The REAL Reasons an Avoidant Breadcrumbs the Fearful Avoidant & Anxious Attachment 🍞💔🤯

[@viperb4148]

As an FA and watching a lot of these avoidant videos because of an avoidant I'm interested in. I'm almost over it. I've been anxious to the point that it just triggered me into deactivation, and at this point, I'm just using his deactivation to heal my anxiety and abandonment wounds

[@pdazajhon2160]

How did it all started though? do you find him attractive? did he love bomb you at first and then dissapeared? can you explain the whole phase about how it all happened and how his behaviour triggered your anxious side instead of your avoidant side as an FA? I am very curious because I can't quite seem to understand how most FA women fall in love with DA men, I thought FA women needed consistency, so I get lost about the whole dynamics and when exactly the DA pulls away before the FA...

[@HopeWins777]

I guess in the end we can just settle on the fact that it's not a good match and just move on. Chalk it up to experience. He was the lesson not the promise.

[@RitaP41]

Intentional or not, the Fact Remains and if you Ask them to and they're not Changing this Behavior - Goodbye!

[@ge0rgialiv]

If you think it’s bc they’re interested I’ve learned it’s validation seeking, think what they’ve done and them as a person. I didn’t say anything after the first time it happened bc I thought that was setting a boundary by not reacting but no it lets them do it more. So I removed myself from the problem for a while but remember if you deserve a meal don’t settle for breadcrumbs .we aren’t ducks 🦆

[@asianddrmaniac]

Thank you so much for the info. It feels obvious and also feels scary like you'd mentioned.

[@annasomma2212]

For me the video was great. Thank you❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

We’re so glad you enjoyed the video! Thank you for your kind words and support. ❤

[@JeremyPeeples]

Wow - definitely needed this. I'm anxious and my avoidant had a friend of hers get involved and it totally reset my healing clock.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I’m so sorry to hear about that setback-it’s heartbreaking when outside interference disrupts your progress. Take it one step at a time; healing isn’t linear, and every day brings a new opportunity for growth.

[@Mia1827]

Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.

[@Shanieceflordi]

Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.

[@Mia1827]

It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?

[@Shanieceflordi]

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[@Shanieceflordi]

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[@Mia1827]

I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤

[@Nonfiction.Reader]

Thanks!

[@ge0rgialiv]

Thank you T I appreciate you doing this so fucking much

[@nekonesu]

My avoidant ex couldn’t communicate his feelings or thoughts and gave me lots of physical attention instead and I liked it. Nevertheless he ended it unexpectedly and said he does not know what future holds for him so he won’t be able to tell what happens with our relationship. Breaking up was his wish and I gave him that. He waited a few weeks and then deleted my number. It’s time to move on and it hurts

[@mysticalmultiverse]

A big reason they breadcrumb is because they are having a hard time juggling you with all the other people they're seeing/ interested in. I've had avoidants say they like me a lot and find me attractive and interesting but realized i was one of many they felt that way about. 😅😅😅

[@Scorpion_Light_Bringer]

Yep, they're trying to find someone with the greenest grass while neglecting their own. Have at it 😂

[@catherinehenry9722]

I'm afraid that's happening with me too.

[@katenicholson4152]

Mine would check people out very obviously right in front of me after telling me our entire relationship that I am out of his league. He even checked someone out not even 24 hours after his grandfather passed away and I comforted him while he was in a heap on the bed. He never expressed appreciation, but his actions showed carelessness.

[@Bulldogsrentfree-m7g]

Some of these strategies seem to be a case of overthinking things. I mean, if someone's breadcrumbing and you want more, you should just walk away and find someone who aligns with what you want. Setting timelines and ultimatums seem futile to day the least. If someone is breadcrumbing they're probably good for a casual relationship, but no more than that. 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@jeanette2475]

You're right of course, but I think these videos are targeted for people who are already invested in that person and having a hard time walking away

[@Bulldogsrentfree-m7g]

​@@jeanette2475 yes, but this video is about an avoidant who keeps you close but never truly commits. This is what this particular video is discussing.

