The uncomfortable truth of getting older

[@eddyinet]

I'm envious that you came to this realization at 25. It took me 40 years to get to this point. You mentioned it will take time. My one suggestion is to not wait. Do it now. Slow down now. Set a goal to to accomplish half of what you want in a the course of a day in the next few months. The compounding affect of the greatness you can achieve once you slow down and focus will be nothing short of shocking to you.

[@nitesoundsyt]

Myself included. I turned 35 this year and it wasn't until 2020 or so, when life slowed down around me & I began working remote, that I began to understand the importance of living more slowly & deliberately. Less is indeed more & letting yourself focus on fewer things at a time only results in a better outcome. Whether it be learning something new or pursuing a creative goal, taking time to sit with ideas & concepts is far more productive in the long run than rushing or trying to figure out everything all at once. Thanks for this excellent reminder today!

[@pumpjackpiddlewick]

Beautifully beautifully said.

[@AlissonGMRocha]

Another 40s included here 👋 same same

[@yassine3978]

Am 19 years but i swear i feel like 40

[@adaptercrash]

I lost my mind at 25 into full blown psychosis see how long I could go after 3 months I made some crappy story about being able to give people sex changes through playing guitar. I probably could.

[@SueStJean-zi3wy]

As someone who is about to turn 55, my analogy for your desire to start slowing down is this: Life when you are young feels like sampling the hors d'oeuvres at a party, where you put a little bite of everything on your plate and eat while mingling with the crowd. As you get older you realize you want to sit down and enjoy every bite of a one dish, hopefully with people you love.

[@EricaGamet]

From another almost-55-year-old, I love this analogy! I may need to steal it!

[@rebeccak-d8561]

Excellent analogy.

[@Yuddder]

Wow, as a 23 year old this is beautiful

[@eliksir817]

This is such a great analogy!

[@tommym321]

That’s a really stupid and unhelpful analogy

[@beyondtherhetoric]

As someone on the eve of his 40th birthday, listening to a 25yo talk about getting older reminds me of many of the same thoughts I had at your age. I'm not here to tell you it gets better. It gets different and you gain a different perspective.

[@mothratemporalradio517]

An honest comment.

[@InnerResearcher]

"I cannot approach my life in the way that I used to". Ooft. That hit me deep. I turned 25 this July and I feel the same way that you feel. I remember my teacher in school used to say "if you think of going through life as having a map. The map you use to get from 16 to 18, is not going to be the same map you use to get from 25 to 30". And I think this can even be applied on a micro-level. I've changed quite a lot in the last 6 months, so in a way, my approach has changed and I cannot do things (and don't want to do!) the way I did them 6 months ago. Thank you for another insightful video Nathaniel

[@barbaraccosta]

Can relate!

[@sparklymud7168]

what do you exactly mean by this? is living your life like it’s a map a bad thing?

[@seanhernandez]

@@sparklymud7168 I think it's more about how the perspective of the map changes with time. The map isn't good or bad it's just the way you lived those years I presume.

[@anotherpassingpoof]

Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes, "Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished." Lao Tzu. I've tried to remind myself that there is no overarching concrete 'goal' to my life. Of course I have aspirations and smaller goals I want to achieve; but there is no end point, all we have for certain is right now. And for me the focusing on presence and the now is a really grounding way to slow yourself down.

[@Hey_its_Dre]

I just turned 40 this year and I have a clear memory of thinking 25 was very old (when I was 18)😝 I have come to look at my life in chapters. Every chapter has different challenges and obstacles. I am also a ICU Nurse and my career path has taught me that every single day is an absolute gift, every breath is a gift and every year I age is a gift (I often think of how many of my patients didn’t make it to my age 😔). One thing that has come to me unexpectedly in my 40s is how comfortable I am with myself at this age - I completely accept myself - flaws and all. Cheers to another year and to another opportunity to fulfill goals and dreams.

[@MrX-nc8cm]

And judging by your pfp you have kept your beauty! You’re right the key is to accept yourself and your path. Everyone’s path is different

[@livelifefamilyzone]

I used to think 22 was older-mature age because I was a teenager. But when I reached 22 I realised 22 is still young or definitely not old. The boxes, limit or checklist based on age are the ones we only put. Sometimes it helps, majority of the time pointless. Just learn and grow no matter what age you are in. Your life is yours, no one else can get the exact life you have or other people’s life that you can 100% duplicate.

