Solo Date Vlog | enjoying solitude in luxury!

[@netty06]

Bringing a journal to write in or a book to read can be useful when dining alone to ward off any potential loneliness or boredom.

[@TheExWife]

That's exactly what I was thinking too. A book is my first choice. I don't want to be on the internet or anything like that.

[@msjennable]

I just don't understand how you can be lonely or bored with yourself. You should always be your best company!

[@tonyajohnson3450]

I'm great company, I'll usually bring a book, but I end people watching!! I guess I'm nosey!!😂😂🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@adayinthelight7575]

@@msjennable It only gets that way when you spend too much time alone.

[@cyndicrawford6796]

Thank you I'm going to follow your challenge 😊

[@teemiller7499]

Omg the first time I had a date night alone, I too was nervous caring what others thought. I wasn’t even single but having me time. It was liberating. So now for years I’ve been doing this. You will have fun!!!

[@jenb.1889]

Thank you for your post. I have been considering and wanting to start doing this after watching Maya Galore’s channel. She does this all the time. I too am a little nervous about looking weird, or stood up. Lol. But who cares right. I remember when I first went to the movies alone and wow it felt great. Really enjoyed myself.

[@sherd303]

I love eating alone for some reason but I can’t make myself go to the movies alone. I always feel so sad for people at the movies alone thinking they are lonely. Eating alone, I feel is normal, a person could be traveling so it doesn’t seem as weird to me.

[@khariscadogan7619]

@@sherd303 well go make a conversion with them if you think they are lonely...simple

[@aishanicolelifestyle8289]

@@sherd303 I took myself out on a birthday dinner date. I had fun, at first I was skeptical but I didn't care. I had some me time and for the movies I didn't feel lonely at all. I does a lot of things along some people can't

[@Shay-34]

I was shy going out alone..but as a 31yr old with no man or kids (the two besties I have both stay in different states) I kinda didnt have a choice lol now I’m trying to build up the confidence to go out the country alone🙏🏽

[@Chinathomas_]

Be safe out there, I’m about to do the same at 25 years old. :)

[@TheeCharmaine]

I do this often, and even take in an occasional movie! My daughter is about to be 13, and I’m a single mother so I’m always putting her first. No complaints but, momma gotta have a life too! 😩♥️🙌

[@churchsbiscuits]

This!!!

[@letty4558]

I do this for my birthday every year and I truly enjoy myself. I am now taking a yearly solo trip as well. I have denied doing things for myself for far too long and its time to make up for lost time. You inspire me so much. Your outfit is gorgeous, those sunglasses are amazing!!!!!!

[@PRETTYASSP]

I needed to hear thisssssss

[@LexiDarcel]

Solo travel is amazing!

[@sumsum3]

Yes girl treating yourself like that on your birthday is the best👌

[@88missbeauty]

Yes, I enjoy solo travel trips too... It gets me out of my shell and I always meet such great people too.

[@leinanp7084]

I'm doing it for my bday this year for the first time and I cant wait!

[@tenwaystowearit]

I’m in a long-term relationship and I still go out to eat by myself all the time. I also treat myself to picnics at the park and the beach sometimes by myself. I love it. I never feel weird.

[@bellybuttonring1]

Many times we find ourselves awaiting on others to enjoy life with. This is truly a goal I pray to manifest, especially after losing my mommy in flesh a few months ago. I know that I need this moment in my life!

[@pennypenny376]

I love my solitude in luxury, girl. Sometimes, I'll bring a book I'm really into or a magazine (so fun). For me, the more casual I'm dressed and the more neutral I am in the space, the more confident and satisfied I feel being alone. Find what works for you, ladies.

[@cathyinda6914]

Agreed, and a magazine is good.

[@DeltaDiamondSweetie]

I love this. I've even taken myself on a date with my favorite Netflix movie 🎬 It was a great night.

[@Tephiffany]

I do this often and enjoy it! Women don't need a "reason " to look cute for anyone (specifically a man, contrary to a recent conversation I had with a male associate) but our damn selves! Love it Kim!

[@feliznavidad6958]

Men stay saying crap that like. They really think everything women do is for their attention.

