I Used To Be So Nervous Talking To Women

Excerpt from This Past Weekend w/ ‪@TheoVon‬ 17
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[@saelaird]

The Hiroshima line is solid to be fair.

[@randallparaday4102]

🤣🤣

[@mrnburcham]

I did chuckle....

[@renaissancestatesman]

Lmfao. It was great.

[@NightOwlTX]

shit is solid too, doesn't mean its's good

[@eddieparish9727]

@@NightOwlTX unless it’s good shit

[@aldamis8384]

No joke, this is some of the most real, legitimate advice regarding women I've ever heard. Theo is a national treasure.

[@that1guy899]

Hallelujah brotha! 🤘

[@cruzmeadvisuals7564]

wait, so i spit on them?

[@brycestewart4717]

Yeah the spit thing really hit close :/ 😂😂 but I know what you mean! I’m still going through what he talked about

[@joshuat5140]

Right? Theo is hilarious yet he really is a great emotional and spiritual person you can meet or see he definitely always cracks jokes but at the same time he speaks on his tragic times in his life their is a very humble and smart person fr don't let Theo and his funny ways fool you because he is a very intelligent man no bs fr

[@tarang2458]

International

[@shanehubbard649]

My biggest thing was, I was nervous talking to a woman because of her looks. When stopped looking at women as potential mates, and started just saying so what she's a girl. It became easier to talk to them.

[@doejohn7548]

I’m going through that man I’m 25 and I can’t talk to woman because of that same reason I get nervous if their good looking smh

[@heydani6678]

@@doejohn7548 why is being nervous stopping you. Pussy

[@thatoneuser8600]

I try to stop thinking that but in the back of my mind I subconsciously still do and get shaky, been trying for all my life and idk how to get over it...

[@heydani6678]

@@thatoneuser8600 you do it no matter how you feel. Why are your feelings stopping you? Are you a slave to your emotions?

[@thatoneuser8600]

@@heydani6678 I mean I don't know about slave but I guess you could say our emotions control each and everyone of us to varying degrees in different parts of our lives. It's not like you can just tell a depressed person to be happy, for example, lol.

[@latinboy906]

"You don't want to end up with someone who doesn't deserve you just because you're afraid to feel like someone does deserve you". I felt that.

[@paulgeorge9228]

i kinda get what it means but not specfiifically, does it mean to see your own value and choose some one who really deserves you?

[@thebesttheworst2277]

​@@paulgeorge9228Yes, settling for what you can get, versus what you need, want or deserve.

[@Lakrushma]

​@@thebesttheworst2277Would you say that includes a girl who has similar morales to you but her core beliefs are different?

[@thebesttheworst2277]

@@Lakrushma Not necessarily, if she's a good person, treats you well and respects you and your beliefs and you do the same in return. Also if there is genuine mutual attraction then it could work out. We try to be black and white in life at times, yes or no, but also life is not like this always, it has many shades of grey and sometimes we just have to try and see if something is right for us.

[@Lakrushma]

@@thebesttheworst2277 Thx man, helped clear up some of my worries. Yeah we really do click well and she's a wonderful amazing person that I believe truly does care for me as well. I think its worth to pursue the relationship at least and then find out if were truly compatable, I think I'd regret not pursuing the relationship at the very least

[@UncleRicoOSU]

I spent a lot of my life worrying if I was good enough when it came to women, while never even bothering to ask myself if they were good enough for me.

[@THOMASCOLTON1]

True, don't settle for less

[@JustPlainGod]

How much you wanna bet I can throw a football over them mountains?

[@BIG_SLEEZ]

Thanks uncle Rico

[@djpollo2474]

Holy shit, never thought of that

[@noahgarza7286]

all the languages you could’ve spoken and you chose to speak facts

[@keithdoeskungfu]

I completely lost my shit when he said "This girl that I was just in love with as a child...I spit in her hair" LMFAO

[@uzaira9088]

I was like ah dis a commited troller and commited troller fans but uh he was serious.

[@RabbitConfirmed]

It was love at first spit

[@MrJesus9011]

It made me think about Reese in Malcom lol

[@chrleliu]

😂😂😂 dude’s hilarious, would love to smoke a blunt with him

[@Catmandadadaaa]

Reminds me of the time in 2nd grade. I liked this girl and tried to speak to her. She put her hand in my face in disgust. I freaking licked her hand 😂 Shout out to Theo. Much love man

[@devinc9]

Imagine finding a therapist that talks to you like this. You'd be superhuman.

