COMING OUT TO MY CONSERVATIVE PARENTS

[@xMimiFizzy]

the way I can hear all the Vietnamese sentences and sayings your mom must have thrown at you.. girl, you’re strong strong to break off the generations trauma and come out so strong and independent! Be proud of you!

[@bubba283]

I wish I could come out to, I've always known I'm a gay guy I just hide it

[@jemenfous9343]

@@bubba283ust saw your comment. Being in the closet is tough, so hope you’re doin well and taking care of yourself

[@chlu0746]

This video is so brutally honest. Thank you for sharing your story

[@kimberleyelle7387]

There’s a book written by a clinical psychologist that really helped me come to terms with my strained relationship with my mum. It’s called ‘Adult children of emotionally immature parents’ by Lindsey Gibson. Its a short read but helped give me so much closure and understanding of why she is the way that she is. I hope it helps you and anyone else dealing with parental issues. Sending love from London ❤

[@smileondreamer]

I loved this book, it helped me so much!

[@velyvely6479]

wow i need this book! thank you for mentioning it

[@monetbekker2689]

This book also helped me loads too!!

[@Dtzeo503]

Oooo i gotta read that book

[@melaluxe8195]

"Yeah, that was a lie." I LOVE YOU SO MUCH 🤣💗 Appreciate the honesty and authenticity always!

[@sarahtiffanyh]

Protecting your peace comes first. Sometimes being away from your family is the best situation for you both. I tried for so long to make it work but I’ve learned that keeping your distance and protecting yourself doesn’t mean you’re “giving up” or that you’re a bad person. Putting yourself first over your parents does not make you a bad person. Coming from a very strained relationship with my parents as well, I feel for you. Sending you big hugs 🥺

[@buffchicken91]

As a person with an estranged parent myself, who - for different reasons - can not respect the person I have become: yes, there is a way of coming to terms with the fact you can not have everything in life. Acceptance. And it is also ok if it sometimes, every once in a while flares up, and you feel how unfair it is and cry. That you crave acceptance, love and support from a parent, that will never be able/want to give it to you. But one learns to live with it. And you seem to have a good head on your shoulders with lovely people around you. And life is joyous afterall.

[@phosphenevision]

girl i'm bi and my bi senses were tingling about you all along lmao i'm so happy you are living your truth 💖💜💙

[@bernelieluv8318]

got me crying and shit girllll 😭 thank you for sharing your truth, sending you so much love❤

[@lovestruckfm]

So sad 😢 your mummy cannot accept you. As a Cambodian woman I can understand. The wars destroyed our families and does not allow for kindness to flow back into life. I have a manipulative mother and my father was very conservative. I feel your pain. I pray you can live your truth forever and wish kindness upon everyone. Big up to your dad for approving and expressing his love ❤

[@RachelleSpier]

So beautiful to hear that you still have great boundaries, self respect and acceptance & are seeking love and happiness despite your situation. I have a complex relationship with my family too - and it’s hard to deal with. I can relate so much to just wanting acceptance and love from a parent but having to accept that isn’t available. I see you dealing with that situation with such strength and vulnerability, you are a beautiful person. Sending huge hugs and happy for you!

[@CelineBelia]

I’ve been watching you since the beginning and I’m so proud of you girl. You’re strong and you deserve all the love. 🤍

[@philippawood5047]

You have so much maturity and empathy, and you are so brave; your girl is lucky to have you. ❤

[@bunnie482]

i'm so proud of you

[@ziintle]

This video made me cry a little as I’m in the same boat. Been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years and haven’t told my family. And I feel it’s unfair on her for me not to share her with them bc I feel like such a liar. But I don’t feel safe with my family sharing my things not bc I fear persecution or “exile”, but like yours, we have never created a safe space to share personal things. My father passed a month ago and my girlfriend came to support me, I introduced her as a friend to my mom and I feel so awful about it. I know my girl feels some type of way too. I really don’t know how to navigate this part as unlike you, I’m not 100% independent. I really appreciate your story, genuinely I’m glad you are happy

[@Chelsiferkyule]

Juliaaa you're a vietnamese grrrlie from Sweden, that already is such a contrast. Sometimes people scorned from their past and haven't found closure from it can tend to project their anguish onto others. Especially if heteronormative performance hasn't yielded what they want. You bring home bread, and quite an amount of it - in a modern way that appears impractical to those who aren't invested in it - third world cultures can be really slow with these topics. I wouldn't be surprised if you feel like you've fulfilled more at your age than your mother did when she was in the same age and mind space. Maybe she's hurt because she doesn't feel like she's shown up for you enough to be given credit for the person you are; you paved your own way for yourself and she wasn't prepared for that. Thank you for sharing; and understand the weight of what you and Maya have accomplished!! x

[@chasingwatersart]

Your story makes so much sense knowing how hard you worked to get yourself in the position you are in today. When you never felt like you were truly safe in your family space. Glad you are choosing your own family, whether it's blood or not and that you are choosing to be happy rather than basing your life out of others approvals.