[@ahutton49]

First off Happy birthday! Second, your twenties is made for discovery. When I was your age I gave birth to my second child. I knew I wanted children and I wanted to have them early so I could enjoy my life in my 40’s. I raised my children, went to school and worked hard so I could and now that I’m in my 60’s I’m so glad I did. You my love are on the right path. I follow your Dad’s channel and I know your parents are good people so you and your brother come from the right stuff. Take your time and just enjoy what life brings your way. You are far ahead of alot of other 25 yrs olds so just listen to what life has to offer. You will be okay.

[@jamilgotcher5456]

I'm glad I had my child young too. I started a second career in my late 40's and have been having success at it. I'm 58.

[@chronicfish]

You've done and figured out more at 25, than most of us at 45 (me included). You have *nothing* to worry about. You're most definitely on the right path. Always remember to take it slow, enjoy life and to always be a "kid" at heart.

[@tobbiey]

I’m about to be 39. I learned this lesson early on similar to what you are learning now. I take my time. I don’t over burden my life with things I don’t care about. I also despise being late. I know how valuable my time is and I can’t stand the thought of waste someone else’s time waiting on me. All the best as you nose toward a more fulfilling time management for yourself.

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

I am 32 and not rolling my eyes. My mid 20's were hard because most of my friends were starting to have their own lives. I could see it happening but it took longer for my brain to accept these changes internally. I also, struggled with self-identity at this time a lot.

[@janebaker966]

When I was on the eve of my 30th birthday and I saw I didn't have a bank account,a partner,a mortgage or any of those "milestones" or 'rites of passage' or whatever they are called I stopped trying to live the 'approved' way......and ended up having a really enjoyable life. I don't know if it's different for young people now but when I was young it was like,a tacit promise from society,if you play the game and follow the rules a b c your reward will be x y z. But it's a lie of course.

[@jesseperez4185]

@@janebaker966 yep. there is no right way in life. We are all on a different path worth living

[@JackCalvinRoss]

This is so crazy. I turned 24 a few days ago and made a video about some of the things I've learned. Damn near IDENTICAL opening about the different stages of our lives almost feeling like individual lives of their own. I've always really related to your videos but this is just nuts man. These ideas always feel like they come from within but stuff like this makes me think these ideas have to be universal or coming from something outside of myself because you and so many others seem to come to them on their own. Literally started making videos because of you one year ago and it's really cool to see you wrestling with the same ideas that I am. You've inspired the hell out of me dude and I hope I get to meet you one day. Happy birthday and good luck with the next chapter!

[@pritibag6805]

These kinda comments make me feel actually how similar we are as human beings keeping all the aggressive success stories behind, brings me peace 🕊️✌️🌿

[@arturoCM007]

I cannot believe I look up to a 25yo. I'm almost 40. Very wise fellow. Hey, Drew, you have helped me a lot! thanks!!

[@nicopaolo]

This quote from Chris Williamson’s podcast really hit me “What was adaptive in one part of your life will be maladaptive in the next”

[@This_Intentional_Life]

I think you are ahead of the curve. You were working full time at 17 so now in your 20s you are realizing what some don’t until their 30s or 40s. As we develop and grow as individuals what once suited us or drove us won’t anymore because we have evolved. That is the beauty of life we don’t have to be the same person we once were. We can find contentment or even joy in new ways of living or experiencing life. I never really understood the idea of living with less and slowing down until my 40s but I’m beginning to embrace it more and more while still experiencing all that I want with whatever time I have remaining on earth.

[@pumpjackpiddlewick]

Ah Nathaniel. Yes I rolled my eyes, but also was impressed that you realised that life is ever evolving. As are you. Life is about learning from mistakes, figuring out what works for you (and what doesn't), what you are looking to get out of life. And what is particularly impressive is that you are realising this at your age. Many don't figure this out until much later in life - if at all. Well done.

[@margaritadelcarmen_]

I turned 25 last year and I remember I was really scared and not excited it about it At All. Now in hindsight it’s because of all these expectations I had placed on my self and felt like I wasn’t who I wanted to be and didn’t even know how to get started because I always placed myself last. I felt like 25 was a very transitional number for me. I started making small goals and putting in the work that I needed to be who I wanted and it definitely took being more intentional with my time and who I was giving it to. So for me it was slowing down too- I’m still learning how to take things slow but 26 thus far has been nice because I’m learned to start living in the moment. Thank you for this reminder!!

[@KyleVGu3]

Turning 25 next week, and I relate 100% about the internal narrative push! Cheers to bigger and better things and moving on from old work habits! Love ya, dude

[@VideoSchoolOnline]

I can really relate to the path you’re on - grind, grind, grind in my late teens and early twenties. That led to a lot of success and helped propel me to where I am now, but it gets tiring. Add getting married, having kids, pets, etc and you’re really forced to slow down to have a more balanced life.