[@EyeCdaVibe]

You wouldn’t need therapy anymore 😂

[@Christopher-md7tf]

Actively listening also means that you're actually in the moment and paying attention to HER, instead of being all up in your head worrying about what YOU are going to say next, how she perceives YOU, if YOU are going to embarass yourself etc. That type of insecurity is actually a really egotistical and self-absorbed place to be in and it just throws a wrench into the natural flow and vibe of the conversation.

[@aryan7767]

See this sounds easy to say, but it never works in the beginning. People will be in their own heads. You just gotta practice enough so that you are not worried about it because you’ve gone over it so many different times. That being said I need to apply this advice lmaoo I’m friendless rn hahaha

[@alex.povazanec]

but how to get out of it? Im catching myself thinking about the next thing Im going to reply and then the conversation freezes. tell me

[@heathr.3872]

@@alex.povazanec I'm no expert, but I think it boils down to a fear of rejection. When you're consciously thinking about what you're going to say next, it's because you're worried that you might say something that would "ruin" the conversation. I bet you've noticed when you talk to your friends/family that it feels effortless, it just flows. You probably aren't worried about saying the wrong thing because you trust that person and know your relationship with them. So the key would be to let go of your fear of rejection, and say what's truly on your mind. If they are a good person for you, then they will respond well and you guys should hit it off. If they don't respond well to who you truly are, do you really want to be with that person anyways? It's obviously easier said than done, and it's something that I'm still working on myself. But I hope this helps!

[@alex.povazanec]

@@heathr.3872 you are right, but i think it's different there. I'm a good listener and I don't have stress or anxiety when talking with other people, the conversation is sometimes so pointless that I don't care at all. that's what I found out a few days ago. people can talk about nonsense for hours and taking my time

[@alex.povazanec]

@@heathr.3872 if the other person can offer you something and is interesting from a view, the conversation will flow no matter what. and the interest should be on both sides too

[@DigitalArtisan77]

This man has no fear of honesty, thats why he can be so funny.

[@TheArsenalMan125]

When i watch a video of Theo i feel like a close friend is speaking directly to me

[@jjpitts1307]

Theo is such a smooth talker, that it's hard to believe that he used to have trouble talking to women...

[@Christopher-ms5ke]

Ever seen him talk to Bobby Lee’s girl? He still does

[@usersdksdfg]

@@Christopher-ms5ke I noticed that, got some lust for her lol

[@orlandobarry2489]

that problem isn’t limited to conventionally unattractive people. even people like theon (attractive people) can have a tremendously difficult time with this kind of stuff. really puts things into perspective.

[@jjpitts1307]

@@orlandobarry2489 Thanks for the insight Barry...

[@Damnto]

@@jjpitts1307 hello…

[@jordanseley1117]

This is great advice. Growing up I had a real hard time talking to girls. I don't think I ever even initiated a conversation to a girl I liked. I always thought they hated me, thought I was ugly etc. I would always go with the ones who approached me and almost all of them turned out bad. A former co worker gave me advice one time that really helped and completely changed me. He told me you're never going to get anywhere if you don't talk to them. That made me start initiating conversations to the girls I liked and it has worked! It shows confidence and it shows you are welcoming them. I've been told I Iook unapproachable so that shows them I am allowing them to engage by initiating a conversation. Everyone has their insecurities and the women you're interested in have their own insecurities so don't like your insecurities stop you.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

Well yes but womens insecurites dont stop them from getting sex and love if a guy has insecurities he has to overcome them before he even gets a chance of a number let alone a date or sex or love.

[@cattysplat]

I had a crush on a girl on school and pretty sure she noticed me looking and returned a smile. When I had a chance to talk to her my brain completely froze up, panicked and thought say something anything! "Your hair looks funny" "What? Screw you!" and we had an arguement for a few minutes, stormed off and never spoke to each other again. Damn.

[@kelsanglhundup8465]

Damn but if both of u got mad because of that line u two probably wouldnt have lasted long

[@R-H-B]

Just gonna preface this by saying I’m sorry HOWEVER that is kinda hilarious

[@AS-pug]

She got so heated and angry over a silly comment like that?? Bro you dodged a bullet. Don’t regret anything!!

[@TigerAlert]

she was definitely crazy

[@strobboskop]

@@kelsanglhundup8465 screw her up to the next

[@fakename503]

Theo Von spitting on a girl he likes because he's too nervous to talk to her is soooooo Theo Von. I'm happy it's Canonical.

