Dying young: 'It's not what you think' | Death Land #7

[@theGuardian]

Update from Leah: Joe died on 27th December, less than two weeks after filming. He was with his parents and his wife. Thank you all for your lovely comments

[@johannak1440]

The Guardian ❤️❤️

[@jinxterpinxter]

Whats his last name?

[@bigmort6916]

😕♥️

[@emilyllewellynbrown7659]

Rest in peace Joe. Your story has touched me.

[@jeancater1388]

The Guardian Rest In Peace Joe.♥️

[@stacyhaynes4832]

My son was diagnosed at 12 with a brain tumor that came back about a year and a half later. He fought for exactly three years and passed the Friday before Mother’s Day in 2012. He was 15. I wish I had known about these you tube videos on subjects like this. These might have helped him to feel less alone. He just wanted to go to school and be with his friends and have no worries about mortality. My Angel. I yearn for you. Always

[@18photonerd]

Stacy Haynes I’m so sorry for your loss and may your son Rest In Peace and your heart find healing.

[@rumiexpresse9049]

I am so sorry, bless him

[@denisepaulsenful]

You are loved.

[@eviandaj]

so sorry for your loss, rest in peace to your son :(

[@stacyhaynes4832]

FutureAirman93 thank you for the kind words. Blessings to you and your family

[@kelly-mariemoore7080]

My husband was diagnosed with a terminal condition at 19. He’s now almost 43. He was told he wouldn’t c 40, but he’s doing well. We know he won’t live til an old age- but every week is a bonus. I love and adore him whatever

[@barb4645]

Kelly-Marie Moore what a lovely uplifting post. I sincerely wish you both much happiness

[@kelly-mariemoore7080]

Jacob Creek thanks :-)

[@honeygolden9015]

My fiancé has a terminal illness as well. He wasn’t supposed to live beyond 12. He is 36 now. He is the funniest person you will meet. Every day is a blessing and nothing is guaranteed.

[@stacitaylor1064]

Kelly-Marie Moore you’re beautiful 💔

[@BalliBee]

💚🧡💛❤️💙💜

[@rebeccah.4983]

Reading that Joe passed away soon after this filming, made my heart hurt all the more -- his face lighting up when he was with his wife Louisa was so poignant as were his remarks about death being hardest on those who love him. My deepest sympathy to his family, wife and friends who gave Joe so much loving support -- he was a very wise young man.

[@lucidsnow4110]

Where did it say he passed away shortly after filming? Sorry if I missed I am just curious

[@michellestella7477]

@@lucidsnow4110 top comment from the guardian

[@lucidsnow4110]

@@michellestella7477 oh my bad 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@JesusGodHolySpirit3]

Thanks for ruining my thoughts of him still being alive right now t.t"

[@rebeccah.4983]

@@lucidsnow4110 Sorry, I'm only seeing your question now. As Michelle says here, Leah sadly reported his passing and the Guardian site then updated their story here in the Comments section.

[@Alipore70]

He is so articulate, intelligent and sympathetic and insightful... wish someone was writing his memoirs for him.

[@mechloe8528]

And u my friend, sound the same n I wish all the best for u :)

[@bayborn510]

I thought the same thing. It’s a gift not everyone has.

[@Gregsmith001]

Exactly the words I could think of

[@deadgrl77]

I got my terminal diagnosis 5 years ago ago. At the time I was told average prognosis is 7-10 years. It doesn't change anything, not for me. Other than not having much quality of life, I agree with this guy. I don't feel like someone who's dying. I'm just a regular person who will probably die sooner than I normally would. Its what you make it

[@jasenkavukelic5047]

Sending you my love!

[@peters.8243]

Whats your exact diagnosis If I may ask?

[@Sarah-dk8je]

Sending love. Live while u can, make the most of it while your here. I hope ur OK. Much love from the uk❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@handmadestuff157]

jacob blanchard how is that funny ?

[@handmadestuff157]

jacob blanchard how do u know shes dead

[@philancell884]

As my dear deceased Grandmother used to say "never spend a worry bout death! There can't be anything wrong with it! Everyone is doing it! Enjoy each day alive as fully as you can!" She lived until just beyond her 93rd birthday.

