The Ultimate Guide To Saying ‘No’

Saying “no” can be a huge struggle for so many of us. But it’s such an important skill to get right. In this episode, discover how to gracefully say “no” to your boss. And because saying no is so powerful, we created this cheat sheet: The Ultimate Guide to Saying No. It’s packed with 19 word-for-word scripts to use in a variety of situations. Grab your free copy here: www.marieforleo.com/blog/how-....
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[@rafaella9700]

I`m Mexican, we have the tendency to trying to be nice to everyone. The struggle is REAL! I needed this

[@faithxchristianentrepreneu9471]

I have a hard time saying no when I feel like I'll be disappointing people (particularly friends who ask for even unreasonable favors). But I'm realizing saying no and creating some healthier boundaries leaves me more balanced and less frazzled/overwhelmed. I also then say yes with joy when the time is right, instead of resenting them and myself for not saying no when I should've. Altogether, this is still a learning process, but saying "no" sometimes is actually making me a *better* friend.

[@lornashandmadesoaps7034]

Sometime it difficult to say no to love ones. Thanks for sharing.

[@MOBROOKS]

I like this woman. Love her spirit.

[@Brandmerry]

Saying no has given me more energy and made me a happier person but I do struggle with it at times still! Thank you for this!

[@SophiaDaoPh]

Thank you for this! Great episode that is much needed!

[@theMusicFairy1]

The most tricky situation to say 'No' for me is when I don't want to go to religious meetings because I can't tell my parents as they will worry about me extremely to a point where their stress can cause physical illness to them. Also when I just feel like work load is just too much and my relaxing and entertainment period of the day is threatened. The area of my life which will improve dramatically if I say 'No' more often will be my spiritual and self independence as I will be able to do whatever spiritual practice I feel like without being obligated to do a certain one and without being always intimidated into believing a certain religion each sermon. That will also increase my self confidence to a great degree.

[@VashtiPerry]

I've told my mom no to Dionne religious activities for the past 6 months. She had been paying hard for me lol but i just keep declining. She thought something was wrong with knee since I used to be super involved....

[@zendayalove9221]

omg I love you guys so much!! How did you read my mind!?? This is EXACTLY what I needed right now and something I really been struggling with!! You're literally a Life saver!!!!! xx

[@mkhanabusa]

I struggle with this so much. thanks for the tips!

[@A_Vets_Life]

Omg I haven't had a video of you pop up & I am excited 🤗🤗

[@awkwardnetworker2054]

Glad I found this channel. Great topics!

[@holisticachievers]

Funny enough, I usually find it hard to say no in situations I know I should, so I'm talking about when you know you shouldn't do something but still do it or the other way around. Lovely video, thank you, Marie!

[@krystynavodianitska9833]

Thank you Marie for this incredible video. Now I know how to say no correctly

[@nataorozcocoach]

Yes!!! Fantastic!! Please how to say NO to yourself and all the great ideas that come up while you are still working in another great specific idea. How is the best way to handle that????

[@javiergutierrez7561]

Thank YOU Marie!

[@zzantares]

I think in Mexico there's a strong culture that is so hard to say "No", if you say it, you're potentially closing yourself some doors in the future, they will not even ask you next time... but still most of people don't fully say "Yes" when asked and, even if later they do a poor job on the task or do nothing at all, is not so bad as if you have said "no" when you were asked. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that from my perspective is easier to say "Sorry, I let you down on that" to say "No, I'm not interested" right at the beginning.

[@fatimasamira3695]

Julio César makes sense!!!

[@realjpliou]

I like you, yours videos make me feel confident and happy.

[@kticona]

AMEN!!!! It's Sunday-Tuesday!!!

[@huhbora]

I can’t say no to a lunch date. I love food and talking, :)

[@LiveFreeWarrior]

That opening quote from Warren Buffet was POWERFUL! Thank you for this. I say no to people quite often, and I'm realizing that it's closing many doors, but hopefully, directing me in the place I ultimately want to be: TV Host in Wellness and Health! Looking for guests...!? ;) Thanks, Marie!

