The true damage of disinheritance: How to transcend the loss, betrayl & identity struggles.

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

I took going to an Acupuncture appt to really realize my dad sold the family home and i wasnt going to inherit it but i was dealt with another blow where my sister told me i wont even get my grandmothers house because he doesnt trust me. Thats all well and good and im not surprised he told me my whole life that he doesnt trust me. I just now see it as one less thing to worry about.

[@clearvision2146]

Sounds like you have really reframed the situation and your mindset in a good way. I am sorry to read what you have been through. But glad you have found a way to transcend the situation. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights

[@sandramichelle5700]

My narc mother gave our family home to my brother - they had colluded secretly for years that in exchange for weekly money, he would get the whole thing. It didn’t stop them from asking me to pick up the bill for doctors and taking care of her after numerous operations. She announced that she was about to die so went to live with my brother and family. This was 8 years ago - she’s nearly 95 - and I’m sure she has been dreadful to deal with. I cut them all off and am relieved that she is not my problem. My brother is wealthy so he is just a greedy pig.

[@clearvision2146]

Oh wow, how strange, I am in the process of editing a video about narc parents which is scheduled for release in a couple of weekends time. Maybe synchronicity as I wasn't sure it was a good topic to tackle..so thank you for commenting! That said, I am really sorry to read of your story and what you went through. I can also relate to some degree though all stories are different. It is reassuring to know that other people too can get to a place of peace and relief when we cut contact with such people in our lives. Take good care of yourself and thank you again for sharing.

[@jeanarnone3184]

Disagree! I took it as confirmation that my parents were deeply broken people. I alway knew they were, and I wore disinheritance as a badge of honor. This is my story to tell, and in telling, my parent’s legacy was trashed. They trashed their own legacy.

[@clearvision2146]

Hola, thank you for commenting and sharing your story and how you worked through it, sounds like you did the best thing for you

[@blakaeg]

I completely disagree in some ways as I really could have done with the money!!!! Let them trash their legacy I don’t care about that!!! Some of us have been physically abused by our parent and then they continued until the end with their cruel behavior, My mum should have given me inheritance as a way of saying sorry!!!! She should never have abused me as a kid, I could never fight back!

[@ClaraM-lr5kh]

@@blakaeg Same here…❤️ but if you expect to get an apology from such an abusive parent…I recommend you to let go. Your mother had NO right to treat you like that and neither did mine. But you don’t depend on an apology of such a mean person. I struggled a while to let go the house I grew up in etc. But today I am so happy that I could start a new chapter. 🙏🏻

[@dyanswill]

Great video. You explained exactly as i felt when my dad and his wife disinherited me. His wife had no kids and kidnapped my father from the rest of the family. Now I'm the only one left and theres unclaimed money in my dad's name I'm trying to get but now i have to face this living trust i was left out of in his wife's name. He died first.

[@clearvision2146]

Thank you for commenting and taking the time to share your story, I am sorry to read what you are going through, stay strong

[@paragoncumulus6636]

More videos on this subject would be great. I have 2 young adult children struggling to understand why their father (my ex-husband) left everything to his new wife when he suddenly died. They both had a close relationship with him and there was never any falling out. Apparently he and his new wife agreed to leave everything to the other with the verbal agreement that the surviving partner would then leave everything to the children (including her adult child from a previous relationship) when they died. But there is no mention of this in his will. The kids simply aren't mentioned at all. 3 years on and my children feel betrayed and question their entire relationship with their father. His widow and her adult child have both since quit their careers, sold 2 properties she and my ex owned, travelled extensively and set up a new business. Meanwhile my children are emotionally bereft at the loss of their father and have zero financial security or hope of buying a house. They are at a point where they feel they may have had a right to contest the will which they didn't want to do earlier because they had some trust that the step-mother would do right by them and they didn't want to rock the boat, but now it looks like she has no intention of helping them out and it is too late to do anything about it. It's heart breaking and very difficult to understand why he disinherited his kids, even if that wasn't his outright intention, that is what he did.

[@clearvision2146]

Hola thank you for sharing your experience of this subject, you highlight exactlky how much disinheritance goes beyond the financial aspect and into the questions it raises about love and relationships between parents and children. Much love to you all stay strong

[@RTSBone]

I will help you with the answer. It's because he was a weak man who let himself be manipulated by the new wife.

