My Least Favorite Part of the Embalming Process

[@Dutillac01]

She has such a beautiful way to tactfully describe what most consider to be an invasive process. You can tell that she loves her job and respects the deceased and the families she helps.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am glad that my heart is conveyed through the video.

[@claudiados9841]

i agree

[@lisakay1006]

I think death scares people, myself included,but my Love for God and knowing Heaven awaits gives me joy. Your so compassionate. Bless your heart.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching Lisa. God bless you. My faith keeps me going as well.

[@chellef1427]

Same Lisa! 🙌🙏❤

[@kariay50]

🙌❤

[@brandinicole7992]

I have no idea how i got here! This video is fascinating. Thanks for sharing

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Brandi. Thanks for taking the time to watch. I appreciate your view. Please be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for more fascinating videos.

[@Arealurbanmom]

@brandi Nicole Same here 🤦‍♂️ but it’s so good

[@123rudyboo]

Me too.... 👍👍👍

[@kempossible650]

Same here

[@courtneyjames1350]

Hey I wondered the same...and I agree it's very interesting and informative.

[@yellowstonekv959]

The deceased and their families are blessed to have Miss Anthony caring for them with such respect and tender compassion. We are fortunate to have Angels walking among us disguised as humans.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for your words, watching and your support. Please be sure to subscribe if you haven't already. like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@MrsRuffntuff1]

You are a blessing to any family that receives your services. So respectful and that is important to families trying to protect their loved one’s dignity. Bless you sweetie.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and for your heartfelt and filling words. God bless you

[@justkiki87]

I just recently lost my brother on August 22,2019 an I'm still suffering from depression. But I just wanted to know what happened to my brother in the funeral home an you literally just informed me. They did a nice job shaving him he looked like he was just taking a nap an not actually gone.

[@TheGraveWoman]

KiKi I am SOOOOOO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS! I wish I had words to make you feel better but I don't. I do know that whomever cared for your brother did so in a way that would make you happy. I am here to answer any questions that you may have in a respectful manner. I want to bring comfort to your mind and spirit. If you'd like a more private correspondence please email me directly at [e-mail] Sending LOVE , PEACE and PRAYS FOR STRENGTH to you

[@justkiki87]

@@TheGraveWoman thank you so much for your response. I really like your channel an I hope that you continue making videos. Also I will be emailing you because I have some other questions that I was curious about.

[@TheGraveWoman]

JustKiKi87 hi Kiki. I look forward to hearing from you 💓💓💓

[@petersugar2185]

Justkiki87 I just want to firstly say i know i dont know you but I'm so sorry for the lost of your brother. But I like you felt the same when I lost my mother and had all sort of questions going around in my mind. Wondering if they treated my mother kindly, gently and with respect this went on in my mind for months..and I watched so many of these sort of videos trying to I guess bring comfort to myself because i was so so depressed and just couldn't come to terms with the passing of my mother until it made me so ill and I really never thought that i would get through it ... Until one day i just took my mother photo sat down and talk to her photo and really had a good cry and let it all out then I felt this warmth of great feeling of her around me and day by day I got through it ... you know it may seems right now like you just can't cope but just take it slowly and in your own time you will get through it. Most high bless you always x

[@diamonddivine4343]

@justKiKi87 I’m so sorry for you’re loss , believe me I feel your pain. I also lost a brother last year on April 29,2018 . I’m still grieving, it feels like an never ending pain .

[@kathrynhall1136]

Your voice is so soothing and relaxing ma'am and this is my first time here .

[@TheGraveWoman]

Kathryn Hall thank you so much! Thank you for visiting. Please enjoy the other videos and be sure to subscribe. 😘

[@kathrynhall1136]

@@TheGraveWoman Why thank you so very much @The Grave Woman. And I have already subscribe. And the pleasure is all mine

[@kellymccallister7373]

I ABSOLUTELY AGREE VERY SOOTHING AND SHE IS SMART BUT SHE DOESN'T SHOVE IT IN YOUR FACE (AND SHE IS ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS) my first time as well and I PROMISE IT WON'T BE MY LAST

[@sherrispicer6034]

AWESOME 👍 video!!!!! Lovely, soothing voice.

[@TheGraveWoman]

​@@kellymccallister7373 Thank you so much. You're words are very touching and mean a lot to me.

[@sabah4123]

The dead should be treated with dignity. Love yr attitude, thank you!😰🇦🇺

[@TheGraveWoman]

I Sabah, I agree. That is exactly why I do what I do. Thank you so much for watching.

[@IamAries52]

She's a very caring person, and it's very obvious! I use to be a CNA, and we too treated the deceased, as if they were still alive.

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@IamAries52 Thank you so much for watching

[@LINKINservicedog]

@@IamAries52 I'm a nurse too. I had to leave nursing due to my epilepsy, gastroperesis and heart issues. I miss it too. Anyhow my first body I was supposed to go shadow the others to learn. Well, they said Lesley go pull down the sheet. I didn't think anything of it, and went to pull the sheet down. Well when I pulled it down, it was one of my classmates who sat up, yelled, and grabbed me. I have never forgotten that, nor do I think it was funny at all. I felt it was disrespectful of those who have passed or will pass. And I never got over it anytime I got a body ready to go to morgue or with a funeral director directly. I felt it was a horrible thing to do? What are anyone else's thoughts??

