The SURPRISING Secrets To READ ANYONE Like An Open Book | Malcolm Gladwell & Jay Shetty

Jay Shetty’s favorite author is Malcom Gladwell. On this episode of On Purpose, the teacher and author chats with fellow book lover, Shetty, about communication, the power of humanity and what freedom looks like.
Are you looking for fresh insight into events of the past or just a calm voice of wisdom for these uncertain days? Gladwell offers both. Malcolm shares deep thoughts with Jay about what it means to be human & how to listen effectively.
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[@himal_pillay]

Truth: Aim to read yourself first before you attempt to read other people. Reflection is key ❤️🙏🏽

[@vibgyor6745]

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[@midlifemom5829]

That is so true! Some have insecurity that skews how they interpret others. More often than not, they misinterpret people’s words and body language. Thus conflict arises. Work on yourself first

[@michaelgabs9885]

When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beaware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the east = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. The Book of Truth mdmlastprophet.com/the-warning-will-help-the-world-to-fight-the-greatest-apostasy-of-all-time/

[@VishalBhardwaj1143]

Ohhh,lve to see u here, man

[@christineholliday4564]

Yes, this is true! Know yourself first...

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

People turned off by too many ads please still check out Malcolm Gladwell, he is truly one of the most interesting and intelligent writers of our time!!!! I've read almost all his books and can't wait to read the rest!!!

[@drewsson]

Hey you.... yes you! Just want to remind you that whatever you are struggling with right now is going to pass. Bad times gives room for better times. Keep your chin up. Good things are going to happen. Start believing it 🙌🍀

[@lw7379]

Thank you, same to u! 💞💫💞💫💞💫

[@felicityboateng1131]

💕💕

[@missrelaxed3872]

Thank you so much !!!

[@nangray56]

Thanks you for your uplifting message. If you're thinking & feeling down, give those thought up to the Universe in exchange for the ever expanding Love you were born to be & have. :-)

[@zaramiamisaberi6446]

Amen 🙏🏼 dear friend

[@ReynaSingh]

When we truly master ourselves then we will have no issue with understanding those around us. We are more similar than we realize. Thanks for sharing!

[@himal_pillay]

Reyna Singh Oath 🙌🏽

[@dadalacks]

Lol I just fast forward

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Some people are sociopathic or narcissistic. It's a question of degree. I'm not interested in making myself a vessel for such people. My point is that all wisdom is conditional and contextual, it's avidya (incomplete knowledge). That said we need to be more considered and less reactive.

[@MegaWiz90]

Weeping is not a weakness. It is showing sensitivity to the world around you.

[@libragirl2250]

I absolutely love Mister Malcolm Glad wells speaking voice, knowledge and advice / experience s🍀🍀🍀🍀💕💕💕 great interview

[@trezinhadasilva7820]

Great to hear Gladwell. I wish Jay will just ask and listen

[@johnmgeorge8180]

Jay Shetty I really respect you man...lots of love bro❤️❤️❤️

[@nangray56]

I grew up in NYC & always loved speaking with people on public transportation, waiting for a light to change so that we'd be able to cross the street or waiting in lines at movies, banks or Post offices. I always found people willing to exchange ideas or share their knowledge on something. I road the the bus that took numerous people of different ethnicities to the United Nations, & I always had questions about other countries. All I spoke with were to me, 'human' first.

[@positiveoutcomesinc.1143]

Malcolm Gladwell is so humble- so insightful- his bi-racial background makes him so important to lead conversations about race and identity issues.. Malcolm should do a free webinar (without commercials) on "Race in America- A Thoughtful Conversation". Oprah, are you listening!

[@janeanyangoodhiambo]

Check his podcast revisionist history, there a talk he is having with Oprah Winfrey talking about stuff and specifically about sandra bland (not sure her name)

[@positiveoutcomesinc.1143]

@@janeanyangoodhiambo thank you!

[@positiveoutcomesinc.1143]

@@janeanyangoodhiambo I'm getting ready to do a video conversation talking about racial issues and sensitivities soon.. hope you tune in. Thanks!

