the "that girl" trend is NOT sustainable... here's why

[@Shelbizleee]

I'M DOING A SMALL MEET UP THIS FRIDAY IN AUSTIN if you can come I'd love to have you! >>> www.shelbizleee.com/meet

[@heironimusfarms9633]

Since working out came up several times could you talk about the sustainability or unsustainably of workout out products, gym memberships etc…

[@chloboshoka]

I’d love to meet up with you. Sadly i can’t for me right now as I live in the uk.

[@chelseaarnold9292]

Aww going to Spurs game Friday!! Hope to see you and Madison around!

[@mollyklemarczyk2475]

Seems like the 'that girl' routine also requires an inherent privilege of ✨tiiiime✨. Time is a resource that I don't think enough influencers acknowledge when they push "optimization" content. Kinda icky when I think about it. We shouldn't feel shame for not being able to match the lifestyle of someone with an uncommon amount of time within their own control. Excellent video as always Shelby 🧡

[@lesleymaynard2932]

This comment!!! I always beat myself up over not being able to live a clean lifestyle something like “that girl.” However, working 12 hour days at an exhausting job means that I barely have time for myself some days. This comment is a great reminder that everyone has their own life and schedule that fits their needs

[@naturalfairykim7736]

This is so true! I work 24 hour a week, go to school fulltime and have a husband, kid and house to take care of.... My alone time is the time I spend in the car driving everywhere 🤦🏼‍♀️. I manage my time perfectly but this "that girl" routine sounds exhausting 🤣🤣

[@janicefinch3563]

Why is it icky for them to create this content just because it doesn't apply to everyone? Would it be icky for someone to create a college study tips content because not everyone can go to college? If you are feeling shame, it's not the fault of those creating the content. If you think you need to be like them, you are the one holding yourself to that standard - nobody else. I bet the people who care about you will still love you whether you are waking up at 6am and journaling or not.

[@Eternalsunshinejewelry]

@@janicefinch3563 they force the lifestyle down your throat and manipulate you into feeling bad when you don't do it. Its icky because it does cause mental health harm and is perpetuating harmful trends and lifestyles that are bad for us and the planet

[@janicefinch3563]

@@Eternalsunshinejewelry Maybe I haven't seen the videos of creators being like "If you don't live like me you should feel bad", but I don't think most of them are forcing it upon anyone. If you don't like the content, you don't have to click on it or you could scroll past. I get the bad for the planet point, but at the same time that criticism can be made of any content creator who's not in the sustainability niche.

[@carlysmithdd]

I had never heard of this trend before, but I’ll tell you one thing - “That Girl” does not have a child. My morning routine is eating my kids scraps before the dog does.

[@amystephens513]

Do you not have a free food pantry in your community?

[@skankfaceBECCA]

It’s not about access to food. As a parent, you just very rarely have TIME to make yourself a meal so you end up eating your kids left overs.

[@invaderzim6904]

@@amystephens513 even if she had access to it that isn’t the issues she’s saying she has? Wtf?

[@amystephens513]

I seriously doubt she has to resort to scraps instead eating properly. Sounds like mommy martyrdom.

[@emilijamak433]

@@amystephens513 another mom here, it's less about martyrdom and more about food waste. By my own experience and observations kids need to be trained to eat leftovers and until that training is complete you don't want to waste food that took time, effort, and money to produce. I'll usually take smaller portions than I would normally and finish what my kid doesn't eat. This isn't completely universal as they learn to better understand taking only what they will eat in a sitting and my own knowledge of what they are most likely to eat if I put it in the fridge once they are done with it. Similarly it also depends on the food itself, a dressed salad or cereal in milk get disgusting if allowed to sit around, or if it's say one or two bites left on a plate I really don't need that taking up space in my fridge.

[@Shelbizleee]

hahahahahahah tell me why I didn't event think TWICE when I thought 1 period a month = 50 a year... my bad. Point still stands tho. Hope you liked the video!!

[@Topaz_Estrella]

😂 we weren't gonna say anything

[@yazzybananas3106]

Lmao you said it and I shook my head yes. No questions asked 🤣 are we even women?!

[@peachymorsels5392]

Lol to be fair a lot of people have non regular periods so 12 isn’t a set number 🤷‍♀️

[@BouncyBrown]

I thought you were counting each period day!

[@YourMajesty143]

I have 4 period days each month, so 50 period (days) a year made sense to me lol.

[@samwardcares]

As a library assistant, I loved the little shout out towards the end about how libraries are a more sustainable choice for reading!

