Bad Date or Bad "Husband Energy"?

The struggles in the dating world are endless. One woman shared her frustrations online about men lacking "husband energy" and how they handle rejection. Her video quickly went viral online. Let's break down the online discourse about this video.
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[@sirskorge]

Cat-food would have been a better sponsor here. :p

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Been a long time since you have posted a comment on here but sounds interesting

[@meleebrawler6462]

IDK, after that awful interview with Andrew Tate, I don’t think I’ll be watching any of Candace’s content anytime soon.

[@tay_tay08]

I dont agree with all of candaces statements, but that series does look very good

[@PatrioticAmerican1776]

Hello there🇺🇸

[@Beezo-2099]

You can't tell men "no means no" and then get upset after you told them no.

[@thomashauer6804]

Stop the red Flags commies

[@stevensawyer5924]

WTF! So "no means no" now means hey dumb a$$, your supposed to try harder?😫😂

[@fridabone]

But did the girl in the video ever say that? Or are you taking feminist talking points and applying them to all women?

[@kathyp1563]

A lot of what I see young women say on TikTok, should BE kept private amongst the girls. Even when I was single, back in the 90s, friends & acquaintances said things like this. It has more to do with the disappointment that the fantasy; the fairy tale, was being shattered. Sometimes the friend was in tears...sobbing, even. She admits to me she didn't want HIM, but "why couldn't he be THE ONE?" The only lesson here for a man is don't date women who treat the internet as their diary. Difficult, I know. But, gee. Now she looks like a fool to the whole world. Where as my friends, back in the day, just looked foolish to me. But, I loved them, so it was OK.

[@jaycie-wp5in]

@@fridaboneshe was addressing the first video and saying why the lady wasn’t making any sense

[@kevinjones9403]

A line that had me raising my eyebrows was when she said, "He didn't offer to change." It reminds me of something I heard a long time ago: women marry men hoping they'll change, and they don't. Men marry women hoping they won't change, and they do.

[@praetorian3902]

Very good point.

[@emdub3081]

💯

[@docjohnson1]

Even worse men who change ar told they are not the man she used to know

[@Hi-jw7oq]

you can fight for a relationship without inherently changing. women are complex and emotional.

[@docjohnson1]

@@Hi-jw7oq yea and that's a problem. Emotions over logic is never the answer for anything

[@patraic5241]

When I see a story like this I'm minded of a broken engagement I had. She broke off the engagement thinking I would come running back. She didn't notice that I agreed to the breakup for my own reasons. She was shocked when ten months later I began seeing someone else who would ultimately never try to manipulate me. That lady and I have been happily married 31 years this past June.

[@awsambdaman]

To me it’s just weird, like why are you allowed to break up with me but not mean it and it’s MY responsibility to still chase you? Does the woman have no responsibility for what she says or does?

[@alluringbliss4165]

What were your reasons ? inquiring mind 🙃

[@patraic5241]

@@alluringbliss4165 It was a series of things that made me realize she was emotionally manipulating me. Oddly enough if she hadn't broken it off I may not have. I'm a bit stubborn sometimes. But once she did I was able to think more clearly and there was no going back from that moment on. I knew I could never trust her after that. I can tell you it was quite the shock to her when I didn't try to get her back. Even after I began a new relationship she tried to meddle. The difference was I found someone who was trustworthy and was unconditionally supportive. Her attempts just fell flat in the face of that kind of relationship.

[@AG-sd9lt]

@@awsambdaman Exactly - "playing the game" to test the guy's tenacity/intentions BEFORE a commitment isn't the same as outright breaking up, especially not an engagement...

[@cattaraba5579]

Had that happen to a guy I dated too. Broke up with him, he thought it was a break and he had a total mental break when I started dating my now husband

[@British_Rogue]

Yeah, no. In this day and age, if you reject a man, it's over. He will not risk being branded a creep or facing a lawsuit.

[@gotthumbs2235]

100% I don't even give a courteous "good morning" to women in the hallways at work, if I don't work with them regularly. Not worth the risk when posters in the restrooms say "Believe all women", considering the FACT that we've had 3 cases of female students confessing that they lied about being sexually assaulted on our local University Campus.

[@froggymuds]

the girl knows that but people are allowed to be frustrated when things don't work out, when you're looking for something long term.

[@ashlinstephens1027]

100% not worth the mess that follows

[@wmason1961]

"Yeah, no." Is the most conflicted sentence ever.

[@arturocasillas4018]

Likewise some of those later comments were saying the man's pursuit was some kind of minimum. Very few if any of older couples I've spoken to have claimed that these quixotic games were the norm. I suspect that TV and movies have brainwashed a generation into thinking a loser with a heart of gold winning over the hot girl is common if not the norm.

[@limpetcarre1139]

Yes guys, when a woman says she's not interested in you, you should ignore her and continue to pursue her until she calls the police for harassment.

[@trinimafia001]

it's all for their ego

[@fibanocci314]

Some of it's just different styles of communication

[@RedBloodAura]

​@@fibanocci314poor communication

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Wow man I'm gonna do this rn thanks for the wonderful advice

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

She rejected that guy for one reason and one reason only. He wasn't good-looking and rich enough for her. And because she's thin, white, blonde and attractive (and nothing else) she thinks she deserves Ian Somerhalder.

[@Tean-tm2lg]

If you tell a man you don’t think it’s working and he leaves you alone, that’s literally a good scenario. If he fought for you and you didn’t like it, he’d probably be blasted about being creepy online. Women, stop playing around and use your damn senses. He dodged a bullet with this testing and wishy washy bs.

[@hyronharrison8127]

And be intenrional about what you mean!

[@kylehallman8183]

Fighting for someone who ultimately tells you that they dont see any future is kind of fruitless. If a girl tells me she's very busy or isn't ready at the moment, Ill respectfully back off but offer to keep an open door if things change, sometimes people have busy lives or realize that they dont want commitment if stuff moves to fast. But if someone just outright says, its not a good fit. Why bother? They clearly dont feel a kind of way about you. If her video ended before her saying she wanted the guy to try. Then Id probably be more on her side. Sometimes every piece can be there except actual passion and true interest. But she likely does not know what she wants.

[@That.little.dinosaur]

John 3:16, God bless ❤

[@billylocke9633]

I’m sorry.. but if you are claiming to want a husband but also play hard to get.. you don’t actually want a husband. You want attention.

[@stingwcw]

Yes, I agree 100%

[@fridabone]

Yes, women who want to get married should marry the first man who comes along 🙄

[@monilip]

No, they should be serious and stop playing "hard to get". You like guy? Date him, know him, find out if he is husband material. "playing hard to get" is one of the stupiest woman's tricks. "i will pretend I don't want it so he will do it for a challenge". Be honest if you want a husband. Don't play games with man. treat him as potencial husband, with respect

[@billylocke9633]

@fridabone no one is suggesting that. Thanks.

