WHY FILIPINAS SAY WHAT THEY SAY (And Do What They Do)

Why Filipinas say what they say, and why Filipinas are the way they are, has baffled foreigners for generations, and many of you who are interested in dating a Filipina have written me with questions about your situations. Figuring out why Filipinas act the way they do can be a funny, frustrating, and surprising process, but I'm here to shed some light on the subject, so today I'll be answering your emails. Tis will be fun! ‪@TheFilipinaPea‬
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[@TheFilipinaPea]

👉My videos and the effort I put into them are 100% free for everyone to enjoy, and all I ask is that you leave a thumbs-up on any videos that you like and subscribe to my channel - I have never, and will never, ask you for anything else. For those of you that still wish to support my channel further, however, I’ve posted my links below. Thanks! 👉 Support through PayPal: www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=GC9T7PMLZ3BDW&source=url 👉 Patreon: www.patreon.com/thefilipinapea Join this channel to get access to perks: kzbin.info/door/rm4tEQqTrUP3MwB2G1mjHwjoin 👍🎬SUBCRIBE TO: kzbin.info #TheFilipinaPea

[@anjieology6057]

Pea, from where you come here in the PH?

[@benmat]

Hi pea, i disagree with you about the "single status on facebook" question... My filipina and I are in a french meetup group of about 20 filipinas and most of them are married with french guys ... and most of them didn't changed their facebook status before being married. The main reason is to prevent from chismosa, and also to prevent family members from asking for money ... and i guess also to prevent "friends" from improving their crab mentality ...

[@RoseBill423]

Awwww, I've asked u many questions too but didn't pick me ...soooo sad lol!! Good video tho

[@ChristianClark]

..no worries Ms Pea.,,,,I have not talk to any Filipina over a year LOL

[@libertycan6959]

do you have an email for questions?

[@PlatosCaveInc]

I was teaching my Filipina wife how to drive one summer. She was extremely nervous and kept over steering when making turns, not to mention, slamming the breaks whenever I tried to correct her. Finally, both she and I had had enough for the day and decided to return home with me at the wheel. As I pulled up to our house, I asked her if she wanted to try parking the car. She turned to look me in the eye and stated rather dramatically, "No you go fark yourself okay?" Although shocked at first, seeing as I had grown accustomed to her pronunciation of English words, I quickly regained my composure and simply parked the car myself...

[@Mind-BlownMoments]

cool

[@ronprince1478]

😳🤔😊👍

[@marka.8535]

Funny yet gut wrenching at the same time. One time I was with my wife at the time, unfortunately not a Filipina , and she seemingly sincerely told me I was the best husband in the world and one minute later exploded at me and said she wanted a divorce. I brought it up a few years later and she said “ it’s not true “ ,I never said that “ my ex wife’s emotional I.Q. Is that of a toddler 😢

[@flinx649]

I've been married to a filipina for 20 years... I still learn a few things from you Pea... i wish a lot of this information was available to me years ago... it sure would have made things easier in our relationship.

[@makeitpay8241]

the book "culture shock" helped me years ago & i think it's still in print

[@Murph_.]

Truth, it would have been great to have all this great information from Pea before marrying my wife also. Would have made it much easier.

[@TadiKAT]

NO DOUBT!

[@mikaelp1957]

Pea your personality is solid 10 and intelligence rocks!

[@TadiKAT]

Hello Lovely.... I met my Pinoy husband in the early 80s. He was fresh out of the Navy & being Pinoy, living with his Mom & Family... before I knew it his Beautiful mom gifted us a Wedding. My husband saw a Beautiful Caucasian & pursed me relentlessly. I fell in love with his family & wanted to be a part of it, not knowing what I know now. We honestly didn't know each other. We've been married 37 years now. I'm Eastern European, German, by ethnicity, blonde, green eyes & very fair skinned. He was born in P.I. & the Family came to the States to live the American dream & were very successful. They've retired & moved back to P.I. We visit them there.. so I've experienced the Culture. I found ( in general) Pinoys to be closed minded & very indoctrinated into Catholicism, whether they like it or not & most young ppl don't, they tell me. You were right about the lying.. by both Pinoy men & women. Another factor is my husband is a total Mama's Boy. You've mentioned how we women need to feel protected, the physical attributes of Caucasian men, their stature, etc. In my experience.... I now wish I'd married in my own race. I've missed the Tall handsome Caucasian men, the facial hair & a soft furry chest.. haha. My point being; get to know someone for a long time before jumping into any different culture. There is so much we don't know when we're young, so many things to consider if longterm. Physical features, food differences, Religious indoctrination ( them), the list goes on. My husband would've been much happier, also, if he'd chosen a Filipina in the longevity, he doesn't agree but I know this to be true.... be well..stay blessed. 💗

[@Leonardo-1]

Too late now Ms Dinero !

