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[@r.o2938]

Run a credit check on Grandma too, odds are aunt has opened accounts in her name. Put a freeze on her credit with all 3 bureaus, its free, and she can do a temp unfreeze if she ever wants to access credit.

[@johnfitbyfaithnet]

Good point

[@scrapinmaniac]

The aunt is doing senior abuse which is punishable by law. Same category as child abused and it’s protected specially if the money is social security.

[@michaeloneill3797]

Great point!

[@alisonfraser8231]

My experience is that police do nothing if you give a person your code to a card, you just gave them access-no crime! Hopefully there is more justice in your locale.

[@rebeccapeden1401]

His mother told him because she WANTS him to fix it.

[@fire12731]

True and I don’t like that the mom did this to him

[@lindaburnside3832]

The man should call adult protective services division of his local police department. Someone is stealing from an elderly person. It may hurt his mama's feelings, but apparently, she is part of the problem because she won't step up and stop it.

[@aelh123]

This is spot on. Horrible situation for every one one involved. The aunt is a broken person for sure .

[@roadrunner9622]

The mother is an enabler.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

That is a harsh judgement on the mother. What you fail to recognise is the sexism element, and grandson, being male, is seen as 'responsible', whereas women are considered 'just women' when it comes to that stuff. So the mother played it to get the result, telling her son.

[@zachpierce641]

This lady is so lucky to have the caller looking out for her . Hope she’s able to recognize that I worked in adult protective services. So many people don’t have somebody like this.

[@davewarrant8673]

Jade said it best, "She's hoping there is some way this can go away and nobody's feelings get hurt..."

[@ceemee3082]

Which is craaaazy because HER feelings are already hurt! Her freaking child is stealing from her! So much so, that she's gotta probably grocery shop with cash so she KNOWS she has the money to pay. Sad.

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

@davewarrant8673 - They also probably don't want the poor 🙄aunt to be arrested. Well maybe that's what she deserves. I mean, if the aunt were buying food with that debit card, that MIGHT be looked at with a little more understanding, but blowing $500 on some ONLINE GAME?? That aunt AT LEAST needs to be spoken to by the police and have a little fear of spending time behind bars. Maybe they don't press charges THIS time, but if it happens again, she should spend time in a far from upscale gated community.

[@StayceeR]

Guaranteed...this is NOT the first time...immediately review ALL statements and reconcile...its been done before..this is criminal

[@helenhilton2158]

Yes, AT LEAST have the police speak to the aunt and put a little fear in her, even if they don't press charges THIS TIME. But if it happens again, it shows a pattern of misbehavior that needs to be addressed with CHARGES FILED.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Screw the feelings. Stop the thief.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

The reason problems persist is that no one has the guts to call them out.

[@annehajdu8654]

Right on.

[@lifestylehomestead]

EXACTLY

[@veramae4098]

I called out my younger sister for mishandling Mom's money. Lost both sisters over it.

[@texasskygirl7890]

​@@veramae4098 Funny how they twist things and try and make you the bad guy. That's what children do when they don't get their way.

[@dannyh9010]

Credit card theft/identity theft is a felony. Report it to law enforcement now, or else your aunt will keep taking more and more from your grandma: get grandma to make aunt her POA, make her joint on her bank accounts, change her will, etc. It won’t stop until grandma is broke or someone stops it.

[@michaeltoland5170]

So is stealing our money & giving to Ukraine & Israel

[@ryanmaris1917]

Grandma is broke, her card declined on groceries. This ain’t is all up in her business stealing her card info and the like and knows when grandma gets paid. She’s an addict to phone games (the aunt) and needs to be cut off her supply of grandma’s money.

[@breezyveezy1]

The fact that she stole for an online game means she will do it again bc she has an addiction. Time for an intervention!

[@fauxbro1983]

Time for jail time.

[@jenniferlambert8492]

Call elder support services for your state. Stealing $500, usually a slap on the wrist, defrauded an elder considerably more seriuos.

