The TRUTH About Serena's Husband | How to NOT Be the Placeholder

[@okidoki5404]

Came for the tea, left with an unexpectedly needed life lesson

[@okidoki5404]

Aww omg I got pinned this is the first ever time hehe thank you (no worries if it’s rotated out for a new pin hehe I’m just happy hehehehhe 🥹)

[@homodeus8713]

😂😂😂💀

[@PureJoyJoyPure]

💯😤 I wish all the ladies watching this success in every area. The vid was SO GOOD.

[@Tierraje]

It just goes to show, when a man wants to he will. Being together 5 years and still not wanting to marry you said everything you need to know.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yep!! It's hard for a lot of women to accept

[@LEMATTOFFICIAL]

Real talk. We not indecisive, nor dumb. I hope more women who date men realize if he really wants you he will not play. You are just there to fulfill his needs and he will feed you all the signs you need to stay around but not enough compared to what he would do for HER, the one(s) he wants

[@kokolatte825]

I will give her the benefit of saying she was still in school during those 5 years, so maybe marriage didn't make sense yet. But he was about to move her in once she graduated and still no ring. Women need to pay attention to the timeline and if it makes sense. Did he ever talk about marriage or their future together? I wonder

[@LG_Xclnt]

The blessing in being a placeholder is that the men show themselves VERY early on if you choose to pay attention. Staying for 5 yrs in a relationship is enabling behaviour.

[@mariejane1567]

I started dating my husband at 15..,,

[@Stacy..H]

He said traveling from California to New York was exhausting but traveled across the globe multiple times for Serena… yikes

[@chokoladkallc]

The math aint mathin!

[@Ccchristopher5706]

If they wanted to they would

[@PKdamu]

A man will criss cross the world for the one he wants. They love to chase and chase hard

[@JennaHasm]

​@@chokoladkallc Oh, no you didn't!

[@AM-sl9pw]

Men are always “exhausted” doing stuff for women they don’t really like in the beginning stages of my last relationship my ex really was invested in me and our relationship and would travel an hour to see me after 3 years we had a pretty big argument that made us both reconsider our relationship and all of a sudden he was too “exhausted” to come see me LOL 😂 coincidence I think not just remember men who truly love you will move mountains for you

[@bkimatab]

Wow she is blessed. Dealing with a shock breakup and seeing his new relationship publicized, getting diagnosed with stage 3 cancer, yet beating it and continuing to thrive. While still being a genuinely good person to others. What a great woman.

[@3DSuccess]

resilient.

[@chokoladkallc]

She is a very inspirational woman!

[@chokoladkallc]

Very ❤

[@neaverwalters1519]

I wish these women would go and live their lives and stop wolla in self-pity and blame. You need to find something to do with your time. If you claim to be so educated, then do something with it. Instead of spending your time gaslighting and belittling other people.

[@homodeus8713]

Hope she finds happiness. SheRa 7 would say do not become Barbara the Builder.

[@sweetstorm7652]

A man is NOT a plan - I love that ❤

[@chokoladkallc]

Hehe ❤❤❤

[@vanillavania.]

I need to tell myself this more. However, I wish I could fond a community where affirmations and support are encouraged as I really desire that the most. I understand that turning towards religion is an option but I’ve already did that and it was not fulfilling.

[@JB-is4ej]

Trademark that and start merch line !

[@chokoladkallc]

Aw I didn't come up with it though, haha

[@evafan24]

I unfortunately was a placeholder with a guy during the height of covid who cheated on me while we were making wedding plans. Thankfully, I had a full-time job, was child-free, and I had the financial means to leave and get my own place so I could properly heal and recover from the breakup. I learned that if you allow a man to waste your youth and your time, he will happily do so in order to have access to your labor, love, and body. So, I 100% agree a man is not a plan. You need to have your own in case things go south.

[@chokoladkallc]

I'm glad you had the resources to get out of that situation! Thats why it's so important to have your own ❤️

[@UXtatic]

My mother always taught me...don't give up everything. Have things to fall back on.

[@chokoladkallc]

She sounds like a very wise woman!

[@Tracy_555]

Stress can cause illnesses

[@chokoladkallc]

Definitely :( She was so burnt out, physically and emotionally.

[@providenceartdesign]

That's exactly where my mind went

[@Abmarp]

Yes

[@KevonnieElaine]

Correct. As soon as she mentioned her illness I immediately thought “she internalized that breakup and it attacked her body.”

[@lyndon2813]

Hi Jay here, exactly 💯 I was waiting for this one And here it is😔

[@gullwingsyrp88]

Let's not get it twisted, though. Just because he put a ring on it and worked so hard to get you doesn't mean you are safe.

[@christinebelzie194]

This! I’m so tired of women in our community and the world at large being taught that marriage determines how worthy they are instead of a relationship between people that genuinely love each other and stressing the importance of healthy relationships. Kurt Russell and Golde Hawn are a prime example of this. They never got married (in fact, they didn’t want to after being burnt out by divorcing their previous spouses) and they have been together since the 80’s.

[@Deezknotty]

Oh shit that was dark 😂 @gullwingsyrp88

[@indigoGoddess7]

⁠@@christinebelzie194We don’t have the same history and or dynamics. The Black community cannot afford to shack up & continue having children OOW. Too many think it’s okay to have kids first and that’s not how wealth is accumulated. I don’t get why this is such a difficult concept to grasp. You’re setting the next generation up for fail by doing this. Yeah, I bet Goldie & Kurt have their paperwork in order. Most BP don’t and talking to them about it as they throw in their contradictory superstitions is beyond ludicrous. “Oh! You’re not supposed to talk about death around 3pm” “Oh! If I write out my will that means you’re gonna try and kill me” “It’s bad luck to discuss death” 🙄😒🤭🤣

[@3DSuccess]

Girlfriend is not married. This is why I believe women should adopt rotational dating until someone she is aligned with proposes to marry her with a ring and date. Too many women give way too many years to men who don’t want a future with them

[@xoMissTaylorDivine]

Exactly.

[@chokoladkallc]

Couldn't agree more! He can't waste your time if you don't let him.

[@chokoladkallc]

❤

[@maguiedossantos2925]

EXACTLY I AGREE 100% GIRLFRIEND IS NOT A WIFE AND ONE IS ALLOWED TO CHANGE THEIR MIND AND MARRY WHO YOU THINK IS THE BETTER OPTION FOR YOU

[@jadacampbell9331]

Pre-marital exclusivity is purgatory

[@NeishaNineStarz]

Alexis didn’t fall in love with Serena he latched on to her because she was a high value target men can be opportunistic as well.

[@fivemargaritasonly]

​@@millieconsultancy Newsflash: that's what a man is supposed to do. That's the bare minimum. If you as a woman are sharing your body with a man, you should be getting some sort of security in return. Otherwise you are moving backwards.

