Really enjoyed listening to Jonathan. There is always something relatable in every insomnia road to recovery journey, however this was probably one of the most relatable. I'm not sure where I am on my own personal journey, other than to say that I'm continuing to experience speedbumps. I had to smile to myself last night, listening to Jonathan's description of no one wanting to read at 3am, when they are up a 7. Low and behold, I'm sat in bed reading Geddy Lees autobiography, 'my effin life' with my alarm set for 7. I'm up, tired but ready to do my day and count this as part of my journey towards recovery. My ambition would be to look into being a coach, once I feel able to give back to others. I've done a life coaching course and in trained in CBT, however it becomes a sticky situation when you find yourself trying to resolve your own 'struggles'. Thank you
@ACTonInsomnia7 ай бұрын
I’m glad you were able to relate Ian. I reckon you can do far worse than Geddy Lee’s autobiography! As you say no one really wants to be in that situation at 3am but definitely sounds like you’ve found the path to acceptance which always leads to recovery in the end. Best of luck to you, Jonathan
@monicathrasher35612 ай бұрын
This is where I am. Speed bumps getting further apart, but when I’m in them I put the pressure back on myself and I fear going back there again and before I know it I’m going down the rabbit hole again. I keep reminding myself to trust the process. I have to go back and acquire more education. I’m grateful for the videos. What I don’t understand is the outrageous prices for sleep coaches. $150/50 minute session when someone is truly struggling in so many ways. It’s really a good majority of coaches trying to charge this. Pain, health, etc. I’ve been an RN X 29 years specializing in addiction/mental health and I am a certified biblical life coach. I care about other’s eternity and I charge between 0-$50 because I leave my ego out of the equation. I wish more would not charge so much and help more.
@thesleepcoachschool81922 ай бұрын
So glad things are getting easier overall Monica and thanks so much for the support 🙏
@Demnwezah7 ай бұрын
Hi Daniel, I have read set it and forget it and effortless sleep methods, and was able to control my negative thoughts. I also joined gym and was taking meds. Now I'm able to sleep, maybe I haven't recovered fully because I wake up 2-3 times in the night but am able to fall back to sleep again and I get 5-7 hours of sleep. I was struggling for 3 months, I was lucky to find your channel at an early stage. I haven't watched any of your videos but have read your book and the book really helped a lot. Also working out helped . So thank you.
@evatempleton59947 ай бұрын
This video is very helpful thank you!
@Bitahnig7 ай бұрын
Hi Daniel. I have been suffering from insomnia for the last 3 years. I just recently found your channel while doing my usual "insomnia solution surfing" and honestly it's one of the best thing that has happened to me in the last 3 years. I have been watching your videos almost everyday. I just have a problem or rather a thought problem. I don't know exactly but it is kindof like ocd thoughts but based on insomnia. The thoughts goes like "If I do this/that I will not sleep", like I will be cursed with insomnia if I do a specific thing or do a specific action. As an example, I recently bought a new smartphone. I already had a phone but I had wanted to buy this exact model since a very long time so I went ahead and bought it without thinking much. But as soon as I got home my brain just start shouting with thoughts like " why did you buy a phone that you didn't absolutely need, you could have saved the money for something better. You are a irresponsible bad person and you should have insomnia for it YOU DESERVE IT". I know it sounds so silly and funny maybe but to me this is just an example. My everyday life is filled with thoughts like this. Everything I do that is meant for some entertainment or just fun like visiting somewhere or doing something leads to thoughts like these. Like I have to be stuck to a routine to be able to sleep. When I get these thoughts I don't understand what to do. Even if I do let these thoughts stay and just live my life as I want like you say in your videos they just only get stronger and make me extremely hyper aroused while I am in bed which has lead to many sleepless nights. All I want to know is what to do with these thoughts or how to deal with them when they come while I am in bed. I know I wrote a little too much. But if you do read all of it, It will mean a lot to me. And Thank you Daniel for what you are doing for us lost and helpless insomniacs.
@ACTonInsomnia7 ай бұрын
This is very common. I think what you’re doing here is still tethering your insomnia to external forces,like buying a new phone or doing something outside your routine. But insomnia is entirely internally generated. Gently talking back to your brain can help.you can’t fight against these thoughts so better to calmly accept them and remind your brain that this is not something to fear, these things cannot cause insomnia. It’s not the fear itself but the response to it that deepens the struggle. If you can accept the thought, not buy into it and let it go, you can find inner peace which leads to peaceful sleep.
@Colehike6 ай бұрын
Holy crap I have the exact same condition. Are we brothers or something? If I don’t do things a certain way I won’t be able to sleep unless I do them. It can be like stepping over a crack more than once or something very meaningless. I thought I was very alone in this
@Bitahnig4 ай бұрын
Guess we ARE brothers from different mothers 😀 !! My brain recently generated another compulsion that I have to keep my toothbrush aligned a certain way so that it's parallel to my tooth paste or else I ain't gonna sleep tonight 🥲. Laugh if you want but that's how my life is. Also I recently bought a watch despite my brain signalling that if I buy that watch I can forget about sleeping ever again. Guess what after I bought the watch I got such a bad hyperarousal I didn't sleep for the next 6 days. I got so scared I had to return the damn watch. Man it feels like I am cursed sometimes. Life is tough. Hope you are doing better than me bro. I pray for your good sleep and peace of mind. And also thank you for replying. It's good to find someone who can understand the struggle. Peace ✌️.
