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[@TheInternetInvestigator]

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[@breilneen4103]

Have some class and take down that Kate Middleton video. It's in poor taste. The woman has cancer.

[@breilneen4103]

Your just farming views from it now and it's kind of immoral

[@lauratude5132]

@@breilneen4103 I think it could be fair because she WAS an internet mystery awhile.

[@Aconitum_napellus]

I want to investigate your knickers.

[@flonkplonk1649]

The AI voice sucks

[@roguerouge]

There's a possibility that if Susan did actually write the posts, it was done under Travis's direction.

[@GypsyxDarling]

Yeah, that feels super likely. It's not uncommon in the lifestyle.

[@ViktoriaEvans]

Travis wrote everything.

[@isabelw6265]

My favorite part of all the Investigator’s videos is when she says “let’s investigate” and the proceeds to investigate all over the place

[@Aconitum_napellus]

Cheese flavoured cheese.

[@lowwastehighmelanin]

19:13 the rejection of consent based negotiations means this isn't truly BDSM. That's not how the whole thing works. This is just plain abusive. The community doesn't vibe with this shit.

[@mv9653]

I came here to say this. Negotiation, consent and proper communication are the key aspects that make BDSM what it is. (Not that there aren’t creeps who think like Travis in the community, but they have to hide it behind the language of true BDSM.)

[@M3GAD3D]

that's true but honestly i've met more creeps in the community who think like travis than I have one's who don't especially in online communities.

[@jennaeverhart8161]

I hear this line time and time again when something like this comes out of bdsm, it's almost like this community attracts people who want to abuse and exploit people

[@thegrimlooper]

@@jennaeverhart8161 Of course it attracts those people. It provides them “willing victims”. Those who like to be the master hold a lot of power over their slave and sometimes, they will slowly brainwash their slave into thinking bad behaviors are ok. They do it very slyly and you don’t even realize they are manipulating you. For the master, much like adult films, they end up needing MORE and worse acts to be able to make their release. I know people who were simply looking for someone to mistreat. They don’t care if they are forcing someone to do something, as long as they get what they want. Then they’ll be nice to you, maybe.

[@asmrtpop2676]

@@jennaeverhart8161Yup this reminds me of christian’s who then say “that’s person isn’t a true christian”. The thing is, they are. You just don’t like how they were using their christianity.

[@ArtistLisaM]

Ok, so as someone that has been in the BDSM community for about 15 years, there are several things about this that bothered me. (This might also hopefully explain a few things.) First off, it seems like there was no grace period. Every Dom/Master that I know offers their potential sub/slave a grace period to both see if they mesh well and to make sure it's something they both want. Jumping into a 24/7 lifestyle with no experience is generally frowned upon. (Might also explain why they weren't active in their local BDSM community, as this would raise a few red flags to those that are active in the lifestyle.) Second is that, judging by her wording, there was no prior discussion of EXACTLY what this kind of relationship entails. Any good Dom/Master sits down with their potential sub/slave before hand and they go over what is to be expected (from both parties), what their hard limits are, that kind of thing. They want their sub/slave to be 100% aware of what they are getting into before agreeing to that kind of commitment. Third. the whole "slaves can't leave the relationship" thing couldn't be further from the truth. If a slave is no longer happy, a good Master accepts this and either tries to work something out or allows the slave to leave if they want to. A real BDSM relationship is meant to be fulfilling for BOTH dynamics. A Master enjoys knowing that their slave is happy, fulfilled, and is here because they WANT to be. Finally, to me, this seems like an instance of the husband using BDSM to excuse abuse. This is sadly a common thing, and I've spoken to several subs/slaves that have been through this. It's heartbreaking. People like Travis are despised in the community and outright abuse is not tolerated.

[@SpecialBlanket]

TPE sub of 15 years here! Good outline :) And yes, my Dom would have no interest whatsoever in being with someone who resisted for real. We did jump into things quite fast and unprepared as we were only 18 (him) and 22 (me), but now we're well into our 30s and have our act together, lol. I'm not close to my parents but his parents know we do D/s, and it's as she says-- they know we do D/s but they don't need to see the super gory details!

[@SpecialBlanket]

I will say though that these days the bdsm community has become ridiculously scene based and squishy. I genuinely want to go on a psychedelic adventure with someone and do things that in most relationships would be abuse. I WANT it to fuck with my psychologically and I have the right to take that risk.

[@joandarcfeminist]

Yeah crazy how BDSM attracts abusers innit. It's hard to tell if/which people aroused by committing violence are the good ones !!

[@papaversomniferum8508]

i too am very active in my local scene, both as a dom and sub: 100% agree with every word you say.

[@RavenDai]

I'm glad to see someone post this. My partner and I have a friend and a now former-friend who could have basically been a carbon copy of the initial part of the video about the blog (our friend didn't kill him though just managed to get the hell out). Throughout the whole relationship our former-friend kept trying to ask me and my partner for help. Even though we weren't really big into anything in BDSM we tried to at least talk to them and he kept painting us this picture that this was all consensual but they were having other problems. We'd talk to them about trying to stop their 24/7 and focus on just their basic relationship but with both of them present we'd get stories about how this is what she wanted, about how they had talked to a "therapist" who was supposedly guiding them into this, about how the submissive in this relationship was a person who because of past trauma wanted to basically not have to deal with decisions and essentially free-will cause it was making her miserable...and I am ashamed to say that at the time we didn't see how bad his control was. It had already begun before we even got to meet the submissive who is now still out friend. He had twisted so much of her life and the story that they told to the world that to this day our friend still occasionally let's slip something about back then and my partner and I have to do a double take cause it is something else where he lied to our faces about what was actually going on. Over and over back then I remember both my partner and I urging them to talk to someone who knew stuff. To look up resources. That everything we could find online said basically what you did above and that the kind of relationship they were pursuing wasn't part of the community and seemed geared towards being harmful. We got lies to our faces about looking into it. The weirdest part though in all of it, and something that makes me wonder after watching this video, is that there was some outside 3rd party (whose emails I have actually seen and have been handed over to law enforcement) who was coaching our friend through the entire abusive process. Supposedly it was a submissive woman who was living in a relationship like this but there was so much inconsistency in that I honestly wonder if it was someone like Travis trying to build himself an equally twisted friend or accomplice. But they were urging our former-friend to engage in some seriously f@*ked up stuff including things that we know literally pushed our friend to thoughts of unaliving themself directly because of this and once we found out how malicious and deliberate it was we nuked the relationship with him, did everything we could to help our friend get out and away from him, and just generally try to help them get out and rebuild. Still carry a lot of guilt that I didn't see it when it was happening at the time and it makes me sick to my stomach to see so many people be so dubious about Susan in the video and why she would have done what she did. I know someone who has been Susan and if they did what Susan did...I would understand completely why it played out that way. Sorry that got rambling.

