🇩🇪 vs 🇺🇸 American Parents Reacts "How Are German Kids DIFFERENT Than American Kids?"

[@ileana8360]

There seems to be a misunderstanding with regard to the definition of "bar" and "restaurants" in general between USA and Germany. 1) In Germany you will not find TV screens at restaurants. You go to restaurant to enjoy your food and the company. Not to say that there are no "sports bars" (imported concept from the US) which do serve typical US snacks, but this is not a common place for young families but rather students. A typical German sports bar is rather a place dedicated for drinking and watching SKY sports, which is not a common place for families at all 2) "bar area" in restaurants is usualy only a place where the drinks are prepared. If the bar has stools at the counter you might find people sitting there for on or two drinks and not to get drunk or party. If they are eating at the counter they mostly came wiithout company and do not want to occupy a table where more people can be seated. Especially as it is usual to take your time for your meal and not like in the US where you get kicked out asap. 3) bars dedicated to just serve drinks are in no way places where Germans bring their small children. Teenager 16+ might be another thing, but not at all custom and there are laws in place as well. Over all Europe has a completely different culture when it comes to restaurants and food as well as the drinking culture.

[@CabinFever52]

Plus, Germans tend not to be loud like so many Americans.

[@alinasmith5737]

My father took me some bars when I was a kid, he grew up with that culture, it was different like 49 years ago. He never had any problem with it and neither did I. After a long road trip we would sometimes sit at a bar in the evening, play some cards and have whatever snack they would offer. Good times. And if you Wanne drink to much you usually go to a club, not a chill/Bierhaus kinda bar.

[@belegur8108]

@@CabinFever52 you certainly never visited any sports event in Germany i guess. I live in a town with a second league football ( don't call it the S-word 😂) team and when you use public transportation 1-2h upfront or after a match, it surely is loud as can be 😇

[@PliuNoShi]

Plus in Germany are also differences between bar, café and pub (Kneipe) - last one is mostly fsk18

[@agnesrusanda5765]

And germans are not allowed to smoke in Restaurants or Bars or other places btw

[@arnodobler1096]

I've been following Hayley for many years, she's great! Many of us are also aware of what is happening in Florida and other states. School boards in US omg🙈. As a German, I find it scary because I know our history. greetings from Germany

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@kirstenjakobsen1651]

I follow her too! I’m from Denmark and I’m so lucky to have family in Germany. I love Germany and have been there many, many times!

[@arnodobler1096]

@@kirstenjakobsen1651 🇩🇪♥️🇩🇰 Greetings from Lake Constance

[@gerryatriesilke]

in Germany the Kids not only learn about our *German History.. we learn about the History of the World, also with Politics ;)

[@jewishzionist3322]

The Austrian painter must be rolling in his grave

[@miztazed]

Well to sum it up. In Germany the American Sugarcode or beating around the bush does not exist. We tell the true facts by names and teach our kids also the reality and no fairytales about the toothfairy. That makes them more responsible than a child which grew up always in red rose bubbles.

[@lanasorter9388]

I comfirm. Im 6 years married in Germany and i see how germans raise their children and i will use the same method for my baby.

[@TheAxel65]

I was about 11 years old, during which time my father would often take me into town on Saturdays for weekend shopping. After shopping, he often went to one of the traditional home breweries to have a quick beer with his friends. This was around the mid-70s, smoking was everywhere, the air was so thick you could cut it. And it was perfectly all right that on these occasions I was given not only the usual apple juice, but also a sip of beer now and then, or even ordered a whole glass of beer. Surprisingly, these early experiences didn't turn me into an alcoholic - in fact, today (I'm 58 years old) I hardly ever drink alcohol, maybe a glass of wine every few months. I'm convinced that it's this slow introduction to alcohol, under the supervision of parents, in a safe environment (!) that better prepares young people to deal with it on a day-to-day basis than trying to shield them in a gilded cage from all the dangers out there and then, bam! You're 21, now see how you get along! My father said to me at that time: "I will not forbid you anything. If I forbid you something that you would like to do, then you do it anyway - but secretly. Then if something goes wrong, you can't even talk to me about it."

[@roanwolf6389]

Drinking alcohol and smoking was always something "the adults" did, up until teenager us kids were not interested in these things although alcohol and cigarettes were within reach at all times. We found that was disgusting lol.

[@pia8030]

Well we learn about history and geography in details, not just in Germany but in multiple other EU countries.... Im from Slovenia and I really enjoyed those classes, yes its a tone of stuff u have to study but later on you aprishiate it a lot. I just like to know everything about where I live and what was here before today.

[@MessyMeep]

In the UK it's entirely normal to bring your kids to the pub. Sunday lunches are often had in pubs with the whole family present. There is a different culture for that kind of situation though. People live in a neighbourhood, the neighbourhood pub is where you go hang with local friends, bring the kids so they play with other kids and it;s more of an outing than it is a "lets go get smashed". Sure people have their pints, but you very rarely see someone staggering around during hours where kids might be brought to the pub.