[@notrelatedtobacon1282]

​@@dearmadelineno you are making that assumption Men are mad that women are constantly playing games and spouting make believe bullshit 1st women want men to take no as an answer Now they are mad that men arent "putting in effort" when they are rejecting those men? Rejecting someone you want to date is disingenuous at best and an attempt at emotional manipulation at worst Why do you think so many women are stuck dating assholes, fuckboys, and players? Because THOSE are the kinds of men that like playing games and see women as obstacles to overcome, those are the kinds of men that wont take no for an answer because they dont respect womens opinions A good ,honest, and hardworking man that's respectable will believe a women when she rejects him and wont wish to waste anyones time persuing a person that doesnt want to be caught What are men supposed to do? Sit there for weeks? Months?years? And just hope and pray that she'll "come around"? Good men that are worth marrying dont have time to waste sitting around chasing 1 woman that has told him no already Men have shit to do, problems to fix, Bill's to pay,etc If women want a man that's honest, genuine, respectful, and willing to properly communicate...then those women need to PORTRAY those EXACT traits themselves Womens dating methods are to signal what their traits are and if they are open/intrested And mens dating method is to look for a woman whose traits he likes and approach her If women arent signalling the traits they want in a men they are the ones at fault for only attracting worthless men, because they are portraying worthless traits I mean how can women hope and except to find a genuine,honest man that's willing to communicate properly if they themselves arent willing to be and do those things themselves?

[@nickc127]

If the guy accepts the rejection and moves on, he's doing something wrong. If the guy continues to pursue after the rejection, he's doing something wrong. See the problem here? If your comment has no relevance to mine, why not just make your own comment instead of replying?

[@jacknelson927]

Yeah the problem is women are treated as princesses whilst men are shamed blamed humiliated and everything else in this world

[@genshinsage]

Its time to punish these entitled women. They are getting too arrogant.

[@haworthlowell805]

Simple point that now in society men are ALWAYS considered wrong, no matter what they do.

[@gotthumbs2235]

@@genshinsage Why waste the time? Learn and move on....

[@boobooweewaa]

Men loosened their grip on the leash. Pretty much 90% of the insanity we see today can be traced back to women being the root cause. "Wokeness" was quite literally created and perpetuated by women. The more power women have got, the more illogical and unstable society has become. Yet we all want to continue ignoring that elephant in the room. Kinda like how cucked, spineless white folks want to ignore the race related stuff too.

[@Faithful_Solaire]

“This guy is stalking me” Also “Why won’t guys pursue me after I say no” 😂😂😂

[@Morgyborgyblob]

If a woman rejects me and she means it, then we go our separate ways. If a woman rejects me, and she *doesn't* mean it, then she's playing games, and we still go our separate ways.

[@cp368productions2]

"i can be manipulated" is the thing sex traffickers love to hear. Never let those words come out of your mouth, even if they are true.

[@alexman378]

I mean… She’s been manipulated by feminism her whole entire life, it’s not like you can’t tell.

[@janelleg597]

Lol, calm down. she was saying she wanted to be pursued. She wanted him to try, she wanted to be chased.

[@NOFAP_GOD]

​@@janelleg597ok simp

[@Elross_]

​​@@janelleg597He already set a date and took her out. Isn't that pursuing? At what point does it turn it I harassment is the woman say she's not interested and the man keeps "chasing" ?🤔

[@llpalmer5082]

When I was dating my husband, after the third or fourth casual date he sat me down at a park and laid out some things that had happened in his past that he thought I should know before we went any further. It was that day that I thought, “I’m going to love this man, and I’m going to marry him”. 2.5 year later we are married and we have a little boy and a baby girl due to arrive this month. I had some doubts, but I took a leap of faith that paid off and I couldn’t be happier. I think “husband material” is simply a man who becomes your best friend, makes you feel safe, and holds the same goals and values as you.

[@tinyarms609]

I disagree. She is low key upset he didn’t fall at her feet willing to become whatever version of a man she is looking for. That feeds her self worth. When she doesn’t get that clingy response, she’s upset. So I don’t think she’s joking here. She’s just another toxic chick.

[@notoriousj_]

Yep lacking that "wife energy"

[@scel955]

She barley has “woman energy” because an actual woman isn’t going to go in TikTok and try to get attention right after a relationship doesn’t work. I’d liken her mindset to a high schoolers. Thanks America for promoting this kinda stuff..

[@Dragonstalon1001]

Notice it is always the Man that must change??

[@darias8722]

yea I mean you can argue he didn't meet her reasonable expectations, but more realistically he probably didn't meet her unrealistic fantasy of a man.

[@notoriousj_]

@@Dragonstalon1001 yeah it's always the guy that has to change, "level up", while women are like "accept me as I am"

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Modern Woman: "I think we're incompatible. Let's break up." Man: "I agree." Modern Woman: "HOW DARE YOU?!"

[@Joe-bs6hd]

Agreed, women always complicate things and they're even being empathetic to her, yet they both mutually agreed it wasn't going to work out and ended it. Now she posts about it crying on the internet for everyone to see. He definitely dodged a bullet.

[@LG-in-KC]

That's the problem, he said "I agree". It hurt her ego that he wasn't more upset about it.

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

"White girl, liberal arts college degree with privileged Western upbringing" should be a MAJOR red flag for guys seeking a wife or girlfriend these days. Tread very carefully dudes.

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

@@CheerfullyCynical829 Not that women who are heavy, 'diverse,' unattractive, or not in a specific university indoctrination program are typically any better. If anyone acts entitled because of their identity, make tracks.

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

@@LetholdusKaspyr Attractive white girls with an upper-middle class upbringing and a degree from an expensive liberal arts college are the most likely sect of females to be entitled, woke, and arrogant. That's just a fact and no one can deny it.

[@edwardmartinez6730]

The point, Brett, is that a person no longer gets to feel bad about the choices they make, if it doesn't work out. Men have for eons been told to suck it up. its time for women to understand what that means and start doing.Thank you Fourth Wave Feminism.

[@dinosaur___7209]

"eons" is a bit dramatic. Maybe the last 10 years or so this conversation around consent has gotten real traction

[@LordVautier]

Eons bro. Community psychology hasn't existed 10 years mate. Wake up

[@dinosaur___7209]

I'm talking on a broad cultural level of actually respecting women in the modern era. Some societies were better and worse about this throughout history but mostly worse, as most marriages tended to revolve around trading the bride in for some sort of financial benefit, women not having property rights, not being to hold many jobs, etc. Which is not exactly men sucking it up but rather men (broadly, societally) not caring about consent of women, historically. Marital rape in the US, for example, was only made illegal in 1993 but it's still essentially legal due to how many loopholes there are. Just to demonstrate societal concern for consent. Even if its not directly what was being discussed, everything mentioned above isn't compatible with the original commentor implying that men have always had to suck it up and stop pursuing women when they didn't want it. @@LordVautier

[@zebedeesummers4413]

They said suck it up, not consent. Men being told man tf up/suck it up is as old as time as far as I can see from any text I've read/ From 200 BC to 2023 being a man has not been about making your emotions someone else's problem. (at least most of the world.)@@dinosaur___7209

[@LordVautier]

@@dinosaur___7209 bro, how did they get food before modern industrialisation? Like in Egypt and stuff in like 300 BC and before? Be happy that time always moves forward. Sorry they didn't have smartphones in 1642.