[@katiejon17]

Why not talk to grandma about becoming her financial DPOA and legal guardian? Grandma’s already in her 70’s, and is only going to get older. Clearly this man has integrity, and the financial security to help her. He’s already purchased the home from her at the cost of the remainder of the mortgage, did some improvements, and lets grandma live there for only utilities. She can clearly trust him to advocate for her. If grandma agrees, and he gets financial DPOA, “auntie” now knows granny ain’t calling the shots anymore, and that this man will not allow her to abuse her mother. And if grandma is every approached by auntie to be used as her cash cow, granny can shrug and say “you’ll have to speak with Phillip... he controls my money”. I understand that this shouldn’t have to happen, but some people are weak, and clearly this guy is capable of the task.

[@_Y.Not_]

I like this plan, gives grandma an out without looking "bad", doesn't punish her for being a soft touch and having a good heart and keeps auntie away, I like it.

[@valeriab9735]

This was my thought

[@timberdark]

Watch out ! Aunt will move in with grandma and you won't be able to get her out of that house..

[@johnfitbyfaithnet]

It's a fair point

[@honieebean]

It's lucky this was uncovered.... Alot of the time the next step is the aunt trying to cover up the truth (& silence granny)

[@mustangmare]

I'm three minutes in and realize the Aunt probably doesn't know the house isn't in Grandma's name and the Aunt is lining up to steal the house, (at least she "thinks" she is!)

[@shelleyirwin6104]

This happened to us too. My sister in law stole from my MIL for the last 6 years of her life. When I recommended calling the police my husband said his mother calls it a gift. So it was impossible to help her out. So we watched his inheritance dwindle away to nothing. But we are doing fine and some day she will answer to what she did.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

No she won't. She will just steal from someone else.

[@_Y.Not_]

It amazes me when people view money their parents have as their "inheritance", its not, its their money to do what they want with it, it becomes an inheritance when the person dies and is left to you in their will, not before. Not being greedy and assuming someone else's money will be yours will save you a lot of aggravation. You weren't looking to "help your MIL out" you were looking to preserve money you unrightfully decided would be yours.

[@shelleyirwin6104]

@@_Y.Not_ my husband’s parents both decided who would inherit their estate years before I met him. My father in law would be furious with his daughter for changing that.

[@fire12731]

That’s awful that sis in law did that. Frickin despicable

[@dslunsford1]

Aunt didn’t steal the money for food or heat. It was for a video game, which means she cares for her own mom LESS than getting virtual cookies to feed her little minion.

[@valerieann2751]

Press charges please!

[@ginab.4605]

I’ve been through this before except it was my brother stealing from mom at the time. I threaten to call the police on him and everything at the time. My mom would call and complain to me about him, however, she still stood up for my brother. I will never do that again! If this guys grandma is going to take up for her daughter who is stealing from her then he will be wasting his time saying anything like I did.

[@katiekorshunova6462]

Furthermore, kick her out of his house or at least start having her pay rent so her money goes somewhere useful

[@TeresaS-q7x]

@@katiekorshunova6462 I wouldn't kick her out of the house but he could charge her rent to take up most of her monthly income and then give it back to her as needed. Sound harsh but it's a way for him to protect his elderly grandmother, he's a good son/grandson.

[@_Y.Not_]

@@TeresaS-q7x Obviously grandma is a soft touch and aunt knows this but I hate the idea of grandma being punished for having a good heart and trying to help someone. Aunt should know that if she ever even asks grandma for money again then Phil will enact your scenario. The cops should be called just to have it in the record that aunt has already stolen from grandma.

[@deanmccormick8070]

Thieves seldom stop unless they are STOPPED. Sad but true.

[@EsiriE]

Facts

[@dcgeorgia6307]

The grandmother is worried that the family will break apart if her daughter is confronted by her and/or her other daughter's family. It's important to her to keep the fragile structure of her family together. But to sweep it under the rug and not confront the person that stole from her is allowing a cancer to grow untreated and will destroy the family structure anyway.

