Why Men Don't Want Kids!

[@Takeasec]

I think a better question to start mainstreaming is “why do you want kids” instead of “why not”. Not having kids doesn’t change much but having kids changes ALOT and requires a lot, not just financially wise.

[@sonjafitz4147]

I had my (only) kid at 39 and was barraged with 'When? When? WHEN?' until I was about 35, then people gave up. My partner was also constantly questioned, though, which may be the cultural difference Milan121 referenced - he's Indian, and in that culture if you're hitched, you start a family, PERIOD. I think women get 'When are you having kids?' more often (implying that all women should want kids) and men get 'When are you going to settle down?' more often (implying that all men are monogamy-averse). Both are judge-y and nosy.

[@BioBioLove]

It also depends on the cultural background. I am Greek and in my culture both men and women are asked when they are having kids. Women are asked earlier, but men are totally asked as well. I guess family culture in general is very strong for Greek people, and it is exceptionally rare for couples to not want kids. Who knows maybe we are all indoctrinated too much to even know what we want 😛 In my opinion its a choice that should be made freely by the individual 🙃

[@winterburden]

I also like women who don't want kids! 🙆‍♀️

[@ClayMastah344]

Honestly the best, happies couples I meet are usually childless

[@Woeschhuesli]

Hilarious... we can't get a puppy because in 15 years it will die LLLLOOOLLL oh you guys!!!!

[@aviatr9542]

American childfree guy here - I know this podcast got derailed a bit (and that's okay, I still enjoyed this! Haha), but it sounds like David's main reasoning for not wanting kids was because Jenny didn't want kids, and he simply thought: "Okay!" Basically just indifferent/ fundamentally doesn't mind either outcome, and the childfree outcome was what life (Jenny) presented. It really can be that simple! I personally chose to be childfree simply because I don't want to be a parent. Nothing against kids (I do like kids) but there's a big difference between liking kids and wanting to become a parent. I have absolutely zero desire to be a parent, and I choose to do other things with my life that do bring me joy/fulfillment in other ways. Raising children is not a life requirement. It's unfortunate that childfree individuals (especially women) get looked at as outcasts by the rest of the crowd when it's really not a big deal at all.

[@Antistylestyleclub]

Anyone dealing with reversed psychology when it comes to wanting kids? When you don't want kids and your partner doesn't either. But because you are so determent on not wanting that life the other person starts doubting? Asking for a friend ofc

[@acmulhern]

The only animal I would see for you guys is a cat. They're so independent and easy going. They're more like a roommate than a pet. Edit: I commented too quickly. I should have known you were fellow cat people 😄

[@THEMUSTARDS]

haha!

[@nikedoesthings]

Have a cat! I adopted a rescued kitten half a year ago and now it's the sweetest little guy

[@angelicaperez1296]

I think a fish would suit better for them. Yes they also die, but I think it's easy to overcoming

[@oliviaschwengler3546]

So excited to see new episodes of your podcast! I enjoy listening to it and watching it a lot! Have a great week

[@THEMUSTARDS]

Thank you! You too!

[@fantasmaparanormal1996]

Ultimately you should have kids because you WANT kids and not feel pressured to have kids because of society pressure, age, family pressure, or whatever it may be. If I have kids I will be happy. If I don’t I will still be happy. Don’t know if my mind would change but at my age I am a bit more selfish and have my own dreams and problems. I struggle with my mental health from time to time, i got places I want to travel to, experiences I want to do, live more care free and so on. I like being able to do what I want, go where I want and not have to worry about who will look after the kids. I’m very happy being Uncle Jack and a Cat Dad to 2 cats 🙏🏻

[@lucysour]

Getting a dog was a lot more work than I anticipated... My dog is almost three now and honestly I don't know if I've loved another creature as much as I love him. I have had the thought that I won't get another dog after him and it's pretty much because I know how devastating it will be when he does die someday. 😭 Edit: Oh yes, and we totally say "Tortoiseshell cat" in reference to the black/brown/orange cats. 😸

[@angelicaperez1296]

I love your podcast, but this episode has been one of my favorites. Thanks for sharing

[@THEMUSTARDS]

Thank you!

[@amesnora]

Finland story reminded me of " For 15 Years Sweden Thought Enemy Submarines Were Invading Its Territory. It Turned Out To Be Herring Farts" - cannot remember tho if you mentioned it before or i heard it some other place 😀😀

[@ninapavlovic4454]

I really enjoyed the variety of the topics covered. On a side note: as an English speaker, I laughed harder than I should have when you were discussing 'warts'.

[@gulsumkk]

I love the new segments! *Applause* have a beautiful week 💕

[@THEMUSTARDS]

Yay! Thank you!

[@decorDD]

I think free speech doesn’t exist at all because no one is free to say exactly what they want without some person being offended by something 🤦‍♀️ I am quite bothered by people wanting to shut down anyone who doesn’t agree with their way of thinking .. that is a step too far for me

[@LianaCarolina2]

David got a bit sad talking about the cats, so sweet.

[@charondolls]

We are also childfree couple in London and we think dogs are absolutely the best! I think David should be allowed to have one and Jenny should have a cat XD

[@honeyreinares9401]

Finally! ❤️

[@kaitlyncinnamon4498]

Your kitty was a calico! I just lost mine, he was also an old man.. about to turn 19! He was my little buddy since I was 5 years old!