[@mikemcclure9918]

I honor what you do not everyone can do that job, however it has to be done. I found my girlfriend's body approximately seventeen and half hours after her unfortunate death, when her body was rolled over I saw something that wouldn't want to see up close and that is her eyes were wide open, which really bothered me. I don't know if when she died if her eyes were closed or not? How and are the eyes closed? That's another thing that I would have a problem doing is if someone's eyes are open if had to close the eyes. Especially if it was a Loved one. I hope that no one that I know comes across this comment and says something to someone else I would know, I am not writing this to upset anyone I am just asking a question. Okay?

[@margaretlaycock42]

Going through the Embalming process is mind blowing.Finding the organs with the Trocar must be one part of the skill needed to complete the Embalming!Thank you for your compassionate,caring nature.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching. More content like this to come. Make sure you are subscribed, like and please share with anyone you think can benefit from this and other videos on the channel.

[@dennism103]

A. Body is really a empty shell like locusts shells we saw on trees as kids. The spirit of life goes back to the creator.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks for your insight Dennis.

[@dennism103]

That's what the holy spirit taught me

[@msmafoster]

My grandson has lost his great grandmother and also a close family friend. He was full of questions. I explained it the simplest way I could. I said our body is like a potato chip bag. The inside is the good part...the best part for us to enjoy...(our soul). The outside being the bag becomes not needed once the chips are gone and we don't forget how good the chips were..but they are gone. It seemed to help him understand the deaths.

[@shirleycole7854]

Beautifully said

[@vatarar]

Dennis Morris great analogy 👍🏼

[@qbano55]

I knew it would be the trocar before your presentation started. I’ve been in death care for 30 years and saw my first embalming about 10 years ago. I was fine till the embalmer got to the trocar and aspiration. I was moved by your caring spirit and empathy that you show to your craft. Keep up the good work!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and for responding. The trocar is the worst part for sure. I am glad to know that I am not the only bothered by it. It was really vulnerable to share this for me because I was afraid that it would come off as weak. I am so happy that you can see and feel my empathy.

[@qbano55]

@@TheGraveWoman I have tremendous respect for embalmers. I can't imagine a world without them. Kudos to you!

[@auntkittyhashtag2321]

You are such a compassionate, caring and humane person and may I also add very beautiful. God Bless you always. I'm 73yrs.old and have chosen creamation over embalming due to that trokar mess lol. I know I'll be dead, but just the thought creeps me out. I don't want them messing with my tummy, it's mine, HANDS OFF!!!! BLESSINGS to you Sweet Lady.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and for your beautiful words. They mean a lot to me. It makes me so happy to know that you have chosen your method of disposition and are putting thought into your final wishes.

[@bonniejohnson760]

I would rather be cremated myself immediately after I die. I don't want visitation and I do not want funeral services, I want my disposal very simple.

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@bonniejohnson760 Hi Bonnie, have you spoken with your family members about this or put anything in place to ensure that this happens? Thanks so much for watching and for sharing your thoughts. I am more than happy to discuss how to make this a reality if you are unsure of how.

[@bonniejohnson760]

Mz. Grave Woman, I would be very happy to discuss my arrangements with you. Where do I start ?

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@bonniejohnson760 Please send an email to [e-mail]

[@loriadams7724]

My good friend passed from a pulmonary embolism on Nov 4, last year. The funeral home did such a wonderful job of setting his features, dressing him, and grooming. He looked so life like, and that was comforting. I know that sounds weird, but it was. You are caring for the deceased, but you are also caring for the their families and friends. Thank you. 🙏🏻✝️💜❤️

[@TheGraveWoman]

I am so sorry for your loss. I greatly appreciate you! Please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance

[@carolynbaker4250]

I appreciate so much that you talked about not doing something to alter the deceased appearance without first talking to the family. My daddy passed away when I was 12, he was missing most of his back teeth so his cheeks sunk in, he also had a very ruddy complexion. They packed his cheeks so they didn't sink in, and he was so pale. He didn't look like my daddy. It was all I needed at 12 to convince myself that it wasn't really him, that he would come back. It took years of therapy, and getting married (because I knew he would have been there) for me to finally accept that he was really dead, and not coming back.

[@kariay50]

Sorry for your loss 🌈

[@TheGraveWoman]

Oh wow. Thanks so much for sharing Carolyn. I am so sorry that this was your experience. How are you coping now? Please be sure to subscribe if you haven't already. like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@LINKINservicedog]

You are such a beautiful lady inside and out. I hope someone like you cares for my loved ones when they pass.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much

[@vscaddell]

Honey, I hope you always keep that feeling you get when you do your "least favorite part" of embalming. It reminds you that you do have a heart, and the deceased are still people that you are caring for. Bless you.