[@kinakomochi_cats]

To be honest I think the "that girl" trend is just another trap for women: they have to be perfect, productive, intellectual, feminine. And if you don't do all of that you are not an attractive woman. I haven't seen the "that boy" trend? If you are reading this and thinking "wtf", I recommend reading "the beauty myth". It's from the 90s but I think this trend is just what the book describes coming back to life.

[@Shelbizleee]

EXAAAAACTLY 👏

[@missatomicbomb9333]

My understanding of “That Girl” has always been someone who is unique, and stands out making people turn their heads. She was not just beautiful, but beautiful on the inside too. She didn’t follow trends, but became a trendsetter and not even intentionally. Whenever I hear this trend I think of the sitcom “That Girl” with Marlo Thomas. She was a big role model for women then, and she always portrayed a positive and independent character for her female fans, to have have their own mind. On top of that she wore beautiful clothes and was stylish, but her personality was likeable and loveable. That’s really what made her stand out, was who her character was on the inside

[@thedolcetto81]

Yes @Rachel Ann, exactly those! So much pressure on guys too

[@vcr6854]

💯 💯 💯 and I’m sure all these things being pushed on us include the “pink tax” smh

[@ear1421]

Omg yes!!! And Thank you for the book recommendation.

[@WayToVibe]

"That Girl" needs to do what her grandmother did and assign a chore to each day of the week. This trend is soon to be followed by the "burnout and calling out [of work]" trend. Of course, I'm generously assuming that anyone who has blocks of hours a day to read and journal and also make every meal from scratch even HAS to job, to begin with!

[@piarateking8094]

well they are influencers so that is there job

[@WayToVibe]

@@piarateking8094 I didn't say they were unemployed. I said they are naive.

[@KingyoKeiChan]

Agreed. a lot of "That Girl" trends, don't usually allow for a job away from your home or have kids ,because it's almost impossible with those things.

[@xchasingthefallx]

I agree, it's not just not sustainable for the environment but for your mental health too. It's better to go slow and steady so the healthy habits you're forming will actually stay. I don't think I could mentally handle being "that girl" every single day. Only do in a day what you can recover from by tomorrow.

[@noireknight3013]

I will be That Girl When I am Retired. Waaay more Skincare. Reading alot. Journaling. And Walking as Exercise. Making breakfast everyday. At The moment its Skincare ,Anime and Hustling a 66H Week

[@renaa7664]

(Sorry for my English) About the avocado toast, i live in Chile, in a area where avocado is grown to be sell. Avocado crops use a lot of water and that is leaving areas of the country in drought, especially where I live. So I find it very important to investigate the impact of the food we eat.

[@stephaniehauenstein9123]

The ‘that girl’ trend, the way influencers do it is literally unattainable for anyone who works a full time job. I cannot spend 4 hours on a morning routine because I start work at 7:30am. That kind of lifestyle if only for weekends or people who don’t have to work full time.

[@j_emz]

Haha my concern 📈 when I thought shelbi was making herself some egg salad with shells in it 😱

[@susanay8810]

I stopped the video when I saw her blend the eggs, I was really worried. I found your comment first, then I continued watching and realized she didn´t eat them

[@thebackpackingbookwyrm]

The editing in this one is great! I hate this trend because it always makes me feel like crap. Because I am 100% a slug between 7-10am and no matter how hard I try, change never sticks.

[@Anna-2]

The whole trend and most trends really are way too prescriptive! We're all so different, there needs to be some trend that is about figuring out what works for you. (For me personally I couldn't do a HITT workout in the morning or I might pass out! But it's trendy)

[@sierrasouthwell9237]

This trend is weird to me. I know of no one who is successful, productive, and has good mental health who is also heavily into social media. Also, you should never feel bad about not being a morning lark. 11 PM for night owls can be equally as productive as 6 AM for morning larks.

[@kutanra]

I think the issue with any lifestyle change is trying to immediately make drastic changes. Dont wake up at 7am and run 10k if you've never woken before 10 or been off the sofa during lockdown. Make little gradual changes, eg I have to go up three stories for my work cafeteria for lunch. As much as possible I do the stairs instead of the lift now.

[@glowstickspinalfluid]

bit of a nitpick, but considering genetics plays a role in your circadian rhythm, it's kinda weird that getting up at the crack of dawn is so crucial to this trend

[@Oiami-.-]

@@kutanra in generell yes to the little steps but at some point that doesn't make a difference anymore, since bodys respond different to our own circadian rhythm hormones (I could elaborate but that would produce way to much text). Which is why some people won't get tired till 1 am and other can't keep themselves awake after 10 pm. This is also tied to what time we are the most productive e.g the brain of a evening person will not be awake and productive at 8 am even if they force themselves into an early every day schedule. The same as an morning person will not be productive anymore at 10 pm.

