Therapist reacts to How To Be Me by Ren Ft Chinchilla

Therapist Analyzes the lyrics of How To Be Me by Ren ft Chinchilla to discuss the way that deep loss can make us feel like we don't know who we are or how to exist in the world. The therapist invites listeners to focus on the part of the song that says Hallelujah, to be able to hold hope that someday this crushing pain might someday create a new beautiful identity.
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[@darrenraffan7804]

Daisy (Chinchilla) is a freaking superstar! She’s criminally underated. Maybe listen to ‘Chalk Outlines’ next? It’s Ren with Chinchilla again!

[@Quizzy0000]

take the live version :D

[@thechewatson]

Yes this. Both of these

[@twistedpixel756]

seriously, as a therapist, it should be required viewing.

[@bradleydempsey3431]

here is the link to Chalk outlines Live kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWbccn-olNSjm8k&pp=gAQBiAQB

[@taneelesmith7338]

Couldn't agree more! And Chalk Outlines is haaaaamazing!!

[@cheefkeef6473]

Chalk outlines is a must 🔥

[@coleeg69]

I love @6:17 when Ren said "where is my god, where are you" he is looking up and you can see true pain in his eyes. Truly beautiful performance.

[@MichaelCRush]

"Chalk Outlines (Live)", and then "Crutch." We are eagerly waiting!

[@susanpeters5392]

Yessss

[@danhill954]

Add Dominos to your ren list please.

[@Emilie-one]

I second this one as it really is an important message. I love this one and know it will be totally appreciated here

[@DadDaughtersandDrinks]

Can concur. Dominos takes on a completely different societal topic than what you've seen him do so far. Masterfully, as always.

[@rodgersmith6891]

Another vote for "Dominos" which covers a very important subject and doesn't seem to be reacted to as nearly as it should.

[@danguy1712]

I agree that I would be fascinated with your take and discussion of Ren- Dominos

[@patriciaobrien6600]

Yes, yes, yes 😊

[@jant9254]

As a survivor of an attempt 10 years ago, this song hits so hard. The one thing that pulled me thru was my lack of faith, which confuses my family. I explained, if this was my one shot at life, ending it too soon would have been so final....one act that could not have been reversed. 10 years and i still get down, but this keeps me here. I now want to see how my life turns out.

[@gobkin123]

I love the phrase "I now want to see how my life turns out." All the best to you as you make your life amazing!

[@Pikawarps]

I’m glad you found a desire to see your life to its full duration. I’m still not sure i want to see mine.

[@MrDoubled0000]

Very glad that you decided to stick around and see how it goes. It gets easier!

[@skarlottt]

I love you human

[@TrianglesAndCircles]

Great song and reaction and I love your shirt! I know where to get more of the first two, but where does your shirt come from?😊

[@sigally]

Ren's song Penitence and Crutch are both art pieces filled with pain and hope.

[@Shiroar]

Crutch is one of my absolute favourites! Just stunning.

[@Dr.Brummel]

Yea, Crutch is absolutely underrated. It's so heartbreaking, beautiful and deep. The no-budget video is great as well.

[@mldkenny]

Chinchilla is such a powerhouse, her track " Fingers Live for Hunger TV " is just about as good as it ever gets! Ren and Chinchilla doing " Chalk Outlines LIVE " is stunning and my personal favourite is when they are Busking in the streets of Brighton UK doing " One Love/Drunk in Love " it was her first and last busking expereince and is so raw it is priceless! Love your reactions

[@Emilie-one]

Oh I second this one!

[@maktub8669]

THIS!!!!

[@BaronRice-ib4ms]

Same

[@AlvenmodFoto]

Oh F yes! Incredible performance

[@dbc13543]

I love how Ren puts into words the things we all feel but lack the ability to express.

