ARE FILIPINA WIVES REALLY MORE SUBMISSIVE? Let's Ask The Locals!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@southerneruk]

Damn Pea she to bossy 🙂

[@Sahrokh]

Filipina Pea, the Bible tells the woman to submit, not to be submissive. It looks similar, but there's a lot of difference! Because a woman can choose to submit even if she's not submissive by nature. Also, there's a lot of misconception about submitting. It's not just the woman who "has to" submit. It's the man, who has to prove her woman that he loves her so much, that he wants her best so much, that the woman accepts to submit to him so that he can give her the best he can.

[@americanandpinay]

My filipina says she is submissive, but it is only in the spiritual sense. She is more like Pea's logic at the end.

[@RoseBill423]

Lmao! U were totally into Braveheart at the end huh. Haha! U should have gotten his # lol! I personally think the English accent is much better lol. Good video and for Filipinas they are definitely!! More submissive. Especially when compared to NYC girls lol! Big difference

[@andrewc2670]

@@RoseBill423 which English accent, there are many different ones? There are many different Scottish accents as well in fact

[@prepperjonpnw6482]

Western men prefer Asian women for many reasons. A few reasons are: The traditional family values The loyalty and commitment Their intelligence They work with you as a team They have ambition and contentment simultaneously They appreciate a real man Their sense of humour Their absolute beauty And so much more ♥️♥️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍❤️

[@barbaraescuela60]

Western men prefer Asian women because they are the only women who still deal with a 100 year old man with backward thinking and cannot find a woman at home anymore.

[@wolfgangpagel6989]

There are different Asian women.

[@shayraecok578]

I second that :)

[@ericbeckersr4431]

Yes, all of that because the women in the Philippines that get in a relationship think it is we not I because they are a team

[@MusicallyInclinedful]

After 36 years of being together, the subject of submissiveness has never come up. Is my wife submissive? Yes. Is she agreeable? Yes. Did I demand that she be that way? No. My wife was introduced to me a meek and quiet person. She was unsure of herself and lacked confidence even though she's very intelligent and can speak 5+ languages. Once she understood her value she quickly overcame the mental obstacles she brought into our relationship. Did I mention she's not American?

[@charlesyoung9980]

When most people hear the word “submit,” they think of giving up control or power. This is not what submission in a marriage is about. When you submit to your husband, you are giving him authority and respect. You are saying that you trust him and believe in him. You are also communicating that you value his opinion and want to work together as a team. Submission does not mean weakness; it means strength!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m sure there will be lots of people who agree with you, Charles - I’m keeping track in the comments 👍😊

[@venomsymbiote7555]

This is exactly what it is. growing up i knew plenty of couples that lived the old ways. women submitting to men because they were the leaders. Now days???????...................... Well you could find it maybe 1 out of every 10

[@davidtesler1198]

@@venomsymbiote7555 Depends what nation and culture you are in. Those nations that do not follow Biblical law are usually failures. I do not make that rule but it is what I know of based on many years of traveling God's world

[@nozoto]

I perfectly agree. In a healthy relationship a couple always take their share of responsibility and stand for what they believe is beneficial for both. A submissive woman would give up everything to her husband and approve any decision, including the most revolting ones like gambling her salary in the casino. On my part, I can say the Filipinas I know are not resigned to their fate and passive, they're fighters. Because they're very shy doesn't mean they're submissive, I believe it's important to not confuse it with "accomodating".

[@buellrichardson5222]

​@David Tesler I will disagree with you. I have seen many cultures that follow the "word of God" and are some of the worst. I have seen cultures that don't follow and are good. It is dependent on how people react not their religious beliefs

[@J.J.C.JR.]

Lucifer once forgot his place and things didn't work out well for him.

[@tonyz.9748]

Hello Pea ! This is only the second time i’ve chosen to leave a comment but I’m a long time watcher of your channel , i’m going to speak from my point of view that I think a lot of men and women should consider , I am a retired counselor who worked in law-enforcement and spoke with many age groups, backgrounds, and races of people about there bad relationship and the problems that go along with and what it can cause ! Ok let’s start ! I live in the U.S , and for the modern woman submission is a dirty word , being that there hyper masculine and want to control their surroundings seem to be their goal in life but still have the benefit of what the man brings to a relationship , both supportive in monetary and security yet still being in control . To the masculine man that is counterproductive of what society or tradition says our relationship should be , but if a man makes this statement he is then shamed or called sexist or misogynistic ! I’m well aware you are familiar with this behavior , ( FYI I’m a black man ) BUT When we as western men look other places for a wife we are accused of only wanting someone to be submissive ! So to bring some clarity , The men that I talk to, the men that I associate with, those of us who are looking to your country and your culture for a wife and a mate we are not looking for submission ! We are looking for the one thing we can’t find here so let’s exchange the word submissive to compromissive ( to compromise ) From my opinion a real man is going to lead from love and respect ! Now speaking from the counseling in me there’s only one true thing to submit to and the greater entity is neither the man or the woman it is the relationship ! Two half’s making a whole ! Two lives becoming one ! There is a balance that must be maintained for harmony ! No one side can or should have there way all the time ! Both need to be happy so who leads and who follows is a level or order not a position of submission and can only found in compromising ! If anything I said sounds reasonable to you feel free to use it ! Thanks for reading ! Tony.

[@patrickmchargue7122]

In my understanding, submission looks like respecting your husband's point of view. It means humbly sharing your opinion with him. It means not invalidating him, especially in front of others. It means trusting his decision as a leader, while feeling empowered to give your own point of view. Submission is trust, not servitude.

[@Jammy_McButzinuisance]

Exactly. That trust is earned because the man should be making choices that honors his wife and kids and betters the family as a whole. A man that honors his family above himself supported and trusted by his wife are an unstoppable force.

[@reggiesmith5909]

Actually it's both

[@patrickmchargue7122]

@@reggiesmith5909 By "both," what do you mean?

[@Ink30]

Facts

[@vanceb1]

In my experience, people from the Philippines are polite and respectful. I think a lot of people from the West misinterpret that as submission.