[@baileymoran8585]

I am a lifestyle Domme with my husband and I don’t care what anyone says. 24:7 kink is a huge red flag. You have to have time where you are not roleplaying. This is because boundaries change and it’s important for subs to still have opportunities to be autonomous and independent to a degree. The ‘I can never leave’ is concerning. I am a dominant person. I cannot speak on what is or isn’t healthy for submissive. Some do enjoy ‘sex slave’ and ‘sex object’ play but they still wake up and go to work and live their separate life. With or without BDSM, spending 24:7 with your partner and doing everything they say is codependency. I can guarantee that he was narrating at least most of her blog. As I’m telling her what to say. I’m at the part where she said she was not submissive and she was made to be. That is a huge red flag, and like I said, there is no way he doesn’t have influence of her blog.

[@InvaderGIR98]

The fact that there were kids in the picture makes it especially sad. I'm not blaming Delia but imagine your kids growing up watching this dynamic

[@Aconitum_napellus]

Cheese flavoured cheese.

[@paulsecrest9427]

Its a life style. But there's daytime everyday life. Then theres nighttime play. And it has to be built on trust. By both parties. But i think she shot him because they were going to split and he was probably gonna get the kids.

[@stroodledoodles]

Oh man I heard of this story years ago, but I never realised that Susan spoke up after everything. I'm so glad that she managed to heal and find someone who was good to her, her children too.

[@ctobolsk]

In the late 90’s I was living in NYC and met a man who seemed quite nice. After a couple of dates, he told me he was looking for a woman who would be willing to be his slave. I was in my 20’s and had no experience outside of vanilla relationships. I said “no thanks” politely and got out of there so fast lol

[@adeer87]

Cursed cat Alastor

[@preciouspear7619]

Lucky you got away from that. People who are genuinely in the lifestyle don’t just ask someone to be their slave willy-nilly. It takes a lot of time to build up that trust to get to that point. That man was 100% an abuser.

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Sounds like you made the right decision! It's a shame your time was wasted before he mentioned that though, I mean I guess it's not exactly the first topic of discussion you'd bring up on a first date, but surely even in the 90s there'd be ways of meeting people he knew were into that stuff right off the bat? 😅🖤

[@ctobolsk]

@@TheInternetInvestigator yeah it kinda came out of nowhere and I was still pretty naive so it freaked me out

[@ctobolsk]

@@preciouspear7619 I totally agree

[@raeraebadfingers]

Say it with me, fans. Let's investigeht!

[@adeer87]

Me, a queer person: “let’s investigayyyte”

[@pepinyostep3592]

Lololo

[@ellie-za-bif]

​@@adeer87 investigATE 💅

[@adeer87]

@@ellie-za-bif Even better!

[@materhead5051]

Hahahahaha love it

[@AlexMartinez-nn2cm]

While this story is definitely disturbing, I honestly was expecting the worst. I'm really happy that Susan and her kids managed to get out of it and that they found healing.

[@HaveFaith_11]

So many red flags 🚩 in her relationship. I’m glad she got away from him. It sounded like at the end of her relationship she was so unhappy 😢!! After what happened to me as a child I didn’t want to be submissive to anyone. I had everything taken from me. My childhood, my innocence, I didn’t have any control, & even if I said no they didn’t care. I tried with my daughter’s dad & he didn’t care about my boundaries. He is another person who didn’t care if I said NO! 7 long years in the horrible relationship.

[@PissyLissy]

I hope you’ve found peace and are doing okay! Stay strong ❤️

[@HaveFaith_11]

@m0rianne what’s wrong with you? I never once said I’m always the victim.

[@HaveFaith_11]

@@PissyLissy Thank you 🩷

[@shinigami9816]

@m0rianne you obviously read this wrong

[@anitacrumbly]

​@m0riannewhat is wrong with you, she isn't a victim she is a survivor obviously because she is no longer with that man and has survived her awful childhood and is here graciously sharing her story because she is strong enough to retell those horrid things. You need to go to therapy i hope you find peace one day.

[@SatyrToon]

That blog gives me "beautiful twin Doran's 5x stainless steel hooks" vibes.

[@GiraffeLoverJen]

OMG, right!

[@mistydayremainsofthejudgment]

yeah, it's always super obvious when a man with a fetish pretends to be a woman in writing

[@gunnargislason5221]

What is this in reference to? Sounds familiar but I can't place it 🤔

[@sneakupandhitya]

​@@gunnargislason5221another video she made about carole_dbe

[@unsettlingg]

​@@gunnargislason5221 same

[@dogscott7881]

I have no idea if everything on the blog was legit but what I do know is women are in abusive relationships and ARE NOT taken seriously by the police in America literally everyday. That’s what makes me believe that there’s something true to the horrific side of their relationship. The police had to believe something otherwise she would be in prison not out and free, they don’t actually just had out self defense deals, especially to women who shoot their husbands on the grounds of abuse.

[@ayeoh2912]

I feel like such a goofball when I say ‘Let’s investigate’ (with a poor attempt at the accent) alongside the Internet Investigator. Such a fan!

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Hahaha love this! 🖤

[@Amanda-el2jo]

Haha I do this too, every time!

[@pgakt]

This is so cute

[@Trololo231]

I repeat THANKS EVERYONE WHO CONSIDERS THIS. lmao

[@EHiggins]

I pause for a moment and actually consider it

[@kgarrison343]

imo the dudes who are saying they were duped are just trying to rationalize getting off to content made through abuse. They are the real victims, naturally, not the woman being abused for their pleasure.

[@chocomelo454]

I haven't watched this video yet so speaking in general here but good lord I hope that thats not the case. I really hope it's just a "I'm disgusted by what was done to this person and I can't believe I ever believed it was consensual. Thats horrific that someone could treat another person like this." Then again I probably just have a little too much hope for humanity.

[@chocomelo454]

But also inb4 people start trying to claim that consensual bdsm is bad and start using a real woman's living horror story / trauma as reasoning, and start implying that women can't possibly consent to anything. Imo that kind of thinking is equally harmful because predators will use that against women.

[@SpicyTexan64]

Poor poor wymenz

[@thewhitefalcon8539]

International politics also works this way.

[@joandarcfeminist]

Yep!! And of course who knows what else they watched online, and how would they know if any of that footage/images were made/shared consensually (without even broaching the ethics of what's portrayed)

[@PedanticUnionist]

16:00 "Delia explained how she became submissive to travis, quote, "So i recently asked the mint mobile legal team if big wireless is allowed to raise the prices with inflation"

[@askwhateverlol]

They are 😾 Thanks Ryan!

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

That’s great 🤣🤣🖤

[@JoeyConejo.]

LMFAOO

[@InvaderGIR98]

Yo Ryan Reynolds I love your movies but if you keep showing me your ads I'm gonna have no choice but to make an infinity gauntlet

[@akaczism]

19 mins in, so I know I'm not even halfway through to see the conclusion, but want to chime in for a sanity check for anyone wondering: I'm a submissive and one of the most important things my Domme taught me was to run *far, far away* from anyone who wanted to dominate me but didn't take my well-being into consideration. A good Dom/me takes the responsibility for their sub seriously, and should take pride in knowing their sub is well cared for. Describing being forced to submit like Germany losing the war is bucking deranged. (PS, thank you Internet Investigator for being respectful of the community despite not understanding. Not the first time in one of your videos I've heard you say something about not judging what consenting people do, and just want you to know it really is appreciated.)