[@AM-sl9pw]

@@millieconsultancylol because that’s literally what opportunistic means ? It means doing things solely because it will benefit you?! 😂

[@mstaylor1073]

@@millieconsultancy So what happens when the highs and lows of life happen and this person that "loved" you can't see you through the low times. I don't like to call thing good or bad but if you're a person looking for love and loyalty, an opportunist is not an ideal partner.

[@mstaylor1073]

@@millieconsultancy that’s not how opportunists work, love. I know ALOT of married people, every marriage is unique but an opportunistic person will always be that whether they are married or not.

[@mstaylor1073]

@@millieconsultancy I think you lost the plot here I'm not disagreeing with you. You just said that it shouldn't be viewed negatively, I'm not saying it is negative it just is what it is. And what it is NOT is a loving relationship. So, when the time comes when he trades Serena in for another upgrade no one, especially you, should be shocked. Because just as you said and I agree that's just what opportunists do. However, not every man or woman does this. Speak for yourself and your man and the circles you run with.

[@dizzylemongaming2175]

My husband used to get so upset when we lived together and I told him we were only dating. He said it is more. I asked, "Am I your wife? Do I have the legal protections of a wife?" He admitted I didn't but he felt we were more than dating. We did get married. Don't treat someone like the role you want them to be. Treat them like the role they are.

[@ashleycbla]

I thought shacking up together was for married people. Technically he was right if you both were living and sleeping together.

[@nuninuninu5095]

I was advised not to live together unless married or minimally a ring and a date of marriage.

[@dizzylemongaming2175]

we weren't so much shacking up as we were friends who became roommates, who became a couple, who became married. The living together came before the romance.

[@dizzylemongaming2175]

@@nuninuninu5095 Are you suggesting that I should have found a new place to live after we realized we were in love?! I moved from Ohio to Oregon where he was the only person I knew. Would those same people advise you to be a single woman living alone in a state where you had no one? He sheltered me so I could start my degreed career after I couldn't find work in my field in Ohio. I reject that advice. It isn't smart to put your life and safety at risk when there is someone willing to support you based on the fact that you started loving each other after you move in.

[@dizzylemongaming2175]

@@ashleycbla Ok what do you called it? If not dating/courting and marriage? Because if you aren't married, you're dating.

[@cobaltblue26]

Doesn’t celebrate birthdays because she’s a Jehovah’s Witness but was sleeping around. Jehovah, make this make sense please 😂

[@Pinkpanda811]

😂😂

[@Daydreamerr13]

LMAOOO

[@donnab.333]

🤭🤭

[@enojelmeli]

Best comment! 😅😂

[@GoddessY1968]

This

[@avlivinggolden]

Rejection is God's blessing! I would suggest only dating a man for one year. If you want marriage and if you're not married by that time, move on. If you want companionship keep it going. The blessing is that she is very educated and she had her parents for support.

[@chokoladkallc]

Absolutely! She came out on top.

[@GoddessY1968]

Over 30 years old 6 months tops with few exceptions

[@chokoladkallc]

I agree with that timeline! What are the exceptions?

[@GoddessY1968]

@@chokoladkallc if there is some time exceptions that you as the woman needs more time for job school travel emergency etc.

[@chokoladkallc]

That makes sense!

[@Blaublahblue]

It's like he identifies as deserving to have the highest achieving black woman he can get access to. He didn't love Bria, he loved what she represented and traded her up as soon as he got the opportunity.

[@chokoladkallc]

Facts!

[@mags2847]

@@ccpitts770you don’t see anything wrong with being with someone for what they represent, not what they truly are? Go to therapy baby.

[@avidyoutubewatcherr]

@@ccpitts770As long as they don’t have a girl then go for it!

[@HuesoAmarilloAfricana]

He is a Taurus… they move like that. They prefer the most successful and/or most beautiful woman they can attract. It’s about their long-term stability depending on how personally successful they are. IF they are very well off (to their taste), then they may put more emphasis on how sophisticated, physically beautiful, and how hard to get said woman is. Similar type? Pisces men… useless gold diggers. Dreamers. They definitely go after driven and successful women as their come up. But I digress. Hope Bria is doing much better today 🙏🏼

[@karzymimi42]

@@ccpitts770​​⁠ LOL what is wrong with these people? They’re being willfully obtuse. Women definitely need to learn how to leave men when they’re no longer serving them. Most women stick around because they think it’s “morally” wrong to leave someone you’ve been with for a long time. Sometimes someone better comes along and you’ll be missing out on a better life by not seeing the potential of that alternative. Alexis could’ve handled this situation differently. I don’t agree with cheating, lying or leading someone on. He’s not wrong for wanting Serena or someone on his level. However he should’ve closed the chapter with Sabriya first.

[@krisw.5025]

This is fine in theory, but dating and marrying Serena was a HUGE come up for him. Men have a way of choosing money and status over true love.

[@halroxdynasty8683]

I wrote a whole comment out and I deleted it but you just nailed it in one or two sentences 😂 he had everything to gain from this. It's actually creepier and more telling that he rushed into it so fast. I've never trusted him in this whole relationship...Didn't even know he had an ex 😂

[@chokoladkallc]

A come up in every way.

[@ellegmye]

Men are the true gold diggers.

[@reclaimedandrested]

@@nardagraham1002 This just illustrates how greedy men can be! He was looking for a trophy and he found one in Serena. This isn't a compliment!

[@endersoncassio6014]

True love don't exist, stop whit this be logical.

[@talkingtochapri]

This is soo sad 😢 i didn't even know anything about his ex.

[@chokoladkallc]

It is. She deserves to have the truth revealed!

[@00st307-m]

Same, I had no idea 😭

[@Khyboh]

Right?!💔😞

[@gabriellew.4847]

Why would you know?

[@gabriellew.4847]

​@@chokoladkallcWhy? To use Serena's name? I was dumped by Serenas husband?! That is pathetic!!!

[@FluffyHedgehog]

It's not a good idea to marry and have a children with a cheater. Bria dodged a bullet. Actually he didn't marry Bria because she was too good for him.

[@chokoladkallc]

Absolutely! As they say, rejection is protection.

[@adams8830]

If that's what makes you feel better to say, then sure.

[@jd6331]

​@@yolandacleare6709 How? It's not about color.... I think you need help.

[@TPCheetah]

Well they are the same so it's best they be together

[@FluffyHedgehog]

@JayTheGreatest895 there is no problem in finding the one. But you first break up with your girlfriend before dating someone new. You do it with integrity not like a liar. Love cannot exist within deception.

[@3DSuccess]

Unfortunately so much of cancer has been said to stem from stress

[@xoMissTaylorDivine]

That's devastating

[@3DSuccess]

@@xoMissTaylorDivine It really is. We as Woman have to understand how important true self care is. Meaning creating a life of less stress and more ease and flow.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yes, I was thinking that too :( Sabriya was going through so much, leading up to getting sick.

