The Dismissive Avoidant's Love Languages and A Breakthrough for DA's to Become Secure

[@AnthonyL0401]

I know a lot of people come here because they are dealing with a DA in their life. But please remember that some of us DA's who are trying to change come here too. So when you engage in cynical stereotyping instead of honest venting/processing, you might be hurting someone unintentionally.

[@lovemuzikdosti]

Thank you for saying this. Im trying get better as a DA and its been so hard. I just broke up with my bf. And Ive been watching all the DA videos here.. every video has only comments with people traumatised by DAs and I feel so isolated and like a monster. Im sorry. I'll stay away from people if that helps you all. But please asking for a small bit of empathy, just a little would be enough.

[@eloisemarie5219]

So true. It's like we're psychopaths intent on hurting people instead of people who've made their way to these videos to learn and to change just like the FAs and APs.

[@captasn4359]

Question for you all. How or when did you find out you were DAs? Did someone say something and you did research or did you stumble on it? I’m asking because I’m trying to save my marriage. My wife is a DA

[@AnthonyL0401]

@@captasn4359 Also, look up Stan Tatkin ... he has some good stuff...

[@fractaldisarray1518]

​@@captasn4359 Tell them about attachment styles theory, show them videos specifically from this channel and especially videos that talk TO them rather than ABOUT them (Videos like: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKa2k4FpmNBretk ). And also share about your own attachment style. I think it's important you share DA stuff from this channel, because others I've seen don't really understand and lack compassion. It was important for me to not feel hopeless, and instead to feel seen, understood. This makes one feel empowered and like they are actually capable of growth. I hope you guys can work this out, I hope she sees this as an opportunity to grow and sees the love and willingness you have to work through this, and she also feels the strength to put in the work to understand herself better and become secure for both of your sakes. Best of luck, no matter what I hope happiness finds you.

[@kristen6207]

I'm an FA and my DA husband's love language is 100% acts of service. And the more I give, the more he reciprocates! I think me consistently "showing up" and truly being a team player when it comes to getting stuff done really helps him feel secure. He takes a lot of responsibility onto himself and me anticipating and taking care of things without him needing to add them to his "to do list" takes a weight off his shoulders. Mind you we both work full time! He also actively seeks out physical affection (aka just holding each other on the couch, cuddling before we fall asleep) in a way he didnt use to in the early years. We are expecting our first baby and he has had some adorable moments talking to and kissing my bump. My heart can't take it! I'm so excited to watch him become a dad. We've come a LONG way together in 10 years and it was so WORTH it. Wish we would have found this channel waaaaay earlier though.... could've saved us a lot of angst in the power struggle phase.

[@winnieamar9368]

Congratulations on your baby! And your relationship with your husband warms my heart! Stay blessed!

[@gaylesantone1885]

Congratulations on figuring it all out! I am new to this and am gently dealing with a DA. Is it worth it????

[@BlueBlue23]

That's beautiful please pray for all of us who love a DA and want to make things work❤

[@samellis1055]

That's awesome. Hey, one of the downsides I've found to growing and healing is that we wish we had done it earlier. That regret can be tough. But the alternative is never having made any progress, so I guess we can take comfort in that.

[@MM-yy9us]

First of all thank you for all the info you are providing it has really helped me in becoming a better man Just realizing that I'm a DA has been a gigantic step in becoming secure. I strongly believe that people can change or at the very least remember who they once were and take steps to becoming that person before things forced us to become DAs. in the end the DA person has to want to change for the better and with that decision alone they will stumble across channels like this and gain valuable knowledge. Thanks you for all you are doing and I know I will be a more loving man now that I recognize the triggers.

[@KYRA_FX]

Proud of you. ❤

[@abdelmoezz]

I'm also proud of u stranger

[@austinnguyen9107]

What did it take for you to want to change? I've seen that only by losing a great partner and not having success with anyone else is the motivation needed to cause a DA to want to change. Often way after the ex has moved on

[@rachelannecreamer410]

Thais, I have to say thank you. It will be hard to get through this message without weeping. My husband and I have gone throughso much... trauma, abandonment, etc. We have both been living in survival mode for over 10 years due to that trauma and of course childhood core wounds. It all came crashing down last weekend when he asked for a divorce. I have been watching your videos for a month now and although I was still so stupid this past month in my behaviors, I am healing. I am fighting for my marriage but oh so slowly, gently, and tenderly. I am borderline fearful and anxious preoccupied with dismissive thrown in. My husband is dismissive and fearful. I know I can't heal him because it's his choice, but I can heal myself, now.. because you've giving me the tools that I never had before. Thank you. From the bottom of my soul, thank you. I have a purpose and a direction. I have hope.