[@gorrgekazzahn7049]

I just want to leave a comment here. Pea, you are super smart and any man who wins your heart will be very happy. I am absolute impressed by your videos and quite frankly they should make you Tourist Minister in the Philippines.😃 Stunning work you do and your openness as well your friendlyness is not comparable. I wish you all the best.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow, thanks so much for that, Gorrge! 👍❤️😊

[@gorrgekazzahn7049]

@@TheFilipinaPea ♥️🌹♥️ Salamat

[@gregoryharrison6602]

Pea I greatly agree you are very special young Lady And NOW are YOU single I wouldn't never expect that to be possible but I need a lady just like you if you're unavailable beautiful

[@captainmango1355]

I have two rules: 1. do not steal from me! 2. do not lie to me! and lying is the theft of the truth! (see rule number one!) Thanks for another insightful video, Pea! You look sensational in that dress! :)

[@danielleatherman1936]

Haha, I love these Q&A sessions. My wife and I went through the ringer with the lying-over-little-stuff thing. One day, I just decided to lie about every single thing to see her reaction. It got the point across and I relayed to her a few instances where it could possibly be very dangerous to lie. We had much better conversations after that since she knew where I was coming from. There are still occasional times that I know she is "saving face" but they are much less frequent and don't really matter. Then, she always looks at me afterwards like she knows I will get her back. Ironically, she now calls out her friends and family for lying for no reason.

[@lyradm1]

I have done the same. Lied my ass off. With the shoe on the other foot things changed quickly.

[@ikeskifan]

i just called my new girlfriend of 1 week out on a lie. she could see how it hurt me. i goasted her (tampo back at ya). She saw I was ready to dump her. I told her all about saving face, and I would dump her if she EVER LIED TO ME AGAIN.she admitted it, and I put a total stop to it. She now KNOWS IF SHE LIES I WILL CATCH HER. Then she will be alone again. You lie, and I am gone.

[@Josh-rn1em]

@@ikeskifan that doesn't change a person's base personality. They just become more clever about it

[@derekallen4450]

@@ikeskifan yes good advise fight fire with fire 🔥

[@JayB-JayB]

Filipinas are classy, fun, intelligent, and incredibly beautiful. (i.e. Fritchie and Filipina Pea😍😍) Sadly, North American women seem to have exchanged their beauty and kindness for bitterness and resentment.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That sure doesn’t sound like a good trade! 😂

[@JayB-JayB]

@@TheFilipinaPea 🤣

[@secretagent86]

omg spot on re: Fritichie and Pea (Angel is also fabulous). Lawyer Gracey is married but simply GORGEOUS... lucky guy.

[@peteb6072]

Jay B When did you meet my ex?

[@zsualite7984]

@@skatefulfill Look at Twitter western women and men. Beta males and females.

[@AZrakoon]

As a Spanish speaker, I can understand what your conversations are about just with some words that you say.

[@derricksmith6573]

The language issue I resolved by learning enough tagalog to know what my wife is saying. Learning enough to get by isn't that hard. And it makes the locals happy that you've tried. The cultural differences can be annoying or funny. It's all according to how you look at it. Besides, a little frustration is worth what everything you get in return from your Filipina.

[@oahuguy3918]

Totally agree. You have to meet your Filipina half way... put in the effort to learn her dialect.

[@ksem_ch3186]

True. Personally i came to Thailand with intent to study Thai language in order to speak with Thai girlfriend/wife properly, because i cannot see how people manage relationships when they are unable to communicate their plans and feelings. My GF had zero skill in english, so we used translator at first, but later on i gained unreal amount of perks because of learning local language. Though, after some time living in Thailand i am now thinking about moving to Philippines, because it is impossible to get permament residency/citizenship in Thailand. A lot of people are afraid to learn additional languages and that's quite a shame.

[@panan7777]

It's all according to how you look at it. So IS life, So is life. Watching a Lot of these videos, there are people that got a perfect angel and there are people that got the perfect devil......and anything in between.

[@MawuliWare]

I told my Filipina girl that I am talking to that I wanted a day to myself when I come there she laughed and said no no I come with you everywhere.

[@jemmrich]

haha they are clingy I'm learning but it's cute

[@jimjimsandbern9382]

@@jemmrich Bull Shit. Who in their right mind wants a clingy woman?

[@nodaysoff2005]

@@jemmrich yea, if you are insecure. I am getting my day to myself. I don't like a woman under me 24/7

[@awakenotwoke1973]

With her machete.

[@HaydenDavidson6]

You obviously know she is not gonna let you go free with another girl for a day. 😅

[@davidogden8370]

Thanks for the video Pea . From these questions it makes me think that some guys aren't paying attention to your previous videos . Yes you have gone over these things with us . Pay attention to the content of the videos guys , not just the scenery...

[@Kurt54321]

That was a good video. I spoke to filipina who was the breadwinner of her whole family and when she was in relationship with a foreigner, she was afraid to post about it cause all her cousins and uncles start showing up looking for handouts, thinking she was rich now. Lol

[@rickylee6129]

I know that theory 😏. Dealing with it right now.

[@joekahno]

I don't expect the girl I correspond with to be bragging to her friends. Until we meet in person we're both just digital ghosts. I have tracked down as many of her social media accounts as I can find. If she's a party animal she hides it well.