[@marktheprussian]

Why does everyone care what SHE wants? The guy said no, so it's a no. Simple as that. We don't know what he thought of all of it, we only know the woman's side of the story.

[@scel955]

Exactly, are we going to get a video of the guys side of this? Or are we just going to take the girls stance as “the truth” not saying she’s lying, but there is ALWAYS 2 sides to the story.

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

"Thin, white, pretty, liberal arts college degree and privileged Western upbringing" should be a MAJOR red flag for guys seeking a wife or girlfriend these days. Tread very carefully dudes.

[@lawrence8989]

Brett's Sisterhood Solidarity.

[@thomashauer6804]

Only commies use red flags

[@bvoyelr]

@@scel955 Cuz guys don't care. For us, no means no. At best you'll get a "I can't make you happy" which means "I don't want to date you anymore, but I really don't want to get chewed out, either." Either way the result is the same: he's not interested, so he's breaking it off. He's not throwing a line hoping you catch it, neither is he interested in the line you tossed to him. It's over. And he's not going to commiserate about it on social media, either.

[@constitutionalstacker5701]

I had some girl recently tell me she met somebody and we had no future. I said,"I hope it works out". She got irritated that I didn't even try especially because she said she just made that up to see how I'd react. Not being a Simp, that's how I react.

[@justinstevens3743]

You dodged a bullet.

[@constitutionalstacker5701]

@@justinstevens3743 💯

[@peehi2]

dafaq is with these women...

[@samuelromeo6937]

yea. translate. The chad she really wanted did not want her and so she thought you would be her secure choice if chad says no. When you decide to not bother now she alone. This girl in the video wanted a relationship but she want one with an Andrew tate kind of guy not the average guy. But because andrew tate kind of guy don't want her other than for sex she falls back on the good guy as a fail safe. Most of these modern women all want the top self guy and when that fails then they consider the fall back guy for security and finance.

[@kylereno5383]

There was no "lack of effort". She said he treated her well, that is effort. Shrs essentially a child and wanted him to chase her after she dumped him. She wants toxic, hes not toxic, so she dumped him then wanted him to chsse her to feed her ego. End of story. It happens every day and its why most men have given up on dating.

[@samuelcohen2362]

Women: NO MEANS NO but I can be manipulated Men: 🤦‍♂️

[@B-cd3tf]

I would add after the head slap. Men: silently walk away

[@froggymuds]

it's obviously a joke, you guys need to stop taking everything so literally. Like half of the shit genz says is sarcastic or ironic

[@ThirdThinker]

@@alicekolton4925 Too bad, there are too many variations and definitions of how people define NO MEANS NO. You ladies need to figure that out as a whole because just on your statement alone, my girlfriend disagrees with you.

[@samuelcohen2362]

@@ThirdThinker Exactly. NO MEANS NO can mean a woman said "Well I don't know..." and you pursued her. Women need to decide whether an initial rejection is an automatic NO or if men can pursue after a rejection. Otherwise there are no rules and it's a coin toss as to whether a man will get in legal trouble for pursuing women.

[@NickOleksiakMusic]

​@iamme25yago I totally get that and have thought the same way many times - even recently - but I still think you can be empathetic and sympathetic while laying down hard boundaries. Here's a personal example: I was in a 6-month relationship in college. My gf was a very cool person with good taste in movies and music. Unfortunately, we realized we didn't have compatible lifestyles or wants. The break up was rocky, and the friendship was severed. After some years of sitting on my feelings, I eventually came to a mental and emotional place where I respect her as a person and treasure my time I had with her. I hope she feels the same, but I understand if she doesn't. She's an adult, as am I. Break ups happen, and life goes on. I've chosen even after being deeply hurt to still see people I view as wrong and/or immature with empathy and sympathy. It's ultimately my choice to do so. Yes, some people are genuinely bad forces in the world. Those people need to be stopped and locked up so they harm as few people as possible. I think most people, though, are at least decent folks and deserve some compassion. God bless.

[@dougkabler3032]

We have been taught for 30 years that no means no. So of course he gave up on her. Who wouldn't in this day and age?

[@randycliff4045]

Or you can say that 'no' means she doesn't have enough information yet -- that doesn't mean stalking. But if I guy feels strong enough, flowers in a couple of weeks. Maybe coffee in a month. It's kinda sad if a guy is blown up by a single no.

[@ThirdThinker]

​@@randycliff4045Nah, this is NOT it. I didn't met my girlfriend and she started playing silly testing games. She knew she liked me, I liked her. I was direct and asked her to be my plus one at my friend's dinner. 3 years later, we are still having fun. NO means FUCKING NO. NOT THIS I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH INFO BULLSHIT. Women have been saying it for years and it time to start eat the words they said. My girlfriend is very emotional mature. Immature, attention seeking women play these kinds of games. It's cute in the beginning but it's gets old fast especially if the man is serious about a relationship. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@zibix4562]

@@randycliff4045 That is the most stupid take ive ever heard as a defense. You actually found a way to blame the guy. Wow....just wow.

[@SD-mi2vc]

Bro if theres even inkiling of no. I am leaving

[@johnhermann7498]

She was flat out serious... It didn't become a "joke" until she got called out on it.

[@Aaron-rj7bv]

She 100% meant what she said, she only played it off as a joke when she realized people thought she was the crazy one (which she is).

[@miacyr3125]

It will always amaze me how guys can do the cruelest things and call it a joke, then a woman says something and suddenly its not a joke and she's an evil person. Maybe you just don't get her humor.

[@theclockworkcadaver7025]

Sounds like deflection to me. Who mentioned guys? Something on your mind?@@miacyr3125

[@froggymuds]

this is just how girls talk to each other about things like this. We overdramatize. It's sarcasm. I think guys just aren't familiar with it from lack of experience or something. Bc this is just how genz girls talk.

[@wolfsomething]

​@miacyr3125 we literally dont mean it when we are rude it's how we prove that we are close. But for women, it's how you defend your social position. Men gain nothing from word alone.

[@Aaron-rj7bv]

@@miacyr3125 I see you struggle with reading comprehension. I never said anyone was evil, those were your words. Additionally, that wasn't humor, that was an obvious coping mechanism.

[@adamthomas6735]

This is the pure “I broke up with you but I’m the victim” play

[@miacyr3125]

I mean she never insulted him. I think she was just frustrated, and not with him but the situation. He's probably thinking the same thing. 'Wish it worked out but they weren't the one.' She just happens to have a tiktok account, and once again, never insulted him.

[@abouosman9909]

@@miacyr3125 she’s playing the victime card right now other wise why recording a TikTok video about a guy who didn’t chase her after she said no ?

[@adamthomas6735]

It’s not about what she said at all. Had no issue with anything she said. All probably factual except for her feelings of “he should try harder.” The reason this is pure victim playing is that fact that the video exists at all. Could of just not posted it.

[@miacyr3125]

@@abouosman9909 because it bothers her that it didn't work out. He was both nice and respectful, but maybe it was personality or ideals that just didn't make them compatible. She might feel like a victim, but she's not making the guy into a villain.

