cracked me up n left a positive impression which got me lifting regularly for a few years. as a noob, 2 yrs in at 49yrs of age, i say no jumping ropes ever gave me the sensation like that of riding, which usually leaves me thinking "does it ever get better than this?". enjoying your videos, kp up the gd stuff. thanks from tokyo, japan.
@cjkim6796
@cjkim6796 4 ай бұрын
personally though, therapy didn't work for me. 10-day silent retreat did. riding is just a big fat cherry on top. to each his/her own.
@JohnnyXoz
@JohnnyXoz 4 ай бұрын
I don't know that anyone thinks anything will actually "solve all your problems", unless they are delusional, but what motorcycles, movies, music and the like do, is give you a break, so your mind can focus on other things for a while, rather than all your other issues.
@LoneLeeRider
@LoneLeeRider 3 ай бұрын
So very true! I say that riding is one of two things that clears my mind where all the stress melts away. It's because you need to put the intrusive thoughts away and focus on the task at hand. So true too about it being a temporary thing. I look forward to my tours, but man, when you come back to reality it's still there.
@dirklee5110
@dirklee5110 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for this input. I've got friends that I've heard say "I need wind therapy to clear my head.". I've never understood that since I'm so extremely hyper-focused while riding. (When I get home from being out for a couple hours, I almost feel exhausted from it.) It makes sense that the feeling comes from literally having to focus on nothing else.
@PleadTheFifth_Racing
@PleadTheFifth_Racing 3 ай бұрын
Great video Lali! I would consider my mental, emotional, and physical health to be really good. The joy I get from motorcycling is just an added benefit. I think you hit the nail on the head with the studies and why/how motorcycles effect mental health. They are so much fun, you get a big endorphin dump while riding, not to mention the focus required when riding spiritedly makes all the other head noises stop. I really admired how open you were about your own mental health and talking about seeking some help online as a good alternative to in person therapy. I think more people would benefit from taking an honest look at their values, what is important to them, and what standards they have for themselves and partners. To many of us go through life not reflecting or defining these things and it leaves us... in the wind, for lack of a better term. Kudos, keep up the solid content. Always love your posts.
@trip5003
@trip5003 4 ай бұрын
Better help are scammers just so you know . Do NOT USE THEM !!!
@jdh4041
@jdh4041 3 ай бұрын
you nailed it. when i get on my bike i think of nothing but riding the bike and looking at the great scenery. i take a lot of small half hour rides and stop at some great little cafe along the way. then on to the next. also good to have a few bike mates and get together now and then. the one thing i try to do is not get to angry or stressed in my general life and the one thing i never do is go for a ride on my bike if I'm angry, not good to be riding a Kawa Z900rs when angry, calm down first except the problem and forget it. never ride stressed or angry, works for me. thanks for another great vid.
@arjankroonen4319
@arjankroonen4319 3 ай бұрын
Great video. Anytime I walk into any motorcycle dealership it feels like a safe haven. I think a large percentage of riders is on the introvert side of the spectrum but all of us are happy to chat about bikes. When in a motorcycle dealership it's just fine to start a conversion with anyone there. Just say hi, ask 'm what kind of bike they have, how long they've been riding etc... It's a great (and safe!) way to interact with strangers... and like you experienced, who knows, you might end up with a great friend.
@CrisHazzan
@CrisHazzan 4 ай бұрын
With a friend we say "have you seen how happy dogs are sticking their heads out of the car window"...well that's how we feel when we ride our motorcycles.
@wildboar2598
@wildboar2598 2 ай бұрын
I used to fly (Cessna 172) but had to stop in 2018. I started riding motorcycle in 2021 and found that it really filled the hole that flying used to occupy. Riding shares a lot of qualities with flying. You have to be highly aware, there is a nice adrenaline and dopamine thrill, you have to think way ahead of your vehicle (more so than driving a car) and there is a constant need to mitigate risk. Enjoying the scenery is a nice part of both aviation and motorcycling. In the end, though, both flying and riding occupy your thoughts and push out the bad stuff. For me, I need a sense of adventure in my life and both fulfill that need.