[@johannespechmann4422]

I am from Austria, 50 and grinning right now - but sitting here watching your videos and enjoying it - so relax, everything is great! Life is great! Just keep it up!

[@AzarethLotus]

Life will constantly present you with moments of contrast. I find it interesting that you're realizing and reflecting on these shifts in the Germanic-speaking part of the world, which is extremely punctual and prompt compared to other places you've lived in prior. The world will constantly reflect to you the patterns and behavoirs in your life that no longer serve you. It's not a coincidence you were in Austria and you found yourself shut out of a gift you intended to give to yourself. Had you been in Latin America instead, it likely wouldn't have mattered if you were late. But as you said, you're in a different place now. You're maturing. Your desires have changed and the universe is reflecting what it is that you need to do in order to move forward. Keep doing this kind of internal work. You're doing great.

[@seaofsolace]

Truly amazing video!! I am 44F and I have been where you are a few years ago. Assessing my life and needing to make big adjustments. 40 hit me really hard. Suddenly I was able to see the finish line so to speak. It freaked me out. That was not how I wanted to spend the 2nd half of my life. But life is like a huge boat, it takes a while to change course. It is my belief that the new obsession of "achieving our dreams" is the new rat race. It very cheesy but the present moment is the only one that we truly have. I only fully realized what it meant recently. I try to be more present and for that I need to slow down a lot. It is hard in this society but soooo worth it! I am the happiest I have ever been.

[@isiomaononye]

Congrats on turning 25! For your age, you are definitely doing well. Just keep taking things easy and don’t put so much pressure on yourself because as we get older, we would always want to do more. So just continue to enjoy the process and looking forward to more of your videos!

[@ritatojal]

Great reflection. I suggest researching the nervous system + polyvagal theory to get a better understanding why the rushing feeling became your baseline. Then learn how to balance it to create new patterns, so that taking time for things fits the new baseline.

[@VeraGolosovaArt]

38 here, not rolled eyes:) happy birthday, Nathaniel! Thank you for this video. I switched from 10 years of freelance to full time job in a company in March. And man that’s is so stressful, I hold creative position of an art director, but doing creative stuff 8+ hours a day 5 days a week is bringing me down so much. I feel suffocated. Money and stability is well, alluring, but I don’t know how long I can bear it. Slowing down was my gradual plan over the last 8 years or so, and now I am supposed to grind like a mad woman. It is experience that teaches me something for sure now. Keep on doing what you are doing, you bring so much food to my brain ❤

[@fishfeed8]

I am nearly 25 and this hit hard. I, like you have spent the last few years trying everything I can to stay outside of the States, but at the cost of moving continuously. I love moving, learning cultures and languages, but I miss having the time to think creatively and develop deep relationships to places and people.

[@rewod1644]

Thank you for this video, it makes me think a lot. I turned 24 a few months ago and it hit hard. I had just quit my job, I was hired to be a filmmaker/motion designer but I was actually paid to spend 90% of my time pressing Ctrl+C / Ctrl+V. Moreover my company did not align to my core values. Here I was, 24, unemployed, single, not much things in my cupboard, not knowing how to move forward in my life. I think what hit hard is the difference between the expectations I had as a kid/teen and the reality. No I dont have my own appartment/house, no I don't have a job I love, no I'm not starting a family and most importantly no I don't really know what I'm doing in my life. Objectively my life is great, I have a family and friends I love and can count on, thanks to unemployment benefits I still can afford for my rent and food, I have a lot of hobbies. I definitely need to accept that life is not a checklist to complete. I don't have to rush toward the next "normal stage" of my life. I need to take the time to experience things, to reflect on it. No I don't have a job because I decided to put myself first, maybe that was my "next stage of life", let's wait and see how it shapes my future.

[@paigelish4456]

I also just turned 25 and I'm for sure going through a quarter-life crisis. Like you, I've spent a lot of my life sprinting and trying to achieve the next big thing. Now at 25, I am slowing down and taking some time to really think about what I want out of this life, who I really want to be, and what I really want to achieve. For the first time in my life, I'm living presently which is so weird but nice. Good luck on your journey! You are not alone in this :)

[@IzlyeSellos]

I felt this when I turned 25, and am still dealing with the guilt of "not doing enough". I was in a million things when I was in school (IB, AP, dual enrollment, online courses, kickboxing, etc.) and when I got out, part of me didn't want to stop. I started doing multiple degrees and online training and certifications. It wasn't really until now though, at 27, I'm starting to realize that I worked so hard so that I could relax, and not slowing down is letting down past and future me.