[@vernondavis561]

As President of the Kansas City chapter of the Filipina Pea Fan Club, I thank you for another great episode.👏👏👏

[@ryanbelcher4092]

Love = respect = peace and harmony within a relationship. My Filipino wife trusts my judgment and I respect her input and desires.. even inspections 😉 hahaha

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Submit that thing for inspection! 🤣🤣

[@phantasmnine1384]

This is such a well-done video! Excellent, as usual.

[@randyguidry4958]

Good topic Pea. The term "Submissive" can have so many different meanings. Not all of them are bad. I think the term gets a bad rap because people automatically assume it means sexually submissive. When usually it actually refers to letting someone else lead in the relationship. That is not a bad thing as it is often destructive to have more than one try to lead.

[@nozoto]

I think I agree the most with the pink shirt and badge interviewee at 9:45 Choosing a follower position means you may submit and relent a particular point of decision, but it doesn't mean that you are a pushover in general. As long as you set your boundaries, you are not submissive in the negative sense of the term.

[@TraditionalAnglican]

What do you think Missionary is except submissive?!?

[@keith4826]

The Book of Genesis… How long ago do we think it was written and what language do we think it was written in ? I was raised by the King James Version. When do we think that was translated ? Languages evolve over time. English is spoken in several countries as a primary or secondary language and there are examples of words being used differently in each of those countries. My point is that the word submissive is like a poison pill to western women. When there is a crisis, I believe, historically speaking Men would lead. The wife would follow the lead of her husband. During a crisis there is little to no time for debate, or an argument. For example… the home is being attacked… husband says get the kids and go to the cellar… husband prepares to defend the home. In a non-crisis situation there is more time to discuss logical options. But there should still be a clear leader that has the power of veto.

[@alexandercouter5571]

When explaining my filipina wife's attitude to other Americans I often here the word "submissive". I tell them the word that best describes my beautiful loving wife is "cooperative".

[@annarbor94]

Great job on this topic Pea. I'm glad this is being touched on by a truly feminine woman because when Western women address this, it gets totally misconstrued and taken out of context.

[@poinom]

Hahaha, being nice doesn't mean you are weak. My Filipino girlfriend is wonderful, but she is not submissive, it's a matter of treating each other with respect. Piss her off and you'll find out how submissive she is. Another great vid from you Miss Pea. You have saved me a lot of trouble with your videos. Thank you very much.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m so happy to have helped in some small way ❤️👍😊

[@johnnypastrana6727]

A pissed off Filipina is far from submissive. 🤣 A bridge too far...

[@ericjames7819]

That's why she doesn't respect you.

[@paulhood6102]

@poinom your comment is so on point! I was about to say the same

[@destroyermaker]

@@johnnypastrana6727 Hell hath no fury like a Filipina scorned

[@RechVeilleux]

I’ve been married with my French husband for almost 5 years and when I told him about being submissive Filipina he laughed, he said it’s far from reality. We argued sometimes but as much as possible we discussed many things in making big decisions. But I am more agreeable with small things, and he does too when I am stubborn. 😂😂😂 so it’s kind of give and take.

[@chinchillatwitch7234]

As someone that dated a filipina before. They arent submissive overal. They want to take charge of the household decisions and they want to make their husband happy, also in the bedroom, aslong as he provides. Dating a filipina as a european guy feels like dating a girl that feels either a obligation or a duty to the world. Only in the bedroom filipina's are submissive, cause they are trying to please their husband, and most guys like girls that are submissive in that aspect. Fillipina's arent submissive, they are kinda femenist, they like equality but also lean into in femine roles and therefor expect their guy to be masculine. They divide the roles differently, but equal.

[@Badgamebro]

I don’t think they submissive. I think they want to treat and be treated with Respect! Going there in June! Thank you Pea

[@TheFilipinaPea]

We look forward to your visit 👍👍❤️❤️

[@jamichealgates]

That's what I thought too

[@siriactuallysara]

The concept of submission is not disrespect. a women being submissive to you is a gift they are giving to you to be cherished and appreciated.

[@gandalfstormcrow2486]

As men, it's our duty to respect, honor, protect, comfort, and support our wives and family. 😘🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@Absolutely_Positive]

Hi Pea! I am a long time viewer and happily married to an amazing Filipina from Cebu. I think the concept or idea of Filipinas being "Submissive" is fairly complex yet simple at the same time. To be clear, in general I do not find Filipinas to be submissive in the general sense. They are in fact very proud strong willed and at times stubborn. However, if you have their love and their trust they will always try to find a way to make you happy, and will do it at their own expense. My wife and I feel we are both submissive to one another. I submit to her and she submits to me. If she wants me to do or not do something, I do as she asks and she does the same for me. It is give and take, with the common goal of wanting to make each other happy. It never is a competition or something that requires you to "Keep Score" so while we do "Submit" to one another, we do it willingly because we know our partner does as well. I hope that all makes sense 🙂 Anyway, thank you again for all you do!

[@AphrooneRichardson]

AMEN-RA

[@free2roam674]

They are certainly not submissive in my experience. They are strong and resilient, sometimes stubborn yes, but overall they want to be an equal partner in creating a loving and effective team with you. For the most part they are truly lovely and loving. Of course you have to pick the right one.

[@Yamie1101]

I asked my mom and my sister about being submissive , for them, submissive is being faithful and loyal to your spouse or partner. Filipinas are cooperative but always a follower, i dont think so. We have opinion too.

[@free2roam674]

@@Yamie1101 The people are the reason I am retiring there very soon. But especially for the Filipina's; strong, smart, beautiful, funny, charming, loving and kind. I loved it there, so much.

[@Yamie1101]

@@free2roam674 Goodluck to your journey Sir.

[@G650Owner]

Love your channel. Your philosophy on a relationship. Is perfect. You're a keeper.