[@vladimirsamsonov46]

Summary: DAs love languages are #1 Acts of service #2 Gifts / Words of affirmation (receiving)

[@Traumatised311]

And acting like they don't care but behind the scenes they do

[@Kareena1988]

@@Traumatised311 really? They do care? I sometimes wonder if they are human at all

[@Traumatised311]

@@Kareena1988 thats kind of true

[@bakesabundant2028]

this is so accurate !

[@koreukii]

@@Kareena1988 This is exactly why I hated myself before knowing about personality types just this week. I just want to be like the others, but my heart basically prevents me from being one.

[@0Demiyah0]

This reminded me of my DA asking me what I liked about his physical appearance, and I mentioned; strong cuddly arms, nice smile, beautiful eyes etc. I asked the same question in turn. He lay there silently for a second... Contemplating. "You look healthy". That was his response! Haha. It still cracks me up today. He's really poor at giving affirmations.

[@alicemungia1642]

This is too funny! I've had similar experience. I often told him he has beautiful skin and strong shoulders. I complement him when he is dressed up and smells good. He has given me a few compliments but sometimes he says that I should already know that he is very attracted to my appearance. Really, I'm not a mind reader. Communication is not his strong point.

[@katkatkat5]

Hahaha yep

[@KYRA_FX]

@@alicemungia1642 that "You should already know. I've told you before" is their favourite line. 😂

[@Lina-ok6zr]

Hahahaha I just laughed out loud, love it!

[@0Demiyah0]

He told me last night: you look beautiful. I love you, so very much. And then I woke up from my dream 😂😂

[@ginnytilby]

SO helpful and insightful. Thank you! Also that orange shirt looks SUPER CUTE on you.

[@foxerrr7864]

On my first date with my DA I asked if he was a giver or a taker. He thought for a moment and said...”A taker. Sometimes a giver.” Accurate. SO accurate.

[@sshuteandrew]

You didn’t run?!!

[@cappygurl]

That's a great question

[@StreetcarDesire]

@@sshuteandrew Exactly

[@austinnguyen9107]

@@sshuteandrew My reaction when my DA said she preferred to receive during sex than give... was "interesting..."

[@winnieamar9368]

When someone tells you who they are , believe them the first time.

[@binkao2938]

My presumed DA ignores all my compliments though which led me to believe it just made them uncomfortable 🤔 It wasn’t just that they didn’t say anything back, they didn’t even say thank you or acknowledge that I said anything at all. Very confusing.

[@sarahdoe8512]

I read somewhere that they are uncomfortable with compliments/don't really believe they are true. Also that they pay attention to what people do, rather than what they say. So it makes sense that they value acts of service over affirmations.

[@linnethfunzeani4369]

My DA patner too! I once complimented his eyes he never said thanks. He ignored it

[@kourtneychism7008]

I’m a DA and mine is quality time. 🤔🤔🤔

[@dk3541]

It can't be.. quality time is connection/ talking/ being vulnerable not only being physically there distracted with other things like watching movies..

[@TheSaz16]

Thank you, would you make a follow Up video, giving examples of little vulnerabilities the DA can start with please.

[@chrisredfield3688]

Right at the beginning of all your videos I hit the like button because I already trust that your content is gold. I rarely hit the like button.. it doesn't even come to my mind even tho every creator says like and subscribe. I hope you become rich in every aspect of life Thais!!

[@sw1216]

I'm sure this will be helpful to DAs, those who have the awareness and are willing to work on themselves.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Key 🔑

[@nico3641]

As a DA, acts of service is my #1. Followed by touch and words of affirmation. Gifts is last.

[@linnethfunzeani4369]

Really

[@winnieamar9368]

Touch? Really?

[@nico3641]

@@winnieamar9368 Yes. hugs, holding hands, caresses, physical closeness, etc. Why are you surprised?

[@teenyafrombim8642]

I'm dating a DA and acts of service and touch are competing for #1

[@IamCoachCourt]

Thais... we need to connect! For real. Our insight align immensely.

[@thelightshinesinthedark]

Listen to him Thais!!! Between the 2 of your channels, I've been able to learn and grow incredibly in my relationship!!! Thanks for keeping it 💯 Coach Court!