[@danceguardmusicgirl1]

I'm so glad you talked about your chickens! They are so lucky to have found a safe home with you. It is so frustrating how factory-farmed chickens are bred and forced to produce a ridiculous quantity of eggs, but Valentina and Douglas can now roam around free and happy!

[@caterinaserio4946]

I've been doing a more sustainable version of "that girl" routine for more than a year now and let me tell you: it works perfectly 😆 Taking care of yourself and the planet at the same time is the best feeling ever

[@katherine6082]

So glad you mentioned the regular "working class" person because while "that girl" is up before 7 but I'm already sitting at my desk at 7am...so I can't do so many of these things. I always stay away from those types of videos because they make me feel self conscious and unproductive (even though I'm at work getting stuff done). I'm so glad I'm not one of "those girls" because my routine is much more sustainable anyway.

[@MissDelaware]

This was an eye opener for me. Watching you break down everything in these “that girl” trends helped me realize I just don’t think this type of routine is “sustainable” for my personal life. I am not a morning person, but I’ve been beating myself up for not waking up at 6am and working out. I feel best when working out at night time. I think I’ve just had an epiphany after watching this video lol. Much appreciated for all that you do for the sustainable community ❤️

[@ThePaperbackFairy]

I’m so glad I was unaware of this trend until now, it would just make me feel self-conscious about myself… I need my chill time in the morning and I’m generally more productive later in the day, so this just doesn’t work for me. Also let’s mention how this routine is totally catered towards influencers and those who work for themselves and can control their work schedule… thank you for pointing out how wasteful and consumeristic these trends are Shelbi, I love that you’re not afraid to call this sh*t it out point blank

[@lkope0903]

I'm so glad that you talked about "your fantasy self." I've noticed that there's so many things in the past that I bought (even in the name of being more sustainable) for my fantasy self. Since I learned about that concept I try to tip toe into potential habits without buying something for at least a few months before I take the plunge. For example, I've been bullet journalling for 2 years with pens I already have - it's not as cute, but I wanted to make sure that habit is there before I bought "nice" pens. And even then, I am still experimenting with my own style before I buy more.

[@teacupdreams5735]

The moment she said "that girl" wakes up before 7 am i already checked out. Waking up before 7 am. if I am not traveling or have an apt is sacrilege. 🤣🤣

[@Shelbizleee]

Lol same it’s so hard for me

[@suzanchristiaanse8972]

Yup. I’m an evening person but my kids wake me up between 5-6 every day. did I say every day? I meant every day 🤪

[@Recoveringred]

I'm half way through but this is one of the best videos you have ever made and you make so many great ones! Gosh, if we could get your work in class rooms as standard curricula. To have an environmental health class or something. *hope you're healing well after the wisdom teeth extraction!

[@Chotibunder77]

Hello fellow Weezer fan. I like your profile picture 😊

[@kelly55]

Awesome video, one of the many things I never understand is doing skincare before working out and showering because then you just sweat & wash it off?

[@Shelbizleee]

100% with ya

[@lizpimentel2566]

I don't get it either, I work out then shower and do skincare so I'm not wasting products lol

[@elizabethcameron429]

As to the eucalyptus in the shower, I live in the beautiful sonoran desert and we have creosote that grows abundantly so one thing is to encourage people to learn their own local plants and find something in their area that makes more sense for a nice shower smell.

[@UnlimitedYou]

Lucky for me I live in South Florida and we have avocado trees growing all over, so I always have local fresh avocados 😊 Also, I find that journaling right before bed is best for me, I keep my journal on my nightstand and that way I am reminded. It also helps to just brain dump before bed, then I feel like I can fall asleep easier. I like to focus on writing down the good things that happened that day for me, and all the things in my life that I am grateful for. It puts me in a good feeling place right before falling asleep, which helps me to wake up in a better feeling place as well. Thank you for speaking up about chickens and how they are bred to produce so many eggs. I think going to the grocery store and buying animal products really puts a barrier between the reality of what animals go through. Also, how much of those animal products are thrown away everyday in grocery stores just makes me feel so sad for the animal that suffered for no reason, but that is a whole other topic for discussion.

[@TexasToast221]

What a great topic and video!!! I also gotta say, I know this trend is really popular with gen z (my younger sister is really into this trend), but it is not realistic of real life as an adult. This schedule may be achievable in college, but it is not sustainable past that point. They’re just gonna burn themselves out on “self care.”