[@gregorybrown6739]

Yeah! That happens all the time.

[@davidjames5727]

There is not a week that goes by, that my Filipina wife of 8 years does not receive a message from a relative asking for money. They always use the word borrow, but in the Philippines borrow means never pay back !!

[@andrewwatkins1561]

When I began corresponding with my Filipina girlfriend two years ago, she said, “lying is the thing I hate the most”! Unfortunately, I took her at her word and now realize being called out on a lie is the thing she hates the most.🤣

[@bigchief8440]

Great information Pea. Thanks so much. You are the best!

[@andybraithwaite118]

Keep the videos coming little pea .. loving how informative they are ..thankyou

[@paulstan9828]

Thanks Pea your videos are always interesting. I find myself looking forward to them twice a week. I always wondered why some Filipinas dressed a little extreme when they are with a westerner. I didn’t know it was because they assumed the westerners liked it that way. See you next time Pea! 😁👍

[@ShimaS-0079]

😎😎😎👍thanks for the info. Trying to learn more filipinas has been interesting. Your videos provide clarity 🙏. Look forward to next video

[@andrems]

That was a great episode. I loved that format!

[@Srichardson64]

I disagree ...a lie is a lie... leave her on the side of the road and look for an honest woman period

[@quackersna]

Agree with you entirely. This excuse of being innocent as long as you don't admit you're wrong will carry over to larger lies too. Trust is a basic foundation of any relationship. If you can't trust her to be truthful with you then you'll always be questioning everything. Better to end things and find someone more honest.

[@robertbaker3834]

Yes dishonesty can never be accepted……. Trust is key

[@TheNativeTwo]

You guys are misunderstanding what she is saying. She is talking about Hiya. It’s the worst thing for a Filipina and they will do what they have to, including lie (often a lie of omission), to avoid it. It’s like death to them. And not understanding hiya is gonna mess up any relationship you have with a Filipina. Don’t expect it to last. I try very hard not to bring shame or embarrassment to my wife, and it’s difficult not to cause hiya, as a westerner, since I don’t know all of the rules. We’ve been married 22 years.

[@tobias6013]

@@TheNativeTwo You can justify and rationalize all you want. Accountability is the highest form of respect... (Hiya) is about saving face which is the highest form of selfishness. If there is anything good or golden that Western culture can bring to the Philippines it's honesty.

[@dud3man6969]

Zero tolerance for any kind of bs is the only way.

[@davidplatter7671]

When the Filipinos around me aren't speaking English, I just smile, and wait for the opportunity to join in and speak some Tagalog. It never fails to catch them by surprise, and the shocked look on their face is always amusing to see. Of course, they immediately assume that I either have a Filipina wife or girlfriend, so if you're looking for a Filipina, it might be best to stick to English. 🤣

[@davidjames5727]

Yep, always shocks the locals when I answer back in Tagalog....for sure when they have been talking about you for 10 minutes, thinking you dont understand anything they are saying...ha

[@Dudanation12]

It's my dream to be fluent in Visayan and go through the whole day with a girl and her friend chit-chatting in their native tongue about me. And then I'll just chime in on a conversation after they've said something really nasty or embarrassing. "Yeah, I understood everything since the beginning." haha

[@oahuguy3918]

No dude. I disagree. The more you use it (Tagalog) the better you get. If you speak the language, it shows you're serious about establishing a relationship and they will find you even more attractive. Lucky you!

[@rev.charleswilson7084]

Blessing sweet Pea, another very informative video as always, delivered with charm and grace. Blessing to you and yours Pea.

[@jonathanleach1050]

Thank you! I so appreciate your friendly demeanor and articulate helpfulness!

[@skaterboybasic]

I love watching your videos , I'm in a relationship with a filipina in cebu city going on 8 months now, she's wonderful amazing . and your videos also help me learn more of the culture differences, thank you so much, you are doing an amazing job .

[@walterpont2882]

Don't let them rip you off. Her family is not your issue.

[@skaterboybasic]

@@walterpont2882 yeah I know . her family don't interfere in our relationship nor ask for money . thanks .. Ya I was keeping an eye out for red flags like that just in case

[@burstingwizard975]

Appreciate the insight Pea. My great-grandfather fought to liberate the Philippines back in the 40's and I'd love to visit the country he fought to save. You look absolutely gorgeous btw, hope you and Jen are doing great

[@doneown503]

There are subtle but distinguishable differences between women from different parts of PI , each one is a jewel onto herself!

[@burstingwizard975]

@@doneown503 I expect so. The Philippines has over a hundred different languages so there must be a bevy of subcultures

[@Brian-qb1ns]

My grandfather and great uncle were there as well. Was some rough times. Seen their personal photographs

[@donsettie3799]

Get in line wizard,lol.

[@burstingwizard975]

@@donsettie3799 ?

[@Crazykid949]

I love the way you end with a laugh for your audience, it keeps them hooked right until the very last sound you make. I think you are doing a wonderful job with the delivery of your information and hope you keep it up with the energetic and humorous delivery as well. Much love From Canada

[@joekanka2894]

Great video Pea You are the best -- I could listen to your advice all day !