[@brimster-valorantaggressiv3419]

Canon in the Von universe?

[@WelfareAllstar]

I'm happy you learned a new word, but it doesn't work here.

[@fakename503]

@Chimik His Mother's laying on her death bed. She says to him with her dying breath, "I will always be with you. I ain't ever going to leave your side." "Ma, Ain't isn't a real word." Life Support Machine: *beep, beep, beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee*

[@KiraPlaysGuitar]

Meanwhile, guy's neggy vibes are because his mother is laying on her death bed

[@tonysamosa1717]

He was the original game spitter

[@MandenTV]

“Listening” is actually such great advice. Generally, women enjoy talking and men enjoy listening. Play to your strengths.

[@adambeecroft9305]

We dont like listening

[@HerbalistGuybrush]

But we like puss

[@justin6434]

@@HerbalistGuybrush amen brother

[@kingalex1425]

I just want the head fck all that talking shit

[@CheckeredFist]

actually a lot of women expect the men to carry the conversation

[@therealnagel]

Theo is the most relatable dude in the world to me. This is something I’ve been struggling with for my entire life, especially in school like he said before. Even as an adult I struggle when I’m out at a bar or at a gathering/function with friends, I find myself stuck in an awkward state where I’m constantly pondering on the right thing to say to women just to feel like I’m somewhat part of the conversation.

[@Matt-cw1mv]

Get in amazing shape. Learn poker face. Become more masculine, you don’t need to say anything at that point. The energy will come to you.

[@attilayavuzer8363]

People worry about outcomes too much; make the conversation itself the goal, rather than something you want outside of it. The truth is that the things that'll make someone great at talking to women, are the same things that'll make them a great conversationalist in general. For example, if you're approaching someone, try not to think about getting their number or setting a date or whatever, make a goal like "by the end of this conversation, I want to know 2 things that make this person uniquely themselves." The less "me" focused you are, the easier conversations become. You should be there to learn, connect and add value, so even if things don't go the way you want, it's an overall positive experience for everyone.

[@smokingcrab2290]

This shows you've never really talked to women. Ever had a conversation with modern women? Theres no point. They all have the same dull room temperature IQ takes on everything, same interests, blah blah blah. None of them are cool or funny. They don't give men any incentive to care about them other than for sex. That's why that's all men want from them. If women were actually cool, men would have conversations with them everywhere naturally. But it doesn't happen because modern women are worthless.

[@tommi7904]

Thank you for this advice. I really needed it.

[@user-gh5bx5pp1u]

This is actually really good actionable advice about the goals for the conversation. I think that is what is missing from a lot of these convos about talking to women, they usually just end up being something along the lines of "be confident".

[@ChuckBassHere]

Solid advice bro. I’ve read many blogs related to it but this right here is the most simple and effective advice

[@ChuckBassHere]

@@user-gh5bx5pp1uexactly! This is the best advice for people who are starting out.

[@fahimhuq2768]

PROTIP: if the Hiroshima line bombs, take off your pants and go : It’s Na-ga-na-Saki-itself.

[@fakename503]

☆Pro-Tip☆ If a these lines fail say, "Chinese, Japanese, Look at these!" *Expose your testicles*

[@ripdajacker23]

😂😂 nice one

[@auroraborealis13579]

I mean....😂😂😂😂😂

[@poopytown9307]

Smooth operator 😂🤣😂

[@Pvstt]

Na-ga-saki itself was good enough, right? Or?

[@bad-lf6ys]

I wish Theo would get deep like this more often. I feel like he always has some amazing insight.

[@hanginon1293]

Listen to the one where he's talking to an Alcoholic that called. Its Great

[@Julio_Gomes]

This video was incredible. Each day I'm becoming a bigger fan of this dude

[@w0rloko]

you turn down the dark arts and some things will slow down while others magnify

[@tommyoneill9761]

I agree

[@jesuschristiskingandsavior461]

You should listen to what he said about his dad amd childhood 😢😭🙏❤️love you Theo

[@keatonsmith5669]

Theo Von is somehow the most real person out there, while simultaneously being the most cartoonish guy possible.