[@miacyr3125]

@@adamthomas6735 people need to vent. How is this any different from somebody posting on Reddit?

[@Topself24]

“I can be manipulated” Sounds like years of hard mental labor

[@RayleighCriterion]

Her: _He didn't even try_ All men: Because you didn't demonstrate to him that you were worthy of trying.

[@Fiona2254]

She clearly said “he didn’t say he could change” that’s a huge red flag! I’m a woman and I taught my daughters that we are supposed to live someone despite their faults and NOT because of how they could be changed after marriage. I say this as someone married for 35 years. My husband’s faults are there, they frustrate sometimes BUT they are part of who he is. And he accepts me the same way. Many marriages end because they don’t love who the other is but they love the idea of how it could be once “they change”

[@nobledarkmoon]

Faults can both be frustrating and funny. It adds to their identity, and character.

[@joress]

Finally some girl gets it!!!

[@tafferchuck1349]

They would not recognize an established high quality "husband energy" man even if he.... punched them in the face I know how it sounds!! But that's how the saying goes.

[@younggoat1228]

@yacope2254 I’m sure he said he can’t make her happy plus she said she didn’t want to be with him by that point so it was already over and they both agreed that it was ok she said she wanted to be “manipulated “with us a huge red flag 🚩 which I find funny everything she said starts to go over people head after they find out she got her heart broke once like it don’t happen to men all the time lol

[@irisnava581]

I agree with this all the way

[@chazzreinhold5008]

Let’s be real. Her whole reaction was just her ego being hit because he just let it go so easily. Hit her right in the pride. That’s the real money shot

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

She's talking about how he lacked husband energy but yet she lacks wife energy💀💀

[@kumeoii]

fr💀💀

[@trinimafia001]

they don't mention that part

[@navbhatthal]

accountability seems to be like kryptonite

[@jacknelson927]

Accountability seems to be seriously lacking here with women

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

She rejected that guy for one reason and one reason only. He wasn't good-looking and rich enough for her. Everything else is just bullshit talk. She wanted it all, the handsome looks and the big money, and he couldn't provide it. He is so much better off without a shallow gold-digging chick like that.

[@webbsamples]

No Brett, you are wrong here. Her current whining is from not getting the drama she wanted from him. He was supposed to jump through hoops, but he opted out. The five year thing was all about her; the current thing is all about her.

[@abouosman9909]

Just wondering if we can hear the other side of the story.

[@Marco32144]

@@alicekolton4925fight for love? She gave up when she said “no”.

[@webbsamples]

@@alicekolton4925 I will fight for a woman I love. That includes pursuing her, treating her with respect, protecting her, but not taking her bs should she be given to that. When a relationship is real and right, it is not weakness to show how much you love someone. If a woman doesn't value that, a man will walk away and not come back.

[@milkshake26M]

@@alicekolton4925 nah, it's just that 21st century western women do not deserve even that bare minimum. the dude was right opting out and not getting with the crazy female. not worth the effort tbh.

[@kingkohli4952]

@@alicekolton4925 Fight for her because SHE BROKE UP OVER A TEXT MESSAGE? Fight for WHAT? To boost the lowlife ego or get falsely accused? Isn't that the trend women "exposing" men and airing their personal texts falsely accusing men? "No body is fighting for your love" That's labeled as stalking and creepy by idiots of a YOUR gender. "MEN AREN'T RISKING FALSE ACCUSATIONS TO FIGHT FOR ME AFTER I BROKE UP bohooo you are the victim. NO WONDER men are running away and going abroad far away from western women like you

[@sachagoytia9553]

The fact that someone vents their personal problems on the internet is already a problem.

[@c1ph3rpunk]

Her talking about him not doing anything did NOT come across as a joke, at all. She’s the one that says she doesn’t want to play games while asking which Monopoly piece you want to be.

[@fibanocci314]

I did not have that experience with the video, but your Monopoly piece comment is hilarious and clever

[@gotthumbs2235]

@@fibanocci314 It was not a joke, but she clearly tried later on to spin the storyline that it was. After all, she didn't even chuckle at her own 'joke'. A persons first response is what they were thinking and vocalized, then they try to tone it down after realizing how it may make they look. "I can be manipulated" ......was pretty pathetic, because he clearly could NOT be "manipulated".

[@fibanocci314]

@gotthumbs2235 Do you always laugh at your own jokes? Are you not familiar with dry humor? She appeared to me to be being dramatic for comedic effect.

[@inscription8099]

Yeah almost certainly trying to take it back. She might have exaggerated the fact about she can be manipulation but she was clearly doing some manipulation herself

[@postmodernmining]

She wants him to be the bank and use his money for houses and hotels

[@TheMajorActual]

If she's looking for a husband, one of the key things for a woman is to act like wife-material....by, you know, not airing your dirty laundry in public. Also, if you break up after x-# of years, and are heartbroken, don't try to date anyone until you get yourself back together, because it will always fail.....Also - an important question is, why did her LTR end? Her line about Dude #2 "not being willing to change" is an alarm bell.

[@joshuadalton6063]

99% likely they broke up because after 5yrs he still hadn't married her, she probably pushed that issue then broke it off when he made it clear, or he broke it off because she wouldn't stop bringing it up. Or even if that wasn't the reason, if you aren't married after 5 years there is a serious problem with the relationship. Its pretty obvious from her language too, *she* wants a husband, *she* wants a wedding, its all about what she wants, don't hear anything about her doing for the husband.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@joshuadalton6063 Marrying is a very stupid decision in the current time. Having long-term, life-lasting relationships is very good, but marrying? No thanks. If she is so stupid that she cannot understand the reasoning behind committing and not marrying, it's her own fault.

[@joshuadalton6063]

@@Straga_Severa For men it is yeah, believe me I'm fully RP :D It is her own fault, she listened to the propaganda rather than people who know better I agree.

[@benjamintan6750]

@@joshuadalton6063 video states she broke it off with text message

[@DisciplineEqualsFreedom_]

@@joshuadalton6063Yeah dude I don’t think not being married after 5 years indicates a “serious problem in your relationship”. My gf and I are not too fussed about married but we’re totally loyal & aligned on our goals together, talking about kids etc.

[@Jacob-wr7ch]

1. Out of respect for her I’m not going to harass her after she said she’s not interested. 2. Out of respect for myself I’m not going to beg and plead for her attention after she said she’s not interested. Think before you speak. Don’t tell someone you’re not interested then turn around and be upset when they say ok.

[@CowboyHatsAndKuchen]

I don't think she's joking... Girls play games and she's upset he didn't play

[@roypowell2403]

Here is my problem; for many, MANY years now, men have been told that no mean NO! Yet, how often do you see women, like this, who, after they say "no," get butt hurt when the man accepts the "no"?

[@chawalitD]

100%. A 'no' but with an invisible caveat. What logical man out there would be happy to play those mind games?

[@alexman378]

@@chawalitDI’d rather be called a “pussy” from a girl from not trying hard enough than a “rαpist” if I did insist a bit more.

[@insulttothehumanrace3807]

@@chawalitD The kind you don't want to marry, I can tell you that much.