[@mkhanabusa]

you got it!

[@wessturgeon2711]

I commented about Sir Richard Branson...he uses yes the way Buffett uses NO....what do you think?

[@LiveFreeWarrior]

I'm personally someone who needs to create boundaries, so it's more empowering for me to say NO than YES. So, I'd suggest, it's a personal decision based on our own personalities, and knowing one's self!

[@CarolGregoriAFranco]

The most challenging situation, for me, is to say no to family and friends. I don´t want to desappoint or make them feel sad, so I prefer to say no to myself and my needs, than say no to the others. It´s not healthy I know, but I still can´t change it. Sometime I will get there.

[@zzantares]

This is so true, when I say "No" I think I'm seen as a insensible person that just don't care about others :S

[@salmaradwan8202]

when starting saying No to my friends who always offer candies and desert..i loose weight and become in shape..saying the word NO in this situation makes me happy.

[@user-qd2iv6tk1s]

Marie, you are my really really teacher. for the first time I read email you send. contents was so useful. but I was no good at English. so I read your email a lot repeat and repeat your u tube. eventually I understand what you say , what's your thought . thanks so much . l look forward to next video . XO kim

[@charmedprince]

Sometimes it's hard to say NO to some request (a job of which you won't be paid) that is in line with your passion and interest, but that you need to sacrifice your time and energy (thus abandoning your job for this opportunity). So when I have these requests, I just say YES in the name of charity and the fact that it might never happen/come again.

[@rodeatangana729]

Hi Marie am Atangana Gael Rode from Yaoundé Cameroon. For me i like helping people around me and forget about what i realy want for my self, saying no to my sorounding to concentrate on what i realy want to do will help me alot thanks for all what you are doing to help. its Gael from facebook

[@MichelleCoxPhotography]

Girl... I know I need to say no sometimes but you're right, shonda has me all confused hahaha

[@marisolandres3559]

Thanks Marie...Saying no to a boss seems hardest...my husband is having the same problems you've pointed out in this video: heavy work load, & work strategies he doesn't agree with. His boss also has quite an ego (not open to new suggestions)..I'll see if any of these suggestions will help him out. Thanks! 💗

[@andressaoliveira540]

I'm Brazilian and I love you and your videos .. 🇧🇷

[@andressaoliveira540]

Emerson Marcos great.. she's amazing !! Enjoy it.

[@thekatephillips]

It can be challenging to say no to projects with people I like that would make money, but aren’t 100% aligned with my mission. (Somewhat aligned.)

[@Platinum907]

Saying ‘no’ to my in-laws... personally I can do it with ease but my partner wants to be the one to communicate to his parents which makes getting my message to them too complicated & stressful because he is extremely afraid of hurting their feelings.

[@jaszlau]

I said NO to a relationship with my cousin. I explained everything when she found out after I blocked her from my social media, it just to hurtful when she needed my attention she will immediately get it even when my mother was ill and needed care. I still spared her time on the day she called me. When I needed her to be there for me like my father funeral she didn't even had the command sense to meet me at the funeral cremation or called to said sorry she cannot make it because of work.

[@clairewillow6475]

I always love Marie's insight and I don't think it's a woman's job to always be perfectly fashionable.. that said, since she has time to always have her hair curled/styled, I think she would look more chic with a long bob or another shorter haircut ... love the skirt though (I'd probably pair with a grey top or a neutral instead of another shade of purple but it's still pretty)

[@lung9074]

From a supper far country! I really want to meet you in person!😨😨 such an a crazy dream😂😂😂😂 love your working💙💙

[@maiinh7730]

hi my vnamese friend :v

[@lung9074]

Mai Đinh hi

[@zzantares]

By the way, I couldn't download the guide.. anyone else had this problem?

[@Judgelesslovemorre]

You are heaven sent (:

[@dreone2008]

What if it's just no because I don't want to. I don't have anything else to do. I just wanna go home and lay down. Am I A jerk for saying no just because I just plain ole don't wanna?

[@aamirafzal3992]

1. Its tricky to say No to parents.

[@charmedprince]

Aamir Afzal NO it's not. If you give them a good valid reason.