[@elliotmccammack6201]

I know what it’s like to go through that shit. I feel like I haven’t seen many people in the media have the same experience. I know far too many of us go through this, but it’s nice to know we aren’t alone. It’s better to have people who love and accept you in your life. Proud of you.

[@kathlen1998]

Sending a big hug to you and anyone who goes through this 🫂 Parents should not raise us so they are happy but so that we are happy ❤ It still can hurt and be disappointing when our family fails us, they are supposed to be a safe space. But as you said you can create this space for yourself and that’s fucking amazing and strong of you. 🌈🌈🌈

[@gabrielanuncio2345]

As a Mexican bi woman I can understand how it felt 😢. I came out to my mom when I was 18 and for about two years she acted as if I never told her anything. But well, you can definitely chose your own family. Send u a big hug!

[@alexfromatlanta]

Aw man this made me emotional. You are supported here by a large community and your friends irl! Keep being beautiful and happy love!

[@karlamarsch707]

I felt a true connection to this video 🥺 I’m still in the process to tell both my parents; I told my mom and she was like “how can you do this to me” like I was intentionally hurting her or doing an awful thing 😔 I haven’t recover from that sentence :( So I get you girl 🤍 sending you lots of love and respect to take this step in your life 💓💓💓

[@KellyDante]

Watching this really touched my heart, many points regarding family and approval I relate to as someone with an Indian background. Like nothing will ever please them and mentally/physically it’s not easy growing up and as an adult to deal with! Very much looking forward to the meet the gf video, being in love with the right person is truly the ultimate feeling that I’m so happy you get the experience of 🥰

[@ddc3814]

Thank you so much for sharing. It's a weird period when you grow out and you have friends/chosen family/support system that validates your life and values but you still want to create a bridge between that and your biological family. You live your truth and are happy in that and want to share it with them. And knowing that it could not be welcome is seriously devastating. U are really brave to have come out to your mother even with your history with her. At least you know the truth now. And I'm happy that you're satisfied with your dad's reaction. They can suprise us sometime. That gives hope xx Take care

[@saramaraculous]

I am so proud of you. I already saw it on your insta but as someone who followed you for years and was actually thinking that too bad you are not into girls when u did the q&a video, I really want to thank you for being so honest and speaking your truth. Love that and know we will always support you. You and your girlfriend seem to have a beautiful relationship I only wish you both happiness.

[@Hannah-qe9si]

I always thought the two of you looked so cute together !! So happy for you Julia

[@amandajahren6565]

I’m so sorry about ur mom… I have the same kind of relationship with my mom/family and I can truly feel ur pain. I also totally agree on ur statements and beliefs regarding the relationship and issues. No one deserves to feel so unappreciated and unloved. I’m so happy for ur progress and congratulations on ur relationship with ur girl! Love is to be celebrated, if u can’t celebrate love then u are probably not able to love…sadly… Keep on going strong! I don’t even know u and I feel so proud of u🧡

[@icanseewater]

Always keeping it real and honest regardless of how difficult it may be to do so. Much appreciated. And it’s true how blessed you are with your chosen family! Love seeing your vlogs with your friends too xxx sending you all the love and light xxx

[@Ms.Laterholmes5253]

Hey, just want to tell you that it’s OK I disconnected from my mom along time ago negativity was 120% and just so overwhelming and just because their blood doesn’t mean that you have to keep putting up with it over and over and over again very proud of you for speaking your truth manifesting positive for you in the words of Dr. Maya Angelou you were phenomenal woman… stay strong

[@diamcole]

Thank you for sharing your story + trusting us with it. I grew up in a very similar household with parents who still don't really understand or approve of "what I'm doing"lol (I was outed when I was 22 and I'm 29 now) but they've come a long way, I know that they love me. But I had to make peace with living a life they wouldn't approve of years ago and it gets so much easier as time goes on. Fully embracing myself and the things I wanted for me + any future partner meant letting go of the weight of their expectations. And that's totally normal, right? We're all supposed to go off and spread our wings, our lives are not their second chances - as harsh as that may sound. We can't create regret and resentment within ourselves living solely to honor them, we have to be able to live for ourselves.