[@alvinchan7970]

also 27. This feels relatable. There's so much we should be grateful. Let's take a bias for action and do the things we want to do, but don't forget to smell the flowers

[@carlostucker5928]

Wow. This reflection of yours really couldn’t have came at a better time. My birthdays tomorrow! turning 25 is seen as something monumental because just a second ago you were 21 but in reality many years has gone by and it just shows how quickly things happen. I have done many things in my life so far, and even then I still feel that I am not where I want to be. This “shift” you talked about is something that I kept repeating in my head over and over, even more so this year, but it won’t happen unless I change from that young child to that 25 year old who will get out of his comfort bubble to progress his current stagnant life. It’s a process for sure and I know it will happen. But you don’t know how much joy and hope you bring me with each story/video you put out. I really look forward to what the future holds because we’re all going through it! Happy belated birthday 🙌

[@rewod1644]

Happy birthday !

[@oliverhardin1413]

Only 400+ comments from a year ago but I hope you see this one. As a 21 year old graduating college, I needed this. Thank you

[@indrajit_j]

I only turned 24 a few months ago, but I really needed this! On one hand, with only 1.5 years of work experience, my career has really just started. But it's at this point that I realize that I can't make the kind of progress I want without making sacrifices to other things I've been doing. I really felt it when you mentioned wanting to do less things, as I've been sitting myself down lately to ask myself what things I'll have to leave behind as I make my own shift into the next chapter my life. But I think you really nailed it; just like how you now upload less frequently but with major improvements compared to your older videos, growing up seems to be about prioritizing quality over quantity. Funnily enough, I did go to an orchestral concert too for my birthday this year. I'll be sure to go big for my 25th - and not be late 😂

[@lorr123x]

Losing a parent at a young age helped me wake up to life. Life before my dad dying was comfortable and easy. When his cancer progressed and suffering started it changed everything in my teenage mind. Memento Mori

[@Mawo3pg]

You're only 25 😭😭 god I'm frigging old

[@rubinagomes2950]

I am 84 days away from my 28th birthday and I am having similar thoughts like yours. In trying to juggle my online content writing, my novels, my personal essays, and trying to stay up with Instagram and Twitter, I am spreading myself too thin to do deep and impactful writing. And yes, juggling did work for a year for me, but now I am noticing diminishing returns on my effort. Which why I am stepping down from Twitter, almost not using Instagram and lowering my goals to a reasonable and sustainable quantity and pace. Art, REAL ART, can't be rushed. It needs its time to mature. And so do we.

[@brentpeddy4223]

Happy Birthday!!! My favorite life tagline these days is UNHUSTLE and be present while also still progressing & learning

[@KevinEassa]

Maaaaan I relate to this on such a deep level, especially around minutes 5 and 6. Not often I feel like I align with a video like this, thank you for making this

[@Alittlebitofspine]

When I turned 25 it seemed like I was so clear in my path and that there was room for fooling around and making a couple mistakes was socially accepted, whereas now it feels like I have to know exactly where each decision is going to take me and it's very overwhelming bc i truly love so many different things at once, but have absolutely no idea what to pursue or what to let go, or if I have to let go necessarily. This started to happen the moment I turned 30 (I'm 31 now) and the label society puts upon us is so exhausting it just makes me want to go back to, say, 27, where I didn't feel under a microscope and the world seemed full of possibilities. I'm sure you'll be able to find your path and your happiness bc you've been asking yourself the right questions. Keep up the good work, Nathaniel! I truly am a fan of your work and your language skills bc in my case I speak 4 languages but no one else on my circle seems to be as obsessed with communication as I am hhhhhahaa. Anyways, take care!

[@TayGH]

I am turning 22 in November and sometimes I am not sure if I am "doing well" or "enough". I made vision boards from age 16 and when I was age 18. I sometimes worry that I have made these "setbacks" especially this year. I moved out from home twice to find myself, get myself together and I learned a lot from it. I learned that I let people walk over sometimes and I started to stick up for myself more. I learnt that my mum did so much for my brother and I - things that we should be doing ourselves now. I'm moving back home again but this time I don't feel like a failure about it. I know I shouldn't have in the first place, my mum has told me that I am not and if anything I should feel proud for still trying something new. This time moving back home I feel okay, I mean I will be saving money, gonna be helping out a lot. I'm about to graduate university as well as start as a teaching assistant at the university I am graduating from then becoming a tutor in the second semester...I think I just need to stop overthinking and realise I still have time I guess. Love your vids Nathaniel

[@MicahBratt]

It's like we have to shift gears several times throughout our life. As we get older we know that we have less of the time resource but we also tend to take on projects which require lots of time and focus.