[@Balkonstar]

I lived in the states for more than a year. An I have never seen so many colleague students drunk. Not able to handle alcohol because nobody teaches them. I have the feeling when they get 21 they escalate.

[@suicidalbanananana]

👏LET KIDS LEARN FROM MISTAKES 👏 Within reason ofc, things shouldn't actually get dangerous, but the biggest difference between EU and USA when it comes to upbringing is most definitely how EU parents tend to allow their kids to screw up, because that's a really powerful way of learning what not to do, Americans seem to be too protective of their kids a lot of the time. Go ahead and drink a bunch of alcohol and get sick, good lesson, dont wanna go to bed? fine, stay up and be a wreck tomorrow, good lesson, don't wanna eat this? fine eat a big bag of candy and get sick and/or unable to sleep, good lesson. etc etc.

[@avestuart]

As an American I travel around the world quite a bit, I always feel that Americans need to loosen-up a bit. We're not really adults here in the US until we're 21 and there are a lot of things we can't do until that age. The interesting thing is that older generations like to complain that younger generations aren't growing-up, but then as a culture we don't seem to want to allow them to do so. Americans have this view that they're going to be attacked at any minute, there's an odd fear which exists in our culture.

[@epicjane]

I grew up in a family with low income But we had a garden behind our house and my mom cooked fresh food every day. My mom insisted on having good food! That’s maybe the reason why fast food isn’t interesting at all for me. Mom called it „ Schweinefutter“!😄 You teach your children what to eat. When I tried to be picky it was useless. My moms motto: you eat what’s on the table. I won’t cook an extra dish for you! My kitchen… my rules! Once she bought a jar of Nutella. I woke up in the middle of the night and ate it with a spoon. Not a good experience!🤢

[@swanpride]

Yeah, my mother tried with this one too...didn't work. If I didn't like something, I simply refused to eat it. And I was a complicated child in that I absolutely detested tomatoes especially cooked ones and vinegar (and yes, that meant that I didn't like Pizza, Tomatosauce and a lot of other things which are usually favourites of children either). My mother eventually relented and let me be (since I was an extremely thin child). She never cooked an extra dish for me, but she made sure that there was something I would eat, even if it was just noodles without anything else on it. (I also refused to eat breakfast, because I simply didn't have any appetite before I was awake for a certain time - still don't btw - so she shoved self-made cacao into me (to reduce the sweetness) and made sure I had something proper for the breaks with me. But yes, since she ensured that my sweet intake was low and used as little sugar as she could get away with in her own dishes, I ended up being unable to eat stuff which is overly sweet. And to this day I only drink soft drinks on special occasions, because in my mind they are not something for everyday (I mostly drink water and tea). In this sense parents do influence their children, but their power is not allmighty. People like what they like and you can't force anyone to like something. (I eventually managed to acquire a taste for tomatoes to a certain degree, but I still absolutely detest vinegar).

[@julezhu1893]

German here. My dad showed me to climb a bar stool when I was 1.5 years old. The bartender would even hold me whilst drafting fresh beer. I did not drink during my teenage years (despite having plenty of opportunity to do so) even as an adult I hardly drink.

[@germanyhamburger5552]

I also liked fruit and vegetables as a child, when I got an allergy to fruit it was really bad, I always had stomach pains when it was strawberry season,cherry season or any other fruit season. Winter was calm again and at some point the allergy went away, I was very happy. I do believe that children here prefer to eat healthily, it is not uncommon for parents to take their children to a field or farm to pick and eat themselves. Of course, these are fields specially made for families, and there are a lot of them here. It's a completely different experience as a child than when it only knows the vegetables and fruit from the plate.

[@eddyspliff4090]

At the age of 14 we had Salomon Perel, a Holocaust Survivor at our School. He read from his Book (I Was Hitler Youth Salomon) and talked about his experiences. It was a really tough experience when you hear it straight from a victim. But he also stated that he didnt want us to feel guilty, he wants us to prevent something like this to ever happen again.

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

That’s why history needs to be told as it happened so it never happens again!

[@anunearthlychild8569]

I met him a few years ago when my former school becomes Sally-Perel-Gesamtschule, because my daughter was there this time. After he had spoken to the students and told them about his life during the Nazi era, they had requested that the school be named after him. He was very frightened by the rise of the right-wing parties in Europe and only asked to ensure that the horrors of the Nazi era could never happen again. He died this year, and with him the number of contemporary witnesses who can tell the children, what it was really like in Nazi Germany, are becoming fewer and fewer

[@const2499]

Das ist der Weg

[@Mangafan47]

@@anunearthlychild8569 wait he died? I didn't know, when I was in school he visited us almost every other year or so. I read his book in like 6th grade when he spoke at my school. I also remember that he was always open for questions on his perspective about recent events (f.ex. someone asked about Günther Grasses poem that was publicly discussed back then) and wanted to spark our interest in social topics and politics. I'm sorry to hear he died :/

[@Livingtree32]

In my school it was Otto Schwerdt (who apparently also lived in my city).