[@stuartloggins3691]

My girlfriend Marie is so hard headed. Shes very smart but she doesn't know about some things. And I have a hard time convincing her to do it my way sometimes. And so I watch her make mistakes. Really that's the best way for her to learn haha

[@TheFilipinaPea]

As long as she learns! So many of us do not 😳

[@JerryKorkoskie]

That's why I say to women submit to him and if he messes up it's not her anymore the burden lays with him and the mistakes he made but modern day women don't see it that to their doom I guess to say.

[@AphrooneRichardson]

Shout Out from Chicagoland, IL, USA! Thank Pea for the highly informative episode! Thanks you and ALL yor subscribers after I complete my 3 years technical training course, I AM ZOOMING TO THE PHILIPPINES TO FIND ME A FILIPINA PEA! Thank You! AMEN-RA!

[@Ed19601]

Submissive can mean many things. Filipinas in my experience are generally willing to let a man lead. But if he doesnot, she will

[@SunShine_sublime]

Yes, yes! True.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well-said, Ed 👍😊❤️

[@tyrelllee3276]

I'm working on getting my passport so I can come down to the Philippines. One to see how beautiful it is and experience the culture and two to find love. I hope to find someone who helps improve the relationship and work towards a better future. And never gives up. Never giving up would be a big one for me

[@natedaniels3655]

So how'd it go?

[@colenichols3580]

Your outlook on this subject is the same as mine as in many discussions, you have had❤ As far as the Filipinas go being submissive, I think that Filipinas can be stubborn sometimes argumentative if they think that they’re right about some thing, but also so loving and caring and thoughtful and wonderful

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@Dragon_rls]

Going “Gonzo” in the Philippines 🇵🇭. This is hands down the coolest country I have ever immersed myself in. I’m down to my last 10 days, but in my heart, I will always be here❤.

[@geecheelionmusic]

When I think of being submissive, submissive to what? A belief? A concept? An attitude? Not interested in a slave. Being a Servant to Each Other in the relationship is more important to me.

[@mkurb23]

well said X)

[@m.g.6394]

Submissive means you listen to your man and let him lead. There is no "freedom" in a relationship you're both meant to serve each other.

[@robertlalor8090]

Another truly amazing vlog, Pea. You reveal that the word "submissive" is influenced by one's culture. I adore your non-aggressive style of presenting and interviewing. You may not agree with what the interviewee says but you honour their right to hold their opinion. In closing, it seems that any man who wishes a "submissive" partner (in the western sense of the word) denies himself the essence of a partnership.

[@m.g.6394]

If a rapist breaks in the house you will have to fight and die protecting your wife, not the other way around. Men have more responsiblity, and responsiblity is connected with authority. A woman submitting simply means she respects your authority and lets you lead. Relationships for men is committing, relationships for women is submitting. You can NOT have a partnership if the man doesn't commit or if the woman doesn't submit. Your country embraced "equality" you embraced "50/50" in relationships and now you have some of the highest rates of divorce in the world. You don't what the hell you're even talking about.

[@m.g.6394]

@RJ Sandefur men have more responsibility therefore more authority, Husbands should be masculine and commit, wives should be feminine and submit. End of story. This is how it's supposed to be,

[@m.g.6394]

@RJ Sandefur Men should be masculine and commit, women should be feminine and submit. Men these days want to sleep around, they don't commit. Women want to be feminists, women don't want to submit. Men don't commit, women don't submit, and that is why you have so much divorce. If you tell a feminist "don't go to clubbing, and don't post pictures on social media in your underwear" you tell a feminist that and she will tell you to piss off. But if you tell a submissive woman she will respect your authority and obey. I would never tell my wife to kill herself. You literally used a *strawman fallacy* which is illogical. If you actually had a background in biblical theology your IQ would be at a sufficient level in which you wouldn't be using a strawman fallacy to defend your flawed viewpoint. No, she doesn't have to "obey everything" but she still has to respect my authority, let me lead and obey me in certain situations. I committed to provide and protect for my wife, so she submits to me and lets me lead. This is how it's supposed to be. Submission isn't slavery, submitting means the woman respects the mans authority, lets him lead, and obeys him in certain situations.

[@robertlowe6696]

@@m.g.6394 you literal described a controlled wife. Not a submissive

[@petergapsis5526]

great video, Pea. You raised a lot of important issues. You were awesome.

[@rogandbingofbingalahtravel3680]

Hot topic, Pea! I find it sad that the word "submissive" has become, to many, a bad word. Submission means to support. I support my boss at work. I don't fight him or her on every turn. Ultimately, it's their decision and I go with it whether I agree or not. I am also a boss at work. My worst employees have been those that fight me at every turn. Submission allows for a chain of command but a good boss allows for the voice of the employee to be heard and seriously considered in the end. In most relationships, one person ends up being the leader anyway, sometimes the man and sometimes the woman. That's just how it goes. It's human nature.

[@haroldwalls6591]

Pea, first off, let me complement you on your choice of dress for this segment. Your dress is very attractive, brilliant and classy. It says, "caution, you might fall in love with me, and though I may not return your feelings, I will be kind while you are here." That said, I love your intelligent, articulate content. Of all the You-tubers out there with "Life in the Philippines" content, yours is the gold standard. I have been in an LDR relationship with a Filipina in Davao for 4 years and due to circumstances (finances, Covid, finances...in that order) we have never met in person. Your content is so 'real', I feel very comfortable with the idea of embracing the Filipino culture and eventually embracing my GF. Thanks for bringing it home. Great job!

[@geecheelionmusic]

I see Sweet Pea just the way you've described. But it's too late. I have already fallen in Love with Her, a long time ago.

[@yoyojoe9240]

Being a submissive woman is sexy, but Not to submit to the extremes. A 50/50 relationship is good for balance.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍😊

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Thanks for your content Pea. My dad is an awesome dude but has been single for a long time. You’ve given me the idea to take him on a holiday to the Philippines. Worst case scenario he doesn’t meet a lovely Filipina and we just have a great time. So thank you!