[@carolinelaronda4523]

My DA’s love languages are physical touch and quality time . I asked him . I’m surprised it’s mostly gifts bc mine is kind of selfish w assessing my needs and kind of hoards his resources.

[@saidasavage]

DAs like receiving gifts

[@jjc2323]

They hate physical touch - you sure your DA is a true DA?

[@iammorrissey]

@@jjc2323 the DA i know is also big on physical touch and quality time. And he wants to include me in what he thinks of quality time- which is all about the activities he likes to do. With words of affirmation (also receiving) actually he gets a bit awkward, i think he has difficulty believing that it is really meant

[@divinenoor7163]

Thais although I find you extremely not only drop dead gorgeous, you are full of knowledge, passion and dedicated to your profession. However, I hope I don't make anyone defensive but based on my experience , I must say no matter how much I read about understanding the psychology behind DA and why they behave that way, I truly believe they are the most complicated people I have ever known. I came from an abusive family but I didn't let that defeat me or allow myself to punish anyone. DA's need to stay away from getting involved in relationships or drag good people into their mentally damaged world and seek some serious therapy. I'm very sorry for all the DA's out there but stay away from us if you can't remain a healthy relationship and for the love of God let us know from the beginning you have this problem. We are tired of babysitting you, attending to your needs and walking on eggshells with you. Deal with your past, make peace with it and don't bleed on your future. Enough is enough.

[@emotophobiccdd8006]

Hmmmm, secure ay

[@codymullen3519]

Emotophobic CDD 😂😂😂

[@Lovelife-f8s]

Amen 🙏

[@al3X767]

I'm sorry you've been hurt by a dismissive avoidant, I mean it. My first love, first everything, was just a couple months ago, and he was a dismissive avoidant so I get it. But these people deserve to be understood, they deserve love, and they certainly didn't deserve the pain from their past. It's okay to be hurt, but don't discourage these people. They're humans just trying to go throught their lives, not wanting to get hurt again, and who can blame them. I hope you're able to forgive whoever hurt you, and I hope you find the love that you seek.

[@divinenoor7163]

@@mamu7976 I'm sorry I already said don't make it personal. If you read majority of other's comments, they also mentioned how difficult is to deal with DA's. All I'm saying is please inform the person you want to start dating about your issue and let us decide if we can handle the challenge before we fall in love with you. Honestly, it is very challenging to deal with this for us. Again, I'm truly sorry if I offended you or others.

[@soulfulspec]

I fully watch all the ads on your channel so u get the money. Thanks for your wealth of knowledge. I wish I could find a therapist like u

[@mismiserables]

I always say I love words of affirmation but I cannot give it to another person lol. Acts of service are also a love language I didn't realize I valued until I watched this video. I thought my top love language was quality time but after looking up the definition of quality time I realized that was never what I was doing. I wasn't spending quality time with people...just being around them but doing my own thing and barely speaking.

[@TheCoffeeCat]

Thais, that was on point! "My" DA was all about acts of service. He likes receiving words of affirmation, but absolutely cannot give them unless the wind blows in a certain direction and speed, LOL. ("It has to be spontaneous" - which means next to never!) 😅 He almost never gives gifts (not even on my birthday), but his very DA ex-wife was all about acts of service and gifts!

[@Kimberlyelayyne]

My boyfriend is exactly like this!!!! Hope you are okay now:)

[@Forexroadrunner]

Omg ! I never got gifts. He would make sure to not give me gifts. He was a flake and deserves nothing

[@senseijen8963]

You need to ask which ruins the very essence of gift giving. They cannot do even just the smallest things...they don't even care if you're hungry or not. It's me first to them.

[@Eevanova]

Yes, gifts or flowers - 😄🚫

[@vladimirsamsonov46]

As an AP you can request physical touch as an act of service from a DA. Both can gain value from this short-term strategy.

[@jesseroussellmusic]

so, dismissive-avoidants are one-sided.....great. Selfish.

[@neredan1182]

exactly my thoughts lol

[@thelivingexperiencer8922]

No, it is a protective mechanism. Please listen to what she said. They will give more once they feel safe and will move into a more secure space once ready. They are afraid to give because of fear of rejection.

[@neredan1182]

@@thelivingexperiencer8922 0x10 is still 0

[@roveism]

Disimissive-avoidants is pretty much a one way HIGHWAY. They fear rejection, so they dish it out by the truckload.

[@cadilac949]

Can be selfish, but more just fearful. We rather see you put effort into us before we get invested. At least that’s how I am, and yea it’s a struggle. And yes I know I’m difficult

[@Megumi07]

My Da partner definitely shows love by acts of service and is receptive to words of affirmation but he is also very physical and affectionate.