[@blakaeg]

The pain of disinheritence is very painful and I will never ever get over it. Even though I’m going to be successful in my own right, the pain is something that will always be there as I can’t ask them why!!!

[@clearvision2146]

It ios very painful but you have your focus tuned correctly, stay on you and your life your future

[@joannesaltfleet2071]

I find that with most problems in life the passing of time helps ease the pain.

[@jackfruit1]

Good video. Thanks. I was technically disinherited at 21 and was made to sign the will as a witness 😅 Nothing for me but for my 2 siblings. I never expected anything anyway. When I was 11, my mother declared that God had made a mistake to place me in this family. She told me she found it difficult to love me as I was not good looking and didn't have a good character unlike my siblings. I started seeing myself as a villain like you said in the video. I treated them as parents even after the disinhertance. I thought they will come to love me eventually. I brought them on holidays and helped with grocery shopping etc Now at 53 i have finally accepted it is over. It's like waking to a new self although it has been a reality since I was 11.

[@clearvision2146]

Hola, wow ...thank you for sharing your experience and journey its invaluable, I am sorry to read you went through all of that but also happy to read where you have finally found yourself with this,

[@RTSBone]

I'm sorry you went through that. You didn't deserve it.

[@jackfruit1]

@@RTSBone Thank you. I am glad for the gift of life I have been given. I am now trying to give others who are marginalized for various reasons and it gives me much joy to give.

[@Marianna-js3ji]

This is a good start to therapy. What support network?

[@clearvision2146]

I would say if you dont have one then start by supporting yourself, then seek out a suitable therapist. There are also groups online or face to face that you can attend and also somehow and maybe therapy can help us with this...is we have to take those steps and get out there in the world and begin to make connections again

[@Marianna-js3ji]

@clearvision2146 Nope. There isn't. All of the online groups are for child abuse. There are no teen/adult SRA groups. And the therapists call me a liar and dump me.

[@Marianna-js3ji]

@clearvision2146 There are no groups for teen/adult SRA and trafficking. If you know of one or more, please let me know. They are all for child abuse. All I get is told I am making it up. I'm not. I have a file on my abuser that proves a lot of the things I reported.

[@nitarenfrow5967]

My mother did this my 6 siblings received $450,000 each she often threathened us and moved us out of will like chess pieces such horror in emotions ruined our sibling relationship only speak to 1 out of 6 just sad😢

[@clearvision2146]

Thank you for sharing,

[@calmbiance6043]

I took care of my mother - hospital visits, showers, doctors, food, stayed there every week. I planned the funeral. I was shocked that I was disinherited and hurt deep in my soul. I felt like an outsider to everyone. Still do. My husband and kids see my pain but they don’t realize how deep it goes. I will never get over it. I don’t even know who I am. My siblings I’m sure persuaded mom. They took her to the lawyers while I was in the hospital. I’m currently suing them. It’s not about the money but it’s about not letting them beat me While I’m down. Even if I lose at least I tried. So I lost my mom, dad had passed a few years back. Then I see the disinheritance and I for some reason stopped mourning my mom. That made me feel worse. What is wrong with me. Then I lose my siblings- I will never talk to them again. I’m truly not okay. Everyone is sick of me complaining and crying about it all the time. I just want to talk to my mom and ask her. Why?

[@clearvision2146]

I am sorry to read of the torment you are enduring, keep moving forward, focus on you and your future, you may never get the answer you desire, and also even if you did maybe it would still not satisfy. Take good care of yourself and build your life

[@RTSBone]

I feel for you

[@carriefriedman6553]

I know how you feel 100 percent. Can I dm you and maybe we can help each other in some way.