[@stover14]

Wow, brave and stunning

[@adeer87]

@@stover14jealous?

[@stover14]

@deereye87 oh for sure

[@SybilNix]

The critics saying that they were probably just grifters looking for a buck and their reason being “they weren’t active in the community” (IRL, I assume is what they mean) ….. no shit lol, this is very much in line with the way abusers act when they misuse the name of BDSM for their horrible actions Editing to add: a classic part of abusive relationships is to isolate your partner. The way that the author of the blog disparages certain aspects of the BDSM community and its terminology is a big red flag here. Of course he wouldn’t want them to engage with the wider community in a setting he couldn’t control. And bringing in a naive 19yo doesn’t change that, since she was likely going to be a victim too. Yknow, assuming that he was actually abusive, which I’m obviously inclined to believe lol

[@AleTitan]

Scaretheater's coverage of this buried into my head that the boyfriend was abusive

[@SybilNix]

@@courtneyramatowski9782exactly! I know that in recent decades there has been a lot more discussion and awareness about BDSM vs abusive dynamics, but it’s still disheartening to see people being so black-and-white about it. Assuming that she acted in retaliation for the alleged abuse: Yes it’s possible the blog was made primarily for money Yes it’s possible that they only engaged with certain acts for the online audience Yes it’s possible that she was at least aware that this blog existed Yes it’s possible that she was being abused the entire time. A lot of people still don’t understand how victims can frequently take part in things perpetrated by the abuser, especially if the goal is to give people reason to doubt the victim if they ever come forward. This could easily be an example of that.

[@preciouspear7619]

As someone who’s in the BDSM lifestyle, a lot of people who are coupled up usually fall out of the IRL community. This is because people who go to the meetings & parties are usually going there to meet other people & have a space to do scenes. Once they’re paired up with someone they usually have a house or two to do what they please. My husband & I were in the IRL community until almost three years ago because we ended up building our own “dungeon” for our “activities.”

[@SybilNix]

@@preciouspear7619it’s so nit-picky too! Like yeah it could be a red flag but also…. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted or wanting to keep to yourself lol

[@bronzergoth7598]

she wouldn't have been hanging out with her family if he was isolating her

[@MsMoonDragoon]

If you're treating a relationship like war, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.

[@baileymoran8585]

Also, she was probably curious about the lifestyle but inexperienced. Her husband probably convinced her that she was not a dominant but a submissive. He probably set out to abuse her. He probably gave her the impression that if she wasn’t into it they would just break up and that wasn’t the case. He probably made threats and when the kids came along they may have been the subject of his threats. She probably has a lot of issues remembering things because when you live in survival mode the sequence and everything get jumbled and forgotten. She may have been forced to write some of it but it was his words. She also may not want to admit that out loud because she was worried about the perception it would give if she admitted it. She may be ashamed of her Stockholm syndrome. Sometimes I have trouble talking about my past experiences because some of them don’t even seem real or very clear. I worry that some things will make me sound less credible. Who knows if he was using substances on her, possibly without her knowledge? I don’t consider this case to be ‘bdsm lifestyle.’ Like I said, 24:7 is not a healthy reality for many. When it stops having room for re-evaluation and neutral communication, it’s not bdsm but abuse. I believe her. I believe she had justification for what she did to get out. I believe we will never get 100% details because that’s the nature of trauma. Nobody talks about how hard it is to go there in your mind and remember accurate details of the worst shit you have gone through but I have been there and I get it. Sometimes people’s minds won’t let them go there until they are ready.

[@sandrafaith]

Well said.

[@mikesanders8621]

Well, this is going to ruin my day. Better get the bong out.

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

You might need it for this 🥲🖤

[@binladen6783]

Same

[@Glorplagon]

Same

[@dubester1982]

Same!

[@Spooky_Platypus]

💀

[@nekovalley]

BDSM can be fun and even cathartic if you’re into it, but I think most people who are into it agree that it can be rough on your mental state if you don’t practice it safely and consensually, which includes checking up on your partner not just before s*x, but several times during it as well, especially if it’s particularly painful. You need a balance between play and aftercare, and you also need to be able to trust that you can stop for the night and just cuddle instead. Imagine if a family member died, or something else big and stressful happened in your day, those are AWFUL times to be expected to be the perfect submissive. Many of us understand that, so it is very irregular and upsetting to me that anyone would be forced into such a vulnerable mindset all the time.

[@ww3196]

Yes, agree!

[@Nsmeksksskdj]

Wrong. Get therapy

[@c-3786]

This needs to be brought up more. It sounds like perhaps they didn’t practice this safely, obviously. I’m in a bdsm dynamic and I’m happy. I was happy in my last one too. I am listened to, respected and loved. A lot of people don’t understand or just think they can do anything and take it so far it becomes something else completely; plain abuse. When I heard no safe words and not able to leave, that’s abuse. You always have an out. Real D/s relationships are not like this.

[@Nsmeksksskdj]

@@c-3786 there is no safe way to do this, people need psychiatric help. We don’t allow people to cope with drugs and alcohol because it’s harmful same should go with this sort of thing. Oh “domestic abuse is bad unless it gets my dick hard” give me a break

[@sourgreendolly7685]

@@NsmeksksskdjA good therapist doesn't discourage consenting adults having kinks. You should talk to one.

[@WhoamI-yz9nx]

I shaved my head multiple times through my life. Not completely, just a couple millimetres left. Didn't know I went around shocking people all that time...

[@preciouspear7619]

I’ve shaved my head twice! Because of my hair falling out in patches due to anorexia. I got stares for sure, but didn’t think ppl cared too much lol

[@backwardsbandit8094]

Nah it's this really fucking stupid thing that seems to only be popular with boomers into BDSM, because in the past 20 years or so, nobody gives a shit if you shave your head no matter what gender you are. Maybe it's because of Sinead 'O Connor or just generally more open minded attitudes towards fashion in modern times

[@raeraebadfingers]

I think it depends on where you live, sometimes. This was Mississippi. I live in Ohio but had to visit my father in Mississippi as a child. Where he lived.. what a culture shock that was for me. And Choctaw is a very small place. I can believe people were rude as hell.

[@no_peace]

How old are you and where have you lived? It is shocking and has been shocking to many people and populations

[@preciouspear7619]

@@no_peace For me, I did it when I was 18 & then again a few years later. I lived in Arizona, USA.

[@Youser999]

Eudoxia Mysteries AND Internet Invesigator in the same day?? Best day ever!!

[@nicoleono3981]

Lol yup!!

[@Kate-uj9rx]

Oh I didn't know! Thanks man! Double feature!

[@pgakt]

Eudoxia is a bigot

[@internetdog9686]

​@@pgakt yeah he fucking sucks.