[@glenproctor1999]

Love how you give it to us straight lovely Pea ❤️😘 I think you find bad people and cheaters in all cultures. Just need to try and make sure before too much commitment. (you said that Pea!). 🥰❤️

[@ronedee]

Unfortunately, honesty is high on my list of attributes. I understand it's a "culture thing"...but, it's a detrimental one. To me anyway. No amount of sex & beauty can overcome lies.

[@andrems]

I agree. It's very hard to me to accept lies after so much deception in the past.

[@ejtaylor73]

Completely agree!!!! Honesty and faithfulness are the 2 most important traits for me.

[@homebasebelgium359]

I'm completely on your team, Rone, André and Eric! I have been cheated so badly by my ex that dishonesty now leads to an instant break-up!

[@TravellingMan20]

Its a cultural thing, Filipinos don’t see lying in the same way as Westerners. It’s no big deal for them, whereas many of us hate it after experiencing a lying ex. I tell them from the start, don’t even think about it.

[@brian_atc]

Agree big time. If she says she's at work and then she's at Mom's all day, not ok at all.

[@bobward9547]

Pea, ur videos are extremely valuable and I for one appreciate them

[@wmjohns881]

Thx Pea, I. Have learned so much watching your informational videos. 🙏🏽❤️

[@orvillelb]

Thanks Pea very good information. Dishonesty is a cancer here and there. It would be very hard for me to have a relationship there with it Being ok to lie Probably would not last very long. I have a tendency to avoid folks who are less than honest.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Me too! Honesty MUST come first with me 👍😊

[@michaelfreemantle4295]

Me too. I visited a girl in Botswana. We had been chatting online over 2 years. I discovered she smoked. She lied about it. Then other lies. I asked her to leave my accommodation within 24 hours of meeting her in person.

[@NeverGiveup-go7og]

@@TheFilipinaPea honesty is very important good for you Pea 😀🌴🌴🍺

[@stub4958]

Great video. Scottish guys can be hard to understand. Back in my military days, I was sitting at breakfast with 3 other Americans, a Scott and and Englander. The Scott said something, we looked at the Englander. His reply, "Don't look at me, I didn't understand what he said either." Accents can get away from people. I'm from South Carolina and my southern accent has gotten deep when I'm around my family, or had too many Red Horses!

[@119jle]

I can fake taking Scottish and British. It’s hurts after a few sentences. Lol

[@blackwaltz3135]

lmao :D

[@guyandre4946]

You need subtitles 👍🤣

[@woodpeckery]

@@119jle... Fake taking? It is hurts? EOP

[@stub4958]

@Jim Shepard Sad part, one of the Americans was the best at figuring out what the guy was saying when he went full on Scottish.

[@Wolfgang.Berger.Curso.Aleman]

As usual, great advice. And to the point.

[@johnclark7973]

I love it when you let us inside the minds of Filipinas, the good and the bad. I have never talked with one before, so this is invaluable information to me. I won't be so "fresh off the boat" when I get off the plane 🛬 . Lol

[@The1mannishboy]

Pea, your insight is way above average, on every topic and your presentations are always interesting and entertaining. Thank you for what you do and see you next time.

[@brianbaxter3913]

Hi Pea. That was very interesting. My ex did 2 of those things you mentioned. First the language thing. She told all her friends English only please and in most cased they would stick to that but then slip back to their native language. For the most part this did not bother me too much as her friends would always speak to me in English and would translate for me if they saw I was interested in what was being said after all I was there to learn as much as I could about the Philippines. I remember going to a party there and not a lot of the people were speaking English but I still had a lot of fun. The other thing was there was a few times she expected that I should pay for snacks or food for all her friends. It was never a great amount but it adds up after a while. I have learned a lot from my trips to the Philippines and I know when I move there I will find things that will annoy me but that happens here too. Just have to take the good with the bad and one day at a time and enjoy life. BTW you look so lovely as always. Keep smiling and stay safe

[@vinnboi2228]

My long distance filipina girlfriend changed her Facebook status from single to in a relationship with me the day we became official you're totally right about your opinion on that guy's situation that girl is definitely hiding something because Filipinas are proud and happy to tell everyone about their boyfriend 😁

[@SuzySuziko]

i just had to say, I am constantly impressed by how brilliant you are, and how clearly you explain things. Wonderful! :)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow, thanks Suzy ❤️👍

[@raymahannah4336]

Great video! Love the reference to all of your videos that your early subscribers have already seen... 😉 A wealth of information there about Filapinas! The common mistake that many guys make with women universally, is that even when the information is being given that will help us with all types of interactions, some of us still have difficulty listening and following instructions... 🙂

[@kenangerstein3561]

If I am with Filipinos and they begin talking in their language, I just jokingly say, " just let me know when you start taking about me". Then laugh. Usually breaks any potential tension.

