Follow Up Thursday: Why Didn’t Her Boyfriend Invite Her To Thanksgiving?

Her boyfriend didn't invite her to his family's Thanksgiving and we couldn't figure out why! She confronted him...what did he say?
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[@WellInkedQuill]

The problem is the boyfriend let her spend Thanksgiving ALONE. What he should have done is visited his family and then spent the rest of Thanksgiving with her so she wouldn't be alone. However, he had fun and she was lonely. He thought not inviting her was having consideration for her, but I think leaving her alone was a lack of consideration. How she would feel alone was not even an afterthought. Opinions are like butty holes... everyone has got one. If someone has different political opinions, so what. People argue over politics like it is going to change another person's opinion, it just makes them dig their heels. She could have ignored any political talk, but he didn't have to lie and alienate her on Thanksgiving. He cast her away to have fun with his family. That to me says more about the root of the issue. It is the lies and lack of consideration.

[@alexaparks5732]

I do agree with the beginning of your statement that he should've, at the very least, spent some time with her on Thanksgiving. As for politics, it really can depend on the person. This political climate can get pretty heated, and if you just don't know about the personality types around, then there is no telling what major arguments might come up. Yes, there are people who can be civil, but then there are others who just can't. However, it sounds like this isn't going to be an issue for this couple in one way or another because it sounds like they are on their way to splitsville.

[@SparklingHarmony]

It can get heated real quick if two strong personalities on the each end of the political spectrum collide. I think he should've been honest with her though.

[@WellInkedQuill]

@@alexaparks5732 I never said it doesn't get heated. I said people need to let other people have their opinion. If I am conservative, I do not care what a liberal thinks, nor should a liberal care what I think, because shouting will not convert someone. So, the point of my very brief statement about opinions is the fact that things get heated because people cannot let other people have their opinion and feel the need to be right. So arguing ensues when sometimes people just have to learn that it is not worth ruining a good time for the sake of "winning" argument. It is a battle of egos.

[@WellInkedQuill]

@@SparklingHarmony I never said it doesn't get heated. I have a strong personality myself, but I also have self control. People have to become emotionally intelligent and master their triggers. I did say people need to let other people have their opinion. If I am conservative, I do not care what a liberal thinks, nor should a liberal care what I think, because shouting will not convert someone. So, the point of my very brief statement about opinions is the fact that things get heated because people cannot let other people have their opinion and feel the need to be right. So arguing ensues when sometimes people just have to learn that it is not worth ruining a good time for the sake of "winning" argument. It is a battle of egos.

[@alexaparks5732]

@WellInkedQuill i was never trying to start an argument. I was only trying to point out that while there are some people who can control themselves at the same time, there are those who can't or won't when it comes to certain topics such as politics. Yes, everyone should be respectful of others, but not everyone is, and no one can force anyone to be respectful if they don't want to be.

[@terra462]

He could’ve just warned her about the uncle and let her decide if she wanted to come with or not.

[@TrishRyan-ey8go]

Egg 🥚 sactly

[@justwenday]

Bf threw her under the bus and made it seem as if family isn't as important to her that she would rather spend it with friends. When she spent it alone, that was awful 😢. I hope she leaves him.

[@nybsbfan18]

I would've told her the reason before hand so she didn't think there was an issue...

[@laurao8099]

Yeah that would make sense unfortunately the way he went about things made him look pretty bad.

[@laurao8099]

Why couldn't the guy just say I would love for you to go to Thanksgiving with me but my uncle is loud and outspoken about his political standings. Then he could let her decide if she thought it would be worth going or not.

[@user9318a]

The boyfriend is not into you. If a man wants to be with a woman, he will make it happen. He is avoiding you, he is not yet sure of your standing in his life so he doesn't want you too involved with his family. If the reason was the uncle, the mother would know too. Run girl! He is playing with you.

[@laurao8099]

But she said she has met his family before

[@maloryburkhalter6667]

Abby- you really have to stop seeing every single thing as a red flag... you just going around wearing red flag glasses. And my guess would be Uncle is a conservative, because i have friends very passionate on BOTH sides but I would say it's mostly my liberal friends that feel the need to "speak up". My conservative friends tend to keep quiet in a room full of people to disagree with them especially especially in a room full of strangers who disagree with them. 😄 🤣

[@user9318a]

Abby is right. She's in the dating game and knows how things are going around at the time. He can bad mouth the uncle to his gf in person but couldn't speak up for her in case the dinner did happen?

[@shawnstanley9620]

She was expecting him to invite her to Thanksgiving, why should he expect themselves. He was taking back to Thanksgiving. He did his bf job and the uncle was troll and she still thinking he should go overboard sounds like she a hothead and drama queen .