[@katenicholson4152]

I agree. It’s just postponing the inevitable. They’re not showing up, so they are unlikely to do so at this undisclosed date.

[@catherinehenry9722]

Great video

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

glad to hear it resonates with you!

[@HopeWins777]

I got accused of breadcrumbing when I was trying to survive cancer and Cancer Treatments. When I look at the list sure it applies but it's not the only consideration. I guess he's just looking for reasons that you would leave your girlfriend who got diagnosed with cancer but this online assessment in the wrong hands can really hurt people. I bet I'm not the only one that has happened to. I didn't need this insult on top of everything else. I've had this happen before with a different topic where the people who are hurting use these assessments for ammunition. There's no help out here for being falsely accused because of online self-help

[@Blanketbook]

That’s awful what you went through, no one should weaponize information meant to help others in this manner. However, we can only control and choose how we process, react, and respond. If this content hurts you, don’t engage with it. Hope you recover soon!

[@mikromue]

What if they breadcrumb if after they broke up with you? What’s the purpose.

[@Chickal8vesflowers]

What if it's not breadcrumbing and the anxious partner has been abusive and struggles with behaviors that damage the relationship? Unsafety, lack of trust due to lashing out behaviors? The FA takes steps back due to the Unsafety. How do you solve this? I don't like how the video demonizes the person taking space to putting it all on avoidants or FA.. should the other person self reflect on what they are bringing to the relationship? Chaos, instable, anger, betrayal

[@Dsupernova27]

What if we’re long distance?

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Long-distance relationships can be tricky when breadcrumbing is involved. Open and honest communication about expectations is crucial to avoid confusion or unnecessary pain.

[@kennetharmpriester9321]

Can someone please explain what happens when you bread crumb a dismissive avoidant?

[@kennetharmpriester9321]

@WrittenMysteries that's cool but when that person show others attention then what?

[@kennetharmpriester9321]

@WrittenMysteries no that's not the case the fact is iam giving emotional space because u are probably freaking out over face kisses u never experienced In your life. U need time to process to understand it's OK it's safe.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Great question! Breadcrumbing a dismissive avoidant can lead to even more distance, as they often retreat when they sense inconsistency. It’s usually best to communicate directly and give them space to come forward on their own.

[@kennetharmpriester9321]

@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool iam dealing with a DA the safest thing she told me to date is she never experienced Face kisses. Just smothering her face with kisses . She looked intrigued at the same time hesitant. No lie my heart sanked

[@katenicholson4152]

In my experience, my DA wanted more attention when I gave him little. For example, being in my avoidant side triggered anxiety for him. He would say things like, what are you going to do; just not talk to me? And maybe I wasn’t talking yet because I didn’t know what to say or I was afraid of coming on too strong, but him saying that gave me license to unleash what I otherwise would not have. I digress… it’s possible that he is DA leaning anxious because he did not like me shutting down communication channels. It had to be on his terms.

[@maybug88]

Breadcrumbed for 20 years, not that I'm bragging 😂 Three years wasted sound slike bliss. Don't do it people.

[@Joanna.Swiderska333]

❤❤❤❤

[@sky.the.infinite]

BECAUSE THEY ARE NARCISSISTS

[@antihipsterboho]

Meh they just arent interested. No technique will fix this. These people arent relationship material.

[@SK.GAMING.6660]

you ever meet someone who just has this natural vibe, like they’re on a different level? i found out most of my friends like that all read Magnetic Aura and they swear it’s not about pretending, just being real and not letting negativity drag you down. it’s wild how hard it is to get tho, keeps disappearing everywhere, but maybe that’s what makes it worth it

[@Legorreta.M.D]

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[@joyregueira2536]

​@@Legorreta.M.Dyes, so annoying. I read Magnetic Aura and its all common sense advice.