[@manchukondanandini9234]

Jay Shetty fan forever💓💓💓

[@divina363]

I love the point about walking side by side, it’s so true that this type of intimacy could be lost in the digital world. Cherish the moments you get to walk side by side with someone 🙂

[@nataliejanewallace8376]

Thank you for posting video of your incredible conversation with Malcom Gladwell. Love your work!

[@visionary.mp4]

I am second!I want to tell you that I have started watching your channel just 2 months ago and it has inspired me sooo much and I am already seeing so much change in my thoughts,my behaviour everything!!Thank you Jay!!😁😁

[@nourelhoudahaddar2439]

I am big fun of malcom gladwell and am so happy that I assisted this broadcast thx alot

[@johnadelsheim595]

Mr. Shetty does an exceptional job here. He is unusually thoughtful, cogent in both his questions and his comments, and sincerely appreciative of his guest's arguments. He both understands and furthers Mr. Gladwell's insights. I wish more of Mr. Shetty's work was in this vein, rather than the intense self-promotion which seems to color so much of what he currently does. Mr. Gladwell too, rather than than just repeating past stories as he so often does, evidences a new and deeper understanding of some of the themes of his most recent book. Congratulations to both.

[@YourUnlockedPotential]

Know yourself by being self-aware and know them by being empathetic. These skills can take years to master 🙂 but the best part is everyone can do it! 👌

[@ilovegoddoyou7003]

My older brother had kidney failure five years ago and I gave him a kidney. By this good deed, God heals every sick person and removes everyone's trouble. Amen 🙏❤🌷

[@deborahmeek6529]

That is amazing, my daughter 11 has a chronic kidney disease so I especially appreciate how truly great a thing that you did

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

That's a beautiful representation of family love, and the ultimate act of generosity and kindness. I'm sure that act of love has brought you much closer, thank you for sharing this uplifting story! And for your heroic deed! ;)

[@HanhNguyen-js3ys]

You are a hero.

[@cristinaj.barbozabaldo5604]

Love the connection feeling made by the conversation 💟 Thank you for it.

[@gidaofong]

That was a lovely thought. Honesty and tenderness. Thanks a lot Jay for all your relevant conversations.

[@AnjaEvenson]

Great episode! Loved what you said Jay about walking next to the person you know you’re going to have a controversial topic or disagreement with. Thanks for interviewing the best of the best!

[@madhusharma9949]

Malcolm love your opening up and reflection on what you have missed out.

[@eileenvandernoot3867]

Love listening to Malcom Gladwell. See him sometimes on 92st Y. Enjoyed the questions Jay. Very insightful. More please😍

[@jamrassbamrongratne9119]

External influences are multiple, and they can impact our minds into a certain direction, to copy or imitate. Most of us have weak minds, our thoughts and emotions subject to influences, and we become SECOND HAND HUMAN BEINGS. For me, what is essential to life is how to maintain a calm state of mind.

[@vuyokazidlamba900]

You can bring Malcom again for two or more hours interview.... I will listen until the end.

[@temitope_esther_oluwawunmi]

Wow!!! Thanks so much sir for always inspiring us. Eating and watching something impactful 💯💯🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@celzarodricks3662]

Omg Malcolm Gladwell. Thanks Jay!

[@joybeans10]

Thanks MG, one of my favorite persons in this planet.

[@priyankaminz2753]

Wooow.. Thank you Sir For this 💜

[@veggievg1191]

Great interview.. Gladwell has an amazing. So proud if my 🇯🇲 brother. Jay.. always a pleasure to listen to your shows. Outside the box is a welcome change

[@milasaba7594]

Awesome discussion both, 🙏

[@ReganHillyerCoach]

Very informative video. Got to know a lot about the human psyche.

[@missrelaxed3872]

You cannot read others but what you can do is learn about yourself.