[@thisorthat7626]

Phil Ancell, your Grandmother shared wisdom and wit. I love this and shall remember to say this to myself often. Blessings.

[@taradactule6052]

Your grandmother sounds like a lovely lady!

[@philancell884]

@@taradactule6052 she was the greatest. Everything a grandmother should be. I was fortunate enough to know both!!

[@philancell884]

@@taradactule6052 thank you she was a treasure. 💓

[@carmcam1]

i would print that on a shirt.

[@caboosebrooks757]

Death is inevitable.. I'm more focused on living.. On a grave stone is the year of birth,a dash and the year of death. . Its the dash in the middle that matters.

[@alicek7420]

I used to think that, that life was the dash in the middle. I now think of it as boarding school where you’ve been so long, you’ve forgotten where you’d come from. You get to go back when you graduate. It’s important to do your very best in school, to gain knowledge and learn love and kindness.

[@josephhaddakin7095]

A dash of life.

[@Trrippy_Shades]

Alice K can I ask was there one experience that brought you to that conclusion?

[@barbarapeller]

Caboose Brooks, yes it does matter and it matters what we do with it as well, for, in the end, it will be counted.

[@josephhaddakin7095]

@@barbarapeller Faith through works?

[@nicolefields5917]

Having had cancer twelve years ago, and through that process, faced my own mortality, I can absolutely understand what Joe is saying about feeling more alive and letting the small stuff just go. I am deeply grateful that I didn’t die, that I was able to see my kids grow up, and the lessons that cancer gave me stay with me every day. I am glad that this reporting allowed you a new window into death and I hope that these moments continue to soothe your heart and mind.

[@Sarikayacomesin]

Nicole Fields nothing else matters once your health is in decline. Health is wealth for sure

[@danalyze]

You had two births.

[@mmmk1616]

Joe seems like a really sweet guy. It's heart-breaking, his wife must be a wreck but looks so calm and not at all stressed out. An excellent series Leah, thank you!

[@dani40338]

Mmmm K -- The reality of death many times sinks in later which was the case with me after losing my father, mother, twin sister, brother and husband.

[@geovannimameli3964]

I've tried to be as brave as this gentleman is. I'm scared to death of the advanced stage of cancer I have. Love is the only thing I have left in life. It's been therapeutic to see this video. Thank you.

[@АннаЧубаръ]

Stranger I wish I could hug you and tell you that your loved and cared about

[@geovannimameli3964]

@@АннаЧубаръ As hurt as I am that this happened to me I can say that my natural fear that I have is something that reminds me daily that I'm still alive and life has deep profound meaning to me. Thank you Hugs back to you.

[@АннаЧубаръ]

@@geovannimameli3964 ❤️

[@rachelallison5840]

Sending you love ❤❤

[@claritadeluna6609]

And love is what you’re going to find when your time to crossover is here. Apparently, love and life is exactly the same when the spirit detaches from the body. I wish you peace of mind and much love while your are in your struggle. Do not struggle, let go and just live. Live big! I don’t know who you are, but I hug you lovingly.

[@suecondon1685]

I once read that we have all been dead before, because it is no different to how we were before we were born. Now I don't fear death quite so much.

[@maybrittrnningen580]

Me to think that to die Will be just AS the same IT was before we dere born.Just darkness.But at the same time id would like to be surprized , and wounder if IT could be something afterwards. But this guy is to young to die , its terrible.

[@Mjl449]

That’s a really interesting way to think about it. Thanks for sharing.

[@brandyirizarry3827]

💜💜💜 this perspective I’m scarily little obsessed with death, but being a nurse does help, I’d hope there’s more after this life so I can be with my loved ones again

[@saimahhussain7723]

You are on a journey, you came here with a purpose....find that purpose

[@marial1682]

What I believe is that we are unique and we have an immortal soul. So we weren’t around before, but we ll be around forever, we’ll just need to change “rooms” at some point... a bit like when we were born.. we cried as we were perfectly fine in there, but a new chapter needed to start and we were fine right after..