[@tylerisntasheep6854]

@@pgakt why

[@gasolinecake]

so i actually disagree with Delia’s opinion that there is ALWAYS a submissive or dominant person in every relationship. to me, that’s kind of like saying there’s always an artistic and an academic person in every relationship, thats just not the case. it’s heavily simplifying the scope of possible human dynamics. in my relationship for example that has gone on for eight years I really tried hard to think about who would fit the dominant or submissive category (According to Delia) and I genuinely could not figure out who it would be. we both take charge in about equal amounts of situations, we’re just good at different things and fill in each other’s gap’s pretty equally. I think viewing relationships simply through dominance and submission is a choice and is very limited. dominance and submission, In my opinion, doesn’t even have to be an element of your relationship, I don’t think it is in mine. but Delia and her partner already heavily focus on and are preoccupied with the idea of dominance and submission so that’s the lens in which they view life and relationships. it seems like Delia lived quite a controlled upbringing, so perhaps the reason why she is so open to being further controlled in a romantic relationship is because that is what’s comfortable for her. it seems like the idea of regular conflicts and decision-making within a relationship scare her and she doesn’t even want to have to think about them, so this kind of lifestyle is a way for her to “sit back”, in a way, in exchange for her dignity. One thing I really agreed with that she said though was when she compared her slavery to the classic housewife dynamic and how similar it is, because I think that’s true. and I think that says a lot about the traditional housewife dynamic.

[@realleon2328]

Dominance and submission is typically fluid and somewhat more auxiliary to a vanilla relationship as opposed to a kinky relationship- of course, fluidity and negotiation of dominance and submission is also a big (and imo an incredibly interesting) part of kink. It's really only people on the extremes of kink that believe in total dominance/submission, especially outside of scene

[@berrriesncreme4558]

Wasn't it proven that her ex husband wrote everything in the blog posts and not her? So in reality he's the one who was trying to push this ideology not her

[@gasolinecake]

@@berrriesncreme4558 that would make a lot of tragic sense

[@backwardsbandit8094]

Yeah it was written by her abusive husband

[@gasolinecake]

@@backwardsbandit8094 thats so odd. so none of it was her input?

[@hannahp1108]

Susan might have written some of the blogs, but she didn't want to say so because it weakened her case. She could've been coerced, and sometimes people who are coerced can appear to the outside world as though they're consenting. You convince YOURSELF that you're consenting when you're coerced.

[@callieprotector]

I glad this woman moved on and got help and help her children. I wish more of their lives stay safe, love, and stay everything is to keep that way.

[@averageuser4651]

I think the wife’s blog was first written by her, checked, then her husband rewrote and uploaded them

[@subliminal-damage]

You really deserve so many more subscribers. 100k is a wonderful milestone but with the high quality content you deliver it just feels criminal that you haven't hit a million yet. I don't think I've ever found a single video of yours boring or lackluster. Keep up the amazing work, and when you do make it big just remember to keep it real and don't end up like IIlluminati 😅

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Thank you so much for the kind words 🥰🖤

[@themedia1271]

Okay if Travis didn't properly shield the kids from what he was doing to Susan, then a part of me wonders if Travis was at one point trying to involve the kids in the abuse itself.

[@amandaredd3057]

Wow, this is wild. I've never heard of this story before. You're one of the few who's not repetitive with content in the sense that you discuss things that aren't on multiple channels simultaneously. I really live that about this channel ❤

[@meowmeowmeowmeowcatoncomputer]

As someone who is into harder stuff, albeit not as hard as her, this relationship had a lot of red flags from the beginning ESPECIALLY the lack of aftercare. Cleaning, checking if your partner is okay, giving pain meds, etc. or even stuff like cuddling is pretty much ALWAYS a necessity for both the dom and the sub. Not being able to say "no" as well. There's a reason safewords are a thing. Roleplaying and saying "no" is one thing but once a safeword is said both people stop. If you're wondering why I like these kinds of things (although I won't mention specifics) it's hard to explain... I just do. I figured it out along the way, I think it was from reading a completely normal book or watching a tv show and going "oh... that's kind of hot" when I was a younger adult/older teenager. EX. You know that scene in The Force Awakens where the hot villain guy takes in the girl main character (Rey? I think) for interrogation? Yeah, I sat in the theater thinking "holy shit". Part of it could come from my CSA and abuse trauma but I honestly don't think that much. I tried to "punish" myself for liking this stuff but it just made me feel worse and more depressed. Actually, it's not from a man either although people misunderstand this and think I've been manipulated lol. My one ex-bf could not believe that I liked this stuff because he was pretty vanilla. We never really did anything though as consent goes both ways. I hope my long comment convinces some of you that this blog is not normal in this subculture.

[@jackiearnolds]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but if the police didn't prosecute her, it must have been ridiculously clear that she acted in self-defense. If he was laying down, so possibly asleep, she would have gone to trial, as he was not an eminent danger and, therefore, it wouldn't be self-defense. It seems unlikely they would find new evidence years later, and I doubt they would have just taken a blog as proof of her abuse. She likely had physical evidences that confirmed the abuse, could have been harmed in an altercation that led to his death, and he might have been armed with any type of weapon if they came to the conclusion it was definitely self-defense. It may seem like a lot of assumptions, but it would be the only scenario that makes sense for her not to be prosecuted at all.

[@nicholashodges201]

There's a thousand possible reasons she didn't get charged, none of which have to do with her version actually being the truth. But first, the police have *zero* control over who does and does not get prosecuted. There is literally an entire office usually called "The Prosecutor's Office" that handles that. It could be that the local prosecutor was politically motivated to not charge a woman for killing her husband. This is a thing, has been for decades. There's the possibility that they wouldn't be able to get an unbiased jury due to the inherent "ick factor" fetish lifestyles have with those who are not part of that lifestyle or because she shot her husband. This happens. There's literally no point in prosecuting when you know the accused is getting off, regardless of what actually happened. It could be that they knew it would turn into a full on circus and just decided "no". This happens more often than you'd hope. Particularly with the social & cultural politics and myths surrounding DV & spousal homicide, you can't really make any assumptions either. Particularly since they are unbelievably selective with what evidence is allowed public scrutiny in these cases. It's more about pushing narratives than ascertaining truth or actual justice.

[@LtClean1]

They decided to not have a trial before the autopsy was finished...

[@eh39292]

I remember this site - the person behind it is such a great writer and is clearly intelligent, however unhinged they sound at the same time.

[@Nsmeksksskdj]

…you mean the guy who’s an abuser?????

[@eh39292]

@@Nsmeksksskdj it could have been Susan - that part seems unclear. But yeah, monsters can have talent too.

[@asmrtpop2676]

…. you think that’s good writing? 😅

[@EHiggins]

It's always funny to see what has gotten archived really well, and what has not.

[@WobblesandBean]

Of course it was a man behind this. I just....ugh. Travis is so disgusting. I firmly believe Susan acted in self defense.

[@ViktoriaEvans]

She did not claim self-defense.