[@julesjmj5682]

“He didn’t have husband energy”. That’s all that needs to be said about what kind of person she is.

[@IRLYT]

Just the fact she's exhibiting herself like this on social media is the biggest red flag for me but what do I know.

[@o-dogg8247]

I said the same social media is their therapist

[@MB-xe8bb]

I found her humorous.

[@michaelblaes9847]

The tattoos were the first red flag.z

[@prestonhal]

You can’t tell men that they should chase women while simultaneously saying that no means no. The idea that men getting fed up with such behavior is “anti woman” is absolutely ridiculous.

[@user-xf6jo9hy5n]

It's anti stupid

[@VueiyVisarelli]

That's probably what he meant by, "I don't think I can make you happy."

[@Hi-jw7oq]

women are complex. sometimes you want the other person to fight for the relationship more there is a difference between that and saying no to kisses and getting them forced on you.

[@1Guason3]

​@@Hi-jw7oqthen you tell them. We keep hearing "communication is key". Mainly from women. And yet many women don't practice it. And it can be both sided. You shouldn't expect your partner to be a mind reader.

[@zelo3056]

​@@1Guason3 I usually don't comment on vids like this, but I've been reading the comments to see both sides with a fair mind. Communication is key, as many women proclaim and I would agree. However, wouldn't it be weird to tell a person (or in this situation, a man) "I want you to chase me"? Idk I just think that's odd, unless you meant it another way, I guess I'm too dense at the moment to think of an alternative for this dialogue 💀💀

[@sgtusmc1sgtusmc266]

She didn’t want him until he didn’t want her. Once he rejected her she couldn’t except it.

[@ThetrueripaH]

The women was probably joking but their are actual people who behave like this

[@JickFincter]

I really hate how women want us to chase them after rejecting us when they haven't done anything that's worth chasing. like I barely even know you 🤷‍♂️

[@BigCroca]

they don't want to build real friendships and connections with guys so that guys actually fall in love with them and want to chase them tho

[@dothedewinme]

It’s because they all believe they are 10/10 and the main character.

[@nataliaNOTnatalie]

@@dothedewinmeAll is a stretch, but yeah most of us think they’re the main character and/or they’re the hottest person ever. I don’t know what the rest think, but I personally find it really annoying, and I understand why men get frustrated.

[@techyin326]

Worse when women (especially when they're older) truly believe they have alot to offer but in reality they have 3 kids, from 2 fathers, and isn't in shape, and yet they think they're valuable 😂😂😂

[@BlakeC27]

I remember seeing a similar video about a women post-date when she was describing her experience with a guy she wasn't into by stating that she wasn't looking for a relationship then got all upset when the guy didn't fight for her.

[@WalterHildahl]

She radiates 'run away' energy!

[@squidworth2570]

Clearly she was being manipulative. Act like she doesn't want him then mad he didn't "try". Why can't people just be honest?

[@slsslc8207]

Would be nice if women realized being "pursued" does not mean they have to run

[@bigbraz]

1. "Mee too" era just happened. You can't put that back in the bottle. 2. I think Brett literally showed us how she looked to "see" her perspective (really just gave her an out)...".."Having sympathy for a girl that just went through a bad break up." 3. This woman's approach is only an example of what men are expected to navigate through in this dating minefield. 4. I think this man dodged himself a lot of headaches.

[@Etymon-jt3zw]

She's sending off some serious ex-wife energy I feel sorry for anyone foolish enough to care about this selfish person. There's a 90% probability she will end up divorcing anyone that she marries.

[@jreyman]

I 100% agree with you.

[@rynegade]

"I can't make you happy" means "no one will satisfy you and I won't be in an abusive relationship where I sacrifice my happiness just to inevitably fail to cater to yours."

[@SD-mi2vc]

Benn there annoying

[@catherineclock4878]

I remember a class in college where we had to present a "family story" for an assignment. We had a lot of international students, and one girl from Turkey told a very romantic story of how her grandfather pursued her grandmother and asked her to marry him 7 times before she agreed. I remember feeling despair at the thought that no man today would EVER go through that much effort for a woman. Did women back then play more games than women today? Or could they actually afford to test men's resolve because men were less deterred by rejection? I think the girl's frustration in that video is some deep-seated acknowledgement of this new reality that we all have experienced and wish was different.

[@donnkasten4111]

Why would anyone fight for a relationship with someone who dumps them over a text???

[@gemini_1085]

The people coming to her defense 😂😂 No, gen Z speak isn’t hard to understand, she’s a lunatic and the guy dodged a bullet, plain and simple. She wants him to make her ego feel better and then maybe she will change her mind and decide to keep dating him. More men should be ending things having not pursued someone who doesn’t want them. The world would be better off this way.

[@ravenovatechnologies6554]

She's upset that his world wasn't crushed when he found out she isn't 100% into him. She's entitled and an attention seeker, note the video she posts online. Men are getting extremely comfortable with rejection, so now we own it and move on. She didn't like getting slapped with the cold hard truth that there's literally billions of other women. Everyone needs to have a long hard look in the mirror eventually.

[@ConnectionKiller]

Women - "Men need to respect our boundaries and learn No means No!" Also Women - "I want to be pursued by you no matter what!" Talk about wanting your cake and eating it too.

[@zibix4562]

Yeah it aint cute, it aint quirky, it is, at best, innocent ignorance, and at worst, malicious manipulation.

[@miacyr3125]

There's a difference between respectfully pursuing and harassing. Plus it was a joke. Some people just have a dry sense of humor.

[@Guanippa]

​@@miacyr3125so blutantly rejecting someone is a way to be humorous for women?

[@miacyr3125]

@@Guanippa no. The joke was that he keep pursuing/start manipulating her. And as blunt as it was it sounded pretty mutual.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@miacyr3125"Respectfully pursuing" in the current climate can get you a harrassment charge. Until you change this practice, the slightest "no" will mean "no".

[@crisemm5207]

I'm a woman. And if I were on that guy's place, after receiving that text, I'd be blocking the woman; not even answering anything. YOU CAN'T SAY " I DON'T WANT YOU" AND EXPECT THE GUY STILL INSIST ON YOUR IMMATURITY! First time I don't agree with you, Brett.

[@STJ1K]

Same

[@iliaselbourji1865]

Teen have these interaction... i don expect the same by an adult...

[@thenonexistinghero]

@@iliaselbourji1865What makes you think adult relationships are any different?

[@mikaspie6943]

cuz by then the brain has fully developed meaning the part of the brain used for sommunication should too unless he adult just wants to stay immature@@thenonexistinghero

[@thenonexistinghero]

@@mikaspie6943 Most adults are more childish than children when it comes to many issues. And many children are better at properly communicating than adults since they tend to be more honest in general while adults just add complex layers of lies and deceit to steer conversation in a way that benefits them.

[@ReneAensland]

You're absolutely right about the "when you know, you know." Literally, 100%. You feel it.

[@jonathanb1949]

I'm actually going to tear into Brett just a little bit. My parents taught me to only date with the intention of marrying one person for life, and I was not allowed to date until I graduated. What I get tired of is when people talk about dating, like it has multiple different phases, dating for fun, dating for marriage, etc. I think we should try to always have marriage in mind when dating and not just date to hookup.

