The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida ► Animated Book Summary - How to Be a Man

Learn how to be a man in this animated book summary of The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida. Book Review and Summary by OnePercentBetter.
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The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida is the bible for men wanting to feel like a man, learn how to be more masculine, and for relationship advice.
Not only does it rank out at number 1 on Real Social Dynamic’s reading list, but I believe it's required reading for every man on the planet who wants his personal and love life to flourish. Hands down. Strap yourselves in. This is a longer video than usual because it has too many golden nuggets I can’t bare to leave out for you guys.
I’m not just going to blatantly throw information at you and hope they change your life. I’m actually going to share how I integrated this wisdom into my own life and relationships, and how you can too.
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[@HowToTop10]

The "Purpose before Relationship" part is the most crucial IMO. We have to find our purpose and work on it, and everything else will come much easier. Because we are not needy, but men who have a journey and keep moving forward.

[@OnePercentBetter]

Yeah m8888

[@PattyBandAidz]

So true, im going to put this to use immediately.

[@salsaofsweden]

Yesterday my friend asked me why I am working to hard to be “masculine”. I said that it’s because 1) I happen to be truly full-filled only if I act that part and follow a mission. 2) I am only really attracted to girls who are very feminine in there expression, so I have to consciously provide the complimentary opposite.

[@Tommcginn]

@@junglegoose4648 What if you don't know who you are?

[@gibi1269]

1. Insist on practice and growth 2. You will want more than one 3. Ejaculate up the spine 4. Ejaculation should be converted 5. Demonstrate your direction 6. What she wants != what she says 7. Praise her 8. Your woman doesn't get easier 9. Never change your mind 10. Attraction is inevitable 11. Purpose before relationship 12. Complimentary opposite

[@Morphick]

Haven't read this book in a long time -- very good summary and a great reminder! Purpose over everything.

[@OnePercentBetter]

Glad to serve you Wesley -Brandon

[@AfterSkool]

Wow. I love this video! Fantastic work!

[@OnePercentBetter]

Cheers brotherrr

[@roots7655]

Brilliant summary! Just ordered the book

[@faroukmubiru]

This is the best summary of the book that I have seen

[@punchface3000]

awesome content Brother, really helps me out

[@OnePercentBetter]

Happy to help yo

[@clintponcy3079]

You just earned a subscription. Great vid

[@peterpagliaro1835]

great points

[@CaptainManic2010]

thanks for your work.

[@Arygua]

"Between your tally Wacker and chamber of secrets" I like the info but you had me dying.

[@DavidCanencio13]

Another aweomse video!!!

[@timothykangethe7700]

Essentially one of the greatest literary exploit...Manhood 101🎯 🤝

[@edwinkipchirchir6643]

The way of a superior man... You have explained enough on how a man can manage himself, focus on own dreams while maintaining a healthy relationship.

[@joqu6971]

These are great

[@classick8972]

VIDS IS FIRE G THANG

[@Dulzothegreatmusic]

the voice acting is brilliant

[@eulier1]

I come here for @dankoe recommendations. I'll keep it to re-watch thag later. Thanks for your service man. Peace

[@AbedAmad]

Great Video!

[@OnePercentBetter]

Glad to serve you!

[@sachinrichking]

going great mate

[@OnePercentBetter]

Yeah maaate :)

[@sharpxhzii368]

Nice Vid mate

[@OnePercentBetter]

Cheers Sharp!

[@stephslaughter]

I really like this one, Brandon! Very interesting info and so true from a woman's POV as well. I never knew about the man kegels but always wondered why some men can last so much longer than others. Thanks for sharing!

[@OnePercentBetter]

I'm glad to serve you Stephanie. I'm even more glad you've watched a video that's seemingly just for men when in reality all can benefit. Much love

[@anthonyharmon9265]

Typical sexist response....and no doubt on a mans topic....typical female always trying to control men and chime in (nag) using sex references

[@MsDeongi]

NICE... So true

[@60secondsuccess39]

Well put together valuable images, great and lengthy advice , and lots of it. I really enjoyed the video, keep up the good content. I know how time consuming lengthy videos like this can be to make, but it will pay off n the end.