[@subliminal-damage]

I rather enjoyed her commentary until around the 18 min mark. If she was truly made into a slave by force, it sounds more like she found an abusive person who dresses up their abuse as kink. I'm dreading how this ends for her. Eta: Wow, wow. I noticed the terrible grammar on her blog posts, and the revelation that her abuser was writing the posts makes sense. Certainly there was no way that she could have run that blog without every word of it being read and approved of by the master, so him actually uploading and writing everything makes more sense.

[@Rosie-co9wb]

The theory that Travis and Susan were vanilla and posting wild stories to the DD blog for money just doesn't sit quite right with me. Like, if I spent years paying money to an abuser so he'd send me photos of his wife in horrible situations she didn't consent to, I would obviously feel horrible. I just feel like people who paid have a motive to downplay and doubt the story, even unconsciously

[@jackznn]

I feel horribly for her. a D/s relationship should not be to the degree where someone is so uncomfortable to the degree where they feel like they're in a prison camp, made to feel insecure and humiliated in a way beyond play, or having nervous breakdowns over the dynamic or scenes.

[@lowwastehighmelanin]

Exactly

[@mv9653]

The fact that she rejects negotiation as a key element of D/s relationships was such a red flag.

[@TravellerZasha]

Me too. As a kid I was bullied into one as an introduction to BDSM (although we didnt know what that was at the time as kids I just had always treated them as my master no matter what while randomly hit) and it really messed me up. I would say I developed a sort of stockholm syndrome over it which I have to this day, forcing myself to like pain until I grew up becoming a self h*rmer or see out harmful behaviors when I broke up with them which yes it gave me BPD as well. It's been a decade now and I'm still affected by it and I am a bit genuinely into consenting BDSM but I do hope to one day seek therapy for my past :)

[@Nsmeksksskdj]

Maybe just don’t do it at all

[@adeer87]

@@Nsmeksksskdj Nah bdsm is fun

[@binbogami]

I think the most likely scenario was Travis writing the blog most of the time while occasionally having her post and respond to comments. I believe every word of her story otherwise. As someone familiar with the lifestyle I can tell you exactly why they didn't engage with the community - Travis would've been called out and shunned immediately, especially with a 19-year-old involved. The community tries hard to self-police and will warn people about known abusers to prevent cases like this. He knew this and was likely avoiding interaction with knowledgeable people on purpose. I can also tell you why, if Travis was writing the blog all along, he still portrayed "Delia" as having negative emotions about things she was compelled to do. Bluntly, he liked that she didn't like it. Pushing boundaries a little with clear communication is often fine, but completely denying her a safe word would be considered unacceptable. 24/7 with no way out and no opportunity to renegotiate? Absolutely not. BDSM as a whole is very concerned with your rights and responsibilities. Communication, education, negotiation, and consent are key. This was very against that spirit and obviously unhealthy from early on. Extreme acts aren't a red flag if every other box has been checked, but it sounds like none of them were.

[@madeline_anne]

I’m surprised that I hadn’t heard of this AND that the resolution (what we do have) was a twist I didn’t anticipate.

[@derelictfields]

Whether or not she was involved in writing the blog or consented at some point, I hope she has lasting peace and stability in her life.

[@sleepyaugust2182]

As someone with BPD I feel that the disorder likely contributed to the relationship beginning. Many of us feel a need to devote yourself to loved ones, making me think it's possible she simply did it to feel like a good partner. It's sad but thats my personal interpretation

[@montananerd8244]

Conservative Christian marriages have a lot of the same rules, just without any crazy sex. Ive encountered many women who, even in public, are completely subservient to their husbands and even sons as young as 4 can cuss out their mom or boss her. It's not even considered that weird where i live, just "traditional"

[@ritz6982]

Trust me, there are depraved traditional Christian men who want to humiliate and degrade their wives sexually. I was married to one myself.

[@squashedshibber2684]

most people into this are ex christians so makes a lot sense

[@adeer87]

@@squashedshibber2684 Idk if that’s true

[@Financiallyfreeauthor]

As though that was ever actually traditional 😢

[@seamusrw]

Man ive been waiting for someone to cover the girl who documented her self harm. It was a blog and her screen name was butterfly something. It was gruesome.

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Are you sure it wasn't Coldnessinmyheart? I made a video on her a couple of years ago. If not, and if you remember the exact name of this blogger, let me know and I'll look into it! 🖤

[@rubyy.7374]

I know there are probably multiple blogs like that, but I wonder if it’s the same person as one I’m thinking of: they’re a tumblr user who did some super extreme SH and had incredibly scarred arms, like I’m talking about scarred to the level of a burn victim. I never viewed the actual SH photos because I’m too squeamish, but I do remember seeing the scarred-over arms and I never wanted to explore it any deeper.

[@user-pb8ce6ki9z]

Please do one on Kelly Ronahan

[@pgakt]

@@user-pb8ce6ki9zShe already has!

[@Ratxmother]

@@rubyy.7374I know who you mean I think- she struggled with bulimia and was European? If so she’s actually doing really well, she seems to be in a really nice relationship and actually has a child that she seems to adore:)

[@scabbarae]

This was fascinating. Thank you for continuing to dig up obscure mysteries instead of rehashing Blank Room Soup for the zillionth time!

[@fx7105]

i don't think this "idea" that oh she actually killed her husband for no reason and they just had this blog to... make money?? is even worth entertaining.

[@power-of-overdrive]

imo if a person is seriously harmed in some way, such as being tortured, imprisoned or even murdered, then consent should not mitigate the crime, because anybody who would consent or even desire that kind of thing is absolutely mentally disturbed and should not be taken advantage of. In Germany, you are not allowed to sign deals with people who are intoxicated, mentally disabled, a minor, cannot understand the terms of the deal (due to some other barrier such as language or a physical disability), or who would only lose by signing the deal. So for instance, even if your contract partner was 100% fit, it would be illegal for you to sign a contract with them that states that you can rob or imprison them. Many of these cases where somebody "consented" to being brutalized are clearly cases of people who were intoxicated and/or mentally unstable, being exploited most cruelly by some monster. (I do not include things like medically assisted suicide or DNRs... somebody wishing to end their life because of strong physical pain or extremely severe impairments is a WHOLE other issue...)

[@jordanjordan3167]

That's a good law, actually. Too many people saying that if a victim or potential victim is of age or mentally well (not drunk/drugged/etc.) then they consented so it's "okay". Problem is is that there are so many factors to take into consideration, even in a grown and seemingly mentally healthy adult.

[@risingsun5865]

Wasn't that specifically BC of Armin Meiwes if I remember correctly ??

[@MSinistrari]

I clicked this thinking it might've been about a webpage/blog that people were talking about back in the 90s about a young woman who had chosen to live in a constantly aroused state. The thing I remember most was her describing how she'd taken to living in a hole she'd dug in Central Park and slathering herself in hormone gel with the last thing posted how she'd taken to living as a sex slave to a couple she'd randomly met. People were divided to if it was all a hoax, some weird performance art project or it was legit.