[@20megan123]

I’ve been watching you for a few years now and I want to thank you for sharing your story about your family issues with us. You’ll always get our support no matter what!!

[@Anne_fka_XATM038x]

thank you for sharing and congrats for coming out Julia !!!

[@TrixTasha]

I’m proud of you. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to hear your moms response, but just remember there are so many people that love and accept you for who you are and I hope that you enjoy living in your truth!! Sending you so much love! ❤

[@moon_28child]

My relationship with my dad has recently been the worst. I understand what you feel towards your mom. Know that you are loved here Julia ❤️

[@favourokoT]

We love you and are so proud of you for living your truth! That’s the powerful shit right there. You’re really encouraging me to be myself as well too. ❤❤❤

[@jona8768]

I was so touched. I’ve been following you for so long i feel so happy to see you owning your truth and love. I’am sending so much love and light your way. Thank you for inspiring me

[@lovelymelly29]

I’ve been watching your channel for a long time now. I think I started my relationship with my girlfriend about 4 years ago and came out soon after that. It wasn’t easy then but acceptance and time definitely helped. You are incredible and so loved! Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! Watching this video has been healing.

[@joshuamateo]

So so SO proud of you!! Coming out is always hard. You are so loved, while blood family especially your mother is a connection and bond we feel is necessary, chosen family is as equally valid and important. We are always here for you ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@annabellegattipierrini4165]

You got me in tears. Thank you for sharing that with us. Very very happy for you.

[@naominandn6509]

I'm so sorry your mum reacted to you being honest with her in that way. You deserve soooo much more. I hope you can heal from that moment and continue to thrive like you are now. I'm so glad your father and family were more accepting and understnding, its so important and comforting to hear. I love that you're happy in your relationship and you felt comfy enough to come and tell us on here💗

[@velyvely6479]

i happened to watch the other video first, but congrats again! I'm not Bi but i could relate so much by what you said in this video about your parents and about how relationships with family should be, I realised i've never actually heard someone else talk about this in the same way i feel. I think your video is so much comfort for people coming out and those also who have a strained family relationship. Im so happy about your dad! He should feel proud also for being so open and loving.

[@llera_navi]

thank you so much for sharing this with us 💗 it must've been difficult to deal with being treated like that by your mum, I'm really glad that you do have other people in your life who are supportive!! sending love and happiness to you and your girlfriend 💕

[@TheNewYear75]

been watching you (and maya) nearly from the inception of your channel-also felt this energy from you! So pleased for ya

[@mgbrad5018]

As someone who also does not have a great relationship with their parents, I appreciate how REAL your story and mentality is. Not every person has the ideal "love you no matter what" and that family stays together. That's just life and some people just need to hear that.

[@wemdoto4201]

Congrats! I’m pan and I’m waiting to get a home and be stable to come out. I feel like you get to a point where you don’t care. It’s the constant anxiety of them finding out, possibly disowning you etc. it gets exhausting.

[@_busra_dmn]

Sending support and love to you ! I experienced the same thing with my Turkish family when I told them I was dating a French man. It was really hard, but today I tell myself that we are the generation that broke the cycle and this pain we feel today will not be felt by next generations. Thank you for being honest with us !

[@fae9736]

girl i totally understand where you’re coming from❤️ i also dont feel comfortable sharing personal details of my life with my mother. but im glad you still wanted to be honest and came out because at the end of the day acceptance isn’t guaranteed edit: ahh i had to come back bc i relate so much it started to make me cry😭when u mentioned how your mom was silent before crying while u decided to be vulnerable for once and made it ab her it instantly gave narcissism

[@finechinah]

I am so happy for your happiness and you living your truth. I’ve been watching TheLineUp from the beginning and Julia I am sooo so thankful for you sharing your journey, your strength is so inspiring. Wish you the best ❤

[@Schmurdoc]

Julia, som ett långtidsfan av TheLineUp måste jag bara säga att denna video var helt underbar. Det finns inget så värdefullt som att kunna vara sitt sanna jag inför alla. De råa känslorna som uttrycks i videon fick mig att vilja krama dig mer än någonsin, tack så mycket för att du är du, oklanderligt Julia (◡‿◡✿)

[@sonja7335]

Don‘t feel bad for getting upset talking about your mother’s reaction. Anyone would be hurt by those words and it is important to acknowledge how she makes you feel. This will make it easier for you to distance yourself from her and accept that she can‘t give you the love & support a child deserves from their parent. Sending you lots of love

[@acyein]

You are a strong person for walking out that door and saying bye to a toxic relationship. What's great is you now have a partner who is able to take all that pain away and create new, beautiful memories with. I want to give you the biggest and warmest hug!!