[@symesk]

I spent most of 2019 on hospice. Nearly a year ago, I came off. I am still unwell, still likely to die before I grow old, but I’m here. I find great comfort in Joe’s words and in comments here. Death is strange. It can be terrifying to be touch and go, but for me, it has been liberating in a way I cannot explain.

[@pedrosalvador1146]

Best wishes to you, keep fighting! ❤️

[@OldWizard-tt5lt]

Sending love 💕

[@Priscila98245]

❤️💕

[@jeannettehyke43]

I was like you about death until I had to face it myself a little over 6 years ago. I've been living on borrowed time. I was told I had 5-6 years to live. I'm more relaxed about it and revamped my way of thinking and take each day as a blessing. My doctor is amazed how well I'm doing, I refuse to just give up.

[@doriangraya]

Don’t give up. Never

[@jeannettehyke43]

@@doriangraya thank you. I won't give up, I have too much to live for. I have a new granddaughter 9 months old that loves her nana and she inspires me to keep fighting

[@eamonnblake84]

@@jeannettehyke43 Lovely stuff Jeannette. Carry on!

[@geriebrookies8094]

Your amazing keeping living as warriors do I to am living with cancer it is amazing at how strong we really are for ourselves and for others around us.

[@jeannettehyke43]

@sjm sjm thank you

[@daquaw16]

I don’t think we’re scared to die, but we’re scared of not knowing what’s actually life after death

[@roxannerodriguez7075]

I like your idea! See, I don't think we're afraid to die either. I think we're afraid of how much we will miss our loved ones, and the life that we loved- that we will be leaving behind... I think we fear what we will miss...

[@josephhaddakin7095]

Fear of the unknown. Exactly.

[@camerontaylor7471]

Ronald Smith the scary thing about death, is that you won’t know that your dead... I was never afraid of dying, in fact I was depressed/suicidal most of my childhood... but now as I get older I see myself aging, and I can’t believe How short life is! I’m already 27 and I still feel like I’m 17! Lol ... but I took my mind into that moment of death, it’s like going to sleep and never waking up, never going to being able to see another sunrise, to hear music, to eat food, to think, to feel, to see my loved ones again... just absolutely nothing, and that is absolutely terrifying! ... and then I think of all the evil in the world, all the pain and suffering people have gone through, and death being the only justice for victims, because they no longer have to feel... and how unfair that is! That we can just go and use others as slaves, and hurt each other with no consequence... and then I realized that either way, I wouldn’t want to live forever... and that is the only way I have been able to come to peace with losing my loved ones and myself dying ... because no one wants to live forever.. there’s a limit to enjoyable life experiences you can have, and eventually that will get boring... so death is like the ultimate savior... because no one wants to live forever!

[@ThalesPo]

Biggest fear I think is that you spend your whole life working to accumulate knowledge, abilities and wealth, just to then lose everything.

[@k0smon]

@@ThalesPo //// Knowledge and abilities you take with you. The wealth you leave here.

[@nophoazgurl]

I can’t put in words how important this series will be as a resource for those struggling with death anxiety (common and also not so common - interesting to read the comments/views/opinions, the variety shows how human all of these emotions are). Beautifully done. This is just so ‘real’. All I could ask for is more. Wholeheartedly, after watching this series, and although my emotions were a roller coaster, I felt more at peace with the entire idea of dying. If I could scale my fear of death from 1 to 10, 10 being extreme severe paranoia of death, I started at a 9, and now feel more at a 6-7. Work to be done, but that’s on me. This is a great start. THANK YOU.

[@theGuardian]

Thanks for watching Marie

[@futurethewolf5624]

Its not helping me. 🥲

[@NumeroLetter]

One of my friends died of osteosarcoma when he was 18. What was remarkable about him was he never dwelled on his cancer. It was like it was a nonissue to him, despite the fact that he was actively dying from it. He had his moments in private, of course, but no one on the outside would've ever known he was sick if it wasn't for his neck brace and lack of hair. He always had a smile on, even through the most painful moments. One thing I'll never forget... myself and a mutual friend were over at his place, hanging out in his room. We were joking around and I was said jokingly, "I'm gonna fight you." And then out of left field, he hits me with, "You'd really hit a kid with cancer?!" I was FLOORED!! I didn't even know what to say!! We all cracked up over that, it was hysterical!!! I miss him all the time.