[@chokoladkallc]

It is :(

[@chokoladkallc]

Absolutely! Soft life all day ❤

[@alias4506]

Dumped her on her graduation! Hate this life. She got cancer because the heartbreak I bet you! Just how Selena Gomez gave 10 years of her life and suddenly she’s sick as shit after Justin just upped and got married. I refuse to let my heartbreak do this to me. I gained weight and got depression but I got back. I feel for these women. I hate time wasters, and really what I hate most is that they just get away with hurting the person they left. And get to be happy

[@chokoladkallc]

I know right! Guys like that suck, but we just have to outsmart them and get out before they waste our time

[@Ohcourtney_]

@@chokoladkallc bingo.

[@AM-sl9pw]

PREACH !

[@starchildofthe90s7]

Men will literally kill you if you let them .

[@shatizpa1016]

This 🎯💯🗣

[@Mctfl427]

So she dated him for 5+ years and no marriage? Sometimes we women also have to take responsibility for our part in the deterioration of a relationship. I’m happy to hear that she’s healthy and cancer-free; thank God! As for the rest, if she was wronged, the universe has a beautiful way of working things out.

[@chokoladkallc]

Absolutely! We are even more responsible for making sure we're treated right than they are.

[@tarrysmile]

Very likely she said no as wanted to finish her PhD first. Thats usually the trend "wait for me". Most peeps I knew doing PhD tend to be extremely busy and consumed and can strain the relationship for the best of us. There was a time you had could do your doctorate after you've done the settling down stuff out of the way. Its very hard to judge when you are not.part of the relationship but it's important to be objective as there are loads of scenarios that could have resulted in the relationship having ended sooner. A big question mark on the solo trips can also be a sign of loneliness.

[@Starr_Podcastofficial]

@@tarrysmileif he wanted to break up with her or was feeling lonely or couldn’t do the whole waiting thing, he would’ve broken up with her sooner rather than later. She was literally already done and it was time first them to have all the time in the world. He waited for that moment to mess up. SMH

[@cutienerdgirl]

Most people in college don't get married. They wait until after they finish their degree.

[@theresa78201]

@@tarrysmile Yes, earning a PhD consumes basically all your waking time...there simply is not time to plan a wedding, let alone care for a post-wedding infant.

[@skb4055]

You said it. Watch people. If you see them being shady with someone else, it’s only a matter of time before they get shady with you.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yep, it's in their nature.

[@napturaladvice7646]

Unless he can do better, he has incentive to stay. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Scole23786]

Wow! It's so cruel what he did to Bria! A real man, a mature man would have broken off with Bria the day he met Serena.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yup! He wanted to have his cake and eat it too

[@claudiaarmah2389]

Yes, that will be the same man whom you also be cursing. Man cheats on you with another woman, you curse him out. Man leaves you for another woman, you curse him out too and you wont stop hating him. Two wrongs dont make a right. Period.

[@claudiaarmah2389]

Oh that is still cruel - breaking off just like that. Since when have you learned to determine what is right or wrong?

[@Roaming725]

He was hedging his bets! Didn't want to let Bria go until he knew Serena is secured 🤢

[@Yolk421]

He wanted Serena for her status and influence. Not because he was in-love. He seems narcissistic. And Serena is messy too but I think she settle with him because she wanted to start a family.

[@NK-rf4db]

Not necessarily, men who want to achieve success are attracted to successful women, there was an attraction between them from the get-go and Serena seems to be smart, and she wasn't willing to scramble under his legs(which is what set the fire in him for her even more). For clarification, I look down on people who cheat, it's really a despicable thing to do and I'm not justifying what was done to Bria, all I'm trying to do is explain how and why Alex fell and is in love with Serena. Also, I'm a hard believer in Karma so time will tell how things will work out for these two 👀

[@Yolk421]

@@NK-rf4db His ex was also very successful; but she didn’t have fame or influence. Also Serena settled with a cheater, that she knew was cheating. But I hope they realize how wrong they are and do better going forward.

[@NK-rf4db]

@@Yolk421 His ex was *on her way to success* at that time(happy to hear she's doing good now 🙏🏻)and was doing way too much for him(I will never understand women like this honestly) and he exploited that,she was his peace and person to "get by" so he won't be alone for the meantime,that's it,he already knew he'd break up with her.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yeah, people accept what they think they deserve.

[@chokoladkallc]

Exactly! It baffles me how some people would rather be with someone they don't like that much, than to do their own thing. Maybe that's just the introvert in me lol

[@victoria87cub]

This is why the stay-at-home girlfriend trend gave me the ick when it was trending. Girl you´re just a placeholder for somebody else.

[@chokoladkallc]

I hope those girls were saving up that allowance!

[@vrushalidhongade5725]

My mother always says - as a woman, never compromise on your self respect and dignity.

[@chokoladkallc]

She sounds wise!

[@evonney08]

It sucks that she was a placeholder 😢 5 years is too long to be a girlfriend. He knew from the beginning that he was never going to marry her. Us women need to realize when we’re being used and not let men string us along. She stayed 3 years too long. God bless her. I’m glad her health is better.

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank goodness she recovered! Yes, 5 years is about 4 too long.

[@evonney08]

@@chokoladkallc I agree!

[@Joejoyoyoyo]

@@chokoladkallc 4 and a half too long. But to be honest, when he ignored her the first time he met her, she should’ve known by then

[@enojelmeli]

Appreciate you taking the time to share Bria's story and including actual factuals. She went through so much. I can't imagine how it must have been for her to see him move on so quickly and be lauded and applauded in the public eye. So happy she has found happiness and has her own loving family. Bria's story will bring hope to other women who were blindsided and betrayed by men they loved.

[@chokoladkallc]

I appreciate your thoughtful comment! ❤️❤️❤️ Bria can inspire us in so many ways!

[@pearlivory3483]

That man secured the BAG. That’s what he did.

[@chokoladkallc]

The girls need to take notes from him!lol

[@MsLotusBlooms]

He is wealthy and successful too. I can't be mad. Men and women should date people on their level, in my opinion.

[@natashadickson4819]

He founded Reddit. He had his own money. Sabriya had no business looking to move in with a man who hadn't even proposed after FIVE years. It doesn't take 5 years.

[@cutienerdgirl]

​@@MsLotusBlooms He just wanted the fame Serena Williams offered. He can date on his level without convincing a woman he already knew he wasn't going to marry to move across the country for him.

[@amandac0903]

He is a Reddit founder. Please stop being in delusion.

[@Chan-zn7wb]

I'm surprised more people don't talk about this. Too many Black women were celebrating her finally finding love, not knowing what her (White) hubby to be did to his last girlfriend. Poor girl didn't know she was dumped until she saw him with Serena!

