THE WAVE | HermitCraft 9 | Ep 35

[@ThunderChanter]

"Everyone is entitled to their own sorrow for the heart has no metrics or form of measure. And all of it, irreplaceable" May he sleep soundly in peace, and may you learn to live knowing the only reason there is grief, is because there was love.

[@TearsOfLa]

Didnt expect to see a Monty quote here, but yep... Keep Moving Forward

[@shanmianhiyueshongdaojukei9732]

Give Ren some love and hope. I know he can overcome this dark period in his life.

[@Bigal3031]

You gave Obi the best life he could have hoped for. You took away his pain at the price of your own. Gone but never forgotten.

[@rlsbluedevil2016]

Hoping you’re in these comments and seeing all the love. I hope you see that we don’t just love the “character” of Rendog. We’re here for all of you my dude. Your core community wants to see you succeed and triumph through grief and adversity. You taking steps under the weight bearing down is inspiring. This episode may not “help” in the way your normal ones do, but I’d argue it’s more powerful and will stick with us far longer. ❤

[@andreablack1516]

Well said!

[@MotherOGamers]

Couldn’t say it better!

[@arkidie]

Exactly! Thank you for saying this.

[@Dextrolord]

Well said indeed

[@sjl2266]

Thank you for sharing such a private story. It has been said so well here by many, but this video has moved me and will be motivational to us all it some way. My grandmother told me something when I was very young. There is no such think as a bad experience so long as we learn from it. It can make us a better person, and how to be more empathic , and how to help others going through simular experiences. My thoughts are with you. May the universe - and all it encompasses- support you.

[@ericdimarzio5756]

You’re such an incredible example of empathy and resilience in the face of all this. Thank you for being such a positive influence. There’s so much negative and superficial content out there, and you don’t just provide entertainment; you provide and example of humility, integrity, and love. Thank you, Ren. Do what you need to do for yourself and know you have a big community of people who appreciate you and care about you. 🌊

[@paulkuch420]

Well said,, well said

[@sovietcat8789]

you’re a good man

[@beagle_uah]

Well said, brother, and I’m sure Ren appreciates the 50 bucks too.

[@jamesmiddleton4741]

​@@beagle_uah after Google's cut

[@BackSavageKid]

@@jamesmiddleton4741 lets just pretend that is not a thing and appreciate the generosity

[@arlette3441]

Take all the time you need Ren! We will always be here to support you when you come back!

[@qocket]

Never feel unsure to talk about real life stuff if you feel you need to. Rendog is a Human, a human who we admire for their comedic personality, but still a human who needs support every now and then just like everyone else.

[@CdogThePro]

Ren... please don't pressure yourself to try and make content for our sakes. I really appreciate that you have the courage to talk about this right now, and I'm proud of you for it. Take whatever time you need. I'll be here patiently waiting for you. Sorry for your loss. ❤

[@techjeff6227]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ren! I also want to say that you aren't complaining-you're grieving. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's important to remember that trauma is trauma and the human body responds the same way to trauma no matter what the cause. Your trauma is no less valid than the trauma of anyone else. I'm grateful for your strength to be vulnerable and share your story especially on a platform that tends to emphasize only "positive" content. Everyone needs that reminder that your friend gave you. Everyone is going through things. Everyone is working through silent struggles. It sucks, and often it can really hurt, but this is just another step along your path and this too in time will pass. Keep taking care of yourself, validating yourself and your emotions, and exploring what it really means to be RedDog (I would use your real name, but I don't know it 😂). Sending good vibes your way, my dude. ❤

[@timeless712]

Ren, loosing a pet is one of the hardest things that can happen to a person, they are family. I’m sure this episode was incredibly hard to create and probably just as hard to actually post, but it is a step forward, so I want to say well done. Life is cruel and it doesn’t always allow for quick healing. Take your time and if you need to have a longer break, have it.

[@wsams]

I can vouch for that. I lost a 17 year old kitty a few years back. I heard her meow for weeks. I cried for at least an hour before leaving the vet. I lost part of my family for sure.

