8 Things That Happen in Every Chinese Wedding

[@PinkSneaselGirl]

Normally I'm not a person who cares about money, but DAMN, American weddings need to adapt the cash/gold/jewelry flow of Chinese weddings. I wanna get thousands, not pay thousands to some overblown industry.

[@charmagne2102]

Same. Hispanic families give each other gifts, but my family is changing that tradition to giving money. Thier reasons, is you can't complain about money, and its easier to carry.

[@PinkSneaselGirl]

Charle Magne And you can never go wrong with money. Its never the wrong size, and is something anyone can use.XD

[@Elleyferranis]

Well, westerners don't have to spend a lot on their wedding. You just have to look a bit harder since a lot of places will rip you off if you say it is for your wedding. For my wedding, we told all our guest either bring money or nothing (since we don't care about the money, we just wanted to have all our friends there). But if you wanted to make money from a wedding, just keep a budget, and have your guest list. Each guest will average about 120 (might be different depending on your guest) so that would give you your budget. Just kind of guess who would give what. Like for my wedding, I averaged each guest at 100 (aside from our family which would extra) since most of our friends are young, some still in school, etc. Then the venue allowed 100 guest so that was our budget

[@PinkSneaselGirl]

Elle Ferranis I'd probably be lucky to get $50 from most of my family members, and while I have a VERY large family, they are scattered about so I'm not sure most would be able to come. I'd probably have to depend on my fiance's side of the family and his friends to bring in most of the cash.

[@Elleyferranis]

Oh noo, I know what you mean. I met my husband in Canada so we had our wedding there so only my immediate family was able to come although my other family sent money anyways. Distance is tough. =(

[@aaronlane8405]

Robbing a Chinese wedding. I think you guys just stumbled upon a great idea for a screenplay.

[@artistformerlyknownas7585]

+Aaron Lane and it's probably less dangerous to rob a bank than a Chinese wedding, let's be real ;)

[@mellisajohnson2305]

+Lila Smith LOL true!!

[@vanessa0824]

ya,if you want to get tied on a tree and beaten up with pots and pans by chinese aunties.You don't wanna piss them off😂😂😂

[@hermungus1]

潮濕的沙拉

[@kagome2420]

Imagine how scary a Chinese person describe their parents. Multiply by 200 families. They have huge family.

[@SirAgravaine]

I like the door tradition. In India there's the shoe tradition, where the siblings and cousins on the bride's side steal the groom's shoes and the groom has to pay everyone to get his shoes back. My cousin who got married in 2014 had a decent size wedding and SO MUCH FOOD. Asian weddings make sure everyone is fed.

[@MonkeyBobReacts]

Why does the groom get all the abuse.. XD

[@magpookie1133]

You forgot the alcohol!!! Some couples still do the tradition of toasting every table. I was very plastered by the end of my wedding.I don't remember some of it.

[@forever18never81]

I will love to attend a traditional Chinese wedding. They look so fun, elaborated and poetic.

[@vcaZoo]

I went to my cousin's wedding in China last year and modern weddings in China are insane!! It's like they put on a show for their guests on a "T" stage with a MC, videos, lighting and sound effects. The bride and groom make long sappy speeches on the stage professing their love, and the parents come up and talk to them about how happy they are they found each other. CHEESED OUT TO THE MAX! The tea ceremony was actually done in private in the bride's hotel room after the gate crash, and wasn't really a big deal. Apparently there's also such thing as "change of mouth" money now that the in laws pay to the couple to change from calling them auntie/uncle to calling them mom/dad.

[@charlieloveslife3268]

yesss this was me when i went to my cousins wedding in china

[@yanghailun]

+Veronica Zhu hehe

[@candyluna2929]

Wow I thought That Chinese were reserved about their feelings

[@taftafafrica9619]

Any Chinese women want to get marry me and live with me to Morocco

[@FRaine-sw8ui]

I've been to a lot of Chinese weddings that happened here in the U.S. This video is mostly spot on to what I've experienced.