[@Chan-zn7wb]

@@racheljones4561 Huh? We're talking about her husband being a cheater, here. It's nice she found love, but Alex is still suss AF. I hope she didn't know. It's still wack.

[@tamdell780]

​@Chan-zn7wb that person missed the entire point and story

[@chokoladkallc]

BW need to raise the bar. There are worse situations, but this is still far from being worthy of celebration.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yep!

[@weekendnomad5038]

I don’t understand women that marry men that cheated with them.. like they won’t do the same to you 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@chokoladkallc]

Exactly! It's only a matter of time.

[@adams8830]

Exactly. Once another accomplished black girl comes along he's gone.

[@TPCheetah]

​@adams8830 well it seems they may be the same

[@CatgirlWinegirl]

Y’all do realize that sometimes.. other women take your men and end up living happily ever after right….?

[@buyimajola4245]

@@CatgirlWinegirlhow do you know? Are you one of them?

[@faye_bulous]

Great detective work with the timeline. I’m glad Bria managed to turn her life around. 🌸

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you!! I love a good investigation. And yes, she deserves a good life!❤

[@palesakhoza7153]

A guy I knew in my early 20’s said to me “men are rarely ever single, they swing on the monkey bar, from one girl to the next” 😮 Shook!!

[@chokoladkallc]

He told no lies!

[@cheese.hamburger]

LeComment ibhalwe usisi womZulu 🤣🤣🤣 Kubhlungu but uqinisile | Dying as a single woman doesn't sound that bad now does it? 🙈

[@brooklynforever1990]

Facts

[@mybrownsparklez]

You’re single until you are married.

[@chokoladkallc]

I agree! There's no legal protection for girlfriends, except for evictions sometimes... maybe that's why he broke up right before she moved in.

[@leegaleaglenombo9430]

✅

[@NigelShepherd-z7k]

That's just an excuse to rationalise not fully focussing or committing to the relationship you are currently in. If you want to play the field, just say so. And it's almost always women who will do these kinds of mental gymnastics to justify monkey branching - rarely will you hear a man say that🤔

[@Cpaexam2024]

Exactly

[@natnat8199]

@@NigelShepherd-z7kfull commitment is an agreement on paper, between two people who promise to love and support one another for life, signed before witnesses and recorded publicly by the official representatives of the community. There is usually also a ceremony to publicly celebrate the establishment of this full commitment. It’s called marriage.

[@sayoutube0415]

The more you LOVE YOURSELF, the more HE LOVES YOU. The less you care, the more he does. The less you chase, the more he does. The less you do, the more he does. TREAT YOURSELF AS PRIORITY, AND HE WILL. Only have Goddess energy 💐👸💖

[@chokoladkallc]

Facts!

[@christinebelzie194]

I agree with all except the “he has to love you more than you do him”. At some point, a man (or any person really) will get tired and become detached from the relationship if they feel their significant other is not pouring into them at the same level as they do, so it’d be best for both parties to pour into each other and not neglect their own needs at the same time.

[@sayoutube0415]

@@christinebelzie194 And that's where you need to inspire him with your Feminity, to continue doing for you. A man falls in love and stays in love when he does things for a woman. Men are action oriented. Men connect emotionally when they are "doing". They are wired to be more. Men need to feel needed by constantly doing or they will fall out of love. Your job as a woman is to appreciate his efforts and inspire a man with your natural feminine energy so that he will want to keep doing for you. When you start thinking that you have to be doing too, that's when he will start losing interest in you, and will start looking around or outside for a woman with more feminine energy that will inspire him to "do", that he can "do" for. So please don't fall into this "a woman has to do too" energy. It was taught by the previous generation, its a trap. That makes you more masculine, and less feminine and you'll become less attractive to your man as the relationship goes on the more you do and do and keep doing to "match his energy", he will lose interest in you and fall out of love with you. Men need to feel like the hero ❤

[@icecream7yum1]

Great video! Women need to feel more empowered, instead of waiting for the phone to ring. Maybe a man will be in the picture, maybe he won't be. My advice for women is try to buy a home by age 30 and have children by age 40. Cautiously give time to the men that want to help your dreams come true.

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you! Your advice is great. Some people say that single women shouldn't buy houses bc it'll intimidate men, but we can't wait around forever, or play small so he'll feel big!

[@ds37215]

I bought a house and I am closing on it very soon (within the next 3 weeks)! I am so excited! This is the best thing to happen to me lately!😅🎉❤🎉

[@chokoladkallc]

Congratulations, that's awesome!! I bet you're excited :) !

[@fatimab7584]

Great advice, but maybe a child at 40 is not it, because not only is that not how the biological clock works for women, but you will not be physically in your prime to deal with a baby let alone being 50 with a ten year old...children need to active with their parents at a young age and if not, that can affect their mental health and physical health and they'll feel like they missed out once they hear the other kids stories. Check out Theo Von's story about his dad that had him at an old age.

[@studylive99]

​@@fatimab7584oh please. My mom had children right from her 20s to her late 40s. We are all fine. That is what social media says but reality totally opposite. And it seems us children who had older parents are actually more stable than children with parents who are younger as it is today, when children are treating their parents as their friends

[@nicolita410]

Sabriya was the come-up woman, sad but you have to be more than book smart. Common sense is the real wealth

[@chokoladkallc]

Yes ma'am! With both, you are unstoppable.

[@TheSisters4Life143]

Aww I remember that episode of wwyd!! She does seem really sweet and clearly brainy as well! Also happy she BEAT HER CANCEE BATTLE🎉 I lost my only sibling to cancer but at least some are more fortunate 💖

[@chokoladkallc]

She seems very kind and smart indeed! That must have been very hard to lose your sibling. Thank you for sharing that.💖

[@Kakarott2023]

you are a good story teller. That was super interesting and I didnt know all of this.

[@chokoladkallc]

Aww thank you so much!!!❤

[@lulus704]

Whoa! I had no idea he was in a 5 year relationship when he hit on Serena. I heard both of them on various talk shows tell the same exact story of how they met... on the patio, the rat, Serena being annoyed with him, etc, but I had no idea he was in a long term relationship at that time. that is crazy. and he acts like such a good, honest man smdh. I feel for the ex-gf, i hope she is ok.

[@barbararichardson2747]

Regardless of the length of prior relationship he was single .The ex took the risk of snacking up,which most often doesn’t lead to marriage.Personally know of a couple living together almost twenty years with four kids.He left the relationship and married someone else in a matter of months.Women play wife hoping it will lead too matrimony ;men seem to do so for convenience.