[@timeless712]

@@wsams I’m sorry for your loss

[@e.millustration1759]

In times like this, I am reminded of my favourite poem on grief, Immortality by Sarah Harner. It's one i have returned to over and over, in the 11 months since my mum passed. Do not stand by my grave, and weep./ I am not there,/ I do not sleep-/ I am the thousand winds that blow/ I am the diamond glints in snow/ I am the sunlight on ripened grain,/ I am the gentle, autumn rain./ As you awake with morning’s hush,/ I am the swift, up-flinging rush/ Of quiet birds in circling flight,/ I am the day transcending night./ Do not stand/ By my grave, and cry-/I am not there,/ I did not die.

[@TeaAddict]

Oh Ren ❤️ first of all, I'm so, so sorry. Putting down a pet is one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through and I'm so sorry for you. Secondly, I want to say that this video didn't feel like you were "complaining", but rather, sharing. And sharing the human experience is a key part of bonding and healing. And thirdly, I loved your explanation of the wave. Grief comes in waves, sometimes it sneaks up on you, sometimes it dunks you, sometimes it washing machines you, but the main thing is to ride it out and come up for air on the other side! 💕 And eventually, the waves do get more spaced out, and more gentle ❤

[@elizabethb.1346]

HI Ren! I actually work as a post mental health crisis counselor, and you're completely right about all of this. We actually use waves as an analogy for experiencing distress, like trauma triggers, very frequently! IN a moment of extreme distress it feels like it will be that way forever, but just like a wave, it eventually has to pass. Beyond that, your small connection with catching the waves earlier-when they're smaller- is even more applicable to mental health management. If you catch the warnings early, you can break it down a lot easier. If you wait until it gets too big, it is much harder to do. This is very very solid advice, and more people need to hear it, so thank you for being that voice.

[@duyguyavuz4]

REN’s message: “find your version of the wave, and know that it won’t last forever, this too shall pass” RIP little pupper ❤🕊 love you Ren💕

[@brumbeloy]

It wasn't uncomfortable Ren, it was beautiful! Truly showed your love for Obi! Take all the time you need man!

[@ByTheTrowel]

Grief is a heavy burden and it can be like a dark mirror of the love you also carry. But the love is still there. May you find the peace you deserve.

[@TruthIsTheNewHate84]

Also thanks for deciding to make this video. I know one day I will go through the same thing with my dog. This video may just help me deal with that loss in a healthy way.

[@michaelbrown9153]

Thank you for your vulnerability and candor on these difficult topics, Ren.

[@EthanLR]

34:54 what an epic moment, the visuals and dialogue blended so well, and that Christmas gift box at the end had a *chef's kiss* of a placement and tied in well symbolically too as the holiday coupled with New Year's is often seen as relief after a long and hard year with eyes on the future. It's deeper implications makes me think of the grand scope of the world and creation, and the massive wave even that is being currently. The sentiment you share, Ren, is quite sage and helpful, I love the philosophy of it. an apt metaphor and reminds me of two things, one is a quote from the tv series, The Good Place; "Picture a wave in the ocean. You can see it, measure it, its height, the way the sunlight refracts when it passes through, and it's there, and you can see it, you know what it is. It's a wave. And then it crashes on the shore, and it's gone. But the water is still there. The wave was just a different way for the water to be for a little while. The wave returns to the ocean, where it came from, and where it's supposed to be." and the other a song by Judith Sephuma - A Cry, A Smile, A Dance. very reminiscent of the video's subject matter. Thanks a lot for the video, it was a special experience that I (and many others) greatly appreciate!

[@rustyredbeard]

Well if there's one content creator I never thought I'd cry over... It is hard to hear such a positive person falter but it is soothing to hear how you are dealing with it all and I am grateful to have been able to witness you taking the hardest step back to the world, the first step. I am destroyed and inspired all at once, and all in just over half an hour. You showed the greatest possible kindness when you broke your heart to end another's suffering.

[@hydronion7998]

I cried many tears, emotions I havent felt in a while. I thank Real Ren that he shared this, and wish him all the best.

[@tisjstme5315]

This is not the first time I have shed a tear for Ren in the past 11 years, and I doubt it will be my last. Like Ren said, many waves will hit us in our life time, but it's the coming out at the other end that makes it all worth while.

