HOW TO PRESERVE YOUR IDENTITY IN MARRIAGE | Do You Boo Boo | South African YouTubers

[@khomotsomoremi599]

Modimo, you just taught me so much. I feel like I am getting free marriage counseling. I love you guys

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you for your beautiful message❤️. We are so humbled🤗🤗

[@chantelltalbaard9278]

It's always "So my wife" for me all the time😎😘 Abuti Lerato is really sweet

[@TheMakhs]

🥰🥰🥰

[@Mrs_Springbok]

What phetola did is exactly what I am going through, I've put my interest aside to focus on my hubby's career . Unfortunately on my side hubby does not support my dreams as much as I do with his. I'm actually drained at this stage. In 2021 im doing me, I've already lost soooo much. Thank you again for good content

[@jennybrown1570]

The end part was just beautiful...when Larry looked you in the eyes and said "I'm really happy I married you" haai i felt it😍

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaah shame Larry is the sweetest! An absolute gem❤️. Thank you so much for watching❤️❤️

[@seaitsiwemadienyane472]

Right? I watched it like 3times so sweet. Love you guys, you are so relatable

[@Miss_Phendu]

Your conversations are chilled and full of wisdom. I enjoy every episode and I love your union, it is beautiful. Thank you❤

[@TheMakhs]

We are so humbled by kind words! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and engage❤️❤️

[@nomsamsomi4535]

Lerato reminds me so much of my husband he’s always pushing me to go for my dreams,supports me.

[@TheMakhs]

That is incredible!! You are super blessed❤️❤️

[@Tebogoadel]

Two things that stood out for me 1. Very important that I do me. Failure to do so breeds a lot of bitterness when our partners choose themselves and their dreams without thinking twice. As women, we are never ready to have ideas of our identities that are singular i.e., not tied to the people we love. And then we get the shock of our lives when men do. On loudspeaker: Ladies, men are not our projects to manage. Let’s love our partners, know the limits, and please let them be. 2. As men and women, we are socially not ready for women who earn more than men. As women we have beautiful conversations about not being in relationships for money. But we forget that it does something to our partners to be (un)able to provide. There is a lot of tension that grows because someone feels less than. Ideas around provision (I think) are bigger and deeper than our lovely kumbaya conversations Thanks to the two of you for being so honest and vulnerable. We don’t take it for granted. More blessings

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

The authenticity here gives me goosebumps 😭🔥🙌👌

[@sabakes]

Another very good episode. I watched it together with my wife. We really appreciate your courage in tackling these difficult issues in marriage. We are learning and are encouraged. This channel is gonna grow.

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much brother for the love and support! We appreciate you and your beautiful wife so much❤️❤️

[@raongamercymukuahima636]

My vocabulary is getting rich here😉

[@TheMakhs]

Oh wow!! Funny story, so Lerato is always correcting me🤪. He is the “principal” in the marriage. His vocabulary is on another level.

[@bonolomasuku5896]

Right 🤷‍♀️I keep reverting to my dictionary. Not complaining though, I love learning ❤🤞

[@Remza-Luv]

One thing about your husband, he didn't pretend to be what he is not, he doesn't pretend that I'll go overseas with you when he knows he won't. I love this honesty and I just learnt actually how women are willing to take whatever risk as long as "I'm with you" and men are the exact opposite. Until a min ago when I had this revelation I used to think that maybe a man doesn't care so much, but i realise that I don't have to provide but he does, and if he follows me and I "make it" and ge doesn't it's a bigger issue than when the roles are reversed. It's one thing to support a temporary situation but some temporary situations last longer than others. Now imagine 10 years of me as a woman having uprooted my family nna ke gola while nothing happens for my husband, that's honestly more than a bruise in ego because one thing about women PHETO we are not humble 😂😂😂our Humility is very unstable and one thing about men they thrive of being needed, and it's not an ego thing, but a creation thing. How we behave has a lot to do with the order and purpose for which men and women were created...

[@tabbywaithera9112]

Been in a relationship is NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT....PREACH!!