[@golgo13fan53]

My Filipina wife tells me everyday that she loves me and respects me; she says I'm her "Happy Place"

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That’s so sweet! Just make sure to visit her happy place, too 🤣🤣🤣❤️

[@michaelwilliams7594]

Thank you so much miss pea I really always enjoy watching you bring so many beautiful subjects to life that people can discuss every day questions that is present my answer to the question is I do not think the Filipino women is submissive. I just think that if you are a man that brings a lot to the table and if it is something that she is interested in, she will go with it. But if she does not like it, and you are not stable enough to take the wheel, she will give you the deal lol the Filipino women that I have dealt with will never stand for disrespect. Not that I had to experience it firsthand, but I have seen them in action. My idea of my Filipino women have to be a woman that is able to take charge even if I am the breadwinner but however, just as long as I know that she can manage the money she can have my money, but if she does not know how to your not getting nowhere near my bank account it’s too much for me to lose. I would love a smart woman to take control when I’m not able to. She would be welcome to help me run my business and I’d love a woman that have a opinion and I don’t want a woman that I can run over I want her to be like wait one minute buster we’re not going to do this like that. I think that is so sexy and you will see me with the googly eyes 🥹like yes, honey. What must we do next? Lol I believe it is all about respect for each other a 50-50 situation, but in my situation it is just so attractive to see a beautiful woman take control of me I’ll bow down like a puppy lol sorry but here in the US it’s annoying when they do it because they have the attitude of if you do not do things my way you will be replace like Beyoncé said to the left to the left lol I don’t like that type of woman in US guys love to travel and the bottom line is I do not care nothing about people calling me a passport bro lol because I am a high standard guy in the US as well and I have no problem getting a woman here so I’m not, as they consider a reject and flying to the Philippines to get a woman because no one else want me that is not the case with me. I just love the Philippines I just love the Filipino women and I love being friends with the Filipino guys it is very easy to talk to them guys, I always have a good time talking to the fellas as well in also looking at all the beautiful flowers that is in the Filipino garden. Well, that’s my point of view of it but you give-and-take, but as far as me, please take more and give me the business lol PS you’re little puppy dog lol 😂 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Lol 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶lol😂😂😂 cannot wait to go back in June. I bought a condo in Manila and I have not been inside of it yet so I will be for the first time in June going in my apartment that I purchase I’ve been trying to get back every since 2019 now finally, I’m going back had to make sure someone run my business before I go back. Cannot wait to see you guys lol thank you, Miss.pea ❤✌🏾🌹

[@jmnasman]

My Filipina wife punched a boy in the face who was teasing her and made him cry when she was in elementary school. Definitely not submissive and I love her with all my heart always and forever.💖

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@JJ38255]

Did the school and her parents put her in detention? If not , then uuuh ooohh 😂

[@eddydavis9548]

One of the biggest things I like about your Vlog is, the audio. Very understandable, between you and your friends.😊

[@eddydavis9548]

Looking forward to your next post.

[@Crossing-Blades]

When I secure my position in my life I’m looking to bring a new life with a beautiful Filipino wife!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I hope you follow that plan 👍❤️

[@jayroc3337]

Western mentality is creeping up on the Philippines.

[@theking1446]

Hey Pea. I don’t think anyone truly understands submissiveness. It’s their own interpretation of what each thinks. There are filipinas who are willing to do what ever their boyfriend or husbands tell them to do. Within reason. I hope. Most men are not there looking for a woman just to command them around. Filipinas are the most loving women on the planet. Anyone will be in heaven if they find the right Filipina for them. Just need to be in the right place and time. Thanks for the video Pea. See you Friday

[@tony9305]

Very cool video. I like the raw interview videos on the streets the most. Thanks Pea

[@laserbeam002]

Another very good post. Thank you. First people need to realize a marriage/relationship is a type of organization...and in all organizations there needs to be a leader, someone who makes the final decision. That doesn't mean it should ALWAYS be the husband. I had a female cousin who believed the husband should be the final decision maker but sometimes she would take the lead and her husband would agree because she had more information and experience in certain areas. My mother was a wonderful woman but she was not quiet and submissive. But she was wise enough to know that in some areas my father should make the final decisions.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍👍 In the kitchen, I’m the boss. In the office, he can be the boss. In the bedroom … well I’ll have to let you know 🤣

[@laserbeam002]

@@TheFilipinaPea HAHA....very good. Seriously though....too many people confuse the term "submissive" with agreeable. Just because a man or woman/husband or wife wish to be agreeable or conciliatory they think of that person as being weak or submissive when in fact it is a desire to see the organization/marriage properly function. In my job our manager present a problem...they reach out for feedback from the employees....BUT it is the managers that are task with making the final decision. It works, not always perfectily but it works. Thank you

[@kendonius4928]

@@TheFilipinaPea Is Pirate Pea going to make an appearance later that night?

[@markhills6802]

Thanks for the video Pea! What a great way to help us understand what its like there in your country. It helps me see and understand what we are missing here in the west.

[@jamesmartie2683]

My wife is a filipina , and we make the big decisions together she is very intelligent, and we make better decisions together

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@LifeandLoveinthePhilippines]

Just let me sit next to you and help you navigate. For me that was the best line of the video for your own personal views. Excellent video Miss Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️👍

[@marierocher4422]

It seems most Filipinas are supportive. I think term supportive is much better term. Good topic. Thank you.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍❤️

[@marierocher4422]

@@TheFilipinaPea thanks Pea. Really like your topics. 👍

[@johnnypastrana6727]

Excellent point...

[@jeffs.7412]

Hello Pea, enjoyed your video very much. Good content and very interesting 👍 God bless and thanks again

[@rickmcneil2162]

Pea!!! If some people think that way, they never met my wife. This is the first Filipina I have been with and she is far from passive. She is equal to me or better. She is seldom wrong and she is extremely smart. Best woman ever.

[@chrisrichard-tk3tt]

Happy for you, man.

[@theAlphatron]

Submit intransitive verb 1 a: to yield oneself to the authority or will of another : SURRENDER b: to permit oneself to be subjected to something 2: to defer to or consent to abide by the opinion or authority of another The key is consent, submission is a choice! You have to consent to be submissive to another. If you are unable to do that within a marriage as a woman, then you are not submissive.