[@Mondhase2000]

Gosh, you don't even go to a museum?! During my school time we visited so many different museums and watched so many stuff in a theater, stuff that we had as topic in our German class at that moment, like Shakespeare, Goethe, Schiller. I saw the musical "Oliver Twist" in a theater as I was 12 and one of the actors sang a song like an angel. It was so quiet in the audience and as she finished it was still quiet for seconds, then everyone got off their seats and gave standing ovations for minutes!! I had tears in my eyes as she sung and so does at least half of the audience! It's really sad that American children do not have these experiences 😢and with the biology class we visited a zoo and got inside views which you don't get usually. We were allowed to touch an elephant 😍😍😍I will never forget that 😍that was one of the best moments in my life 😍😍

[@helgaioannidis9365]

I'm a German living in Greece. My husband is Greek and our children grow up in Greece. My children do not like cooked vegetables, but they like raw carrots, tomatoes, cucumbers and lattice. In fact for us it's standard that with the main meal of the day we have at least one salad with some of those vegetables. They also like a big variety of fruit. I usually buy locally produced fruit directly from the farmers,so it's always seasonal and the kids always get so excited when we have the first strawberries, cherries, peaches, apricots, grapes, watermelons, pears, bananas and apples of the year. I think the fact that every fruit is available only certain months of the year makes them appreciate the taste more.

[@j.a.1721]

I wonder how detailed you learned US history, especially the dark and brutal parts. I am Austrian and we visited a nearby concentration camp as well when I was in high school. We were shown the gas chamber and were told that the people did not know they were about to be killed when they were led into that room, I think they disguised it like a shower room, they told us about the hard labor they had to do and how many died carrying stones up the "death stairs", we even saw pictures of malnurished people, they looked like living sceletons. I don't think they spared us any details.

[@anunearthlychild8569]

I went to school until the mid-80s, we still had some teachers who were born around 1925-1930 and witnessed the whole thing. There were some older teachers who would have liked to sweep everything under the carpet for one reason or another, but even if they didn't want to, the curriculum provided for lessons about the 3rd Reich. And teachers with views that were strange to us often exposed themselves in the process. I remember that one of our history teachers was suddenly sent into retirement after he spouted some Nazi propaganda during class. He had never appeared as a Nazi sympathizer, so everyone was shocked.

[@c.w.8200]

So does "nearby" mean you're Upper Austrian like me? 😏 Yeah, I grew up there and...we have our issues, some older people will never learn, some older teachers...hmmm, let's say some people in Austria aren't as informed or willing to confront the past as others 😬

[@j.a.1721]

@@c.w.8200 yeah I am from Linz. I don't think I have ever personally met anyone who denied what happened or really downplayed it. Not that I would like to....

[@cap.luisfigo9401]

Hello you two. A really interesting video. Yes, there are some differences in the socialization of German and American children. For myself, now 63 years old, "socialization" meant outside. That is, when we could, we were outdoors all day as children, even as young children (city as well as country). We discovered the world. Experienced adventures. Even some things we preferred not to tell our parents. But importantly, they had confidence in us. My parents also took me to their favorite pub. In winter, I lay tightly and warmly wrapped in my bag and slept blissfully. I would probably have died inside, too. At that time, people still smoked, without mercy, everywhere. Especially in connection with visits to the pub. Many things have not changed even today. Now children are just easier to reach (mobile, etc.). History was not yet a big deal for my generation. We didn't even get as far as the Nazi era (a large part of the teachers had been Nazis and were still not aware of any guilt). Only with the commitment of the so-called "68 generation" this began to change. Now, after almost 80 years, Germany is dealing with history the way it should be, in my opinion. Directly and openly. No taboos. Germany terrorized large parts of the world for 12 years. And for me as a German, this is not abstract, but I speak of deeds of my family, fathers and grandfathers. There is a saying, "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." I believe that too. By the way, in Germany it is forbidden by law to deny the Holocaust. In the USA, for example, anyone is allowed to claim that slavery never existed. Unbearable for the victims and their descendants. It is a mistake when school systems fail to pass on their own history to their own children. Sorry, but the USA is a good (bad) example. If you understand which wars the USA started and for which reasons, it becomes clear. I know from many conversations with American friends that there is a big deficit. (Now I hear the great outcry up to here). To go into this in more detail is too extensive, but we can discuss the topic if you want. Please do not feel attacked by me, I only see the facts and their effects. Greetings from Berlin. 😎☯☮

[@Ashorisk]

kids and food is simple - Kids dont have much control over their life in an early age but eating is one of the few things they can control. Dont be mad at them for it :).

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

💯 Just get creative.

[@Westcountrynordic]

When come to kids in pubs etc in the UK from what I've seen it tends to be ok up to around 5pm but after that they discourage any kids in the bar area. Most of the time during the day when the kids are around there isn't any swearing or violence etc. It's just like being in a restaurant that happens to sell beer

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Its definitely giving chill and relax vibes how you explained it.

[@yvonnejamieson2499]

Here in Scotland kids r allowed in oubs until 9pm as long as food is being purchased. Many pubs have outdoor play areas for kids and adapted to families. In general people r respectable to the fact families are in during the day. If people want bars there are plenty of them for adults only.