[@praetorian3902]

Basically date for love. I agree.

[@desiree7633]

I agree

[@nicoleturczynski7730]

I teach my daughters the same, good for you, and your parents 💕

[@sleepdeprivedreader]

Yeah guess who else taught that: Jesus.

[@jonathanb1949]

@sleepdeprivedreader that's where my parents learned it from

[@Telkor]

Yeah, I don't buy it. She's not joking. If I could count how many women I've heard say, "I don't want him to do X, I just want him to WANT to do X" Which is exactly what she was saying. I didn't want him to date me, I just wanted him to WANT to date me.

[@miacyr3125]

There's always truth in the jokes. She wanted it to work, but made a joke about him manipulating her. Girl just wants someone to try. Definitely know how that feels.

[@TheRealPat316]

@@miacyr3125 yet it's been stated in the video that both already had discussions saying it wasn't working out and the match wasn't there. She didn't want that one to work, she just wants ONE to work (which is understandable). But in this case she even says "he didn't offer to change"..... Why would HE need to change ? Couldn't she meet him half way ?

[@kingkohli4952]

@@miacyr3125 She just wanted him to chase the goddess she is for ego boost which backfired because dude has common sense he is giving her evidence to FALSELY accuse him if he TRIED

[@miacyr3125]

@@kingkohli4952 and you know that how? Are men mind readers now? Funny last i heard men complain about not being able to read minds. Until you can, give someone the benefit of the doubt.

[@miacyr3125]

@@TheRealPat316 first off thank you for not jumping to the worst conclusion. Its pretty sad people assuming the worst of her. I think she's really just frustrated and not with him but about the situation. Maybe the guy is thinking the same thing. 'Wish they were the person I wanted them to be.' Wish people would give out good advice as freely as they did pointless criticism though. All these insults won't help her.

[@MrHoll87]

I have no idea if this woman was just making a joke or being serious so I won't judge either way. From my experience however, when a woman broke up with me, she did so with the hope and assumption that I WOULD pursue her and win her back. That was always her goal, break up with me, crush me and break me, force me to go above and beyond to win her back. She would deny me for awhile and date or sleep around in the mean time, but her end goal was always to allow herself to be won back over. The thing is, if they break up with you and you pursue them like they want, they tell you NO, to stop pursuing. They lose interest and respect for you because chasing makes you look needy and clingy and like you have no other options in the dating realm. But if you don't chase, you're not putting in any effort and therefore don't deserve them. It's this really sick and fucked up game women play all for the sake of feeling good about themselves, to be spoiled and doted on every minute of every day. I don't know if that's what this woman was doing, but it's usually the case in my experience. It's an automatic L for the man either way and I think he did the right thing. Again, I'm not saying this woman was playing that game at all, I hope she wasn't. (And btw, I did NOT pursue that woman who broke up with me. Uno Reverse hit her pretty hard when she was the one who ended up devastated and heart broken when she finally figured out I moved on. I don't do games or ultimatums.)

[@gabenelms3228]

And the fact that she slept with other men in the meantime is very telling. That'll send any man with a sense of respect for himself running for the hills. The fact she'll open her legs for another man just to break your heart is pretty degenerate. People like this are the reason im waiting until marriage and why i expect the same out of a girl.

[@ldw9861]

Good on you, man. Glad you didn't play her game. I definitely agree that some women just use pursuing or winning back as an ego boost. They like the idea of you wanting them but not if you legitimately want them. I'm not sure if she is serious or not either, but I know I had a similar situation with my last girlfriend during our relationship, so I know that women like this exist.

[@happytape307]

In other words, she bluffed, he called it, and he won the game. Well played brother. As you said, when someone says you are not the one, it ends there. Hope she finds what she's looking for but seems like she's playing herself.

[@jeffjones7108]

Realising that nobody except you can make you happy is the first level of stoicism. Realising that nobody except you can make you unhappy is the final level.

[@JoJo-rb2ql]

15:49 Yes! I knew instantly when I met my Husband. It was like my soul had longed for him. If you don't feel that, you're probably with the wrong guy.

[@radfoo72]

"But once I realized he was not my husband..." 😂😂😂😂😂 That's golden and actually gives me energy to try dating again after 11 yrs of being inactive. I can date women and if they don't give of wifey vibes I'll just quickly end it and explain to them "Sorry but I'm breaking up with you because I realized that you are not my wife"🤣💀

[@hillbillyhomestead1966]

Sad to say I don't think there is anymore wifey material out in this crazy world. Not to mention you can't tell if she's even a real woman. I'm glad I'm happly married for over 25 years

[@beans4853]

​@@hillbillyhomestead1966there still are, the other ones are just louder

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

Approx 10% of modern women are of marriageable age and wife material given the stats on voting, stds, divorce and promiscuity. But unfortunately, the laws make marriage a bad deal for men that should be avoided at all costs.

[@radfoo72]

@@chadcadsonvii5258 So just don't procreate Or you can choose to do it outside of wedlock. Surely this will restore them nuclear family🥴 In absence of a marriage certificate one party has an even greater likelihood of just walking out without fulfilling their responsibilities. That means more fatherless homes. Who are you recommending that we as a whole model our behavior after?🤔 Because so far, it doesn't sound good. I'm not saying that divorce laws are fair but having a legal process in place in order to exit that contractual agreement at least creates a barrier or impediment that can discourage petty and impulsive reneging for those who would otherwise bail at the drop of a hat.

[@johngillespie3409]

🤣I know the Lord served me a good chicken but since I don't like chicken and everything else tastes like chicken I'm going to try something else 🤣

[@michaellombardi7766]

I took a girl out on five dates over the course of a month. The conversation was great. We had a lot in common and we spoke often. I opened the door for her every time, and bought her flowers and chocolates. After the fifth date I made the move to kiss her (with her consent of course). The following few days after she freaked and said we moved to fast and kicked me to the curb. Dating is a nightmare. I don't know what to do anymore.

[@candacehearn1771]

Honesty is the best policy. Just get over her

[@GabrielEddy]

“I need marriage energy” translates to, “I am getting older now and need an insurance policy, meaning I can take half your stuff and collect spousal support as needed”

[@Superbatmanbro]

😂😂

[@danielbyrne5402]

Whos gonna husband up with someone whos bouncing off a 5 year relationship after just 2 weeks and she wants the person 2 weeks later to be future husband??!! She is INSANE??!!!!

[@scel955]

People defending her are the toxic girl/guys that fall for people like this. Thus keeping the cycle going. If you don’t like a girls stance on important things, then end it. No matter if she’s attractive or not. Beauty is often skin deep.

[@danielbyrne5402]

@@scel955 i know what you're saying but beauty is never skin deep, looks are. However, if the only attractive thing about a girl is her looks then yeah by all means run

[@miacyr3125]

Obviously they wouldn't marry right away, but after a failed 5 year relationship she's realizing what she needs. She doesn't want another 5 year failure. Its a very good mindset.