[@TheGraveWoman]

I think so too. Thanks for watching

[@doveychambers5415]

As a registered nurse I've always been interested in all the different ways of prepping the bodies for the burial process. No two cases are the same it seems. Thank you for all your videos.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you for all you do to care for those in need Dovey. Thanks for watching

[@M.Dawg.Thuggin]

You're 100 percent correct when it comes to those personal features that the family is use to. When my grandma passed in 2018 and she was smiling in her casket, it threw me off a little because my grandmother wasn't someone who smiled in pictures and when I see a deceased in a casket I always think of them sleeping and posing for their last picture.

[@TheGraveWoman]

I LOVE YOUR SCREEN NAME! Thank you so much for watching and for sharing

[@jackieM88890]

You're the most beautiful, compassionate funeral director I've ever met. For myself, I don't want anything but to be cremated and no viewing or funeral. My most painful experiences has been the viewing, funerals of my dear loved ones whether family or friends. I want to be remembered for how I was in life...not how I looked after. It's so hard on family and friends going through that. The cost is insane too and I understand with all that's done it's justified but I don't want to burden my family. If I had to do the whole shebang it would be my sincerest wish to have you do it. You're precious!!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Jaxxy. Thank you so much for your kind words. Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts and experience. I appreciate you so much. Have you began putting your wishes in place with family members and friends?

[@jackieM88890]

@@TheGraveWoman Hello!! How awesome that you replied. That doesn't happen very often but to answer your question...I verbally told my husband and daughter. I realize I must document my wishes because it's not enough to just tell someone what you want. It has to be written to make a difficult time that much easier. I appreciate that you inform people what the whole process entails and in such a caring way. Funeral directors in my area are mostly formal and cold. That isn't v4ery comforting at such a painful time. Thank you for making these videos. I'm going to tell everyone about them.

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@jackieM88890 Hi Jaxxy. Thanks for being so excited. I love interacting with my viewers and have some free time today so I am playing catch up with the comments. Where exactly are you located? Yes you are correct. You will need to document these wishes as well as begin preparing for them financially. Do you all have life or burial insurance in place? I have transitioned more into working on the preneed (preplanning and funding) side of the business and am very passionate about helping families prepare for death. If you are in a state in which I am licensed i would be more than happy to work with you and your family. If not then I am here to answer any questions that you may have. Thank you so much for sharing my channel with others. That means the world to me

[@jackieM88890]

@@TheGraveWoman I live in Elizabethtown, Pa.

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@jackieM88890 Unfortunately, I am not licensed in PA. I will put that on my checklist though!

[@leapNTP411]

Just came across your KZbin station. I so appreciate the information you are sharing with such honesty and compassion. Learned a LOT in this video.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Welcome aboard! Thanks so much for watching. Please be sure to visit my website www.thegravewoman.com for more great info, content and courses.

[@johngrim9779]

For someone going into Mortuary Science this is an amazing video! You have a lifetime subscriber!

[@TheGraveWoman]

John Grim awww thank you John! 😘

[@nonnieharvey295]

Girl, I want you to take care of me and my family when we die. You are exactly what I want to happen! You are awesome, please keep it up.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much Nonnie. Where are you located?

[@nonnieharvey295]

I live in a small town in North Florida called Perry, Fl.

[@IssAsia24]

Me to

[@danadyd59]

Your channel popped up yesterday, and I really enjoy your content, and demeanor. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much Dana! I love your name. Dana Diamond. It sounds so cool! Please stay tuned for more great content and feel free to browse some of the other videos currently online.

[@foxydoxybabyfoxy4839]

You are a very compassionate and caring person I only hope when my time comes that I will have someone like you taking care of me

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and for your kind words. Please be sure to subscribe if you haven't already. like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@nikoflowers1635]

Very informative. You are a blessing to the families you serve.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching Niko. I appreciate your kind words.

[@kittybitts9530]

Joel, you are such a lovely and kind person. I would feel so comforted leaving the care of myself and my love ones in your hands when we die. God bless you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

That is such a huge compliment Beth. Thanks so much for watching and sharing. Please be sure to subscribe, like, and share this and any other videos you like and find resourceful

[@edwardpetty5401]

Thank you for an informative explanation of the process. I can tell that you are a caring person dedicated to your profession.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Edward Petty thank you so much! Your words mean so much and are greatly appreciated.

[@nathanmcandrew4778]

Hydroaspirating the cavities and viscera is my least favorite (for lack of better terminology) part of the embalming process as well, but at the same time as you know it's an honor to be entrusted to partake in such an important and necessary process for grieving families. Such an informative and educational video, you never stop learning in this profession. Thanks for uploading!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching Nathan. You are so right. I consider the entire process sacred. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@divine.1.Z]

Wow! You just explained this process in such a respectful and thoughtful manner. I can tell you're very professional and caring when families need this type of treatment the most. God bless you and thanks for this factual information ❤👏🏾👏🏾❤.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching

[@FIFTHDEMN1]

You feel that way because you are human, that’s all

[@TheGraveWoman]

Very true. Thank you so much for watching

[@msanig7481]

Yes I agree. When I worked at a funeral home we NEVER refer to the remains at "The Body". We always referred to them by their name.