[@antoniorivera8321]

You know after finally breaking out of my shell and talking to people confidently it's insane how these things apply to anyone. Women want to be treated as people you interact with daily and just go from there, it truly is all about confidence but we overcomplicate it due to fear. For a lot of guys just talking what's on your mind *as long as its appropriate* is enough and being curious about people is the key. I love being asked about myself and other people sure as hell do. I hope whoever sees this at least gets out of their shell and just say the words you struggle to say, no more "what ifs"

[@Biz80]

You’re a gift to this world Theo Von

[@lukedamagicdragon6700]

yes he is nick!

[@obs1888]

He literally just spoke my mind, I’m 18 and I’m grateful to have advice like this, I do not have anyone around really to tell me these things, so this is real helpful, thank you.

[@SavingPrivateBob]

Man, you're so young. Don't worry so much about women right now, just invest in yourself so that by the time you're 30 your value is sky-high and you can get one of the baddest bitches on the planet

[@mmm944]

@@SavingPrivateBob seriously... I know at that age it feels like you have to shit or get but man just focus your energy on being financially stable and independent first. The confidence to talk to women will swiftly follow once you attain true happiness and contentment.

[@Thedudemannn]

@@SavingPrivateBob Facts but is much easier said than done.

[@walkercoleman8767]

@@SavingPrivateBob I’m 18 too and I can confidently say that the only thing I find more awkward than talking to girls I like it being with my friends and their girlfriends and I’m just standing there alone twiddling my thumbs while they’re just about making out

[@LakshyaD]

​@@walkercoleman8767 i feel you on a spiritual level bro

[@mcpartridgeboy]

Im autistic, and im also a model, its incredibly painful to think ive been alone with nobody for well over 40 years when the only thing i ever wanted was a gf its awful to think a bit of small talk would have stopped decades of this awful pain, i ignored a stunning woman smiling at me in the supermarket, despite promising myself i would never do that again, and now the pain is unbearable, im so sick of this awful pain, its been with me for decades and its destroying my life ive already missed out on so much, i cant have a family, its cost me my children, my childhood was miserable because i just wanted a gf, and it all would have been solved with a bit of small talk, cant believe it. What a waste of life. All that pain for no reason at all.

[@pacogerlo4850]

Hey man, it's never too late to start again. Cheer up, your soulmate might just be waiting for you around the corner.

[@Matt-ou7tu]

There's nothing stopping you from fixing the issue now. I know you're probably hung up on the fact you're older but if women still find you attractive from time to time, your concern about being older is just a limiting belief.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

@@thindog1668 With resect your situation is nothing like mine at all, and no men dont make the first move in general we ALWAYS have to make the first move, and unlike you i have tried all my life and still failed, unlike you it doesnt mtter how much i try if i cant get the social skills to do it properly i will be alone forever, whereas you can have your choice of several hundred guys every week without having to do anything, i will die alone without knowing anything but rejectionn for decade after decade and you can find a guy online within a few mins, literally, you have several hunder offers a week which is 77 000 a year and 1.3 million from the age of 16-35 i will not only gget zero offers but i will also get rejected close to 100% of the time, your siruation couldnt be more different than mine, and its all because you were lucky enough to be born a woman and im stuck being a fucking autistic guy with zero chances of ever getting a woman, i will never have a family a date children love sex or human touch, you can have all of those withing with zero effort, all i ever wanted was a gf, and i wownt get one, its incredibly painful and i dont know how to get out of this awful mess, im on the brink of suicide because i cant have what you can have despite me trying for all my life to get what you can get within a few mins. Count your blessings you werent born a man because im living in hell on earth here, my lonliness is killing me slowly and driing me mad, i crave human touch more than you could efver imagine, and the more desperate i get the more women can tell im desperate, and the more i get rejected, and unless i can somehow turn all this around and get great social skills and not be autistic im utterly fucked, no we are not the same at all, you literally have everything i want with a couple of clicks on google, im jelous af. You wull never know this pain, and you should count yourself unbelievably lucky.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Dude take some Xanax and just walk up to any girl you see. You'll spit so much game.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

@@smokingcrab2290 Well i get drunk and do it, but the problem is i cant mask my autism when im drunk so i mess stuff up real bad, even though i have much more confidence !

[@bushnaq94]

You’re the man Theo. You put your true feelings out in the chilliest and funnies way possible. I know you won’t see this but you’ve helped me in a lot of ways with videos like this and listening to your podcast. Thanks for all you do man.

[@user-bf5vi6yg8n]

“You are who you are in your head” -Chris D’elia

[@adhdsymptoms64]

this is actually something I live by. glad to see it stuck with someone else.