[@shaestewart5261]

No, Tolkien did not have to “live in a world of hobbits and elves” to write his masterpiece. The problem with making this comparison with DD blog/s is that Middle Earth is a place which is entirely of Tolkien’s creation. As the author, he is like the god of his characters and their politics, culture, social dynamics, etc. is under an author’s complaint control. There is no set precedent understood and accepted by a large group of people. In the case of the DD writings, the author Is not creating and commenting on a world over which they have complete control. To be convincing and accepted, the DD writings must pass the smell test of a society at large with previously well established rules, politics, language, and culture. In my understanding, this was generally accomplished. In the end, Susan owes us nothing. True, someone put aspects of her/their lifestyle for anyone interested to read and consider. Still, whilst putting something on the internet certainly means there can be no expectation of privacy as far as the posted information is concerned, it does not automatically give consent to dig deeper, surpass established boundaries, harass, and, most importantly, comment on whatever shared information is out there as though said information makes any outsider an expert on the relationship or the individual lives of the people living it. Again, we are owed nothing. Because of this fact, whether or not Susan is telling the whole truth or controlling the narrative in some way is neither here nor there. I believe the gist of Susan’s proffered information and respect her reasons for changing or withholding any aspects of her situation she deems necessary. Frankly, Susan has had so little control over her own life for so long, I can hardly blame her for finally taking some.

[@amoureux6502]

48:40 I personally interpreted her quote to mean something more like "Susan wasn't mentally well enough to consent to this type of relationship" eg she might have had self-destructive tendencies that landed her in a dangerous relationship (not that it would make the abuse her fault, just that abusive types tend to gravitate toward vulnerable people) and she finally snapped.

[@annascott1686]

thank you for all the uploads ❤

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Thanks for watching! :) 🖤

[@thelos3999]

I knew something wasn’t right while in listening to her read the blog. I could feel the arrogance coming from the words and how the writer acted better than everyone else. Good relationships don’t take score or need a dominant partner.

[@hyacinthmoon6289]

Mother said it’s time to eat! Thanks for feeding us. 💙

[@adeer87]

Nom nom

[@sssleepyeloiseee]

hhhngry,,

[@hyacinthmoon6289]

She never fails to give us what we didn’t know we needed. Mmmmmm sustenance 🤤

[@cherryhazard8002]

I remember hearing about this years ago, I thought it was just something I made up on my head.

[@salemish]

Unfortunately this is just another instance of someone using BDSM as an excuse to be abusive. It's pretty common, and if you're new to the community and er, lifestyle, it can be easy to fall prey to people like Travis. I know a lot of girls online that have had similar things happen to them. A word of advice for those interested in trying a BDSM relationship -- please, please, please research first what is and isn't safe and sane. Educate yourself on the red flags. Talk to your partner about any concerns you have, what exactly the expectations are, and most of all, about safe words. If at ANY point you are uncomfortable and your dom/master doesn't oblige your safe word or concerns, leave. At that point, it crosses the line into abuse. BDSM is supposed to be fun and satisfying for everyone involved, even when the scenes you play out might be a bit intense. Aftercare is huge and at the end of the day, both parties should feel safe and secure with their partner. Hard limits should be discussed long before anything happens and communication and trust -- like in all types of relationships -- is key.

[@exessen1684]

Her comparing being a slave to being gay?? What a weird take.. Even for the time period that is such a wild and delusional thing to come up with

[@loveline119]

I think she's comparing her particular relationship situation, rather than the overall "being a slave" mindset. she only used it to talk about how her family sees her. some families are "ok" with people being gay as long as they don't talk about it, or open secret type thing. it's like that for her.

[@backwardsbandit8094]

My reading here is that this woman is desperately trying to normalise her situation to herself. 20 years ago being gay "fine" broadly... But you were seen as sexual deviant to some degree - not that you were hurting anyone, but you were kind of permanently seen as this red-light district exclusive entity that could never settle and have a family or a stable healthy life. It was a painful experience that today's youth struggles to understand. I think this is what she's trying to compare her life to. She's not hurting anyone, but her life is considered something explicit and something difficult for her parents to accept. She's in denial about the harm that's actually being done to her in reality, and instead pretending the situation is on a more understandable layer of acceptability in society. Edit: I stupidly jumped to conclusions that Delia wrote this because I thought I had heard this case before. Turns out I had confused it for another case. It was her abusive husband that wrote this, not her. I think the point is more or less the same though

[@ligealucretia]

don't know if you've finished the video but delia wasn't writing her own posts

[@ligealucretia]

don't know if you've finished the video but delia wasn't writing her own posts

[@roseredmayne]

Let's investigate!

[@annie_xo]

I’m into some pretty extreme BDSM but this is fucked. You should never lose yourself, as she puts it. You should always be free to leave. You should never truly be forced to anything, you do it because you enjoy it, after you give your informed consent. What she describes is just abuse. The BDSM community has a real problem with abusers and it’s something that needs to be talked about. I’m tired of the conversation being shut down as soon as someone pulls the “kinkshaming” card. I’m glad she got herself and her kids out of it, and kudos to her for taking that pos out.

[@paulsecrest9427]

Exactly. Mutual respect and consent. Like my situation she is my wife my sub my queen my most prized possession that is free to leave anytime she wants. You cant hold someone hostage. The bed room is the bedroom and everyday life is life. You have to separate the 2.

[@annie_xo]

@@paulsecrest9427 yeah. Even in 24/7 type dynamics you should always be able to talk as equals about your feelings, thoughts, needs and concerns, and you should be able to end things if that’s what you want. Anything else is unhealthy and abusive, if not straight up illegal.

[@_Kuma_]

When I first heard this story years ago, I remember being so bamboozled by the fact that she most likely wasn’t the one writing the posts. It went from a bizarre but consensual relationship > pure evil and torture. I don’t think murder is a great solution, but in some cases, I can see the reasoning behind it… I hope her and her kids are at peace now.

[@ViktoriaEvans]

Susan will never be at peace.

[@die9132]

It would be extremely difficult to tell anyone that their feelings are invalid when what the median person might consider abuse is a threshold long since breached

[@becca652]

I mean, if you're familiar with how abusive relationships work, and how they're able to destroy you and your ability to leave, it's clear it was never consensual. I've been in an abusive relationship; submission is the only way you can minimize pain if there's no escape. Travis describing how Susan used to be a strong person and then lost the battle: sounds like Travis romanticizing how he broke and shattered her through horrific abuse, claiming she ultimate enjoys total oppression. It's a lie and a fantasy to get him off. It also isn't unbelievable to think Travis could force her to write blog entries-it's clear she had zero autonomy. She could happily submit if it meant avoiding his rage and abuse. And if he really owned a business, and based off how they covered every fetish: it makes sense that Travis could view the whole thing as a way to make money and force Susan to do everything for the audience he wanted to manipulate for financial profit. I mean he's clearly an intensely narcissistic abuser-of course he'd get off on Susan "willingly" exposing her body and abuse to potentially everyone, while manipulating the bdsm audience to pay to support her abuse. I don't think anyone ever enjoys lack of consent. It's a lie abusers come up with. It's way too similar to "some black people LIKED being a slave!" That's bullshit that abusers peddle to brainwash open minded people into thinking slavery could ever be consensual. It's not. Susan was targeted, brainwashed, and forced to actively participate in humiliating and devastating abuse. If she was really into documenting extreme bdsm that was actually abuse, she would have continued after he died. She obviously didn't consent to the blog. She wasn't capable of consent. Just like every other abuse victim-they didn't know their partner was destroying their ability to know up from down. They thought they were in love and that everything was somehow their fault-which could EASILY happen to someone with borderline.

