DID WE MARRY OUR PARENTS? | South African Couple YouTubers

[@sinothandosirunu]

Phetola's dad sounds like a great dad🥺 I wish every girl had a dad like that.

[@nosiphowhlophe]

This is just not a KZbin channel, it's Purpose. It's Anointed! Thankyou🙏🏽

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

So true…the Maks are changing lives

[@reabetswe]

I truly agree🙌

[@ladye1253]

Fully agree

[@Ivanune]

AMEN TO THAT!

[@bulumkobulumko652]

I fully agree with you They are used by GOD to EMPOWER US

[@tanakamutero8173]

I really stan on you guys, the wisdom and knowledge bombs you guys drop are truly profound. As a 20 year old you have given me a head start with regards to social knowledge acquisition. Thank you so much and may God continue increasing you. By the way, thank you for being a positive Christian role model couple. With so many influences around us, I for one appreciate this content.

[@sinothandosirunu]

"I want to do everything for a woman that can do anything". Absolutely loved that🙌🏽

[@nontsikelelochiteshe5487]

That was so profound for me Lerato....

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

Man this is such an interesting topic…I was raised by a single mother, which makes me question who influenced the qualities that I looked for in a husband🤔 because I did not have a father figure

[@mmulerakuba3445]

Interesting!! Also raised by a single mom.... But there was a cousin very present, and i know that i really wanted certain parts of him in a man

[@tshepocindi5999]

My take to this would be Attachment Theory would still cover influence of someone,who shaped your character,thinking be a Teacher,Preacher Parents of Freinds/Relatives No person immune from any influence of any kind.It would be like like this i cant be a Good Parent because i have never been parented all my life,which would not be True as Parenting comes in various forms those areas in people we admire and practice and would like to adopt are our Parenting style and we look forward to those traits and resonates now and then in our partner e.g you sound like my husband/Wife when you say....or ...do.. that.... and that........I was traveling in Bus ..to JHB a Lady sad you are just like my Son in every way possible and released after we parted on our conversation she kept on calling me Loeto every time we laugh together or she emphasize something.

[@hluvukanicindy2385]

Shoooo this topic is one I strongly resonate with. I was raised by a single mom but she showed up like I had two parents, even when I was in a varsity in a different city she used to fix my problems immediately with no hassles... if I encountered a problem I just knew my mom would fix it in a blink of an eye as a result I struggle being with a partner that cannot solve problems...I get frustrated because my point of reference is always " my mom would do this simple" I want someone who makes my life easy. Nice video thoroughly enjoyed it... I love how Lerato says we deal with the parts we reject through grace.

[@sorayae7415]

Same here, my father came in my life at a later state. Yet I'm just like him (in goes through our vain). I find myself doing a lot of what I've seen my parents do especially my dad.

[@ladye1253]

The constant excitement I get when you upload an instalment, hubby and I enjoy watching this channel. He was against me watching KZbin but guess what he constantly asks me” bbes, when are the Makhs playing”🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@monicamafadza1469]

This got me “we also subconsciously fall in love with negative traits of our care givers to try and rectify the past”

[@La__simonne]

First of all I really enjoy your videos, as a non south African, THANK YOU so much for the subtitles! I also want to ask you guys, can you please bring us some single people you might know to have conversation with. You guys have excellent communication and I believe us single people can benefit a lot from that. Also, I don't know about you but we are on the road to 100k. 40k is tomorrow lol

[@leratom6854]

When Pheto says we meet our parents when their older and matured yho 🥺 i love you guys.

[@matthewwilliam4031]

Great video. I’m always learning more about how to have a successful marriage. Video Ideas: 1) Tips on raising children as a couple 2) How to work through conflict in marriage? 3) How does love change over time?

[@Muhle64]

I totally relate with the part about being an emotionally sensitive child and those needs not being catered to. I’ve had to REALLY toughen up and now find it difficult to empathise with overly sensitive people especially at work. I didn’t get why that is but what Lerato said makes sense to why I always expect those around me to dust themselves off (almost immediately).

