14: Pick-Me Girls | The BCC Club Podcast

[@lucinda4203]

"they would say I slept with their boyfriends!" "well did you ?" "yeah..." THAT YEAH GOT ME CRACKING KENDAHL

[@Ajax_nat]

“And I think of him as a dad” I literally CHOKED 😂😂😂😂

[@Velveeta-Cheese]

“obviously” 💀

[@aAryan0309]

1:21:45 “What do the boys say in the shed that makes you laugh?” “They say slurs” 😂

[@rachelzeke]

Sarah it’s Stanley Tucci that you’re thinking of that you like! He slays tbh. I feel the same about Leslie Jordan, RIP

[@TheBCCClub]

Yes! That’s who! Thank you

[@KZesty]

The way that Sarah so gently said, "It's okay" when the "guest" would start "crying" 🥺

[@erthwurm]

Sarah continuously impresses me with how well spoken and intelligent they are, everything they say is so eloquently explained

[@justchez2742]

for. real. they’re literally my role model in so many ways no matter if they say they aren’t perfect, they actually made me realize and actually think abt my own tendencies during this whole experience and i’m so grateful for them ❤

[@evelynnsometimes2]

hearing sarah tell the story about people pitching in for their hotel room really reminds me of when my laptop broke and i needed to get a new one fast and a bunch of people donated money to help me. like seeing people actually like care like that was insanely eye opening.

[@user-nj7sn8ur4n]

Kinda sad but New Girl was like fanfiction to me not in the romantical sense but as in having friends is possible in your adulthood, i was a very lonely teenager.

[@nikolasfishman3505]

I love when how comfortable you both are with being so vulnerable and honest with your audience. Truly refreshing every episode

[@skylerjade2598]

The way me and my bf made eye contact when Sarah said “bi girls who put this on in the car with their boyfriend😭😭😭😭

[@annjay2581]

"Youre not Jess from New Girl, youre Dee from Its Always Sunny" - as someone with male roommates this is painfully accurate 😭😭😭 New Girl IS fanfiction for women, thats why its my comfort show lol

[@flowerfields9573]

Matt and abby scared for thier white son is so crazy and i cant believe people agreed with her. Terrifying. Im pregnant with a girl and Im so excited but Im also terrified for the future of women here in the US.

[@nicolespielman7195]

Yikes I didn’t know that was them. Disappointing

[@libbylib6635]

Sarah having a water bottle a Diet Coke and a red bull during this ep. Love.

[@momac1871]

Don’t forgot the kombucha in the end

[@libbylib6635]

@@momac1871 I missed that 😭😂

[@emilythomson418]

what’s that jingle that’s going around on tik tok ? ADHDers have three drinks at all times: one for hydration, one for energy, and one for fun 🥰 (as someone with adhd, can confirm)

[@amberbray.coaching]

Kendall I have played Animal Crossing every day since mid 2020 😂😂😂 Get a bathing suit from the shop and go snorkelling as the sea creatures generally sell for a higher price 💕

[@stevietv420]

That wild tangent or whatever that y'all went on about Narcissists was one of the most important things I've heard in like a while. So thanks 🙏

[@222ulema]

im the bisexual women who puts this on in the car and her boyfriend happens to be there!! ive never felt so seen

[@emilydenomme2902]

lol hi! i feel this. i laughed out loud. such a specific audience.

[@daniellec3917]

Came to the comments just to make sure im not the only one 😂

[@princessjade2]

Same lol

[@JordanPool13]

I'm one of the 4 guys listening!

[@savkenn]

i love my weekly dose of fellow neurodivergent lesbians :)

[@RiverDoesTheThing]

The way she's talking about Matt Rife without talking about Matt Rife (In reference to pick me boys who everyone's obsessed with for a few months)

[@pinheadlarry2921]

I just wanna say, i really really love your conversations about how men treat lesbians. So i’m bisexual, but i am further on the butch side. I actually have only dated one woman when i was younger and only men since. (No reason other than i’m scared of people not actually being attracted to me and it’s a lot less likely with a man lol) But men that i meet, that i don’t particularly know well, 100% assume i’m a lesbian. I’ve had people tell me this, but i’ve also been able to tell even when they haven’t asked. And yes. They treat me so badly. Like i’m wasting their time even breathing around them. I never put this connection together (they assume i’m lesbian + men treat lesbians poorly) until i started watching this pod. Also just the concept of being treated like a man by women when you’re thought of as a lesbian.