[@OnePercentBetter]

Pay's way too many dividends - Subscribers Views and AdSense is one thing, developing relationships and serving others is another. Much love. -Brandon

[@alexgabrielbarbozadiaz6242]

Great video. I just subscribed to your channel. May I ask what software do you use to create your videos?

[@Saintmalachii]

this is spot on , wow

[@readbengal9215]

Love you sir

[@Unlucky13ification]

Lessons 3 & 4 touch on a practice I think is best covered by the book, The Multi-Orgasmic Man. It is Taoist in nature but I think it also demystifies some of what you said

[@OnePercentBetter]

Thank you very much

[@evileast282]

Great book! David Shade’s stuff is really good too!

[@DefeatLust]

Best book i've ever fuckin read in my life. Every MAN MUST read this. Holy shit.

[@2kerosene]

this is really fucking helpful and crucial for alot of growing young men since it’s lacking...

[@ikehall9513]

LOVE IT YOU ARE DOPE!!!! #TheGoOdWayOfThinking

[@eoinbrennan3949]

We live in a broken world. Men are broken and so are women, both are broken in different ways. I've read the way of the superior man and theres some good stuff in there, especially what it has to say about a mans purpose trumping everything, including women. But you can not play along with the tests of women, you have to show them the door because all theyre doing is displaying their broken-ness. You cannot play the game in any way because the game is flawed and is doomed to failure, Just look at the divorce rate. The only way to have a successful relationship with a woman is to never put up with any nonsense at all. Ever. Dont put up with moodiness, bitchiness, bratty behavior, manipulation or controlling antics. Do not, under any circumstances marry a woman who displays any of there traits. You can be perfectly happy without a woman in your life. So when you understand this you can take or leave them, theres nothing any woman has that can make you happy, and in knowing this you can actually have a healthy relationship. If you want, but you can also just head off into the sunset and seek your own adventure.

[@N1IA-4]

Exactly right. Men don't need them. In fact it is they that need us to procreate and to take care of their kid if they're a single mom. They bring absolutely nothing to the table but trouble and they expect us to jump through their hoops. Screw that noise.

[@ms.gordon3802]

Everyone gets hurt, heal from your baggage and realize relationships take compromise. If you want to be MGTOW that’s fine but men can have bad dating and relationship experiences as it’s part of life, without those challenges you wouldn’t know what you really are looking for. Some men let relationship struggles break them and they give up. Other men learn from their struggles gain wisdom but they don’t let this defeat them, they become stronger and smarter, a superior man doesn’t give up, if that’s all it takes for you to give up in life then you really don’t deserve the life you want. We all have to fight on, life is a constant battle of the mind and the will if that foundation is weak then it will easily crumble.

[@Hmfirestormz]

Eoin Brennan ok mgtow

[@eoinbrennan3949]

@@ms.gordon3802 If what you got from my comment was "just give up and be a mgtow" then you've missed the point entirely. It's not about being bitter and slipping off with your tail between your legs. Its about finding out who you are as a man and finding out what exactly your purpose in life is. A mans purpose is number 1, all things (including his relationships) come from that. And when a man knows what he's here to do then he won't put up with bad behaviour from anyone, both women and other guys. This is the point I'm making, that the reason most guys put up with bitchy bratty behaviour from women is because they dont know who they are or what their lifes purpose is and when you dont know these things about yourself you'll put a woman on a pedestal and try to get meaning and fulfillment from her. It's not about giving up bro, it's about finding out who you really are.

[@mayeezy254]

Damn Brennan, you good? but seriously what I have learned is that they will show those tendencies to some capacity probably because they are conditioned that way and while its good to be assertive the leaving part might be difficult to the average guy

[@mitdesai55555]

Purpose is King.

[@mitdesai55555]

Praise Her.