[@glenproctor1999]

You're early today! On the ball and very keen! Judging by your videos on what a Filipina wife or girlfriend can do to a bad man, I would say they are far from 'submissive'! Wanting a secure and loving home life isn't 'submissive' in any way! I imagine you can well stand up for yourself lovely Pea! Fascinating topic once again ❤🥰

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I did the ‘daylight savings’ time change - I wish they’d just end that nonsense 😳👍❤️

[@glenproctor1999]

@@TheFilipinaPea I agree wholeheartedly! The UK goes on 'summer time' at the end of next week! My poor weak brain will be labouring for months! 🤣 ❤😘

[@clydekimsey7503]

​@@TheFilipinaPea many in America agree with you

[@aaronmays4355]

I really appreciate this Pea. Ty!

[@danpenner9424]

I came to the Philippines, not to find a woman but to find a beautiful beach property to buy and live on. Now the only choice as far as dating goes would be a Filipina. I found a wonderful widow with two teenage children, and we have a great relationship with a lot of love and respect going both ways. I don’t believe that our relationship is submissive on either one of our parts but rather a relationship built on give-and-take and understanding each other’s cultural differences. And since I am living here in the Philippines I am the one that has to learn the culture. My New Year’s resolution the year before was “patience”, this last years resolution was “more patience”

[@thnaykhwam6554]

Admirable 👍👍👍❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@Dutchy-1168]

Good for you …that’s a good attitude

[@jeffreyadams359]

Yes if you’re from the United States first thing you have to learn when you get here… is? Patients and more patients especially if in the city

[@Dutchy-1168]

Would it be better to rent a house ?

[@btekwindsolar]

What a beta, you went there and found a widow from all that choice? Wow you're nuts.

[@MG77740]

This is my case for the Christian model that we’ve been using for 30 years. My experience with Filipinas are that they are as submissive as anyone (not submissive). In my wife’s case, it’s true that she is traditional, family oriented and awesome but not naturally submissive. She is a Christian, so from this point of view, there’s a form of submission but it’s not the same form that a non Christian would think of. If you marry a Filipina, you’ll surely have the kind of marriage that the type you create according to your orientation in true, selfless love. If you show her that model, it will be yours. If you base your relationship on something else, then one of two results will likely occur. 1. You’ll break up 2. One of you will need to be subservient to the other person’s selfish desires and that subservient person will be the guy in most cases. On the surface both the Christian and non Christian marriage involve servitude and obedience to keep a marriage. There’s no escaping it. There is a difference in the nature of the submission of the Christian and non Christian models, also. The Christian model is voluntary and the non Christian model is involuntary, involves obedience to God’s Will (selfless love) vs obedience to the will of person who spouse who values the relationship least, creative power vs coercive power, fear of God vs fear of one’s spouse, academic discussions on disagreements vs might is right, trust vs resentment…. It’s important to understand how Christian disagreements are supposed to work. It’s teamwork. There’s only obedience to God and the truth. When the husband proposes something he needs to show that the decision is coming from the right place and serves the wife and not just anything he wants to do. The wife needs to use her discernment and question a doubtful decision. However, if it is right, she needs to fall in line if he’s representing the truth and not dodge it. Right needs and reasons need to be established and both need to participate. As a man, he does have responsibility as to show leadership and also provide. The wife needs to help him do that. It’s not that the Christian marriage is invincible but that it provides an opportunity for happiness that the coercive model could never have.

[@fodaysankoh8930]

You're right, "submission" is a loaded term. My Albanian girlfriend insists on doing the cooking, cleaning and all the housework band takes care of me but in NO WAY would I ever consider her submissive. Neither would she. We're partners.

[@Georgios1821]

There is no partnership

[@fodaysankoh8930]

@@Georgios1821 Yup.I's a partnership

[@Georgios1821]

@@fodaysankoh8930 No a partnership is between equals. Men are taller,stronger,smarter,more sound and exceed women in every aspect except from caring and that's because women have naturally a mother instinct. Men are mad to protect and lead. Every decision must be made by careful consideration of the two but the man is the one who has to make the decision l.

[@Curleymctell]

Pea, you're so awesome! You ended with the two things I was waiting for; trust and logic!

[@sharhune2735]

A relationship is a partnership. I don't want to be a dictator. If my partner has more experience in a certain field, I'm going to listen to her. It is always better to talk about it and come to an agreement. Take care pea and see you Friday.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️❤️👍

[@quincycamo7577]

I've said this before, anyone who says that Asian women are submissive has never been with an Asian woman. Whenever you get more than one person, SOMEONE has to lead. That doesn't mean deferring in everything, but the man HAS to value the opinion of his wife and listen to her wisdom. But if a decision has to be made, the deferene is to the husband. Now guys, having said that, IF your decision ends up being the wrong one, be prepared to pay for it for a very, very, long time. A good woman will only submit to a good man. A good man will understand her value and EARN that trust.

[@MightyWrighty92]

I really love those 'girl next door' shorts 😍 I had to pause it there for a few minutes!

[@wolfgang548]

It doesn't matter what culture she's from, 1 good is enough for me. And I'm not looking for a slave or a maid. I'm looking for a partner.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️

[@robertputt7794]

If we are gonna go by the Bible, we cannot pick and choose the parts we like and leave out the rest. Men ought to love their wives as there own body, and do what is best for their own body. He that loves his wife loves himself... Great Video P Pea... ❤

[@Cowboysfan4ever]

I agree and I have never seen a butt so precious it doesn’t need a spanking once in a while. The Bible speaks of spanking of your children and if you love them you will so they don’t grow up to be fools. Before everyone loses their minds about spanking a child, remember this I said spanking NOT ABUSING THEM. We have proof that the time-out generation DOESN’T WORK!!!!