[@plutonium2]

Bro nothing will make you disdain men faster than being a visible lez. Some of them won’t even make eye contact and if you’re not otherwise “normal” looking FORGEDDABODDIT

[@syd5380]

Idk what my sexual orientation actually is aside from "currently I have a boyfriend" lol but I have noticed people see me as "probably a lesbian" and I feel like it benefits me sometimes. I've witnessed my other female friends get relentlessly hit on by men in a way that I know I would _not_ know how to handle cause I am very awkward and bad at being assertive

[@pinheadlarry2921]

@@syd5380 It definitely goes both ways. I’ve had men refuse to even hold a conversation w me bc i’m not worth talking to, but i’ve also reaped the benefits of being left alone by men. Older men don’t seem to care though- or maybe they just don’t even realize lesbians exist idk. I’ve still been harassed by older men and was even stalked by a customer at my job once. So i think it depends on the men you’re interacting with for sure.

[@syd5380]

@@pinheadlarry2921 You're so right about old guys, I have no idea what it is with them maybe their perception has over the years has been whittled down to just "I'm talking to a female person." I am trash with social cues and have eye contact issues so I don't notice it as much when I'm in a socializing-type of setting but I've definitely experienced guys straight up just not listening. I'm a landscaper and work with almost exclusively men and I'm wondering if I'd be listened to more if they perceived me as an "available woman." It's wild sometimes I'll be talking and I can straight up see that me speaking is not registering on their radar at all. It's kind of surreal.

[@lyrroht4472]

@@syd5380 >be listened to more if they perceived me as an "available woman." definitely not. when men of this kind interact with a woman they're attracted to, they still don't hear her, just pretend to do to achieve something (her interest or attention)

[@laurielmaoo]

the jess from new girl to dee from it’s always sunny comparison has actually changed my life… sarah you’re a visionary

[@jadetree]

lmao the breaking character at 1:21:45 was so funny

[@BlackxxannxxYellow]

best part of the episode💀💀💀 i love sarah’s laugh too

[@kiwibatss]

“It’s funny, isn’t it?” “In a way” 😭😭😂

[@nexithedestroyer]

Watching yall as an autistic woman is comforting because I feel like my struggles are so perfectly articulated and understood here 💗😭

[@pepepopo_lmao]

46:50 i am one of those 3 guys and i can confirm, im just here for these immaculate vibes, man

[@LemonSte]

Dude every time I hear Sarah talk about how her brain works I'm just like. How does someone have the same brain as me 😂 I feel such fondness for her because I just 100% get what she means, especially this episode about empathy and emotion. and also Sarah for god's sake get tested for autism lmao one of us one of us. Edit: also narc crew narc crew edit 2: KATIE FROM MEAN GIRLS IS AUTISTIC CODED! I SAID IT!

[@plutonium2]

I feel for her but I’m getting exhausted with her mental illness and neurodivergence being everything she brings to any conversation. I mean I get it too but the woman is a comedian. She desperately needs to get thicker skin or get into a different gig. Otherwise watching her is just watching an endless melt down in slow motion and it’s excruciating, to me

[@arianahagen4724]

@@plutonium2 it’s a part of her and she can talk about whatever she wants. if you don’t enjoy her content you don’t have to watch it (or make comments on it) ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@emerson1998]

​@@plutonium2then don't consume their content! It's like saying "ugh this disabled comedian keeps talking about their wheelchair issues, GET OVER IT, find a different shtick". Like? Seriously, that's so uncalled for.

[@plutonium2]

@@emerson1998 lol it’s not her “schtick” and who’s to say I’m watching for Sarah? I’m allowed to have negative feedback doofus. The bottom line is she is tiresome with all her whining. I’d like her to be always funny but she’s only sometimes funny bc she complains and talks about herself constantly. It’s boring and awkward

[@Cole_McGill]