@SallyBrennan-vz6cv7 ай бұрын
Hi Daniel, I’ve had a year of good sleep thanks to your channel but I’m going through a bad patch again and would love your thoughts. I have done so much learning and I understand why I struggle sleeping (anxiety) and that I can’t lose the ability to sleep and I can function the next day. But I still hate being awake at night, I can tolerate it but I really dislike it - so there is still some fear there and it’s keeping me in the struggle to some extent. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you
@Arthursmom1619 күн бұрын
I appreciate this video so much. I can relate to the part about going to the doctor and feeling completely misunderstood about anxiety/depression. You said you were prescribed a medication. Do you feel that having a medication that worked for you lessened the fear of not sleeping any?
@ackphilchi6880Ай бұрын
Hello Jonathan. I also have the same pattern as you. I go to bed and I sense that I have gone to sleep and then 1 wake up and this pattern is in a span of maybe an hour maybe? I know that I have fallen asleep because sometimes when I go to bed, my husband is still reading on the couch and if I was asleep, I don't sense him coming to bed. Isn't that the oddest thing? In my case, I've been taking 3 mg of melatonin every night but not anymore since it's not working for the most part so I'm thinking maybe the melatonin is messing up my sleep onset ? Daniel what to do you think? Any thoughts?
@gibememoni7 ай бұрын
i also have that problem where the second time i wake up after sleeping for 5 minutes, i am hit with so much hyper arousal I pretty much know I won't be sleeping that night. Its like you get 1 or 2 chances at falling asleep, and if you fail at that its over.
@evatempleton59947 ай бұрын
Hi Johnathan, how can one contact you for help?
@sharang7476 ай бұрын
Daniel any thoughts on nervous system dysregulation and sleep? These are very well connected. The body wants us to be alert to a threat for u processed trauma and emotions of the day. Most people on these sleep podcasts state having an interruption to the nervous system. It makes sense right
@evatempleton59947 ай бұрын
Johnathan, how are you doing now with your insomnia?
@cgore47 ай бұрын
So a week ago I missed one night (completely), then started crashing every other night. Now I'm afraid the crash night hours will start decreasing. Any idea of what causes this? I suspect it's elevated cortisol levels, but by doing relaxation I'm able to get my heart rate and anxiety down quite a bit at bed time. Could elevated cortisol levels still be causing it? Or am I setting up rules like crashing every other night bcause it can override any issues. Another "rule" is if I don't get to sleep within a couple of hours it'll be a whole night of no sleep.
@thesleepcoachschool81927 ай бұрын
Hi, check insomnia insight 386 where we cover the pendulum pattern and 514 where we cover the all or nothing phenomenon. Hope this will help 🙂
@cgore47 ай бұрын
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thanks so much. What about cases where it's almost like you are afraid to go to sleep - wanting to remain awake to "solve" the problem?
@AgnieszkaRousell7 ай бұрын
Can shift worker overcome the fear of being awake? I struggle with sleep when being on nights. My sleep at night is better maybe thanks to antidepressant I'm taking at the moment. It took the edge off my anxiety.
@danh23107 ай бұрын
Get off that mirtazapine it's horrible poison it will just mask your issues and not get to the root cause
@gerk72387 ай бұрын
Hey Daniel- love your videos and your content…would love to know more about each of the interviewees in terms of their timeless sleep window and how important it was to set aside that time frame for each person
@evatempleton59947 ай бұрын
Hello Daniel, I been suffering from severe insomnia and it became more severe after my anxiety started. I am taking 1 mg of Ativan now for 5 months, but would like to get off. But I have found that if I don’t take it I cannot fall asleep at all. And the anxiety gets much worse. Help!
@cgore47 ай бұрын
Does it ever happen that someone's subsconcious is preventing sleep or that it's a form of self-harm? Or is it too natural of a process to allow for that?
@ACTonInsomnia7 ай бұрын
I don’t think so. Your body has to sleep, and sleep will always win out so there’s no chance that your brain would be ‘secretly’ keeping you awake. But for sure the perception that this is happening is there, and the notion of self sabotage is very common for insomnia sufferers. Ultimately it comes down to the same thing - fear. You may have a fear of being awake, and a fear that this is untreatable because your sub-conscience is doing it to you. Overcoming fear through acceptance and befriending wakefulness will ultimately lead you to peaceful sleep.
@SA-gd3ql18 күн бұрын
Good day, Please some one help me understand please, when. Saying there is no danger, how can one believe so when there are other danger ( health risks) when not sleeping. How can one over come this and the fear associated with it. I really feel like I’m losing it because of Non sleep at this point. Please help some one
@thesleepcoachschool819214 күн бұрын
Hi there, I would say listen to our Heard online episodes, and you’ll see why we say there’s no danger. No scientific study has shown any evidence of danger with short sleep!
@SA-gd3ql13 күн бұрын
@ thanks so much for replying
@evatempleton59947 ай бұрын
Is anxiety cussing insomnia or is the insomnia caused the anxiety?