[@LG-zg8mw]

Thank you so much for bringing awareness to what chickens go through to create eggs. We do not deserve to make others suffer for our comfort or trends, completely unecessary.

[@Zapporah85]

The Take has a good video on this too. It's not just environmentally unsustainable but also not sustainable for a person to realistically accomplish.

[@dragana7110]

I would hate my life if I do all of this in the morning! Exercising, showering, journaling - those are all part of my night time routine.

[@Theskyiscrazy]

Little note: you CAN still help your chickens: there are implants that stop them from laying so many eggs and prevent their premature death and mineral and nutrient deficiency from the constant egg laying. It's what they do at animal sanctuaries, at least in Spain.

[@ZoeMikelStites]

I'm a daily journaler, but as soon as I saw the cards my first thought was "I'm pretty sure I could just google to find those prompts."

[@CrankyMama44]

Dang girl! You did that workout! Definitely inspiring, as always, with every thing in this video! 💚

[@rowenadavis3823]

Had no idea about this trend. I’m Gen X and generally unconcerned about trends but I was ‘back in the day’. But as always, I’m looking to make my life more sustainable so all info welcome. I’m now going to search for a local, sustainable skin care line.

[@latristessdurera8763]

GenX Here! I too am not “down with the kids” lol I stay far far away from trends

[@CarleyGoshaw28]

Love this! Lots of popular culture/trends today are outright wasteful or destructive & it’s nice to see people with a platform talking about those issues, as well as mental health 💖

[@PerfectPride]

Interesting way to tackle this topic because honestly, if I were to look at this list I wouldn’t ever think “that is such an environmentally unsustainable list!” But I guess it’s cuz I would focus more on the list rather than the person and what they have, wear, and use. But I can totally see how if you see all these people using the same items and dressing the same way that you would think “well I should too.”

[@gmommie2]

I’m 45…definitely not into trends of the “youngsters,” but turns out I have a “that girl” routine…not on purpose, but because I need a schedule to get things done. Def not an influencer, not getting free stuff, and I do use more sustainable products. I a “kinda that girl!” Great video!

[@Zapporah85]

The avocado toast thing is so hard for me because on the one hand I live in California and I'm literally surrounded by avocado trees so I know that I personally can eat them almost whenever I want to. Additionally, it's really healthy and avocado toast is one of the things that helped me get my body back to a healthy equilibrium. But it is unsustainable for most populations in the world and I think that's really a shame because it is incredibly healthy.

[@Kdmel4791]

Bread is not incredibly healthy.

[@Laura_Suzanne]

@@Kdmel4791 There are different kinds of bread. Wholemeal is better for fibre and lower in sugar than white bread. Sourdough is probably the healthiest because it's made using a fermentation process I think and it's good goebyour gut.

[@jillbeans1573]

LOVE that you decided on this for today's content. You addressed a lot of issues, and you were really nice about it. Great way to, perhaps meet people where they are, and open doors to sustainability, ethics, and echo consideration. Keep doing "all the good that you can do". 👍❤🌎✌🌻

[@Danicalip8]

I hate the “that girl” aspect of having their shower filled with EVERY type of body scrub and body wash and lotion and just…ugh! That literally is so absolutely wasteful!

[@orcaJayP]

Who knew there was such a trend. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now that I do, I’m once again proud I don’t get involved in these problematic trends that drive consumption and cause many women to ultimately feel like failures if they ‘don’t keep up’ with trends. Trends = more junk.

[@aliciascase597]

Great video! I've heard that chickens lay eggs until they have a clutch (12 eggs) and then they stop for a bit and their bodies get to rest but if you keep taking the eggs, they will keep laying them.

[@haunted7937]

here’s something you can do if you have a cap that has a logo that you don’t want to have free promotion: you can take an old tee shirk you don’t use and paint your own design (it can be as simple as writing the name of your favorite band on it) and sew the patch on your cap

[@Emiliapocalypse]

Very creative! Love this idea 💡

[@haunted7937]

@@Emiliapocalypse thanks

[@haunted7937]

*shirt idk how typos like those keeps happening

[@rociogarcia9852]

IDK about that girl, but THIS girl takes from her what fits into her life 😄

[@megbyt]

Love that you did a video like this where you show the alternative! ❤

[@Being_Katherine]

I am not even half way into the video & I am LOVING how much fun you Shelbi, have being who you are. Reminds me how good I feel being sustainable because it is who I am. :-) I appreciate seeing you enjoy your life, INSPIRING! 😘♥️👍💕🥰

[@pnwalternativebeauty8001]

When I catch myself falling into consumerism I always fall back to your videos because they make me realize I’m being flat out dumb. Thank you for being here to remind me there are more important things in life then stuff. I need you as a life coach so bad.