[@shawnajohnson5307]

@@TheGraveWoman thanx

[@leticial3388]

You are so brave and you have so much respect for the bodies that you care for. One of my best friends passed away I was asked to come and do her hair. I had nightmares and dreams for two days I could not bring myself to go and see her body naked on the table and so I called the facility and asked them to get someone else I was just a coward. But thanks for sharing God bless you

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi There. Thanks so much for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine your pain. I will discuss what to expect if invited to the funeral home to care for a family member or friend in a video response. Thanks again and stay tuned for this upcoming video

[@marymaixner848]

The family with grandma and her chin hair they were rude, you are so great at explaining what the process is. I truly appreciate you

[@Pookylor65]

You seem so gentle and caring! Bless you and the dignity you show the deceased.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and sharing your kind words.

[@stephaniehayden7018]

I have so much respect for you..I honestly do..I've watched alot of your vids. I suddenly just lost a long time friend & knowing that so many morticians show such respect makes my heart happy. Thank you. Hope all are like you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

I am so sorry for your loss Stephanie. Thanks so much for your kind words and loving energy. Praying for peace for you and your friends family.

[@CasperWy2023]

I just passed the National Boards & I’m almost 50. Great job on your video.

[@TheGraveWoman]

OMG SMITTY! Congratulations.It does not matter how old or young you are YOU DID IT! I am so extremely proud of you and happy for you. Do you have a job lined up already?

[@CasperWy2023]

The Grave Woman Thank u SO much! I do have an apprenticeship lined up. I’ll be balancing 2 careers & I’m looking forward to joining the funeral profession! God Bless!

[@rottie615]

Go head with your bad self! Congratulations to you 😊

[@CasperWy2023]

vickie wee Thank you very much!

[@gloriousjohnson1807]

Congratulations! I used to want to be a mortician when I was younger. My mother quickly discouraged that. But, I greatly appreciate you & others for your compassion.

[@darnitaburwell965]

I recently lost my grandmother and listening to how you care for the deceased and used the word “Essence” brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for caring for the deceased with such dignity and respect.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Darnita! Thank you so much for sharing. God bless your sweet Grandmothers soul. How are you?

[@snowbunny1066]

Oh my girl, you have more strength than I would ever have. I couldnt do it. I'd be puking and passing out. Thank gosh you have that compassion. I dont want that poker thing in me after I die. Just fast family viewing and bury me. Let nature take its course. Thank you for what you do.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching. I so appreciate your kind and loving words

[@suzystone244]

I have no problem with the decendent. The living I have issues with. Lol❤

[@robinbird6279]

I stumbled upon your video, and I was fascinated by the embalming process. You really explained it very well and you have a lot of compassion for the people you are taking care of. Any family that you help prepare their loved ones for a viewing is fortunate to have you. Thank you for sharing! 🙏😊💖

[@TheGraveWoman]

Robin, your words are so meaningful. Thanks for watching

[@ceeann63]

I enjoyed your professional presentation.I love the fact that you take pride in your profession and showing the upmost respect for the deceased!! May God continue to bless you greatly ❤️

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching. Your words mean so much to me and truly inspire me

[@ceeann63]

@ The Grave Woman you’re very welcome!! When you were saying that you felt like you were hurting the deceased even though they can’t feel anything,when you had to use the device to make holes for obvious reasons,, that statement really speaks volume as the amount of respect that you have for the deceased!! When my time comes to leave this earthly home it is my desire that the funeral home that is in charge of handling my home going would have the same amount of respect and professionalism for my final services that I see in you!! Take care and be blessed ❤️

[@lindajacobs5114]

You are so thoughtful and kind 😊. May God Bless 🙏 you.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you Linda

[@kazcross931]

Iv just subscribed,my hat goes off to you for the work that you do.you come across as such a lovely character so professional and very calmly spoken x

[@TheGraveWoman]

Kaz Cross welcome Kaz! Thank you so much! Thank you for joining.

[@montanaglodavis6441]

I enjoyed your program and found it very informative. The best thing that came across was the compassion you feel for your clients. I wish every funeral director felt as you do. God bless you. And like someone stated previously you’re beautiful, inside and out dear.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much Montanaglo. Thanks for watching

[@annieweathersby9125]

God bless you for being kind to the deceased

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you! God bless you as well!