[@shanitawest63]

I enjoy solo days. I make sure to a video off my “watch later “ list and fully charged earphones. Solo dates are truly beautiful to do for yourself. 💛

[@rondas7772]

Hey I do that!

[@sandybanks2865]

I did that in my twenties in the 80’s I’d go every Sunday for a movie drive along the coast listening to music from the sixties and seventies and find a little cafe somewhere those were the days!!!!!!

[@tonyajohnson3450]

I love SOLO movies, shopping, dining everything!! I reflect in my life and things I've done and want to do!!! I love it!!

[@nicolemichele1343]

It's okay to date yourself ☺️ I've done it and have a whole man and family. It's so needed for the mind , body, and soul. Even before I had a family I went on dates by myself. It makes you feel better to know it's okay to be alone.

[@raynellewright6189]

Love this I think more people should engage in more solo dates with themselves! I’ve learned to travel alone eat out alone even go the movies it’s peaceful and relaxing! The more you do it the better and and easier it becomes personally ! Don’t need books or anything just enjoy your own company and surroundings !

[@NisiaRuth]

I so enjoy my solo dates! I've been practicing this for years. From restaurants, art classes to museums. I love it. Even when I'm married I will still create self care time. 🌹 love your channel!

[@Kimillions]

I didn't really think this was a whole thing. When I'm out, I eat. Alone or not. But I'm glad everyone is talking about it because it reminds me that the things I do with ease and without a second thought, others may struggle with and to not take that for granted. ❤

[@LGnLA]

🗣💯💯💯💯💯

[@cyyrious]

Lmao I know … it’s eeeeryday life for me 🥴

[@allthat_jass]

This really inspired me to get back to learning Spanish as a second language!

[@aliciamendoza4180]

Me too!

[@msjennable]

Since I was a teenager, I've loved going out by myself...dinner, movies, shopping, coffee, etc ..

[@CocoKT]

Those glasses are so cute! Where did you get them from? I love solo dates. My girlfriends used to think it was so weird that I would do that. I’m the girl who takes herself to the bar, dinner etc. why wait for other to do what you can do for yourself :) and you never know you you’ll meet. After all those solo dates I’m not married and my son is going to have his first birthday this month 🥰 but those dates let me to getting out there and introducing myself to guys. God bless! Beautiful outfit too!

[@jesussofly]

I'm happy you're doing this! I've been doing this as well. Living without boundaries!

[@daciamichelle982]

Just got cute and took myself to brunch at this really good restaurant. 2 hibiscus margaritas and a Benedictos Rancheros later, I am one happy camper😊 love loving at my own pace. Not really a people watcher, but a good audible book in the airpod always helps if you get bored. 💖💖

[@TheExWife]

Kim? I was watching one of your old videos from maybe 8 yrs ago? You were talking about your new journey from going from pescatarian to vegan. You have grown so much over the years. I really do enjoy your content. You are fun to watch. And really funny! Thank you for taking us along your "date". 🙂

[@Fashion_With_Tamyia]

I love going on solo dates. Depending on the restaurant I will eat at the bar and I go to the movies by myself. I’m ready to try some other activities & a solo trip.

[@samro4143]

LOL at the waiter bringing you a magazine to read. I used to eat alone all the time but recently i've gotten so shy doing it (the pandemic changed me I guess). I just took the bar exam and so next week Im doing a solo wine bar tour in my neighborhood and then going to see Batman to get myself back into the swing of being out and about.

[@Triciajaay]

Congrats on your bar exam!!! Treat yoself! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🤗

[@tonyajohnson3450]

The pandemic may make people want to eat alone!!😂😂🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️😊😊

[@DenayTheDiva]

The way I laughed when you said "WE DID IT JOE!" I love how your waiter catered to you! Congrats on tackling your fears!! ✨

[@alishamariel121]

My birthday was in January and it fell on a Friday this year which was a perfect setup for that weekend. I spent the day by myself until I had to pick my mom up from the airport that evening. I was so pumped for my solo bday I even worked my tail off doing all the OT I could prior to make sure I had the extra cash for it. I went to lunch and then headed to the outlet for a small shopping spree. It was the most peaceful thing ever. I even took photos along the way to look back at. Since then I’ve been taking a solo day at least every couple of weeks just to reset and enjoy my freedom. Awesome video Kim, glad you enjoyed yourself!