[@predictionsza5827]

Mr Makhs reassuring his wife and overdosing her with confidence!!!!!!!! I love it, a woman multiplies. If she's reassured and loved well she flourishes in God's favour with her family

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

Wow…love this🙌🙌🙌

[@nthabisengnhlapo3801]

I am so in love with a woman you have grown to be v/s the woman I felt in love with...guys...😢...its the most beautiful thing ever for a man to say to a woman...everything that Mrs Makhs is its because of you...when a woman finds a man that brings out the best in her...yooo...relationship goals right there....yooo...this is amazing...grace and continuous strength upon you fam🙏🏽

[@taongasakala9176]

Hey guys! I'm a new sub. Just came across your channel 2 nights ago and I'm in love with your content. I watched 5 or 6 videos back to back, and I've NEVER EVER done that with any channel. You guys are it man. I truely love your christian based channel content on love and marriage. It's much needed for us christians, esp young christians. And seeing a young, beautiful, black, african christian couple having such content is off the wall AMAZING! I especially loved the two sessions with Loreto's parents about how marriages end in divorce. It was filled with so many wisdom points, I literally had to write them down in my journal. Please thank you parents for me. You guys are so blessed to have such godly and wise parents with experience in counseling married couples. My only suggestion is to please do more English captions on translations when you switch to speaking your mother tongue so other none speakers don't miss out on what you are saying coz we want to hear and understand EVERYTHING. I'm so blessed whenever I hear you guys be real and share your experiences of both your struggles and triumphs and more so in just seeing the Christ centered love you have for each other, and showing us that it is indeed possible to have a happy and healthy marriage if you have Christ at the center of your personal lives and your marriage. Y'all are amazing, and keep pointing others to Jesus by just leaving your lives. With much love and tremendous gratitude from Taonga all the way from the East Coast of USA via Zambia.

[@mpumiradebe5102]

I did marry my father and guess what they are best friends today, I use to pray about getting a responsible man like my father, man of action. Not 100percent but 80percent. God is good all the time.

[@blissfulanddivine3101]

So thought provoking. Letting the other person grow where they are weak. Love Phetos vulnerability. Glad Lerato is very understanding

[@chamiahcharles391]

Yoo this video is almost an hour and I honestly enjoyed all of it, the transparency, wisdom, and the ability to comprehend where each other is coming from is something we don`t see every day in this world or the atmospheres around us. It`s just amazing I love it!

[@maxinejafta]

I think there are ways to develop resilience in children through things like sports. I also think teaching kids process and allowing them to go through it without trying to save them is another way they can learn. This is so that though they maybe sheltered they still learn to overcome, to be fearless and all those things. It’s really an interesting one Pheto. Maybe a parenting video would be interesting too. I noticed with your daughter, she is quite confident and bold. The way she lead you guys in that last video was quite astounding. She handled the responsibility so well and when you guys took off the blindfold she understand the shift in power. This is so interesting.

[@charisdonga9841]

the level of emotional intelligence that they both have. My word. No offense taken at any point, just honesty and deep talking to deep. I love this

[@kundaikoti9701]

Joined the fam last week Friday, I happy I'm up to with all the videos and I can watch this one having fully settled in.

[@tumymotsoatsoe3357]

I absolutely enjoyed this episode...thank you for saying yes to your calling/gifts guys.

[@tsebedaphney2678]

The first installment I ever watched was THE WAIT 2 weeks back and I am proud to say I've watched them all💃💃😍 The truth is I would never marry my dad cos wow, if I am dating a guy and see traits of my dad I run and never look back. I love your channel ❤️

[@ntebokarabelo]

I'm not even married, I'm very single but one thing about me I'll listen, make my own imaginery husband and have conversations with him in my head😂😂😂😂

[@andybizzle4376]

You live in my world 💝💝💝

[@thamsanqanzimande4]

Same same

[@b_reshoketswe2777]

You and I same WhatsApp group 🤣

[@mmatebogomoitswadi]

😂😂😂

[@nancyshamisomadzinga3353]

You are me🤩I am you

[@loveyfirstthing843]

You guys are so authentic, stay that way.Its what I love so much about your interaction.So relatable.

[@siyamthandandlakuse8042]

This is such a thought provoking and absolutely necessary discussion to have with yourself and your partner. That statement “You marry the emotional image of your caregiver, both positive and negative” - it challenged me to look at myself again with a view to see and understand who my partner is married to. It’s soo easy to identify and acknowledge the “positive traits of our caregivers” in us but maybe not so much the negative traits. Often times we camouflage them or call them something different that makes it sit better with us, and you honestly can’t change or improve something that you don’t know - truly know. I love your conversations ❤️.

[@rianomabie8897]

You two just never disappoint with your installments- lots of love to you and God's richest blessings.

[@sinazomonoana7374]

The way you speak to each other, the topics you speak. I love that it's all centered around God It's what keeps me coming back to this channel, there's always something to learn with The Makhs

[@sivmdingi8950]

Oh my goodness. This has just been a revelation for me. Now I know how I need to approach my man. Thank you so much guys you have no idea.