[@serealll]

I wish I could tell you the grief would pass quickly, but sometimes it just doesn’t. I lost my chocolate lab last January and I still sleep with her favorite stuffed animal… I’m 44. Sometimes grief just holds on. We learn to carry on without all the outward appearances of being in pain, but for me, it never leaves. I miss my Lily every single day. Take all the time you need Ren! Taking care of yourself through something like this is the most important thing you can do. We will all be supportive of however you heal… whether that’s carrying on in some way, or taking more time off. Just take care of your heart and heal in whatever way you need to!

[@fluffyou9276]

When I lost my cat, McTavish, my mom told me that the longer you grieve, the more you loved the person/pet you lost. You must have loved Lily an awful lot, and it's good that you were able to have that kind of friendship with her. I'm sure she's grateful for the time you two spent together, too. Amazing how grief pulls people together and makes us feel a bit better. :)

[@JohnkyTonkbadonkadonk]

I remember back during one of your Survival series you took a long break due to a breakup and a huge life change that followed, and you made it through, came back, and are in a wonderful place after that ordeal. Do what you must to be able to carry forward, my brother. Take it easy, take your time to grieve, take time away if needed, and we'll be here to continue our adventure through life when you're able to. Love ya, Ren.

[@sharpiechick]

Ren, I'm really glad that you are staring to feel better for having recorded this, and that you are thinking you might be glimpsing the end of your Wave. It is definitely a big step, and one to celebrate. Just please continue to be kind with yourself. Recovery from trauma is not linear. When you have a harder day/s again, don't fear or beat yourself up. There may be some more rough waters to follow that big wave (playing in the surf, you know what I mean!), but they too will pass.

[@staydown93]

Welcome back Ren ❤ We missed you. So good to hear you again. Your community is always behind you.

[@empresspyra]

I seconds this, with love

[@shanmianhiyueshongdaojukei9732]

I believe Ren can overcome this. I believe he can.

[@discoj7112]

The wave analogy is almost exactly one of the visualization techniques my therapist explained to me for dealing with feelings related to trauma. Picturing an event that comes and then goes. A wave, a storm, a cloud, a night. Reminding yourself that while you are in the middle of the pain, it is not forever and always, it is something you are enduring for the moment. You can let yourself feel those feelings without holding back, let them wash over you like a wave, but also remember that they will run their course, that they aren't the end, that no matter how deep they are, they will come and go and you will get better at understanding and handling them with experience.

[@crazy4candy_]

We love you Ren ❤ Your beloved pupper will watch over you from wherever doggos go, and the community will stay by your side and support you no matter what! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@denvermountainman]

You were so brave for Obi. It is the hardest thing but be proud that you could give him the peace he deserved. Remember him as he lived. I bet he was so proud of you!

[@megaawesomesupreme]

Rendog, losing a long family pet is always a hard time. I lost my cat of 20 years last year, in fact. We'll always be here for you. Take as much time as you need and remember, while they were a major part of your life, you were their whole life. You gave Obi Wan Alfonso Kenobi (Master Jedi) the best life you could. Hang in there man and take all the time you need.

[@DoctorEvil]

Your notes were actually quite helpful, they somehow gave you the confidence to start recording this video. Losses are no jokes, take your time, keep kicking those waves. There's only pain because there was love, and more love is to come. Very proud of you making this video. It takes strength to show our emotions as you did. Your wave metaphor absolutely gave me a different perspective to look at things. Thank you!

[@dazzmead007]

Super proud of you Ren, taking the first steps to deal with tough times and opening up and talking about it is amazing. You are absolutely, you help us and keep us entertained. I worked all through COVID and it was very stressful and your videos along with the other hermits gave me a great escape and so we want to help you by being here and letting you talk to us and please ramble as much as you need to! Glad you were able to sort out your living situation and my thoughts are with you and your family during this sad time. Also, I like the wave analogy it relates to me being a lover of the sea! So Thank you, thank you for letting us be there for you and thank you for being there for us ❤️

[@bonomiisplaying]

Your friend's words have a lot of wisdom. We often get so focused on our problems that we forget that our friends are also experiencing many things, many of them bad, and they also need our support, as much as we need them.

[@clairesendby8814]

Sometimes, realizing that people you follow for fun also are humans is helping me a lot to feel ok feeling sometimes down, to feel ok to not always be my best. And Ren, your video today have helped me a lot, so thank you. I hope you are feeling that huge warm wave of positivity and empathy from us that is not meant to hit you but to feel you with calm and tenderness, to plant a seed of joy and warmth in your soul for the future. Because it is what is happening.