[@mayav6845]

he’s the QUESTIONABLE ONE! My goodness! I cannot stand men who KNOW what they want and waste their time and the GIRLFREINDS time because they don’t have the balls to say they want to break up! JUST GO AFTER AND PURSUE THE WOMAN YOU WANT! Other than that it’s cowardly! -Anywho congrats to all who find love. Great Video btw!

[@eddyalonsomoramorales6069]

Both of them are Serena too But he is definitely worse

[@d.c.4706]

Interesting perspective. Because for me, the “questionable” ones are these women so desperate to be coupled up-they are willing to be nothing more than a”girlfriend” for YEARS on end. It’s not about a man knowing what HE wants. It’s about these women knowing what THEY want and being willing to end any relationship that isn’t going in the direction she desires. Far too many of them want marriage but are willing to settle for the perpetual girlfriend role just to be able to say they “have” someone. For anyone reading this comment, let me let you in on a secret the vast majority of these women seem not to know. IF you have been with a man for longer than 2 YEARS and he has not brought up marriage, proposed, and/or married you-it’s because you are not who he wants to marry and he is proactively looking for his wife. That’s precisely why you see so many of these women dating these men for years like absolute fools-only for him to break up with her and MARRY the next one at record speed. They were PLACEHOLDERS. And instead of these women just admitting to themselves all the signs he really didn’t love them were there in plain sight, she chooses to hop on the victim train. What signs? Well the fact that he dated you for years with no intention of marrying you is a huge red flag many intentionally overlook.😢 Ladies there has GOT to be a set time frame for which you are willing to be someone’s girlfriend. It is CRINGE to see these chicks with their whole faces out proud as ever to be someone’s girlfriend for countless years like it’s some badge of honor. 😳🙄😩 Never. True kings give rings. 💍

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you so much!! I agree, stringing someone along is a very cowardly thing to do. It actually holds the perp back too. Any time spent with the placeholder could have been time they both spent finding their true loves sooner.

[@chokoladkallc]

Facts! 2 years is even too long in my opinion.

[@Wewereneveryoung]

​@@eddyalonsomoramorales6069 Yes, both of them are He is definitely worse But Serena too I made it a haiku :3

[@letmethinkaboutit8982]

He’s definitely got a type. And the worst for the First Lady is that she was impressive. It’s not like she wasn’t accomplished or anything. I feel so bad for her. But if he’s going to leave you, it’s best that he goes earlier when there isn’t a marriage or children involved. I hope she found a better partner.

[@thealyssajen]

great video! a tale as old as time.. ladies I had to remind myself of this yesterday. if you’re a girlfriend, don’t act like a wife. that means limited access, withholding your time and energy, and putting you FIRST. these men will always put themselves first, and that’s just the truth

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you!! And you're absolutely right! We have to be wise

[@LiaBSakura]

How you get them is how you lose them. Let’s see what happens in the future.

[@chokoladkallc]

Exactly! If I were her, I'd be on my toes

[@kuthlwano2958]

@@FreemasonsStalkinMeyou must be a fortune teller 🫡🤣

[@Drageisha]

Serena did nothing wrong. She knew nothing of Bria & owed her nothing. Period.

[@vigarobugsbunni]

Honestly never make plans to uproot your life for a man unless you are MARRIED.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yep! It's too risky otherwise.

[@undaunted1065]

And, unfortunately, even married folk need to be careful. Because if they at some point, in that marriage, recognize, realize, finally allow themselves to stop being in denial but are fully willing to acknowledge that they are married to a narcissist, they should be sure it benefits not only the narcissistic partner, but themselves as well to move to a new location. Because some narcissists move their prey/marriage partners to places where they can isolate them better. So usually far from loved ones/good friends and family. That way you'd be more (co-)dependent with/on them and they could more easily abuse you and break you down emotionally, mentally/ psychologically, physically, spiritually, environmentally, etc.

[@123paramorefan]

This whole video gagged mee!!!!!!! The coach part took me all the way out I need a Challengers Part Two movie now 😂

[@chokoladkallc]

Haha, there's so much content in their story. And I hadn't heard of that movie till you mentioned it. I'll have to watch it!

[@sherwood9917]

Because of who Serena is, the media, particularly Black media, have romanticized her love life and her marriage. When, in reality, it's a lot messier than most know. Also, she may not have posted him publicly for a year, but he was all over her Periscope very early on in their relationship.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yesss, it's not enough to just have a man, or a rich man. His character matters too.

[@Ccchristopher6483]

Yes. Very interesting.

[@dreamleemah]

- If he wanted to, he would. - Men like a chase, so let them. - All the men I met said they knew with in months that they were going to marry their wife. I was in a relationship just like this one. Knew it was weird but when I discussed ending it for this reason, I was gaslight to hell. Tears and all for him to leave me for someone else, less than a month later. “gathering data” loading your Pokédex I’m done lol

[@OuuThatteaHot]

I believe that man drove Sabriah into getting sick stress is no joke!

[@chokoladkallc]

Probably so! I don't believe in coincidences.

[@MuseSunflower]

Lessons I have been learning from these cautionary tales: create stability of your own & have a man add to your life. That way you are thriving with him and without him don't date cheaters - it's not a compliment to have a man leave another woman for you... don't ever be a rebound! don't stay with anybody stringing you along about the future (don't fall for love bombers and get married too quick either though)

[@chokoladkallc]

Those are great takeaways! ❤️

[@00st307-m]

Always look at body language. I always feel bad for the girlfriends who are looking up at their partners - but the guy is looking out into space smh 🤦🏻‍♀️ 4:35

[@RAJOHN-ke7mc]

Yup he is always leaned into Serena and Serena Is leaned away.

[@irreplacable1988]

Well that’s why we need to know girlfriend boyfriend is not a real thing

[@chokoladkallc]

Yup! It's either fully single or fully committed (legally).

[@thejennikiz]

You: A man is not a … what? Me: A PRIZE You: A plan! Me: right … right that’s what I meant 😭

[@chokoladkallc]

Haha both are correct ;)

[@rafiqtsm1451]

He was unapologetic about marrying up genetically and financially. Women should not be unapologetic either. However, hanging out more than 1.5 yrs Ang not engaged is a major red flag. Not married by year 3 is a super megaton bomb. None of my boys took that long to pop the question. 99% of the time men know almost immediately. This they pop the question within 6 months to 1.5 years or less. Y’all got to stop messing with men not ready mentally or financially to marry. Stop entertaining them in every way.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yep, he has no shame in his game lol. And I agree, ladies have to be just as strategic and not let our time be wasted!

[@KelleyAnn-CocoRosey]

Yall are saying you are single until you are married lol and that's so silly. No, it's common courtesy to tell someone you are dating you are no longer interested and met someone else. I call this karmic relationship already opening a new relationship when it's messy it is bad karma onto the relationship. The doctor won, no one needs a little boy like that planning and plotting. I am sure that man is giving Serena hell and she knows shes now responsible for him, she's the cash cow.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yeah, he was definitely out of line for what he did.