[@morrishooks7536]

Hello Pea! I been listen to your video's for a very long time. And have lived in Philippines for last 7 years. I am 68 years old. The one common denominator that seems to be addressed (and it needs to be) is the lack insight, wisdom, smarts (you name it) that a lot men lack concerning the women here that are not the right ones to get involved with. You cannot know someone by video's chaats alone. This amazes me and most of these guys are in their 50's or above. They lack what I call street smarts. I think you get the term. and while you can offer them advice for situations here about women they really need to learn. And not be moved by every pretty face filipina. You do a great job of exposing things and I would think that you would need a body guard (smile). Kasi the scamming women probably want you gone. I am thinking some of the things the guys need is common sense. they think with the wrong head. I hope they listen to your council and learn for themselves. if it looks like a leopard, smells like one and act like one, then run away!!!!

[@nandorblue]

You hit the nail right on the head! That's why the saying "Nice but stupid Kano".

[@Mr.Gump5780]

You sound like somebody I know…smart

[@jamesmichaelfrank]

Great video miss Pea ! Thank you for the information and entertainment .

[@Rama_Guru]

as always great work

[@davidgreer1435]

“How hopefully lost you really are.” 😂 I love the advice in these videos. Subscribing to your channel and watching the older videos should be a requirement before any single guy looking for love goes to the Philippines. Just my thought. Keep up the great work, Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well if you are, I’ll try to get you out of it 😂

[@rayintoledocebuphilippines5517]

My wife's favorite answer - she has a lengthy conversation and I ask what did they say - she says -- they said yes

[@Herv66]

I cant get enough of your videos 🤩🥰You really give a lot of good information

[@DadeReLLiK]

Always a great video!

[@StanHasselback]

The lying about the little things is probably the most distressing of the cultural difference. If I could give any advice to Filipinas its to try and be more honest with someone you are in a relationship with. For most western men communication is the key to having a long term relationship and lying makes communication difficult.

[@beno6198]

Facts can’t be honest I’m out. What they don’t one is there are a lot guys who will spend that bread if she asked for it. Or will try to act like they have money but really don’t.

[@eddiedelagrange7637]

Absolutely right.

[@mojojojo114]

Pea, you REALLY freaked me out when you suddenly started speaking your language! I've heard it before, but you were speaking to other Filipinas, so it was expected. To suddenly start speaking to "us" in videoland in your language was kind of trippy. I was like "wait, what the hell just happened here?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Too funny.

[@Dudanation12]

I honestly thought she'd pull that off earlier than she did.

[@mitchellswenning6058]

Great video Pea! And the Princess Leia skit was your sexiest yet!

[@cookemike]

EOP, that is a new one I learned today. Thank you.

[@williammiller4464]

To the Scotsman.. Learn the language and don't tell anyone until you are totally annoyed...then jump in. It usually changes the mood quickly. Especially when you say something after they were talking about you. Cebuano is not hard. Waray is a bit tougher. Just remember that you don't want sili when speaking waray.. Unless that's your thing 😂

[@keinlieb3818]

Haha yeah, I got in a bit of trouble saying "silly" as I called my then girlfriend "silly" and both her parents perked up and my girlfriend immediately corrected me.

[@Galahad54]

I think I can be a little silly, even (or especially) in Waray. Mine said 'It's good to be silly', well actually gu ti ay silly (her translation).

[@Dudanation12]

I once said "bisong" in front of my gf's mom thinking it meant something else. It gets tricky when you're learning a bunch of words at the same time when they're both normal and bastos.

[@oahuguy3918]

Why would you hold that a secret? I would use the dialect every chance I get... best way to improve, unless you're intentions are to be sneaky.

[@allanlugo8095]

Thanks pea....really good advice at the end....but in all fairness not only in the filipines. I seen that scam in other countries..like. Mexico..Santo Domingo. And mostly in Colombia...see you Friday..bye

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Allan! Yup, I’ll be back with Gracey on Friday 👍😊

[@johnsranchlife8634]

Great video. Informative keep them coming

[@johngatliff7648]

Coool, enjoyed your video information. Keep up the good works. Ingat ka lagi

[@stephenbruce8320]

Thanks for sharing, Pea. I have gotten stuck with the dinner bill when I was in China. Honestly the bill came to $45 USD and it fed 10 adults and a few children and there were 10 1 liter bottles of beer on the table. You can't get 10 12oz bottles of beer for that price here in the states. Thing is everyone that ordered a beer ended up with 2 and I noticed this everywhere I went. I guess it was a cultural thing. I don't really drink all that much I prefer to be fully cognizant at all times. I don't know about someone asking me to get them pregnant. I am out of the baby making business, I had a vasectomy back in the 1990's. Anyway I prefer someone who already has children and have retired from baby making.

[@kasperkjrsgaard1447]

Just don’t tell about the vasectomy .......... 😉

[@playthroughcinema]

stephen, can I ask why you prefer someone who already has kids? are they different to single women?

[@cras17]

Must have been back in the day in China or in a small city. Nowadays China is nearing western levels of expense, especially in the big cities. Ph is a much better destination, although less opportunities for employment.