[@GenuineUntelligence]

Sorry im late here, but if anyone finds themselves stuck in a trauma, reliving it, flash backs etc, grounding is a really useful tool also. When you feel yourself consumed by a traumatic memory, look around the room or wherever you are and say out loud the names of the first 10 things you see that are green (or red or any other colour), then close your eyes, can you smell anything? What is it? Can you hear anything? What is it? Then think about your body. Are you in any pain? Not to do anything about it, just aknowledge and accept it. Can you feel the fabric of your clothes? Take note of your breathing, feeling your lungs expand. If you feel the memory grabbing you back in just start again, listing the first 10 things you can see that start with a paricular letter, or things that there are only 1 of. It really doesn't matter what the things actually are, just that you have to think about them and see them physically from where you are. This method is used used to pull yourself out of that moment that you are reliving and ground your mind back in the present moment. When we are drowning in overpowering emotions or feeling intense stress it is always something from the past or something potentially in our future. Grounding your mind and body back in this present moment gives you a chance to take that breath. Hope this helps anyone that needs it. X

[@Gamer_769]

from own experience, a good step towards standing up again after a pet's passing is to accept that not thinking about it does not mean you disrespect it. its only human to go past it..

[@LadyMarch]

Being upset when told you have to leave what has been your home, is a valid reaction. I was very young when my grandmother told me to always be kind, and helpful. Her very lovable giant dog had passed, and I adored the animal. She told me all dogs go to heaven, and only kind and helpful souls got to go there. Being able to pet my good boys again... worth a shot.

[@TheCocaineSamurai]

you rarely realize how much you love and depend on someone until they are gone. You do you Ren. We'll always be here for you.

[@ethansample8512]

I've only ever known Ren through the eyes of some of the other hermits, but his ideas and story making are top tier. Becoming King Ren was without a doubt one of the most fun server-wide events I've seen in hermitcraft. So While I may not have watched a Ren video before this, it speaks volumes that I can still say for certain that he is an amazing human being. Losing someone you love is always immensely painful, but always know that it's not just your core community here to help. Everyone, from every section of hermitcraft, is with you as you get through these rough times. Wishing the best.

[@TheLdlindberg]

Don't rush the grieving process Ren. Your true community will stand behind you and wait for however long it takes. It's not an easy one to go through. We love you. Prayers and hugs to you. Xo

[@MidnaPotter]

I had to put down my cat Scampi on December 23rd and she had been a part of my life for 23 years. It was the hardest decision ever and i still sometimes think i see or hear her. Miss her everyday. Take all the time, they are our family and take up so much space in our hearts and once they are no longer with us they leave such a big hole. Some days are much harder than others and does feel like a wave of emotions crahsing down on you. All thoughts going your way.

[@purplejellytotPJT]

It wasn't uncomfortable, Ren. There's no need to apologise. I'm so, so sorry that youre going through this. We're here for you dude. Take care

[@CZghost]

One thing many people struggle with understanding is that a pet is essentially part of the family. You don't treat a pet as just an animal. You treat it like a true friend. You give your pet a name, you cuddle with it, you play with it, you give it as much love as you can. I very much understand your grief, Ren. I lost a rabbit couple of years ago. Of course he was quite old at the time, whole 12+ years. But it hurt no less as if he would go much sooner. It took couple of days to fully process, but once it clicked, I actually burst in tears. What I regret mostly is that I never actually found a bit of more time to play with him, to cuddle with him, to gain more trust and show him how much I truly loved him. It all came to me crushing at the end, I even had nightmares for a while. I announced his passing on Facebook. I took one of his older photos, made it grayscale and added a black ribbon on the bottom right corner. That's when I finally fully processed the situation. Moral of the story is - it is never too late or too early to show as much love as you can to your pets. It's never impossible to find a bit more time for play with your pet. Because if you wait for too long, there's only the bittersweet taste of what could be if you did find the time, for there's suddenly no more time to spend with your beloved furry friend. I hope that y'all get this message and find it useful. Because I do. And I learned the hard way. Best wishes to you, Ren, and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I truly am.