[@ijustthrewouttheloveofmydreams]

I was waiting for something like this!! I knew I put my notifications on for a good reason! 🧡🧡

[@Shelbizleee]

OMG thank you so much!! 🥺

[@hebebebe139]

When you blitzed the eggs with the shell on I was like WTF? Noooo 🤣🤣 I'm so glad I don't really care about trends at all, this all sounds so exhausting to me. I still wear clothes I bought 10 years ago and I just wear what I think suits me and what fits 😅 splash my face in the morning and a lil SPF and I'm good to go

[@faithjx3]

I think everyone’s version of “That girl” should be different and consists of what makes THAT individual feel good. And it should cater to your lifestyle (how much time it takes) so that it’s sustainable and the habits are consistent. I 100% feel better when I do some of the typical “that girl” things early in the morning, I just do it my way aka a workout I look forward to, just throwing my comforter over my bed, eating a quick breakfast I like, etc. It’s probably because I’m not on tik tok I didn’t realize these girls always wear hats but the hat part of your video was both true and hilarious 😂 I feel so good when I’m wearing my sustainable brands to the gym and people compliment my outfits so I can share the brand. Also I’ve been using Osea for at least two years and just started using that serum and I love it.

[@louisehendrickx1671]

I didn't know the 'that girl' was a specific kind of girl... I don't have tiktok so I saw the occasional reel on Insta about it, and honestly thought that everybody has their own 'that girl'. The girl you look up to, that inspires you, that you want to 'copy' a little bit... So honestly I saw YOU as one of my 'that girl's! Like, you inspire me so much and you live rent free in my head as sort of an extra conscience? When I want to buy something I do go for my own styles/needs/.. but there's always the Tiny Shelbi in the back of my head that reminds me 'Do I need it? Do I actually like it? Can I borrow/rent/get secondhand? Anyways, I found this a very fun and educational video, and I hope people keep finding your channel and see the sustainable light you always radiate.

[@wholesomewithel]

LOVED this video!! Not going to lie, romanticizing my life helps me be present, confident and joyful throughout the day. Even better to move so intentionally in a sustainable way. thank you always 🥰

[@kaylaknoxxx4834]

I love this I put it off because I feel like I am not good enough but the workout filled me with joy and I want to work out with you now... not like advice just your energy is so fun!

[@pnwalternativebeauty8001]

I swear every time I come over to your channel it just gets better and better 🙌🙌💕💕💕💕

[@claire.wilcox]

I have been a loyal subscriber for quite some time and you never disappoint shelbie! Love the video idea and addressing the that girl trend. It is so easy to fall prey to that sort of messaging

[@nataliawineland34]

Omg Shelbi I loveeee your videos they are so so soooo informative and just make all this info so digestible. Just thank you thank you

[@Autumn1988]

I love a claw clip especially for when I’m cleaning, hiking and even in a ponytail my hair is bothering me. I’ve superglued mine back a few times and am looking into metal ones for when my hair is longer (they’re too heavy right now for my hair!)

[@celinepope]

Shelbi, jumping on the trampoline and healing her inner child is what I needed.

[@amylouisemai]

Girl I love this video!! I love how you find a way to make everything sustainable! Literally goals…I am going to get a recycling bin and compost bin soon!

[@LadyCoyKoi]

Can we talk about how ablist and classist all these trends are? The "It Girl" and "That Girl" movements/trends are not for the disable and poor people. Not to mention the historical racism that follows with these trends that are so out of touch with the realities of so many people on this Planet. I am happy you touched on this topic from an environmental perspective, even though what you promote isn't exactly sustainable either from a disable poor person perspective either. The brands you post aren't exactly sustainable either... especially financially. Your serum is $70!!!! 💀

[@baileyschneider2797]

Bruh I thought you were about to eat the ground up eggs with the egg shells in it 😂😂 I was like SHELBI NOOOOO 😂😂

[@Shelbizleee]

Hahahahahah ick 😖

[@artinspirational3727]

Great topics! Thanks for sharing. Was definitely taken aback when you turned on the water in the shower and left it running though D: was not expecting that in a video about sustainability

[@lizzettebonfanteg.7084]

Love you even now! Thank you so much for this video!!!! Amen to everything you spoke here