[@FuzzyLoad]

I’m scared of that dude loo

[@wagwondan5872]

@@yourmother3207 thats exactly the point chris is making but you're not smart enough to understand, he's saying when you're constantly thinking negatively about yourself, you're going to be a negative and low confidence person and people can sense it and see it.

[@Person22333]

So in his head, chris is NOT a pedophile

[@guywhocommentsoneverything]

@@yourmother3207 you're a real downer huh

[@dylanmarken8429]

"Do a couple bumbs with you and put on a wig to let you practice " now that's a friend!! 😆

[@swooshpack]

I literally said out loud i appreciate that theo 🤣🤣

[@ZiekeMan47]

When he said that it felt like he was deadass talking to me specifically, like he knows about all my vices or something lol

[@ChaosBombs]

I can just imagine theo with a blonde wig doing key bumps haha

[@pa_blo4220]

He said put on a couple bumps, as in fake tits. Not coke

[@swooshpack]

@@pa_blo4220 nah he said do a couple bumps

[@Jbeans11]

"ill put on a wig" i started dying laughing

[@badonkeykong5486]

does anyone else love these Theo big bro advice videos as much as I do?

[@cannabisdeathmorbs]

Ya

[@joerogan6965]

Ya

[@noblepolygon8694]

Theo is right about confidence. I've never had a problem talking to women, I just start with hello. Being a little funny helps, keeping in shape & being active helps (you will stand out among the soft beer guts in the club or out on town), and above all don't take whatever comes along. Have standards.

[@ThatsaToilet]

How do you be funny?

[@trollzynisaacjohan1793]

@@ThatsaToilet be yourself. It'll come naturally.

[@toxicgracie3772]

@@ThatsaToilet 😂😂😂 Hi, so what's your name? 🤭

[@cousinnvlad7432]

*Looks down at my soft beer gut*

[@benzohhhhh]

@@cousinnvlad7432 swear to god 😭😭

[@andrewwu5241]

"I wasn't worthy of someone who was good for me. I was just,hopefully, worthy of anyone", damn that line hits home

[@Nishinga.]

Man Theo seems like such a great friend to have in your circle. I love how genuine he is with everything he says. You can tell he really wants to help people especially with hardships he’s endured. That empathy and understanding is a beautiful thing.

[@Absurdword]

As someone who has been deeply involved in the personal development space for over a decade, and studied a lot of content, this is some of the best advice on women I’ve ever heard. Simple and to the point. Always thought Theo would have great insights on women but this blew me away. Gang.

[@renaissancestatesman]

Did it blow the shit out of you? Lmfao.

[@subliminalcriminal777]

@@renaissancestatesman his talking about the pick up lines lol , JJ

[@YodasChode]

@@renaissancestatesman just blew him away

[@KyleWilliamsMusic1]

“Deeply involved in the personal development space for over a decade,”🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@Absurdword]

@@KyleWilliamsMusic1 oh hush 😘

[@billc5094]

Love this guy. He’s got a big heart, trying to help young guys succeed in life. 🙌

[@garyny4073]

And not so young

[@gavindietz5520]

"put on some house music and suck on a Claritin" felt that

[@hayesheatwole7934]

“I gathered up every bit of genetic ability; liquid ability…”

[@localpizza.]

The ending really is straight facts, you have to find a girl you really match with otherwise you’ll end up with somebody you don’t even vibe with

[@Cackle-uh]

He's very in tune with himself and the universal truth of what it means to feel self value and have confidence... guy's be patient on this journey because it will pay off even though it seems it won't

[@nikigba]

"Afraid to feel like someone does deserve you" that hits home

[@per-antonlinder4408]

"You don’t wanna end up with someone who doesn’t deserve you, just because you’re afraid to feel like someone does deserve you" That one hit hard...

[@officialthomasjames]

Great advice. I’ve always been a great listener, but when talking to women, I’ve realized that I’m not really listening. Instead, I realized I’m listening to the thoughts in my head worrying about what to say next. Be present, be in the moment.

[@chrisa8682]

This is exactly me. Thank you james

[@devilstoast2703]

I adore Theo, I just do. He's a phenomenal comedian, but more importantly a tremendous person. In a day and age where so many of these people are fake, Theo still has his virtue. He's just a real ass dude who's working through his shit like the rest of us and is open about it. God bless this man.

[@elektrotehnik94]

[@andyc9902]

He's Real. But he's depressed

[@TrueYankeeFan]

@@andyc9902 same

[@tangerinesarebetterthanora7060]

Theo comes off as so genuine in this clip. He does in general, but here particularly so.