[@gsimon123]

*Person has cancer* Person with cancer: "I think the worst part about it is how hard it is for everyone around you." So insightful that he feels more for everyone around him than himself while having one of the worst ailments slowly killing him. A real inspiration about how to look at life.

[@comfortablynumb5597]

I love this man, what a wise and gentle soul he has. Bless him.

[@jaeshasway]

This was tough. My sister died of oral cancer. It was also to her tongue. She died and I miss her terribly every day. ♥️

[@annegachanja3468]

Love to you❤

[@lapis3834]

❤🌹

[@grateful1929]

I'm so sorry about your sister. So very sorry. Please, what were her symptoms? I'm asking for a reason.

[@jaeshasway]

Anne Gachanja Thank you! ♥️

[@jaeshasway]

Lapis Arja Thank you. ♥️

[@cee7105]

His words will resonate with many people. I actually felt a sense of what he was describing. Rest in peace my dear man 🙏

[@brittanygolden5519]

"You suddenly feel alive". What powerful words we should all try to heed. Don't wait until you're dying, to live.

[@brandyirizarry3827]

Must be a great guy, cuz he’s surrounded by great people that speaks of his character. Sending positive vibes, courage, strength and peace.

[@nf8498]

I've spent so much of my life wanting to die, now that I'm healing emotionally and mentally I'm more terrified of dying and death than ever. I'm scared to go before my time and to miss out but I'm terrified of living and losing my loved ones one by one. I don't understand death at all. I'm agnostic, I don't know if I would prefer some type of afterlife or just silence and nothing. Very odd existential feelings. To know you are dying and having to face it every day knowing your time is running out- I wish him peace and little pain

[@phillipmitchell6184]

There is an afterlife it’s just how you go about your life to where you end up

[@sweettina2]

There is an afterlife.

[@szqsk8]

No one dies 'before their time'. Their time is when they pass.

[@Draeber]

we just exist to carry life on. Each of us are linked to those before and after. but we all have to die to keep life going.

[@ki11aqueen5]

@@szqsk8 no, some are taken too early and too innocent. Never even having a chance to really live life.

[@brookemckinley5709]

Now this is my kind of journalism. I’m terrified of dying myself and have found a lot of comfort in watching this death land series. Thank u Leah for throwing yourself into something that terrifies u as well! And THANK U JOE for sharing your story with us, it’s very inspiring and comforting. You’ve probably touched and helped way more people then u even realize. Also, thank u to his wife (sorry didn’t catch name) for being so vulnerable and sharing your side of it with us as well. Your strength is inspiring!!

[@selia4525]

In the Netherlands we have a TV show called "Over Mijn Lijk" which translates to Over My Dead Body. It follows young people with terminal illnesses - How they deal with life, death and the time they have left. It really opened my eyes to see such young people with so little time left to live, living life much more intense than some of us ever will... And the amount of positivity they have. I wish there was an English version of the show, or English subtitles so more people could watch it.

[@unicornsarereal4254]

I too have an obsession of death, it’s terrifying to me,the anxiety and thought the of it pops into my head everyday

[@hayleydryden3137]

I'm really not bothered about dying.. But have thoughts of what if I wake up in my coffin or in the mortuary fridge.. So best I'm embalmed then this won't happen..

[@unicornsarereal4254]

Waking up in the fridge or coffin never crosses my mind but that would terrify me too.

[@katiemilady197]

@@unicornsarereal4254 we all have some fear and anxiety about death because it's the unknown. It's the suffering part I don't want to have to go through. Stay positive, try to enjoy every moment of your life while you are still on this Earth, and remember that people love you and care. Even here on KZbin! 🙂 Stay well, my friend. ❤️🙏

[@thomasjones7369]

brenda cabral I mention the topic of death for a bit in my first video if anyone is interested to watch it

[@nicholasonciul5770]

I recently went through this, and going on r/nde on reddit really helped me.