[@SabbysLens]

turned 25 in Amsterdam this year as well and feeling a lot of the same.. Seeing someone else share what feels like transcripts of my private thoughts is an... experience lol.. If you're ever up for a coffee to share stories just lmk

[@callmeacab]

I'm so impressed with people who are able to have self awareness, reflect on how things are going and then enact changes. And I know you figured every 30 year old was rolling their eyes at you being shaken by turning 25...but I have to tell you, as someone who is well over 25, that age hits MOST of us kind of hard. And yeah, 24 was fine, 26 will be fine...there is just something about that quarter of a century mark. Happy belated birthday. Thanks for all the vids.

[@user-qb4kh2or7m]

It's so odd to me how we are just two strangers but throughout the life of your channels I've often found that you somehow are struggling with the same questions, changes, realizations, and phases in life as I am. Some of your success must be due to the fact that you capture something so universally human. It's a privilege to share this path with you!

[@simongamez]

Tomorrow I'm turning 23 and I'm kinda emotional and then you post this video and I kinda want to cry! Getting older is scary, honestly, but this last year have been the best year of my life and I never thought I would say such a thing. You've been a big inspiration for me, they way you think and express yourself is amazing and has added value to my life.

[@SyNcLife]

Me turning 30: oh fuck, my life is going to end Me turning 40 last week: ...anyways 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@rockthatflag]

Hear you loud and clear Nate. Definitely I don’t think anyone expects you to bang out hit after hit every week (and if they do they’re crazy) but what I would love to see is just an occasional update. Doesn’t have to be anything high quality but just more so weekly check in about your life or “weekly reflections”. Yes, we love your high quality content but we also just love you and your story, and it’s good to see a regular check in to know you’re alive lol, but despite what you end up deciding we’ll support you. ❤️🤗🤟

[@thealitsios1829]

I want to commend you on having the awareness to notice... the patterns in your life... the way you do things... and the way you think about things. So many people just go through life doing what is expected of them. You took a very independent road earlier than most, so at 25 you are actually very ahead of the curve. Kudos to you for taking the time to reflect, and choosing to change how you do things. You are right, there is a rhythm and energy to each stage of life. And yet sometimes, as individuals, we choose to live in a different way. I am 68 and at the beginning stages of my third career. I am loving it, as I have taken all that I have learned in previous careers and combined them into one thing that is the culmination of a lifetime of experience. Happy Birthday Nathaniel. Slow down and enjoy the ride. It's amazing to be alive, exploring, creating and enjoying every step of the way!

[@LisaCulton]

25 is young. I started medical school at age 25 as an "older" student. Most people were around age 22, and honestly most were not as mature and did not have the varied life experiences of us older students (a couple of whom were over 40!). Anyway, I didn't feel old then and I don't feel old now I'm over 50 and the mother of a teen. I'm still traveling, learning, creating and enjoying life. The key is not to get rushed, anxious and distracted and decide what you want to do, plan it and do it.

[@PraveenKumar-kt1qr]

Im 25 years old & still anxious...

[@LisaCulton]

@@PraveenKumar-kt1qr Don't be anxious. Stress is unhealthy.

[@Escalated401]

I’m turning 20 and I still feel this anxiety

[@LisaCulton]

@@Escalated401 20 is very young. There's nothing to be anxious about.

[@Escalated401]

@@LisaCulton you’re probably right I’m just scared and uncertain. I don’t make good decisions and I mostly depend on my parents. If anything happens to them I’m not sure what would become of me and my siblings and yet I don’t know what to do with my life. But thank you you’re right

[@liamyoung1612]

That's great to hear! I myself am finding it hard to slow down, but have noticed that when I do I am far more at ease and content with the existence/path of my life. I'm trying to work on this mentality, fingers-crossed I succeed!

[@yvetterojas97]

I get you on so many levels! Im 25, a kindergarten teacher, a professional runner, and I have multiple side gigs. "Moments" like birthdays triggered reflection for me as well and hearing you articulate my thoughts into the universe makes me feel less insane for considering slowing down.