[@mgeijho]

the content gets better with each week!!!!just when u think this is mindblowing then they give us something better!!!!

[@LM-he7eb]

My mom is affectionate compared to my dad. But I felt more loved by my dad. My dad never told me he loves me, but I felt his love more

[@predictionsza5827]

They sent you a shout out.. Tell us your name

[@LM-he7eb]

@@predictionsza5827 Mara I did say 😂 Ke Lerato.

[@_lebz_M_TV]

Hahaha thank you guys. Love the honesty. Always so exciting to get a notification❤❤

[@bulumkobulumko652]

It is so beautiful to listen to you talk about each other's negatives AND STILL LAUGH ABOUT IT,MANTAIN HUMILITY & RESPECT... BRAVO TO GOD FOR YOUR LIVES!!!

[@loveyfirstthing843]

My heart melted when he stated that he wants to love his daughters so much..............I appreciate that.

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

💕💕💕👌👌👌

[@10khours]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 so much ministry in your conversation today. So much for for thought!

[@gbngcobo]

Over 30 000 subscribers!!! Super happy for you guys. You deserve it!

[@varietyoageng8063]

My ex has similar traits as my father, so humble, reserved, respectful, wise and emotionally intelligent. I always asked myself how is this young man possessing all these traits at such an young age I'm sure it must have taken my father years to arrive at that point . But essence I agree with the Makhs, we do date/marry our parents.

[@LethoHali]

That’s quite profound that lightbulb moment! That we know our parents when they’re grown and matured and have developed into who they are. And then we expect our younger partners to be just like that! Wow 🤩 #goodebumps 👌🏾

[@kaizenprojectmanager5827]

You guys are intelligent. Yes, human beings evolve. We must be patient with each other.

[@rebeccashabalala_]

Lol I enjoyed this instalment , love you guys man ☺️

[@reabetsoelehumo7721]

Listern you Marks . You will reach 1 M soon . The level of content and depth . Sales it self . I love you guys

[@Not_On_Bread_Alone]

This was such a great installment, we are truly to be amazing according to the best version of ourselves, we can't rest until all that God has put on your partner is released.... Yhooo Holy spirit is to really lead us to choose and marry right.

[@tullikamati5034]

Thanx for this wonderful instalment guys, so full of wisdom and insight,much appreciate🙏

[@jolynnnyakio8397]

Oh! My! I love you guys! I have been absorbing your nuggets of wisdom lately and I am so grateful for your content. May this platform not just get to 40k by September but a lot more than that.

[@lerekomolefe4323]

Latseba hakesonyalwe that time ke teachers pet shame on this channel, I listen with so much focus and have since taken some parts that I feel this I love and would love for my relationship.

[@leratomatlala9716]

Well I'm not married but I tend to go for the easy going, spoti kind of guys because my father is like that. Another thing is that in a relationship I expect the guy to be calm during arguments, since my dad has always been calm. Monna wa go rasa wanconfuser. Anyway, thank you guys, enjoyed this

[@TheMakhs]

😂😂😂 o ra gore wa go confusa😂😂😂! Thanks for weighing in♥️♥️

[@eugenias8327]

I definitely married my dad, he was a present father and spent time with his family. But he is also stubborn and a know-it-all/ always right just like my hubby. It drives me mad, like do you want to be right or happy?

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

🤣🤣🤣 Do you want to be right or happy??

[@koketsoleopeng5558]

Y’all are speaking so much wisdom here. I love your content ❤️❤️❤️

[@sukuloluhlen]

This was so insightful. What I really loved the most about this installment is how much you guys know each other and want each other to be the best versions of yourselves. I aspire to have that kind of relationship. Love from eSwatini.

[@Thandiwe_Philangezwi]

Fam🇸🇿❤

[@albinaesihle1253]

bhuti Lerato Hayibour Introo is fire straight 🔥🔥❤️❤️"kudala bezama ukusiflasha" 💪

[@helen61598]

Well when I met my husband the first thing he said to me was that he wanted a woman like his mother. At that I was given up about finding a good man. I did not take him seriously because the bad experience I had with men , so I thought he was one of those men. On my side I have been going out with those men who were like my father that is why my relationship didn’t last. I decided to date men who are different from my father and I found what I was looking for through my husband.

[@nwakhubayi]

Everything things that’s said about pheto from each instalments is a “reflection” of me . I wonder why .☺️❤️

[@valenciamabaso8012]

Very interesting conversation, learned a lot. Thank you.