[@paladintactical8250]

I came across this book back in the mid 2000's...at the time I was a super blue pilled beta who had no concept about the true nature of women..I sneered at this book and associated 'Manosphere' books, forums and groups dismissing them as 'misogynist'...cut to 2019 and I'm fully 'red pilled' and feeling stupid for not coming to MGTOW et.al back then!

[@MandhanAcademy]

nice explanation ...love u 3000

[@Anwar-AT]

awesome stuff man as usual

[@OnePercentBetter]

[@Anwar-AT]

❤❤❤

[@KG88KiteGodMusic]

Milk woman impression killed me🤣

[@ackeel11]

The way I started laughing 😂😂🤣🤣from your voice on number 8 omg lmaoooooo

[@TommyMillerVlogs]

Nice....

[@OnePercentBetter]

Vanilla slice...

[@theview1702]

let go brandon

[@neohermitist]

Deida also wrote "The Enlightened Lover" which goes into detail on the sexual love side of things. That book and "The Jewel In The Lotus" both helped me out tremendously in sexual intercourse.

[@N1GHTFREAK]

The book is from stephen mitchell

[@neohermitist]

@@N1GHTFREAK Sorry, I wrote down the wrong title, the correct title is: The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover.

[@normanmacfarlane2867]

It is a great book . What I got from it was live your life your way.

[@brandonnzimande6381]

lol that conversation

[@HekaFOF]

”Relationship lasted five times longer” congratz on 5 week relationship

[@j.c.4796]

Point 11: Purpose before relationship/woman. Points 12 & 9-2: Information centering around a woman and how you should adjust yourself around her insanity. This book is for fairies.

[@caseypayne5138]

Framing the different ways women are evolutionarily programmed to think and act in a relationship as "insanity" is the root of the problem here. Does it make no sense to guys? Absolutely. It genuinely baffles me most of the time and I've been married 10 years. But accepting that my wife inherently thinks differently from me has been a huge help for me in my relationship. Learning how her "insanity" can compliment and strengthen you is actually a huge part of having a successful and happy relationship. It's how you can actually act like a man. None of it "centers" on a woman, it's basically telling you how to succeed and be a man.

[@claraeunoia]

someone's bitter

[@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788]

Support and praise, listen to her, compliments, words of affirmation and most importantly, a safe containment so that she can be her soft, feminine self. That's right, the feminine that fires up the masculine! She'll stay by your side if she feels safe, if you assert yourself as opposed to wishy-washy crap. Be confident in expressing your needs in the relationship too, what you need from her. This is what a grown up woman needs from her man

[@anilyorulmaz4398]

Well you have to be careful with praising to much

[@doctorstrange2304]

Cool,,, 😆

[@makehumanitygreatagain8128]

*"She wants.. she wants... she... she... she... she"* Oh the irony. If you read or need to read this book, you've already lost the battle. The only thing you should seek in life is to be a better person today than you were yesterday. If a woman isn't helping you be that (assuming that you're sincerely putting forth action towards that), then ditch her in a New York minute. Reading about how not to put a woman first in your life, is already putting women first in your life. You should put your personal integrity first in life. Good luck geezer.

[@OnePercentBetter]

Did you swallow the red pill?

[@cautarepvp2079]

@@OnePercentBetter well he got some points aswell

[@MrMawnster]

👍👌👌🤘🤘🤘 precisely

[@SCV3298]

I agree, this smells of beta tendency, its like everything you do is for the approval of a woman, whether by directly submitting to her or acting defiant.

[@Tommcginn]

Glad I watched this summary. I read the book about 2 years ago and it's become apparent to me recently that I abandoned my purpose in order to be what others wanted me to be. Also it's so true that watching what a woman does is a much better indicator of what they want. We all do this sometimes, but women are generally more agreeable than men and will tell pleasant lies to allow for social cohesion that betray their true desires.

[@tdreamgmail]

17 vs 14? - FBI OPEN UP!!!