[@snowsnake1264]

I went 3 times to a concentration camp. In grade 9/10/12 and a survivor came in 6 or 7 grade.

[@RenateMtV]

I never saw a random stroller with kid standing unattended in Germany. I moved here from the Netherlands in 2017 and came here a lot before that.

[@Livingtree32]

Yes, I’m a 34 years old German and it’s complete bullshit what she says, no one does this.

[@joseluisceballos355]

It is just cultural. In the part of South America where I am from I more like what Germany is described, I grew up like that too. In the United States "the land of the Free" is not that free, you guys have more rules than most. We live normally, the parameters are set by parents not by the government or the police for that matter. We live more relaxed and the world goes round, the sun sets and rises everyday after the moon does its shift too.

[@MessyMeep]

In Norway everyone leaves their kids outside. Not cause it's hard to undress them, but because babies lungs develop stronger if they sleep in the cold air. They are strengthened by it =)

[@andrerobertdrouin3642]

In France some restaurants allow dogs , also sitting in a terrace kids and dogs are allowed

[@silkejantz]

Not sure if this is still the case today, but during my school years it was mandatory for every class to go see a concentration camp, usually in 10th grade

[@oceanmythjormundgandr3891]

I (Swedish/Norwegian) remember that one of my favorite things to eat was: Apples, carrots, radishes, avocado, and broccoli. Sure, I liked frozen pizza and all that too, but to this day, fruits and veggies are always stocked. It is sad when I can't afford fresh veggies/fruit. Germany and the Scandinavian countries have some real similarities in culture, lol.

[@katse1204]

I remember as a child I would always go to the bar and climb up those tall chairs. I would order a Sprite or a Kiba (Cherry-Banana juice) and drink it right there to the left a guy with a beer to the left a woman with a cocktail, my parents stayed back at the table or not even in the room. And I never had any negative experiences. To be fair it was a pretty small local place, otherwise my parents probably wouldn't have let me go alone.

[@RamsesUsermaatre]

Children are not picky eaters, they usually eat what their parents eat. If their parents eat only junk food so will their kids. It's the parents' responsibility to provide healthy food and set a good example when it comes to nutrition. Bad eating habits are often a sign of bad education.

[@kickatat]

in czech republic its not uncommon to see this stroller habit. i leave my baby to sleep in his stroller because not only is he in all the proper outer layers he has something called a Fusak its essentially a nice comfy sleeping bag made for the stroller. ours is rated to 32°f with his coat and outdoor softshell pants with winter jacket and hat its plenty warm :). i park him in the morning under my kitchen window and just crack it to listen for him.

[@stephaniehamer4182]

If you nomalise thing at an early age then they are not craved as illicit fruit. This means a lot of children do not go excessive as soon as they are legally able to

[@Kunoknarre]

its not just in Germany in Switzerland to we ar learning about history that's normal in Europe I would say

[@AP-RSI]

When I was a child (about 8-9 years old), my father would go to the pub every now and then to have a beer and meet friends. And every now and then he took me with him. This didn't bother anyone. I got a soda and that was that.

[@michaelap8563]

McDonald's is a once in a year kind of food where I used to live :D you had to drive for almost an hour to get there, but you could buy radishes and other vegetables around every corner

[@tamarak.8800]

(Neurotypical) Kids don't become picky eaters if they are introduced to all kinds of textures and flawors as early as possible, they need to explore foods before going to school.

[@nadinesilbersack4477]

In Germany we have different types of kindergardens. Like the classic ones where there are indoor and outdoor activities, outdoor ones where they are only inside to eat and use the bathroom, Montessori ones where they focus on artistic and movement activities even sport ones where they do all kinds of different sports and so much more.

[@KiKat373]

My sister was a couple months old when South Africa was playing in the Rugby world cup, dad had her down at the pub with him to watch the match, just covered her ears at the cheering. The concept of being quiet because the baby is sleeping will ruin the babies sleep, they need to be able to sleep through noise (although not necessarily such loud cheering lol)

[@alpenhuhn1]

Our parents put us in winter in the stroller and left us outside in the yard. It didnt even touch their mind that someone snaps the baby!

[@nellygooner8925]

Picky eaters are an endangered species here in Africa... U just eat.. ask no questions😂😂

[@abasudoh7459]

How will you pick when you're not the one cooking 😂😂😂

[@eddyspliff4090]

not just in africa, i was born in the soviet union, the only choice we had was eat or be hungry :D

[@Pausenton]

no no no, children are not picky eaters, in africa they eat bugs and chew on chickenheads. they get their pickyness allways from their parents.

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Everybody taste buds are different and some children just don’t like what they don’t like.