[@lonzot6374]

Gravewoman, your vids are very informative, thank u

[@TheGraveWoman]

You are so welcome and thank you for the support

[@amythomas1124]

Thank you for being so caring.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you for watching Amy

[@fjones]

@@TheGraveWoman it's covid madness out there. It's after 1am here in Europe. No idea how or why your video pooped up🤷‍♀️anyway I'm glad it did. You are clearly a caring, warm, humble, conscientious and compassionate sister. I realised that after you spoke about the discomfort you always feel when using that long instrument on the deceased. Bless you for caring so deeply. I'm a spiritual person like yourself and believe that when we leave here we go to another place. Call it heaven, paradise...we move on. My stepdad dreamt his late mum was on a hill waving 4 him to come to her. He told my mom this. He had the dream 3x. 4 weeks later he had a heart attack n died. I like to think his mum came to accompany him across the hill to eternity 😌. Someone always or usually comes to help us cross over so I've heard. Anyway we'll never know until it's our turn to fly away. I must go now I have work tomorrow despite the covid situation 🙄🤷‍♀️. 5 hours sleep will have to do. Stay well n stay safe and thanks 4 sharing your warmth and wisdom on a very natural part of life. 👋👋😊

[@fjones]

@@TheGraveWoman sorry I meant popped up not pooped up🙈🙈😬it's late my eyes are tired n wobbly lol 😁 adios senorita 👋👋

[@Ashybooz13]

thank you for telling us your story! very helpful information to learn from.

[@TheGraveWoman]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@charlesarthur1086]

YOU , MY LADY , ARE A BEAUTIFUL CARING AND COMPASSIONATE HUMAN BEING!! I ADMIT THAT I DO FEAR DEATH...IT COMES TO US ALL... BUT , IT'S THE NOT KNOWING OF WHAT COMES AFTER I FEAR... JUST THE "NOT BEING" . HAVE YOU SEEN THE SITE CALLED "ASK A MORTICIAN" ?? AGAIN , THANK YOU FOR THE WORK YOU DO AND SUPPORT YOU PROVIDE.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and for your wonderful comment Megan! I have heard of Caitlin and her channel. I LOVE IT! I have looked up to her for many years. I hope to one day collaborate with her. I think we all have reservations and fears about the unknown. I think its natural and necessary. If we knew all the answers, this whole journey would be pretty boring.

[@samdanner6806]

This is one of the best embalming Video,s that I have yet to see. From Brisbane Qld Australia. 8-14-2020

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much. I am so happy that you enjoyed it. Please be sure to subscribe

[@samdanner6806]

Grave woman, you are Spot-on!!! I enjoy how you represent our work. Thankyou!!

[@samdanner6806]

Are you in the United States?

[@TheGraveWoman]

Sam Danner I am 🖤

[@kay9156]

You are so sweet. Thank you for being very clear and informative!

[@TheGraveWoman]

K Freeborn thank you! I appreciate your kind words. It’s truly an honor to share this information.

[@jodygreen1518]

Awesome you do great work and dedication education is good to know peace n blessings

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much

[@catt5426]

Great video. I am currently in my application process for class 1 funeral director , and about to start my required 40 hour volunteering for acceptance. Fingers crossed

[@TheGraveWoman]

Cat T you’ve got this Cat! Thank you so much for watching 😘

[@catt5426]

@@TheGraveWoman a year later and a couple of personal setbacks., I just received my letter of acceptance. I start this September . Thank you for all the valuable information. God bless ❤

[@all-gone]

God bless you honey. I couldn’t do it and especially the trocart procedure. I saw a video on that and found it to be very violent the way it was done. So much so it made me think of cremation with no embalming for myself. However as silly as this may sound, I’m EXTREMELY claustrophobic and the idea of getting put in an oven scares me too. I’m nervous about being buried too. Omg!! What if our spirit is claustrophobic???? I know it’s going to happen someday, but I’m hoping I can just live forever! Great video and thank god for people like yourself. God bless you.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching ♥️

[@mustafaalif7396]

I got a flash of your description. My Father worked for a funeral home and I use to ride with him to pick up Bodies as a child and I would see Every thing as a child. My father Didn't have a license to do it but he Knew how. He mainly dressed them And my mom did their hair.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@angeltillman1323]

My nephew passed recently at 21yrs old and I have never been so interested in the way a person is handled after death than now b4 his untimely death it brings me comfort to know even in death pple like u handle our loved ones with such care and concern truly beautiful keep ur compassion and love for what u do for the families it impacts it means more than u now !!!!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much Angel for your kind and inspiring words. I am so sorry for your loss. 21 years old is so young. I can not imagine what you and your family are going through. I pray that these videos help you and your family in some way. Please continue to reach out if you need to. I appreciate your comment and support

[@Debsfantasticfindings]

This is a great informative video! I had no idea what all embalming entailed. Now I see why it may be necessary in some cases. Thank you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Debbie Elledge thank you for watching!

[@lisaripley1958]

You are so beautiful and respectful. The people that took care of my 40yr old husband was great too. I was stressed at first when seeing him. His lips were too pale and "weird", but they handled it quickly. It means a lot to see your loved one as close as you Remember them..especially for our sons (about 5 and 10 at the time). Unfortunately, I was forced to chose cremation. It was the only way I could be intered with my husband. Thank you for sharing.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Lisa I am so sorry for your loss. I am so pleased to hear that you were satisfied with your husbands care. Please be sure to subscribe if you haven't already. like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@lisaripley1958]

Thank you. I am subscribed and I will share this. God Bless

[@scharf74]

Thank you for your clear explanation of the aspiration process

[@TheGraveWoman]

You are more than welcome. Thank you for watching.

