I tried doing this and my ex at the time said i was trying to manipulate him with "that way of talking" because i was trying to "trick him". I felt like a crazy person. Nothing i did or tried was right. It broke my heart letting him go, but everything was so ambivalent, i was always doing something wrong, not trying enough or being told "you did it but now its too late". I really wish i understood the psychology behind this way of thinking.
@basketweaver9127 күн бұрын
Sounds like he wasn’t willing to be emotionally present in the relationship with you or that he was uncomfortable with vulnerability and he got defensive when he felt someone wanted him to be vulnerable. Idk the situation, but I hope you spend more time healing than wondering how you could’ve pleased someone who sounds like they didn’t wanna be pleased by you
@ragga78624 күн бұрын
I too used to try to understand this way of thinking. I don’t understand why they think like that, I just know that they do. I let them have their way of being and thinking, and engage as little as possible. I don’t need crazymakers making me feel crazy.
@JcJc-x4w4 күн бұрын
Well tbh, me wanting to understand this way of thinking is no longer about him. We broke up a few years ago and its water under the bridge for me. Wanting to understand this is just because im curious about psychology and psychological patterns
@xiutingli6066 күн бұрын
May I say my thoughts on this ? -No, you couldn't.