@hainhatphung1371
@hainhatphung1371 3 ай бұрын
Well, the book of Pirsig "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" explained in similar fashion. One main point was, in my words at least, "Focus on something to negate other surrounding, then your mind will be "freed" or at ease". Like a literal stress relief by changing your focus to something else you want to do, especially by hobbies. I baked cookies and pies and made ice creams for almost 17 years, 12 of those was when I got married and 4 kids nowadays 😂 It suprisingly got me out of my thoughts at my workplace and other assignments. So relaxing that I finished my research article in just shy 2 weeks about exploring R.A.T tech-integration framework, and also about using LEGOs in applied science courses (I'm a university lecturer). Motorcycling got my attention since my dad's Honda, though. Its focus is the same: riding acts as a focal point to negate others. I even taught myself to do carb cleaning and top end rebuild on my XR350! (the latter was rough AF without beers to lure others in and help me with)
@robertupchurch8088
@robertupchurch8088 4 ай бұрын
Great video Doc. Here in the Mid-Atlantic there are Bikes & Breakfast events on Sunday mornings at many locations. Nothing formal, people meet, get coffee, maybe eat and chat about their rides, maybe gin up a group ride.
@2hotFL
@2hotFL 4 ай бұрын
Glad to see you back on the bike and moto-vlogging again.
@captainobvious5349
@captainobvious5349 4 ай бұрын
When Im on my bike 1:45 (no matter which one), cruising, I feel so good. 3 tour combat vet, I ride my bike to/from work, 46mi each way!! My long-term goal is to get a really nice bagger so I can do some really long rides!! Be safe guys!!
@alanco608
@alanco608 4 ай бұрын
100% correct...constant scanning my surroundings, looking ahead for possible dangers at junctions, I find myself constantly talking to myself, all these things and more, and I think it's made me a better rider. Even though I go the same route to work each day, every day is different. People at work have noticed a difference in my demeanor, I 'feel' different within myself. Since i bought my bike just over a year ago, it's almost like I'm a different person.
@LilWixxy
@LilWixxy 4 ай бұрын
It's not just the bike and riding I think it's the people you meet an ride with. I personally like it when a group of us go for a ride.
@kaichen7907
@kaichen7907 4 ай бұрын
i ride to help me refocus for sure. Its allows me to disconnect mentally for a bit and focus on the ride, and then i'm more focused when I tackle on issues again. In that way, its therapeutic for me.
@LittleBigReef
@LittleBigReef 4 ай бұрын
I’ve been riding for 20 something years and have known this for a long time but I’ve never heard some else articulate it so well. Well done
@chrispalm5455
@chrispalm5455 3 ай бұрын
Phenomenal video. Wish 100 million would watch it.
@kurvaonwheels
@kurvaonwheels 4 ай бұрын
Like you said, I think riding is an enjoyable activity that requires your full attention. The fact it is for a limited time is OK, coffee breaks, a weekend and vacations are also temporary but very important for you physically and mentally. For me it gives me something to wait for at the end of a working day or weekend rides. But I do feel that if your are too agitated or angry, it can actually be more dangerous since your reaction to situations like someone cutting you off, might distract you even further and end up badly. It is a great hobby and lifestyle, but it is not a miracle solution for deeper problems.
@ScottsMotoAdventures
@ScottsMotoAdventures 3 ай бұрын
Cool video, My only argument to the its only an hour of therapy as you ride, is project bikes. Get a project bike and work on it after work or during the off season and learn everything about the bike. It can be a challenge but it can be therapeutic. I belong to the local BMW MOA they accept anyone; we have monthly meetings we set up group rides. so, it's really helpful and nice to compare notes to other rides and share experiences.