[@lewdogzombies]

If you treat beautiful women like average people, it becomes a lot easier to talk to them

[@lumigg2556]

YO this felt so real! this is the talk my father never had with me, thank you so much! I really appreciate it!

[@lumigg2556]

@Moody Fuck exactly, sometimes parents were never there for us, sadly.

[@nickelodeann]

I think that being a good listener extends way past just talking to girls too. Honing your listening skill makes everyone want to talk to you.

[@damskowest]

Yes you are right, but not too much. You don’t want to be the guy that girls want to talk to just for the sake of talking

[@DEAN18349O]

Why the fuck is Theo von giving some of the most solid dating advice out there.

[@301larussomusic]

I use to be nervous talking to people but as I got older I realized I had no choice. Especially since I needed to make more money and move up in my career. I just force myself until I no longer felt awkward around any situation. I also put on 20 pounds and lifted weights each week. I just realized I would never achieve my goals if I was having social anxiety. You have to focus on what you can do to improve your confidence.

[@joescaletta9665]

Lol I literally just took a ClaritinD 20 mins ago and when Theo said “i dont know if you gotta put on some house music and suck on a Claritin” that made me burst out laughing hard 😂

[@tristanjoao3464]

What is a claritin

[@imover9999]

@@tristanjoao3464 It's an allergy medicine. Lmao

[@phillyredsox9195]

I had the same problem in high school. I thought all the girls didn’t like me. Turns out it was the exact opposite and no one ever said anything including me.

[@davidkymdell452]

Dude, same. I've been having flashes back to high school and remembering things that didn't get through my haze of self doubt. I might not have been in the top echelon of desirability or anything but there was definite interest. It's tough sometimes cos even 20 something years later, I regret that I didn't know this.

[@probilliards101]

Exact same here! I think back to when I was in high school and realized there were plenty girls that were interested in me, but I always thought there's no way they would like me, and I missed many chances with great women. I'm still the same way now that I'm 31, but I recognize it now when a woman is interested in me and I'll atleast ask for their # and not afraid to talk to them. It's not much progress, but still.. its progress.

[@mazerunner7640]

I have the opposite problem, we both knew we liked each other. However, we were both firmly believed that getting into a relationship in high school was stupid so we didn’t. And now that I think about it I shouldn’t say it was a problem because it worked out for the better

[@noellealdi881]

I used to like this guy that had such a low self esteem that he was like Theo in a lot of ways, in the sense that, he would take any girl that gave him attention….well I really really liked him, but since his view on himself was so low, he would insult me, and one day I’ll never forget him insulting me in class and embarrassing me in front of everyone. But I could tell it was cause he was insecure, and insecure people will bring you down with them.

[@andrew8658]

@@noellealdi881 he liked you lol

[@zachsmith5877]

The more I watch and listen to Theo, the more comfortable I feel with myself. I love this man and what he offers to the world bruh

[@scottytriangles225]

Honestly the idea of Theo putting on a wig and doing some bumps then letting me practice conversation..... it's beautiful. What a fucking treasure of a man❤

[@shane6284]

“I don’t know if you need to put on some house music and suck on a Claritin” LMAO! 🤣 Theo says some of the most uniquely hysterical things.

[@quepaso568398]

I'm at the point where I'd take anyone and you're right. I feel terrible, pathetic, definitely less of myself.

[@maximilianlinich4298]

Keep your chin up

[@TheRealZOG]

Start with changing the way you feel about yourself. You can’t expect anyone to like you when you struggle to like yourself. Find your purpose King. A worthy Queen will follow.

[@Enki115]

Start with going to the gym. If you’re self conscious. Get a 24 hour gym.

[@benroper5049]

I couldn't recommend the gym enough. When you feel a bit more comfortable in your own body you'll be way more confident. Plus its one more thing to talk to chicks about because the best ones go to the gym

[@schigeraXD]

I'm right there with ya brother.