[@lburns7952]

I just want to thank you for what you do. I know I could not do any of this, and I'm pretty sure that most people couldn't. We need professional, caring people such as you for our loved ones and also for ourselves. On a side note, you have a wonderful soothing voice and manner! Thank you for educating and sharing.

[@TheGraveWoman]

elle415 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 thank you so much! I appreciate your words and you watching the video. Please subscribe if you haven’t already and share if you don’t mind! God bless you 😘

[@adrianajimenez4342]

God bless you for what you do.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching Adriana.

[@aspasiafreeborn6498]

I am an aspiring mortician and I just wanted to say i appreciate your video! Thanx for sharing your experiences

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching Aspasia

[@jasminej5552]

My mom passed away two years ago and I always wondered what this process was like. The funeral home did an amazing job, she looked beautiful. I was afraid she would look like a ghost or something but she literally looked like normal self, just sleeping.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Shontell I am so sorry for your loss. I am happy to hear that you were pleased with your mothers final appearance. Thanks so much for watching. I am sending love, peace and strength your way. Hugs

[@sheilastauffer5128]

Thank you for being a very caring person in performing your job.

[@TheGraveWoman]

I truly am grateful that you feel that watching the video. Thanks so much for watching. Make sure you head over to thegravewoman.com and sign up for my email list. Tons of great info there as well.

[@scrapper900]

I actually very much wanted the sweatshirt my dad passed in. He passed with such a short notice to his illness. It’s been almost 3 years and I still can’t deal with it. Not enough time to say goodbye. He was so sick. Anyway, I asked the funeral director for his sweatshirt. He told me I wouldn’t have wanted it and he disposed of it. However, I was with my dad when he passed and stayed with him almost 2 hours and the sweatshirt was completely fine. So, maybe the funeral director/embalmer should ask first regardless of what they think should happen. I know you all do what you think is best for sure, no judgement here. It’s just a thought from the family side. Very informative video. Thank you.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Firstly, I would like to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I can not image what you went through and what you still must be experiencing. I agree with you 100% that in your particular situation it would have been most appropriate to return the sweatshirt. In most cases if the personal belongings do not pose a bio hazard threat to the family or public funeral directors will return them no questions asked. I am not sure why this particular funeral director did not do so but I am so sorry that you were not able to keep that part of your father. I hope that memories and love that you all shared together will bring you comfort. Thank you so much for watching and for being vulnerable enough to relive and share such a personal and painful experience.

[@scrapper900]

The Grave Woman You are so sweet. Thank you for you compassion.

[@cookingprof]

Complete disregard to the family wishes.Did they try to sell you another garment?

[@cynthiawhiteeagle8546]

They're too lazy to launder anything! They throw things away or donate to thrift stores, probably. Maybe they return empty purses and billfolds back to the family.

[@angelaf5040]

I'm sorry.

[@randyrudd5594]

Ma’am , you’re so kind and compassionate. Your uneasiness regarding the use of a trocar really resonates with me. Even though it is a shell at that point, I feel what you feel. It’s a respect. I would want someone with your ethics and respect to prepare my loved ones. Take care.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much Randy. I appreciate your words and your watching

[@adrianajimenez4342]

You are amazing!!! Thank you for your love of the deceased.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you for watching.

[@queentinadoire6931]

We treat our patients the same in nursing- Every Patient Is Unique. The Grave Woman Your Voice Is So Calming. This video was a bit scaring but I will come back. Good thing I watched it during daylight. Thanks for your hardwork and bravery. Your friend Jane.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Jane. Thanks so much for watching and for your compliment. Thanks so much for the work that you do to care for those in immediate need.

[@TamzUK]

I love your humility towards your deceased. Thank you for explaining things so plainly, but with feeling :)

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching. I appreciate your kind and supporting words.

[@joannkelly7994]

Love your honesty and respect toward the deceased and their loved ones. Thank you for sharing.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching Jo Ann. I love your name

[@amistenson2535]

If you see a chin hair on me, dead or alive, GET IT!! If it’s there I didn’t see it!! 😂👏

[@TheGraveWoman]

LOL! I share your desires Kristin. Thanks so much for watching and for your amazing sense of humor.

[@amistenson2535]

The Grave Woman I love your videos!! You’re welcome! ❤️💐

[@samuelhendrixjr6130]

You offer a very comprehensive prospective of the final preparation of a body in your care, god bless you because it takes a special soul to be able to perform this type of service to the bereaved, you really captured my attention because I’ve always been interested in knowing what takes place when a deceased reaches this stage.