​@@plutonium2When talking to people, do you not include yourself in that conversation? When talking about something, do you not speak on your personal experience/how you experience said thing? Now, to address the "the woman is a comedian" part. Comedy is about finding humor in the things that you experience and often involves things that the audience may find relatable(although relatability isn't a requirement, just don't be out of touch). She deals with mental health issues and is neuro-divergent, so she's going to include that in her comedy. Her showing that she can openly talk(and even joke) about those things, shows people(who have might have those same, or similar, issues) that they can talk about those things and it makes them more comfortable doing so, is also destigmatizes the topic, allowing for healthier conversations about them. Now, to address the "She desperately needs to get thicker skin" part. She is not being sensative, whenever she is adressing her mental illness or neuro-divergence, she is being expressive and openly communicative. This part was just belittling and wasn't a legitimate criticism of Sarah. Finally, to address the "I'm getting exhausted with her mental illness and neurodivergence being everything she brings to any conversation" part. 1. If it is exhausting you, don't watch, for your own well-being. 2. She brings a lot more to conversations than her mental health and neurodivergence. She constantly is talking about her queerness, her childhood online experiences, and her other normal life experiences. Your hyperfocusing on those two specific aspects of her life and how she speaks about them. They don't permeate everything she does/talks about. I will not speculate on why you choose to focus on and exaggerate those parts of identity/their presence in her conversations, however, I will implore you to do some self-reflection and try to understand why you felt/feel the way did/do. Whatever the reason is, the sentiment is all the same. You don't want to hear about these things because you don't want to think about/deal with these things. Ironically that's more exhausting(to yourself and others) than what you were whining about. I hope your day goes well and you process what you need to.

[@lolwhatclairewhat]

sarah’s such a good role model

[@sabrinaashlynn3831]

you know the joke is good when Sarah breaks character 💀😂😂😂

[@nickid7117]

Amanda and Kyle for life Lmfaoooo Sarah busting out laughing at the guest saying “slurs” was hilarious

[@OvercookedFangirl]

yall would LOVE stardew valley sm its a farming simulator game and its a chill game with really cute art

[@mags-lv8hb]

no please if kendahl discovers that game we will never see her again

[@tatirogers4565]

Sarah I totally relate to not feeling things the way I think I should. After being diagnosed with autism I was like omg it all makes sense.

[@abbeeeeeeeeeeeey]

Sarah the way you explain things and the way you talk makes so much sense to my brain. I could listen to you talk about anything for hours

[@phweebus6641]

I gotta say, the captions are extremely amusing for this episode. I can't get the image of a fairy sized woman saying "I'm not like other girls" out of my head. Thank you 😂

[@crunchycarrots66]

I’m one of the 4 men who (religiously) listen to the pod 😊 46:45

[@zachsku]

38:13 OMG I've been thinking this for a while! Also when straight women use the term "fruity"

[@muruusa]

I didn't have a lot of female friends growing up, and I was definitely a pick-me girl when I was a teenager, but it was mostly because girls wouldn't want to hang out with me, because I was different. And looking back on it, it was definitely bc I was neurodivergent and considered different.

[@Dannysworlddd]

We Stan zoc doc for consistently keeping the rose charged each episode 🌹

[@willowxray]

Just found this podcast and I'm so glad it exists

[@madisonweber2480]

I was a bit of a pick me girl in my younger years, I was never mean to girls for being feminine but I definitely have said that girls are too much drama. I had a narcissistic mother and a bully for a step mom so those relationships tainted my view towards girls in school and women into my early 20's and being neurodivergent didn't really help either. Once I went NC with my mom at 24 it was like a cloud decapitated and I could finally think for myself I've made some amazing female friends who have helped me in every facet of life. There's always a reason why people do the things they do so I don't think poorly of a pick me girl, she's been hurt by someone and will come around eventually.

[@erin1912]

amanda was so brave to come out as pro-man❤️

[@DominicBlu]

This is one of my favorite things to listen to on break or after work. Hope you all have a great rest of your week. Brittany is the best too thanks for the laughs!! ❤

[@abigailhamik4264]

As a reformed pick me girl, now a lesbian, I do appreciate this episode. This is my first episode but love you both separately I am so excited that yall have a podcast and that I finally just now found it lol

[@miaTher]

The sidetracked antidotes in this one are so interesting!

[@somethingnotstupid]

I completely forgot that P!nk was a person and musician holy hell. I thought they were talking about a character from a show I hadn’t seen 😭

[@IamMe11200]

my high school had the worst pick me girls, because it was an art school where it was so frowned upon for girls to like mainstream music, dress girly, wear makeup, and have traditionally girly interests. the school was mostly girls, so the need for male validation was strong, and all the guys were put on such a pedestal. the same girlies who would constantly preach "be kind to everyone!" and post inspirational empathy quotes on their ig story would talk shit about me and my friends behind our backs, even though we were always nice to them, since we're girls girls and wanted to get along with everyone. I started dating my current boyfriend senior year, and he was quite popular at our school, and this one girl literally came up to me and said "so you're dating now? I can't believe he's dating you. I would've never imagined him with a girl like you. so interesting". her and my bf weren't even friends, they'd maybe spoken a couple of words during the entirety of high school, and she had never talked to me before that! 😂😭 it was just funny.