[@Jane_Toussaint23]

Thank you!

[@min3Allmin3]

The disrespect after five years is astounding

[@purevenus6359]

This

[@justdanie7613]

Right, because if you aren't caring, faithful and loyal BEFORE marriage, how can I trust that you will be after??

[@3DSuccess]

Serena did a lot of inviting and somewhat pursuing according to this dialogue.

[@whyherrodere3784]

But alot of it was up to him to make the travels and invest towards her by eg watching her play in another country. Maybe her inviting him was dropping the handkerchief and is much less masculine considering that he dropped everything to travel to her

[@chokoladkallc]

Yeah, they had a little dance going. He technically made the first move by sitting next to her (he's not slick lol). But waiting for her to initiate the convo and ask for his # was a feminine thing to do. A lot of women step into the masculine role when the man isn't fulfilling it.

[@chokoladkallc]

Well said!

[@adams8830]

​@chokoladkallc He seems a little feminine overall to me. There's a video of Serena getting her purse stolen. He continues resting in his femininity while she chases down the guy who stole her purse.

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

@@adams8830 I mean Serena isn't know for sitting around.

[@kirubeltadesse2889]

Behavior is a language. When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM! Dont be surprised when he cheats on Serena with a 20-something once she's retired and can't have any more kids.

[@chokoladkallc]

Ooh, I like that! Behavior surely does speak loudly and clearly.

[@Rhianauniversity]

I didn’t know this 🤯 😮 It does shed insight on how some so called “unproblematic/good guy/girl” celebs have major character flaws. Also, I appreciate you elucidating the meekness Sabriya contained. She really was done wrong. Lastly, “if he wanted to he would”. That summarizes this whole situation. 100/100 great video!

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you! ❤️

[@Rhianauniversity]

@@chokoladkallc no problem! 🌸🌸🌸

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

I've seen that episode of WWYD! I remember thinking what a beautiful girl! Both inside and out! I know God has amazing things in store for her

[@chokoladkallc]

She is beautiful indeed!

[@sandraatkins2539]

She's gorgeous.

[@chanaelcaldwell]

That man knew excalty what he was doing. 😂

[@chokoladkallc]

He aint slick

[@OuuThatteaHot]

Serena dating her coach and walking with her hands in his pockets is crazy 😂😂😂😂

[@chokoladkallc]

That was truly something else

[@theresa78201]

She was doing that in public, in broad daylight, perfect situation for someone to take a photo/video and post on social media.

[@carltonesmith5015]

I appreciate your analysis and storytelling! Very thoughtfully put together … You have saved someone from heartache with this video.

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment! :)

[@Opinions567]

Oh Serena! You should never settle with a man like this. How you get em, is how you lose him

[@chokoladkallc]

That's right!

[@fatzmybug]

She's a very beautiful woman. Serene n co , the marriage looks good on the outside but for some reason it looks like a facade. It really doesn't look authentic, there's something lacking there,

[@chokoladkallc]

Oh yeah! I dive a little deeper into their situation in my baby trap video, but it's definitely not as sweet as it looks

[@RAJOHN-ke7mc]

Serena doesn't like him she tolerates him becsuse she wants a two family home with an attententive father

[@MightyPessimist]

I think Ohanian, saw Serena as a woman that arrived already. In other words she had her own shit and Bria was on her way there. Because one thing I see, he loves a smart gal!

[@chokoladkallc]

True, he only likes women who have something going for themselves

[@QueenyKay]

I personally think he targeted Serena. He probably knew she was single and shot his shot. I hope she's got a good prenup because he's definitely going out with something once he leaves her. He is either gonna cheat or blindside her with divorce papers. We shall see.

[@plsfoff]

Soul crushing.

[@chokoladkallc]

:(

[@cathylake9072]

He is a narcissist to leave his ex so coldly for an upgrade in cash and fame. The ex dodged a bullet. He will do the same thing if some rain falls on Serena's life or probably when she gets old. A fair weather type of guy. I hope Serena got a good prenup, look what happed to Halle. Better to pray for a man of good character than steal a man of bad character and have karma catch up in the end. If Serena were a teacher that was not famous sitting at the pool would he have talked to her, or propose in a year and a half???

[@marjorjorietillman856]

So far, he hasn’t displayed the character of a narcissist. He’s a family man who’s almost worth $100 million and counting. And he was single when he met Serena. The lesson here is, women don’t hang on to a man for years and years, hoping for marriage!❤🕊️

[@cathylake9072]

@@marjorjorietillman856 You are entitled to your opinion, but if a man treats his ex like crap the likelihood of him doing you dirty is high. This was not casual dating he asked her to move in after 5 years and then dumped her to be homeless so he could chase fame

[@chokoladkallc]

Sabriya definitely waited too long for him, but he definitely has displayed narcissistic character. I only put so much in the video, but if you do some digging about him online, you'll see that he has very questionable character outside of his relationships, too. Like his business practices and refusing to denounce CP & racism subreddits in the name of "free speech." He has a pattern of having a wonky moral compass.

[@bipolarbeauty88]

Yay!!!! She's blessed! That type of cancer is usually lethal! Glad she is doing it! Happy for her! 🙏🏽🙏🏽💯👏🏽

[@chokoladkallc]

Yes, she's a fighter for sure!!

[@ashleybanksss]

Could have been an industry relationship between Serena and Alexis. This happens a lot in Hollyweird. Nonetheless good lesson at the end of the day

[@chokoladkallc]

Could be! There's a theory that her agent, Jill, staged the meeting at the pool.

[@ashleybanksss]

@@chokoladkallcI wouldn’t be surprised lol but it’s still a good cautionary tale!

[@mikawaii_og]

Did not know Serena had a thing for taken men! I wonder if we will be able to see the karma that will get her (and him...)

[@yellowdiamond1239]

He publicly made a bleach bath for her as a joke. 🤢 She ain’t painting her face white, and getting surgery on that flawless face for nothing. I felt for her until this video. 😢

[@mikawaii_og]

@@yellowdiamond1239 damn maybe he's her karma or smth

[@chokoladkallc]

We shall see!

[@chokoladkallc]

She was such a natural beauty!

[@genevaxo]

​@@yellowdiamond1239 bleach bath??? Explain please

[@1sablelove]

Great video. More young women need to learn from this cautionary tale

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you! I hope they do ❤❤❤

[@fairygolddigger]

Very interesting storytelling. I’m a fan of don’t hate the player. Hate the game. Get that ring at all costs if that’s truly your goal.. ladies put yourselves first. Be selfish.