[@teemoonlight2798]

I had breakfast by myself! I was excited to set myself apart from everything that requires my attention and "Me" was the focus. I went to a cottage style breakfast restaurant and I sat there eating enjoying the ambiance and my solitude. When people glanced at me, I would smile (lol). I buy myself Flowers every Friday just to bring nature and vibrant colors into my space. It's love for self-appreciation.❤ Solitude is sacred,it's healing. 🙏🏽

[@SolH2OYachts]

Solo dates are lovely! At least a monthly activity for me.

[@thechicnatural]

They are!

[@cynthiatalbert5051]

I love going on solo dates they are so relaxing to me, but I would love to go anywhere with you. Thank you so much for who you are. You have never changed from day one of watching how you did twist out. Thank you for being patience and helping a sista look good. Thank you for enjoying life and bringing us along on your journey.

[@amandadean3948]

Yassss! I’m so glad you did this. Doing things like this don’t bother me but I have a friend who will not eat out alone (she’s married with 3 kids) and she FINALLY did so in December. All she kept saying afterwards was how it was not as bad as she thought and how most people basically ignored her and was doing their own thing.

[@Shesirie]

Beautiful. This a reminder that I need to take a self care day

[@marchellelittle]

You’re such a beautiful soul ❤️ looks like you enjoyed yourself girlie. Btw, can you please drop the tea on your hair? It’s so cute!

[@niab.3600]

I loveee hearing you speak French! I hope one day you feel comfortable enough to make a short & fun upload in French! I truly enjoy watching your vlogs. You're such a genuine & fun person 💕😊🙌🏾

[@denisewilliamson4749]

This is so good for women to go out on a date with her self! Self Love and enjoying time for you! It's your special day! You look so chic in this video girl. 😊

[@feliznavidad6958]

I just discovered your channel and wanted to tell you that you are so classy and inspirational and stunning. You come off as such a high quality woman and I love that you made this video because I also need to do this. Your outfits are together, your makeup is perfect, your hair is perfect, your entire lifestyle looks so healthy. I just really like everything I've seen so far and I've only been on your channel for less than an hour. You rock!

[@LuLuSprings]

Ohh mann i haven't done one of these in awhile! My mom influenced me to do solo outings, brings you peace. Make sure to give yourself the baddest date!❤

[@bigmanifester9193]

I’ve been so nervous about going on a date alone. You totally gave me the motivation!!❤️❤️❤️💫🙏🏾

[@thechicnatural]

Absolutely try it!

[@Steph_Heart]

Trying preply out today! I'll be back with my thoughts once I'm done with my first lesson :) *Update: I loved the first lesson! Thanks for the suggestion!!

[@rosinasams955]

Hear you Kim. You got this Date day usually involves taking the iPad so I can shop online (just put stuff in the cart) when home recheck the cart then buy Never use internet outside of home. Just for browsing only. iPad has no banking history just email and wiki general search information :). Self care is continuous it assists in just looking at life objectively and is important to do regularly.

[@kec01bla]

Hey Kim, pray all is well with you and your family. I'm glad you enjoyed dining alone. I'm a bit older than you and I've been doing that for some time. It's a good feeling knowing you can just enjoy your own company. Definitely do it more often.

[@dianthecrawford8854]

Congratulations, and thank you for sharing! Wonderful to see that there are many women, who like myself, realize that it is imperative to take Care of myself as much as I care for family and others...taking my first trip to Puerto Rico, alone, during COVID last year was very scary, but very necessary! God sent His angels to protect and surround me every step of the way...I thoroughly enjoyed my time, and even met another female solo traveler along the way....ladies, don't allow your fear of being " alone" to deter you from travel, learn a new skill, or anything else keep you from achieving your goals and dreams!!!

[@prosperousk5477]

I did this quite often before the pandemic. I enjoyed treating myself without interruptions. I need to start doing solo dates again. Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@Missmissie5683]

I haven't done a super formal solo date yet but I think going for lunch would be a little easier than a dinner. You've inspired me, thanks for sharing !