[@avalondreaming1433]

What a blessing that Joe found love before his diagnosis. A sweet and beautiful man, RIP.

[@tiffany3294]

Nobody is guaranteed a long life. We could go at any time at any age we are always surrounded by death whether we realize it or not.

[@copypaste3526]

What a great man. Such dignity and honsesty.

[@Eleuthero5]

Joe's outlook is so refreshing and objective. Even with only half a ton he spoke volumes.

[@Charlieboy8888]

5:24 I am 35 years old and was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal cancer in April, 2024. Adenoid Cystic Carcinoma of the nasal cavity. I've not been given a full time estimate yet but feel deep down already that my time is around the 1.5 year mark.

[@jmeyer3rn]

Brother Steve died at age 18 of a testicular cancer which is usually more common in toddlers/younger boys. It was awful. Diagnosed around 14-15. He suffered a lot. Ended up in his spinal column, brain, stomach. I’m not sure how much fight he had at the end, but we just couldn’t get him the therapies he needed. Soon after his death we were told there was a new chemo that would probably, most likely have cured him. Such a guy with so much promise gone way too soon.

[@FullTimePatient37]

I can't believe he passed in less than a month after filming...Joe was so handsome and talented 😢❤

[@leejay2418]

Joe, his wife and friends are so thoughtful and lovely.

[@jjjj-x9g]

You can tell what kinda person he is from that.

[@pameladaley955]

Thank you so much for doing this for us, Leah! yes for US as you did it for you. I'm not afraid to die but I'm old (76) and quite alone - so your series has made me feel much less alone. I'm not sick but it's ok with me to die. Thanx again! You're sensitive and articulate - I thoroughly enjoyed your adventure and was right by your side as you experienced it.

[@judygd8749]

pamela daley I wish to die everyday.. Life is suffering & meaningless.. I have no purpose to live

[@TT-fr7gz]

Judy GD why do you feel this way? X

[@judygd8749]

@@TT-fr7gz I have no purpose in life.. Divorced.. After that all my relationships fail 1 after the other.. I have to work.. Got fired many times due to absenteeism caused by depression.. No one to help me do anything.. No one to confide in.. Life is pain, suffering & misery.. Life is only for rich not poor

[@judygd8749]

@Silicone Julie Tomorrow I have an interview I have to be strong I have to fight

[@margaretcunningham7146]

@@judygd8749 how are you now? Hope you are ok...

[@QueenieBee99]

I saw my grandmother after she passed - Don't be scared we keep going. We go to a beautiful place

[@anahidkassabian4471]

Absolutely brilliant series. Thank you for being brave enough to face your fears and make it. As someone with many health challenges, I needed this, and I could happily have watched a series double the length.

[@samanthataylor1761]

Bless his wife. The pain this woman must go through everyday until his death is unthinkable.

[@victorbela5317]

Are you kidding me.

[@noorisalih8702]

​@@victorbela5317 it's always about women🤦

[@aprilfisher4947]

He died a week or so after filming this and nobody suffers more than the person who is dying.

[@michalrzmichalrz6656]

"I used to run, with my friend a comedy night. She came in and played the violin at the start of each night and played The End by The Doors on violin and I fell in love."

[@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights]

What a beautiful soul Joe was. May his spirit shine over his widow and everyone else who loved him.

[@michaelcallisto]

9:35 I'm 30 years old and dying of Soft Tissue Sarcoma and looking at old photos like this from before my diagnosis totally wrecks me. I can't do it.

[@gerardmackay8909]

Sending a virtual hug

[@iaw7406]

R.I.P. my dude

[@beomgyusmcnugget1055]

Reading that he passed so soon after this video made me cry so hard, it felt like a lost a friend, somehow, which sounds strange. But then I realized that in the nick of time, he touched not only the people around him, who smiled so warmly and fondly at that table with him in the video, but he also moved the hearts of 910k people. I think I'm going to remember this moment for a long, long time. Thank you, Joe, for moving us all. I hope the other side is as warm and bright as it should be for angels like you.