[@dannywholuv]

Arent you lucky lol

[@JennyD143]

I seem to have varying attachment styles 🤔it’s strange . Like I show up in different ways depending on the relationship/person

[@bakesabundant2028]

can you elloborate?

[@kevinstahl7517]

My girlfriend is dismissive avoidant but her love language is physical touch and quality time. So does this mean she's more towards the secure spectrum?

[@iammorrissey]

Same for my DA and i do think he leans a bit secure too. He never disappears or ghosts or anything, but definitely has huge difficulty acknowledging his feelings to the level of (i think) having alexithymia. I think his DAness is engrained from very very early ages; perhaps never been shown interest as a baby when crying or something like that i suspect

[@CristianaCatólica]

Could you please make a video to DAs telling them what can happen if they dont work on themselves please. Some can die alone literally :( But when they do work they are wonderful people!!!!!

[@alicemungia1642]

My DA is 60 years old and never been married. Now that he has blocked me he is alone. Working from home and unable to go to clubs in Los Angeles because they are all shut down. He will just pass the time by himself playing his drums and talking to himself. I've heard him before. As soon as I speak up about something he shuts down. Here we go again!

[@TheCoffeeCat]

@@alicemungia1642 that is the M.O. of a DA for sure. Mind-boggling: they don't even seem to care, as long as they have their toys. I wonder how they would fare if something happened to their toys... they would go insane: cannot connect with people for lack of abilities, cannot distract themselves for lack of distractions. 😨

[@eloisemarie5219]

Vulnerability is safe? Interestingly, I thought vunerablility was necessary to have a good relationship but that it definitely had nothing to do with being safe.

[@connectyourstories]

So much great content! I do wish you'd slow down though.

[@thelivingexperiencer8922]

Click on the settings button then you can adjust the speed to a pace that is comfortable.

[@kristens4880]

Not sure how I was supposed to give him acts of service and gifts when he was avoiding seeing me.

[@ShadrockMarciano]

My ex looks to be more of a DA while I'm an Anxious. We didn't get around to talking about our LLs but we had discussed it. I would say her LLs would be AoS because she was very involved with helping her family & WoA, however you're exactly right, she would take it from me but didn't give it. When she did though, it would light up my world! Long story short, she became cold, distant & started ignoring me. So now I'm in No Contact & working on my own Attachment Style and I hope she comes back

[@linnethfunzeani4369]

Is she back now

[@fedorilitchev5092]

well damn, maybe I'm not dismissive avoidant after all. Those are my two weakest love languages. By contrast, there is a fearful avoidant in my life who is all about acts of service & gifts and not so much touch / quality time.

[@tangodaze]

Thais, where can I access the Attachment Theory free e-book? The search took me to some site that turned out to be fraudulent...

[@staytheknight]

I’m an anxious male. And like most other anxious I tend to find myself in relationships with DA or FA…🤦‍♂️ my question is I’ve been doing the work on myself and figuring it all out and making myself more secure. What are some tools that I can employ that to help my current DA partner to open up while still making sure that I’m still having my needs met? I absolutely do and am in love with her, and I want to show up for her the way she needs me to. But I also can’t ignore myself and not have my needs for deep connection met forever either. Can you please make a video on when to let go… like what are the signs along the way that show I’m just spinning my wheels and still not going anywhere. I would love to take the course it’s just a real struggle for me financially (I’m a divorced dad of 3) So even just a hint of things to be aware of would be a tremendous help! Thank you for your help and insight. Your videos have helped me out more than you realize and I wish that there was something else that I could do other than say thank you! But that’s all I can do at the moment so I hope it’s enough

[@sameus11maximus]

It’s funny how they like clarity but can’t give it lmao

[@JustJRR]

Wow this was helpful. I am fearful avoidant & dismissive avoidant so it gets tricky in areas but its great to become more aware of it all. 🙏🏾

[@Missgevious]

Why is my DAs number 1 Quality Time?!

[@bakesabundant2028]

This makes perfect sense and is accurate! That is the reason why my DA is always sending me gifts but when I ask her out for quality time (date) she isn't ready "yet" until the breakthrough happens and shifts into more secure, which I feel is moving in that direction through time as my da starts to slowly open up more as we are consistently talking on messenger etc. IT takes longer for da to commit to quality time, and shows it in the less direct ways such as gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation. Makes sense. thank you! i resonate

[@gogohappygirl]

I’m dating someone who I believe is DA, but quality time is important to them. Is it possible they are more likely FA perhaps leaning dismissive?