[@sherrydenise7406]

I'm glad you conquered your fears. Ladies or gents It's ok to be alone and spend quality time with yourself. I do it all time and prefer to be alone at times and never ever feel lonely. That's the whole point is to do something you want to do without having to consider anyone else. Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone because honestly no one cares that your dining,eating or at the movies alone!🥰🥰

[@LGnLA]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯❤

[@KelliMichelle77]

I first dined alone last year and loved it! This inspired me to do a fancier dinner ❤️

[@DebbieRay64]

Love the video. I love my "ME Days" as I call them. I used to be really uncomfortable going to a restaurant and sitting by myself. Now I don't think about it even though people do like to stare. The best is going to the movies alone.

[@AngelVOPro]

Love these vlogs! Thank you 😊 It’s such a pleasure seeing Americans let go this idea that we always have to be with others to feel happiness and peace. It starts from within. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@tywanasutton1640]

I LOVE going to the movies alone! One day I left my kids with their dad and went to a movie at 10:30 am! I movie hopped, saw 4 movies and left when it was dark!! Seriously, it was one of the best days back then as I never got to watch TV or movies alone when they were little because I was a stay at home, homeschooling momma! Now I do dinner alone, spa days, movies, lunch, breakfast, concerts and vacations!! I LOVE hanging with myself as I'm pretty cool 😎 Don't get me wrong, I love being with my kids or even hanging with my girls but being by myself doesn't weird me out at all.

[@karengodbold3620]

You know what you have convinced me to go dine alone. You looked so Good! You Go Girl🥰

[@Kuttie03]

I love going out with myself. So peaceful and nice.

[@Jbeloved3]

Congratulations on conquering that fear ! Taking myself out on a date allowed me to enjoy my own company and help me learn to love myself 💕. You deserve it ! I’m happy for you !!! & loooovvveed the outfit you went with & nails

[@chassityg.1643]

Love this! I haven’t done it in a long time, but I took myself on a date once and a guy came over to sit with me. I like to bring a book or a journal to write in but it’s great self care! ❤️

[@pamk1967]

Good for you Kim! I get alone in restaurants, took my self out for a pancake breakfast for my birthday on 2/26/22! I don't think about ppl when I do.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@carolwelcome2882]

Thanks for sharing this Kim. It is encouraging to know that we are not alone in this. I too struggle with solo eating by myself as well. Lord willing, I will take your suggestion and try this out.

[@sherrellpatterson418]

Same, I don't know what is about eating alone in America. I have done it in other countries by myself with no problems but in America it feels different. You just gave me a new goal to achieve: I will eat by myself in a restaurant!

[@justfe3585]

Ive done this for many years. My favorite (solo) date is going to the movies. Picking a new store in a new town often new state and treating myself to something.

[@NotThatDeep]

I think the biggest reason for my fear of being seen alone out eating is being a black woman. Fearing I’ll look like another statistic. In my head, people are saying and thinking, “oh, of course she’s alone, no one likes the loud ghetto black woman. Probably couldn’t get a man to take her out”… and they are SOOOO wrong! It’s sad that I’m self conscious about this. But this video made me really want to quiet that noise and take myself out 😊 so thank you for this.

[@Padel78]

Change the narrative and do not care what someone else thinks 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@teemoonlight2798]

Have positive self talk, u are the creator of ur thoughts..They could be saying" look at that strong confident woman" you never know who could be inspired by ur "me time".. 🌞

[@freedom123-j8j]

So how have you been so far?:)

[@msjennable]

I always hate when they say only for one and I always respond that's all I need or one is enough. And then they smile there's definitely a stigma that needs to be rid of. We need to be able to enjoy our own company first before we enjoy the company of others! And I many times am my best company!💪🏾🧘🏽‍♀️

[@Kenya_]

I agree. I absolutely hate when they ask that. Like why is there something wrong with me wanting to be alone in my own company. I went on a solo date some time last year and was already nervous about it and the hostess ask "for one?" It made me so self conscious at first lol but I ended up enjoying myself. I would do it again, still nervous though lol

[@nicfree3723]

I do self dates all the time. I go to the movies and either before or afterwards I goto lunch. It’s my way of unwinding and relaxing, getting away from people. I also do a staycation and get a hotel room for a night or two. Order some food and grab a bottle and just relax and catch up on some well needed sleep.