@JethreL8710
@JethreL8710 4 ай бұрын
Holla from Malaysia 👋 and yes - riding motorcycle with friends (most of the time different bikes) definitely helps mental health and living a happier life here in this hot tropical and sometimes rain all day country 😂 . I do agree that when riding .... just a few minutes riding ... I'll forget about the sounds of motorcycles and it's the journey on our bikes to the destination that makes us happy. Not the bike, not the growl nor the insane fast speed of riding but instead , riding together with friends, meeting new friends and arriving at different destinations together on our bikes with old friends new friends that makes it all worth while. . Peace ✌
@opsecalpha
@opsecalpha 3 ай бұрын
Happiness comes from within. There is nothing a person can buy that will bring them happiness. However, joyous experiences build inner happiness and that is where the motorcycle helps.
@OnlytheStrongSurvive416
@OnlytheStrongSurvive416 4 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed with invisible disabilities years ago and bought my first bike: a 2023 Honda Rebel 1100 DCT on July 20, 2024. Riding has helped me and my Sena mesh within my helmet playing music all the time! Going to the gym has helped me too! Thank you for the Betterhelp link, I have just signed up.
@nicholaskalogris9985
@nicholaskalogris9985 4 ай бұрын
Motorcycling like other pursuits is a great release. It’s a matter of doing anything positive. Whether it’s Motorcycling or Community Theater, any positive activity is good activity.
@VaughnsToyotas
@VaughnsToyotas 4 ай бұрын
Thank you, Dr.Lali😊
@3GingerCats
@3GingerCats 4 ай бұрын
talking to a stranger about problems... bringing them back to the surface to eat at me again? no, I tried that... the better option is to just let it all go and not worry about it, the past is the past and it can stay there where it will not affect my present or future. having something to look forward to and a path to follow to get there is way better than living in the past where the torments took you (me) to the point of ending things, and therapy made it even worse!
@rike1775
@rike1775 3 ай бұрын
@@3GingerCats I'm happy for you that you found something that worked for you. But we shouldn't dismiss therapy working for some people. It's not just bringing the past back into the present, it is about moving past what happened in a safe environment. It is about discovering ways to deal with the present circumstances caused by the past. For some it works, for some it doesn't. Everyone needs to discover what works for them in a safe way.
@jtaylorb88
@jtaylorb88 4 ай бұрын
For me definitely!!! It was a brief escape like you say.
@hughmac7423
@hughmac7423 4 ай бұрын
I agree with what you are saying. The focus does clear your mind, it relaxes your mind, it helps keep you fit. I have been riding on road for 40+ years and off road for 10 more before I gone my license. I am very chill and happy, I'm a consulting Civil Engineer, very stressful work environment, and the bikes keep me from going crazy. I have four bikes, two on the road. 1988 Lowrider with a sidecar, it is fantastic in bad weather and slippery conditions, I've had it for 35 years. I also have a Panam, 2022 Special, Army green version, I use if for commuting and weekend rides. I have taken it on dirt roads and on a couple of trails, but it is really too big for off road riding, it is a fantastic all roads sports tourer. Then there is a 1971 Honda four track bike and a 1974 Yamaha DT400 motocross bike, I used both for racing for a number of years.
@adamwhite6797
@adamwhite6797 4 ай бұрын
I've told my wife that while my therapist helps me get my emotions and thoughts in order, and riding helps me focus on one thing (which is only riding). For me, when I can't ride because it's too hot (I'm in az) I will do manual labor around the house. Like my current project is creating some outdoor enclosures for my tortoises
@johnnybravo1183
@johnnybravo1183 4 ай бұрын
Your an Outstanding advisor and also brownie points for the 90's film reference 👌
@cprn.
@cprn. 4 ай бұрын
Feeling good for a little bit is most often all it takes to gain perspective - don't underestimate the power of a good ride. Also, don't overestimate it - when in trouble, seek help.
@mar0364
@mar0364 4 ай бұрын
Really enjoyed the direction your content is going. Nice 👍
@nealeburgess6756
@nealeburgess6756 4 ай бұрын
Hi Lali, much as I love you, I am not entirely in agreement with your thoughts on riding as therapy. When I ride I am not always working my brain hard by paying attention to the road. As an experienced biker (full bike license since 1971) I spend probably 90 % of my time (when on the open road) with my brain almost completely free to think about anything and everything. I rarely play music. It just gives me time to meditate, and relax. And in case you think I am dangerous in my meditative state, my safety record is extremely good. My worst injury in 53 years of extensive international riding is a slight graze on my elbow. It seems we both agree that riding is good therapy, but for totally different reasons!