[@robertputt7794]

@@Cowboysfan4ever amen John! Beat them with the rod, it will not kill them. Actually, my mom had anger issues, I got my butt tore up for things I didn't know I did, but she told us when we were older that no one had a problem with her kids coming around, because we were well beaten, I'm mean disciplined! 😆

[@robertputt7794]

@@Cowboysfan4ever it's all good John. Thank You for being a real man! I'll erase my comments. I apologize for my comments as well. I've done the same thing... God Bless

[@Cowboysfan4ever]

@@robertputt7794 I just erased my comments also and have a blessed day also. GOD Bless our country and families always

[@George-ux6zz]

Hi Pea. Frankly I'm a bit like you. I like an intelligent woman. Someone I can have an intelligent conversation with. I like talking about politics and world events. I yearn to learn I guess you could say. If a woman is submissive in the literal sense I wouldn't be happy with her. Agreeable, supportive is fine. But major decisions should be talked about. I wouldn't go buy a house out of the blue, go home and say, pack up I just bought a house. That's not fair. I like being fair. Have a great evening and God bless you Princess Pea. 🙏🫠

[@keithedwards4468]

WOWWW Te second half Commentary at the end of this video SIMPLY GORGEOUS ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@paulstan9828]

That’s good to hear because I never thought women in the Philippines were submissive. If anything they will always give their opinions.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

😊😊😊👍

[@johnlane8403]

Wow I love your channel. I discovered your youtube yesterday and have watched over 20.. I feel like I am binging during the workday and late in the PM(AM). LOL You have such great content. Better than the other videos that come up after I watch yours. I have never been to the Philippines, but I am surely thinking about it. At least visiting. Who knows, maybe I would be a snowbird 6mos in the West and 6mos in the East when I retire.... not long to go! :) Well keep up the good work. I look forward to more of your wonderful videos and what I can learn next.

[@captainmango1355]

Finally! I can get in on these videos as they are posted! How does a Filipina settle an argument? Tampo! Haha! A woman who leans in the direction of submissiveness is great, but I don't feel that a marriage without being challenged will last, two heads are better than one! So, Pea, are you saying you'll agree with me as long as I'm right?🤗👍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

One of the interviewees says the same thing exactly 🤣👍

[@nozoto]

But Tampo is a passive resistant approach based on silence. To find a healthy common ground, a couple must share viewpoint and that can't be done without sincere and respectful discussion...

[@HearThuth]

Your final response Pea was absolutely spot on, and perfect of what a man wants as far as submission. Submission does not mean dominate, but being a copilot is perfect.

[@ctw2770]

I'll probably edit this because I just started seeing this but a good example of that is this morning, 8:06 a.m. eastern standard Time US, my Filipino fiance showed me some pictures of a house. I want us to be in this 50/50 because I think I have to make the decisions and I want us to decide together. Now that I finish looking at the video, one of the things that I do is not taking the lead on anyting. I think it's because if something goes wrong I won't be blamed for it. I see now that most Filipinos want you to take the lead.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Deciding together is always best 👍👍❤️

[@DennisSleeswijk]

There’s nothing wrong about your approach on how you take the lead. You want your partners voice and that’s a good thing. But it’s only your partner who can show you that she acknowledges your position as the head of the family, which she can do while voicing her opinion. But at the same time, the head of the family (you) takes responsibility and accountability if bad decisions were made. And when you take that without any blame game, you’re a good leader. And if you have a good partner, she would still keep on supporting you even if some important decisions were made poorly 👍🏼

[@eddieslittlestack7919]

Wonderful work Pea! Thanks for hitting the streets for these interviews, I’d be to shy.

[@raygalles2517]

Years ago I was told by a married peer that the 50-50 model for a successful relationship is a fallacy. He told me that the reality is 100-100. Basically both parties must be all in as a team. Funny how modern American women that I attract are "game players." Good interviews. Thank you again for the information. Attractive ladies; yourself included Pea.

[@someguy861]

🤔...🤯

[@subn0rma1]

In the west, it's seen as "submissive" to approach your relationship as a partnership rather than a fight to the death.

[@markieone12]

Great content Pea . It always amazes me how men are quick to bring up wives are to be submissive ( as far as Christian religion goes ) . As a husband we need to read ahead of that verse lol . Men are told to love his wife as Christ loved the church . Never tell a wife to be submissive , just be sure as a husband to do your part , love her unconditionally , never impose your will and have her best interest at heart . If she knows you have her best interest at heart life will be a lot easier . My Filipina wife used to be quite stubborn but as time went on and she saw that She and our family are my top priority she has become what i guess some would call submissive . We always work together and use each of our unique skills to make our descisions .

[@SHANKSY1]

Excellent content FP. I agree with my fellow Scot that you interviewed. Keep up the great work 🙂

[@alanbarnes3569]

Hi Pea, if you ask a Filipina to make a decision, the answer is often “it’s up to you.” The fear of getting it wrong prevents them from deciding to do something because that may lead to an embarrassing situation and it’s all about saving face, as you well know. The trick is letting them think they’ve made the decision, when you’ve led them towards that choice then everyone is happy. God bless. Have a good sleep 💤

[@bobdobbs7828]

It's up to you unless you make the wrong choice then TAMPO

[@gigipalma2247]

When you hear a filipina, tell you, " it's up to you," bro.. it means it's a warning not to make a wrong move😂

[@JFKuehne]

Iol, I've been hearing that for 25 years. When I make that choice, it is always followed by "No". Learned a long time ago that if it was a choice between two things, voice my selection as the one I do not want.......

[@jamesfisher1545]

Great video Pea. I'm in total agreement with what you believe about relationships. Both parties should talk and find agreement on issues of importance. And listening to someone else point of view can be enlightening and educational. I think you summed it up well.

[@spincube5734]

I don't view relationships in terms of dominance & submissiveness. I view a relationship as one of mutual respect in the recognition & complementation of each others strengths/weaknesses to resolve problems & make decisions as a team. Great topic. Thanx Pea !!

[@mikesolns1364]

Then you must be a simp

[@arnoldjohnson3317]

That would be great. Too bad the number of women that can reason and resolve is not likely what you end up with.

