Are Parents To Blame For Naughty Children? | TDK Podcast

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[@angelinateo1051]

I am a nursery teacher and having to be with 2.5 years old children daily has really changed my perspective of parenting. IT IS TOUGH and honestly there’s no such thing as the “right” way of parenting. Each child is unique in their own very special way and one method might work on one but fail terribly on the other. Personally, I really do stop “judging” parents when a child is crying his/her lungs out in public. The child like any adult might be going through a bad day. And being tiny regulation of emotions aren’t really their forte. Also, Denise being left in public alone as a child broke me a little. Personally, it is not a method I’ll ever use on any child. Just thought I’ll comment because this is something I’m really passionate in. And the bus I’m in hasn’t moved for the past 30 mins. * Bangkok traffic being beautifully tragic 💫*

[@imairmeli]

I used to be like JP too but after having kids, I am more tolerable to difficult kids. My boy cried murder in a restaurant because it is his nap time and we were trying to have dinner. My hub and me took turns carrying him outside the restaurant. We was crying non stop for a whole 30min. Just want to share, kids are all different. Some are easier and just nap when tired while others will cry the world down.

[@franzthegardener6978]

As a responsible parent, we do not bring kids to certain places where there may be possibility of our kids ruining other's harmony. This is the necessary sacrifice for a few years of the kids life. Once the kids are older and can understand, we slowly normalise. My son is 20 and my daughter is 18, Both grown up to be understanding, respectful of others and responsible young adults in your country, studying.

[@phoebsthepothead]

I really wanna see JP as a parent

[@Met377]

For your info, the Teletubby statue was placed in an open space where there is heavy public traffic with no railings or casing on it. The kid did not kick the statue, he was seen pushed into the statue by the crowd which caused the statue to fall on CCTV. That designer toy retail shop is located on the top floor of Langham Place in Mongkok is known for being shady and upon the news going viral and getting a bad rep from the Hong Kong public, its mother company (a Japanese company if I'm not wrong) returned the money back to the boy's father.

[@davidlye2003]

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[@Kytexer]

If you're gonna be discussing parenting, invite at least one guest who has experience in parenting, or at least has been a teacher or a caregiver for a child. Honestly, many people assume parenting is easy or simple, until they actually do it.

[@yuentengsoh175]

couldnt agree more

[@lkoh6384]

Absolutely!

[@lim8469]

im so happy that yall are posting so frequently 🥲🥲 i watch every single episode 👍🏽 hehee

[@syin_yu]

i LOVE tdk omg never fails to make my day!!!!! thanks for filming and posting :-)

[@kazami5699]

I think parents should not use violence on children to punish them they should use good reasoning and understand the situation why the child did wrong or else they will grow up with violent mindset

[@TW-hk2uw]

I brought my kid to Japan (from Malaysia) when he was only 1.5 years old. He slept right through the trip. And we were even upgraded to business class. So its all about how we prepared him for the trip that's important.

[@shermsin]

Honestly, only non-parents are the judging ones and have the most to say.

[@Ms951753able]

Most parents are first timers. They all learn as they are doing. It is good to encourage parents to go for child development courses. "Two-year-olds have twice as many synapses as adults. Because these connections between brain cells are where learning occurs, twice as many synapses enable the brain to learn faster than at any other time of life."

[@pandarealwhite]

My two cents. Perhaps the hosts could watch the footage of the boy leaning against the Teletubby together prior to the start of the podcast, so that everyone is informed and can formulate their opinions more effectively.

[@ytbe578]

answer to the title of the video: YES

[@rayroar1117]

Actually if other people's children misbehave in public you do not need to scold them. You can just act a little weird (think Mr Bean) and the child will stop their misdeeds. The child may run away or may choose to stop what they are doing and watch you. If you scold them you are breaking a social norm already, if you act weird (without intending to harm) you are also breaking a social norm. So multiple methods. And the parents may appreciate you for that. Because they themselves cannot do it. Or rather, if they do it (act weird), it just would not have the same power as if a stranger does it.