[@ellogs]

These weddings look so beautiful, I love the dresses! 😍😊

[@hermungus1]

潮濕的沙拉

[@enchantedgames6589]

。。。 你怎么了 blyat ruski.

[@icanseeyou688]

South Asian weddings are similar regarding the multiple dress change and food

[@hermungus1]

潮濕的沙拉

[@TheFaro2011]

maz khatun and the money and gold

[@yusraaa4221]

also the wedding games right?

[@ndiekwere6027]

hahahaha its like a Nigerian wedding. the similarities, wow.

[@elliechen9586]

2 hours is not enough time for a wedding photo shoot

[@goldasian347]

You forgot that you must have noodles (to represent long life) and rice ( to represent wealth). ive been to a wedding where they parents forced the caterer to make rice on the spot after the meal was served.

[@adamarys_1467]

U guys are so funny plz never stop making videos

[@ListersHatsune]

I've only been to 1 chinese wedding before but that was quite westernised. The one thing that was common between this video and the wedding (albiet I can't actually remember if there were happiness banners but there probably were) was the food. There was a surprising amount of food for a surprising amount of people. It's probably the most I've ever eaten in one night and I'm the kind of guy who eats 3 plates of main course and 3 plates of desert at a buffet. It wasn't even cheap either, each of those would be the entire meal in a restraunt. They even served oranges as desert.

[@bethanym734]

Just went to a Chinese wedding in China two days ago. My nieces were flower girls. In total, I've been to three weddings here in China. They have all been very different from what you described. There are staged pre-wedding photos, red envelopes, dress changes, and lots of food, but so much is also different. No gold, fish is the only similar dish to what you described, only two changes of clothes, no tea ceremonies or bowing, many people wear black and white clothing, and I've never heard of the teasing of the groom or groomsmen (that's not to say it doesn't happen). I spoke with my sister-in-law, who has lived in China for over 12 years and been to dozens of weddings, and we both agree that it is very probable that people of Chinese heritage living outside China have very likely striven very hard to keep the purer form of Chinese culture alive while those within China have gone through cultural shifts. Also, all of my Chinese friends and co-workers were already legally married and living with their spouse 6 months to 3 years before the actual "wedding". I think it is becoming rare for brides to have been single and living with their parents before their wedding day. I write this knowing that there are undoubtedly other people out there with varying experiences. That's great. In the end, what matters is that the wedding couple and their families have a truly special and beautiful day, whether it aligns with old traditions or not.

[@DarklingDream]

The harassing the groom thing usually happens pre-wedding ceremony when the groom goes to pick up the bride from her family's home so you wouldn't see it at the actual wedding ceremony. From personal experience, it seems to be more of a Southern Chinese thing than Northern Chinese. In any case, some people think it's barbaric and prefer not to do it lol.

[@wonderxdreams]

I love that you both still do these types of videos! I show my history classes some of your videos and they love it!!!!!!

[@Michelle58546]

I'm mexican on my wedding day i got stuck on one floor for an hour taking pictures with the family lol even my husband didn't know where I went lol

[@jxshino]

Haha, this video is so true. I can't remember how many dresses my sister changed into during her wedding. My mom wants to hold my future wedding in China. I'm Fuzhounese and let me tell you, the money and gold giving are insane for Fuzhounese.

[@XiaoLongBao2022]

Fellow Fuzhounese!!! Haha I know for sure that I definitely want to have a wedding with the tea ceremony incorporated into it to make sure I get all that gold and money :')

[@sandralin3680]

Hiii so nice to see two other FuZhounese :)

[@elyt9437]

Italian weddings have so many things in common! :')

[@mariakallio7179]

Thank! i was really curious about this!

[@AmericanMeiling]

I like the red Vail 💖 kinda romantic reveal!!

[@JLee1304]

Dude, don't say "Rob a Chinese wedding". Some people may actually do that...

[@xinchen6533]

in china? no one can...in US....need hiring guards..