[@asterx7123]

Happy birthday Nathaniel! Enjoy every moment ❤

[@nichollebraspennickx943]

My midlife crisis was at 25... felt like a failure... had to leave work that day... but no other birthday has affected me like that. (Over 50 now)

[@AdventuresOfValene]

I love this so much. I spent all last weekend agonizing over the fact that I didn't have my next video finished to post on Monday, but I also knew that my mental & emotional health just weren't in the space to finish my message for my video so I decided to actually listen to my intuition and just wait for my mind to become clear. I want to only create and share content I'm truly proud of, and since I'm literally sharing my inner healing journey and all of the wisdom I've gained, the most important component of my work is my own personal health before the videos/messages themselves. Thank you so much for sharing these little, but super impactful, messages with us because I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

[@lapolaya]

Love these thoughts! Thank you for sharing them, Nathaniel. I'm 22 years old, but like you, I lived a very fast and passionate and hurried life until now. I convinced myself I wanted very lofty academic goals since I was 12, which I reached and am grateful that they opened up many doors for me to have the financial freedom to explore what I want to do. But this passion, as you express - estas ganas ardientes to change the world by myself - made my relationships more superficial and hurried, my travels snapshots of culture instead of experiences, my health second to everything. It also made it hard to trust others. Now, I'm trying very hard to live a slower and more intentional life. Deep work requires it!

[@luzukom213]

I resonate so much with what you are saying - as a chemical engineering student (23) who was/is struggling with career choice. I consider myself to be more of an 'artsy' person and engineering studies do not fulfill me in that sense, however, I still want the degree in order to realize my "dream future". What I'm learning is that THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS THAT HAVE TO BE DONE SO THAT YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO (my maths teacher used to say this in a more memorable, catchier way😄). In my case, I focused too much on my art (music and acapella) than I should've - lost focus on my studies and they suffered, however, now I'm realizing that perhaps 'one thing at a time' is not too bad a maxim to go with and that I'll get to my music one day, but first, this degree.

[@mindiwilhelm4322]

I feel the same sense of examining internal narratives in my sixties. I am almost never late to anything, but have felt rushed working FT and going to school. You may find that examining the level of perfection and performance that you demand from yourself will help you to limit projects. It also may help to anchor yourself to a regular (weekly?) meeting group of friends, not necessarily creatives, with a leader and a course of study like reading and discussing a book together. Pick the book. Create your own accountability group for change.

[@KB-bx9ui]

I've just started my day with this video. How humbling and self aware. Makes me self reflect. Tahnks you Nathan!

[@rishipriyaacharya9853]

This video is directly talking to my soul, I'm 23 rn and just like you I've too been late to things... 5 mins late, 10 mins late. I too have been getting more conscious on how I want to live or what practices is essential/ will make my life richer. I'm feeling this push internally but it's almost as if my brain doesn't want to comprehend it. I'm nervous bout the change as well, but this video comforted me in knowing tht it will take time and I'm not alone in this drastic change... Thank you for doing what you do and being a light, Happy birthday dear one

[@AndromedaMoon888]

You need to read "The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry"

[@toobwatcher500]

Imo this is the honesty and story telling I have come to expect from your main channel, no captain sinbad-esque cuts of random laughing or clickbaity titles, just an honest assessment of a change in the everyday

[@Eliphosys]

Happy Birthday! I recently had a birthday and really f e l t it this year too...both how far I've come and what parts need more attention going forward. Keep following your heart, it is all we can do.

[@marquamfurniture]

I am so pleased to have discovered your music. Exactly what I want to hear at this time in my life.

[@shenova]

I appreciate your perspective and relate deeply. Although it was your birthday that triggered this, I feel this has less to do with age and more to do with a collective higher awareness we are acquiring. Yes, with age we become wiser, more patient and can slow down, but I know work with 19 year old artists with similar newly found paradigms. In addition, my own mother at 64 seems to be finally be growing out of her busy body personality. I think there is a collective, evolutionary awakening happen. We are becoming awake to what is truly important and what isn’t. What makes us enjoy our moments here and what doesn’t.. deconditioning the outdated expectations put upon us by society. Just another perspective I wanted to offer. Anyways, just another perspective based on my observations of so many others like you, including myself, stepping back and seeing the bigger picture and one’s true soul priorities. Stay well and take ur time with that legacy of yours… we’ll be here 💚

[@shenova]

And now scrolling the comments, it seems to be a theme for all ages 👀 ooo shift is getting excitinggggg 🌟✨🤩

[@marc-4186]

this was the first time that I listened to one of your videos without the watching it because I couldn't and I realized that it's amazing to just hear you talking, you speak really well and I would gladly listen to an hour long podcast of you just talking about things

[@sonaliandani1735]

Congratulations on turning 25!! Could totally relate! When I catch myself in such moments I ask myself "What is the rush?" and then my body and mind slows down a bit. On reflecting found that I was "optimising" my life for doing as many things as possible in the given time. Now trying to optimise for joy :)

[@mabybee]

Can’t say I’ve ever heard someone say they went to an orchestra & that gave them an existential awakening. I’m impressed.