@willie1034
@willie1034 4 ай бұрын
Great video! BTW, The Boro is the best place I know of for wings! (at 10:20)
@billymiller4830
@billymiller4830 4 ай бұрын
Very informative, Dr. L!!!
@alanbrown5593
@alanbrown5593 4 ай бұрын
You have to live in the moment, otherwise it can hurt. For some the freedom helps, others less so. Being able to spend time doing something you enjoy, without external/extraneous interference probably works. Even a temporary break from the stress helps, but getting professional support is probably better. Next time winter calls, polishing/cleaning works, I can even ship my GSA over (you'll love the spoked wheels) for you to start on. Friends care for about you, because of your faults.
@GusOutferaryde
@GusOutferaryde 4 ай бұрын
Hey there - I wanted to chime in to say I love this content and everything you’ve said makes perfect sense to me. Yeah, motorcycling. Is great for mental health but what happens when a person gets off the bike? I’ve often thought it. So much so in fact I recently started therapy! Thank you.
@TechnicianX
@TechnicianX 4 ай бұрын
When it go vroom vroom, my heart go boom boom
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Hahah 😂 I'm going to use that
@rickh.959
@rickh.959 4 ай бұрын
I do believe the bike can help you mentally. but as you said temporally. I've needed to figure something out and was overwhelmed. A quick ride countryside. I was able to get an idea. The way to go w/ the problem. This didn't always work but the drop in mental load helps. As far as friends it's far easier as an adult to find them w/ a motorcycle. "That common bond". some of my best friends are fellow bikers. Keep up the good work.
@SongJLikes
@SongJLikes 4 ай бұрын
I’m absolutely happier since learning to ride. It is not in doubt.
@jackcameroon8423
@jackcameroon8423 4 ай бұрын
This feels like a topic for countries where there's more cars than motorcycles. For those places, it's a novelty, for the rest, it's a necessity.
@axelreisdorf4375
@axelreisdorf4375 3 ай бұрын
I think, you are right. Although, I want to add another thought from my experience. I do have a difficult time at the moment and riding helps me, clearing my head and getting of darker thoughts, as you said. And there is more. The joy of riding, experiencing that feeling in darker times, sets a counterpart to the mood, you are in. And you can always connect to that feeling. It‘s a spark in the dark - but you have seen it - it is there.
@TonyN491
@TonyN491 4 ай бұрын
Riding is an escape and not a solution, for sure. One I can never really fully take advantage of because at some point I have to start thinking about the end of the day's ride, and returning to whatever I was trying to escape in the first place. But sometimes it *can* be the catalyst for some grand realization that helps you deal with whatever problem/s is/are weighing on your mind, if you're in the right headspace to receive it. I kind of think of therapy in the same way. I like to think of myself as a big proponent of the benefits of therapy, because of my own experiences with it, and with the problems I'm dealing with in my life right now I think about going back (I would not want to do anything other than in-person), but I'm not in the right headspace for it to benefit me.
