The TRUTH about big girl-friend groups: Do they ever survive? | Hush Podcast

[@jbrkjferkjbekjb]

i was a lone ranger throughout school... never thought it was necessary to join any 'group'. I disliked the whole power dynamics of having to recognise someone as the 'leader' when we were supposed to be equals, I don't give away or exert my power like that. I join people occasionally but I never subscribe to having to conform to any group's 'code of conduct' or 'hierarchy' (whatever that means). I get along with people but I don't join cliques. The premise of this topic is that joining "friend-groups" should be encouraged, which I don't think is necessarily true. Power to the people who enjoy their own solitude/individuality!

[@alyssalenny_]

I’ve been part of 2 huge friend groups in my life which non of it lasted. One of the most prominent reason is that we were still very young. It was during my primary school and another during my early secondary school days. The primary school friend group I was in didn’t really break up, they just started to ghost me all of a sudden one day and until today I still don’t know the reason why they did that but I could tell that actually not everyone in the group wanted to ghost me. I recall one of them secretly walk to me telling me to not talk to them because the then “leader” doesn’t want them to talk to me. Since I was a P3 kid then it did hurt me but at the same time I’m glad I wasn’t part of that group because maybe I wouldn’t be the same person today? It was quite a toxic friend group not gonna lie…while I was their friends they didn’t reach that rebel state but after I left they seem to give a rebel impression 😅 Then for my secondary school friendgroup, we called it the Round Table Girls if I remember correctly because we have this round table at the back of the canteen where we usually sit together as a big group during recess. One day, I don’t know what exactly happened but there were so many different dramas within our friend group like one person hate another then another time another person hate another person too. I’m just there watching it all happen and wondering what is going on 😂 I was so confused the entire time. Eventually through all the hatred and drama, our group break apart and unfortunately since i’m the only one without drama I have to carefully chat between the separate groups of friends bahahaha 🤣 Friendship heartbreaks can really be as bad or even worse than relationship heartbreaks. One of my friendship breakup was so bad to the extent I had dreams of that person for months. It doesn’t help that at that time my teacher purposely put this person to sit in front of me because their initial goal was to make sure I do have someone to talk to in class (this is so ironic from teachers I know 😂) so they purposely put this girl in front of me and my other bestie behind me just so that I could talk to them and just be happy. The entire year with her sitting in front of me was so uncomfortable because she was the one trying to ghost me so badly but obviously she couldn’t cuz I am literally behind her. Thankfully my other bestie is just behind me so she was the one that really did made my final year of sec school better 😁 As of today, the only friendship that really stayed with me throughout is my chaotic trio inclusive of the bestie I mentioned. I think this is what I consider to be my perfect friendship because we really vary in personalities like I am an omnivert with an ambivert and extroverted friend, yet, all of us vibe with each other very well! In my youtube in this acc or even my TikTok content actually shows how chaotic our friendship is when we’re together 😂 I love them so much 💕

[@itsclarityco]

aww thanks for sharing your story! so glad you found your true inner circle! 🥰

[@lurvkpopp]

Thank you girls for talking about this! I’m experiencing a big fg as well

[@alphaTango9989]

what do you call when Friend A texted Friend B to end the friendship of 6-7 years (starting from poly) stating Friend B was arrogant, show-off etc (honestly feels like Friend A was trying to pick a needle in a haystack, given the amount of time we knew each other,). Double ticked when Friend B asked to meet and talk about it, did not have any sign of it occurring (maybe once during Friend B's dream long before where the friendship broke). Friend B received the text after suddenly being ghosted for days, where Friend B was worrying about what happened to Friend A. This is few days after Friend A was being proposed to, which Friend B only know after seeing on IG. Friend A did not continue studies after poly ( due do being "invested" in her own BF's small business, Friend B went to uni. Texted everyday like best-friends would and shared our stories/opinions, and gave each other space during the friendship. Acquaintances say Friend A is jealous of Friend B's achievements (school, uni and personal life etc). Or what is going with Friend A? 1 year later still got no answers.