[@alexandrasarno6394]

Im someone who is 40 suffering from chronic pain and a severe panic disorder..my addictive meds make me feel horrific everyday..panic and depression..I feel like Im dying but Im not. I see more life in these patients than I feel inside myself...I don't think death is the worst thing to face..I think living in agony and mental distress is. Death will be my peace and the end of my suffering..

[@victorbela5317]

WOW you look so young.

[@markin_mask5592]

"When bad things happen it brings people together" that was really touching

[@mansoorrana4475]

Do h recognise the soundtrack playing from 11:00 to 11:30?

[@morganjames5180]

Sorry to hear Joe died two weeks after filming. That was so quick. Farewell Joe, hope you are pain free now and souring the blue oceans of heaven. Bless you for sharing your life with us. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

[@GreekGirl102]

Hearing that he heard her play a song called "The End," as the beginning to their love story, is very... other-worldly... considering the end of his life and their time together. Condolences to the family.

[@leahcotton5315]

RIP Joe - you are so gracious to let us in to see the end of your brave journey. Rest easy mate.

[@Clare-ug7fq]

I've just found this series, I am so sorry to hear that Joe passed away. I would also like to add that I think Leah handled the subject beautifully. I struggle to keep my composure but you dealt with yours brilliantly. My mum has Leukaemia and I had to leave her appointment because I became too upset. I hope Joe's wife, family and friends are doing okay. Sending lots of love. Xx

[@nicolesandoval5444]

I thought I was the only one dealing with death anxiety. I am Terrified of dying and leaving my child behind. It’s a very scary feeling. Thank you for these videos.

[@hamishwilson9787]

I too have massive anxiety of death, when I was little I saw my grandpa pass away from type 2 diabetes, two year later my aunty passed away suddenly in her sleep, on augest 1st 2012 my uncle passed away from falling asleep on the wheel then two years after that my 8 year old step brother died from a brain tumor. It's taken a heavy toll on me mentally everyday and it's opened my eyes on how precious life is and how it can end suddenly.

[@SathyAnna7]

All my love to you Joe, his wife, his friends, and The Guardian. There is no death, just Love. Thank you all

[@davidr1620]

I’m glad you got to interview such an articulate person about this issue.

[@minorcek]

Two of my best friends since childhood died this year. One from drug related hear failure and the other was murdered in cold blood, shot in the chest while stopped at a red light. Everyday that I wake up and haven't gone completely nuts is a miracle. One of these days I'll get around to processing it. We are only 26/27

[@somozamaria]

I had a friend that was shot in Chicago in front of a stop light. They still haven’t caught the culprit.

[@user-hx9cc1qh3h]

It's almost funny how death doesn't even care about your age, health, richness, or how many depend on you. It's like a raffle nobody wants to win, but we all will be the chosen ones some day. I know it's cliché but, by watching this series and now reading your comment, it makes the phrase "Live life to the fullest" acquire a whole different and deeper meaning. Stay strong buddy, take care.

[@variatonesoundscape5592]

I'm only 6 minutes in and I respect this man and all the insight he has had to offer. Dying or not, in the moment he still has an exceptional way of communicating and a well-rounded view of life and dying. Ill or not, a great soul. I love him.

[@MrSharky334]

Rest in peace, Joe. You’re a beautiful man.

[@danalyze]

Joe would be such a cool friend to have. What a soul

[@isishecate9883]

If you are loved through any illness,you are truly loved,The real deal.

[@sallyclay1974]

It's sad when people die young. As we age, no matter what our family background is, we r never prepared to die young. We come kicking and screaming into this world, and when we r really terminally sick, we try to linger here longer. Try to keep busy, and enjoy each day Humans, r only on earth for a short time. Blessings and prayers to your friends and family.