[@e113jelly6]

He was trying to secure that bag!!!!!!!! City boys up

[@chokoladkallc]

LOL

[@nicoobrowner]

I actually support the woman who went out of the way for Alexis, even when he didn't marry her. NEVER REGRET being yourself and giving your best for a relationship. Just because they were the wrong person, doesn't mean you were an idiot or a fool for being serious about the relationship. This kind of mentality makes you give crumbs in a relationship and to lead with pride, what we see so many women nowadays do. Now I am not saying co-habit or sleep with a man you're hopelessly inlove with, thats where I personally I draw the line. Some privileges are meant to be given in marriage. But other than that, when you're looking for love, leave that ego out the door. Be yourself! The right one will love your kindness, sacrifice, and generosity. The wrong one, you LEAVE.

[@chokoladkallc]

Yourself is the best person you can be :)

[@smol_chilli_pepper]

I appreciate this comment

[@angelamwanapabo4997]

I 100% agree with you!But 5 years is way too much,she should have left him just after 3 years!

[@123paramorefan]

Alexis this is crazyyyyyy work omg nasty work 😭😭

[@chokoladkallc]

Ikr!

[@caribbeanchi]

Wish i saw this in my 20's. Great advice

[@chokoladkallc]

No time like the present :) Thank you so much!

[@trudyb4841]

Just what I was telling myself. Everything she says I have learned through experience 😂

[@chokoladkallc]

@@trudyb4841 Haha that's how I had to learn it too 😭

[@antiableism]

Im in the survival phase from being placeholder. This video is very relatable. Glad to see Briya doing doing well and starting her family.

[@chokoladkallc]

That recovery period is necessary! And yes, it's so good that things are going well for her. I believe there's a happy ending waiting for all of us. ❤️

[@barenoks4387]

I am officially done with people!!! No one is loyal!

[@chokoladkallc]

There are still good ones out there! Just gotta vet people.

[@SandraSilva-gj5kb]

Excellent text, vocabulary and ADVICE. Been on Briya's shoes.

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you so much! So many of us have been in her shoes, but we all have the power to move forward and do better :) !

[@takemypainaway9517]

I just don’t understand what was the point of keeping Briya. Can someone please explain this? Why didn’t he just leave the first girlfriend??? Why keep her, continue to drag and lead her on, leave her homeless. And he does this so casually. Like this is so evil to me. Does he not have a heart? And how on earth does Serene sleep with such a man. People really scare me. She definitely got sick from this heartbreak. I don’t care what anyone says. Imagine seeing him with a big time celebrity. He got an opportunity with a celebrity and took it. Dropped his ex. Damn. On top of all of that, she had to see it all over the internet. Does this mean he never cared for Briya? Like was it ever real for Briya? Alsooooo I seen that episode of WWYD!!! She did amazing! Wow I had no idea it was her!

[@chokoladkallc]

He liked her enough to keep her around for the free wife benefits, but not enough to marry or be real with her 😔. She dodged a bullet, though. I feel you. Who would want to be married to someone like that?

[@Ninja-cp8ox]

I like Serena but I’m disappointed

[@chokoladkallc]

I feel ya. She is an extremely talented woman, but seems to have some questionable morals.

[@maryfields877]

That guy was not married. This is why so many people advise against shacking up. Living as a married couple without being married, smh. In his mind, he was fully available.

[@Ninja-cp8ox]

@@maryfields877 you are definitely Serena’s type of person because someone with morals can’t be okay with that and even if they were not married they were in a committed relationship.

[@maryfields877]

@@Ninja-cp8ox My mom told me when I was in my 20s that I was not obligated to stay with anyone who didn't ask me to marry him and hadn't given me a ring. I had got so wrapped up in someone, I thought I wasn't allowed to explore. My mom had to break it down for me. When she did, my eyes opened and my world changed. This is how guys are. If they haven't committed to you, why are you committed to them? It's one sided loyalty and a very dangerous game for women.

[@true4585]

@@maryfields877 You’re right. It’s good to have morals, but is even better to have common sense. Emotions aren’t reality ladies, and men think like men. They think differently.

[@ssoomee]

I just checked, Serena has so much more money than Alex. No wonder he’s always grinning about staying at home with their kids. I keep saying this to us unambiguous BW, A LOT of WM gravitate towards us because they are hypergamous. They keep seeing BW working hard and achieving great things and they want a piece of the action. Beware because WM do that no matter what sociopath-economic level they inhabit. Whether it’s true love, admiration, or hypergamy I don’t know, but this story tells me everything I suspected about this man.

[@chokoladkallc]

You're so right! I wonder if that's why his type is Black women...

[@ssoomee]

@@ninagrace-lee8323 I’m literally black, so no I’m not picking another black woman apart. But let’s be honest, we don’t always have the benefit of the doubt or resources to maneuver and make mistakes in white spaces. We can think that they are equal in wealth, but in that world there is a HUGE difference between millionaires and billionaires, especially those who are working full-time and making deals to increase their wealth vs those who cashed out and are sitting on a pile of money. As you know, cash depreciates, and seeing that she literally has double his wealth, we’ll see if he’s these two are on the same page about money in the years to come. 2024 has shown us that even the wealthiest people aren’t immune to changes in the economy and that their fortunes can and do change if they aren’t savvy and always planning ahead. A bad business investment, a financial scandal, even an over-priced real estate purchase can put financial strain on a wealth person’s finances. And then that’s when someone like Alex will start asking his more prosperous spouse ‘hey do you mind investing in this, in that?’ and then the dynamics change. We don’t know anything but what we’ve seen online and that’s what I’m using to make a pretty fair assessment from what I’ve seen from the past with wealthy individuals like these. Also let’s not forget, WM are very hypergamous, they have not changed in the past 500 years. I don’t know what will happen in the future, I certainly hope that he is truly serious about his marriage to Serena, but all those cutesy things he’s been doing to celebrate her mean publicly literally means nothing if their marriage doesn’t stand the test of time.

[@ssoomee]

@@ninagrace-lee8323 and let’s be real here- men like Alex don’t expect to marry working women, especially if they’re extremely wealthy. They usually want women who can act as socialites to be the ‘soft power’ to help them navigate these rich and connected spaces. They like having their women stay at home or even work ‘casually.’ And yet Serena is being a powerhouse while he cheers her on. He could have easily gotten an unambiguous black woman who wanted the soft life. Which tells me his isn’t as traditional as he makes out, he just wanted someone who was more outwardly harder working than him. If you don’t get it I can explain, but this situation isn’t traditional and isn’t something I would recommend for hard working BW because we’ve always been hard working, it’s just that now other races of men are seeing it.

[@chokoladkallc]

I love your comment! ❤️

[@cyndeepokorny3413]

Great video. Had no idea this was going on when they met!!!!

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you!! They tell a different story to the press, but the timestamps don't lie.