[@imperialchalice]

I just wanna say: your home is BEAUTIFUL ☺️

[@missmatti]

I love that you did this take on the "that girl" trend! 👏🏻I have complex feelings about this trend. On one hand, I think it's great if it gets people to drink water, take better care of themselves and work towards their goals. On the other hand, I think it perpetuates the idea of what we "should be"/"fantasy self" rather than who we are and what is actually important to us. As these videos are aesthetically pleasing the trend focuses a lot on how we are seen by others rather than if we do feel truly good in ourselves. I have learnt to feel my best I needed to drop a lot of balls and accept that my house will be a mess at times for example because I need to rest and/or do other things that bring me joy. Definitely not aesthetic and something "that girl" does - but at least I feel rested and fulfilled!

[@Jigglywood]

I’m like you in the way that I can’t sit down with a book and read. The other week I FINALLY started listening to audiobooks and have already “read” 2 books. That’s more books than I’ve read in probably 2-3 years. So if “that girl” reads every day this better count because I’m proud.

[@Frugalmumdownunder]

I really loved this video thank you. I hadn't heard of this trend, I am not usually up on most trends as they always make me feel bad about myself. As a mum with chronic health issues raising special needs kids I find trend like this so toxic, they make me feel like a failure because my life doesn't and can't look like this... I do think it's important to have self care routines that work for you and the environment though. I always love how thought provoking your videos are. They never feel like you are belittling people who don't know better yet which is a great safe environment to explore new ideals. Have a wonderful weekend 😀

[@jordankaintz2504]

Can we talk about how wasteful it is for people to just buy things to “stock” drawers and fridges just for the look😭

[@JM-bj5cn]

i enjoyed this video so much i didnt notice that ive been watching for 20 minutes already! thanks for the entertaining and informative video, shelbi!!

[@jolenegraci]

I don't know trends. I'm not on TikTok very much. But I feel like a lot of these things I do every morning and my own way. And it's not from a trend as much as it's from a book I read called the Miracle Morning. And there are just different things that he highlights that people should do in the morning to become more successful and your best self. I only take about 2 hours to do everything. But that also includes my procrastination and mom-ing between the different things. I wake up at 5:00 and I make sure to have everything done by 7:00 a.m. so that way I can get my daughter to school.

[@zagorskaewelina]

Hi! I heard from a chicken/duck/turkey rescue here in Poland that you can stop a hen from having eggs with some type of medication. they did it with a hen they have who had an egg go off in her belly and barely survived that :(

[@chelsey8737]

Not only do our trends have massive consumerism backing behind them, they're also micro trends. Trends used to last months or sometime years and now they last a couple of weeks and in that very short time span countless people purchased absurd and disgusting amounts of products and then turned around and threw them all away. Also I think it's really important to discuss how avocado toast and eggs is trendy partially because it's so cheap in many places. I can get an avocado for about a dollar and it can last me for a few days and eggs have, until recently, been very cheap. So while I do acknowledge that it's very unsustainable and hypocritical to tout avocados and eggs as purely good in these videos, its also a very nutritionally dense, healthy breakfast that can be cheap and accessible for many people. I think people often forget how class and financial stability overlap with trends and make it hard to discern what's a trend and what's just accessibility while not alienating people who already struggle to make ends meet, let alone eat the expected healthy meals.

[@evadamole]

Oh! And I was so happy when you talked about feeding their eggs back to the chickens!

[@devsie11915]

I did the declutter thing, but I also paired it with this “no-buy” challenge that I created for myself, which at first was to not buy anything unnecessary for one month. That stretched to two, and now I’m shooting for a year! We’ll see, but I’m excited about it

[@RoundSeal]

Oh, this is something I see a lot of in the journalling community -- something about it had always seemed a little bit off to me, and I think you really nailed down some of the things that had been wiggling in the back of my head on this. The romanticism towards it isn't always bad but...for someone with mental illness, it's so much work for so little payoff lol. I'm glad you posted this, as I never really thought about the sustainability side of things. Thanks, this was fun and informative! 🌱

[@phyliciajoykloes]

Thank you for mentioning this, Shelbi! Lovely video.

[@EcoFriendlyAsh]

I’m so glad you made this video!! I literally want to clear my cache everytime I see a that girl video lol. & don’t even get me started on that girl fridge (sobbing)

[@haileys5224]

Seeing you work out was actually really inspiring. I haven’t been as active since I started working more and honestly since the beginning of the Panera lockdowns. Since it’s been so long since I have been inside a gym at this point it’s super intimidating. Even when I would go I would often feel a bit lost. I forget that I really enjoy workouts that rely on body movements, versus equipment. I sometimes feel like I gotta do something special to work out. I forget that the best exercise feels natural and fun. Anyway I’m planning on setting aside 10 minutes of stretching and aerobics in the morning, and gradually increasing the duration.