[@CZghost]

And to clarify, the same thing applies to all of your loved ones. Be grateful for what you have, for you may lose that sooner or later, you never know.

[@enno1162]

I have never had a pet in my life but I am glad to learn about grief from you. It was crazy to me how losing pets could cause you so much trauma, After hearing you and thinking about it, it makes so much sense. Having someone in your life everyday for a really long time and then losing them hurts alot.

[@RatPrints]

I'm so sorry to hear this Ren. I remember when my Storm passed away. I held him while he took his last breaths. The vets had no clue what was wrong with him. It took me almost a year to stop crying every time I thought about him. The pain doesn't go away, but it does subside. Obi will live on in you, your family, and your friends. His spirit will continue to watch over you guys. Much love, Ren 🐀💙

[@willdo4me269]

As a hypnotherapist, “the Wave” as you described it is a very real technique used to help people overcome traumas and phobias. Thank you for sharing it with all your viewers to help them grow and change. Suffering is universal, but we, as a community, can help each other heal and grow

[@deborahsheets2604]

I struggle with chronic depression, and I have a very hard time carrying on sometimes. And though this was not the message or point of your video today, hearing how resilient you are in life really gives me hope. The waves Keep on coming. Thanks for sharing all of this with us, king Ren 👑 you are such an amazing and down to earth person.

[@elinvanderent9948]

Take all the time you need to get back Ren Never apologise about feeling sad, you also have feelings We love you RD ❤ May Obi rest in peace

[@Apipus]

The worst thing about pets is that they can’t stay with us forever. Cherish those moments while they are with us. All the best to you, Ren!

[@johnlineback8417]

Amazing how something so small could take up so much space in the heart. Take all the time you need to heal. Feel the feelings, acknowledge them.

[@59spooky70]

Reminder that loss is individual. No matter how you feel it’s ok. You’re allowed to experience grief in your own way and nobody can say it’s “right or wrong”.

[@CheshireKyle]

Much love coming to you Ren Diggity Dog ❤️❤️❤️❤️ You provide so much heart and soul to the HermitCraft server, which is already plentiful of both. Hope you can continue taking time for yourself, you’ll be out on the other side soon ❤️❤️❤️

[@maithax6962]

Please take as long as you need to get over this wave. We'll all still be here whenever that day comes

[@julianemery718]

It's nice to see and hear the man behind RenDog. Even though it might be of a painful topic, it's nice to hear you lay your heart bare. Don't get me wrong it's always fun watching your stuff, but this... feels different, it feels real and I like it. Time heals all wounds, so even though the pain will linger for a while considering how close to your heart your little boy was, it'll be alright, you'll be alright. You are an amazing person, you have amazing friends and you have your cyberdog fans backing you up.

[@juliarust4909]

First of all, you helped at least one person who is struggling right now, by sharing. Secondly I hope you know that no matter what we are all always here for you and love you. It does not matter how often you release content or stream, we are not going anywhere so please don't pressure yourself to record for our sake. Lastly, I am very happy to hear that even in this extremely tough time there is some light, by you finding a new home, which is great news. Take care if yourself Ren and remeber, you help and we are here no matter what❤

[@Uloncl]

RIP Obi

[@aJoats]

I experienced a similar loss a year ago, and found myself often thinking of the C.S. Lewis quote: "The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That's the deal.". I still think of those words often. It is no easy thing. Cherish the good days, and stay strong through the bad ones, for they inevitably pass. I hope you, and anyone experiencing such pain finds peace.

[@tiriusA]

Dear Ren - I am so sorry this happened to you. You and the other Hermits have helped so many around the world, I hope your community can now also provide you some comfort in return in these difficult times. You're in my thoughts, and please take as much time as you need.

[@guineapiggirl3103]

I can hear it in your voice.. Ren I'm so sorry I hope your doing better and I hope you've received lots of love from the community and that you find your happy place soon. Lots of love from the fans.. love you Rendog..

[@cetea173]

Always take care of yourself Ren!! We're all behind you, you aren't alone at all. Your content is always worth the wait, you deserve to take all the time you need. You're incredible, and Obi will be in all our hearts and forever loved.