[@WittyScoop]

Girls be like: "2 hours? That much I take while clicking selfies in Bathroom" 😂

[@RuiYou-uo4do]

I love your background! I couldn't stop noticing it... (Sie sind das essen und wir sind die jäger...)

[@kennycai8695]

I hate to rain on the parades of others, but I do wish to raise some awareness so these "door games" do not get too carried away. I am Overseas Chinese despite my user name, and well ... when one of my friends got married, some of these "door games" organized felt more like public shaming than anything else (granted, the friends of the bride and groom were never exactly close). Doing endless squats until sweat is visible on our suits, forced to down some nasty concoction to prove our love, and when the red packet was given, the groom got shamed for giving a less than desired amount. I get the rationale behind these door games, but you have to remember that it's a joyous occasion, and not use it as a pretext for public shaming. Hopefully, others have a more pleasurable experience than what me and my friend had to go through.

[@moonsorrow77]

I agree too..

[@ethelt4954]

YES GATECRASHINGGGG MY FAVE PART OF WEDDINGS XD

[@yu-chilee8474]

My cousin got married at the end of last year, and for her door games she had the groom do charades, running in place (get so many steps on a pedometer in one minute) and then the best one was writing "我愛{bride's name}" in the air with his behind. It was great xD. I like the weddings pictures though, because you can do different themes and such and then showcase them at the actual ceremony. Also, maybe this is just a Taiwan thing but my cousin actually had two weddings. Kind of. One of them was hosted by her family and the other hosted by the groom's family.

[@wujiajia5314]

Yu-chi Lee my brother-in-law had to be blindfolded and kiss the female who he thinks is his wife on the lips

[@rcdy8791]

and an aunt or a female relative will sing Yue Liang Dai Biao Wo De Xin at the reception. typical filipino-chinese wedding...hehe

[@jennyli3648]

omg, the traditional way, when the couple is left inside their room for the night. you know what I mean.

[@brownmullins]

I totally love you guys. Thank you so much for the teaching. Love Asian cultures.

[@deepaliderbere8521]

Indian here laughing, haha! Y'all need to see Indian weddings they are craziest lasting 4-5 days even 10 days 🤦‍♀😂

[@CassandraCarter]

My favorite part about Chinese weddings in the mainland (at least up here in the north, I dunno if south does it different)? The guests dress down. No tuxes, suits or over-flashy dresses for people to have to squeeze into and agonize over their looks. They want you looking meh so the bride and groom look amazing. I'll take an invitation to a Chinese wedding where I would tell a Western wedding that I'm too busy to go.

[@AstarionWifey]

Lol wanna trade? I'll go to the western ones and you can take my family's Chinese ones xD

[@mikatng]

I'm Viet and... Wow the similarities👌 (But I'm 1/4 Chinese so...) (Btw my Mom is half Chinese half Viet and my Dad is full Viet so that's why I'm only 1/4 Chinese)

[@Sophia-un1bi]

I've been to a lot of Chinese Weddings before, ever since I was little, and I can totally relate to all of these, they litteraly spend like hours just taking pictures and stuff and I'm over here like, when the hell is the food coming I'm so hungry my stomach is hurting

[@ellie7655]

Watch this 2020. My two favorite chinese people 😊

[@ImpRoll92]

well, they do put security in my country hahaha at least in the Chinatown of Paris

[@pphaija]

When are you two going to have your own wedding? Please share your wedding photos and video.

[@yishujiang2135]

I don't want to be rude but as a Chinese I really want to say that the ways you mentioned in Chinese wedding are far away from now, it's kinda old traditional wedding ceremony, Chinese young couples merely do these nowadays (or even 10 years ago....

[@mysticonthehill]

I get the impression that prosperity is a major concern in Chinese culture? I know it is important in most cultures, but it seems like it is to the exclusion of everything else in notions of luck/wishes/good fortune.