@KeViNMCMXXCIX
@KeViNMCMXXCIX 4 ай бұрын
Buying or riding a bike definitely makes you happy for the time as you mentioned. Granted you will be happy everytime you see the bike standing at home and realize you own it and can ride when you want to. But no it isn't a cure, at least not for long term but there are plenty of people who can actually can get stuff sorted while riding or driving or after the fact for that matter. Since you kinda reset your brain for a bit. And yes, i'm one of them. Not going full depth story on this, i'll try to sum it up, but you Lali definitely made some valid points here and some did struck me. No hard feelings or something hahaha. 😄Don't blame you or whatever it's life. But yeah mental health is important. A lot off stuff went down in life for me, nothing of passed away loved ones for a while now thank god. Just for me personally, relationships with people comes to mind. Closing myself off for many, but have a close few where I feel like I can talk too but don't even do on time still. Even they are there for me. So should have done it sooner to begin with. So yeah that's also a thing for me. Closing yourself off and not talking with someone about what's going on with you, that can really confuse you and make you feel all kinds of messed up and not like your usual self. You can like tie yourself in a pretty solid knot and that can be really hard to get loose again. I however did start to do so just because of a thing I read in an article with was pretty much a wake up slap in my face. It happened because I was giving it a go to attempt to face my problems. Which had succes. It laughed so hard even, when I realized and the amount of weight or stress or fogginess disappeared was definitely noticeable. So for me it wasn't a therapist, nor my motorcycle, haven't rode in a while this was going on if I recall. I'm also if you're mind is not on point like far off, don't hop on the bike. Unless it's either a short trip on familiar roads or your daily commutes. Can't recall if I did either of those but those maybe calmed me down for a bit if I did but yeah not a solution. Even though sometimes for me it makes stuff clear to me and i solve a problem after.
@mc04su
@mc04su 4 ай бұрын
I wish I had one for my brother's wedding coming up. If things get too stressful, I change and just hop the bike and go for a quick ride.
@XiiNhune
@XiiNhune 4 ай бұрын
Very much needed this, Thank you so much.
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@NorthJorgie89
@NorthJorgie89 3 ай бұрын
Thank you Dr Lali
@ArtHistoryNstuff332
@ArtHistoryNstuff332 4 ай бұрын
Getting ready to buy my first bike, and as a university prof in the visual arts it will be ridden as often as it can. I need an outlet to NOT think about all of my responsibilities on campus or preparing the next piece or scrambling to get my next show ready. My mind never shuts off. I MTB already, but I need something more. Guess I am still a bit of an adrenaline junkie as well, lol.
@1Down5UpOfficial
@1Down5UpOfficial 4 ай бұрын
Appreciate this video 👏👏 I've ridden probably three times this summer. Mental health is something that needs to be talked about more fr.
@AC-cg4be
@AC-cg4be 4 ай бұрын
Motorcyclist here since 2009. When my therapist had an office, I parked my motorcycle outside it every week. Why? You should never stop striving to make yourself a better person and achieve full self-awareness. I can say that ending up alone on top of a mountain in West Virginia in the middle of the night on my motorcycle made me also realize just how small and inconsequential I am; complete and utter ego gut check. *shrug*
@jhc38
@jhc38 4 ай бұрын
in the spring, summer and fall we ride. in the winter 😎we tinker with the bike. so all year therapy
@rcardona8
@rcardona8 4 ай бұрын
This is the best KZbin video I've ever seen ❤
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Until the next one I publish of course 😜 hehe
@On2Ride
@On2Ride 3 ай бұрын
Riding it’s like entering an other dimension ❤❤❤❤
@kingsaisten8712
@kingsaisten8712 4 ай бұрын
Heck yeah I remember when my dad bought me my first bike that is yamaha fz i couldn't sleep the whole night waiting for the sun to come up and go for a ride I didn't feel any cold even if its winter time because i am so excited to ride my new bike 😁
@TheOnceAndFutureDoug
@TheOnceAndFutureDoug 3 ай бұрын
Motorcycles are not equivalent to therapy. Done both extensively. They are, however, great self-care.
@TheOnceAndFutureDoug
@TheOnceAndFutureDoug 3 ай бұрын
That being said riding did help my anxiety a lot, mostly because of what you were talking about by forcing me to be present in what I was doing. My anxiety causes me to catastrophize future events and you can't do that when you're focusing on a rolling 20 seconds into the future. You just don't have the time. And the more I rode the easier it became for me to just drop those thoughts. It was the best kind of practice. My therapist and I discussed it at various points in my 7 years of therapy. Cat also helps, by the way. The advice should be get a bike and a cat.