[@susanhighfield8284]

It's called codependency.

[@isabelbecerra9258]

The grandma has daughter and the caller, her grandson, taking care of her by providing a roof over her head. She don’t need that marginal gambling loser of a daughter!

[@toya1374]

The fact that he's allowing his grandmother to stay for free is big ❤

[@kamilee3833]

Let’s not overlook the fact that the caller bought his grandmother’s house for what she owed on it. How much equity did she give him? He didn’t mention that he bought the equity. So, yes, he is a good person, but he was still paid for his generosity.

[@matticus6339]

@@kamilee3833 Hmmmmm....very true, I did not think about that at the time I heard the call.

[@lucillebaldwin6659]

Agree@@kamilee3833

[@pnwflipper2089]

@whitegd4100totally agree, but it’s nice to hear that he stepped up and that she gave him a good deal in return

[@pnwflipper2089]

@@kamilee3833I had to listen to it again when I read your comment. It would be interesting to know how much he paid and how much equity she had

[@hansonallie]

Granny is lucky to have such a generous, noble grandson!

[@Stephan2P]

This man is an angel.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Yeah he’s pretty cool.

[@blodus4521]

@@silentnot4812 This criticism would be correct if he hadn't put the house in his name.

[@summerforever6736]

granny is a looser

[@EsiriE]

Yup, God bless him ❤

[@9liveslisa]

Time to call the police. Stealing is stealing no matter who is doing it. And doing this to a 70 year old woman is also elder abuse. BTW, some of your family can not ever be trusted.

[@aprilm4423]

Also, tell the bank. They'll be watching, too. Fraud alert on Grandma's credit report, to stop encore acts from Auntie.

[@fhuber7507]

It's elder abuse and it's a felony and it's a felony to not report it in some states. You become just as guilty as the abuser by letting the abuse continue.

[@annehajdu8654]

Well said.

[@Bethelgal42]

The Aunt is not going to go quietly. I'm guessing this isn't the first time Aunt has needed money and guilted people into giving or just taken it. People who are used to being enabled don't like it when the enabling stopped. Grandma is a people-pleaser and an enabler who will be desperate to keep the peace. This poor man is about to "the bad guy" who "breaks up the family" or "thinks he's rich so he's better than everybody." I hope it ends peacefully, but enabled people rarely go peacefully.

[@maddywadsworth4312]

Multiple notes for you sir! I handle the finances for my husbands almost 90 year old grandmother. All of her children have passed. Get your grandma on food stamps. We did and it helped her margin a little bit. Maybe get access to her banking-so you can check frequently and make sure nothing fishy is happening. Put yourself on the bank account if she will allow. I no longer allow her to make poor financial decisions. We try to leave her some autonomy but at the end of the day I’m footing the bill for SO many things so it’s not just a free for all anymore.

[@p.gizzle90]

My gdaddy did this, •he put me on his banking accounts so no one else takes over & steals from him. And my name is in a trust on his house. So his children don’t take it bc he already provided my dad land for his house +down pmt, and gave my uncle his old house with property. They feel entitled to his current home when they haven’t taken care of what he already given them.😖😖😖 It’s ridiculous on the entitlements.

[@katiejon17]

As a nurse, I would recommend (if grandma allows) for this man to become her financial (and medical) DPOA, and get that activated. Possibly even become her guardian. The granny and the caller’s mother are clearly passive. This man can put his aunt in her place, and granny can just shrug and tell the aunt “you’ll have to ask Phillip, he does all that now”.

[@mikeshaw4610]

Two things 1) Regardless of what you or others as soon as you were told you became involved. 2) If something is not done to stop this it will continue to happen.

[@ariston5433]

Thus elder abuse. Adult protective services should be called in, as well as the police.