[@Dannysworlddd]

Ananda manly is the type to give flowers to her boyfriend and post a whole thing about men only get flowers when they die

[@daryl2665]

Kendahl is so pretty😳

[@krh5684]

Matt and Abby shade I love it 😂 also the other episode u talked about how he cleaned up her vomit 🤮

[@significantsoil5345]

I also thought You belong with me video and song was kinda not girl's girl of her but then chalked it off as her being a teen and it being a different time. Then one day I re watched the You belong with me video and I was pleasantly surprised seeing Taylor playing the hot version too! The hot cheerleader who wears high heels, is also played by her!! Including the need version ofc. But that was so ahead of time of her! The girls been spot on since day one🤌👑

[@drongobones7064]

I am one of the three straight white male listeners. Love you guys! ❤️❤️

[@maribarchi]

"did you sleep with their boyfriends" "..yeah" PLEASE IM DEADKJHDFKSJFH

[@flowerrchilddxchase]

Sarah not wanting their Pokémon to get damaged in battle is the cutest thing 😭

[@replicator4436]

"I probably would've voted for Joe Biden on my period" 💀😂 1:24:08

[@alexhaney3147]

Male listener checking in 🫡

[@Dannysworlddd]

Petition to get Kendal’s mom a switch just to play animals crossing she would LOVE IT

[@PenelopeAstony]

21:00 Sarah's explanation of people they grew up with is SO similar to how I acted from age 13 to 18 (roughly 2006- 2012ish ) as an assigned woman/girl/female person who was highly influenced by my highly Baptist Christian religious white cisgender hetero Pick-Me mother, and eldest sister who was also a pseudo parent and shares most of those same identities, but thankfully was slightly more progressive growing up, it was just in secret away from my religious mom, grandparents, and aunties. Not to mention the elder members of the cult we were raised in for several years. As who I am now, it's genuinely hard to remember what my mindset at that age was like (I'm also almost 30 like Sarah) since I have such intense self respect, boundaries, I'm also gay so I have ZERO desire to appeal to men aside from the little bit of brainwashing I'm stamping out that makes me want approval from cis men that I'm attractive, but that's almost gone lol

[@PenelopePenobskot]

AMAZING episode this week, ladies!!!

[@deanduvall9980]

Dying at the bi-sexual femme comment, so very trueeeeeee

[@Kvbain1967]

Please make “pick me girl for god” merch

[@Lbh14]

I feel like my adhd helps me intuitively know when someone’s inauthentic especially about their interests

[@christianmoore3631]

(This is coming from a gay man, so don't come for me) I find it interesting that Sarah talks about how you can't just see the world in black and white but lump every man under the same umbrella and that if a man isn't a traditional straight man or "bro" he's not a real man. Like, no hate to Kendahl or Sarah, but even as a person who is about as far from a stereotypical man as you can get, it's a bit frustrating that they treat everything a woman says or does as a result of seeking male approval, or every instance of a woman being a bad person is an example of internalized misogyny somehow. Maybe it's just me, but idk as many gay men who hate women as I do gay women who hate men.

[@missdelaney]

I want to play Stardew Valley with Kendahl’s mom!!!

[@lilliputianhitcher3808]

the “men for lesbians” thesis really has something to it bc i realised i’m not like attracted to men at all (but also not sapphic)… but then there are just a few male actors who i would just up and leave it all for too. can i also submit tom hardy and ryan gosling to the list

[@torimcneece3911]

i found out Sims 4 is free and my gpa is plummeting, feel u kendahl

[@tds2759]

I choked on "the bisexual putting this podcast on the car and my boyfriend happens to be there" part. That's literally us. 😂

[@theminerafter21]

Honored to be one of the 4 male listeners 🫡

[@theminerafter21]

wait is this me being a pick me

[@ashleynicolemercier6784]

Kendahl’s improv yet!

[@Olivia-zt2ii]

Its me, im the bisexual girl who puts this on in the car when my boyfriend is there. He loves the pod ❤

[@momac1871]

I absolutely adore Amanda Manly please bring her back on!

