The Truth About INFJs and Deep Emotional Struggles

[@dewainkoester1026]

When i was a kid, one of my close friends at the lunch table said she was moving and that day was her last day. Inside, I was like oh no. When Monday came she wasn't there. I felt sad but couldn't cry, it was deep. This came back to me early this year and I was able to process it some 40yrs later.

[@trinabrettnell]

I'm so glad you allowed yourself to feel it and process it. Did it feel as if a bit of a weight was lifted after you processed? Thank you so much for sharing

[@realizationstation2173]

My pent up emotions grew into a massive brain tumor that changed my life forever at 21 years young ... I beat all odds which has been quite challenging ... but now, at 41, I wouldn't change a thing! Thank you for this lovely expression :) Shine on!

[@trinabrettnell]

Thank you for sharing. I am glad you beat it.

[@naturelover1284]

I recently moved back to a childhood neighborhood to be closer to my daughter but I'm having all these problems about being near a mother who holds me and jealous contempt who's now aged and I don't want to be responsible for her and be seen through her eyes anymore or take her mouth

[@trinabrettnell]

Oooh that's a tough one. Sounds like a lot of triggers involved. But I can understand why you want to be closer to your daughter. Is it possible perhaps to distance yourself from mother?

[@naturelover1284]

@@trinabrettnell well I won't be going back but they're so odd they drive by they never would come to see me when I lived at places and now that I'm gone they drive by the old places they're so strange

[@JazzedatHome]

OMGZ. Perfect timing, again. I developed a food addiction, as a very young child, because my mom was very cold (constantly yelling at me to stop crying, stop apologizing, stop _______________, get a thicker skin, don't be so sensitive) and my father was very mentally unstable and abusive. I have recently made a major shift, to change my relationship to food (I was blogging about it and I felt I needed to shift my focus), and without that obsession filling my thoughts day in and day out, I can feel that everything I tried to bury with food...the pain, the fear, the terror, the anger...is coming up for me, right now. It's really intense. I was just journaling about it. So, this video...wow. And yes, going for a walk or doing some other kind of movement can be very helpful. Earlier today, I was really angry and it felt like my head was going to explode. I wanted to shift the energy and get a change of scenery. Going for a walk really helped. Thanks, again. I don't know how or why the Universe started presenting your channel to me, in my feed (maybe because I used the word sensitive on my website?), but I'm grateful for it. Blessings! - Claire

[@trinabrettnell]

Awe thank you for sharing. I am so grateful the universe connected us. I understand food addiction. I struggle with it. And it's interesting what we find out when we start paying attention to the feelings we are having instead of reaching for the candy bar, or starving ourselves, depending on what's going on. I hope you find my channel helpful. Feel free to post a link for your blog here in the comments, I'm sure it will be helpful for many who watch.

[@JazzedatHome]

@@trinabrettnell You're welcome and thank you! I'm sorry to hear that you struggle with food addiction, as well. I think it's so common amongst those of us who are highly sensitive and who had very difficult childhoods. Yes, it is really interesting what we find out when we start paying attention to the feelings we are having, instead of reaching for the candy bar or starving ourselves or whatever our default pattern is. My diet has been fairly healthy, for the past five years and I've really healed, internally, according to my doctors. I thought that I was addressing the addiction, by shifting what I was eating. But, a couple weeks ago, my guidance said, "Hey, Claire, you really need to back off on the food". So, I did. It's been painful, but I'm hoping that it's serving a purpose of allowing whatever needs to come up, to do so. I felt like I had another energetic release, today, with just so much pain, anger, frustration, and whatever else coming out of my abdomen. It was really intense. But, I'm trying to just be with it and I imagined a healing gold light filling the space that was left behind by all that stuck emotion. I do find your channel to be helpful, for sure! Thank you! I've really been struggling with some of the other things you've been talking about, like feeling that I need to prove something, for example, as well as constantly talking myself out of things that I really want to do. There's part of me that wants my blog to be polished and professional, which is at odds with my desire to just be my quirky, weird, sometimes very silly self. The two videos of yours that I've watched so far have been helping me to accept myself. Can I be taken seriously with what I'm sharing, even if I'm a bit of a goofball? Well, I guess I'm just going to have to find out. And why would I try to cater to the normies who wouldn't understand me, anyway? BTW, I've only seen a couple of your videos, so far, but I think you're delightfully weird :D Weirdmaste. Thank you so much for the opportunity to post a link about my blog. I have some repair work to do on it, since it went through some major surgery, recently. But, that will give me something to work towards and I'll be happy to share it, when I feel that it's more presentable. I'm a feng shui practitioner and it's about domestic wellness, spiritual living, and radical self-care. Thank you for taking the time to respond and it really made my day, as it's been another really tough one of much introspection and healing. I've been reading the book "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Elaine Aron and it's also helping me to understand my patterns, better, but it's been bringing up a lot of stuff, too. Have you read it? Are there any you would recommend on being an INFJ? Blessings! - Claire

[@trinabrettnell]

@JazzedatHome weirdmaste.....I love it. I saw a meme today for INFJs, being a procrastinator and a profectionist so we are constantly stressed about the quality of work we haven't started, It made me giggle because that's an infj or we do take action but worry about quality. I can't go back and watch any of my videos because I pick them apart and feel like a complete failure lol. I have read that book, it's awesome. Right now I am reading " Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma" by Dr Peter Levine, so far I am loving it.

[@JazzedatHome]

@@trinabrettnell LOL re: constantly being stressed about the quality of work we haven't started. Ugh. I hear you about it being hard to go back and watch your own videos (or read your own blog posts, as I've been having to do). Nice! I was having a hard time with it, at first, because it just seemed so academic and dry. But, I picked it up again, today, out of desperation, and have been getting more into it. Oh, yes! I've had "Waking the Tiger" on hold via the library for ages. I suspect that somebody's sitting on it. Thanks for the recommendation and hopefully it will come through, at some point soon. Blessings! - Claire

[@JazzedatHome]

BTW, I wanted to clarify that I was not stressing about the quality of work that I hadn't started. That was your thing that you were projecting onto what I said. I've simply been through a series of changes with my direction, lately, and needed to reshape my blog to reflect those changes. I loved most of my blog posts. I didn't look at them with shame and embarrassment. Quite the opposite, really. I was very proud of my work. But, some of them no longer felt right or true for where I needed to go. I follow my internal guidance, above all else.

[@barbsmart7373]

Well done, Sister!!!!!!!

[@trinabrettnell]

Thank you 🥰

[@ruthd7367]

This is exactly what I needed to listen to 🥹 Thank you very much for sharing! ☺💕

[@trinabrettnell]

Thank you for watching, I appreciate it. I hope it was helpful.