[@simonthebroken9691]

My brother has been doing this to my parents for years. My dad just passed on. He's doing it more & more now. My mom can't say no to him. She's vulnerable & has mental illness. She even defends him. He'll make up some lie that it was a "loan". Mom gets confused and agrees with him. This makes me sick. I want my brother to stop, but he won't or can't. He spends soo much money on stuff. He's always lived way above his means. The cops are slow due to burden of proof & my mom not telling the truth. Only God can help us now.

[@katiejon17]

I am so sorry, I cannot imagine. My mother passed 9 years ago when she was only 60. My father lived alone for 4 years after she passed, and it was not good. He’s capable, and very stoic - and we could still tell it was getting dark. My husband and I live in the same town, we sold our home and moved in with my father (we had a two year old and I was pregnant when we did). My older brother is single, lives two hours away, and works a lot. I did all of this while keeping my brother in the loop, he was relieved when we moved in with my father. The light came back to my dad quickly having such a sweet toddler for a grandson, six months later out other son was born. My father has seen these boys daily since July of 2018. We ended-up buying the house from my father. It is financially beneficial to all of us, but there’s also peace of mind that my father will always have a roof over his head (which wasn’t really a concern as he has always been financially responsible), a hot meal on the table, and a family looking out for him. But I keep my older brother involved because I would never want him to feel out of the loop. I am so very sorry that your brother is not behaving honorably.

[@simonthebroken9691]

@katiejon17 Thank you. I'm glad your father is doing better. Grief & loneliness are a terrible combination.

[@brendahere]

Had the same kind of brother. I got poa. With mom, create a weekly, monthly budget for her. Give her cash weekly that fits her budget. Access from any other money is NOT in her house. I told her, that if brother asks for money, she could show him she had three envelopes with money. One is for getting her hair cut and paying her apartment cleaner. Another is for food. The third is the left over money from the month before. The most she could give him was the third envelope. If he really needed more, she will call me to come over and he can explain his need. I think, the only money he was "given" by me, was a couple of medical bills, where I told him to give me the bill and I paid it directly. It helped my mom becuase she didn't have to say no.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Well god isn't going to do anything.

[@simonthebroken9691]

@@karlabritfeld7104 He already has.

[@joshjoshruls]

Yes, I have had this same problem with my grandson taking advantage of my Mom his great grandmother. I took out a loan to pay off 26,000 of debit he rack up on two credit cards.But she is an enabler, so I had to step in and take control of her finances for spending levels. Which has help but she still enables him.

[@shannonobrien9922]

You enabled him! You're JUST as bad!!!!! You borrowed the money to bail him out- he NEVER gonna hit bottom if y'all don't STOP

[@gailrodgers3079]

He should also get in contact with the senior Ombudsman that should help as well.

[@DadinWA]

That’s a cold family member! Elder abuse. This happened to my ex’s family. Lack of respect for family. So sad.

[@coolaunt516]

Depending on the state, the aunt could be arrested for elder abuse.

[@thegenxgamerr]

Call the police and insist your grandmother files a police report. If she doesn’t you cut off financial support. Stop playing games go right after it. Good luck.

[@lisalister8002]

Some grandmothers have lost intellectual capacity to take care of their finances. Therefore, a guardian needs to be appointed.

[@franciscozevallos2858]

He can file the report, take his grandmother to the bank and file a Reg E dispute for those charges, and show she did not approve those transactions.

[@fishtail1129]

He needs to make sure grandma’s credit is locked down so auntie can’t open cards in her name. She may have already done so.

[@3ddiEdotcom]

1. Lock down ALL of Granny's accounts. ALL of them. 2. Auntie either comes to Jesus and returns EVERY last penny she STOLE from Granny, or her next place of residence is the county clink. In any case, she NEVER sets foot in YOUR house ever again. 3. Plan on celebrating the holidays somewhere other than with family this year. And likely every year thereafter. You don't need that kind of drama. 4. MAD props to you, good sir, on being such an awesome grandson.