[@carlatoppins8567]

Wow! I didn't know this was how she met her hubby. But if it's one lesson I learned regarding men, the same way we get em is oft times the same way we lose em. I get it that once that biological clock (at a certain age) starts to wind down we long for that baby, that partner, that family. We may find it hasn't happened yet, but we can't allow desperate scenarios to play out in our actions. I am glad Sabrya did at least get her papers. She had a lot going for her and didn't need to disadvantage herself to chase and follow a man who didn't make it official. In any case good critique, commentary, and feedback on this topic. I see your Mom taught you well for a youngin You are wise beyond measure; stay Blessed!👍🏾✝️🙂

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you for your kind words! ❤️❤️ Glad to have you here ☺️

[@carlatoppins8567]

@@chokoladkallc 🙂🩷

[@laskaaksala1712]

Wow. I want to congratulate you, you really found a great format. ✨🎉 I enjoy your storytelling and voice as was said by others. I also find these essay inspirational, educational and wisely told. I percieve you to portrait the lesson over the people/black and white judment. This work satisfies my cheap desire for Gossip and rich people stuff whilst educating. Lastly i love how it peeles the relational aspect of class somehow away, whilst also clarifying how it all is deeply affected by money, power and patriachy. I loveeee to see black femmes on screen, that kinship hits different. Thank you🔥

[@chokoladkallc]

Aww, thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment! I'm glad you enjoy the format and I appreciate your support 🫶🏾❤️!

[@Lonelylovelywestindian]

We’re usually the placeholders, again usually exceptions exist. Or we end up the placeholder because their family/society lowkey dont like to see black women with any non black men.

[@chokoladkallc]

:(

[@Lonelylovelywestindian]

@@chokoladkallc sorry for my pessimisme

[@chokoladkallc]

No need to apologize! You're fine ❤

[@prettynpetty8342]

It's only a matter of time if you're the other woman and you know that the man you're with has someone already. Karma will get her lick back. I had know idea about any of this with Serena. She had to have known her coach was taken too. I'm now conflicted on whether I should support someone like that anymore.

[@chokoladkallc]

Oh yeah, she's overdue. It will happen at some point. It always does.

[@mahneekaha.nightmare5220]

But will she care? A lot of them don’t care so much about the cheating and more about the combination of wealth to the family. Men with money are known to cheat. People with money, and legacy, move different. people with no money move& think, differently. Usually. So it depends on what you call”karma”.

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

What about the man? Does the karma locate them or do they get to walk free?

[@mahneekaha.nightmare5220]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 THANK YOU! They always are more upset at the women who are not the ones cheating on them🤣

[@eddyalonsomoramorales6069]

@@racheljones4561 she got with a married men Is that not wrong to you???and stop playing the racial card to justify your lack of empathy n shitty caracter

[@Calmly-replied111]

Loved your presentation 👏🏽. Know that unfortunately we live in a bigger greater best society. Stop measuring yourself against other people 💯

[@fitihab]

I hated your video title and came to hate but I love that you turned it into a lesson to women! You actually admired Serena!

[@drewphonix7685]

As a 33 year old man this is really eye-opening. To see what some women have to go through. And it makes me think about how I've treated every woman in my life as an option. Even my wife no I didn't marry until 10 years and two kids. It makes me think about my daughter, and how I would never want her to be treated like that. It also inspires me to learn more national appreciation and love for my wife and get better at it every single day. She waited 10 years for me to be ready to get married so I could over delive. I will always feel guilty about it. My parents divorced when I was four, because of that they were lost in the sauce of their divorce and I was molested. And I always saw their divorce as the reason why I was r worded. And my innocence was removed. And the fact that I'm Jamaican in Jamaicans are very homophobic, they just acted like it didn't happen ans would not even option for therapy (likely because they thought it was my fault, granted I was 4 years old assaulted by an almost grown man). Needless to say marriage was not on the table for me. My wife knew this going in so she was patient with me but I still feel bad that it took me so long to confront my past and get therapy. After 4 months of therapy I was ready to marry her. My sad sob story aside no woman should have to wait that long for a man. Deep down I always knew it was her, (and maybe she did too) but I needed to show her much earlier. I love watching videos like this I can learn about what women go through and at least be a little bit more equipped to be able to treat my wife better and raise my daughter with some insight

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you can take something away from these videos, too.

[@gillianr7222]

Don't drag ALL of us Jamaicans as a collective into this! Some of you are the worst with your generalisation!!!!!

[@theresa78201]

So many men never seek therapy, read books, or do anything to resolve issues from their childhood (whatever they are). Be proud you moved forward on this!

[@tedyryt1369]

If a man is not ready for marriage after 1 year of dating or max 2 , he is going to waste your time …… plus Serena is like her dad , selfish and create broken homes for your happiness …but idk where is karma in this, they are living their best life while his poor woman suffered

[@chokoladkallc]

Oh yeah, I know of people who get married after less than a month and are still together years later. Doesn't take long to seal the deal, if he wants you. As for karma... I plan to make a video about that- how there's no reward for being selfless and no punishment for being selfish.

[@tedyryt1369]

@@chokoladkallc i was told by elders marry a man who loves or wants you not other way around....plus i never understood people dating for so long and not committing , its like women dont respect themselves to create boundaries in the name of being liberal

[@beasaroseco5840]

I forgot about her dad. He was a piece of work.😒 Judging by the story he was with Bria but he was still L👀KING. Bria dodged a bullet.

[@adams8830]

Karma takes her time sometimes. Look at diddy. It took 20 or 30 years but karma has come for him.

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

What about Alexis?

[@joyariffic4217]

I think Alexis is an opportunist. He doesn't seem trustworthy and he could have gotten with Serena for the clout

[@Moneymojo6272]

Date multiple men but you not have to sleep with them.

[@chokoladkallc]

Rotational dating for the win!

[@00st307-m]

9:20 she’s so pretty!!! 😭

[@chokoladkallc]

Ikr! A natural beauty

[@ta2985]

I got a real education from this video. Such an eye-opener. Please do part two about Serena’s marriage.

[@chokoladkallc]

@@ta2985 Thank you so much! I am uploading a video now that touches on her marriage, at the end.

[@NondeM]

You’re so pretty!

[@chokoladkallc]

Thank you so much!!

[@timelessbeautyfashion]

Instant subscribe. Great lessons that every woman needs to apply to her life.

[@CrazyBunniePanda]

Girl, you are literally gorgeous!! I been watching your videos!

[@chokoladkallc]

Aww thank you so much!! I'm glad to have you here ❤❤❤

[@shhd2105]

You never uproot your life for a man, especially if you're not even married

[@cocobronze7587]

Serena status plays a big part in why he pick Serena over bria. Money attracts men also, money comes to money

[@KekePfan16]

New subbie! WOW I had no idea!! I’m looking at Alexis sideways now!!! 😮😮😮

[@chokoladkallc]

Hey, glad to have you here!❤❤❤