[@thejourneywithtshire1664]

BONANG!!! I feel like I'm with honest and cool big sis and big brother!!! Schooling me here!!!! Ke le RATA GORE!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I know Jesus loves me, for REALSZ!

[@TheMakhs]

This is so special Tshireletso!! Thank you for welcoming us into your space and making room for us! We appreciate you❤️❤️. Le rona re a go rata!!

[@kiaashlii6268]

Just started watching and I can’t wait for the next installment!!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 love from Jamaica 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲❤️

[@sinazositshange96]

It's the words of affirmations and the way they look at each other for me 😭🔥♥️

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaaaah❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@_sesona]

Oh guys ❤️❤️ meeting you is officially on my bucket list ✅

[@TheMakhs]

Oh wow! This is so special!! Let’s make it happen soon❤️❤️

[@kgomotsimolepo6420]

I love the way you able to have serious conversations /discussions in a light manner 👍

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much Moghel for your love and support❤️❤️

[@happymuller841]

And aus' Pheto girl! What a beautiful statement that is " you don't have to sacrifice your sense of self to invest on someone" mind blowing😍

[@thembela_zini]

This was soooo good! ❤ The level of transparency is exactly what we need.

[@TheMakhs]

Aaah thank you so much! We are so glad that the honesty is appreciated❤️

[@tshepangsebola7556]

WOW God bless you and keep you, may he make his face to shine upon you . bless your marriage

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much! We receive🙏🏾❤️

[@nozibuzematwa8689]

I love how you guys are normalizing therapy. This is amazing.

[@sinothandosirunu]

Absolutely loved this, I'm definitely like Pheto and I'm not even married yet, I'm always pushing my partner to reach his fullest potential with the fear of provision in our future household. I will definitely look into investing in myself as well while being his cheerleader ♥️

[@latoyarhodes2003]

Being in a relationship is not an achievement. Learn yourself first! Y'all better say that!! I'm so glad that I found your channel. You two are amazing and are a breath of fresh air!

[@vistorinaamputu4682]

As soon as I came across you (AMAAAAAAAAZIIIIIIINNNNNNG couple) I am hooked and wow, everything you share is so so invaluable. I now sit with a notebook to take notes, because when the Mr shows up, home girl will be ready😎☺️😁🙃🤗💃🏾. Loads of love, best of wishes and abundant blessings upon abundant blessings from 🇩🇪 . You two are the realest👌🏾. P.s I am shamelessly going to copy paste this until I get a shout out😂😂

[@nicolebailey1967]

This was powerfulllll!! Sending you both love and light from the States!🔥

[@angelangwenya5014]

Christ's teaching continued, keep the fire burning.

[@alinaabed6082]

You guys are the best ....life is indeed a dream with the Makhs☺❤😇God bless you all😇

[@no2cheese]

I love how he looks at his wife....#heartmelting. May God continue to bless you and your family 🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗🤗

[@wandilekwanda541]

What an amazing installment yet again. I loved the idea of checking in with self with therapy something that alot of us should normalize. We are learning and growing together with you guys. We appreciate this platform. Thank you for your obedience.

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you Wandile for continuous support and feedback. We appreciate you so much❤️

[@kiaashlii6268]

Wow this is soo deep and essential like I legit have to rewind parts and listen again 😌🙏🏾

[@nontsikelelochiteshe5487]

Being single, being whole, being distinct, unique living in your fullness. Thank you Makhs family for over emphasing the singleness. More often than not we mistakenly think singleness has to do with being alone. While one must be single in his/her marriage. Otherwise an individual that's not single in a marriage needs to be validated now and again needs to be baby-seated yhuuwi

[@happymuller841]

Mhm mr Mach bathong is so wise!

[@HairessBarbi]

Bona mollo o is just too much. Yall going in on it is so flamey, yall are flames, holy ghost fire all over the place. Love it maaaan. This is one of my own personal fears in marriage. 🔥🔥🔥 Yoh Jesu o motle.

[@lilyuupindi]

I'm not sure if I can be humble maaan :D ogg day made ! Thank you, great content :)

[@joynthabiseng6396]

i love it here ........no couple gives such content ....so different.....