[@aamirafzal3992]

neither you know me nor my parents...you can never say No without proper grounding. Had you been my friend I would have give a thought to your statement...But I know it better and my life has been like that. I have recieved a lot of NOs and Objections straight away without giving second thoughts from my parents.

[@rebeccaamodeo7901]

Arie Stotle sometimes people, including parents, don't respect another person's valid reasons.

[@aamirafzal3992]

Rebecca Amodeo you are so true Rebecca. Thank you

[@charmedprince]

Aamir Afzal I'M SORRY that you live in a strict environment. Many people also say NO to me even if I have very valid reasons. BUT I REBELLED ANYWAY. Sometimes, all it takes is COURAGE even if your family hates you, as long as you do what you think in your heart and mind, is RIGHT FOR YOU.

[@nightlifeking]

I've actually ruined a lot of relationships by saying yes when I should've said no and I didn't come through on what I said yes to.

[@edwardbentley]

Just watch Jim Carrie’s movie “Say Yes”, to see where it can lead.

[@ab51105]

Hi Marie, If my boss requires me to work overtime , how can I say “NO” to him? Thanks for your video!

[@taoist32]

Kris Liao Get a new job. Or say you have a new opportunity you are thinking about. Start negotiating with your boss about the benefits and consequences of not doing overtime. Be honest, though. If you have no job opportunities, don’t lie.

[@wessturgeon2711]

I wonder what you think of Sir Richard Branson...he has the theory or practice of yes...it's positive, gets things done, is motivating, and can be inspirational. I've heard Buffet's "no" theory before...but I feel SRB is just as successful, and I like YES! ....thoughts anyone?

[@Pumpkin0_0]

I'm currently in a stage of learning and my class is also a team. This video really comes in handy, because we have the option of not being part of a certain activity, which I'm starting to really reconsider because there's a huge lack of communication and little groups going on their own instead of talking it out as a TEAM. The problem here is to say "No" and go through an essay and an exam instead of being part of the activity, especially when the activity is really important for the whole team. One of my classmates chose to not do it and now the teachers and some classmates see her in another light, but there's a really valid reason for her not to participate, which is the lack of communication between everyone and even the lack of time we all have to create the activity. I have no idea how to say "No" when everyone else might see me in a bad light. :(

[@mudraofwitches]

Try saying no when you're a graphic designer like me, and your mother's friend keeps perstering me to make stuff for him. Because they both think I don't have my life together and I can apply services they deem good for me. They refuse to hear me. They refuse to respect my 'no's'. How the hell do I keep saying no to this?

[@JeJeNtwrk]

Saying No to friends and Saying no to myself when i just want my way instead of doing waht is right for the future......

[@daniiiakasha1436]

This might be a stupid question, and the answer is probably No- but is your B- school eligible to accept funds from a Perkins loan?

[@MelanieJosephine]

I find it hard to say no to my friends

[@shreyasharma1105]

Answer to second - If I say 'NO' to negative comments and judgement of my abilities my life will be a whole lot better.

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

Saying no to volunteer requests. I love helping out but I need to focus more on working for $$ right now and a bit less free work. It's for causes I am passionate about and that are struggling for dollars so paying for services is usually not an opiton. Love the "I'm giving 83% today." Priceless!

[@azizaisabekova3394]

Мария могли бы Вы прояснить то что мучает меня ? это "что то "я имею уже очень давно как понимаю , почему же живу как самая бедная на свете не имея элементарных средств для проживания ?

[@harisismail]

NO

[@OlavoLuisatto]

HI Forleo. I love you. ❤️ Did you know it? Yeah. You won a scholarship to play the saxophone with me. Powerful Woman/NYC. With all my love. Xx BRZ ;) Santos City

[@user-zc8qe9qy8z]

I said no to cigarettes

[@GoldenMushroom64]

I’m gonna have to leave a dislike. No boss is going to take that first “no” sentence seriously

[@Innerloveinitiative]

I should have said NO to watching this video. No content. Disappointed.