[@alial-smadi8796]

Dude Theo is one of the most hilarious comedians out there but this is some real valuable wisdom right here and addresses a massive problem most of us. Most people know the stuff he's saying but he's summarized it beautifully and took all the bs out. Thanks Theo, God bless you my man

[@thenovicewhispers]

This girl I know has been playing the glance and look away game with me for many months now. Both of us were too shy to approach. No idea what her relationship status is. We slowly worked our way up to holding eye contact, then eventually lazily waving at each other, and sometimes briefly smiling at each other. Today she smiled at me from far away, and looked away too quickly for me to smile back. In that moment I honestly was frustrated, not with her but with myself. I was just going to walk on by without saying anything, thinking "Welp, there goes my chance. She didn't see me smile. Better luck next time." But honestly my crippling anxiety kinda pissed me off, so I just said screw this shit and went up to her and started a conversation. I was so surprised to find that she was super talkative. I only asked her a few questions and she gave me these really in depth answers, didn't brush me off at all. And I just stood there and listened. Like I said, who knows, she probably has a bf. But I'm just happy that I stopped being so deep in my own thoughts and simply...acted. I just talked. The truth is, I never did it before because she is beautiful, but I realize now that talking to beautiful women isn't that hard if you just pay attention to the actual topic of the conversation. Nothing has to come of it. Sometimes it's nice just to talk to somebody for the sake of it.

[@Sweeneytv]

SOLID ADVICE

[@smoshuahoewisch]

You give some solid advice yourself

[@wooley123]

BRB about to go spit on a girl.

[@elektrotehnik94]

The algorithm divides, and the algorithm unites ^^ Strange are the paths of The algorithm

[@blase9786]

LOL I LOVR YOUR CONTENT

[@tuscanollie1242]

POV: you make simp POV videos but in reality you are a simp looking for relationship advice

[@unicockboy1666]

Thank you for being so honest. It will help a lot of young men to feel less ashamed of themselves for something normal. Takes a lot of courage and self confidence to be so honest. You have my respect.

[@helios0705jm]

The way he made it personal in the end was very comforting, saying ‘I’ sound like a guy he would party with. Very good.

[@Mote.]

It's true. People can sense when you're uncomfortable and it can lead them to become uncomfortable. So you just have to ease up. Try your best. Don't overthink it or try too hard.

[@rantsrus2845]

preach theo! love this. I myself have (and is) experiencing this on a daily basis because of my social anxiety. If anyone out there reading this is going through the same thing, dont beat urself up about it bro, its more widespread than u think. From my experience here is the best pointer on how ive made progress on my social anxiety: actively seek social interactions, especially if ur feeling hella anxious about it. Exposure therapy is real man, it works, but dont overdo it. aim to slowly but surely increase the duration and switch up the context of the conversation. Social interaction is like a muscle, u can build it up by 'working' it in a variety of ways. i wish the best of luck to u guys out there reading this, it can be overcome!

[@pocketmonsters1590]

Damn when Theo said “I’d probably party with yah” Sensational, heartfelt moment

[@brickandmortaraudio2194]

Something that helped me a lot was talking to women more when I’m out. Even if it’s picking up food or at a gas station or whatever. I’d try to ask how their day is going when I check out to pay or after I order food. It helped me become more comfortable in causal conversation with women that I don’t know.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I did this alot. But it's exhausting. Lots of effort for nothing in return.

[@HexFlex-ss9rm]

Preach brother preach, takes time and effort to overcome childhood trauma. ❤

[@andresitoelpana]

Bro is crazy how im more scared to talk to women and aproach them, than i am to go 120mph on a motorcycle

[@TheThriftShopSampler]

Uncle Von knows that feel, bros.

[@leonmartin7625]

Theo, love you my man. To be old and wise you must first be young and stupid and I appreciate how your fascinating journey inspires and helps so many people that look up to you. Keep up the amazing work my brudda.

[@MandenTV]

Stupid people have more fun

[@nocdful]

The Hiroshima pickup line was wild. More funny than wild...but still 🤣🤣🤣

[@mkam9193]

"I felt like I wasn't worthy of someone who was good for me. I was just hopefully worthy of anyone." I hear that, brother

[@stevenhetzel6483]

1:15 the deadpan delivery had me in fucking *stitches*

[@nicksilver_music]

Theo being fearless opening up, making it funny, and making us feel comfortable with out own insecurities 💜💜💜

[@sole__doubt]

I so hear the Louisiana in Theo's voice. Proud to be from the same state.

[@neightthesnake]

try to talk with no intentions

[@robliguori6988]

Way to put yourself out there man, that was Honest. I can absolutely identify

[@maricorp.449]

Theo is a real one. Thanks for taking the time to do this for men. No bullshit pickup artist crap just sincere advice.

[@ConicuAutomotive]

Man, you're the kinda friend who would just have all the right shit to say when you're buddy is going through a rough time.