[@Samiluvsu4eva]

Prosperity is not a concern. It is a blessing and a wish you give to someone. It is a gift you hand to someone with the red envelop. Money fuels the world. You have no money, you cant even live a decent life of this high demand world.

[@Anoldanimefan]

I am privileged to have been to a few weddings in China and loved all of them!!!

[@AngelAngela1987]

Love your videos!!!! Keep up the great work guys :)

[@ah5721]

I wish I had a Chinese wedding!! Gold and 💰!!😍😍🤑

[@shamitha_singh]

Woo few of this ceremonies are similar to an Indian wedding like the photo and vedio one and we too have door games and we also gift gold and silver and we also wear a red attire and also change into many outfits for different ceremonies and food is very imp and also decorations for show off 😅

[@alexlefay]

I need to find myself a rich Chinese man

[@markshao3901]

Alejandra Alvarez if you are gay man, you will get less money than girl

[@jenllyfish]

Chinese people also treat the wedding ceremony and the actual signing of the papers as two different matters. I got friends who casually go get their certificate and then post a photo online of themselves holding the certificate, and that was it...... Then they would throw a party some time afterwards

[@elaineyap8229]

+jenllyfish Yeah, most traditional Chinese people usually sign the papers before the ceremony but they don't consider themselves married until the wedding ceremony.

[@ephraimzhen2413]

Dan may be the cause of future heists on Chinese weddings lol Nice video; very informative

[@devonheart1029]

7:26 You're not wrong, one wedding in Italy also had 10-11 course, including cake and gelato. It started off light as snacks and then gets bigger with polenta.

[@TimChuma]

There are movies about just the cooking for a Chinese wedding. My friend sent me "A Chinese Feast" on DVD. God of Cookery is still my favourite Chinese cooking comedy. It predicted all the irritating food trends from today back in the 90s.

[@jessiicadng]

My aunts wedding was like this too. She had three dresses. A traditional white one, a pink one, and a blue one.

[@christinahuynh408]

All of these brought back memories of my uncle and aunt's wedding

[@TheMoondog15]

My fiancée and I are going to do a traditional western wedding along with a tea ceremony as the reception.

[@peachesxcream584]

Half of the things Chinese weddings do, Indian weddings do lol.

[@raimondasmarciulevicius7599]

Things That Happen in Every Chinese Wedding, good job! :) :)

[@sugarkats21]

OMG FIRST COMMENT?! I LOVE U GUYS SO MUCH SO IM PROUD XD

[@kadrikukk4069]

Just want to say about western weddings that they are getting very different in USA compare to Europe. Anyway I wish that some day I could experience real Chinese wedding :D

[@maryhuang5970]

The central park commentary was so true!!

[@cafezo87934]

can't wait for you guys to do a Chinese new year video. happy Chinese new year!

[@markshao3901]

Marry a Chinese guy and you will enjoy Chinese stuff every day

[@dreamof_me]

Love the fandom backgrounds and also laughing at how true this is

[@selinal8465]

My cousin had to brush his teeth with wasabi when he loses a round of door games. Fun times, funtimes.

[@haoweishi1340]

I've never been to a Chinese wedding...

[@little_monster_dadol6397]

Haowei Shi you can come.. i can invite

[@rikalib9113]

Some of them is similar to Japan customs Like the dress changes except it's a kimono not a Chinese base clothes but there is the cocktail dress and wedding dress

[@drjulialow]

i actually went to my friend's malaysian chinese wedding, and they hired 2 security guards for the wedding. hahahaha

[@amywalker7575]

Dear Dan: Your English is fantastic, as are your explanations of a Chinese wedding, and...*cough*...may I have the chance of wearing a qipao by your side?

[@paulinaruiz928]

Traditional Chinese weddings last two days

[@editflores]

Very cool. Thank you!

[@leslievazquez7981]

omfg the background is amazing 😭😭

[@nikkitinkshubert7088]

You guys are great!!!