[@sshms414]

What a lovely guy life is so cruel

[@danawilletts3528]

What an insightful way to describe life being more colourful and vivid, because you can forget all the normal life stress. And just live for the moment. X

[@rrrrmcg408]

Sounds so peaceful and special doesnt it ❤

[@isthatyoursandwich]

So sad... He is so brave and strong.

[@sammccreath1]

The first thing that came to mind after watchIng this was this quote from Marcus Aurelius; "Death smiles at us all, but all a man can do is smile back."

[@dragutintheslav-veliki790]

What I had learned from death, seeing my loved ones and my young friends die, to even having a couple of near death experiences myself! What I have learned is, don't bother yourself with death, it is okay to think about it from time to time (it's all natural) but *don't bother about dying* , because if you do, you will die long before you actually die. So, live life instead, go do something you've never done in your life You want to sing in front of many people? Go to a karaoke club! You want to learn how to ride a bike? Go buy yourself one! Don't just sit there and think about how you could have done that X amount of years ago, that time won't come back, but you can make it happen in this time, now! Don't you worry about regrets, you'll find something to regret about on your deathbed, the question is: How many regrets do you wanna have once your time comes to an end?

[@nicholasonciul5770]

well said man

[@Chris-kr7gg]

Unfortunately money is a factor for people.

[@LexiNc8284]

Very nicely put

[@jeantave8562]

I died and they brought me back. I was terminal for 6 years. I am finally no longer terminal. I was a journalist/ editor, runner, animal activist. And my diagnosis was literally over night. I woke up and kept having edema and it got worse & worse. I was diagnosed with CKD. It changed my life forever! Mostly for the better, but some worse. Stress does literally kill people, I never believed that until it happened to me. Hopefully his wife can help him make it to a remission, you never know he could beat this!

[@fernandomelgar892]

I really appreciate that the host looks into her death anxiety and compares where she started before to now. It is very supportive to the topic.

[@mohsinm5854]

When Joe said he’s the luckiest guy to have these people as friends .. that look in his eyes .. maaan .. nothing but respect 🫡

[@RandomHippieCreations]

My father was giving 6 months, he lived for 19 more years. Joe was right on, it is harder for the people that are around the one dying.

[@marthemorais7636]

We come to this Earth and eventually we know we are all dying but we don't know when.

[@camerontaylor7471]

Marthe Morais we will never know when, because when your dead, you won’t know your dead!

[@mmmk1616]

On another note, when Joe says he feels lucky, I kinda understand. I was diagnosed with MS and bi-polar disease in 2000, and I have other health problems, but I am so grateful every day for so many things. It's funny, isn't it? I really do feel lucky, for my home, my family and my friends just for a start :)

[@mattbrown7645]

Great series. Thank you for bringing this subject to the surface. You're a brave and beautiful soul.

[@upendasana7857]

who is ? him or her ?

[@mattbrown7645]

I think its obvious both the host and guest encompass the attributes mentioned. However I was referring to Leah for her great journalism and the way she presented this tough subject.

[@ttbo12]

I've heard dying people, including a family member, talk about death as "returning home'. I believe the veil to the other side is thinner for people close to death and they understand things about life that the rest of us don't. We lived before mortality and will continue to live afterwards.

[@marciajones2993]

What a brave soul. My heart goes out to his loved ones, they have to live with the loss. Hope he’s found peace. 💙

[@Sushi2735]

I was diagnosed last month with Congestive Heart Failure and to have my affairs in order. It could my next week or next year. I still haven’t processed this as I started to shop for Palliative Care and Hospice. As a 71 yr old widow I have no one for in come care for me to supplement in home hospice. Just a fact. There is not enough money to cover that. A terminal diagnosis is so difficult to comprehend and as a young person who has not lived yet…………..I can’t imagine. I have had an extremely well traveled life and adventures. So I can’t complain. Just be prepared, and not be a burden on others. I’m still well enough to find the services I WANT TO USE, not what someone else wants. Once I come to terms with this, I’ll check back in. We all know we are going to die. But when you actually hear it………..I swear inside, we are all 35! 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@eric__hilton]

I hope everything works out for you, however you want that to be. Please update us. 💙

[@Sushi2735]

@@eric__hilton , you are terribly kind. I’ll adjust. I never wanted to be old. I could have five more yrs. But being a planner, just want all my ducks in a row .That way you can hand someone en envelope and say start here: I’ll post again in a couple months 😃

[@seoulessangel]

Hope you’re well! My grand aunt was 76 when she passed away august of this year. She had a form of cancer (which I didn’t find out until after she died). She struggled it with it on and off for about 20 years. Edit: forgot to mention that she refused to ever do chemo treatments. I can’t imagine the pain one would feel without treatments.