[@allysonf419]

Absolutely too many ads! It's impossible to follow the conversation and I finally just turned it off! I was really interested in listening but the ads are extremely annoying, they go on too long, and there are far too many of them. This has become way too Commercial and it's just not entertaining or informative at that level.

[@prachigandhi532]

Yeah

[@technobb13]

Agreed

[@ewacarlton9804]

I pay for FB premium and it is a well spent money. No ads.

[@rebeccahale322]

I agree and the drugs (legal I guess) they push is discusting..

[@butafogo1]

I just sped past the ads

[@victoriasavariyar8213]

Love Malcolm ❤️❤️❤️

[@michelelane4662]

So well done! Exceedingly thought provoking and a certainty well presented views and insights. I could really appreciate your articulation on such a complex issue. Thank you for sharing this with us all! From California.❤️🍀🌈😇🙏🏻❣️

[@gmaureen]

Visiting the Lincoln Memorial is an amazing experience. I too, unexpectedly, found myself in tears with no explanation for such overwhelming emotion.

[@prokurbah1308]

To anyone reading this, you're bigger than your obstacles keep pushing towards success God has believe in you... You Are A Champion!!! Do whatever it takes, to chase your dream! You can do it My dream is to hit 5k but unfortunately I've been struggle recently❤.

[@sanjayram3796]

I very happy to see this video and very useful 👍

[@JuneStay]

I’m so excited for this! Watching this with my breakfast! ☺️💖✨

[@dipdulal]

Getting motivated just at the beginning of the day is just a blessing🙏

[@JuneStay]

Dulal Das yesss exactly, soaking up all the goodness first thing in the morning! It’s gunna be a fantastic day! ☀️ 🙏🏽 ☺️

[@MillsUE]

Yes sir!

[@karmareadingz]

So nice to see Grown men admitting they can be “moved to tears”🤗❤️

[@cuisinesingh5075]

Informative video mate

[@maggie2244]

Love to find out more but , sadly, just too many ads.

[@carving_knives]

The ads are horrible. I was happy to find this video to listen to during my morning commute then BAM! Long ads that I can't easily skip. I had to shut it off until I got to a PC. I appreciate the upload but the ads were a downer.

[@terrylaguardia6838]

This is among the very best of many interviews I’ve seen in years. I can understand, Malcolm, why you went neither to Europe nor to the Caribbean. Perhaps because I share some aspects of your personal and geopolitical history. I became bicultural at an early age, at a time when it felt like being an ET because globalization was not the new norm yet - and I still am, because my migration was and still is abnormal, being from global center to periphery. I feel much like someone who exchanged hats permanently, to the poorer side. So that’s a big difference. But to me it feels obvious - maybe I’m wrong of course - that you needed to make sure you stayed in a place codified as the one where you entered in transition. I’m dying to read your literary work!

[@shwetar1468]

So many advertises and so long that one forgets what point was being talked. It is annoying

[@sunvavachi]

I don't get annoyed with advertising as it helps for the channel for funding but HELL YES they are too long!

[@Vimal108_-]

I just skip ahead

[@kirtikhandelwal9039]

lpapp

[@technobb13]

So annoying

[@InfiniteLife..]

Fast forward to the end and then go back to beginning. No ads!! I found this out when getting frustrated with ads during meditation videos 😆

[@ionaborrero1448]

Definitely talking from experience. All the signs were there but I chose to ignore them hoping I could change/help the person. My take away on this is its not my job.

[@dailyaffirmations9496]

Hey you...yeah you reading this. I just wanted to let you know whatever you are struggling with right now will pass. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will succeed. Keep going, don't give up. God has a plan for you.

[@vineesque]

❤️

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

Thank you

[@180591]

That light is a TRAIN !!!!

[@tanibrashear]

Thank u

[@vasanthidaisy242]

Whenever you going to a hard time it's like the universe is guiding your

[@neetulamba4535]

Malcolm Gladwell 😍

[@iknowwhatsup2880]

I don't understand why the polarity within is a bad thing. It's like self improvement from within.

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

Agreed!