[@TheMaristBoy]

After the disturbing 4chan video, do I dare eat breakfast over this? Will update this comment if it’s a good a idea. Update: I deem this breakfast safe

[@kanexoxo]

Any updates? 😭

[@pigvig]

@@kanexoxothey’re halfway there

[@WhoamI-yz9nx]

What video? I'm out of the loop here

[@hoshiworks_aster]

What a damn video, and I'm barely halfway through. Remember to take care of yourself, yeah? Interacting with this kind of content for too long takes a toll on even people who can endure it.

[@adeer87]

Very true!

[@LtClean1]

I'm actually Travis's nephew and this video is taking a huge toll on me. My father gave me the gist but spared me the details but my curiosity got the best of me.

[@LC-ng7hw]

I think when Ashley states that Susan should be in a mental faculty it could be in reference to the horrible abuse that she suffered. She mentioned her frequent anxiety attacks so it’s a possiblity that this relationship changed her mentality so desperately that she was a threat to herself and others. Not saying that you’re wrong, just posing another theory.

[@guillaumebreton9324]

A nice way to start my evening, thank you for this high quality (as always) video

[@JK-gm6kk]

Holy Shit, I wonder if i can still find my old live journal. I remember changing the number of comments and comment button as shown here, among a slew of other modifications to my LJ. Pretty much learned html between 02 and 06 to customize my MySpace and LJ. Starting with the generators and then typing it out again everytime i wanted to change something, till it was committed to. Simpler times. Back when i rhought most people knew the difference between lose and loose

[@ifyouseekay1000]

What an interesting case! Definitely something of a rorschac test. IMO they were definitely grifters but that doesn't mean Travis wasnt killed in self defense. There may be physical evidence at the scene that was never made public confirming it.

[@nicholashodges201]

Which is insanely dumb, if you think about it. What, exactly, would the issue be in releasing the exonerating evidence? It would kill most public conspiracy theorizing in its crib and ensure she wouldn't be cast as a villain by as many members of the public. In fact suppressing that evidence after not filing charges makes the local DA look rather corrupt. No there is no exonerating evidence unavailable to the public. She shot her sleeping husband, claimed self defense and was not charged, or really investigated because the local authorities operate under the assumptions made by the theory of "Battered Woman Syndrome" The problem with which is that it removes scrutiny from the confessed killer and literally puts a dead man on trial with the *assumption* the confessed killer's story is absolutely true. A dead man cannot defend himself and any third party witness can be written off as "hearsay". How can you reach a just conclusion when you are essentially taking the confessed killer at face value and trying a corpse?

[@faithm6983]

If i had a dollar for every man ive ever known that uses "The Lifestyle" as an excuse to abuse the shit out of their partner......sadly i would be a very rich person9

[@dbensdrawinvids8390]

Can't wait to hear cybersmith's rebuttal.

[@adeer87]

Human Pet Guy mentioned! 🐶

[@avelynn5976]

not human pet guy 😭

[@afterhourscinema782]

I think that's enough internet for today...

[@tigerkitten8352]

Soooooooo as someone who is very very familiar with BDSM and M/s specifically, what she described as the start of her M/s relationship is straight up abuse. You MUST openly and knowingly consent, not "lose" the "battle" cuz that's entirely bullshit unless 2 Switches are entering into it with that in mind and AGREE to it. Also, SLAVES CAN LEAVE AT ANY TIME. They should NEVER feel or be stuck in the relationship. Slaves have the final say in whether or not they want to be in that dynamic and relationship. She was being abused the entire relationship and he manipulated her to think she wanted it and agreed with it. He was a straight up abuser. She needed to escape. She was in the right to kill her abuser and captor. She was so harmed by him and needs SO MUCH therapy after what he did to her.

[@the.44magnumisamonster]

perfect upload time, just as im crocheting

[@CB19196]

I was thinking the same thing, except I'm knitting

[@the.44magnumisamonster]

@@CB19196 knitting is so fun but im a faster crocheter, so i rarely knit these days. its all harder as a lefty

[@CB19196]

@@the.44magnumisamonster It's the opposite for me. I'm very slow with crocheting, so I rarely do it. Yeah, I can imagine it's a lot harder being left-handed. My grandmother was a lefty and she crocheted but didn't knit.

[@the.44magnumisamonster]

@@CB19196 yes, crocheting and knitting is all backwards as a lefty but crocheting is easier to adapt to rather than knitting.

[@lauratude5132]

"Someone else forced me to be a slave and I found myself compelled." Okay, Natascha Kampusch.

[@quincey5917]

the way “Delia” described her appearance at the start of the video/blog was a huge red flag that it wasn’t her writing. There’s a certain way that (usually male) fetishists describe their ideal woman that you pick up on after spending time in kink circles. Reminds me of the double hand amputee fetish blog you covered a while back.

[@AdrianeEstes]

I remember reading this blog with concern on a regular basis. I read the LiveJournals too. I am glad to know that she got out. Some women, myself included, will do anything to give our children a better life.

[@KneezBees]

loved hearing you say butt cheek lmao

[@kaylanorberg9239]

Could have been that there was abuse in the relationship, and that was separate from being master and slave. The blog was a money getting fantasy, and possibly Travis got too into it or just pushed her towards it. The only people who really know what goes on in a relationship are the people in the relationship.

[@kinkypinky2021]

My sister and her partner live an extreme BDSM lifestyle, but it is a fully consensual relationship as it should be, although the rest of the family don't undertake or approve. My sister is the dominant partner. Sad cases like this one unfortunately create the stigma towards this lifestyle, with assumptions that it is always abusive.

[@MoonMoonTM]

Children should not be involved in such a lifestyle. BDSM is a kink and to include your children in that is not okay. It's also teaching children that those are what typical relationships look like and will ruin their perception of how relationships work. It will make it hard for future relationships. Edit: for anyone confused.. the original comment said that the sister almost had her kids taken away due to the lifestyle she lives. But they edited it out.

[@kinkypinky2021]

They only engage in the "lifestyle" when away from the children, in the bedroom and when the kids are at school. They are a normal family unit otherwise and when outside the home. My mum(who is very religious thought it was satanic) reported them to Social Services(CPS)and because they have a bondage room in the attic my sister was accused of being a domestic abuser, luckily after 6 months a family court judge ruled that the children were not at risk. I edited the comment because I knew I would receive negative comments.

[@adeer87]

@@MoonMoonTM If the children are not involved, it’s fine.