[@walterpont2882]

No. When in China they are supposed to pay for you. They were scamming you.

[@Dudanation12]

For me, it has nothing to do with the cost. It's all about the "expectation." If they don't even ask if it's ok PRIOR to coming out, it's really rude. And then being lavish because it's not their money is another thing I don't like.

[@timklindt1697]

For 99 percent of Americans loose the make up we love your skin I have 35 years of experience filipina are beautiful especially when they don't use makeup

[@davidboskett5581]

The point is most Asian women dont need to use makeup and they dont start getting lots of wrinkles from the age of 30 This is not the same for European women who need to use make-up to hide all their blemishes

[@FrankinJax]

Love the new backgrounds. :)

[@olyman63]

Awesome show thank you Pea. You nailed it again. Also great information one day these guys will understand what you are saying.

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

When I first went to the Philippines to meet a girl who I had been writing to (yes, writing. That was what you did then) it was like I suddenly became some sort of rock star. Wherever I went it was like all the female eyes were on me. (Very bemusing to someone who nobody wanted back at home, however, I wasn't complaining!) However this did reach somewhat distressing extremes when mothers would basically propose to me on behalf of their daughters. These would be complete strangers on the street! When I have been over there with my wife, she will sometimes forget that I don't understand Cebuano, so I don't know what they were discussing even though I was physically there. When I am reasonably sure they are discussing something I should be in on, such as travel arrangements, my usual tactic is to ask if someone would please translate for my benefit. That usually switched the conversation back to English.

[@samfeikema9447]

I once had a store owner offer me money to marry his daughter. I politely declined but I'll never forget how weird that was.

[@Niftynorm1]

Good morning Pea, you hit another fun homer with this one. I remember when I was in the PH (many years ago) if I took my girl to dinner suddenly 2 of her friends showed up and just expected me to buy them all dinner. Being a sailor with a full wallet it was no problem at the time but I see it is still going on.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh they probably attacked you like piranhas 😂😂😂

[@jamestaal8924]

This is not a proper answer

[@jamestaal8924]

There is still some ehtical manners to be look for

[@woodpeckery]

@@jamestaal8924???

[@woodpeckery]

@@jamestaal8924???!

[@davem475]

YOU ...are SUCH A JOY to watch that words can not describe it !! I AN CONSTANTLY AMAZED at how well you present the REAL world and how practical too !! U R Da BEST Pea !! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

[@kranzonguam]

Good video! Been between cultures and languages for most of my life now. A lot of the misunderstandings described in your messages really are just cultural differences playing out...(not the last one though 😕) Thanks for helping people translate!😊 Take good care!

[@glengilbow8068]

It’s very unfortunate about the “lying culture” in the Philippines. I’ve been there six different times and even considered making a Filipina my wife. After so many times and catching them in lie after lie I decided “lying” was a way of life there. The lies made me decide against marrying one of them as well as being considered as a source of money for everything under the sun and every emergency real or made up. Hopefully Pea can help to change this way of living unless she lives the same way of life which I’ve thought she doesn’t from seeing her videos. That being said there’s many good things about the people there which are evident early on if you visit there.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I absolutely don’t live that way, and I consider all lies to be wrong. I think the obsession with ‘saving face’ is a stain on our culture

[@Dutchy-1168]

When you come across people who have no money ….you will always get screwed ‼️

[@glengilbow8068]

@@TheFilipinaPea Thank you for the reply! I didn’t think that “the lying culture” was your style, that’s the main reason I subscribed to your channel. What made me interested to marry a Filipina in the first place was the emphasis on “family”, taking care of the parents and of course that the man is the “head of the family” not to mention the Filipina’s natural beauty and femininity. I always thought that children with parents from both sides of western culture and eastern culture would be honest, forthright, ambitious, take care of family and of course be very attractive which is always a bonus for any person who possesses those traits. Of course anything can be taken “too far.” In the west it’s all about being independent, to the point and parents never expect their children to take care of them. In the Philippines it’s all about saving face, even if it requires lies to do so, older children take care of the younger siblings and the parents expect the children to take care of them. My take is, tell like it is, no lies! Take care of yourself, first! Reason being if you don’t take care of yourself how can you take care of anyone else? If you fly on a plane they tell tell you to put “your” oxygen mask on first. If you don’t, how will you have the oxygen to take care of anyone else? At the same time, never forget about those around you, especially your family! If anyone has children for the simple reason that the children take care of them is selfish and disgusting! Again, all cultures have good and bad things to learn from each other. It us up to all of us to try and “meld” the positive traits together and eliminate the negative traits. It takes work and understanding from both sides…

[@reuelattwood9287]

Everybody is an individual. I have met quite a few there who would not lie to save their lives. I have met people who refuse to accept help with money even when facing a life of unhappiness because of it. If one woman does not meet your requirements, move on to another.