[@vivienrhodes4248]

Yes you can exist with different ideas and it's ok without fighting

[@Cindihful]

Love Malcolm Gladwell, and his work! To listen to his podcast look at Revisionist History.

[@temitope_esther_oluwawunmi]

I hope one day I will become someone like you sir✍️✍️💯💯

[@thesecond5582]

Enjoyed a lot this episode but the much expected things about the book “”Talking to Strangers” didn’t you talk more about the summary of the book. Anyway I would find out in the blinklist though. Thank you Jay!!

[@maddams6109]

Funny story. I looked out the window one day because I heard a car pull into the driveway. The sun was in my eyes and I wasn't wearing my eye glasses. It was my cousin. He thought I gave him a mean look. He drove off. I would say hello to him and his parents (my Aunt and Uncle) and they would ignore me. Time and time again this would happen. I was confused. After a few months, I heard about what happen through another family member. That was 20 years ago, we still don't see or talk to each other.

[@seekeroftruth5854]

Time to reconcile with them, don't you think?

[@deborahcurtis1385]

@@seekeroftruth5854 Is m addams responsible for other people's perceptions, though? Surely 20 years is a ridiculous amount of time for that cousin and his family to be so outraged and assume they are right. How can you undo that? I think it behoves everyone to suspend judgement long enough to seek an explanation and always give someone the benefit of the doubt. The way this cousin behaves and his family behaves is just the stuff of wars. He was bewildered. Yet he didn't realise how he was coming across in the blinding sunlight. There's a lot of misunderstanding in my family and I find when I try to do someone's work for them and unpack a situation, you won't be thanked for it. Far from it, I encounter hostility and suspicion. In other words you cannot force anyone to change. They will do so when they're open to it and not when you or I decide 'it's time to reconcile'. If you think it's so easy, you haven't been really observant have you? I met a writer in New Zealand in a social situation and towards the end he observed to me that I was 'very self-aware'. It took me by surprise. I didn't realise he meant it as a compliment but I think he meant that I give people space. You can try to be aware, you can work on yourself but you can't have expectations about how anyone is going to behave nor force a result. It's just now how things work.

[@eclosion6940]

I saw here in you tube The Tamarind Seed from 1974 about romance and spionage during the cold war. Director Blake Edwars, feituring Omar Shariff and Julie Andrews.

[@miyaytamayo8964]

Question to Mr. Gladwell: Would you have still written your books if you had gone to Germany or Jamaica?

[@vivienrhodes4248]

Connectivity

[@adelaidewilson7917]

I read thousands of people from around the world and all different ethnic races all genders you want to know all ages and believe it or not human being have an incredible insight about everything and why I say that coss those who came to my space to be read or a reading had lived many lifetimes and so that is what you hear and know about that beautiful soul.. I spent years in the markets from Europe to New Zealand reading and helping those who needs to know about bothers them and what’s ahead for them that’s how it is... I’m privileged to work in service

[@anjumishrat8255]

I want to buy your signed copy of Think like a monk but unfortunately it's only available in UK at the moment. When will it be available in India?

[@eneodu3755]

I see Malcom Gladwell, I click

[@intellectualsplayground4707]

Really enjoyed this 1:10:45 long advertisement. Gotta admit, the 30 minutes of ACTUAL DISCUSSION were my favorite part though.

[@paulavaleyogaevida7420]

Reading yourself first!

[@michaelblue6150]

In other words "do unto others" and "correct others gently"

[@Talkinglife]

It's possible to read a person if you pay close attention to their body language, what they say, how they say it, and your intuition and feelings. You can never know a person's thoughts for sure, but you can gain clues about their thoughts and personality by using a few key strategies.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

If your favorite sport is jumping quickly to conclusion then you'll be great at "reading" anyone.

[@1Ruh2Another]

I get the Lincoln Memorial sentiment - I go there everyday for my walk and take a pause to admire Lincoln!

[@eileenvandernoot3867]

1Ruh2Another also the man had such a difficult life and filled with sorrow. I feel for him.

[@lisathompson7966]

Great conversation unfortunately I couldn't finish, the ads were just too disruptive.