[@MoonMoonTM]

@@adeer87 Except if you're living an "extreme bdsm lifestyle" like the commentor described, then it's not just an in the bedroom type of thing. It's a full time thing.

[@nicholashodges201]

​@@MoonMoonTM that *really* depends on the couple and the exact expression of their bdsm lifestyle. There's some that look like Ward & June Kleever, you'd never know they're both wearing full body leather harnesses underneath that suit & skirt and are riddled with piercings. I've known others where the first thing you see when you go into their house is the naked Sub tied to the coffee table and paddles hanging from the wall. Most are somewhere in between, and most life style fetishists will never let you know if you aren't already in the lifestyle to a degree yourself. These folks have been keeping a huge chunk of their life secret *most* of their lives. They can easily keep doing it, with their spawn in the home never noticing

[@kh22912]

I remember when I first heard about Delia Day. I was so freaked out at the time

[@Dezturbed]

This is a fantasy or a falasy. It isn't a real bdsm relationship by any standard. There has to be absolute trust and absolute honesty in these relationships, no matter what the sub is the one in charge, they are the one who draws the line and makes the rules, the dom is the one who does the actions but they must abide by the established limits. Without that you aren't in a bdsm relationship, you are in an abusive relationship just like anyone else.

[@BlueMoonSamurai]

I believe that Susan was abused, but Travis was fabricating the amount of kinky stuff they actually did to inflate his ego as well as to draw in more viewers. It's likely that Susan was forced to write parts of the blog with Travis' direction. Maybe she was given some leeway towards the end where she could imply that she wasn't happy with the relationship without outright saying it.

[@SterlingArcherRampaaaage]

This just sounds like abuse, not BDSM.

[@aislynnmari]

I don't know what it says about my own psyche, but these videos scratch an itch. Perhaps a version of Aristotle's catharsis. i.e. I'm scared that /insert bad thing here/ could happen to me, but hearing about it happening to others can keep me prepared and safer. So hearing about it provides a way to purge those fears? Or is it a Jungian thing? Like, looking your shadow self and acknowledging that every human has the capacity to be extremely "dark" or extremely "light". Even if we deny our shadow self. I took a dab and I'm listening to this in the hot shower. (I'm so grateful for hot water). These shower thoughts are ultimately to say... Thanks for scratching the itch

[@rigormortis56]

holy shit i used to think delia day was a band name or something not whatever this is😭this is horrible

[@ScottyRules33]

Quality content - Internet Investigator!

[@asaasa7900]

Hi! Thank you so much for the wonderful videos

[@TheInternetInvestigator]

Glad you like them! 😄🖤

[@asaasa7900]

@@TheInternetInvestigator Just got done with this video, and I LOVE the depth of your analysis near the end. Great job!! One of the best breakdowns of this case I have ever seen.

[@TheMissileHappy]

I heard about this story some years ago and it never really left me. Glad you're covering it!

[@misreckon4382]

I have to ask, since I watch a number of your videos, do you have a fire alarm that needs the batteries replaced somewhere near your recording setup? I feel like I hear it often (like at 44:10 for example) and it makes me think it's in my own house every time

[@EMILYHERRERA]

I feel like it's always *me* hearing the low battery chirp, & it happens way more than one may think, but I haven't heard it here. I clicked on your timestamp and didn't hear any chirping. That sound drives me bananas way more than it probably should.

[@CR-wk2re]

I hear it too! I can't watch some of her videos because it drives me nuts!

[@SpecialBlanket]

Very interested to see how this goes. I do 24/7 TPE submission as well, for the last 15 years!

[@polinar9199]

Brandes took sleeping pills and alcohol, so was not in a condition to be able to revoke consent. Also, don't compare fetishes and paraphilic disorders. Wanting to die or kill someone is not normal.

[@ethribin4188]

A crime is a crime. No matter if tge victim comsents or not. If you agree to be robbed, youre still robbed. For example.

[@joandarcfeminist]

💯

[@LaydiNite]

Isn't "agreeing to be robbed" just giving someone something? How would that work?

[@Dezturbed]

All that happened here was that he gas lighted her into believing that she was in an appropriate bdsm relationship.

[@AM-hr5mw]

Honestly, as someone in a BDSM relationship, I don't feel as if this was ever healthy / fully consensual. I won't pretend I know what it's like to be a full time slave, I'm a sub but in my relationship thst dynamic stays in the bedroom, my Dom and I present as a normal couple with a "normal" bedroom dynamic. However, it doesn't seem that they ever discussed what the expectations for the dom and the sub would be here, something that is highly important, my partner and I have had multiple conversations about what we like, what we want, what happens if it goes too far, etc. Delia didn't have this option, which isn't healthy. Additionally. The talk of going to war really made it seem like she didn't wanna be a sub at all. I knew before getting into my relationship that I liked to be dominated in the bedroom. There was never a fight for dominance between my partner and I, he knew he's dominant, I knew I'm submissive, we just talked about what we were and weren't ok with happening in a bedroom setting as we developed our "normal" romantic relationship. Idk, just as someone involved myself I immediately saw red flags. Consent is super key. I'm the sub, and there is the illusion that I'm never in control, but the key is that I actually have full control. We have a safe word, and if I use it, my partner stops immediately. My partner has done research to know how to safely engage in kink. We have regular talks about how we feel about stuff happening, and what we want to try in the future. Delia didn't have any of this, and it's so key

[@toxicalilium]

BDSM requires setting proper boundaries and safe words for it to be actual BDSM. Without them, it's just abuse. No buts.

[@bub83]

The people that paid for the more extreme pictures need their harddrives and basements checked asap.

[@hybridfuckingcomplex]

why? they thought it was consensual material

[@Nsmeksksskdj]

@@hybridfuckingcomplex Cause no one should want to see that and getting off to that sort of thing is sus

[@ViktoriaEvans]

No, the Choctaw County Sheriff's Dept need their evidence locker checked.

[@falconinthedive]

I remember around 2005, there was another biggish blog in the BDSMish sphere where it was about a woman and her husband in a 24/7 relationship and she'd do artistic drawings to go along with her stories. Who turned out to have made it all up, including a son who had been killed in a DUI and the fact she had a husband at all (she was like, a single shut in). I guess she started writing fiction, got responses, and kind of got in too deep. It was kind of mind blowing at the time, but like, in retrospect made sense because some of her shit was fairly extreme. So like this isn't entirely out there, if more tragic.

[@mask938]

I’m not even halfway through this video and I’m already seeing a parade of red flags. This very much sounds like an abuse victim who has been manipulated and abused to the point where they don’t even realize that their situation and “relationship” aren’t normal.

[@ratgirl1]

I was wondering why you didn’t include any information by Viktoria Evans? I saw she was writing a book about the case and for example stated that Delias new husband claims she has said that she told the police she shot him intensionally. Im hoping the information she is putting out is true and that the book is in the making. She seems to have done a lot of interviews and has the autopsy report and more.

[@ViktoriaEvans]

Thank you for the mention!

[@shant756]

It's too sad how much of the video needs to be censored :/