[@joshuadalton6063]

@@miacyr3125 It isn't a failed 5 year relationship, its a failed 1yr relationship that she kept going for another 4 years. She knew after a year, just for whatever reason kept ignoring what she had already infact realised. Its a nice idea to have the mindset of not wanting to waste more time, but unless you have the self reflection and understand why she wasted the previous 5years, she'll just go on continuing to waste more time until she learns.

[@miacyr3125]

@@joshuadalton6063 most women hang onto the hope that a guy will purpose. Maybe she realized she wanted to get married but her past boyfriend didn't. The fact that she's looking for 'husband material' is a good sign that she did some reflecting and wants something life long.

[@southernmama7606]

I knew within the very first 30 min after meeting and talking to my husband. We were married in 6 months and just celebrated our 8 year anniversary. It hasn't been a perfect fairy tale, to say the least, because marriage is super hard work, heartbreaking at times, but I knew he was my person. And that hasnt once changed in the nearly 9 years since we met.

[@robertjensen4541]

Oh look someone with actual experience. Please explain that Disney fairytale are just that

[@theirishsaint4324]

I actually am in your shoes. My husband actually saw me walking up and said “oh shit…” because he knew right away he was gonna marry me. And I knew within an hour of meeting. We got married within a few months and have been married a decade. Again, this has not been a fairytale. But it’s a thing

[@Mrs_Homemaker]

I knew immediately as well, and made my intentions clear quickly. This October we celebrate 15y married.

[@RustyShackleford86868]

I'm soo happy l don't have to deal with the current dating world. People now days have body counts that are out of control and dating apps basically just for hooking up. No thanks. But it makes me happy to see females like brett still out there, gives me hope.

[@TwilightMysts]

After 20 years of being told "No means No", when a woman says "I'm not interested" I am going to respond "Okay. I'm out. Deuces!" cause they have made it clear that "trying to change her mind" is NOT acceptable. I am not sure I would even change that policy for Brett.

[@Rogueblue]

That last sentence though.

[@Superbatmanbro]

I’m not changing but I’m gonna try and eat healthier for me and just focus on the mental problems and addiction.I’m dealing with personal . Working out at the gym is therapeutic and nice for me

[@BenB21]

Husband energy-Be everything so I don't have to be anything but what I want to be

[@manoclocknews]

"he didn't even try" = he did not further feed my ego so i can reject him again.

[@Laceykat66]

"I can be manipulated. . " Come on Brett, we have BOTH know girls who threw up roadblocks to boys because they want the boy to "fight for her." Their whole rules for dating center on leading a boy long and having him jump through hoops for her. You and I have both seen this countless times with friends and friends of friends. At some point, boys grow into men and decide they are not going t play that game again. Then the girls get mad because the boys are around any longer to play with. This is NOT real relationship building.

[@furyberserk]

If she wanted to be manipulated or cared about him, she shouldn't have shown the opposite by breaking up by text, showing how much she cared.

[@Zackerath]

She isn't building a relationship, she ended it. You're entire argument is invalid lol.

[@Laceykat66]

@@Zackerath Perhaps, but I did not think she was. That was my point.

[@sitka49]

There is a phase for it, called the - Shit test.

[@Zackerath]

@@Laceykat66 And my point: It's none of our business. Some young girl has a disappointing date and complains online about it. So what. What on earth is so terrible about the line, "I can be manipulated" that every comment ever has to psychoanalyse this woman??

[@longrangevoodoo4480]

It's extremely refreshing to see dudes just walking away and doing their thing.

[@okaySam]

This should be the new standard.

[@Wes_Dev]

If a girl says she doesn't like me and wants to end things, then I'm not gonna try and chase her, because there is no point in chasing someone who says she doesn't like me; its a waste of time. And if she did like me and wanted me to "chase her" but told me she didn't want to go any further, then that's bad communication and your expecting me to read your mind.

[@LacheanApostate]

She was just mad he didn't drop to his knees and beg. When my ex ended it, via text, my response was "Understood, take care of yourself." I gave her nothing, she lost it because I wasn't devastated.

[@somethinggood9267]

Brett, empathy is something that sorely lacking from our society in the current landscape. I really appreciated today how you brought up having empathy for that girl instead of just tearing her down. I have also heard you mention empathy a couple times before and I hope you never lose this quality and become hardened. Empathy can be a wonderful quality to guide us through life and there are so many narcissist nowadays that lack it, and it is making life so hard for the rest of us. Keep going strong honey. God bless you and Jesus loves you

[@joec7217]

Preach

[@lilnapkin462]

Psychologically speaking, it is the number one trait you need to instill in your children for them to have happy lives.

[@gambino883]

I have no empathy for people like this who advertise their private lives online in front of the entire world. It's degenerate behaviour and should be shamed.

[@kizzagt]

Empathy isn't lacking, we in fact have an overload of empathy to society who deserve next to none. This current society needs a good whipping and bring back shame and social stigma with a vengeance to the point this current cancer is eradicated and can never take hold in society ever again.

[@nicholashenderson6941]

There this thing called consequences....

[@sparkleclap]

I met my husband in college, right after breaking up with a situation-ship because I knew it was not going anywhere as the guy legitimately told me he didn’t want a serious relationship. Spending time with the wrong person prevents you from meeting the right one. If I would have went with it, I would probably not give my husband a chance and he is literally the best man ever

[@Bummerdrummer463]

I've never seen a woman with a bunch of cheap looking prison tattoos that looks like wifey material. Also this whole "I can be manipulated" nonsense sounds to me like she's trying to manipulate this guy, and he's not biting, so she doesn't want to date a guy she can't manipulate. She's going to have difficulties finding a good husband with all those cheap prison tattoos.

[@jtmack77]

They can't figure out they have lost 60 percent of the race with those tattoos.

[@Bummerdrummer463]

@@jtmack77 I don't have any tattoos but if I did, they wouldn't be prison tattoos.

[@Bummerdrummer463]

@@dickizzinya9085 I was raised that tattoos are not for ladies. I don't have any. Other people can get some but they're not for me. But if I did get any, and if any lady got any, it would be better if it was classier than a prison tattoo. Aside from marking victims of concentration camps, tattoos are strongly associated with the underworld and also with branding trafficking victims so I feel thankful to have the privacy and freedom to not have any. But in a comic book atory tattoos could be a cool device. I mean look at Memento.

[@TheFattestDad]

Legit made the video hoping the guy would see it

[@chrisbadjar3048]

My wife and I have been together for 25 years without an argument. I knew when I first met her I was going to marry her. But we were friends for the first year so we could get to know each other and know our values and likes matched. Marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100. I now know that soulmates exist, be patient and be true to yourself and each other. God bless everyone

[@hillbillyhomestead1966]

You are absolutely correct I married my high school sweetheart 28 years happy

[@hyronharrison8127]

I figured as much is true but this does really give me hope to see....some people think this doesnt exist, but I think the key is - a year of honest learning of eachother...some people dont even put in a month....