[@asisiphondlovumalunga4970]

My boyfriend is very very very similar to my father. It was Mrs Mak saying her dad was very organized and kept all their reports. My father is an archive. He has every single report dating back from pre-school all the way through. He always also allowed me the freedom to be myself a hundred and ten percent. He's one of the few people In the world I think just get me and know me through and through. I also frustrate the hell out of him 😂 My partner has all those qualities as well and his approach to me is so similar to the way my father is it's mind blowing. Eish this conversation 😢

[@sinesiphomelodyjonas8990]

The way this channel is so good i pause to read the comments😂😂😂i don't want to miss anything❤😂

[@refilwegower382]

Ntate Makhs bathong 🤣🤣😂😂 ga se mo South Afrika moo...u just made my day..thanks for the shout out ..listen Mma Makhs

[@Ripanzell]

Finally catching up with some installments. So I didn't grow up with a biological father but started living with the eldest of my brothers later in my life and I still with him, and weirdly enough, I feel like I am currently dating my brother. So much of my partner is my brother and we chuckle about it because we both see it. So yah!

[@loveyfirstthing843]

Yes,this Kenyan missy listening to you,soon to be married here,and persons like you are paving the way.

[@fearless0122]

aarrgh what a packed conversation, I learnt so much from the both of you! This was very wholesome, love you guys.

[@gertykhensani527]

Pheto's braids Love them. So clean!!

[@tabisadlamini5689]

I want to do everything for a woman who can do everything for themselves shuuuuu the wisdom in this statement🙌🙌🙌🙌,enjoyed this one as well fam❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@christianasholaja4599]

I so much love you guys. So grateful I stumbled on you guys channel

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

That’s a black parent thing. My mom was also like that,the moment she walked in from work she’d look for something to complain about…she would even sprinkle washing power behind the couches so that she can see weather we cleaned properly or not…also, she doesn’t want to see you relaxing doing nothing, she’ll find something for you to do

[@prudencedantye9297]

🤣 As for sprinkling washing powder behind the couches...but I totally agree, that’s a black parent thing (mothers to be specific).

[@siyamtolo6733]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@keabetswemogapi1554]

This is an interesting one. My husband always says I'm just like my mother in law but it's a little different on my side because I didn't grow up with a father around but I can say I married an academic and hard worker just like my father

[@lolwethungcawa8354]

I also feel like I married my dad, every time I see a quality or behavior trait of my dad's in my husband I'm amazed coz I never thought there could be anyone like him. A loving father, there for his family, providing, protecting.

[@Peacewaters3]

I am already loving loving this youtube channel because of the intro. LOVE IT

[@lebogangmasemula8958]

Thoroughly enjoyed this installment. Your topics are always on point! ❤️

[@bonnie60]

Watching your videos gives me an insight into the type of relationship I would like to have one day. You do compliment each other totally and you do bring topics that help people to have a better hold of their relationship or long to be in a relationship. Mrs Makhs your husband highlighted the meticulous person you are similar to myself as I am born in September like you. He was on point on your neatness and the particular way you like to have things done etc. Love you all dearly.

[@palesaputsoa]

My husband definitely is most parts my father. He is the hold you down I got your back kind guy and I love it,, He also makes sure that I know how to handle and things my self, he does not play around when it comes to that. So I can safely say I am very self reliant.

[@hlogiphill2856]

I just love how authentic you guys are. From every single installment, I've just noticed that you've always felt peaceful finding each other intentionally hence your love continues to grow deeper. Also thrusting your union in God's hands? It's so beautiful. May God bless and protect you always💕

[@tshepisomaswangane1893]

Love you family. Congrats on the 30+subies.

[@MamosaMo]

You guys are blessed with a beautiful union. Your conversations are so fulfilling. Love you guys ❤🥰

[@bonolomasuku5896]

The blossoming part right. Prophet Makandiwa puts it so well that parents should have open truthful conversations with their children in all aspects. As children growing up we ought to know that our parents being fully" complete " comes from them making mistakes a,b,c....shuuu loved that point Mrs Makhs♥️

[@siyamtolo6733]

"I want to do everything for a woman that can do anything." Lerato Makhetha. Yho hay bethuna we are not worthy!😭😭😭

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

The wisdom in the house is too much🙆🏽‍♀️

[@mbalentlemhlaba5689]

I love your discussions.

[@Loymtyoki]

Wow!" I dint have to demand warmth coz you gave it so freely"👌🔥💕..

[@yolandezuki5628]

Another interesting installment, great conversation. I got married last year.. I am yet to know in details whether I married my parents, although I was raised by my mom, and only knew my Dad way later in life and then he quickly passed on. Thank you for the great insightful conversations that you always bring... love you fam. Please greet Hakoe for me hle :)

[@mmatebogomoitswadi]

Bathong, i love your channel❤🌹 When i get married, I'm definitely revisiting your channel 🤞.