[@eddyspliff4090]

i agree on that, you maybe try it one or two times, then you realise it sucks to be hungry and eat whats there. i speak from experience :D

[@suicidalbanananana]

The only reason the rest of EU has essentially forgiven Germany is because they are very open about the guy with the small moustache (avoiding name for youtube reasons) being an totally insane lunatic that should've never come to power, right after WW2 we forced very strict agreements on Germany that they were not allowed to have an army, but these restrictions have been mostly lifted in the past few years because of how they see & teach about the whole situation now. I think there are still some laws about a maximum size for their army but that's about it, they've also made an very in depth agreement with my country (Netherlands) that we basically completely share our entire armies, that way we can both have relatively small armies but if anything ever happens we can have a decent army by joining forces, obviously the idea behind this still is related to Germany not getting a big army again.

[@hellpleasure1]

Well watching my Grandkids - i am surprised that they eat cucumber and butter bread rather than MC Donalds - - i call it good job Mom - no junk food - no fried foods all the time

[@johanndieters2594]

the history of the germans is far older than 100 years and it is important to learn what was wrong and what was right in the past. so the bad doesn't happen again....

[@storysnippet]

What could be the concerns to bring your child not into the bar? Where will the kids wait if they can't go with you? Who keeps care of them, do you have to pay a Nanny or are your 3 years old just waiting alone outside? Sounds not safe to me, how do you do it? And the real big questions for me, what is the problem that you see for the kids in the Bar?

[@franklinlambert4513]

Hi thanks for your channel it's much appreciated ,here in South Africa the drinking legal age is 18 for smoking too but it's so normal to see children younger do these things

[@HH-hd7nd]

7:10 Not true. If people behave like that you can be damn sure that half the restaurant will ask them to lower the volume - and if they don't it is also not unlikely that they will get a reminder but in less friendly words. If it is a normal restaurant it is also possible that they will get thrown out (that's a bit different for sports bars and clubs obviously).

[@ikeettgaming]

In france the good stuff is always accompagny by the tasteless one to make it bearable : you need vegie so we put meat with it and you eat both for expl . For kids its a way to say ho nice there is : smght you like to eat we dont say we put fish with french fries but he has to eat both at the end ^^ The purpose of a meal is not to have all the items good in taste , but a balance between healthy with the most good taste to make it enjoyable , not divine and super unhealthy .

13:24 That little boy had excellent taste - bread with radishes is indeed great! As long as you are using _proper_ bread, of course - not like that American stuff. 😉

[@BeckyPoleninja]

Most kids eat raw carrots, broccoli, peppers as a lunch snack. But McDonald s, Burger King is not a "dinner".

[@lizzymueller3604]

My grandmothers parents and aunt/uncle had a "Wirtschaft" - a place where you can eat and drink and sit for hours, mostly like the german version of a pub like a mix of a bar and a restaurant - and she grew up there. After scool she did her homework there and then she often helped working there (for fun, not the actual working way). She knew how to draw beer at 7 years old. But that was a long time ago and in a small town. I don't think it's common in bigger cities and today. But in family run places in smaller towns it could be, that the children are just around and get the ways. Also it's common for families to go there for lunch, Kaffee und Kuchen or dinner. Today it's mostly not allowed to smoke there in the inside - maybe in a special smoking-room. And I think it funny that in America little kids at 16 years old are allowed to drive cars unsupervised (are there actuall driving scools in America where you have to go several weeks for lessons?) and are recruited into military but drinking one beer is terrible and justiciable??? 😂 About the deep freezed veggies: those have actual more vitamins than frehs veggies because they are frozen fresh from the field and don't loose vitamins. About the history: don't forget what was - and still is - done to Native Americans. African slaves wheren't the only ones harmed. But unfortunately there are people in germany who think the cruels of nazi-germany shouldn'tbe thaught anymore because "not everything was bad"🤢🤮

[@OmariusHLD]

in usa old enough to go to military and let u shoot down somewhere in the world, but not "grown" enough to drink a cold beer ^^, stunnin

[@kimeggert3829]

in the nordic countries/germany it is normal (and totally safe) to leave the stroller with children sleeping outside,

[@Livingtree32]

Nope, nordic maybe, have never been to one, but definitely not in Germany. I’ve never witnessed that in my whole life.

[@isomario]

When she said random groups of children walking outside, I thought of Madeline even though that is in France. We do field trips to Plantations as well.

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

😂😂

[@Bella-hk3ds]

4:16 5:33 7:44 11:07 13:37

[@linovallebuona]

In Germany kids are allowed to drink with theire parents at the age of 14. But most german kids start drinking, smoking and taking drugs like weed in the age of 13-15. There are also the "Dorfkinder" wich start drinking at the age of like 8-10 😂

[@meinich5488]

Living in a northern village I tell you that is nonsense. Kids are not allowed to drink,and most of them are well aware that alcohol is not any longer accepted as as normal. It has changed during the last 20 years

[@Mimoza91]

The school I went to we learned about the history . I think even for a couple of your, we even went to concentration camps .

[@Ati-MarcusS]

congratz to you two for the 100k + from GermanyHaylie is a treasure

[@thaleis]

Here in France as in many European countries, many kids are sadly less and less exposed to healthy food. Whatever the reason (impoverishment, gen z parents ruling, etc..) kids are more into processed foods and less into raw vegetables. My niece (who is 16 years old) still an exception compared to her classmates. She like lettuce salad without any dressing…

[@ThSkBj]

Norwegian here. It was normal, at least when I was young, that students at around 14-15 years old would go on educational trips to Germany. We would also visit concentration camps when we were there. Totally normal. At that point most teenagers are well familiar with WWII history, Hitler's extermination of the Jews, his invasion and occupation of Norway, Vidkun Quisling's treason and coup d'etat. All the gory details.