[@romaniahasmetal]

You're stupid

[@dondon3421]

Women prefer matured men who isnt needy

[@pratikdoshi7727]

NONCE

[@invisiblebully171]

@@darrieng6608 he really did though I stopped and had to play it back to make sure I heard him correctly

[@kushagrasonkar]

@A.J. Ello teach me master!

[@mitdesai55555]

We're the Superior Men.

[@ViralTalk]

This video is going to be viral...Nice points

[@OnePercentBetter]

VIRRRRRALLLL TALK

[@ViralTalk]

HAAHAHA

[@mrweevilcom]

I wanted to buy this book but I've changed my mind after this video. Not that the video is bad, quite the opposite - it so well presented the content and the main idea of the book that I realized it's based on the social order, beliefs and the Victorian kind of relationship between sexes rather than authentical masculine energy. Purpose over all is a good advice though.

[@micaelaso-so6061]

You make a very good point.

[@dotheyfloat9961]

"Victorian"? It's more like the masculine/feminine as it has been defined since the dawn of man hundreds of thousands of years ago up until the past 20 years or so of post-modernist pseudointellectual progressivism.

[@aton.3574]

yep, I am watching this video after reading the book. The book is really good and taught me a lot of things but definitely wasn't what I was looking for, I should've done my research before lol.

[@BeOutstanding]

Don't understand point 12. 10% or 80% is good? What is meant by complimentary opposite? Aren't all the examples listed opposite?

[@OnePercentBetter]

Thank you for reaching out. The percentage refers to the amount of couples that have a particular polarity. Forget genders for a minute. Complimentary opposite means that one partner is feminine and the other is masculine. The examples listed aren't all opposite - the neutral couple isn't opposite because they aren't feminine or masculine. Just neutral.

[@mitdesai55555]

The Masculine grows buy challenge and the feminine grows buy praise.

[@raskal5988]

Damn bro, this video got me dying

[@oscarg3566]

I love the goku art

[@saddleheadson1]

I started to read this book & stopped at the "WOMEN DON'T LIE" chapter. The utter simpery that that was spewed in the 1st several paragraphs made me never pick that book up again

[@MrMawnster]

According to their emotionally turbulent perspective and reality they don't lie hahaha. But according rational males they do. They have a perspective that's only made worse by the modern culture

[@DwyaneWadeCounty]

I am dealing with this single woman right now that claims that she never did crack, that her meth mouth was caused by the "stress" of battling CPS to reclaim her daughter. She also blames her miserable life on her daughter and the father. Not only do women lie, but they also cannot accepted accountability. Also, "gaslighting" is the technical term for when someone claims that they don't lie.

[@sharaemuhammad2436]

@@DwyaneWadeCounty I agree many women lie, but many women do truly accept and own accountability. The chapter title is not meant to be taken literally, it simply recognizes that women (those who aren't altered mentally by crack, meth and other extremely drugs and behavior) are often speaking from their emotional perception or intuition. To an untrained eye it often looks like they can't speak logically or that they're just being dramatic for kicks. The books clarifies this discrepancy.

[@shaunstephenson1132]

You misinterpreted the meaning of that chapter

[@saddleheadson1]

@shaun stephenson maybe so but I don't like that politically correct answer in this day and age. Action speaks louder than words. I believe we have created in society a playground for deceptive actions by women to be rewarded.

[@jonathanplanet]

nice video mate. one question: how do we know our energy and our partners energy? I believe my partner is feminime but im not sure for me, i think im neutral masculine.. like i feel i a share both energies but mostly masculine, maybe 60/40 or something. how can i tell?

[@OnePercentBetter]

Even I'm dealing with this. Couldn't tell ya :P

[@pastexpiry2013B]

Stop eating Soy.