[@roselandpetals]

I've known a few DAs who have Quality Time as their Language also. I don't think its LAW that they don't have this Love Language. Individuals can still love what they love regardless of attachment theory tendencies. The problem with my recent ex is that you can really tell he loved Quality Time with me, but it was what caused him to flee.

[@saucererT0j1]

No cap, you've brought a lot of value into my life. This information is really helpful in identifying my emotional wounds because I've been having some trouble with that. And also this is really accurate. Recently I was hit by a wave of emotions when I was washing the dishes 😂, but I'm glad to have found this channel again because last time I kind of 'Avoided' taking a deep dive to self reflect. Thanks a lot🙏🏾

[@mv1362]

YES what a good color on you!!!

[@alicemungia1642]

My DM asked me to marry him in an unconventional way. I was stunned by the question because he is so protective of his space and has never been married. I never thought he would ever ask. I ignored his question as though it was a joke. I changed the subject. Days later I was still thinking about the proposal and asked him, "Did you say, would you marry me?" He said yes, and I told me it's too late now. That evening he became upset with me about another issue. I asked about tho proposal and he said it was just a joke. Long story short, I'm now blocked.

[@SK-no2pp]

Oh gosh, that’s painful

[@solidcatink]

What ?! That is just awful !

[@alicemungia1642]

It's somewhat typical of him. I know I deserve better and he is quite capable unless life gets challenging. Then he packs up his toys and hides in a cave.

[@G6KGaijin]

I feel for you. ❤️ However u still have not answered the question. May it be a joke or not. I believe it was not. A DA imo does not do those kind of jokes. He felt rejected - cause u did not say yes. So its probably a no. And that's why he went into his cave

[@alicemungia1642]

@@G6KGaijin oh my! I think you're right. I will answer him.

[@firstladyqueen5985]

The subconscious is reprogrammed through repetition and emotion! ❤️♥️🌟🌟😍😍

[@HeroSupportGUY]

Great video! I love to study character as socio-behavioral habits - and look at it from a sociology context but I need to develop my understanding of the attachment side of it.. This video info is a match with what my observations were of someone I was in a relationship with - her love languages were acts of service, gift giving & receiving, and words of affirmation.. we were a match on the words of affirmation but otherwise my love languages are quality time and positive touch.. so when we first got together I would buy her gifts and we got along better but after awhile I stopped giving gifts and things got worse.. funny ending.. as we were transitioning out of the relationship, she went on a weekend trip with another guy [who she had started dating already] and left me home to watch our child.. then didn't come back when she said she would.. I was upset about it.. I woke up to the sound of her coming back from the weekend camping trip and on the counter there was a lemon bar.. I said, 'what's this?' She said, 'I bought it for you at a bakery on the way home.' I thought 'wow! there it is.. 'a gift!'

[@amaliaesposito3942]

I think a really good video idea I saw in the comments and I want to repeat. Is a video on the effects the behavior a D.A can have, how it can make the people around them feel, and why he or she may want to change. Something that people can show their partner so they can explain WHY because D.A's don't always think their way is damaging or unbeneficial for them

[@emotophobiccdd8006]

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[@Meli-ul9zt]

yes this!!!! Omg this

[@Somethingfunny1111]

Yes! I’m in the school so I’ll copy and ask this there too.

[@myoldash]

Yes please! Thank you Hannah

[@myoldash]

Btw Hannah how do you like it so far? I’ve been thinking about joining :)

[@kameelahsalaam2748]

The problem that I'm having in my relationship is CULTURAL. What's important to my dismissive partner is that he is "in charge". And what's important to ME in the relationship is that I'm honored and equally "heard". I'm American and HE is from the Mexican state of Michoacan. His belief system in which women should be dominated and/or controlled is deeply ingrained, as is my belief system of being an educated, independent woman who is more than capable of making her OWN decisions. Is there any hope for us to have and/or foster a healthy relationship? I do love this man, but his psyche is stifling.

[@roselandpetals]

Mexican-American here. Not ALL Mexicans believe this way. He sounds particularly traditional. You could cater to those beliefs but where does that leave you and your needs? Its really difficult because one of the two of you is going to have to budge a little bit to get what you want. But where does that leave the other? If he's THAT stubborn about his beliefs, and is not willing to hear and understand you, he won't change. I know its hard but you might be better off walking away and finding someone who gives you what you need instead.