[@TheMakhs]

Aaah this is incredible! Thank you so much❤️❤️❤️

[@vuyokazisoji3423]

I'm so hooked on this channel I even reapit watching, hayini i love engaka!, enye into they are so real 👊💖

[@TheMakhs]

Oh wow!!💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿. Thank you so much for choosing us! ❤️❤️❤️

[@wandamkhungo2699]

Guys the content of your videos is woooow. I have just discovered your channel but the things I have learnt is super amazing...thank you so much for what you doing. You are NOT wasting my time and data. I really look forward to your installments. The way you have Christ as the centre does it for me. YOU ARE THE BEST!!!❤❤

[@answersfrommylips197]

Very educative installment as usual. I also love to just withdraw to my space and rejuvenate, my partner use to think he offended me but I had to explain that’s it’s my way of recharging and will come back better😀😀. Also, when you said you know each other’s strength and can compliment each other, I remembered what The Makhs Senior said “If you are the same then one person is unnecessary”. Thank you for the authenticity always. With love from your Nigerian subscriber.

[@nyanisamajavu4508]

This was soulful and so enriching to my own development and maturity as a single person trusting GOD for a purposeful and godly marriage. So much wisdom and insights were shared and unpacked about marriage and relating to one another as a couple in this episode. Very empowering and inspirational 🙏🏿🙇🏾‍♀️❤️ Thank you 🙏🏿 thank you 🙏🏿 thank you 🙏🏿

[@thandomazwi337]

My 2nd favorite installment. Hate to admit it it but this is what my husband has always said. And I finally understand why now. LOVE what you guys have started. 🙌🏽❤️

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for watching!🤗🤗. It’s hard to hear some of these things at first but we are better people because of those tough conversations.

[@maidimoalusi7375]

I'm so glad God sent this video my way. It's speaking to my heart. Thank you

[@TheMakhs]

We’re so happy it’s speaking to you ❤️

[@brigettebond6088]

Wow your topics are so factual. I feel whoever follow this blog has to come out with positive thoughts and definitely learn to do things differently. Love, love u guys

[@EnHl3]

Self-actualization... Preach📣📣📣. In my humble opinion self-actualization is thee key to conquer self and attain happiness.

[@TheMakhs]

Couldn’t agree more 🙏🏾❤️

[@sethunyamasebe9733]

I actually agree with Mr Makhetha, women need to stop feeling guilty about putting themselves first. Everything good begins at the end of fetching yourself and your life. You cannot give from a well of nothing

[@TheMakhs]

We are really trying. Our default setting is to nurture. These conversations are very helpful for us all❤️. We will get there one day🤗

[@sethunyamasebe9733]

@@TheMakhs indeed, we shall get there

[@lebogangmothibe2697]

U guyz are amazing; your honesty & vulnerability is soo refreshing 💞. May GOD bless your blessed union 🙏🏾💖🙌🏾💖🙏🏾

[@ruth-anyafrancis4024]

Your content is beyond incredible 🙏🏾 . I have been learning and growing by your notable wisdom. I’m from Jamaica 🇯🇲 btw and I have to say from the very beginning I came across your first video it has been in alignment to a similar journey that I’ve encountered. I look forward to your upcoming videos. Keep up the good work 👏🏾

[@flowthinks]

I'm with Phetola! I know I would have a hard time respecting my partner if I was in the power seat. No ways! He should earn more

[@shuliehasiciimbwe7540]

The authenticity in your conversations. So full of wisdom and love too. I am so so glad I get to learn from you while I am still young and not married yet. God bless you.

[@feliciamahlatji5931]

Shooo🙆🏾‍♀️ I'm so inspired and motivated by both your views, and how yall are in sync yet individuals, and you encourage your individualism😍❤️

[@Marsh_Mel]

This is probably one of the most important instalment. Amazing content and I relate so much to Mrs Makhs.

