10 WITCHY DEITY DILEMMAS (and How to Solve Them)

[@PandorasExecutioner]

42:21 "by the way, i leave the door ajar. in devotion and out of respect, i leave the door always ajar. no matter how late in life you might come back in, i love you and i'll know you. i'll know your energy. i'll never forget you. we'll never be strangers again, not really." replayed this so many times hahaha. im laughing from how moving that was. bless you.

[@chelseadelo3260]

Love your advice on trusting your own u.p.g and especially your point about not feeling the need to defer to others with more "spiritual clout". I took an very popular (and expensive) course on my deity that laid out a highly specific path for working with her and while I did get some great ideas from it, I couldn't quite put my finger on why I was feeling disillusioned with the course work. Hearing this advice has made me realize exactly why. Adopting someone else's methods of working with deity is sort of the equivalent of adopting someone else's relationship model. It can be great as a means of inspiration but following their model to a T leaves little room for personal exploration, which for myself defeats the entire goal.

[@K8DU]

“Bruise an ego today, baby.” 😂 God I love you. Inspiring as always, Kelly-Ann! Thank you!

[@antwanzhane]

from the gate: so glad you’re confirming that it can take time to “know the signs”, what they mean-you know, learn that spiritual language and become proficient and maybe even fluent with it

[@queenofthecrossroads2613]

My God/Goddess… Fantastic!! You have such potent insight. It’s amazing that people in mainstream religion (myself included) all grapple with these exact same experiences with “God”. He feels near strongly for a season then it’s like he’s on vacation. He answers some prayers and petitions and others throws out. In Religion we are encouraged to keep having faith in those “dry seasons” and to persevere because “God is ultimately faithful “ as long as we are. All these experiences and various fluctuating levels of “God Contact”you spoke about with Pagan Deities we call “Building our faith in the Lord” LOL. What I see in common regardless if we are in the paradigm of “religion” , or “spirituality” is that what we are really explaining is humans having a relationship with Spirit and it’s definitely NOT a straight path! If a Pagan Witch like yourself can understand the fundamentals of connecting with a deity and not “giving up” on that Deity just because things get rocky or just because one’s petitions aren’t requested right away, and that a Deity’s job is not to make our life into some Disney Movie then maybe us “religious folk” can learn more about having faith from YOU! Thank you for this message, which BTW made me tear up as well in the end. I haven’t been touched like that in a long while by any church sermon. You increased my faith in God! Blessings you beautiful Pagan Witch!!

[@TITARNYA]

great video - thanks Kelly-Ann. That Aslan analogy is the best description of Deity silence!!!

[@crazybunnylady]

You put this video out at a perfect time for me! So Baba Yaga has been my matron for a few years, but our connection has been very quiet for a while now, and lately I've been wondering what's going on with it. And then ta-da, just yesterday I found two books about Russian folktales (that included stories about her) in a charity shop, and thought to myself "wow, clearly she's still around, that's as big of a sign as it can get!"

[@sunandstorm]

I was raised Catholic and I also had so many reservations letting her (edit: oops I mean Mother Mary 😅) back in. But the more I thought about it the more I realized she’s the loving, non-judgmental, all accepting mother that I never had. She has helped me start to heal from the mother wound.

[@sanrigansan1441]

So, some time ago I was asking here how your thoughts on working with a fictional characters as deities and you ecouraged me greatly to go for it. And working no one else ever felt more right for me! I'm literally so happy. I don't think anyone else worship them, so there's no one to tell me how to go about it, and the response from them is amazing. I tried to work with actual deities before and it was like trying to shout throuigh the thick wall, now I immidiate responses and it's so easy. They are not like parenting figures at all, more like older brother figure. There is respect, but also not that patronising and can as well goof around with me, and a lot of fun. So like, once again it's all about following your gut and not leaning too heavily on other people experience, it's all very individual. Thank you for great advise and great video

[@kitdubhran2968]

Unworthiness to work with a certain deity just made me think: You don’t get to choose if you’re worthy to work with deity. That’s up to them. And if they didn’t want you they wouldn’t have picked you. But that could be because of who I work with. He does whatever he wants when he wants and if you don’t agree with it that’s not really his problem. 😂

[@thenerdycrone]

With Hecate, she doesn't leave me as such. She just takes a step back when there is something I need to work on for myself, then drops back in when the work is almost done to give me that final push.