[@DouwedeJong]

When they start I suppose he is referring to the Gettysburg address?

[@tabbethadobbins1]

I’m thinking of “fingerprints”. The complexity in people is like their fingerprint.

[@gemasalmoral6781]

I don't understand the answer to the question about the law. Can anyone clarify it? Thanks if you do.

[@karenmorris674]

I think it is so disheartening that so many of us can not embrace mutidimensional/systems thinking.

[@Irishjay-gu5pb]

Anyone catch the name of Gladwel's podcast??? Ims

[@tianamellorie2352]

Yayyyy I'm the 1st one!!!!

[@MuhammadUsman-rp1ct]

So fast. I thought i would be the first. Infact I looking for Jay shetty video.

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[@Shazistic]

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[@DouwedeJong]

Meditation is for people to do something when they have the absence of culture. Go to museum, do sports or read a book. Sam Harris explains that in his book - living in the moment is impossible, because you always two or more moments.

[@MsReegee]

I disagree, even though I'm not into meditation. I really enjoy investing in a hobby, like running or cooking and being forced to think of that task only.

[@technobb13]

Please make these adds shorter ! Completely forgot what you guys were talking about lol 😂

[@catebannan7343]

Agree, the long adds really detracted from the conversation.

[@Abcd-xz8yg]

I'm starting reading books now days and start a KZbin channel. That name is Rub Tell. Thank you for encouraging me sir

[@Sonja14athome]

What I think you were trying to say nicelly is that "youngers" today aren't as bigoted as many "olders" were when they were "youngers". yesterday.

[@sayx1058]

I'm a big fan of sir jay... I made my channel with him as inspiration.. but my bad after 66 videos upload also I still only 40 sub ... youtube hates me...😭

[@vivienrhodes4248]

To sort out a lot of troubles in the world work in frail care or elder care You will find that death sorts out the petty rubbish and be serious about your life but still have fun and explore new things.

[@alycephoto7780]

I think it would be best if all of us sees all of the evidence….ALL of it…before commenting on whether a police officer was ‘wrong’ in a particular situation. Our ( what used to be actual News but is now only opinion ) media only showed a portion of the video of Floyd, not by any means the entire video, over & over. The video never showed the angry mob of bystanders heckling the cops, yelling profanities…so angry that the cops had no idea if those people would shoot the cops themselves, nor did it show Floyd yelling he couldn’t breathe while he was inside the patrol car when no one was touching him. This like many other situations involving cops is very complex and only made much worse by media and politicians that are corrupt and a country of people who are all suffering financially and want someone to blame.

[@karmareadingz]

I don’t consider the different parts of ppl. Contradictory or opposite; but rather just your personality makeup or well rounded in the feeling dept.

[@LeeJF1]

👏

[@vivienrhodes4248]

People have different personalities Just be human What do you have to lose well everything which is a lot

[@nainapatel2907]

I just don't think the title of this video matches the content. It didn't deliver sadly. Disappointed that I wasted my time as title was misleading. Usually like Jay's video so this was very disappointing due to being mislead.

[@RaeJae_777]

@Jay Shetty the advertisement doesn't give the message any justice.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

This why first dates are so ridiculous. Or the job interview precisely!!

[@wiseshepherd1389]

Before you could read anyone you first need to read & understand yourself first

[@Fithappylife4ever]

Don’t like the ads Jay. We pay for no ads

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[@pennycaldwell8141]

...a monk who's hook, line, and sinker into commercialism. Contradictory, indeed.

[@jenniferreihana5155]

I could look at Jay Shetty's face allllll day....sorry Mrs Shetty.... I just think that Indian men are THE most hansom men in the world. And I really do enjoy the topics!!

[@asmaasaeed4387]

Hi I've been watching u for a while, can u please translate ur videos into Arabic language because there is some words I can't get their meanings.

[@hrithikgehlot1030]

Are you from India?

[@angelajgreenlee]

Way too many ads, I gave up listening to the rest.