[@calmbiance6043]

@@carriefriedman6553 yes absolutely

[@calmbiance6043]

@@clearvision2146 your video is the closest thing I could find to help describe my pain. I would never do that to anyone, what was done to me. My sisters are 10 years older than me and my brother is 6 years older than me. I have to wonder why. I’ve only ever loved my family and did everything I could for them. I planned one wedding, threw birthday parties and bbq’s . I did my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary celebration. I was completely blindsided. I will never get an answer that makes any sense to just deliberately hurt one person for no other reason than greed. To go out of my way and gang up on someone without them knowing what’s happening to them until BANG! This is trauma that supersedes a lot. I hear that God will show you a life review. During this review I am told God will let you feel the pain you inflicted upon others. When my siblings get to their review- I hope they realize how utterly broken I am.

[@sharonpritchettrichards2426]

I thought you were doing a series on disinheritance, but I don't find it on your channel. If you've done some, would you help me find them?

[@clearvision2146]

Hey I havent done a series on this yet I hadn´t realised people wanted me too but now you have said i will get it done, I am also going to be doing som Q&A vids very soon so if you have something specific you want answers to, let me know

[@kelvinjames6344]

They hate thier own children

[@clearvision2146]

or maybe themselves...i guess it depends on context

[@kelvinjames6344]

Dont let them win Go be happy Only miserable narcist disinherited to hurt on purpose to damage thier own child they choose to have or adopt

[@clearvision2146]

Absolutely dont let them win, go live your life the way you want to ...every time

[@CarrieMyres]

I basically got disinherited a long with my sister by my dad's sister after he died. I found a life insurance policy for $30k and my aunt was the sole beneficiary. All my life my dad said talk to Donna my aunt she'll take care of things. After digging found out that she was the beneficiary and she owes us nothing without explanation for why she gets it all when she has Alot of money already she said were on drugs an that my dad didn't want us spending it all on drugs then I got told that he left it for his sister for taking such good care of their elderly daddy.fuck that shit you have kids you take care of them first like most ppl do not to mention I was living in my grandpas house with his when he died and they eventually evicted me and got a judgement on me when I did nothing wrong

[@clearvision2146]

Hola , Thanks for sharing your story, it sounds like a very difficult situation for you to navigate...take care of yourself

[@stacyrect143]

My sister and father lied to me for over 20 years about our family trust that they amended. i found out I got nothing after he died. So cowardly. Its not the inheritance, its the lying. It allowed them to cheat me out of having a normal, human reaction at the time they did it. Shameful .

[@clearvision2146]

Hola Thank you for sharing your experience and your insights, and yes definately, the lying takes away your ability to react or make decisions correctly because of the false information

[@RTSBone]

It's really shitty.

[@joannesaltfleet2071]

Often getting disinherited doesnt come as a surprise!

[@Poppy-yx8js]

I was not disinherited. My neighbors are stealing my stuff because they are JEALOUS

[@clearvision2146]

Hola thank you for taking the time to share your experiences

[@joannesaltfleet2071]

Its a lesson not to expect anything from anyone!

[@urpreposterous682]

My only child cut ties with me and the rest of the family when she turned 19. She only reached out to either me or my mother during emergencies or when she needed money, and we always helped her. Before my mother passed away, my daughter was supposed to inherit a house and a car. However, she never reconnected with the family, so now she’s been disinherited. I don’t have much to leave, but due to her ongoing pattern of choosing partners with drug problems, she won’t be receiving anything. My lawyer will soon handle the bonds my family bought for her, especially before my health worsens and I pass.

[@RTSBone]

Sounds like your fault.

[@urpreposterous682]

You don't know anything! It was her drug-addicted, alcoholic, and abusive father who chose to reappear in her life when she was 16. He should’ve stayed far away, eight states to be exact, instead of coming back after abandoning her at just 4 years old to start a new family.

[@RTSBone]

@@urpreposterous682 still I think it's your fault... but you can't see it

[@urpreposterous682]

@@RTSBone All wise one, tell me what I'm not seeing.

[@SuperApostle1]

Weak people disinherit children.

[@clearvision2146]

would like to disagree but...

[@garygienger9597]

I have no obligation to leave the wealth I worked to accumulate to a child that would likely use it for drugs and potentially killing themselves.

[@RTSBone]

Its probably not true. And if it were to become true, it would be entirely your fault for not being properly involved in their upbringing. It's ALWAYS the parents' fault!

[@vickimerritt2832]

Patriarchy

[@Mtmonaghan]

It should all go to the state

if your kids are race mixers i understand all the way