[@kitdubhran2968]

Loki doesn’t require monogamy from me. But faithfulness. I can work with anyone I want. Deity polycule all over the place. But I have to always work with him and listen to him too. I’m one of his and that’s just how it is.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Love this! ❤

[@LadyNekoshema]

Thanks for this, I really needed it. I'm at the part about deities coming and going through the seasons and thats my experience. My Goddess comes and goes as needed, but she's a fire Goddess and I work with her more in the summer, while my God is Hades and he's with me more in the winter half. While I feel them year round, it's a struggle during the "off season" and it worries me. Especially the summer. I don't do heat, so when it's a heat wave, I've got no connection to anything and I feel awful.

[@CatApocalypse]

Thank you for the video! It's a relief to know most deities are not so possessive. When I asked after her thoughts on my wish to expand the pantheon, if you will, my matron deity advised me not to. Looking back on it, it turned out to be not long before a lengthy period of work as she guided me through a few things, including buying our house. So maybe I'll try again when it feels things have fully settled down. Also appreciate you pointing out that not everyone's methods and connections are the same, even with the same deity!

[@aspasiarising4732]

This is such a helpful video for me at the stage I'm in with deity. Thank you so much, it was so timely (imagine that).

[@autimarie]

Your videos have *the* best unofficial add-on...yeah I may be watching a video about witchy stuff but this Kelly-Ann goodness is gonna permeate me and carry over into my entire life 🙏 I appreciate you 🖤 "Big daddy deity has arrived" ~ deus ex machina seriously

[@krissysmyth3357]

Unrelated to this specific video but more so witchy dilemmas. It would be good to get your thoughts on aphantasia and witching.

[@lunar3n]

loving this voluminous hair and labret on you!

[@annaarwen4345]

This was great Kelly-Ann, thank you 💗 I dont think I will ever really have a clear understanding of my ideas about the nature of and my relationship to my deities. Its probably because I have a very firm belief that I dont want to limit what is coming through by my own expectations and blindspots. However the only boundary I will place is that Respect is mutual and a powerful being will never ask or expect me to compromise my core values towards other humans or myself. Theres a group of beings who I feel are important to my life, everyday I wish to honour them in thought or devotion.There are a few others who I dont have a working relationship with but who come for a chat or perspective that I might find helpful. They all have my gratitude and respect - like you say the door is always open to friends x

[@rachelhopkinson9415]

Thank you for always being so real and raw,this couldn’t have come at a better time for me,thank you❤️

[@FirestyledSamaurai]

I so appreciate rhis vudeo. I've been dealing with a lot of this stuff lately. I've been missing Freyr as he leaves seasonally. I've had to let myself cry, but I know this is a good opportunity to work on self empowernent and work on the relationship on my end. I've felt this even thing, especially as Ceredwen is coming in, as I am married to Freyr and another being in my immediate circle has taken a period of silence. The honeymoon period is far from over. I do see these beings in me. I hardly ever ask a Deity for help. Sometimes I'll ask them to help me understand how to help myself with sonething. Sometimes I ask for resources or I do divination. Tgeee are debatws abpur Freyr, because the tale was written down was German. Some Norse practioners are ok with Germanic traditions are tied to the Old Norse Gods. Others immediately think Nazzi shit and had to accept this and develop my UPG of what Freyr is. I also want to honor what he says to me. Thank you. I might just take you up on thst. I'm glad to know it is emotional. Boy! have I felt it! I am trying not to lean too much on them.

[@thrivingselfcarerenee]

This video has been so helpful for me. I don't know where I'm at with deity work. I feel called to it somehow and then nervous about it. But today, during your video, I got an idea how I can get started and experiment a bit and I feel really comfortable with that. So thank you very much! 💖

[@ms.fruitbat8883]

This is one of the most helpful videos I've seen recently. I definitely suffer from not feeling worthy/being too effected by other people's opinions - and they are very interrelated issues for me. I've also been struggling a bit with the feeling that my practice may be starting to change course. I think I need to give myself room to explore and allow new things in, but it's hard because I don't want to upset the apple cart either.