[@rebekahr5367]

I also struggle with journaling & topics. When I remember to journal, my main topic the last few years has consistently been "3 things my husband did right today". Big things, little things. I think in our culture, we're just as quick to throw away relationships as we are things. It's hard to break free from my own negative mindset, but I'm a better partner when I'm intentionally appreciating the best of him.

[@marynelson2875]

this is such an interesting video! the idolization and romancing of brands is so dystopian

[@aurorapapillon4883]

What I take from that girl trend is yes i should make looking after myself more routine even if it's more weekly than daily. I've never noticed the brands, the closest is I've drawn measurements on my glass water bottle to try to keep try of my water intake and encourage me hydrating

[@Looksthatkale]

You actually can stop your chickens from laying. At the sanctuary I used to work at we did it for rescue chickens that dealt with prolapse and other laying problems. It's a little implant that's essentially like birth control. Pretty easy and harmless.

[@anyawillowfan]

I've never followed trends, or even be aware of them half the time (or I'm super late to the party), and honestly it has probably saved me so much money. While I'm now much more conscious of what I buy, in the past I know it would have been so easy for me to be influenced to buy what I don't really need (so probably a very good thing I didn't have social media when I was a teen). I hate things like 'that girl' (which I'd never heard of til this video thank goodness), as it holds the average person to an impossible standard. You mentioned how the routine took hours, which the majority of people won't have. Alongside that, the food and clothing choices, etc. But the worst thing is when someone inevitably fails at being 'that girl', they feel like failures which is not good for anyone's mental health. I feel most adults have learned to understand the difference between what we want to do, and what is feasible for our lives (yes, many of us need to work on balancing the 2, but I think most of us manage okay), but I worry about teenagers and younger people who don't understand why they can't follow this routine, or why they aren't enjoying it, which is unnecessary mental health stress. While I will never say social media is bad (it has literally saved my life multiple times), I do wish there was less comparing and more compassion.

[@marielledelaine]

the tiktok video says that girl does her skincare and THEN showers, that seems pointless!

[@naamallama]

Shelby your hair looks AMAZING in a middle part!!

[@Mai2727]

I've watched a lot of "that girl" content and I've never seen one of them wear a hat lol. Great video!

[@vegan.enlightenment]

“THAT GIRL” routine seems to be sooo stressful!!! Who the heck has so much time in the morning or throughout the day to do all of THIS?! This is absolutely insane! It makes people feel like they are not enough! Oh my goodness, it’s just too much! Even though there are some good points but to do that daily for most of us is pretty much impossible. Thank you for sharing 🙏😊

[@Lady-Seashell-Bikini]

That's my main issue with this routine. It's not just that it's unsustainable for the environment, but it's also unsustainable for your daily life. Eventually, you will get burned out, and you'll just go back to your old habits feeling worse than when you started. There is no one routine for everyone, and everyone needs to do what best fits their lifestyles.

[@vegan.enlightenment]

@@Lady-Seashell-Bikini I totally agree 👍

[@laurensova05]

Love this!!! Thank you for making this video. I've been interested in the "clean girl" aesthetic, which honestly i think is just a more minimalist, realistic version of this lol.

[@kathrynpedulla8952]

This is an AWESOME video. I'm not really attracted to the "that girl" trend, but I've identified with the dark/light academia before it was a trend (I believe we called it nerdiness). In true true capitalistic✨fantasy girl✨ fashion, I've been tempted to change my ways to emulate what's promoted on the internet. But the major tripping point that slows me down enough to reconsider consumerism is that I am a huge supporter of libraries for many reasons. I'm not on TikTok and don't know the trends, but this is great video to get us to slow down and actually consider if we are making choices for ourselves or are we just following everyone else. I'd love to see more of these. I feel like cottage core should be sustainable, but has been co-opted by consumerism. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

[@kms_sarah]

well I can’t be that girl because you lost me at making her bed and waking up before 7 lol

[@eileahfrye-edmonds413]

I adore these videos and the “a day in my life” kind of style you have adopted lately. Thank you for what you do Shelbi you’re awesome!