[@EsiriE]

Sounds like a plan! 🫱🏾‍🫲🏿

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Change the locks on all the doors. Less than $200 to have a locksmith come out and do it.

[@julieking4304]

family is the esiest mark. my 38 year old daughter STOLE most of my jewelry but i have no proof beyond her history of being a thief and addict

[@shannonobrien9922]

EASY, EASIER, EASIEST

[@hedgiegal3340]

Call dept of family services, also call police. If grandma is over 65 you have a duty to report. It's the law and if you don't report you can be held liable.

[@rfpnc]

Grandson DOES have a say in how Grandma handles her money. He has provided her a home, rent free, and Grandma is supposed to pay for her utilities and her personal needs. She can't squander that money and then turn around and look to Grandson for more help. Grandma has to act like an adult. So does the rest of the family!

[@cutenobi]

His mom should call the police.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Don't Stand, Don't Stand so close to me

[@John-sb6uk]

The government has really called things more difficult for its citizens, and we can't sit back and bear all the consequences of the bad governance. It's obvious we are headed for hyperinflation,it is always the poor who take the hit.

[@PeggyPeggy-jl2jl]

this is not the first time I have heard about this lady Mary Macdonald and her amazing skill set, I heard she even takes 15% commission on her trades but I have no idea how to reach her.

[@NoWords232]

Scam!

[@kam9504]

Pp PPP p o I I I j

[@isabelbecerra9258]

When you rip off grandma you are committing ELDER ABUSE!

[@pattyajones]

I want a follow-up on this one. Everyone's advice is correct. My husband and I are "seniors", and our kids would have run us over to nail the person doing this to us.

[@alisonfraser8231]

Almost this exact thing happened in my family, involved multiple cheques cashed on a bank account by a person who did not have signing authority and was done in person. And debit withdrawals, to the tune of eight thousand dollars. The police brushed it off as a “family matter”. The bank did nothing. No reimbursement. No prosecution.

[@1ButtonDash]

there's ways we in my Italian family have handled matters with this and it involves a louisville slugger

[@porky7753]

🤣😂 old school ways work better cause the message get's out.

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

Almost thought the weapon you were going to mention would have more power than a Louisville slugger.

[@semosancus5506]

Gonna be a fun thanksgiving!

[@e79422]

What is wrong with the grandma? She has no money herself; gives her daughter money when she doesn't have it; then let's her daughter steal money from her and then tells everyone else like it's not her problem? Watch out! My guess is grandma will hate the grandson for calling the police on her daughter. This grandma is not being taken advantage of...she is an enabler. She is only 70...that's not that old.

[@lucialuciferion6720]

This. My mom enables my brother in multiple ways. Always defends him, babies him, does everything for him, buys him food , praises him for tiny things etc. He can no wrong ever basically. He's a big L with no job , ever, no motivation, no goals , nothing. Strange how that turned out.

[@e79422]

@@lucialuciferion6720 I bet you can't call the police about anything he does! LOL

[@roseother8306]

70 is not that old. If mom is struggling mentally, she needs more protections than this.

[@NadeDogg]

Yes this. The grandma wants it all. I’d say talk to the mother about a nursing home and sell the house

[@savagenomore]

now we know why auntie never has any money, she's a gambler and never wins big....

[@jameshudkins2210]

If a game offers the public good odds the House will change or stop the game. If a gambler has skill to mostly win they will stop him from playing. Professional and winning Gamblers will make sure the person loses over time. You will never win back gambling losses.

[@CaToRi-]

Please, get grandma’s a credit report.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

And an AmEx card

[@diceportz7107]

Why do people tolerate bad behavior from family? I get that this is your family, but that doesn't mean they should be able to get away with committing crimes. After all, every serial killer has a family.

[@reneest7644]

I cannot imagine a daughter stealing from her mother on a fixed income!!