[@The_Wild_Witch]

Hi Kelly-Ann! This video has been so helpful and insightful! It helped me make sense of some of my deity struggles. I really appreciate this, thank you for making my day! 💚

[@simpletown]

i was dedicated to Kali Ma for seventeen years. I accidentally received the call of the Morrigan, so that's been weird. Not feeling like i can or want to venerate both...seems like I'm moving towards a new Black Mother Goddess. which is chill for me, though confusing. thank you for speaking about this. internet people say some wacked out shit about Mother Morrigan and I'm like, dude, we know different bitches for sure. hehehe. xoxo

[@kelly-annmaddox]

The Morrigan has people doing the absolute unnecessary most to lay INTENSE claim to her by gatekeeping HARD. Ignore and continue with YOUR experience, would be my utmost advice.

[@skohtihamilton9443]

That was wonderful! I watched twice. So much wisdom packed into one video. Confirmed some things that I have been going through. Thanks Kelly Ann. 😊

[@boneladders]

great video as always, very lucid and well thought-out. as someone who has struggled a lot with self-worth and has deeply questioned why the divine might want to work with me, i've started to understand that there seems to be a larger purpose. it's not an authoritative relationship, it's one of a teacher and pupil. the goal of the pupil is not to always be at a lower level of wisdom than the teacher! the goal is to one day have the same kind of wisdom and capacity to help others that the teacher has. in my experience, my relationship with divinity and my goals for self-betterment are not just for me personally, but also for the spiritual growth of the entire universe. the wiser and more capable i am, the more i will do the things that are useful and compassionate, and the things i was too afraid and insecure to do before. and all of the struggles i experience here can be used to facilitate that growth, if i have the humility and willingness to learn. thanks for sharing your insights, always love hearing your perspective. rock on! 💙

[@TrishaAAllen]

Really helped me with this video, answers so many questions, thank you 😊

[@PashaJackson-b3g]

So excited to always see you it makes my day ❤️

[@JK-jl1bf]

I wonder as a modern witch if we are in our practice evolving past this concept of deity being an external entity and recognizing this hidden language is from the divine within us. I find myself pointing inward, even when I discuss the messages I get from The Goddess; these are from my higher mind expressing in that particular manner.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Yes, lots of other practitioners see the same way you do. 💕 It is one of my frameworks too. I don't see it as 'evolving past' hard and soft polytheism though. But rather as another lens.

[@ChlorineHeart]

I love your vibe so much

[@PashaJackson-b3g]

I loved this as I work with three and each one serves a different purpose Mother Mary has been in my life since a child she is really present when I am feeling depressed and dealing with my PTSD and ISIS came into my life when my baby sister was murdered she is very present when I'm thinking of and missing my sister I feel as if she is my soul sister then my maintreness is Santa Muerte she is definitely my mother in my life in every way she definitely puts me in line when I need it she is never shy about giving advice she is very protective and she is also loving and helps me to be strong she has taught me to so much about my self my witch craft has become stronger because of her I definitely love them all.

[@PookelyP]

Hello Kelly Ann Maddox🤗🐙💪

[@antwanzhane]

thank you for reminding us that we can negotiate all this // i needed that

[@beanbaghagwag]

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[@schizorap]

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[@thechaosvibration1181]

Ive commented a couple of times on your channel. The previous one was on your video where you said why uou didnt enjoy making chaos magick content. Before i say anything do not lt me label you. (Youre to integral for that). But i have been struggling with my relationship with the craft/"title" myself. Cause mine is not theirs. Either way and said eith respect, you are the manifeststion of my idea of the positive side of the chaos magick spirit. Not proving results, finding uour path. Theres so much "do i this way, offer it up on the dark moon.". Well what if you cant? What if that estavlished offer is playing to a different level? What if somone cant afford th stuff. I strongly suspect most "pro magicians" sell their own upg, to sell provblems that dont exist prior. Furrher thy evolve, why is their way is the right one? Im stsring to call these guys consciousnss celebrities. And lets be real, however it was done way back than isnt how it was now. Finding a relationship wirh a diety, is your relationship with yourself. And i suck at that. Finally i think its important to observe thr follwing point via analogy. Lets say one wanted to go to the gym for betterental health, or to drop 10 pounds. If we said "im going to do evrrything dwayne the rock johnson does at the gym.". You friends wpuld tell your crazy. Why isnt this same train of thought present in the occult community? Ive learned sometimes less magick is more. Thanks for being real. And also appreciated your video where you mentioned sometimes going against the diety.

[@Cubik222]

Drop the glamour spell babe 🤭