@casperi2
@casperi2 4 ай бұрын
I can tell you this , from a male personal perspective. It works differently for men. It truly is our therapy. Men don't do well in our version of mental help therapy by sitting down and talking about our feeling. Even new studies are starting to understand "finally." We just shut down in environments like that. But if we get on a bike or go for a run, all that built anger, rage,saddnes, list goes on and on just bleeds away. These are the emotions that men deal with every single day. Hence the reason you see videos of men just sitting in their car for an hour before going inside. We desperately need a cool down lap before we go from work to home, or wife to home etc. It's very simple to understand, I will give you the example that was given to me on the differences between women and mens brains. Women's brain is basically like Spaghetti, the noodles run through your entire brain and programing default mode runs on emotions. As a women you think/live emotionally. No matter what happens to women it always touches atleast one of your noodles on the way to 1 of the 100s of boxes you store life in. Men on the other hand only have max 20 boxes, with zero noodles. Our default setting runs on logic. Thats not to say men don't have emtions, we do. Infact its no secret that men feel the impact of their emtions 10 times the amount than women because we are forced to. Our Society wouldn't function if we didnt. If you are not understanding this point ask and I will try to explain it another way. Anyways when we get on a bike for a ride mostly by yourself. All of our emotional boxes dump out and flushes all those negative emotions we are dealing with everyday. Here are some examples,, are we good enough, the boss always tells jenni shes doing a great job but I do tripple what she does and he says nothing, not even once did he say, "hey insert name your doing a great job", Does she really love me, is she the one, can I even afford a wife? She will want all this extra stuff, am I making enough money for her, again does she really love me, is she honestly the one? I hate my job and really need to look elsewhere, do I even want to do this job anymore more? Gods when I get home all she does is fight with me the second I walk in the door, why can't she just give me an hour to switch modes, fucccccccc,,,, is my bike going to get stolen or yet again, its a Is meteor shower tonight, I wonder if my new girl wil even want to come out and watch with me or is she going to think I'm some geek, ahh my dad just doesn't understand,, .. These are just some of the things younger men have to think about. It can be totally soul crushing with all of that on your shoulders and then come home to a woman that just wants to scream at you. We also have something called the nothing box that we wish women had but don't. Sometimes you will see your man looking off into blank space, you ask him "what are you thinking about " we will say nothing. When we say nothing its NOT the same as women's all pissed off nothing response when you ask a woman. She darn well knows what shes pissed about and somehow expects us men to mind read what is wrong. We men on the other hand are literally thinking of nothing. Like someone pulled the CPU out of a PC. But here's a hint, if after 2 weeks you still don't see your man going into his empty box, something deeply is bothering him. All that to say , riding for men free's our soul and emotions. In my 51 years I have found nothing even remotely close. Drinking, drugs, cars,, NOTHING even remotely comes close to going out on a ride, by yourself, no phone, no music, no distractions. Put the phone in your bag and only pull it out to check if you missed an important call, .like dad had a heartattack or something. Let the road and your motor be your music. At the end of a long ride not only are guys with alot on their shoulders feel totally better, their also totally drained from the ride. If your a couple, leave the questions for another day and just join him in the shower and fall asleep cuddling. Leave it at that and feel grateful you whomever you are that you have a man that knows how to drain his Brain and emotions. I Peace ✌ Sry for the grammar and misspellings, strokes are a bitch.
@timbrogan607
@timbrogan607 4 ай бұрын
The answer to the question is, YES!!!! Having more than one will make you happier!
@dsmi9168
@dsmi9168 4 ай бұрын
i wonder how many times we might have passed each other. I see you constantly rollin through Hummelstown. Lets ride!
@JTW12
@JTW12 4 ай бұрын
As far as further research, it would be interesting to test your "riding focus" hypothesis by giving the participants tests related to spotting danger or quickly reacting to hazards. I think it's just as likely the experimental group was just distracted from the testing because they were daydreaming about being on their bikes. If Malaysia recruits study participants the way we do in the USA, they were mostly a bunch of broke kids looking for gas money for their bikes anyway.
@realBkay
@realBkay 4 ай бұрын
8:09 - Shadetree? The swamp lizard? Canyon Dancer Bar Harness, don’t forget.