[@dishish]

a few days after my brother passed The End by the Doors came on and blew my soul into a million pieces. RIP Matthew - RIP Joe.

[@tinkhubbert8213]

Joe and his loved ones will be in my prayers

[@ManiKanta-jp5vl]

Cancer is killed my mom 5 month ago. She is only 43. I miss my mom every moment of my life... It's very hard to deal with cancer 😭😭😭

[@carolynhall1302]

Only just found this video. What a lovely man! Lots of love to his wife and close friends x

[@me_ow5662]

Thank you so much for this video.. My heartfelt condolences to his wife, families and friends. May he rest in peace.. This helps me to see life at a different perspective and to be grateful and happy

[@joseflemire4284]

Both Joe and Leah are Courageous and full of Love....this was very enlightening in all aspects of that word

[@yehhshhs]

that young man has a really cool fashion style and he looks very handsome.

[@katherineg9396]

Thanks to Leah and the Guardian for this excellent series. Leah, I'm glad your death anxiety got better, I hope have found even more peace.

[@rabbit3212010]

Who else is watching this during the current Covid 19 pandemic?

[@GloomyStrawberries]

Me

[@noralemus6323]

Me

[@akiicomber3496]

I am too

[@sassolungo]

and thinking about all the people waiting for a diagnosis and/or treatment >:

[@KristinaStarlight98]

Me

[@kiki1573]

I understand her fears about death, but talking to a dying person will just help understand what dying *feels* like. No one has ever came out of their graves to explain to us what death is really like. My heart goes out to the terminally I'll young man. Mid 30s isn't a full life at all. Nowhere near it.

[@margietucker1719]

I think it's more about quality--not quantity.

[@kiki1573]

@@margietucker1719 You're absolutely right about that

[@jasonchambers8010]

Leah you did a great job.

[@pri2816]

What a brave, selfless guy. RIP

[@francesgray5545]

I’ve always been scared of dieing , but after seeing my mum die from cancer I just want to be with her and del like I’m not scared , even though she did suffer towards the end, it always seems the best people get these terminal illnesses 💔

[@lisapesce1893]

Met my late partner in 1984, she died of cancer in 2008.What keeps you continuing are your memories and the love you have doesn't go away.I look back and think how lucky I was to have a long loving relationship.Not everybody gets that.

[@applejellypucci]

Joe you'll never be forgotten.

[@maryellenblount6376]

I enjoyed this documentary. It sheds so much light on death and dying. Something we will all face. Thank you for doing this work.

[@beeniemen]

It makes you realise how futile our daily problems are ... amazing serie

[@Tipperary757]

Excellent program. Thank you.

[@bgray8410]

Thank you Joe for your sharing your story and supporting a healthy conversation about life. Rest in peace ✌️

[@jacquesrenou2850]

Wounderful series and Awsum journalism,thank you so much,your a sweetheart.💙

[@patty7791]

What a wonderful wife and friends he had! Shows you what a quality guy he was!

[@lakshmimuralidharan8294]

I bless his wife, friends and family with love and light!

[@oxblood441]

The need to treat people respect and dignity is really important when you smile to a passer by that could make someone's day, that someone could be going through the worst pain in their life, so be nice be kind and choose words wisely! Peace.

[@careym3901]

WOW! that was powerful! Thank you for sharing this story!

[@pedrojose3228]

This breaks my heart man fr 😔💔 the fact that he’s thinking and worrying about everyone around him before himself while really going thru it!🥺💔

[@Mlam-t4k]

Thank you for doing this series.