[@jenny-bu4le]

julia looks so gorgeous tho the black hair and shirt the pearls the nails like wow so gorgeous

[@vm6380]

Thank you for sharing Julia. To those with similar family situations, you speaking about your experience so honestly and truthfully means so much. It means we are not alone in this and that we can get through it. Thank you

[@Iman-iy7gc]

I’m so proud of you 🧡🧡🧡 sending you a big hug!! My eyes 😭 family is where love tenderness and unconditional respect is!!

[@judithrita4776]

I'm glad you're able to live openly without the fear of rejection. How amazing for you and your partner to begin a new level of love. 100% trust and love is earned not given. Thank you for sharing! If you're ever in London just know you have a friend in me (is that weird? Idk lmao)

[@annaperez8339]

Julia you deserve all the love in the world.

[@bbybonzza]

omg not me crying when you were speaking about your mom and her reaction. i just wanna say you are so strong and you will get through this. and it’s okay that you cried when you spoke about this. it shows how you tried your best and that wasn’t reciprocated. nonetheless, i’m so very proud of you. ❤

[@iannb2155]

thank you so much for sharing your story !!!!

[@fnaskljdnfgs1082]

Thank you so much for sharing your story with such sincerity and vulnerability. 💓 And you are so right -- family is chosen! I'm so happy that you are now able to live in your truth with someone you love💓

[@lupevinado3087]

as a fellow queer who has a narcissistic mom with whom I don’t talk anymore and who had a bad reaction when I came out 6 years ago, I hear you and feel you. Look for help if you need it for healing, for getting your peace back. All the love.

[@dorothytran2926]

I just want to give you a hug. I can relate to your story of your upbringing and how it's made you a bit hesitant to trusting your family with personal information. I'm proud of you for trying to talk to your mom. You went in knowing the reaction would most likely be bad, but you gave her a chance. That's really all you can do. Also it's totally ok to cry! This family approval stuff isn't easy. Wishing you the best!

[@Nyanchama_]

Thank you for being so open with us Julia, we love you and wish you all the very best ❤❤

[@dropthecheesecake3527]

thank u so much for sharing ur story with us, and i'm so glad ur putting ur own happiness before everything. the way u spoke about the whole subject; difficult family and clashing personalities was so brutally honest yet showed how much u value urself and own feelings, i felt so touched and cried w u. i've been following u for a few years now and i must say u are one of the people i look up to the most on the internet, keep doing u julia

[@kyreneherrera]

when u started crying, i started crying too omg. that part was so sad but overall, im so happy for you. its not easy and you did it

[@saucyfbaby]

proud of you for living in your truth ! i'm glad you have your chosen family of friends for support . ❤️ even though you already knew how your mom would react , i'm sure it was still just as hurtful to hear her say those words . i'm sorry your parents aren't accepting of you . older asian generations are stuck in their ways & beliefs . it sucks that us younger generations have to bear the trauma they've carried & their parents carried & so on . they're not open to talking about their trauma let alone working on healing from said trauma .

[@ynglpws3623]

Thank you so much for sharing this. You are such a brave and strong person and I’ve honestly admired you for years and you being so open and honest about your experiences makes me respect you even more. Sending you and your lovely mickey all the love in the world 💙

[@nikakozar832]

thanks for sharing your story! i stumbled upon this video randomly and it surprised me how much i related to your coming out to your parents. it gave me comfort to hear it, even though i am sad you had to go through what you did, i know how it feels. you are a strong and beautiful person though, and i wish you all the best in your relationship and i wish you a lot of love in your life. take care

[@Haywagen]

just a reminder, you are enough, you have always been enough, and you will always be enough. I hope you're taking care of yourself. i felt a lot of the way you did and have and it was super fucking painful and tough, but very grateful to be who i am now

[@Aniniji]

I’ve followed you and Maya for so long! Girl you have grown so much and got so mature and strong! tackling this thing called life together xxxx

[@VenetiaKamara]

must have been so hard to say those things about family out loud, yet so liberating! Yay our fruity friend, yay! 💙

[@ayanrosey8597]

Sending so much love Julia!! You are incredible. And you can absolutely choose your family, "mommy issues" is not any failure on your part.

[@Tiffany-uu2hq]

we love you 💕 your coming out deserves alll the space and I feel seen in your experience too!