@gerdine9258
@gerdine9258 4 ай бұрын
While yes, your problems don't disappear when you ride a motorcycle, it does 'clean up' your brain, at least, my brain. And that lasts past the ride alone. It gives the ability to refocus, set things into perspective, get the good hormones going and breaks the cycle of (negative) thoughts and fatigue. Which in turn helps to give (mental) energy to approach the problems you experience in life (diffferently).
@subhajit1128
@subhajit1128 2 ай бұрын
Moral of the story: Do what actually works for you, be honest with yourself and figure out what the situation asks for. If you just have a task in your hand which is more important, cranking up the bike won't help. There is a sense of escape when you put your helmet on, but "escaping" from more important task worsens the time that follows. Motorcycling truly helps for those who had a trauma of some kind recently, like losing family member or relationships or heck even feeling low after losing a job. It really helps to pull your energy together. Motorcycling has a different and very unique meaning to everyone's lives, but we've to figure out that meaning ourselves, not from anyone else.
@haneymoto
@haneymoto 3 ай бұрын
Great Topic. Thank you
@thatguy7085
@thatguy7085 4 ай бұрын
Not buying one… but riding does make me smile
@Larrycura_
@Larrycura_ 4 ай бұрын
Short answer. Yes
@WonkyCoconut
@WonkyCoconut 4 ай бұрын
Yes. I typed this before watching. Because yes. Now I'm watching.
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Hah! Yes seems to be the general consensus
@pnoyryder68
@pnoyryder68 4 ай бұрын
Another great video Lali and wonderful topic! Ive always told my relatives and xlose friends that riding saved me from depression when my wife passed away 10yrs ago from camcer after almoat 20 yrs of marriage. Interesting ro note about that study that the control group did better. So I wonder what would happen if you gave that group electric motorcycles instead?
@Johnelilopez
@Johnelilopez 3 ай бұрын
great video I only disagree with the therapy being only for that hour of riding. At-least for myself it raises endorphins that last hours after I ride, just puts me in a better all around mood. It is my therapy but if you have serious mental issues I don’t believe any amount of riding would help.
@Pault3788
@Pault3788 4 ай бұрын
In my next life I'm gonna ride a motorcycle,but for now it's trails and a bicycle,total peace in nature with 0 noise
@wesmattimore2895
@wesmattimore2895 4 ай бұрын
Whats up doc? Riding is my therapy, its freedom... remember doc, keep the rubber side down
@thejoefowler
@thejoefowler 4 ай бұрын
Short answer: YES! Motorcycles make you happy (and money solves your problems.)
@kostassideris3328
@kostassideris3328 4 ай бұрын
Great video! Which one action camera it's better for you? GoPro or DJI Osmo action 4?
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
I like the GoPro for voice recording and the DJI for the second angle. DJI also is better in low light I've noticed
@chiguy_
@chiguy_ 3 ай бұрын
For me the throttle therapy has been a great thing. just like with anything, it can be temporary if the actual problem isn't taken care of. Riding for me has been the most consistent thing and has really been the best.
@NemesisDigitalMedia
@NemesisDigitalMedia 3 ай бұрын
Love your videos.
@alizaidi5610
@alizaidi5610 4 ай бұрын
Yes. Yes it will.
@Frank_Torre
@Frank_Torre 4 ай бұрын
2 wheel therapy is a real thing, but it is FACT a temporary solution. Like a band-aid on a gun shot wound. Once you get back home, whatever problem you ran from will be there to welcome you back. So yes seeing a therapist isn't a sign of weakness, despite the negative connotations and stereotypes that seem to linger in everyday society.
@AntiParallali
@AntiParallali 4 ай бұрын
Band aid on a gunshot wound, that's a good analogy!