[@dagmarbubolz7999]

With the alcohol it's like this. Either you do it with your child where it's basically in safe supervision, or it will do it secretly and bad things might happen. After 14 our kids were allowed to sip a bit of beer or a bit of wine, or mix it with water. Then later it would be the whole bottle of beer until they went out and drank alone with friends. Neither my ex nor I are exactly drinking much, I don't even drink the stereotypical wine. But I want them to know in safet how it feels, how it is to slowly lose control. I want them to know their red lines before they go all out all alone. Also while getting the alcohol, we still discuss how bad too much of it is, why never to do flatrate drinking, that quality and slow tasing is better than just quantity, my girl is especially schooled about k.o. droplets and that when she's drunk she will probably be taken advatage of sexually. I have a lot other problems with my son at school, but drinking and drugs are none of them (knock on wood it stays like this), my older daughter goes out alone with friends, but they are nice kids and keep their circle and don't do too much shit. So all in all the being lose and not strict with alcohol strategy worked in our favour.

[@queenbuzybee4074]

My parents took me to bars all the time in the 70s (I was about 10) in the US (Ohio).

[@rinynewton8297]

It seems horrible to me being watched all the time by neighbours to see if they can stitch you up for something....unheard of here in the Netherlands 🇳🇱

[@luismicael3123]

Há um ditado em Portugal que o fruto proibido é o mais apetecído . proibir nem sempre é melhor opção

[@ArthAlexLp]

14 years old is a kid? 14 years old in italy go to work picking fruits in the fields in summer alone, or do any other small jobs, they take they bus they come home. Often times in the countryside they learn to drive tractors..

[@CabinFever52]

You're such a cute couple! Why haven't you popped up on my feed before? I guess now because of Hayley.

[@christophballach5063]

1) Her descriptions of German eating habits are quite strange in some points: raw vegetables? I know cooked variants, main course or side dish, and salat. 2) It is so important to know history. Otherwise you won't learn from history and will most likely repeat same mistakes over and over. And learn about good side of your history as well.

[@lici5209]

Try it! Take some raw carrots or cucumber and cut it up in little mouthsize sticks or bites. You can also dip it in some kind of sauce or dip like ranch or cream cheese. It's really good👍

[@Nemshee]

You never had raw veggies as a snack as a child? I'm in my 40s and I never got out of the habit.

[@tamarak.8800]

My school lunch had always raw veggies, basically stuff you would cut into a Salat but just cut into pieces to eat as it was. That's also super common to eat for "Abendbrot" which is the evening meal, but it's a cold meal with bread and sites.

[@christophballach5063]

It's not that I do not enjoy that nowadays, just never got in my childhood

[@christophballach5063]

a healthy habit

[@dianegraham7145]

It used to be like this in 🇬🇧- not know

[@Splattercat82]

As german i think it's better to make the first alcohole experience and know what it can do to your body and senses before you sit in a car. Imagine you think youre a good driver just because you got the license sice 5 years and with 21 you drink the first time (not so much) , sit in your car and while driving in your head it goes "boom"....

[@Balkonstar]

Hi am from Germany and a mother of two. And belive me, nobody leaves kids and babies outside without supervision. This is not true. I would never do that and I live in the countryside.

[@RustyDust101]