[@luciaaffinity5732]

sigh **********che lona mara 🤦‍♀️ hw is it that i relate with everything bathong lmao iyuuuuuuuuuu

[@RefilweMekgoe18]

Such a deep conversation brought in a lighter manner. This was amazing. Honestly, it takes maturity and sound emotional intelligence for marriage to work

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for your kind words, and for watching❤️. We couldn’t agree with you more, we look at how far we have come and thank God for growth and maturity❤️❤️

[@EnHl3]

So much wisdom, ke ready for lenyalo guys👍👍👍

[@TheMakhs]

That’s it 🔥🔥🔥

[@shinesshallow-gollop2]

I came in contact with you guys on Sunday and I'm happy I did. I have learnt so much when it comes to a relationship. Although I'm single, nevertheless when that time comes I'll be wise enough to face the challenges of a relationship

[@nanidubula8754]

This is such an honest conversation you guys. So much is relatable. Well done

[@luciaaffinity5732]

Lmao its Phetola saying she isnt sure shell be humble if she has machankura amantsi lmao hoaaaaaaaaa chille that statement hit home lmao. Its the honesty for me lmao noooooooo maaaaan goooo-funny

[@guguvilakati3144]

You could fill the stadium with your installments believe me

[@charmainemoyo1072]

I love you guys....joined late so trying to catch up....

[@wananotsetse853]

i just love you guys. i feel the genuine connection between you guys and its so refreshing. each you say goodbye i find it unreal how much time has passed cause its like you just started talking🥰🥰😅 #WeLoveTheMakhs

[@boipelomogudi6861]

Man I'm enjoying these reflective videos

[@gofaonabogatsu7958]

Le nkgatlha yang 💖

[@TheMakhs]

Bathong! O ra gore!?😁🤗. Re a leboga❤️

[@olwethuntwana2514]

We learning and growing with you guys. Forever grateful for this content....❤️❤️❤️I love Love. ❤️

[@TheMakhs]

We are so grateful for this feedback. This journey has also been incredible for our growth and we are so blessed to have people that are cheering us on❤️. We are truly appreciative🙏🏾

[@nyamelanamso]

This is, by far, my favourite installment. Learning so much from you guys.

[@slendernontobeko9026]

Thank you so much for this❤️. Totally worth my data and time God bless you guys

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaah!! Thank you so much. We are so happy we didn’t waste your data! We appreciate you so much❤️❤️

[@tswelelodaisymolapisi3386]

I am forever grateful to the Makhs.❤️ You are truly a blessing 💕💞🌼 Thanks a million

[@vaonhify]

I'm learning soo much from you two, much appreciated and loved🥰

[@nomusasedupane404]

Love you guys... ❤

[@dineomoaisi6724]

This is so beautiful! Love this channel

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much🤗❤️. We appreciate you🤗

[@Nadiamatlala]

Noma yini boza yam 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Enjoyed this episode a lot! As a future wifey I’m learning a lot! Can’t wait to be found by my whole partner, not here for di half half. Come here o feletse 😄 Thank you for the content that’s consistent ❤️🙌🏾 Love you guys

[@TheMakhs]

Bona!! E tla o felletse! A re Nyake di stompie🤣🤣😘❤️

[@gwenmathebula3891]

This conversation is important. Thank you for being so real and raw. 🌻

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for watching! We are so glad that you enjoyed the conversation❤️❤️. We appreciate your love and support🙏🏾

[@auntyshafo]

New subbie. Really appreciate this detailed actual "marriage trailers" you are giving us... I also love that there is a male perspective which is very important...may the Lord continue blessing you with more wisdom. Love from Namibia

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for painting our TL with so much love! We appreciate you❤️🤗

[@AnnstaciaK]

Ahhhh Lerato... as for Papa panny! ⚰️🤣 what a wow But we got you. 😂 we understood very well shame. Even rona bo single.

[@zazidhlamini9924]

Amazing what a blessing to watch and dig into. We thank God for your journey ❤️

[@alicetamur5787]

Much love from this island gurl, Papua New Guinea ❤🇵🇬

[@nokuthulatkubheka432]

You guys are brilliant 🙌🙌🙌 love it🙏❤️ Wisdom on point. God bless your union 🙏

[@zonkembokazi6709]

Wow I'm extremely greatful for this so much learning

[@onkgopotserakau2204]

This is the real deal. I am in love with the content! 👌👌💖💖

[@travelwithposh7129]

It’s the honesty for me 🤣🤣 you guys are incredible!!!!!!! Yooohhh Love love it!!!!❤️❤️❤️ ke le rata goree!! I am learning so much from you!!!