[@debbiedebeaux]

I should try this. I did this years ago when my daughters were in elementary school, but I was stuck on my phone...next time I'll just relax and enjoy the ambiance. Great video!

[@sarahT414]

I think confidence, self worth and economic standing has a lot to with it too. I’m definitely low in these areas and so I have a lot of growing to do before I can do this so easily but made me happy that one day I’ll be able to. I can also start small but it’s definitely easier said than done lol

[@god563616]

I've done dining alone at a regular Mexican cantina because I love Mexican food and it was SO MUCH NEEDED FOR ME. People love to be around my energy and I'm always wanted so being in that place alone (only me was in there NOTHING BUT GOD), no matter the location, to just soak up the atmosphere and listen to God and eat good was everything!!!! I did this one time on my birthday during the day before dinner that night and it was awesome! I felt good within myself.I will be doing this again. I traveled alone one time and loved it so much. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@ajstwirler]

Solo dates are life!! So glad you enjoyed yourself ❤️

[@Sudz-Spongez]

I take myself on dates often I love it 🥰 it definitely took some time to get use to but now I make it mandatory 💕

[@michellefambrough423]

First of all I love your hair, and you are so beautiful also the whole outfit was a vibe! The glasses just finished the whole look. It was so inspiring to see you conquer your first solo meal out treating yourself to a date! I love how excited you were to get ready! I am a little nervous about eating out by myself I'm sort of an introvert. But seeing you on your solo date you looked so relaxed, and at ease. I loved seeing the whole process from beginning to end. As women we really need to make time for ourselves to treat ourselves more often, and honestly now I am looking forward to planning my first solo date! Thank you so much for sharing your experience!! ❤👌

[@dionerhodes1308]

I take myself out all the time & socialize with ppl if I wish. It can b quite nice. But some restaurant r courteous enuff 2 offer magazines. It's very nice & shows they care.😊💃💯 Oh the salad looked delicious!!

[@angelnicole513]

I dine out alone all the time! I'm always on the go and I dont like carryout, eating in car, etc. Its very liberating. Sure you may get some stares but they are the ones uncomfortable, not you! Lesson: dont make someone else's problem your problem! (and that goes for anything)

[@es.6652]

I think it happens I most places the waiters will take extra care of you if you're alone. Did a solo lunch date yesterday and the waiter kept on checking up on me and he was like I'm Simon and if you need anything to make you more comfortable just ask for me or anyone else

[@Missmusiclover9729]

I totally agree about feeling more confident when travelling to another country! I travelled by myself to Canada and did activities on my own every day yet when I'm at home I feel awkward just going to the shops by myself

[@serenity3900]

I love stopping to eat alone in the early evening hours right after I get off work. It’s a transitional period from day to night so it just the right mix of people. I typically try to find something good to watch on my phone. I catch up Sarah Jakes Coleman sermons and it’s perfect.

[@msfowler]

I do it all the time and its so soothing and refreshing for my soul and mental stability. You have to enjoy being with you because youre with yourself all the time. Its ironic how shes comfortable going to a bar and having a drink alone and I am terrified. I'm sure that's something I'll never get used to because I see no relevance for it.

[@a_tailored_life]

I love how self aware you are about things that make you anxious. I am taking a second language as well, Spanish, but I have never heard of Preply. I will have to check it out. I work on my self-care also.

[@bridgetcameron7779]

Awesome you look great and yes to taking care of ourselves as Fierce Women Bosses 🦋❤️

[@MrFonvillem7]

You Did It Sis!!!! I don’t have a problem dining alone, but there are other things that I don’t like doing by myself. I will definitely work towards overcoming those fears.

[@maryburton9308]

Love watching 👀 your vlogs. You bring a much needed type of image to you tube. Thanks. I brought your Cuban links necklace, great purchase. I love it.

[@cassiettajefferson7558]

I love a good solo date! My husband is not vegan and also not very adventurous when it comes to food, so I use that as my time to try new places. Plus, I love my own company…I’m a great date!! 😂

[@KenyaG.]