[@ScarletCandlelight]

I'm part Japanese is it similar to a Chinese wedding. Sadly my dad is quite quiet about the family traditions and had a falling out with the family I have heard. He refuses to go back to Japan but we still still speak Japanese at home. I wish there was a place to learn more on this.

[@alvarovaldovinos6836]

Dan Gibbiedeano is gorgeous!!!!!!

[@krisguenther4897]

Thanks ,

[@googleisterrible6843]

somebody has never had american lobster mac&cheese, now i wanna try it baked with cheese though

[@jamesjiao]

My wedding was more Western secular with a touch of Asian..

[@karlab95]

Now I know what I'm going to do next time I see a Chinese wedding xD

[@sugarkats21]

and my parents had a pretty normal marriage unfortunately XD (I'm Chinese)

[@TheFaro2011]

sounds like an Indian /Pakistani wedding LOL

[@AmberLiusStrrawberry]

What I remember from my uncle's wedding and learned from school was when the bride and groom arrive at the groom's house, the family waiting for their arrival will set off firecrackers when the couple is about to arrive. When the couple comes out of the car a little boy will greet them holding a tray of two oranges, then the bride crosses a charcoal fire and then cracks a clay tile by stepping on it, the charcoal fire is believed to help with fertility and stepping over a clay tile is to hope for a baby boy or more extremely to hope the bride will not bear a daughter (yup sexism and gender inequality). After the couple enters the house they will feed each other sweet rice dumpling, the rice dumpling symbolizes both family unity and a sweet and happy marriage, the rice dumplings are also shared with friends, family, and neighbors to spread the joy. After all that at the groom's home it's off to the reception where money is given in red envelopes, wedding photos taken long before the wedding day are shown on a PowerPoint, and the couple change into 3-5 different outfits, and then there's the endless food stuff like lobsters, etc. Now the first half on the day is mostly at the brides house where there's the tea ceremony and everything you mentioned etc, I believe firecrackers are also set off when the groom arrives for the bride too, and then when it comes time for the bride to be taken to the groom's house the bride tosses out a fan that then gets picked up by a male member of the brides family, the tossing of the fan symbolises the bride leaving her family name and taking her husbands, it also signifies leaving behind bad habits and tempors. After all that at the bride's home it's everything I just said that happens at the groom's house, if you're a Christian there's the western church ceremony in between all that.

[@count.chieviousblinker2332]

Excuse me, Uncle Mike, Can You 💜 Help Me Plan a Good Chinese Military Style Wedding?

[@ethanngo1269]

Bad spirit:ooooooo a wedding time to attack Sees red Bad spirit: oh heck nah getting out of here sniffs i just want to attack the wedding 😭😭😭😭

[@timfoinc.6879]

@6;23. Number 10 means perfect and complete.... Thanks Brother Chen'z. Ten-Ne-Shi( USA State, Ten-Nessee) and Indo-neshia. neshi means Eunuch in pure Korean words or Unified letter. To decode the ancient lost history through ancient maps and Names.

[@kenzafilali9115]

i'm from Algeria North Africa and the bride changes dresses here as well we call that "TASDIRA"

[@barrykung2049]

I am Chinese also, i thought this was one of your better video"s. It's good to educate the youth with some history.

[@garlicgirl3149]

Eons ago the picture taking used to take an hour to hour and a half. I went to one where it took two hours and people started leaving. I noticed now more recently couples are more conscious of time and do not take that long anymore.

[@lixiahuang6838]

So true on the gold thing, I remember my parents getting gold bracelet and necklace for the bride on a wedding we went to. They don't even spend that much money on me lmao. Like where's my gold jewelry be at.

[@emoXjessiX2030]

I had my wedding reception at a Chinese buffet. Obviously it wasn't legit Chinese food. It was Mongolian, sushi, texmex, pizza western Chinese food and desserts. But it was a lot of fun anyway.

[@user-di2on5gl2d]

I could’ve had a traditional Chinese wedding 👰 but too bad I wasn’t that much in love with the guy.