[@alfredopampanga9356]

They lie for the reason you jog. Just to stay in practice

[@clydeallen8681]

I do enjoy your videos and I am mentally preparing myself for those cultural differences, but being multilingual already I have learned a few things in my years. I suspect that my linguistic prowess would serve me well over there. Especially if I can get an impartial teacher so that I am able to learn apart from a GF. I have many hilarious stories of people looking at me and assuming I don't speak their language. I know a buddy of mine learned Tagalog from Rosetta Stone and got very proficient, but that doesn't cover dialects like, Vasaya, Basaya, Cebuano and I forget all the others. 88 distinct and recognized dialects and hundreds of lesser is just mind boggling. I bet even the Amazing Filipina Pea only knows a few. So next time is the lawyer...either more legal issues or new info on travel, but that is usually your Filipino source...well counting the time until the next Pea~

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, there are way too many dialects for anyone to now them all (I only speak 5), so let's just al speak English or Tagalog - it doesn't mater what language it is, as long as we all speak the same one! 👍

[@rickyperkins232]

@@TheFilipinaPea I would like to spend a week in your country for vacation at the beach without noise Where do I go?

[@roberthertel5565]

Another great video, That 'EOP' is new to me, first time I've heard of it actually.

[@jejunamja]

Thanks for another great video .

[@ronniesouthern7829]

Pea thank you for another informative video. I know here in the United States there’s a difference in dialect from one part of the country to the other. What is said in the southern US can be completely different in the northern US, not to mention the accents varying from one part of the country to the other as well. Looking forward to Friday’s video with everyone’s favorite legal expert and hope in some point in time that you can provide an update or video on how your parents house is coming along.

[@SpoonieGee-tr5rc]

Beautiful skin tone

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks! It comes with the territory 😂

[@connellanderson7877]

Very good video. I have to compliment you on how well you speak english. Thank you for the information and the video. I enjoy your work. Keep up the good work. ❤️

[@chipparmley]

Your advice is always good and straight to the point. thanks Pea

[@josephw419]

Had a similar situation with the last guy except it was five months into our relationship, because one of her family members friened me and I responded, she scrubbed me off her relationship status on FB. She claimed her family members were investigating me as the reason for doing it. We only lasted 6 months because her friends and family were interfering in the relationship.

[@michaelvittori8525]

I've found it's always a good idea to ask your filipina gf if you should accept FB requests from her family and friends, especially if they are single and pretty.

[@philinthephilippines]

Another great episode Pea! The language barrier is a challenge and I've struggled to learn Bisaya. Although I understand the spoken language for the most part my speech is still baby talk. pagsulti sama sa usa ka bata :) I understand the "saving face" culture here and I insisted on a "no secrets no lies" approach going into our relationship with my girl. After 3 years although we've had misunderstandings I've never caught her in a lie. Yes she dresses like she's going to a nightclub because she wants to! :)

[@stevenr1354]

Good on you for making the effort. I am sure it is much appreciated by the locals and shows respect.

[@j-is-meas-you-see3210]

Another great video!!!

[@timhardman4764]

Pea, you are always entertaining and wise with your advice and comments. I've followed you from the beginning and I'm so happy (but not at all surprised) to see your success....267K subscribers....you Rock Girl!!!

[@protoculture289]

I've been married to a filipina for a few years now and still there's no way in hell she will admit to a lie even though I catch her outright. So infuriating

[@maretcaplan6462]

Curious. I'm married to an American and I think because I'm also upfront like him so we don't really have this lying issue. Is it okay to ask for examples? I'm surprised other men here are saying the same thing so looks like this is kinda common but something I'm not aware of. That's not good.

[@davidbishop9067]

OMG the lying is the worse and they are not even good at it😮😮

[@davidbishop9067]

And they get angry at you when they get busted..Very unusual behavior😮

[@wxsuperman38]

@@davidbishop9067 i know right....the lying is just to much to deal with

[@wxsuperman38]

@@davidbishop9067 my God so true...

[@knarlisrocks]

Thanks Pea for another great and humorous video. I think every foreigner that has been in the Philippines has been hit with the wealth tax a time or two. That guy that bought the shovels was great. I had some of my wife's siblings waiting to get married until we come back.... Maybe I'll try just buying some birth control pills, so they realize I don't want to pay for the wedding or any future babies.

[@bisonpaleofossilriveradven3528]

ROTFL! You have come up with an excellent solution! 🤠

[@walterpont2882]

Just say no. Add to that f UK off of you users.

[@benpradhan9625]

I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the research and effort you put into your videos. I’m quite astonished how despite starting much later than other expat KZbinrs, you’ve outpaced them by leaps and bounds…just consider the number of subscribers you’ve amassed to date. It clearly pays to do one’s homework before putting out videos…instead of sitting on one’s butt and winging it 😄 Well done, little pea!

[@raymoosegaming7860]

Great content as usual Pea ☺️ love the questions and very good insight with your answers 🙂

[@briandumont7272]

That last one always gets me. No way could I get into an online relationship, never mind getting engaged. I'll never understand it. Call me a skeptic, but if I have never seen the whites of your eyes in person, nothing is happening.

[@119jle]

I found two that would change your mind and that you could never find in person there. Shame. Get online skill!