[@rw4877]

You can feel it bro. You know that thing. It's that feeling you get after a good session in the gym. Increase the level of testosterone in your system. Stop jerking off and go to the gym. You WILL feel the masculine energies in you It only takes about 20 days to know how awesome semen retention is and why you must protect your seed at all costs

[@d4rkven0m117]

Goddamit…the wife’s voice gets me everytime 😂

[@NethervvoidBuilds]

7:00 ... So... you changed your mind. Also she is then dictating what you're doing. And manipulating. One thing that is a MUST for successful relationships is that each partner MUST be honest with their desires. They must work on and be free to openly communicate their thoughts. Trying to guess leads to break up. Trust me on this. Assumption is a bad idea. If she feels safe to speak freely, she will tell you what she wants. Now that also doesn't mean you should just do whatever she wants. If you wanted to go to the city, and she doesn't now, then go by yourself or ask a friend to go.

[@shiwanibhardwaj5014]

how many books, which actually work are written for women?

[@saahirrajab2002]

I've been covering this book chapter by chapter on my channel. It's arguably the best book to align your life to.

[@laurabelmonte4187]

This video accidentally came up next on a playlist. Love this channel! But this was hilarious!!! Every assumption about women was wrong for me. So funny!!!!

[@luvair6765]

It sounds like the saying "what women say and what they actually mean is different" applies to you.

[@DjR3aper]

I assume you drink green tea.

[@ure2grit931]

@@luvair6765 haha watch what they do... not what they say

[@JemInThe999]

I think that’s why it stated the importance of understanding polarities so less about man and woman but importance of balancing roles. Maybe you are more energetically logical, masculine or possibly neutral in comparison to the chaotic or receptive femininity etc 🙂

[@joncruzvlv]

If I’m Masculine is my “Complimentary Opposite” Feminine?

[@RPGVITTAH]

#2 straightforward 😂

[@victordiaz3948]

Guys for the #4 this app is really good. * PFEI * it help me last longer 😁.

[@OnePercentBetter]

teehee

[@slater-cguy]

Not having sex before marriage has nothing to do with being sexually attracted to women. Just sayin', dont throw the baby Jesus out with the holy bath water.

[@philipg7929]

Anybody got the divider to Elliot hulse?

[@damilaresanusi5430]

He suggested checking out who's videos for breathing?

[@avacatototo]

I have not read this book yet, but I feel like some of the principles of this book contradicts Models by Mark Manson. Any insights?

[@davidste60]

Which principles?

[@TheEdge92]

Let’s go Brandon!

[@SiimLand]

One of the most fundamental reads for men. Even women should read it just for the ideas on sexual polarity. Just go get the milk, lol

[@OnePercentBetter]

Oh so yes to your middle line.

[@neoowenlebuso5499]

didnt get that , you said we should find tips from Elliot who?

[@mba2ceo]

I only feel .1% better - prove me wrong

[@sabelokhanyile]

Where are Elliot House videos

[@mitdesai55555]

It's better to indulge in HookUp/ No strings attached rather than getting into a relationship just for sex.

[@thecrookedhitbox33]

In most of your videos you talk about dominance. How do you dominate and make her listen to you when she, as a modern woman, is trying to dominate you?

[@Tommcginn]

Refuse to be dominated. A man's power comes from his willingness to abide by his own morals and boundaries. Even the strongest willed woman cannot dominate a man who has made peace with himself and doesn't waver from his mission.

[@Shitabha]

This is one of the best misogynist book i have ever heard a summary of.

[@thetrue00]

No. 8 when you make the woman voice is hilarious 😂 😂 😂 😂

[@nishantjungsingh7215]

we can buy a farm now😂😂

[@serciusbrightstar2336]

Ofc you need to learn to CODE! Jokes

[@SmilingCassettePlayer-ip1to]

Yea that statement about the 17 and 14 year old ain't sitting right with me.

[@csax4056]

That female voice in point no. 8 😂

[@skortana3760]

1:40 bro what? 17 year old hormone filled me With a 14 year old girlfriend

[@sloebone7399]

This book is just a giant excuse for putting up with women's bad behavior. Passing her tests, deciding what she is really saying, it's all just BS. By making me pass her tests, she's failing mine. I'm not here to cater to her craziness. If she's going to test you, and try to throw you off your purpose, she can go.