[@christianasholaja4599]

I ljust stumbled on you guys channel this week and now i like you guys so much and your wife is so beautiful and her smile is lovely coming from a fellow Lady. I like the level of understanding between you both

[@leemasilo1229]

Hai hai hai you guys are on fire. Such an incredible episode. Truly anointed in the work you are doing. I mean as a young makoti, still navigating marriage in its early stages, this content makes it all the more worthwhile. Love and light man yoh

[@HildahMolobane-dk4vk]

What Phetolo says about his husband is true, he love people,humble ,and kind.

[@charmainemoyo1072]

I think i did, the rose blossoming part is so true yoooo expectations...

[@authenticnoise9885]

shout out to all the guys who are learning like me from the instalments, believe it or not, i've watched all the installments

[@TheeMrsKhofla]

Your wisdom guys 🥰 I just love you. You guys are what I need in my life right now. God is definitely doing something in me through you.

[@Shechatsalot]

Love ftom Jamaica. I love the conversations.

[@terence2287]

This was very good and to think that you guys are "freestyling", those are some punch lines. God is speaking here. Our women must or may let the man lead but be fully equipped to hold it down. 👌🏼🙏

[@nthabisengnhlapo3801]

We meet our parents when we older...wow...it is unfair bakithi wow...definitely will do better on this point 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@happymuller841]

For us to marry our parents!🕯😍Thank you fam, this was a very educative installment❤

[@sibongilembele6028]

Nice one fam. Your topics are always thought provoking.

[@brigettebond6088]

Phetola I love, love what u said about your mom. She is not affectionate but she shows it with her actions. That is so like me. Lerato I what u said about your dad that he emptied himself for his family. I love your dad I only watch Scandal to see him. Interesting topic guys. Keep it real #

[@mamellomaripa3946]

dats true, I've released I fell in-love with my dad, everything about my boyfriend is my dad. idk if its what am focusing on that part of him or he is totally him, the worst part is i dont see my father as a good men. I get scared sometimes that he might do things he did.

[@maisieplummer-mcdonald4503]

I absolutely love you guys, you inspire me! I sort of just happened into you ministry and boy has it been a blessing. I thank you so so much. I keep watching episode after... I'm sorry, installment after installment. God bless you richly!

[@KRallele]

What I have learned from you guys is that there should be room for growth in marriage.

[@alicetamur5787]

Lots of love, hugs prayers from this Island Gurl 🇵🇬

[@tlalylemeke7240]

What a packed installment! You guys are such a blessing to us❤. This inspires self-introspection and reflection, a very important exercise!

[@nomkhosimchunu4744]

😂😂 I love this installment like all others, the part where Lerato said "maybe I warch too many movies" and Phetola says "maybe you do" just cracked me up. But wow on a serious note: I feel the both of you I think I'm also the type of woman whoreally wants to know how to do anything but know my man's got it! It becomes tricky sometimes cause I'm so independent and I struggle to make room for my partner to take over...still learning. Very insightful talk

[@nomkhosimchunu4744]

Watch *

[@adelheidkatjiru9402]

Favorite couple just dropped a video... Can't wait to dig in later... The excitement is not of this world...

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for being part of the DreamTeam♥️

[@refilwemthethwa9652]

Interesting conversation and love it. So many good nuggets, I could hug my screen. ❤️Thought provoking , funny and we can all relate to black mother shem.

[@thekhoabanesunfiltered8896]

🤣🤣🤣 Yoh our black mothers don’t like peace shame🙆🏽‍♀️

[@madampraises4450]

"I'm gonna so out love my girls so that any boy that tries to step into their space they gonna have to work really hard because they gonna know what love is through the love I displayed to them" shuuu! I just had to 🙌 this exactly what my dad did and still do to this day. That old man loooves us more than anything else and I feel like this should be every man's words and sentiments, especially to girl children

[@Peacewaters3]

also, my soon to be wife, once said I remind her of her dad, and I feel like she has some characteristics of my grandmother (who raised me). So I think this is really interesting

[@siphosethumaps5698]

wow, I would like another session of this topic and please read Winnicot's book called the good enough mother. It says a lot about how children's personality develop between the ages of 1-3 years and the consistency and inconsistency of the caregiver plays a role in how the child develops till they are adults. So yes we date people who share the same traits as our parents.

[@tshepocindi5999]

Attachment Theory at its Best 1-3 years Woow