[@TheGraveWoman]

I am so happy that you found some answers. Thanks so much for watching, sharing your kind words and for your support. Please be sure to subscribe and share

[@LittleMissFuneral]

Great video! This is my dads least favorite part of the embalming process as well. Aspirating is basically why he dropped out of mortuary school, it never sat well with him!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Little Miss Funeral thank you 😘😘😘!! There is something about it. Still gets me 😣. I’m curious do you have a least favorable part?

[@LittleMissFuneral]

The Grave Woman disinfecting and cleaning out the nose 🤮

[@TheGraveWoman]

Little Miss Funeral really!????? I can see that.

[@nanna12crhil66]

@@TheGraveWoman I would like to know how long the embalming last? How long is the body preserved?

[@heatherpenton9998]

Brenda Weston it depends on several variables like bacteria, insects, temperatures etc will determine decamp after embalming is done.

[@shaetallerico8875]

I love your professionalism and your compassion... very intelligent way that you explained this.. thank you for your work!!!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Wow, thank you! I love that you loved the video

[@Gemashke]

Great video as usual!! ! I'm not an embalmer, but worked at a large 1,350 plus case per year firm in Los Angeles as a Funeral Director. A couple of the embalmersI was friendly with there told me that they hated the Trocar part of the process as well!

[@TheGraveWoman]

It's something that I have never gotten used to and doubt that I will.

[@lichinaepps8834]

I really enjoy listening to you, you seem to have a heart for this and you really care! Thank you for all you do!

[@TheGraveWoman]

I appreciate that! Thank you so much for watching Lichina

[@sany_wanderingtraveldiary]

I don't know if I can say this here but you sound so calm and you look very beautiful. Your words and the way you talk shows how beautiful you are from inside too. ❤️ Your profession has turned you into a strong women as well. Lots of love to you and your family ♥️ - From India.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks for watching and for your kind words Sany

[@ej1722]

You are a compassionate person💖Thank you for your professional & respectful way you care for our loved ones😢

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching EJ

[@maxinemadlopha211]

I would like a more detailed account of the embalming process. I was fascinated!!!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks for watching Maxine. Please be sure to subscribe, like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance

[@michaelswinehart2788]

Hello i'm back from a year ago. I love your presentation in your videos. The trocar is without an invasive procedure. Ironically after talking to some funeral directors, they all told me that the aspiration of the chest and abdominal cavities is the number one on the dislike list of embalming procedure. I do understand why you dislike it so much. But i think that is admirable about you. Because you never forget that the deceased in front of you was the same as you. A living breathing loving human being. And not just some carcass dropped off to you. So you should be proud of yourself for feeling that way about the trocar and never change the way you feel about it also. Good vid, take care and God bless.👍🏻❤🙏

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank so much for watching and for your support!

[@ellenjefferies7310]

You are so sweet and kind. You are exactly the kind of person that should be doing this. Death is a part of life and you are the vital servant of this, God Bless you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for the blessing Ellen. God bless you and yours as well.

[@coleenskinner2101]

You sound like a wonderful ,caring ,loving person. Thank you for what you do..

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you Coleen. Please be sure to subscribe. I greatly appreciate your support.

[@nova264]

Please more videos on embalming and anything funeral related.I enjoyed this and i subscribed.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching and subscribing. Believe me there is MUCH MUCH MORE to come.

[@ferleenjoseph7831]

Thanks for ur Gracious service to our beloved. God bless you. Yes Always ask for Family permission first

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thanks so much for watching Ferleen.

[@brycepollard4924]

You should do a day in the life of an embalmer

[@TheGraveWoman]

Good idea Bryce.

[@Peter-fm2vx]

Please Show us!

[@pamelajohnson2748]

You are such an compassion lady you are beautiful inside and out

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you Pamela!

[@nikolelately7184]

I seriously admire you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

That is so sweet! Thank you

[@JustMomHere]

You are such a sweet person. Any family would be blessed to have someone as respectful and compassionate as your are to care for their deceased loved ones.♡

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you Paula. I greatly appreciate you! Please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance

[@matthewdobbs1753]

This is a really special beautiful lady

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much Matthew. Please be sure to subscribe if you haven't already. like this video and share this and any other content from the channel with anyone you think will find it useful or helpful. I appreciate you and thank you in advance.

[@julesgray8794]

I think your awesome and so respectful. I'm glad we have people like you working in that field. I would definitely want someone like you working on one of my relatives or myself. So respectful.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for your beautiful message Jules. I appreciate your kind words and support so much. If you would not mind please be sure to subscribe to the channel, like this video, check out other content on the channel, and share it with anyone that you think can use it or find it helpful. Thanks in advance

[@Beereadshorror]

I'm currently a funeral studies student and I am not looking forward to cleaning eyes. I freak out when anything is near my eyes. I know they cant feel anything but it gives me goosebumps

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Brianna. Thank you so much for watching. It can be really gross sometimes (the job as a whole that is) just to be honest BUT what helps me is thinking about the fact that what we do helps the families so much and once you get into it and become used to it (the embalming and all the wonderful and necessary functions of the human body and its anatomy) I think you will begin to enjoy it. Congratulations on taking the steps needed to chase your dream and become a member of a wonderful career. I wish you all the best and hope that you will subscribe and watch some of the other videos on the channel. Where are you doing your schooling?