[@imperiumv5937]

Mgtow

[@obasidaniel6858]

Wisdom at its height.

[@JayMick]

Read the book mate, he mentions many times in the book that while a woman does require attention and nurture, doing so at the expense of your own life purpose (which should transcend her) will make your relationship crumble and her desire for you diminish. Women want a man to inspire them and look up to. To be a provider isn't just to give them somewhere to feel safe, you must also be someone they search for motivation and support-- that includes emotional support. Which requires you listening to them and being their rock. Of course she may try some shit tests, and you as your superior self will confront her on these behaviours and shut them down, because you know how toxic those habits are, just as you have managed to shut down your own toxic habits.

[@DrGonzo-fe4jx]

Well said, fuck this book

[@jakeaftermath7563]

Dude honestly these books are written by betas who dont get enough sex and these ideas are supported by betas and all these "red pill men" are just dudes who are jaded and resentful. Red Pillers are just betas.

[@animationplaybook765]

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[@blackcitadel37]

I can hear the hysterical screams of feminists about this video/book from hundreds of miles.

[@CalmMindz]

Tally wacker??? Gooch?? Are these correct anatomical or physiological terms??

[@roughlysktch4542]

Stop trying to understand them. The more you try to do so the more they’ll hate you. I just saved you some time.

[@raycarden7941]

You just made exactly zero sense

[@roughlysktch4542]

Ray Carden didn’t ask you

[@raycarden7941]

Bro don't take life so seriously, not everyone is negative in the comment section

[@roughlysktch4542]

Ray Carden true, but doesn’t change the fact that I didn’t ask you.

[@raycarden7941]

@@roughlysktch4542 true, but I made you edit the comment

[@ZiplineShazam]

My god life is a pain in the ass !!!!

[@pastexpiry2013B]

*women

[@ilikelargefries8337]

One question: horde or alliance?

[@Picardssiette]

FOR THE HORDE!

[@stopwastingseed.hijabmodes2754]

ILikeLargeFries hijab and not mini skirt.🙂

[@jbol2454]

There's one thing I don't get about Deida's book and that is at 1:07 when you mentioned that 10% of couples are made up of a "feminine" man and a "masculine" woman. Many sexually submissive "feminine" men are very masculine in their everyday life, think the powerful CEO stereotype who visits dominatrixes, these are not men who liked romantic movies growing up but war movies like the other boys, and yet sexually they were always sexually submissive to a dominant woman, I'm not sure how that adds up in Deida's book.

[@pocilemon6511]

Its the sensation

[@jbol2454]

@@pocilemon6511 Sensation of what?

[@Matt-lq7gd]

I think a lot of guys are missing the point in the comments. Everyone is saying why should I do what women want. It's not that you need to only please them it's teaching you how women work and when you treat them right they (should) treat you right also. If they don't, move on. There's some great advice here but if you are too worried about PC and have false masculine pride this will sound like BS. Also, porn will fuck up your mind up so stop that BS asap.

[@chancenigel0186]

Well men, don’t want to get laid all the time. 10 minutes of sex isn’t worth two weeks or even days to get laid ... sex with different women really isn’t great. But anyone can have their own opinion, guys let’s reclaim the gentleman in us 💪🏽, feminism won’t take over

[@64xxxx]

Listening to the book on Audible - the best motivation for going MGTOW!

[@czJanKrejci]

Complimentary means for free, or praising. You mean complementary.

[@tantris1998]

I still haven't read this book although it's in my to read list so I should get there eventually. however a lot of things he says sound like sexist, idiotic, patriarchal-based comments. Nevertheless I look for interesting and insightful information in books which I am sure it has from the "The relationship should come after your goals" (which even though it is something I already knew it's good to have it put into words). IMO, everyone should follow their dreams and a relationship is something that both helps the both of you achieve your dreams, supports the both of you in during though times and allows continuous growth on both sides.