[@ThePixiixiq]

The shift you make from what the trend really is important. It gives proper credit to all who through out the times has lived sustainably. Before letting the frustration turn into resentmentI we should try and remind ourselves that (filming) this routine IS these women's work. This helps me at least to find a better balance :)

[@LuneFromage]

Thank you so much for talking about how chickens' bodies are abused in our food systems! I rescued some chickens from an egg farm and even in that so called" free range" egg farm, they were crammed into a tight barn that had only artificial light and barely any room to move. There were dead chicken lying on the floor and many of the chickens had broken legs because they're bred to be so heavy that sometimes they can't move. "Free range" is just a marketing gimmick--- they're not in cages, but they're still in horrible conditions and still bred, as you said, to optimize capitalistic production and to be used and then killed when they no longer can produce eggs anymore. It's horrible and none of us should be buying eggs if we can help it (in your case it makes sense because you're trying to make sure the eggs don't go to waste).

[@kaileyford8080]

I do love journaling as an outlet to vent about things that are bothering me but I absolutely do not have the time to journal every day.

[@WhereTheLocalsRoam]

This was such an interesting and unique video concept! I generally don't like watching those "that girl" videos because they can sometimes feel kind of shame spiraly, but YOUR version and talking about the different aspects of why these routines aren't sustainable is SO amazing! One of my favorite videos you've ever made!

[@jasminm8784]

I am new to your channel and I am intrigued. Love everything about this video: your interior design, the focus on sustainability and showing reality. I have to check out your other videos right away :-)

[@christinablain2004]

Thank you for talking about avocados. People don’t realize where they are coming from. I cannot stand the Spotify commercials they have with the Avocados from Mexico. I call it “dirty avocados.” Thank you for making it your own sustainable “that girl.”

[@AlchemistLynn]

I just love your content so much. You inspire me.

[@julielauwers5630]

This cracks me up and concerns me a bit too. I have no idea what "that girl" is. It sounds a bit toxic. Y'all, don't compare yourselves! You are wonderful!

[@rachelglasheen682]

Ahh shelb! 💚I really loved this vid! You nailed it.. I really appreciated your point of sustainability not being the trend, but consumerism. It’s so obvious once you put it that way.. I never got “those girls” on TikTok who restock the mini fridges in their room with skin care and/or snacks.. like your clear containers are adorable and aesthetic, but it’d be wayyy cooler if they were putting bulk products into those, instead of repackaging single use ones 🥴😅 Also, random idea but I’d love to hear more from you about which major stores are the best at handling their waste products or returns.. I know you’ve ranked most sustainable brands, but I’d love to know.. is shopping at Marshall’s or Ross slightly more sustainable since it’s getting a second chance at being sold? kinda like that Amazon return place you visited recently, or is that just how it used to be? Are there known places that always are diligent to to donate their returns, rather than trashing/destroying them? I love learning from your dumpster diving days (been there too lol)..but I’m so curious on a larger scale if ANY big box stores are handling their waste in a positive way. Kinda like the electronic take back systems at Best Buy or Goodwill. Down stream waste is such a major sustainablity factor that gets over looked so often.. 👍 🌎 💗 P.S. you are looking so healthy and happy recently, you go girl!! I live in Austin and have been following since your makeup tutorial days💕.. When y’all make make the move back this way, I’d love to meet up with you and Madison sometime. It’s just so wonderful getting to know other like minded folks, and I think we have tons in common. My inbox is always open if you’d like a new friend! Def out of my comfort zone to say that, but I’ve been wanting to for years now, and who knows since y’all hang with Bailey lol😆😋 hope to hear from you! -Rachel

[@stephaniesmith3544]

Also as someone with ADHD, my executive functioning issues are way too entrenched to even attempt to make any dramatic lifestyle changes and unless there’s an extremely awesome reason to do so, the novelty alone will not make the habit stick. I’ve learned to just do what I like and what feels good and gently nudge myself in directions I want (eg sustainability)

[@DanisMediaCorner]

This was a super interesting video topic, Shelbi (with some suburb editing, I might add)! I feel like this trend is geared towards women in college, because that's the only category of person I can think that would have this amount of time for such an extensive routine. Also, because I've just been getting into going to the gym, working out every day is not sustainable, your body legitimately needs rest, especially if your goal is to build muscle. On the whole, this trend is unsustainable in terms of the planet, time, and potentially for your mental and physical health.

[@sunny4jenny]

I couldn’t agree with you more! I say just get what you like whatever style that may be & when all else fails- get timesless

[@stefceline806]

This video is 🔥 🔥 🔥. Yes more consumer trend revamps/hot takes/ sustainablizing !!!