[@supremegamer4717]

I recently lost a pet as well, and I know it feels like the end of it all. Like losing your child. But just like everything else, that feeling of loss and sadness passes over. And I find that when I talk about him months later, it isn't with sadness but with joy. You think about all the wonderful times you had with them, all the laughs, the cuddles, the walks in the rain or the blistering sun. Take all the time you need to grieve. The loss of a pet is nothing to laugh about❤

[@Shadowstar13]

Just hearing you talk about your beloved puppers makes me cry as well in memory of my cat who I had forever and its so hard to move on. Just know that you can move on. You have a great community here Ren just know that we care for you and see you as a person not just a creator.

[@watchingdragons]

It takes a lot of strength to push through that barrier, and that alone is inspiration enough. Your wave theory is beautiful, and as a person who suffers acute panic disorder, that's exactly what trauma is, it's about riding it through and being stronger at the end, no matter how battered you get in the undertow. Thank you for your Hermitcraft videos, but moreover, thank you for just being Ren.

[@DkOmbres]

Everyone goes through hard times, yes. But it's up to us humans to be there to lend a hand, an ear or a shoulder and some advice if asked. Ren, you will get through this and if you need, take the time, talk to someone a friend or family member. Just know that as long as you remember them, they are never gone. They live on in your heart and thats the best part of it. The love is there. Now exuse me while I go wipe tears away. I am sending hugs to you and anyone that needs it!

[@Mkharis257]

RIP doggie, I'm sure he was happy that he was loved so much. I'm just recently watching Hermitcraft season 8 (I skipped the entire season because of personal stuff that year) and many parts of Doc's videos were talking about "I'm waiting for Ren because Ren is currently walking his dog, it's important to him" so it's a shock to hear the news.

[@Dillbobgaming]

Our hearts are with you Ren! Losing a pet is one of the worst feelings in the world, especially when they are in pain/really sick. Wishing you well on your road to process this gried.

[@LignumSilva]

This episode and especially "The Wave" part has helped me cope with the 4 deaths in my family that has happened during 2023. I found my own memory thanks to you and it helped me tremendously to process everything without breaking apart. So thank you very much Ren! ❤ I am sorry for your loss, and I wish you all the best going forward! Much love!

[@ZombieCleo]

[@necroarcanistxiii]

Back when I used to make videos on the regular, my childhood dog, Patience, had to be put down. She would have been 10 that year but she developed a sort of tumorous cyst in her stomach and due to her age, the vet refused to operate on it. She'd been there for most of my late childhood as my emotional support pet, growing up with autism, and once my childhood was over... she was gone. Mum asked all of us to stay in the loungeroom so that she knew all her humans were there, but... I just couldn't handle it and walked out. That same day I attempted to record an episode of Terraria to take my mind off but I couldn't do any narration or voiceover just coz I was having an emotional breakdown the entire time, knowing that I was the one who had to spend all morning digging the hole in her garden. My sister has gone and adopted a new staffie recently and... she just reminds me so much of Patience. It's bringing back so much I almost forgot about my bubby gurl...

[@lenare4459]

My heart goes out to you Ren. Thank you for being honest about how hard it is, sometimes it's good to know that the people we look up to and respect are just as human as the rest of us. Take as much time healing as you need.

[@superservo]

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability Ren ❤ I lost both of my pups of 13 years back in December and February so that grief is still fresh. It’s hard to talk about and hard to heal. They give us the best days of our lives and some one the saddest. Grief is the cost of love. Take care of yourself, you are a shining beacon for many, even if some days you don’t always feel shiny!

[@GooberzTetris]

Ren, dude, please take as long of a break as you need. It's hard seeing you like this. Sending love ❤

[@AlmightyRawks]

I am so sorry for your loss. I just became a pet owner at nearly 40yo and I can't even imagine the pain yet. I fear it. But I also know there's ways through. Good luck on your journey! And please get a new pupper, you have so much love to share with a new doggo that can be in your life!

[@camerongundlock3422]

We’re all here for your brother. These are the times we give back to you, for all the amazing times you’ve shared with us, and for all the positivity and happiness you’ve spread in this world. I hope that even just a glancing at the comments can show you how much we care and feel for you.

[@DrCranium]

Rendog's wave-particle theory of life: a particle - any person, - exibits properties of a wave by travelling throught life in a sinusoid (with ups and downs).