[@reetanruutu]

it would be fun to hear you talk about your inner child and if you have advice on how to keep them alive and thriving 😃🌱

[@positivelyeventful2722]

Was surprised that this weekend when we were asked about kids as a couple by a friend that my boyfriend said hes starting to think he'd like kids more than me. I think its because hes finally in a secure job. Lucky for me he doesn't mind how as I said if we do it it should be when we are closer to 40 and adopt. Too many kids already in the world, want to more to ourselves and pregnancy on the body is eeeekkk (maybe why women get asked more). Enjoy your week. Emma :-)

[@positivelyeventful2722]

Whatever happened to my English here! *want more time to ourselves :-D

[@layna-heyhey]

I'm a woman who doesn't want kids. I can't seem to find a guy who thinks the same. I've spoken to; Christian guys, Atheists, Agnostics, Preachers, and etc (I 'm a Christian so I would like a Christian guy). All want 2-5 kids. I was even called "mad" for not wanting kids. smh, I don't think one should have a kid just to make another happy, so I think lol I'm gonna die alone xD.

[@drjohnsonhungwell5115]

There are men who don't want children I'm one of them .

[@wheatstonebridge]

How old are you? I've known many Christian couples who met and got married in their 40s.. too late for them to have kids

[@mila4eto]

Americans and their skill to present is part of their educational system. I agree 100% the magority of them and Canadians as well are very good.

[@singgarden]

Hi Jenny. My apologies if this is too personal but since David not getting 'snipped' came up I'm curious if you've considered a bilateral salpingectomy (tubal removal)? We're about the same age and it's something I'm currently looking into since I want to be in full control of my own body autonomy and apparently it also lowers the risk of ovarian cancer. I've heard that women in general tend to face more resistance from doctors regarding sterilization but it becomes easier once we're in our 30s. I've also considered what my partner might do if something happened to me and wondered if he would start a family under different circumstances so if he decides to go for a vasectomy I want that to be 100% up to him with no pressure. Since I'm 100% on not wanting children myself I'm ready to pursue the options available to me. Wish the best for both of you whatever you decide to do. And I totally understand being worried about the deaths of future pets. I'm still grieving my cat that passed 13 years ago and I don't think I will ever get over it. He was the sweetest and most relaxed cat ever and sometimes I'll still have a little cry when I am missing him. I would love to have a new cat in my life to love and snuggle though but life circumstances have put pets on hold for now.

[@ashassassin]

Dogs are wonderful! They are heartbreaking when they pass, but it's so worth it! You also get to give a wonderful home to an animal that needs one.

[@charondolls]

We totally agree

[@rolloverooflaughin]

Wait, I live in Finland.. you tell me all of this is a lie? Although, some people could argue that Helsinki is a very expensive northern Estonia..

[@THEMUSTARDS]

You live in eastern Sweden!

[@hannahm4382]

looking forward to mondays specifically for this content 😍

[@THEMUSTARDS]

Yay! Thank you!

[@jeanetteandrews3319]

SAME!

[@lissyj294]

8-12 dogs?! How long do you predict you're going to live for?!?! Most dogs make 10-15 years!

[@THEMUSTARDS]

You can have more than one dog at the same time😊🤙🏼

[@lissyj294]

@@THEMUSTARDS hehe you can indeed. I hope you do! 🐶🐶🐶

[@mittiejackson3427]

I don't need anything that eats or shits.

[@elizabarry4]

Omg I have those speakers on black! I got a pair of them for my husband

[@saltimbanca2359]

I like the "people living in the now" segment 😅

[@THEMUSTARDS]

haha, me too!

[@andre1987eph]

Its not children i fear. its child support and family court in my life - i dont want

[@kozak0v854]

I went through the who comment section to find out that I´m the only person who needs to know what the shop where Jenny bought the french press is called?!

[@micaxmica]

Omg we have the same taste!! I also love alessi and taschen...

[@dansmith6856]

Positive vibes🙏

[@SylvainBOSSON-og8fi]

Jenny about the nice choice of those dog, we missy get the nicker like border collie, some husky ... Jenny you have to have mic kids, for the wellness of your country, me and even the world

[@patisserie1524]

That argument of Jenny from the 12 dogs that are gonna die sounds like when nin vegans want to debate veganism saying "if everybody would be vegan the world would overpopulate with farm animals" 😂

[@anitahvambsahl]

They are worth it, though, the dogs. Or any other animal. It hurts like hell when they die, but they bring so much joy when they are here. Are you not adopting two dogs after all? :)

[@THEMUSTARDS]

We will probably in the future 😊

[@TheRealBorage]

Tortoiseshell! 🐈

[@littleleafy]

Love cat stories!

[@wheatstonebridge]

I just want to correct you about men having kids forever. It's not a good idea for men to have kids after the age of 45. The offspring will have a much higher chance of Autism or serious mental health issues.

[@hannesjakobsson3601]

Kan ni inte göra en video på svenska? :)

[@annaonar37]

Please, please don’t give Putin any ideas with your conspiracy theories 😂 sounds like something he’d consider

[@SylvainBOSSON-og8fi]

It s lovely your cat, do you want I offer you a cat?

[@olivetreeisland]

🐳

[@mauriciocornejo1442]

i was afraid to have kids. I don't know why....can some one explain this to me