Wow, you just blew my mind. You went to plantation homes in elementary school in Louisiana? So ages 6-10?!? That is VERY early. Well, obviously there are multiple ways to depict that, and how the topic is handled. But if it is anywhere near the gruesome reality, then that could leave elementary kids highly traumatized. Warning: sensitive topics under here. Proceed at your own risk. I mean it. Keep it civil, please. In Germany it is at the earliest the equivalent of middle schoolers, possibly freshmen, that a history class visits a concentration camp. So, like Hayley said, somewhere between 14 and 16. That depends a lot on the curriculum of the state/Bundsland, and the school regulations therein. So that is at least similar to the USA. I have to throw in that the 'industrialized' mass killing of so many people in such a short amount of time, in such gruesome ways, is maybe, somehow, even more impactful. Don't get me wrong; what happened to the slaves, the incarceration, the physical 'ownership' of their bodies, the forced labor, the punishment, was horrible. No doubt, nor do I want to belittle it. But slavery, as horrid as the concept is to us today, has been a staple of history among ALL people around the world. It wasn't just black people that were enslaved. It happened throughout history with all groups of people. Only until, let's say, the roughly 16th century and the age of colonialism under nation states, did the idea crop up that there were lesser and greater races, that some were claimed to be 'destined' to be slaves, while others were 'destined' to be the masters. Until then, EVERY group that was vulnerable to capture was regularly raided and enslaved. Romans, Germanic tribes, Celts, Picts, Gaelic, Greeks, Turks/Ottomans, Huns, the entire middle east, most of Africa, Asia, all people around the world enslaved their less defended neighbors and traded them like a commodity. Even among the indigenous people of America and Australia it was fairly common to take slaves during raids on other tribes. It was common practice to use other humans for both their work, as well as for 'breeding' purposes. Yes, to our contemporary sense of morality, it is horrible, and rightfully so. But back then, it was at least such a regular occurence that few people batted an eye at the concept. The Nazis however were the first that categorized humans into different classes on a whole societal level, industrialized and instrumentalized the gathering of whole populations into concentration camps, and worse, worked together and DOCUMENTED the killing of millions of people. Not out of just pure greed, lack of care or due to poor treatment, but the deliberate extermination of several target groups. That scientists experimented in ways to make killing people more efficient. (Yuck, I want to throw up as I write this). That's how I want to differentiate between the two evils. Both were ranked very highly on the 'evil' scale for me. Yet somehow this methodical approach to killing others as quickly as possible was something new during history. That's why I believe that kids of elementary age may (!) understand plantation homes better than the same age group would be able to understand concentration and death camps. But that is just my gutt feeling. Just to show how deeply even a 17 year old may be affected by the trauma of visiting Auschwitz in (todays) Poland: my nephew went there with his school choir to a trip to Poland. Not only for Auschwitz, but to see the country. He met loads of super-friendly people in Poland, was captivated by their helpfulness and friendliness. Then, on the last day before the choir left, they visited Auschwitz. He went through the concentration camp silently, with tears welling in his eyes (at least that's what a female class mate later related). When they entered the bus that took them back to the train station, the only thing he said was: "How can anyone forgive us? How can anyone like us today?" He was nearly completely silent all the way back, only answering direct questions, never initiating a conversation. At home he kept up the pretense that everything was fine for two more days. Two days after returning he committed suicide by hanging himself on May 26th, 2009. That's the trauma that needs to be handled. Teen depression is real, and it shouldn't be belittled nor left untreated, nor stigmatized. It was his conviction he'd be seen as some kind of looney that he didn't dare voice his depression, except to that same female class mate in chat. None of us knew about his depression, or his depressive tendencies at least. We all knew that he picked up on the emotional and empathic atmosphere around him, but never to such an extent. Note: I am NOT, under any circumstances, blaming the school system, nor on the habit of exposing teens to the history. It NEEDS to be done. Even the death of a loved one I cared a lot about won't make me back away from my conviction that teens have (!) to know about it. Otherwise they or their kids who were not exposed to it are doomed to repeat something similar again. Yet full mental health support for such traumatic exposure should be able to be provided. We finally have to let go of the stigma on mental health so anyone can get it when they feel the need for it, without any peer pressure or fear, no matter the age group.

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

First, our condolences to your family. Thank you for sharing how it affected him because mental health is something to consider when approaching these subjects. We’re aware slavery wasn’t forced on just Black people. However, slavery in the U.S. just ended 158 years ago and we still deal with the systemic racism because of it. It missed my grandmother who is still living by 68 years. Her grandparents experienced it.

[@RustyDust101]

@@TheDemouchetsREACT Oh I am not denying that the effects of the systemic racism in the USA is still lingering on right to this day. It was unfortunately exactly at the time that the USA was settled that the shift began of 'just enslaving everyone because they were vulnerable' to the 'we enslave someone because we believe them to be somehow lesser'. That's the part that still haunts the USA to this very day. It is still within the living memory. Ie your grandparents heard it from the mouths of their grandparents. Not as a written down story, but from personal experiences. They then handed it down to you, and maybe even to your kids. As such, this still counts as 'living memory'. Those are much more impactful than anything written down in some dry history book. Thank you for the condolences. It is well over 14 years now. I still remember the day, but it doesn't hurt anymore. It is still sore, but the pain is just a minor throb. My retelling the story was more along the lines of what should be considered when such topics are broached to kids and teens, when it might be considered age appropriate, and how to handle those that seem particularly affected. No, I am not fishing for pity or other things; I wanted to raise awareness of the necessity of both teaching about the dark past, but also how to assist those that might be deeply affected by it. Thank you for your kindness in answering me.

[@Sword_and_Crown]

I really don’t know just one single one who would leave their baby in a stroller left alone on the street! That is made up!

[@IngridRosario-n5h]

Not only the slavery in the usa, but schools should teach students about the Natives, how they got slaughtered and put into reservations, stripped off their language and culture! They are the true owners of that continent!

[@nelsonkaiowa4347]

Picky eating is not about the food but power.

[@lici5209]

Not true actually. Some textures made me severely sick when I was a kid. Still struggling with this today as an adult

[@busybee1066]

@@lici5209 same here, but luckily my mom was understanding. When she saw me struggling with chewing something that I found gross (easy to spot: I stopped breathing and tears gathered in my eyes), she took a pity and gave me a napkin for it. She always hated it when her own mom let her sit at the table for hours until she had eaten the last bit from her plate. even when she had to throw up after it.