[@Beereadshorror]

@@TheGraveWoman I'm up in Alberta Canada! Sorry I didnt see this reply lol. Its definitely something I gotta stay positive about, I know itll be for the best. Just gotta get used to it

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@Beereadshorror Hi Brianna, how are your classes going?

[@eddieramos7857]

You just gave the best explanation of the embalming process . Good job !!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching

[@eddieramos7857]

@@TheGraveWoman No ..Thank you !! Hi from P.R. . Wish you the best .

[@eddieramos7857]

@@TheGraveWoman I just subscribed !! ( Did I spell it right? ) I'm sorry, but it's puertorican "English" !!

[@gypsytreasures3856]

Im starting to like green burials instead of the whole invasive embalming.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Gypsy! Green burials are very fascinating and offers endless options. Have you watched my video about space burial?

[@Melovemacolour]

@@TheGraveWoman not yet.. ( searched but couldn't find ) can you share the link pls.

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@Melovemacolour here you go kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6bRhZujq9JlZ68

[@dzejnalukovic9920]

That is exactly how I feel.

[@LINKINservicedog]

Go check out Ask A Mortitian. Her KZbin channel is so informative on why the deceased don't need to be embalmed except for certain circumstances. #orderofthegooddeath

[@synergybuilders4203]

You're a definite asset to our time-honored profession. From case analysis to cosmetics...your video is very educational. Hats off to you, colleague! ~ Shawn Brown, LFD & Embalmer Florida

[@TheGraveWoman]

synergy builders this is such a touching compliment!! Thank you so much! 💓💓💓

[@TwistedMemaw]

Thank you for doing such a great in depth video. I would like a more detailed video on the embalming process! Also would love an in depth video on cremation by fire and cremation by water! When a person is cremated are the clothes or naked? Little things like that are very important. Can a person be waked before being cremated? Do they have to be embalmed? Where do you put the bodies when everyone leaves the funeral home at the end of the wake? What does it entail to bring a body back to the USA when someone dies over seas (non military). There’s a ton of questions out there, most of the simplest of things.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you so much for watching. I will make a video discussing all of these things just for you. Give me a few days but look forward to seeing a video soon!

[@TwistedMemaw]

The Grave Woman Thank you for the information but more importantly thank you for taking the time to educate us.

[@ITSMECRISSY1]

So I am planned to stat mortuary school in May as a funeral director, with hopes of getting to embalming in a few years. You shed a lot of light for me. Thanks for sharing!

[@TheGraveWoman]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@ITSMECRISSY1]

@@TheGraveWoman thank you! I would love for you to sub to my channel. Also, do you watch @Exquisitely Ray's channel?? She is a funeral home director from LA...she has a wonderful channel as well.

[@Mula_RRoyalty]

I'm in college now to be a mortician... and you have just prepared me to what to expect with your least favorite part of embalming process. Thank you

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Domonique! Thanks so much for watching. What school are you attending. Please stay in touch and let me know how your education and career are progressing!

[@Mula_RRoyalty]

I go to Delgado in New Orleans, LA I will definitely keep you posted. I'm trying to get my masters but I have to crawl before I can walk. How many years of school did you have to go through to get to where your at now?

[@TheGraveWoman]

@@Mula_RRoyalty I went to college and got a bachelors in Business Admin and Small Business Management and then from there went to mortuary school for 11 months. Since mortuary school I've taken courses to become certified as an insurance agent as well as a crematory operator.

[@debbiedunn4477]

Great video. I remember that book from school! Enjoyed all my time as an embalmer/funeral director.

[@TheGraveWoman]

Thank you for your service Debbie

[@ashleybraxton4355]

My great grandmother had a large nose and when she would sneeze it would scare me to death. When she died they squeezed her nose. I saw her body and i ran to the church restroom and i cried. I most have been in there a long time because my family started looking for me. Before she passed we had talked about it and she told me not to touch her because she had touched her mother when she died and she didn't want that to be my last memory of her.

[@TheGraveWoman]

I am so sorry that your Grandmother did not look like herself. Thanks so much for watching and sharing

[@nikiblount112]

Love your videos, Joe'l ♥ I learn something new with each one. Thank you!

[@TheGraveWoman]

Hi Niki! Thanks so much for watching. It makes my heart sing to know that you are learning something.

[@nikiblount112]

@@TheGraveWoman You are very welcome ❤

[@RaisaCharityLorenzo]

You’re amazing 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@TheGraveWoman]

Raisa Charity Lorenzo hey Raisa!!! Thank you!!! 😘😘😘😍

[@ceecee9911]

You are sweet. I hope and pray that I get someone like you when I pass. God bless you and keep you. ✝️🙏🏼❤️

[@TheGraveWoman]

I thank you for your kind words. Thanks so much for watching