[@phlyphlo]

I went to my sister-in-laws weding to my eldest brother out side of Shangai. If there was not any drink that my eldest brother could not drink his younger brother had to drink it for him. Which was a lot. Also as the younger sister had to prented wash my sisters face and my mom had to miss most of the wedding untill the reseption. Oh for the door games when he lost my brother had to drink vinager and eat bittermellon.

[@phlyphlo]

+Doa Win I ate unkowingly ate sharkfin soup at the wedding. And they had turtle soup. Also they only had unliment abount beer and limited amount of orange drink. There was this old guy that brought some snake wine. Which was praticly rubing achol pull from top shelf at a watson's.

[@evanbyrne7020]

You guys should come to Australia some time!

[@markshao3901]

Evan Byrne why should they come to Australia ?

[@LairMistress]

I've only been to one traditional Chinese wedding banquet, held at a restaurant in DC about 25 years ago. If I'm not mistaken, there were a total of 12 courses at this banquet, and the bride changed dresses after nearly every course. Perhaps this is a regional variation on the customs discussed here..?

[@LairMistress]

+LairMistress Also, as I recall, the groom's family paid for the whole thing; and I only got through about the first seven courses before I was massively stuffed. They included chicken, duck, sea urchin, blackened quail egg, and sliced jellyfish... :)

[@hanng1242]

Are you sure that wasn't Russian Easter where the priest puts on a different phelonion for each ode of the kanon? ;-)

[@josienovo3662]

+LairMistress sounds delicious

[@sucywang1795]

how much do these weddings usually cost? I know its depending on the amount of tables,. but I was wondering about the other costs besides the food.

[@hanng1242]

Chinese weddings don't need security because gwailo think we all know kung fu.

[@markshao3901]

Han Ng why needs a security in your wedding?

[@aiepik]

Am I the only one that doesnt want to have a wedding? Though I am sure my entire family would disapprove.

[@markshao3901]

aiepik bec you're gay

[@whirlywinds]

I'm Chinese but an American. I can speak chinese and english. I don't know what I'm gonna do. Western or Chinese. XD My grandma would want a traditional Chinese wedding though I can see her yelling at me

[@kawaiiafangirl]

Does anyone know if Dan is moving w/ Mike to San Francisco and continue the Double Chen show?

[@ETphoneGemini]

mike is moving? they are separating?! nooo...

[@YukiNoYume]

How long does the whole wedding take? I've been to a traditional japanese wedding and was surprised how fast it was over (from the beginning of the ceremony until the guest had to leave after the meal it did only take 3 hours!). So I was wondering whether it was similar in China?

[@fjs1571]

In south India wedding dress means "Sarri" is Also Red.

[@Arbitratix]

That's interesting, cause in Sri Lanka, the bride would wear a white sarri for the wedding and then wear a red one for the home coming.

[@jerrylee7866]

FJS 15 I thought Sarri was used everyday. I've met a really lovely Indian couple, and the Mrs wears Sarri everyday.

[@wujiajia5314]

I’ve never seen a wedding cake at a wedding. As you can tell, I’ve never been to a western wedding.

[@SK-ur3hw]

The not showing the face before wedding night used to be ancient Indian culture too. And even after marriage the girl is not allowed to show her face to other men all her life. Indians were very orthodox for a very long time. Even my grandmother used to too this in her youth. But now it's not there in most of the Cities in India.

[@jennycun4214]

Some weddings have security especially for the person collecting all the red envelopes

[@gardengalsu]

all that $$$! what happens if you/ the famiies can't afford any of this?

[@nguyenthiphuonganh]

It's Asia. For example, when I don't have money, my friends come, I will borrow from someone and treat them best things, such as nicest restaurants, karaoke .... I don't have much extra money, but one time my best friends got married in the US, I gave them $2,000 in gifts! Another acquaintance, not best/close friend, I just gave her $200 in her wedding (not much)!

[@KajiRider1997]

Honestly both types of weddings sound materialistic.