Self care is a must! 🥰 I honestly feel like I rip and run so much, I forget to treat myself to a nice lunch or dinner. I have to remind myself it's okay to do things alone and treat myself! I deserve it!!!

[@bronzebomber814]

Its nice to hear everyone was so accommodating..I think some of us have a negative perception in our heads about being out alone

[@candyj4321]

I am loving you channel. Thank you! Also information on the glasses they are bomb. txs

[@arayellethompson7332]

She is such an amazing role model ❤

[@delz20again]

I feel ya! I have been married since I was 19 years old and I have never (had) to go eat at a restaurant by myself! My husband passed in 2020 after 36 years of marriage and I find myself thinking about going to eat alone, going to a movie alone, etc. I still don't have to, I have my sons/family who would love to take me out, but I feel I have to conquer this myself! Very interesting to stumble on this video today!

[@griseldasmith8094]

You did great. You've inspired me to overcome my challenge of dining/going out alone. Thank you for sharing!

[@kizzinyou]

Solo dates are definitely peace moments for me.

[@godsgirl7201]

Yes this is the season I'm in solidarity

[@144shay]

the outfit is fire!!! Also, where did you the clear glasses?

[@reesmit6920]

I did this too and was quite nervous but, once I got it in my mind that hey ppl do this all the time and it's completely normal. I did actually enjoy my own self😂

[@theafrodzac]

So proud that you conquered this fear. 🥳🥳🥳 I love doing lunch/ dinner alone at times it'sempowering.... however; I've been doing it since college. I last did this at an upscale Asian restaurant for dinner right before Trevor Noah comedy show. I definitely got stares, but I know it was the glow of black girl magic 😉😜

[@thee_kekeg]

Those glasses are BOMB!!!! 💣 💣💣 So glad you were able to conquer your fear! Many blessings 🙏🏾❤️

[@jizzyg4119]

I've been a subscriber since the back sync days in the early 2010s. Always inspired me to be chic and fashionable. Love the quality content! 💕

[@TheMJPhoenix]

Congratulations!!! I go on dates with myself all the time and I love it!!! 💖

[@KeairasKrazyLife]

Going out to eat alone is one of my Goals for this year also and after seeing this I think I will make a day of it as well!! Thanks for sharing ❤

[@lbu9542]

I am married now, but all through my 20s I would take myself out on a date. That time was a blessing. 🙌🙏 Proud of you!

[@Wannawristcandy]

Omg!! I just love this♥️♥️♥️ This is me all day!!! Take myself out on a date.👌🏽 self care & self love is everything😉

[@cherriewright2236]

I love self care! It’s a must you make time for yourself 🥰 oh and I just purchased your cook book and I can’t wait to get it. Looking forward to my healthy fitness journey!

[@SmecaWash]

I have always been introverted and solo traveled, take myself out to dinner etc and now that I’m a mom I make it a priority as part of my self care- it helps me to recharge and detach from having to be pulled in so many directions. It’s nice not to feel like you have to do anything to please anyone while you are on your solo adventure. I also take solo day trips, to explore someplace new that’s near me.

[@maemilan2352]

Girlll, the food looks amazing!! And so does that mimosa♥️I love your aura, And your outfit is 💣👌🏾💅🏾

[@SyvilleJosephine]

Loved your video. It was cute. I even checked out preply. Omg thanks for that plug!!! So far I love it. My tutor is dope.

[@DANCINGequalsMYLIFE]

I love my solo dates ! My cousin gives me hell about it 😂🤣 But I really enjoy it . Time to think , process , and literally just spend time with myself .

[@SamarriThomas]

Very happy for you sis! I also wanted to add a temporary solution for your eyebrows. Have you hear of henna? They last about a week or so and don't hurt! If you try it out, I hope you enjoy it!

[@emeraldkaysgarden]

I've been rocking with your channel for years and may not watched everyone of them, but when I do they are relatable. ***microblading was a good experience for me over 2 years ago but it does fade and you must follow the instructions on caring for them.

[@BlindedByFaith]

Self care is important. I’m glad you took the time out to date your self. Great video!