[@austen98]

Because it was brought up, I would like to discuss the beating of children in whatever way you see it. To do this, I would like to bring up something my dad said to me after I grew up. He said, " You know, I hated caning/punishing you but...your mother told me to do so or I didn't know what else to do" So I asked him, what made you stop because I distinctly remember that he did stop hitting us after we got to a certain age, I think it was like 9 or 10. He explained that he realised that he was only doing what he experienced while he grew up (what he learned from his own parents) and just thought that repeating it was the way, the only way. He had an epiphany later on when he was discussing something with us while we were on a road trip together to Pangkor Island, without my mother, that we had a great time. We were singing songs in the car along with the stereo and he asked, why are we not like that most of the time? Almost in unison, according to him, we (my brother and I) said because mommy isn't here because mommy will tell us to "shut up" and not make noise (she was the authoritarian type). He realised eventually that caning us was just having the opposite effect. From then on, he took us, at about 9 and 10 respectively, for weekly trips scuba diving around the environs of Pangkor Island and taught us how to use power boats and dinghies. By our teenage years, we were already well-versed in the operation of such water vehicles (which included all the things you need to do to use and care for the boat). By 15, we were very self-sufficient on our own. All he need to do is tell us what he wanted and it was done. My sister, however, turned out to be the exact opposite of us due to the fact that my mother felt she had the onus of bringing up the only daughter in the family. Needless to say, my sister became a mirror of my mother, although at the same time, bringing up her daughters in a good way, left her to treat us, her older brothers like crap. Coming back to the topic though, my answer would be, YES, the parents are to blame if the children are naughty. In places like planes and all, it can't be helped but in the environs of a restaurant, for example, if the child is acting up, one of the parents has the onus of taking that child away and calming them while leaving the rest of the table and customers in peace to eat their meal. For parents to leave a child bawling their eyes out in front of everyone is just bad form on the part of the parents because it means they have no compass, socially and to a lesser extent, morally. Sure there are times when no matter what a parent does the child still misbehaves. However, and I must point this out, a child doesn't just do something out of a vacuum. If children act in a particular way, they do so learning that it's okay from someone else, from their own family, or even their own parents and that the parents just don't notice it and don't do anything about it. The onus is on parents to know their child inside and out so they can react to things they don't want their child to do and come up with solutions to try to make their child understand that certain things are not to be done. It's not easy. I am a parent myself and it's been a voyage of discovery for me, and I keep learning more every day. The old ways like how our parents brought us up, like smacking, in the long run, don't work, no matter how much others think it might.

[@yecly]

YES, AND YES!!! Especially in the public area. Anything that the kid does that include public disturbance or crime will be served by the parents for negligent unless they can prove it otherwise. e.i. If your kid made disturbances in a cinema hall, then it's your responsibility to STOP WATCHING, take the kid outside to tend them. Same if your kid destroyed or caused property damage. The parents should be responsible or faced by legal charge depending on the situation. Wake up mothers and fathers, you can't throw a victim card everytime your child done something wrong. Take the responsibility and discipline your child to be a functional member of the society. A little mishap may be excused but you can stretch everything too far every single time. That or gave up your child custody to the state and serve your time in prison like you should.

[@saiba687]

This episode is so triggering as a parent 😫

[@xxuenii]

YESSSSSS they taking everything too lightly.

[@angiemf9033]

Yes. Children are born innocent. Parents are to be blamed for the behaviours of the children.

[@xxuenii]

Im very interested to hear JP views after he become a parent himself. Cause he will realise he is slapping himself in this epi 😅 kids now were not us in the past. And we were mainly raised to be a people pleaser which is 🤮

[@VICTORIAFORSS]

WHERE EVER THERE IS A FIRE HOSE OR PUBLIC FIRE EXTINGUISHER AROUND.....IT IS A BIG NO NO TO EVEN TOUCH THESE PUBLIC APPARATUS BY ANY ADULT OR ANY KID AT ALL ❗️❗️❗️❗️ PARENTS NOT ALERT AT THEIR CHILDREN MIS-BEHAVIOR TOUCHING SUCH APPARATUS MUST BE HOLD ACCOUNTABLE FOR ANY HARM OR DAMAGE OCCURED ❗️❗️❗️ IT IS NOT EXCUSABLE FOR PARENTS TO REMAIN SILENT AND PLAYING A DUMBGAME WHEN DAMAGES HAD BEEN DONE ALREADY TO A THIRD PARTY