[@kkwun4969]

Im 19 and i thought she would wait for me forever haha…. Aaaa if only i hadnt lost my factory job.

[@mader348]

Kumusta Pea, I really can't handle the lying to"save face" thing. I just don't understand it, makes me really doubt everything she says or does. Not the way to maintain a healthy relationship. Thanks again, your the best✌️❤️🙏

[@benjamineferko1657]

Love you Pea. Always, great advice. Take care. 😊

[@skydog7544]

Thumbs up just for that princess Leia cosplay at the end 😍😂 Your vids are great, info and entertainment. Thank you

[@DarrellGrainger]

Thank you for all your videos. As an autist, I have difficulties with social norms in my own culture. I have tried dating a few filipina, both in my home country and in the Philippines. I always thought things were going well, until they weren't. Your videos make it clear why things haven't worked out. I don't want to change and don't expect the person I'm dating to change either. Your videos have lead me to date a person I never thought I would and I'm extremely happy. Probably not what you intended but marrying a filipina isn't for me. I remain friends with a few Filipinos (male and female) but romantically not the right fit for me.

[@SunRise-ul7ko]

Men need to learn to say the word "NO" Don't pay the bill.

[@pyroishere]

Love your Q&A segments, your honest answers are insightful (did I use that word right?) anyways...Thanks for another great video and ended w/ one of my faves...the Leah bit!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I'm glad you liked it, Paul! I'm working on a new outro for you 👍

[@robertburnston6586]

A video full of good information. Thanks.

[@JayB-JayB]

OMG! You look amazing today Filipina Pea! 🥰🥰

[@TheFilipinaPea]

There you are Jay! Glad you made it early 👍❤️

[@BStrahl1]

Pea looks amazing each and every time... always a great smile and smiling eyes.

[@lilmiss_jean]

As a Filipina speaks 5 languages it's easy to express your reaction or emotion to your mother tongue. That's why it's hard to speak in English when you're angry I just say "Ay ambot! *****" Language barrier is difficult so that we appreciate foreigner's learning our language, because not all Filipinos can speak English.

[@brian_atc]

@Lil Miss Jean, you took the words right out of my mouth. A lot of Americans feel like they qualify as the most important person in the room and expect to be catered to to the point of not ALLOWING everyone else to speak their mother tongue. My first language challenge was when I was stationed in Germany. So I took a couple German language classes and it made my assignment in Berlin much better than I could've imagined. I'd recommend either learning the language, not going along or realizing it's not all about him. Pretty sure one of those options would be much more appreciated than all of them having to speak English for him. Just saying...

[@Dudanation12]

Ambot! Samoka oy! My 2 favorite words to hear my Filipina say :)

[@thecosmicsnail]

My wife also speaks 5 languages. I only speak English but learning to understand a little Visayan. However, my wife's friends also speak Tagalog so that loses me. She can also speak some Arabic and Spanish. When she talks in her sleep, you never know what will come out...LOL.

[@yatogod6655]

Ay ambot nimo dong 🤣

[@richardrose2736]

Very pretty 💕

[@mrrandysgt]

Another great video Pea 💞

[@JoseNDoria]

After being in a relationship with several people from the Philippines. I have definitely come across a good portion of these. Thankfully your friends from the Philippines can always assist you in the situation. Thank you for the information always, and I look forward to your next video as always.

[@pablokoz7497]

I sent my wife to Philippines to buy a house within a budget - she totally has blown the budget out of the water ! I’m order to keep the peace (and love life ) I finally had to admit it was my fault that it’s totally more than she told me it would be - Because I sent her there to do the project !

[@kenmichielsen1642]

Hey there Pea! This was really funny to see. Luckily my Filipina and I have known each other for many years now and we're very open about most things. There are a few things that still expose the cultural gap though. She's tough as nails and finds it difficult to ask for help in emotional matters. But then because I know her well and usually I'm able to pry a little and it all comes out eventually. She's in the Philippines visiting family right now btw. Sampaloc, Rizal, Tanay if you have ever heard of it. Next year we're going together but we'll stay in a hotel. I'm not crazy about roosters in the morning 😜🤣🤣

[@chrisblair2404]

Love your work I have learnt a lot. thanks very much. Chris

[@globalwanderer360]

Thanks for the E.O.P. tip, that could be useful!

[@iant8842]

Pea all men are hopelessy lost when they experience exotic beautiful Pinas - we are only human after all.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s one of our secret weapons! 😂

[@javieritomac]

Wuao pea i still remember when i went to the Philippines 🇵🇭a few years ago , i was in a department store and a few of the female employees approached me to get to know me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣luckily i was with my fiance and she scare them away 🤣🤘😁

[@boracay12]

Approached you to ask if you needed help . It's thier job . They do it with everyone.

[@inquiringminds7793]

I love your witty humor. I find that attractive.

[@TheSheltoncarpenter]

More great advice, Pea! EOP!

[@TheSheltoncarpenter]

P.S. Yes! My wife lies about everything! I always just thought that was her thing, her broken piece. Thanks for shedding some light on the issue.