[@frappalina]

Being constantly late is an act of disrespect that we do to ourselves. It can happen from time to time, but it should not be a habit. I used to be chronically late, and changing this about myself increased my self confidence a lot

[@jimmyip9069]

In my early 20's, I was just messing around and trying to explore the world as much as I could, travelling from one place to another acrossing continents, so to me the time flied really quickly, and 25 was my greatest age as I recall now from the age of 33. A year later I was to fall into a deep depression from a relationship that lasted until 6 years later. I wish I could get on a time machine and tell myself that everything is going to be okay.😄

[@jesseperez4185]

yea man i can relate, long relationships ending like that are soul crushing, but you move on and it's up to you to keep on the path of creation or succumb to destruction and self hate.

[@fitfuelplanner]

I'm turning 26 in a week and I'm feeling this now too. I've been doing alright in my life but it is truly time to put aside childish ways and grow up.

[@BonkersAboutAlice]

25! This vlog makes me laugh, smile, frown, be annoyed at your youth and yet still be very pleased at your thoughtful openness.

[@saramarkowicz]

I turned 25 this year and I felt a looot of stress during months because of some things that hit me. I feel you ! I guess we all go through this stage. But that's a beautiful process ! I am still going through mini crises it's just the beginning haha ! Merci !

[@Mychannel76707]

For me personally getting older is an amazing thing as you learn so much throughout life that makes you achieving more. I am in my 40s, but people don’t believe me because I don’t look my age and my spirit is young. My life became more interesting by going through so many experiences earlier in my 20s snd 30s: having a child and moving to another country on my own, reaching success by going through incredibly hard times when the entire family turned their back. I am happy knowing that I achieved a lot despite a lack of moral or financial support and my child is already grown up making me tremendously proud. It is amazing what hard work can result in; perseverance, strength and belief in yourself is everything.

[@Amba_Aradam]

I think it's a good thing to hear when you're still in this previous phase. You're a great person to learn from, Nathaniel.

[@Yaazie123]

I am also frequently late to most of my times commitments because I do not give myself enough time, and when I do I think I can squeeze in something extra that I probably should not. It is a crummy feeling knowing we could have controlled the situation better, so you saying you can’t continue to live in the same way as you used to really resonates. I want to be able to live my life slowly, not rushing around everywhere stressed about not being on time and missing important events. Learning how to do this may not come easily to me but I am willing to try because I am worth it. ❤

[@adrianaalsinaescabosa3396]

I couldn’t feel more related (being left outside for a while waiting to enter a concert in Vienna because of arriving late included). Thank you SO much for sharing, it makes you feel like we are part of this weird path we all walk inevitably: to undersand that we all have to deal with getting old somehow and do different things to be happier is hard and necessary but incredibly rewarding. Thank you and cheers to arriving punctual!

[@Amba_Aradam]

Sometimes I struggle a lot with making myself clear, especially when discussing this kind of abstract questions. That's why I really liked what you did here: 0:18. Like, going out of your head and expressing something in terms that are clear even to someone who had not yet encountered such a perspective or idea. I can see it a lot in your videos, and maybe this is another reason why your content appeals to people so much.

[@MeganFarrell]

I love how real this is. I hope you keep yourself accountable.

[@giovanamello833]

i had a similar thought going on in my head in the past two weeks, I’m so glad u talked about this in this video! it made me think even more clearly about this new feeling of mine about life

[@ZsofiFila]

Well said! I just turned 35 (so add two small kids to the equation) and feel the same! I always did more things at once, I lived a wholesome life, but now I just can’t keep up with that lifestyle. It’s time to realize that I’m not losing but gaining by doing less, with more focus. Your video came in the right time, thank you for your wise words!

[@steffikreis2030]

Greetings from Vienna. Nice to hear that you’ve had such a fundamental experience/realization in my home town. Happy belated birthday & i hope you enjoyed the rest of the concert.

[@JG-qt3pn]

This really isn't a dress rehearsal. This is really happening. Don't woulda, coulda, shoulda your life. The usual caveats applied, get out there and live your life. When in doubt, take the chance. When you're lying on your death bed all you'll have are the memories of your experiences. Make sure you have lots of them.

[@adrim888]

the thirties people rolling their eyes was me when you mentioned 25 haha I just wish I would get to see the 30 years version right now because I really want some guidance on this! It scared me when you said that "maybe all the sprinting from some years is catching on you" because Im on my thirties and I feel that a bit of my energy is fizzling out. That feels scary because I want to explore things.

[@observer7098]

Follow your unique individual path! Nice background music.

[@krasipaskalevv]

With my birthday being tomorrow, this video had perfect timing.