[@spincube5734]

@@mikesolns1364 Your paragraph comprehension skills are grossly lacking & you apparently don't understand the definition of the word simp.

[@jjess4]

The one interviewee said that being submissive means keeping your thoughts, wants, and desires to yourself will certainly kill your spirit. Being submissive should never mean that the couple doesn't talk about decisions before they're made. Submissive is but really an accurate or all encompassing word. Sharing dreams about life direction should always be an open flowing conversation that melds together to share one vision for their lives together. Relationship longevity means listening to each other, taking up each other's passions and dreams as a life mission. "What do WE want from this life?" But couples are supposed to adopt the behaviors that are pleasing to their mate. What most foreigners are wanting isn't submissives, it's beauty, loyalty, sense of family, and showing love and care outwardly with behaviors, not just words. Another excellent inside view of what Filipinas think about that word. Those that bash passport bros honestly don't have conversations with the "victims" they think they're advocating for.

[@eddietowe8897]

Being submissive doesn’t mean you don’t have an opinion or the ability to contribute to the decisions. There must be a dialogue and discussion that occurs between us. Her opinion is just as valuable as mine and so are her feelings. I need to know how she feels and what she is thinking. We make decisions together.

[@b-bobowens3851]

Great video! And the way you feel about submission is a great way to be!!!

[@nozoto]

Personally, the women I have talked to who are "submissive" have chosen the role by choice. Many Asian women are into BDSM, but that doesn't mean they are victims in their public life. Just that they like the idea of losing control, during their naughty time. Of course, there are always abusive relationships, like everywhere. But I absolutely don't think Filipinas in general are victims exploited by richer men with higher status. Not at all.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You must’ve watched my ‘Yellow Fever’ video 🤣

[@nozoto]

@@TheFilipinaPea I even commented there 😂 Well, the word is all the more difficult to define, as it has this sexual connotation as well. I believe it's important to point out that sometimes, women enjoy to lose control on their own accord, too 😉

[@Joeysgonerogue]

Thank you, Pea. Best, Joe. 😊

[@mikesolns1364]

Submissive wife = happy life

[@s.c.6367]

I just discovered you 2 months or so ago and you have videos that are two years old? Where on earth have I been. I'll have to binge watch you. No problem I will catch up. I'm almost there. I'm in Southeast Asia..😃🙏🏻😎

[@jimgilbert9984]

I enjoyed today's video. Thank you, Pea. I don't want a submissive girl for a wife. I want a PARTNER, someone who will share our journey together on equal footing, not just keep her head bowed and do whatever she's told. I want someone with her own thoughts, opinions, wants, and needs, and she's not afraid to express those things. I'm not perfect (far from it... lol), so when it comes to a big decision - like the one woman said - the more brains used to make such a decision, the better. Or, as we say in America, "Two heads are better than one." With both of us examining a big decision, she could see pros and cons that I could miss. A submissive girl would not speak up when needed, but a smart woman would, which would save us both big headaches later. I like how you put it, Pea: Filipinas are agreeable, not submissive. They may be more traditional, but that doesn't mean that they're going to blindly do whatever they're told. They'll speak up when they'll need to, so good for them! Thank you again for another informative and entertaining video, Pea. ❤

[@mikesolns1364]

Simp

[@beng0327]

I agree with you. My fellow Filipina is so wrong about this. I hate the adjective “submissive” to define me. Let reason lead between the two of you. Whoever is better in one area should lead in that area.

[@m.g.6394]

@@beng0327 if a 6'6 rapist breaks into the house your husband will have to fight to protect you, and he is expected to die for you Men have more responsibility, and responsibility is connected with authority. More responsibility = more authority Submitting means you respect your husbands authority and listen to him, and let him lead the relationship. You can lead in some areas, but overall he leads the relationship. Damaged men can't commit, damaged women can't submit. Expecting a man to commit when you don't want to submit is total ignorance.

[@beng0327]

@@m.g.6394 Men don’t have more responsibility in this age? Wives work, too. Protect me by himself and I just stand there? Are you kidding me? I will protect him and he will protect me. We protect each other. He may be bigger and taller, but I work out. And I can shoot a gun maybe even better. The way my husband and I divided our responsibilities is fair. Equitable. I don’t submit to him and neither does he submit to me. We discuss every decision, and come to an agreement, even when it comes to my children which I birthed by the way. We submit to logic and reason. And whoever is better at it leads that particular area. He cooks for us because he is a chef. I clean the kitchen. We do the laundry together, and we fold our own clothing and put them away ourselves. We clean the house together. We clean up after ourselves. Respect, kindness, cooperation - that’s what we do. I massage him, he massages me. No one has more authority. We have to agree and we always do in the end by compromising. No one leads, we walk hand in hand. I don’t think he would respect me if I submit to him, like any self-respecting man should feel. And I don’t think he would have liked that his mom submitted to his father, and his sisters to their husbands. We listen to each other. That’s how you build intimacy and understanding, and prevent resentments. We feel both heard and valued in our relationship. And we put the other first if we have to choose one. But most of the time, since we will end up putting the other first, we come to an agreement on what’s best for our family. We have three daughters. All good people and all accomplished and all have great careers. Thank God they are not with a man like you. They chose guys like their father. Not one time have they heard us fight, yell at each other, much cuss each other. Don’t even tell me how a man and wife should be.

[@beng0327]

@@m.g.6394 we married when we were very young. But we had a better idea than you do at your age of how to have a good marriage.

[@thirstisr34l]

Wow it took a while for this interview to be uploaded but we finally found it! Would love to have a longer discussion about submissiveness because I don't really understand what women want nowadays. I hope to be a part of another interview!