[@EmmyRae1885]

Pink is bi! She's done some pretty gay music videos too

[@omgitsmuppet4880]

54:02 recently the Disney cartoon "The Owl House" ended. Two of the leads I believe were bi and one of the side characters a lesbian and another non-binary! Disneys definitely improving but I know the show was cancelled because of its queer characters

[@cleverhaunts]

Boy moms need there own episode!!!! its the worst thing ive ever seen and experienced

[@stone_cypher]

You didn't have to throw my name under the bus like that 😭 (Amanda 💀)

[@sabrinaashlynn3831]

ya know I was gonna say these should be longer so don't apologize for the length, we love it

[@bambi_babez]

whenever i encounter a male “feminist” (just feminist bc they think it will get them laid) and THEY bring up like “idk about other men but i think abortions are cool” i feel like it is an actual crime like no one asked

[@alexmonson5575]

"Except if he's gay" IM SCREAMING

[@nomijoon]

da point a lil b4 1:11 Is so real

[@Mountain_Biking_Vampire_Which]

Hi Sarah I just wanted to say thatI grew up in a similar situation. any autistic trait or emotion I had I was beaten for emotionally abused so it took me a really long time to realize I was autistic I don't want you to go through that I don't want to overstep or psychoanalyze I truly think you are autistic or at least on the autism spectrum so please save yourself the trouble I went through and get diagnosed stop beating yourself up for the emotions you naturally feel because that's what your abusers want they want you to feel lost I have no room to be autistic because I will shut down and I'm sure you would do it similar thing so please be diagnosed

[@minathermopolis2551]

I wish I could say I was rooting for Sharpay for profound reasons like because she has been working really hard and her entire life is theater, but as a kid I was rooting for Sharpay because she was blonde and a soprano and so was I.

[@mads7857]

Kendahl, one day you're going to get bored of animal crossing and let me introduce you to Stardew Valley. Same energy, but more things to do.

[@michellea5515]

This is fucking hilarious 😂😂 I’m dying

[@bizarrewannabe617]

omg dirty laundy, I cant wait for that ep to come out!

[@CrispyMammaries]

Tell Kendahl to get Stardew Valley, she'll really love it!

[@Dannysworlddd]

Amanda manly as a mommy blogger would be hilarious

[@dannymmmmm]

As a guy i feel very offended they think we don’t listen to this pod❤😅

[@smoothblink]

The interview was so fucking funny oh my god

[@human-ft3wk]

46:45 I appreciate the callout, also no ur odd

[@hrw0430]

It is I, the bisexual woman who plays this in the car with her boyfriend. I have arrived.

[@kairos-049]

Throwback to kpop stans calling IVE's Wonyoung a pick-me girl because - she's pretty - she's popular - she adopts cutesy mannerisms And it begged the question, do any of these people know what pick-me behavior is? (Of course not)

[@J_Themborn]

Theres a show on Disney called Owl House, very gay, they didn’t wait for the last season for the main couple to get together but season 3 was cut in half into a few hour long episodes, the main character even comes out to her mom, another character has painted non-binary nails, the main couple has beautifully animated kisses. Another show, Willow a sequel series to the movie Willow where the baby is all grown up, main characters have a gay kiss in the first episode, and the plan is to have 3 seasons but the 2nd is cancelled. Then theres all the marvel lies and de-aging of LGBTQ characters as their way of avoiding the subject. Video games have more consistent representation and even main characters like Last of Us and Horizon and various indie games like Sayonara Wild Hearts and The Missing: J.J. Macfield and the Island of Memories

[@clarakb14]

also the expansion pack is worth it 100%

[@justkyle9073]

being named kyle i feel personally attacked and im not even a man 😅

[@cas3533]

I am one of the few men that listen to this podcast. Hi 👋

[@moleggy]

The pick me girl name is too close to mine 😂😂😂 what does this say about me

[@Unpersonpersoning]

I wanna know which boy mom they were talking about 👀

[@freudianslipp]

I have so many complicated feelings about Stupid Girls by P!nk. Obviously, it didn't age well but the message was very relevant to the rampant over-sexualization of young women in the media at the time. The attack was misdirected, for sure-- but I think there's a lot of nuance to the song's impact in pop culture. NOW, the dramatized purging?? Fully bad in every way, regardless of context.

[@plutonium2]

Pink was a second wave feminist and now she’s more intersectional. That’s really the best she could do.

[@jneslo7669]

I'm sorry but I really just came here for the interview at the end

[@anelyatleulina2382]

I really can't believe women like this do exist😢 I thought it's some kind of exaggerated internet meme

[@Martykate7]

Hahahah Animal Crossings ruined my life too 😆 in the best way possible of course. 3 years and 600+ hours spent later

[@KZesty]

Animal Crossing girlie ✌️ its the only game I've really been so into. My husband got it during Covid and I have since commandeered it. I am now going for finishing all of the Nook Miles achievements.

[@maxinemetzger4902]

40:37 Shoutout to my fellow bitchy women! Sarah loves our spice 😎🥰