[@busybee1066]

"Picky eating is not about the food but power." That sounds interesting and made me think about it but I don't really agree. I'll concede, that children who are choosy in what they eat, are very likely to get into arguments/negotiations about food with their providers, but that is not about trying to win power over them, it's simply about not having to eat things you don't like or even find revolting, whatever the reason. Being a picky eater doesn't give you a powerful status. It's not cool to be picky and I would rather be someone who could sit at any table of this world and happily eat whatever is dished out. Those are the guests everyone likes to cook for. But I am not an adventurous eater. I think what we like and don't like to eat is depending on local habits, family habits and last but not least our tastes and experiences as an individual. Also picky eating is a luxury for sure, like several people in this feed said: there are no picky eaters in Africa.

[@Nem01]

Nice video.

[@tubekulose]

So in the US you don't go out with your children then? And what about, let's say, beach bars during daytime? And what if you want to go to a restaurant and drink alcohol there? Do you always leave your children home or at the hotel room, if you are on vacation? I don't get it.

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

We go out with our children everywhere.

[@tubekulose]

@@TheDemouchetsREACT I thought children aren't allowed at bars. Now I am totally confused. 😕

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Check the pinned comment for a better explanation of the bar/restaurant differences.

[@tubekulose]

@@TheDemouchetsREACT Thank you!

[@Mondhase2000]

Greetings from Germany 😁🇩🇪 Don't get shocked but it's common here that school kids often have some fresh, raw vegetables and fruits in their lunch box! Some stripes of bell pepper or cucumber and an apple or banana are really common. Completed by some slices of bread with butter and salami or other sliced sausages. And with bread, I mean real bread. Not this toast stuff which would count as a cake here because of all the sugar in it. I mean bread with full grains and seeds or standard mix of wheat and rye flour. And as drinks they get either some milk, either pure or with cocoa or strawberry flavor, or apple or orange juices and at least one bottle of water. My mom prepared my lunch box every day and I always had it like this. And usually not much unhealthy snacks like chocolate bars or chips. That's something I just got at home, where my mom can control how much I eat, so I don't get too much. Thanks for her care cause I never got unhealthy fat😁thx mom😍And my mom cooked everything fresh each day. Nearly no high processed food at all, and so do I since I am an adult. I haven't eaten anything from McDonald's or Burger King or any other fast food restaurant since more than 15 years 😁and why should I?! My self made burgers are much better and making fresh Pommes isn't rocket science, you just need potatoes and a pot with oil😂hint: try making smashed potatoes with unpeeled potatoes. Cook the potatoes with their skin on until they are really soft and then peel it and smash it. Put some milk and butter, salt and either parsley or nutmeg (depends on what you eat with it. With fish or a Sunnyside egg: parsley. With a steak or some other meat: nutmeg) in it and a little bit of white pepper. You will never eat the convenience stuff again 😁

[@CHM1965]

With 14 you can drink beer, if your parents there.

[@perjus]

German kids will always be Kinder.

[@lutzweinschenk2471]

Don't worry, most german kids will prefer pizza and burgers 😊 like you said: depends on the education.

[@insideAdirtyMind]

Idk, our bread is very good, I preferred a good Bauernbrot with a crunchy crust as a child...and even know

[@Livingtree32]

Letting the baby outside and go in and have a coffee is definitely NOT common in Germany. In fact this is the first time I ever hear of it and it completely weirds me out. I don’t know what type of people this woman knows, but this has literally never occurred to me in my 34 years of life.

[@mynameiseve.1]

Omg Hailey again with her babys are left outside the cafe video. Sorry but hell noooo...this is NOT a thing here in regular germany! Maybe it was a township of 3ppl where 2 wer accounted for and then ya duh, i know who kidnapped the child!!!! I moved to germany wen i was 19. It is an amazing place to raise ur child, BUT DO NOT LEAVE UR BABY/CHILD UNATTENDED!! Please! EVER!!!! Nowhere in the world. Be cautious!

[@jewishzionist3322]

How peaceful is Germany now? Especially after the Austrian painter died in Argentina?

[@kessiawright1710]

I am Canadian and I was not sheltered from all reality. I do not even remember when I learned about the Holocaust because it was spoken about openly even as a child. I learned a lot at school, but I learned a lot from my.motjer. Roots, the original miniseries, aired in January 1977 and I watched a lot of it with my mom. I was seven years old. That is the first time I heard the "N" word. I asked my mother what it meant and she basically told me that it was a bad word like the "F" word and I wasn't allowed to say it. She said that the word hurts our Black friend's heart and it is wrong to call someone that. We went to a church that what was considered the only "Black church" in town. My family was the minority in that church and it seemed pretty normal to me. My mom was quite vocal on the "Golden Rule." It was not not my first intro into slaves because I knew there were slaves in the Bible. I remember seeing someone whipped on the show and that made a big impact on me because at seven, I knew it was wrong to treat anyone like that. My mother used teachable moments to teach me right from wrong. That conversation is something I have always remembered.

[@jermynryan2286]

In europe if u do something wrong....elders will approach u ,in every way!!! Talk strait to u but also explain why...