[@marshapelo9830]

The Aunt going to play: "i'm sorry i didnt know what happened"

[@mgb5170]

No - the grandmother is hoping the family will regulate the one accessing the debit card, however the grandmother should restrict all future use of it.

[@MagicSkinTechs]

Report financial abuse to adult protective services.

[@FlutterSwag]

"Im not supposed to talk about this" Goes on public national radio show

[@joyceboisvert9167]

Hire a private investigator to collect evidence before any action taken that way they try to cover up they will be caught and don’t tell a soul you are hiring a private investigator not family nobody protect your grandmother mom yourself even family members can be toxic

[@coldflu]

Every 30 seconds credit is being instantly produced to exchange for real things. If we remain on this system, we will need 100s more if Dave Ramseys.

[@laurao8099]

I really hate when people are manipulating gaslighting people! Anybody who says why are you making such a big deal out of this and trying to act like it's the person's fault who is just vocalizing the problem. The aunt is the one who put everybody in an uncomfortable position she just did it quietly and without being upfront or honest about it

[@SassySue67]

At the very least this aunt is committing elder abuse.

[@DMS20231]

Just a side note. A landlord can’t actually trespass someone from their property if there is a tenant. A tenant can invite anyone they want over.

[@tarawillis3995]

keep that in family

[@brendahere]

I'd present Grandma with the facts and with options. She can or doesn't have to call the police. BUT her daughter has to be stopped. She needs to be warn that if she attemps any funky business the cops WILL be involved. I would suggest help Grandma a budget for where all her money goes. All cards to those accounts are LOCKED UP. Grand ma has weekly envelopes for purchases that are LOCKED UP in a different place. The only money "laying around" is left over money from those weekly envelopes. Access to any other money for sneaky people is GONE. I also hope Grandma has a POA and plans for her estate. Please get POA, its saved such a head ache for me.

[@Project-Masculinity]

Jades moves 😊 00:30

[@vjs4539]

Restraining order. Auntie doesn't come near his home. Grandma can visit her daughter elsewhere.

[@miaaugustine4321]

This is criminal and so common. Jade, I love your earrings. I make polymer clay jewelry and would love to send you some earrings.

[@Helibeaver]

Never thought I would hear "popos" on Ramsey solutions. Sad

[@KeishaJones-fk2pz]

❤

[@joycewright5386]

What is popos?

[@BetterNBetter]

It was funny, relax.

[@barbarawadley4343]

My ex sister in law was stealing from my ex mother in law. We intercepted her communication and told her it will be turned over to the authorities if she didn't stop. It stopped.

[@roadrunner9622]

Ok now what about this guy buying the house for-owed and thereby stealing all the equity that eventually would have been everyone else's inheritance?

[@EverElia]

Such a well done call with both Jon and Jade 🙌🏾

[@annehajdu8654]

Not really.

[@jesseperez7253]

Big piece of info missing, " bought grandma's house for what she owed " her balance could've been 300k or 5k. If it was in the lower end her retirement was that and was also stolen.

[@sharoncontini3284]

Theft from the elderly is a felony. Call police and adult services.

[@ElleKgee123]

There is also something called elder abuse that needs to be discussed as well....

[@nousernamesarevalid]

Check Grandma’s credit. This woman has probably opened other accounts. If that is true, police have to be involved to help Grandma.

[@tashintomorrowland]

Every time I see my grandparents they are trying to give me some cash… not much, $20, $50 etc… and I REFUSE. I don’t even like them paying for my food anymore. I am 32, fully employed and no reason on earth I should be taking from them. People who take from elderly irk me. I only want to give to them.

[@valentingomez2193]

The po pos lol

[@lrla8657]

Because my Uncle was the baby of the family, they gave him a slap on the wrist when he was stealing from my grandmother. My grandmother was fine with it and signed the house over to him when she passed away. Now he’s got a girlfriend/caretaker that gives him everything he wants. He has never lived away from that house. Ever. He’s a real pile.