@iainf6
@iainf6 4 ай бұрын
A spicy Lali jacket 🧥 to go with spicy boi 🌶️🏍️.....👍😉. Excellent video for advice 👏👏👏🙏
@deadizbetter
@deadizbetter 4 ай бұрын
Yes
@ThaBlackSwan-TV
@ThaBlackSwan-TV 4 ай бұрын
But it isn't about running away from the problems, it's about having some time. Enough time to clear your head so that you can think straight, and THEN you can look at your problems through clear lenses.
@d.j.howardindtla8748
@d.j.howardindtla8748 4 ай бұрын
Yep. Those sport bike guys are like 😘!!!
@thomassimmen9106
@thomassimmen9106 4 ай бұрын
PhD here. I can fully relate.
@Allan_aka_RocKITEman
@Allan_aka_RocKITEman 4 ай бұрын
Buying a motorcycle would sure make ME happy...👍
@Craigravon
@Craigravon 4 ай бұрын
Hey lali👋 there are bikes at the therapist's They are the therapists 🔥😉
@3GingerCats
@3GingerCats 4 ай бұрын
accepting motorcycle riders... Sport bike riders don't hold it against you for choosing a smaller ADV, (secretly they want the ability to ride through roadworks and up gravel roads & go wherever the laws allow too) Sport tourer riders, don't mind that same small ADV in the midst. they understand the reason for the ergonomics, and the fact that the road doesn't always stay in a condition Conducent to racing each other, and a little extra suspension never hurt anyone (unlike a lack of suspension) Dirt bikers & dual sport riders are always going to think their bikes are better off road and you should change your bike... even though you've done 10000km on road to every 250km off road. and know that DS bikes are going to stop you from wanting to ride that 10000km on the road. Japanese Cruiser riders. two camps the big and the small, the big ones with more luggage space that an 18 wheeler truck. don't even bother trying to talk to them. but the smaller ones. they are just out enjoying themselves at a low pace, all they care about is that everyone else is enjoying themselves too. hi, have fun, see you later! Naked bike riders... someday soon I should consider this, my skill level isn't what it needs to be yet... but if anyone is having a great time, it's them! and the enjoyment of leaving others behind, fighting the wind (while being less affected by the gusts of wind using fairings as sails) There is definitely ego here. and that is very noticeable how they only talk to a select few instead of everybody! and should I add the Harley riders? No I won't, they won't talk to me, I won't talk to them. I just don't want anything to do with criminal gangs, violent offenders or drug dealers! I have often wondered if car drivers think all the bikers know each other... It's not like we are shy to acknowledge each other, and if someone is looking at what is going on around them and not staring at their phone, they have to see us nodding, or tilting the head, or a small wave (we ride on the left, just like horsemen who carry the sword in the right hand. you can't see our left hand when coming towards us, so we don't often use it!)
@Allan_aka_RocKITEman
@Allan_aka_RocKITEman 4 ай бұрын
Starting at about 08:27 in this video... Lali: I am an INTROVERT. I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND where you are coming from when you say that...👍
@frankiesantiago9386
@frankiesantiago9386 3 ай бұрын
Sadly, ive actually experienced the opposite when it comes to sportbike riders and the motorcycle community. I ride a metric cruiser. And most of the time i find the sportbike riders to be closed minded and only care about sportsbikes. Thinking they are the superior bike. I've even had multiple of them tell me to sell my bike and get a sportsbike instead. Where as other riders (supermoto, cruisers, adventure and even dirt and mini bikers) in my area, are MORE open minded and welcome all types of riders more. Again. This is only MY experience. And of course I've met other sportbike riders that are really cool and really open minded, but they were more of the exception. Either way. I do agree they are overall more open than the car community. Love them both. Wouldn't have it any other way.
@SteelSteedStan
@SteelSteedStan 4 ай бұрын
I do believe that riding a motorbike is indeed helpful for mental health. And also, I don't need to see a shrink because I am from Eastern Europe. Our brains are different.
@purplex_purple7717
@purplex_purple7717 3 ай бұрын
Trying to get me a cafe racer or a super moto. Do a super moto review. I think you’d enjoy it
@DustyVisorMotorcycles
@DustyVisorMotorcycles 4 ай бұрын
Short answer "Yes"......... 😎
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