[@dennisgordon7767]

preach bro. its when you feel like you are not good is when bad shit happens. and you can say its fun and u dont care but u can get trapped or fucked up by crazy. my advice as 38 year old is you always have value as a guy if you can 1. have some stability in your life and a way to treat her once in awhile and 2. just lots of dudes turn into shit by mid 30s so women will always want it more than guys cause they want a relationship where many dudes just check out.

[@taylorsoptical]

love you theo, one of the most aware and intelligent comedians ive ever listened to

[@22blubeauty]

Awwww, this is nice because it seems honest. It seems like he’s giving real advice to regular nice guys who are trying their best.

[@lindojak8554]

thats probably one of the best advice about relationships on KZbin

[@Me-ji2pn]

If you’ve been bullied you self sabotage to please the bully so there isn’t anxiety

[@XAN_1995]

I like how when he talks about settling for whatever he could get he specifies values, instead of physical appearance. A lot of dudes talk about being insecure and settling for average women, meaning less attractive

[@cattysplat]

There is something to be said, of men having low confidence they believe they only deserve the worst. Also men who cannot refuse women who approach them, which is a huge problem because you could be taken advantage of. Predatory women do exist and men should not be open to being a victim.

[@mgtvproductions4628]

Man Theo really has really been that father figure I’ve been needing

[@RahulSingh-fl6bf]

This is advice us young men need. Not the get in the gym or macro things but the micro things. Many of us know we are good enough when stepping away from the action but once we're in the action we go into fight or flight. Shyness in adulthood is something that has to be battled.

[@Sogonrei]

I love how genuine you are Theo. I was and still am shy around guys I like until I get to know them. I really rely on my sense of humor to get me by. In my naive early twenties I had one guy successfully use the pickup line " Have you seen the guy in the blue shirt?" Put that in your back pocket.

[@parkerhammock5984]

Bro I feel you, I just realized that I had a habit of getting with any people that liked me. Just up until recently I raised my standards and values and self esteem and now I have more opportunities than ever. Be yourself guys

[@jamannk]

Love the fact that Theo talks about hard stuff… he doesn’t have to talk about his battles, dude is funny enough he can talk about fucking gerbils and make money. Keep it up brother!

[@samucabitim]

Man when theo is serious it touches my heart

[@rygdoomed442]

Brother i lost it at the Hiroshima line 😂

[@Ep0xy]

All the dates I have gone on is always meeting for drinks. I would get there a hour early to have 3 or 4 drinks to kill my anxiety. I'm still single so that just shows you how that works. Thanks Theo, makes me feel better. ♥️

[@islandhopper9363]

Who needs a therapist and/or dating coach when we have Theo Von.

[@T4CO1776]

"listen to house music and suck on a Claritin" I lost it 🤣

[@iTalkALotDontListen]

I’m about to ask a girl to prom. First time asking a girl out. I’m so glad this video popped in my recommended. Theo’s the GOAT. EDIT: She essentially said no. No big deal.

[@mastertrey4683]

Mission failed we’ll get em next time

[@iTalkALotDontListen]

@@mastertrey4683 Hopefully lol

[@JackM-un8co]

Well handled champ, all good practice

[@PastorWisky]

aye man, take that as a W, grow from it, you can either be glass half full kinda guy or you can be the other one, work on yourself and make the girl ask you to prom next year. don’t beat yourself up.

[@cgcodes7909]

Best part is, when you meet a girl you genuinely love, you're gonna appreciate that you had this time to spend on yourself in order to be the man you want to be for your future woman. Stay up king👑.

[@wagwondan5872]

"idk if u need to play some house music and suck on some claritin" this shit just comes off the top of his head its hilarious

[@rachelwells4078]

"I like, 'What kind of candy do you like?' Shit that like a five year old would say!" - I lost it!

[@Skim_beeble7125]

Bro how is Theo laying down the best not just dating advice but advice to general happiness

[@BOBINDUN]

"Put on some house music and suck on a claritin" Lol I forget this guy is a comedian.

[@Commierado]

Theo Von is like everyone’s cool uncle that we can always come to for advice

[@DuraDigi]

This dude is the realest damn I just saw him a week or so ago on YT thought he was funny and been following ever since and now he’s my favorite comedian

[@grantshearer5615]

This is actually the best advice I've ever heard on talking to women. My brain just freezes when I see a beautiful woman.

[@yuga4K]

He gave some decent advice