[@nigeltan4685]

I feel that all those who threw the cane out the window turned out okay 😂

[@kii1359]

I really love all your podcasts. Y'all always make me laugh HAHAHA :")

[@Ganesha6661]

For the fire extinguisher issue, if the pin is there, no one will be able press down and release the form. So, the BK failed their safety

[@sleepy_dobe]

Eh....not possible that the fire extinguisher came without a safety pin. The fire safety rules are in place to ensure such things are regularly checked by qualified and certified fire safety personnel and if this safety pin issue was observed during monthly inspections, the extinguisher in question would have been replaced immediately, and a note of the finding and corrective action taken would be made in the inspection report. As a former facilities personnel familiar with such rules and practices, this raises a lot of questions in my mind for the restaurant's owner and manager in question. Safety pin aside, I believe this is a difference in culture. Not trying to be racist, but if you notice, most Indian kids tend to be noisier, run around more, touch things more etc etc, because I think in their culture, kids are given a lot more freedom to explore and run around than kids in a typical Chinese culture. I have noticed this in most Indian families that I come across, that I know personally, and those that I see in public. So I believe it is just part of their culture, and I don't think it is racist to say so. If it's racist for people to comment on something that is part of your culture, then nobody can say anything about anyone anymore. Cultural differences aside, all parents still have a responsibility to teach their children appropriate and acceptable behaviour in public. This is simple consideration to the people around you.

[@stefgoh6160]

Humans r all made unique & parenting must b customised accordingly which makes it one of the toughest job in e world bcos it’s a job u take on tt last until the day you die. Also, nobody has a complete repertoire of skills or tools to help them parent each individual kid. One only knows what benefited them & was detriment to them after it was all said & done. Parents learn fr their kids as much as their kids learn fr them thru out the parenting process. I found parenting a very humbling process bcos I felt like half the time I wasn’t doing a good job & tt I simply was ill-equipped to parent. It’s very disconcerting to not know all the time & to have to learn so much at 1 go. The worst part is letting go when one has to balek kampung to Jesus & leave their kid behind. I don’t think I wl ever b ready to do tt but I wld hv to eventually.

[@Fangs569]

Under the Singapore Standard, Code of Practice SS 578, Use and Maintenance of Portable Fire Extinguishers, the owner or occupant of a premises is responsible for the inspection and maintenance of the fire extinguishers installed in the premises. This is to ensure that the fire extinguishers are in good working order. Without that safety pin, the extinguisher could be partially discharged or triggered. Without further investigation, the kid who pressed the fire extinguisher could be suspected of pulling out the pin and pressing the fire extinguisher trigger; which suggest that the act is intentional...

[@jaceeeee33333]

Love this episodes! I need more stories from yall childhoods!

[@hiboon9271]

About the kids crying and don't give attention, I feel like most of the parents just let them cry in public area or restaurant which may disturb others. At least bring them out of that place la. Want ignore also think of other people around pls.

[@yapolloable]

ya sia, these pundeh parents. No brain, don't give birth la sial. 😂

[@angiemf9033]

Well said JP. All your contributions are excellent. Good job

[@tituslzh]

Of course. Just look at how parents spoilt their kids nowadays by giving them whatever they want.

[@k3ntw4i]

The end so wholesome xD

[@joyful8124]

Would love to hear out your pov about Roe v Wade!

[@vinraj54]

Nice chat, good Job

[@clarence961]

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[@jimw8615]

Be a parent, then u will understand a lot of things. Life is not black & white. As much as parents educate their children. Shit do happen. Parents just have to take responsibility after that. Life is grey.

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[@jytan740]

suddenly know so many facts abt telletubbies

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In the description box under video

[@strongstrengthtv]

alot of parents do not scold their kids.. they see it normal to cry loudly in public. my mom was different embarrasing and i feel it is unfair. they really have a different approach. nowadays most leave the disciplining and the taking care of to the maids, only weekends then they try to accompany the kids.

[@siewmai_hargou]

Commenting on parenting when none of the hosts are parents themselves ...🤔

[@elilo5867]

Just dont cut the umbilical cord when your kid is born and that will be its leash

[@tampenismall2195]

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[@andytanSG]

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