[@BJD-d6t]

I would not call the police. Deal with it within the family. Calling cops will totally bust this family apart. You all want to end your lives like that? It's just money and stuff.

[@alanj9978]

Yeah she should be given an ultimatum and a chance. Nothing good happens if the cops get involved. She's probably stealing from other people too though.

[@CarlGorn]

Call the cops on that aunt. I don't care if she's family, that kind of theft puts grandma in danger.

[@davekeany5876]

500 on a online game? The aunt is a gambling addict, a terrible addiction, she should be given the choice of getting some support for her problem or calling the police.

[@caron5622]

It’s elder financial abuse and it’s illegal. I think John is wrong. I think it has to be reported, no matter how Gramma feels.

[@andreack9983]

And... the aunt's gambling addiction.

[@StaciaBielka]

Please don’t forget that mental capacity and intelligence may degrade with age, acknowledging this is not disrespectful, but only right in order to take care of elderlies. That’s why “grandma can do whatever she wants to do” may not be a correct approach.

[@kekejefferson9219]

Get a retraining order. Press charges. Change number.

[@lindap.p.1337]

The Grandmother will probably lie to get her daughter out of trouble. This son's Mom has no integrity.

[@home1drm485]

The host is WRONG....Elder abuse is AGAINST THE LAW.....the called needs to call the authorities (usually the agency in that state that handles elder abuse - every state has one) and let them investigate and take action.... whether grandma likes it or not!!!!!

[@littleripper312]

Nevermind you're not supposed to know you need to go pitbull mode and protect your grandma. My great grandma was facing financial abuse from my uncle and cousin when I was growing up. She'd go without proper food because she'd give them money. When my mom found out her grandma was giving money to them and didn't have money to eat she went pitbull mode and dealt with it. Elders can't defend themselves sometimes and can be manipulated, you have to protect them like you would a child. Your grandparents would protect you like that so you need to protect them.

[@pamforrester844]

Sadly the police will say its a civil matter, may have to end up in small claims court, using an attorney and courts would probably cost more than the amt

[@fcoronel1]

Yes but when it comes to elder abuse. They will absolutely get involved. I work at a credit union and I have called police on someone’s relative and they were taken to jail

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You don't need an attorney for small claims. And it's usually less then 50 bucks to file a case.

[@mountaingarden8823]

Not civil, elder abuse physical OR financial is criminal. Get law enforcement involved.

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This is a few things. It’s identity theft, larceny, elder abuse, and a few other. This is felony level crimes

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Most states now consider this to be felony elder abuse along with identity theft and credit card fraud. 3 felonies.

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This is elderly abuse, and there is a hotline like CPS just for this purpose.

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[@jacquelineglitter4328]

Change the card and don't let her know the account number.

[@EatMyPropwash]

Actions have consequences. Reap what you sow.

[@joelplatt2651]

John is ready to throw some hands

[@Reddore]

I feel as this is a lesson learned before it happens...

[@mymai5859]

The guy needs to take his granma to the bank & have his name & number on her account as 'agent'. It's still Granma's account but he can set up online banking. Then he gets all her bills sent to him by email. This means he pays all Granma's uitilities online through her account. He sets up Granma with a debit/Visa card where a set amount of money is in the account each week before she can use it. This card can be used on her groceries or personal items. This will be helpful later on if Granma gets forgetful - at least her bills are sorted. Any money left over after the bills are paid is put in a savings account - to go towards a special trip or item Granma may want.

[@gnm109]

Some people are just no good.

[@a.miller8316]

Immediately mom and grandson need to be out on all Grandma's bank and credit accounts to watch what's going on

[@5trace]

I would not want her in the house she would steal credit cards.

[@nailatiylluf]

As far as I’m concerned that’s his money she stole and he can do whatever he wants to rectify it. His grandma only has that $500 because he’s given her the value of whatever the mortgage would have been every month.

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