[@someguy861]

Be careful everyone. If you insist on being the head of the household, your partner will insist on being the neck that controls the head. 😂

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@raquelfatal9959]

😂😂😂

[@gregbeck7276]

Hi Pea Ioved your broadcast. Most people don't understand what the word "submission" means. It's two words joined together. " Sub" meaning under ie submarine is a vessel under the water. So " mission" is your goals and direction in life. What's your mission in marriage. Both parties have to have equal input into what they want out of marriage and where do they want it to head. So when a wife sub mits to her husband she in fact is saying you lead me to the goals and directions that we've both chosen in life. She knows where they're going but there are so many facets in marriage to look after ie the kids so she let's her husband make the right choices to get them to their destination. Just like both a pilot and copilot are in the sane plane heading to same destination but both have important jobs to do to get there. Hope this helps. Ps as a Christian my submission to God is to know what His goals are and to follow His mission in life heading same way.

[@charlesyoung9980]

And for those who want a "50-50" relationship, just remember it's "The 2 shall become 1 flesh," Not, "The halves shall become whole."

[@jairusmedley8246]

I would not say that Filipinas are submissive but have higher emotional intelligence than their Western counterparts. They think of the relationship and family as being more important than themselves. Instead of thinking what they can gain from the relationship, they think what they can contribute. Much love Jairus

[@gilfelribeiro7212]

EXCELLENT job... thanks. Blessings

[@Semiam1]

I see feminism has found a home with some of the ladies.

[@Rusty-Brown_]

yes it has and it is going to get worse !!!!

[@briankeith9584]

"Relationship Agreement," Pea?! 😂 Somebody's been watching too many episodes of Big Bang Theory!😂

[@mypassionis3498]

i am a Filipina married to my Filipino husband for 22 years. Im not submissive but instead supportive to my husband, caring , sweet & loving to my husband & to my family but im the boss in the family because my husband always ask me the final decissions hahhahaa nah he just love me so much,

[@TheFilipinaPea]

And he obviously trusts you, too 🤣👍❤️

[@mypassionis3498]

@@TheFilipinaPea Hi Ms. Pea thanks for the reply I'm your fan. Been to siargao?

[@davidtesler1198]

Families and cultures that do not follow Biblical rules for family fail and fall into chaos. In a proper marriage the man if he is really a man will make all decisions that pertain to the family in a worldly sense and the wife will make those of the heart and family love.

[@JasonSavorn]

@@davidtesler1198 100% Woman’s struggle is to deny her will and submit to her husband, a man’s struggle is to make decisions based upon what’s best for his wife’s growth and not for himself. Each has their own struggles that are intended to help them grown in their relationship with God. Women a woman isn’t submissive to her husband, she is rejection God’s perfect will for her life, resulting in not receiving God’s intended blessings.

[@mypassionis3498]

@@davidtesler1198 In Filipino culture husband is the 'Haligi ng Tahanan means Foundation & the wife is "Ilaw ng Tahanan means The light" We value marriage so much & family most important.

[@Lync1111]

Thanks for clearing this up Pea. Many are completely confused about the word and it's meaning. A lot of this is due to social programming. And it goes " So as we buy into trends many sheepal shall follow" without realizing why. (Advertisements) are out there for a reason 100% to sale us on something the machine wants. It's called team work and people should stay out of others affairs and mind to their own and allow love to chose from our hearts and that trusted place of understanding the two in the relationship, hence everyone else stay out of it. Sana All Pea ☕

[@TheSlain1969]

For me as a westener it’s not so much about a woman submitting herself and her life to me. I very strongly believe in traditional values, but I would never ask my partner to put herself down for me. In my last relationship (with my now ex partner and mother of my kids) we had an agreement that either one of us would work full time and the other one part time. I don’t bother on helping out and taking care of the house, kids, cooking or what ever, I think life is all about finding a balance that suits both partners. I do like the fact that Filipina’s are more agreeable then western woman, who are growing more towards careers and becoming financially independent. I do think western society is build around that, both partners working, it has become a rushed life.. While in Phillipines that seems not to be an issue just yet! I think that’s one of the strengths of your beautiful country 🙏🏼❤️ LNL from Belgium 😊

[@BigBrainBro74]

@philipinapea thank you for the videos you make! I moved to dumegete from Minnesota and met my wife here and your videos gave me a lot of useful information to give the confidence to meet her. Thank you! I recommend any foreigner interested in the Philippines to come and watch some philipina pea videos!

[@DONTHURTMELOL]

If this interview was done in the United States, at least 8-9 out of 10 women would say "they would want take care of all the decisions and men should just follow whatever it is they want."

[@christopherv3048]

I love women who want a 50/50 marriage and not follow another's lead. Marriage is a business - when you're in court or officiating your marriage, it's sometimes in a church, but almost always in front of the government. And like most, if not all, businesses - there is usually a CEO. The sole person who is responsible for ensuring the company is successful. Women don't want to follow the lead, but when it requires physical strength like automotive repair, housework, home defense, that strong, independent 50/50 goes out the window real quick. When war breaks out, let's see that equal partnership then. I'm not saying leading 100% of the time - if my wife is a HR Block Tax savant, I'm following her lead come tax season. But under most other scenarios, if he's bringing home the bacon, providing, and doing his purpose, then I see no problem with a woman following his lead.

[@ericburgin2296]

Good subject Pea I agree with your opinion, no one should totally rule over another person. Anyway when it comes to decisions and problems I believe in research and discussion. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐♥️

[@danshroyer8932]

I liked the general consensus that a relationship is a partnership! Being on a team is about goals people have strong points and weak points figuring it out is where the answer lies! Pea your comment about sitting beside you helping you navigate was spot on! Men like to think they are stong but a real man knows when to let her take the wheel and he will submit somewhat to her! Teamwork makes dreams work! God should guide you both ❤️🙏👣👣

[@allenschneider4006]

been married to my best friend for 54 years. it is 100% both ways. great video.

[@tedsell1455]

Wow , Big Difference in American Women interviews. ! Best Women in the World just Happen to Live in the Philippines 🌴

[@MrLawrence7777]

Another Great 👍🏾 Topic brought to us by, "The Filipina Pea". Great 👍🏾 Video, Excellent Commentary My Sister. Keep Up the Great Work You are Doing. Shalom 🙏🏾 Fam