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣🤣 thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@nokulungakhoza7175]

I love how you unpack the real issues about marriage.

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for being so receptive to us❤️🤗

[@keaolebogakgotlaebonywe6754]

Yooh!when Phetola said the 'fergusons' part though ;) lol thank you guys for yet another eye opening conversation.love the consistency and the valuable content.

[@TheMakhs]

🤣🤣🤣 thank you so much for watching and for your kind and affirming words❤️

[@wewemhlaba7593]

So insightful❤Always.Thanks for this episode

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for watching❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@alettahtsotetsi3276]

You guys are amazing.. You're such a breath of fresh air to watch❤️❤️

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you Alettah ❤️

[@charmainemoyo1072]

Kkkkkk at i dont think i can be humble.... I think its a struggle for more ladies...yoooo

[@kiaashlii6268]

This is helping me in ways I didn’t even know I needed help. 😳

[@missstteaches9554]

Being in a relationship is not an achievement!🙌 but Phetola, your dad🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 a hero! Not even 1 beer nyana, a whole lights out🤣🤣🤣

[@TheMakhs]

Bona one beer was gonna waste his time🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. The brother went all in!!🤣🤣

[@mahlogonolothobane7298]

You two are absolutely amazing. Enjoyed this installment so much. Love you rof rof fam 😘

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaah cuz!! We love you Rof Rof!!!❤️❤️

[@MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo]

I don't think I've ever related to anyone like I do with Sis Pheto, bathong how are we the same person? Njani? yho ha. a!! It's crazy...

[@natashatshili5873]

Love Love Love it!

[@dorothymotsepe]

Powerful statement you guys made there, that it is important to be aligned🙌🏽 it think that's where most of us are missing it.

[@TheMakhs]

So important!! 🙌🏾.

[@sibobuhlungu4404]

Wow🙌🙌🙌

[@lithankepu]

You guys are too much ❗️❗️❤️

[@aobakwepheto2502]

Thank you guys for opening up your marriage and yourselves to guide us. Your words of wisdom are easily relateable because le age group you know. Love Love Love yous!

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much Aobakwe for this lovely message! We appreciate you watching and giving us honest feedback. We are so glad that people can relate to us and our journey❤️

[@Nadiamatlala]

The romance and love that is here 🥰❤️😍

[@TheMakhs]

Aaaaah🥰🥰🥰🤭🤭🤗🤗😊😊

[@AnnstaciaK]

Go lovely neh? 😍❤️🔥

[@matildasefike1505]

Love this installment 👏👏👏

[@TheMakhs]

Yaaay!! So glad! Thank you for watching❤️❤️🤗🤗

[@TheBossMomSpeaks]

Love this guys

[@ingavika9383]

Ah! This keeps getting better and better! Thanks for sharing your hearts!

[@TheMakhs]

Aaah!!! Thank you so much! We are so glad that the gains are starting to show❤️❤️

[@nkhensanimsiza6197]

Guys nna ka le rata shem❣😁

[@miggodtwala]

La se bolela sekgowa bathong, le re ke recalibrate?🤔

[@TheMakhs]

😂😂😂it’s your Brother in law who said that!🤣🤣

[@thutophenyo7668]

Your content is absolutely fulfilling and the knowledge I've acquired from your videos will guide me through as it is challenging when dating in your early 20s

[@TheMakhs]

Aaah Thato, re a leboga hle! We are so grateful that our conversations are relatable and making an impact. We appreciate you for journeying with us❤️

[@sanelemjoli4877]

Ei take time to be with you, don't forget who you are as an individual hmm. I think I must think about this a lot and implement some things. Thanks guys and God bless you. For Mrs Makhs did it make you feel otherwise that Mr Makhs wasn't working or doing corporate like you at first? Obviously that has financial implications.

[@TheMakhs]

Thank you so much for watching! We appreciate the feedback so much. Being with self is so important!❤️❤️