[@Jojo.F87]

Losing a family member is never easy. I unfortunately relate very strongly to what you’re going through right now, man. I wish I could give you and your family a big hug. My heart aches for you. You take all the time in the world that you need. We, your fans, understand and have no problems at all with you needing to take time for yourself. You have provided us with years upon years of entertainment and good vibes. You very much deserve to take a break to get yourself back on track whenever you need. Obviously I’m just one of many, many fans, but Ren you’re one of the hermits I just really feel like I vibe with and it breaks my heart that you and your fam are going through this. Big hugs and lots of love.

[@bekahmarie489]

My heart goes out to you, Ren! My own dog we had to put to sleep due to collapsing trachea and I never had a chance to grieve until a year later because I had buried her and the next day I was off to college. It took me a few years to be ok. I wish you a safe journey mentally into finding your center once more.

[@LumpyDenommee]

I lost my dog in 2009, and it still hurts - losing a pet is one of the most painful experiences and the grief that follows is heavy, but you're right; like a wave, it does stop throwing you around, and you learn to remember the loving times you spent with them forever.

[@izelthewashbear]

I don't know if Ren or anyone will see it, but this video came out right when I needed it. This past few years have been tough and listening to Ren's calming voice and even similar experiences (I literally flinched when I heard about the breakup story because I'm going through something similar right now, though maybe not as bad) made me feel so much better. And that gives me hope that it does get better, and that with something like the wave I can manage my own struggles and trauma too. Thank you for that Ren, we are so lucky to have you and you are so loved.

[@thopbattle9871]

Ren you are not only a means to escape our lives but we as a community will always help i am very sure that even the hermits and every one will always support you what ever you are going through

[@ezza2587]

I remember when my first dog died. I was devastated and did not yet know how to process death. When later pets died, while I was still sad, I also felt relief for them. When they died it was because it was time for them to go. They had a good life and they were ready for their next journey. I was happy for them despite my sadness. The pain of losing someone will always be there but so will your love and your happy memories with them. I wish you all the best.

[@thenopequeen]

He is one with the Force, and the Force will be with him, always

[@hunterdettmer729]

this made me cry... it reminded me of my old dog Cooper, he was a jack rustle terrier and died of cancer a few days ago and I could never get over myself and I never talked about it until after I watched this video and it encouraged me to talk about it and now I feel a lot better. Thank you and I hope you feel better soon.

[@MrEatsOlot]

my childhood dog is also going through his last days at this moment. I feel your pain. Thank you so much for speaking about it. You dont know what it means to hear your words right now. Thank you ren

[@kathrynhadfield5281]

I've been having therapy for social anxiety and your 'wave' technique is a real tool. It's about trying to observe your thoughts and feelings in a non-judgemental way, trying not to block thoughts and feelings but letting them come and go whilst observing them without judgement.

[@Duvelsmurf]

Relatable. I've developed somewhat similar "this too shall pass" mantra for my personal stuff. I wish you strength while kicking this wave.

[@Jay244]

Hearing your voice crack is so heartbreaking to me. You are so strong, so, so strong. Well done for getting through what you've been through. Take all the time you might need. We all love you, and none of us will judge you for any of the decisions you make, breaks or otherwise. Stay strong

[@josephdisalvo3463]

Hey ren, I’ve been watching your vids since your 1st Minecraft video in 2012. I didn’t even play Minecraft..didn’t even know what it was….but I loved just listening to your stories, watching you play, watching how things evolved. Thank you, I’ve loved the ride and I’m looking forward to the continued journey together.

[@Moonscale_]

honestly that really was something I needed to hear! recently my dog also passed away, and it's been really hard dealing with it (heck, while watching this video I even cried while you were talking about obi, because it reminded me of my experience), but I'm going to try your method! and I'm glad to hear that you found a place to stay, I hope you'll like it there! ^^

[@donnyseidel9862]

Rest in power Obi. Ren, your community is not just here for entertainment, we're here for you. It's not easy dealing with death of a family member, my uncle passed around the same time as Obi so i feel your pain. Keep your chin up and grieve as you see fit. With everything you have going on we all understand if you decide to take any break for yourself. Stay positive, my dude.

[@aerinkaaerie5599]

Officially I am annoucing: Ren is amazing human beeing! That words about wave are really wise. Touch me to my core...