[@kristianmuus5672]

At about age 28 i started to care about my diet, finanses and what i want to spend my time on and what kind of people i want to have in my life. Best decision i ever made. Im 33 years old now. Take care mate. All the best.

[@brentpeddy4223]

Great video!! I'm really enjoying this candid short. You should incorporate these more. The way I see it, you did the sprinting to get here. Now that you've built the foundation, take your time thoughtfully building the house so you can change it up and renovate it as your taste and styles change over time.

[@TangerineHorizons]

I can’t believe you’re only 25, feels like you’ve been around a long time.

[@vrintige]

I’m 32 and only just now recognizing this. Good for you for doing so at 25!

[@jroxas0128]

In your research about unhurrying and doing less, it might help to learn about the Desert Fathers. (Also learning about them at the moment) and it’s such a needed reminder to a way of life that’s been forgotten but is necessary in our hurried culture. Happy birthday!

[@bethanyryan404]

Happy birthday! I remember throwing myself a big party on my 25th birthday thinking it would probably be the last one I would have pre-kids. I got pregnant only a few months later. 😂What a fun time of life you’re in and wisdom you are gaining by observing yourself and the world around you.

[@quietkid47]

I’m in my early 20s and at a stage where I’ve accepted death and don’t fear it but I’m stressed about who I am. I’m okay with dying and if I can I’d rather die doing something fun or saving someone else but I’ll accept it whenever it comes but I still don’t know who I am. It’s odd.

[@chiquipineda]

Happy birthday, dear boy. 🎂 😋 I’m 54. I’ve been watching and enjoying your excellent and thoughtful creations since the lockdown. You are so very mature for your years, I’m sure you hear this a lot. And this is good. Very good! I had this “pause button” moment in my 20s, too. The fame+fort game, I noticed, always has the same ending for folks who are connected: a gnawing at one’s insides that seem to ask: Is this really what I want for myself? “Life gets richer and more interesting…” indeed! Especially for people like you / like us l who take reflection and life lessons to heART. ONWARDS and keep going, young hero. You’re on the right path. Always. 😇

[@misskoteles]

Slowing down is the key for sure. You should totally read this book called Stolen Focus (by Johann Hari). It touches on some of the things you mentioned. Also this book changed my life. I've been recommending it to everyone! Happy belated bday btw!

[@ZenDragonYoutubeChannel]

I started realising goals and becoming/working towards becoming the "inspirational hero" figure I wanted to be at 30 years old. I turned 38 earlier this week, I have a 3 year old son and my priorities have changed a bit since becoming a father. I still create martial arts content consistently, but I intently spend less time editing and coming up with ideas for the videos and such... also I no longer am doing any philanthropic efforts, maybe I will again at some point... my motivation now is to be able to move like I'm able to now and remain strong and flexible past 50.

[@rettop0606]

First of all, happy birthday! I turned 25 this year as well and gotta say that 25 is really a big number for me. It hits me real hard when I ask myself which paths I want to pursue as a lot of friends seem to settle their life in a certain way that makes me feel intimidated. All pictures of future, jobs, and life I have imagined my whole life are totally different! lol But life is life. We still need to find our own ways. Sending care to those who are finding their ways. and yes don't rush. enjoy the moment of life ☺️

[@johntravers2321]

I'm 32, still live my life as a careless 16 year old. It's annoying to myself, and it's obnoxious to those around me, especially the disciplined military veteran types.

[@sandramoneer8265]

Hi Nathan, Thank you for making this video. I really relate to your story and i am also about your age.. I have started really early since i was 18... I have been juggling everything in my life at once. It brought me sucess but it started to feel exhausting as i age, the energy changes , the stress levels changes. Also the people around me are mostly taking life at normal pace. There is hardly anyone that i could relate to. So thank you for sharing this and saying it out loud As much as i tell these words to myself.. i change slowly but not much .. i just started to say NO to some stuff. Which i am proud of doing. One last thing i enjoy yur videos so much, its very inspiring.

[@nessakapllani259]

I feel so completely aligned with this message and you kinda confirmed that this is also what I need to do. Today I uninstalled instagram in an attempt to lose the feeling of needing to instantaneously reply to the outside world. Thank you Nathaniel I can't tell you how much your content impacts my life positively. ps I am visiting Paris for my birthday and I hope I get to bump into you although it is a huge city :)

[@virtualcoffeeshopmusic9752]

I just noticed as far as we are alive our story is not over!!!

[@tarannumahmed2948]

Really needed to hear this. I just turned 20 about a month ago and this video really changed my perspective on everything I'm currently doing in life. Thank you very much for making such an important video ❤️