[@kameelahsalaam2748]

@@roselandpetals Thank you for your feedback! I've considered leaving because of the control issues, the going through my phone, extreme jealousy and so on. It's my LOVE for him that won't let me leave. And it's CRAZY, because I used to Judge women in my position, like "Duh....Why don't they just LEAVE???" God has a sense of humor. 😥

[@roselandpetals]

@@kameelahsalaam2748 Don't worry. We all go through moments where you know what advice you would give to someone in your shoes, but now you understand why its not so easy. (I recently went went through a breakup to someone I really wanted and swore I was going to be with forever, but it wasn't meant to be.) Is there any way you can take a break from this man? It sounds like you need to clear your thoughts and need space and time to reconnect with yourself and what you know is the right thing to do.

[@kameelahsalaam2748]

@@roselandpetals Awww...You're so SWEET! To answer your question, we are common law married...we share rent, bills, vehicle expenses and food. At THIS point, I don't know how I would break away financially, as my name (and his) is on EVERYTHING! How do I walk away at this point? I don't have the answer to that question.

[@stacy91fyi]

You are in my head again, Thais! Thank you!

[@jovankrstic250]

It starts at 1:40

[@agamng]

Can you please make a video abt a dismissive avoidant breakup - what they think, feel when they finish the relationship and how they act and what they think when someone breaks up with them

[@lynnkelly4609]

@agamng she has already posted that video LONG BEFORE this one. You will find if you look through her video lists, all your inquiries will be answered.

[@roselandpetals]

My DA told me his Love Language was Quality Time. The moment I gave him a beautiful day of that we both enjoyed... he plotted his escape and left me 7 weeks later.

[@karencoleman6800]

The course to take: 21 different ways to reprogram your subconscious

[@madwalnut559]

Just bfore 1 min into da video, I get "happy", but of course, gotta calm down. 🙂

[@almogheeraalmamoun6993]

Let the anxious video the next one plz lol

[@JananyaKali]

I love the way you speak, the messages are super clear and useful. Thank you so much.

[@austinnguyen9107]

6:01 Subconscious mind reprogrammed through repetition and emotion

[@kaszmarlambert2848]

definitely words of affirmation not being reciprocated causes a feeling of danger there's also a whole spectrum of social disorders that could influence that besides the video content

[@sheebad631]

Hi I’m trying to understand my core wound, and attachment style. The thing that I crave the most is almost like a guiding angel and someone who supports/understands me. That’s how I feel loved? Someone I can learn from.

[@madwalnut559]

There's a background noise @ a low volume level, but still able to b heard.

[@ishtaneel8305]

Right in 1 of my experience. But another DA Narc ex of mine had physical touch as his 1st love language. Mine too but 2nd language (I'm FA). I use to feel so loved when he just held me. I still cherish it.

[@craigmerrila7767]

Spot on!

[@valentinanocross8677]

Great info. I wish I'd known this before I oozed my critical " you don't care about me" statement , that DAs don't compliment. and he said.." but I did all those things"... And a week later I found him with someone else. Was this self soothing from what he felt was me criticising or rejecting him? Or just low level narcisstic behavior? He also gave me many small gifts, but wouldn't accept much from me. Lunches and dinners made at my house, and massages. I'm still curious if he was a good guy or a case that as soon as it started feeling good he always needed a pause or would get shut down overnight, but the slightest if ineffective wording from my mouth.im not sure why I'm still studying DAs and anxious avoidant trap.ive done the work.i guess it's time to look ahead and connect secure as I become more secure. I have shared these videos to the ex, but I'm not sure if they might be pushing him away more

[@phoebe7534]

I said that in frustration too. I didn’t know what else to say and was so hungry for words from him.

[@ArielAriel-rg8ng]

I've been 2,5 years with my ex boyfriend,I think he is a DA, and I have always had doubts on his feelings for me. Do the DA fall really in love?

[@Lordran__]

Apparently they do

[@tashawilliams8093]

Yes but not at the rate of the average person.

[@TJ-nq5nt]

Access pass

[@terrysharpe4841]

Your video content is amazing. But you talk way to fast...

[@elizabethwallace7495]

Really hard to understand you. Please speak slowly and clearly.

[@linnethfunzeani4369]

Same, she speaks very quickly

[@avinmcnew7548]

This is a fiction video right?

[@avinmcnew7548]

Are you seriously Heleh....my goodness...

[@jfaustin1742]

THIS WOMAN KNOWS ME 🥲she understands so damn well .