[@letitiakiu]

Really happy for you and your girlfriend Julia❤ chosen family is absolutely family, and you’re breaking the cycle. Unfortunately we can’t change our parents, but you have one side that supports you, which is a bittersweet blessing. Love ya!

[@Panther888]

Proud of you! I grew up in a similar household aka asian religious conservative parents. Im heterosexual but I have activities that would be considered “satanic” but normal in this world..so I just don’t share😅 it was already an explosion in my family when I introduced a bf when I’m an adult.. got cursed by my mom lol..so i can’t imagine the strength it took you to come out to your parents about your sexuality and now healing from it❤ Good job 🎉I’m glad for you

[@ocean-chi]

Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable with us. Love you, Julia!

[@JulliaaHattonn]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ so happy to see you choosing love and happiness over toxicity and negativity

[@xoSilverSurfer]

As someone who has "mom issues" as well, this video really resonated with me. I'm so proud of you.

[@sallyvargas4563]

As someone who has come out to everyone but their traditional parents, this was so heartwarming to watch. Even inspiring 🥺💛 I can tell this was difficult for you but definitely worth it. Thank you for sharing your story. You don’t understand how much this means to me 😭💛

[@hemishalal8796]

you are so so loved and we are all so unbelievably proud of your courage and bravery

[@Rachel-ll2if]

Your vulnerability is beautiful ❤ thank you for being so open and honest

[@abcdef-kf3my]

So proud and happy for you and your partner. You did great. Love is not only between a man and a women. It’s transcends all gender.. love you..❤❤❤

[@IoannaChytiri]

This video resonates with me and our similar situation so much! I'm so happy you made this video and shared your story with us! We are in this together. Sending you biiig hugs and love! ❤

[@rossisky11]

thank you for sharing your story

[@patriciamandu2594]

Sending you so much love, you’ve grown so much - super proud of you 💗🫶🏾

[@angelicathefoodie]

Thank you so much for opening up to us and sharing your experience on your channel. Been watching TheLineUp since 2014, and it's amazing to see how far you've come, and love how you're sharing important topics like this. Also so happy to see you active on this channel again, can't wait to see more uploads!

[@鱼腥-s2k]

You are so brave, really proud of you!

[@myredhuntingcap]

I relate so much. I came out to my parents when I got my first gf and my mom has reacted in the same way. I'm glad to know I am not alone, but alsoI know its hard. Thank you for your perspective and story. I agree that the connection doesn't have to be there if it isn't healthy/happy.

[@AgatheWiesner]

Sending you both so much love ❤️, I haven’t cried that much in a long time. You are such a wonderful human being. This video was so strong can’t wait for part two ! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️‍🔥💖

[@cocotaem5101]

I remember following you near the beginning and always had a soft spot for you guys so this made me well up. Don't worry, girl. You're loved and you'll be alright! 💖

[@ffsnob]

Sending hugs to you. We are proud of you!

[@bea9282]

We love you Julia

[@LateefThyNative]

Love you so much! Thank you for sharing this portion of yourself

[@asjaba]

You did great, and you have every reason to be proud. Sending hugs from Croatia!

[@crazysox305]

Sending you love. Time to release those burdens and accept the love you deserve!!! You’re incredible!!!

[@discopumps]

I'm so sorry that your mums relationship is strained. My daughter is 2 and there are so many things in the world to bring harm to her, and I want my love to always be a safe place for her. I can't get how you can disagree with who your kids choose to love when there is so much other bad shit out there. I hope one day your mum sees that having a relationship with you is more important, and I hope she puts her issues aside and makes an effort to be in your life. I fell out with my dad 7 years ago, we didn't speak for 3 years and even when everything in my life was going right, I felt like there was a piece missing to my puzzle. but we did make up eventually and I'm so happy to have him back in my life. Hes a great grandad. Families are super super hard and it's not always rainbows and sunshine.

[@ITSVENZZ]

wow you are just so so strong !! so proud of you xx love you guys we will always support you :))

[@mateka4311]

I was so moved by this video! i'm so happy for you!! 💗💜💙

[@LaisulHoque]

You are amazing! I've a similar relationship with my parents. My mum is a bit understanding but they have a very conservative south asian mindset. Your video was comforting

[@itsaudreyallison]

Thank you for sharing this part of your life. I am sure that I am alone with how happy I am to hear that you are choosing to live freely and honestly and choosing people in your life who love and support you. Better things are on the way to you 💕

[@dwitiaayuiswari9786]

You deserve all the happiness in the world, Julia

[@simplytara97]

Im so sorry,you're such a strong person,thank you for sharing ❤️‍🔥