[@hillbillyhomestead1966]

I'm in the same boat my wife and I met in high school and we got married had kids and are still together every year I love her more and more. We have all the same values it's awesome. I think we got lucky lol

[@mofantasy9219]

How many years have we heard MeToo and No means No and all the other anti/toxic male rhetoric? Reaping and sowing

[@molecularentropy]

I disagree. I don't think she was joking. She wanted him to chase her and for the end of the interaction to be one-sided. A mutual breakup made her feel unwanted. It's a form of rejection, and girls don't take rejection very well.

[@persee47]

Never underestimate woman ability to rationalize bad behavior and avoid accountability for her own decisions.

[@Bonend482]

I knew I was going to marry my husband on our first date, it was not love at first sight, however, he was the first guy I ever dated who didn't play games and was so real and honest and vulnerable on our FIRST date. We have been together now for 10 years, married for 8

[@angelplayz5783]

It wasn't a joke, Brett. You could clearly see how serious she was. I really wish we lived in traditional times again because modern women make me want to be single forever and possibly alone as well.

[@StrangerBillie]

Are you guys passport bros or something

[@donnameprega]

ew

[@froggymuds]

I think this is just a misunderstanding with genders or something because this is just how girls joke with each other when talking about boys or whatever. Like lots of being dramatic. It's gossip. Like I saw this and immediately could tell this was just a joke she was probably just intending her friends to see

[@Stylebender1989]

​@@donnameprega ?

[@wolfsomething]

​@@froggymudsnot when you post it online

[@Sandman60077]

Just be yourself, don't try to bring whatever "energy" you think she wants, don't try to be someone you're not. If she doesn't like your standard, everyday personality then she's not the one for you.

[@miacyr3125]

Yes this. There's nothing worse than finding out a guy isn't who he said he was. Be honest and don't waste the other person's time.

[@jeremiahmud]

Yeah but what if we aren't one of these leaders and procectors Brett is talking about. Guess we r fucked

[@Joya_Day]

​@jeremiahmud1416 there is a someone for everyone. Love yourself first. That is always key.

[@Sandman60077]

@@jeremiahmud Be funny, work on your confidence, have a good personality, lift weights.

[@PickleRick65]

Her body language indicates she's serious. She has an over inflated opinion of her worth. She'll never close the deal.

[@donnerblitzen1388]

We men are simple, a woman tells us “no”, we will do so and leave. The modern age has come and made dating a literal nightmare for men now. One wrong thing and a man’s life is destroyed and it could all be down to whether the woman is just having a “bad day” or “just wants to ruin a man”.

[@TheNinjapancake14]

Sav! with the long tweet has got it! Nothing wrong with being disappointed. Even if they weren’t a match, jumping back into dating sucks.

[@ice-qf8vz]

Fun fact: if a girl says anything “energy” un-ironically and they aren’t talking utilities they aren’t the one

[@TheGuitarded1]

Brett: "That's not insane! We can all be a bit delusional!" Proof that Brett is no better than your average Insta thot.

[@guthrie_1]

“I can be manipulated” Yes, we know. You’ve been manipulated by feminism your entire life. This is why you are the way you are.

[@Christopher-qq4dl]

😅

[@wolfsomething]

And single

[@jerichoasprec4455]

She's worse than "manipulated"🫤 She's Brainwashed!?😏😆

[@johndickle4694]

🎯😂

[@NickyLindolls]

😂💯👊

[@houseofhas9355]

In this era. Pursuing after a rejection is putting your freedom on the line as a man. Thats the missing part here. Women who don't understand this and want him to pursue her like its 1920 is putting his freedom at risk, and are too privillaged to even know what it feels like. To wonder is she type to do that. False accusations or being mopped by the internet because she makes a video about you is life and death now due the reputition destruction. Dating is filled with fear for men because a rejection and a broken heart is not the only thing you will experience. Changes in society aka lack of punishing female bad actors has made courting way more complicated, and for some, life and death. Many men self delete because of lies. No man wants to risk it. Its not worth it. Dont it. If she says NO. Move on!

[@jerrylat5572]

If a girl says it’s not working and wants to stop seeing you. DO NOT PURSUE. Depending on the woman there are far more bad situations that can occurs from your “pursuit” than anything positive

[@ShadoWafel]

My fiancé and I are now in the process of setting up a single friend of hers (f29) with a single friend of mine (m27). Her friend did see a picture of him and thought he is good looking and was interested, but holy crap the loops my fiancé had to go through to get her to agree for us to set them both up and exchange their phone numbers. And we know for a fact she's lonely and having hard time hanging out with people because everyone our age is already married/engaged/in a relationship and she's the only one single. She even said we can introduce them at our wedding, which is months away, which is epochs in the dating scene and he might be dating someone already by then and you missed your shot. Women forget that just as many options they have nowadays, guys also have them, and we are way less picky. You find a good guy? don't let go because of a minor red flag and be willing to put in the work. People grow together even into adulthood.

[@elephant615]

Call me old fashioned but I think in a relationship, both parties should be trying to “win each other over.” Shouldn’t always just be the dude simping for the almighty female

[@davidransom4476]

I disagree that she was joking. She gave the guy a "shit test" and he refused to play and kept walking away.

[@isakaldazwulfazizsunus7564]

Not chasing after people who say no both trains you to take no for an answer, that's teaching you about consent, but it's also teaching others about boundaries and the value of one's word. You say no, it's a no and that's it.

[@vivianphillips768]

It didn’t sound like a joke to me! When I was younger, like 18-20 years old I fell into the trap of playing cat and mouse, running away to see if he would chase me. It’s easy to do and sometimes young women don’t realize they’re doing it. Now that I’m mid 20’s I’m way more upfront, direct, and honest, and I realize that in my youth all I was doing was playing mind games to boost my ego. Thankful the boyfriend I have now (same as the one I had then) stayed around through those times and behaviors I cringe so hard at.

[@jreyman]

Sounds like wisdom you need to share with other women, in whatever way will get that knowledge to stick in their heads.

[@JoeNerdShow]

👏👏👏👏

[@johnnywadd9918]

Too many folks nowdays want instant gratification and not have to work for the end goal. Marriage is something that you constantly have to work at, trust me I've been married 32 years now and it still takes work everyday.

[@randycliff4045]

32yrs -- that's mid-life. Should be all smooth sailing from there ... but then again, I know better -- we're at 4decades :)

[@albertvirgil4471]

No being delusional is being broken. Fix it or your self.

[@DadStrength81]

Men, It's best to stay single.These days, most women are insecure, needy, entitled, suffer from a victim complex and are just plain crazy.

[@aaronpeters6209]

Her: "I don't see this going any further" Him: *Remembers seeing tattoos on forearms* ... "Agreed. I don't think I can make you happy".

[@jay-t1030]

Agreed, any tattoos are a non starter for me

[@pseudonymsarehard7189]

I'm glad somebody pointed that out! I read somewhere that the number of tattoos a woman has is indicative of how many Chads she thinks got away. She's damaged goods

[@Baby_ghost__b]

​@@pseudonymsarehard7189that's really a big lie 😂

[@jtmack77]

@@pseudonymsarehard7189 She's high mileage , traded in for a newer model.

[@miacyr3125]

​@@pseudonymsarehard7189and tattoos tell you how many drugs a man is on😂.