[@davidhenderson2504]

Ren, you are amazing. As one who has been through his fair share of trauma, I love that you are still looking to help others. We might not be able to share our grief, but we can help support each other through it. You're more than just a content creator for many of us, you're a friend. You've been here for us, it's the least we can do to be here for you too. Hang in there, know that you are loved, and attack those waves head on.

[@Puzzard]

Ren my dude, you have been an inspiration to our happiness from the beginning, you find light in dark situations and always put the ship on its due course. We all love you endlessly and feel horrible for what you’re going through right now! RIP handsome boy his legacy will shine on I’ll hold my furry friend extra tight for you on this day! Take all the time in the world Mental health is important and we want nothing more then you to be feeling at your best! Content creation is hard, but finding happiness in darkest times is even hard so take all the time in the world Thankyou for sharing this with us I think I can safely say we all love you

[@59spooky70]

Ren, we love you for your humanity. If you feel working will help you get your mind off your loss that’s great. We want to make sure you’re ok though and that’s our primary concern. If you ever need a break we will support the other hermits and we will keep watching you when you come back. I know loosing a pet can be difficult. Rest assured that your dog is no longer in pain. Of course you’re allowed to be sad but he would want you to be happy.

[@danielraine27]

Been here for a long while and you’ve helped me get through and out of many rough spots and I am always forever grateful my dude and you should in that you will always have a community to turn to. ❤❤❤

[@gwenelliebrown]

"Dogs might be in just a small part of our lives, But to them, we are their whole life." Sorry for your loss. ❤All that matters, you was there for him. You got wonderful memories and such a nice time together.

[@geoffhatch4996]

You're more than just the character of Rendog. You're a human being, after all... and thank you for trying to be there for us, taking these steps in the hard times. But you trust us enough as a community to tell us how you are feeling, and I am grateful for that. I don't care about a schedule or how long it is between videos... I only care that you take care of yourself before you work on your videos so you are in a better mind. You're taking the steps... just keep taking them, one step at a time.

[@cospaws8810]

Wasn’t expecting a group therapy session, but I’ve come out on the other side of this video with advise I will actually use. Thank you for being so real and honest with us Ren :)

[@Chinchilla143]

REN!!! 💙 as always take your time recovering. Love you as always dude. Rip, Obi our beloved pup. Living forever in the hearts of literally so many in this world

[@Dandygirl_94]

No words can describe the loss of a pet. They're part of the family and teach us so much about unconditional love, compassion, and companionship. There is no deeper bond than that of a person and their pet. You are so strong and are such a beautiful, kind, and empathetic human being. Even when you are suffering through so much, you still took the lessons taught to you by others and give them back to your viewers, I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a hug, even though it would pale in comparison to what you've given us. Not only do we love Renthedog, but we care about Renthehuman too, I never really thought about the wave theory before, but thinking of it now it makes so much sense. Even though it's hard to accept, sometimes the wave doesn't give you enough time before it drags you under, like you said, sometimes you just have to take a deep breath, close your eyes, plug your nose and let it drag you under to come out on the other side. And while your friend was right that we're all suffering in our own way and to have compassion, it's alright to take some time to yourself to collect your thoughts, to have your moment and release your feelings before asking for help and letting someone in. I hope you begin to heal and that the next wave is a little smaller and a little kinder.

[@FudgeHead1221]

its so heartbreaking when a beloved pet passes so i am sure i speak for everyone watching this when i say we all understand and to take all the time you need before you return to your usual energetic self

[@Kikilicious556]

Can’t tell you how much I needed this today. I was just diagnosed with cancer last week and have been dealing with the trauma of this disease. Your words really helped. ❤ Thank you for helping me in your time of need.

[@ryanbasu59]

I was so excited when I saw the video, I was watching in class and after the first few minutes I broke out into tears. I can’t even imagine how hard the last few days and weeks must have been for you Ren. I can’t believe I didn’t see this on my twitter timeline. Please take care of yourself but try to keep busy to distract your mind. I lost a really close friend a few months ago and she loved to play Minecraft. I took a few weeks to myself but I made sure that I kept my mind distracted. Don’t worry about us and whatever you do, never forget your beautiful boy. ❤