[@tamerpegasus8228]

I want ren to be my English teacher

[@DakotaDogProductionsAk83]

Last April 30, in the early morning hours my only brother died alone as he took heroin and cocaine for the last time. I hadn’t spoken to him for about a month prior because I was so angry with him and his addiction. Almost a year later and I still am wrecked with such sobbing grief because how he died and how we weren’t in a good place. He texted me on Easter asking if I was doing anything with our parents. I didn’t reply. That was our last interaction and I’ve been watching this performance so many times since then. I miss him so much and wish I hadn’t pushed him away. His name was Nick and he was an incredible person despite his addiction. I haven’t found the new me yet, I’m still waiting for the creation after being crushed. I really appreciate what you shared at the end and it gives me hope that I will find the new me soon, a guy that makes my brother proud.

[@Bundleofsass]

My heart hurts for you friend. My mother was schizophrenic and became an alcoholic after her mental break. I understand now that it was a coping mechanism, but at that time, I didn’t take the time to educate myself on her condition and to be more understanding of her human-ness if that makes sense. One morning I woke up and found her dead. Alcohol and pills. And that chance to understand and actually help, was gone. So I understand the guilt and the crushing grief. It’s been years and are finally days where I don’t hate myself, but that came with lots of therapy. I’m sending you virtual hugs because I get it. ❤️

[@HeartSupport]

From Lyss: @DakotaDogProductionsAk83 Hey there, First off I just want to say thank you for being so open with us here, we appreciate it and don't take it for granted. I am so sorry for your loss. I know loss, but not in this way, or this relation. I want you to know there was nothing you could have done to change this... a lot of people including myself with they had said more, done more, been there more, but you did the best you could at the time and that is okay. I have lost my grandparents due to old age, but I have also lost a close friend from a bike accident. For some reason I was mad at him, or annoyed with him... I didn't talk to him for months, I was short with him when he tried to talk to me. I didn't reach out. One day I learned that he had passed away... I felt so much guilt and sadness, I felt guilty for not reaching out, for being mad at him when I didn't even know the reason. Loss is so painful, and grief is so hard to work through. It is something I don't wish on anyone. My fathers sister had a struggle with drugs as well, and he tried to help, but you have to take care of yourself first. You can't pour from an empty cup. I used to get so consumed with trying to help others that I forgot what I needed, I forgot who I was. I think in this time you were doing what was best for you, you have to protect yourself, you have to take care of yourself. It is hard to accept that you did what was best for you at the time, you cannot save people, no matter how much we love them or support them or try to be there for them. Something I try to remind myself when I am upset thinking about my losses, is that they are with me in spirit. I am not really religious in any way but it brings me some sense of solace to remind myself that they are still with me in some way. With my grandparents I always wished I had done more, seen them more, been more myself, talked to them more. It is still something I find myself thinking about to this day even though it has been a year since my last loss. It is crucial to remember you did the best you can, and that is okay. It is easy to get caught up in things you wish you did, wish you said, wish you didn't do. Those thoughts can become consuming. I know it's hard, but please don't beat yourself up about these things. My friend things get better things get easier to handle, please know we are always here for you, to listen, to be a shoulder to lean on. You did what you could do, and that is okay. Much love to you, Lys

[@DakotaDogProductionsAk83]

@@HeartSupport Wow Lyss, I wasn’t expecting a response like this. Your encouragement and words of wisdom are so very appreciated. I have taken them to heart and look forward to reminding myself that I did the best I could. That my Brother Nick is still with me, only in a different way. I will focus on being healthy, so that I can make a positive impact by pouring out from a cup that is full, not an empty cup. Your message has been heard and very much made a difference in my life today. I thank you sincerely. I will investigate more into the HeartSupport program. What a powerful way to give back.❤️‍🩹

[@stampandscrap7494]

Its not your fault honey. I hope you forgive yourself, your brother would want you too. He would not want you to be suffering. I lost my brother to suicide and for a while I could not forgive myself for not knowing he was in so much pain. But I had to accept that the last thing he would want was me to live my life filled with sadness and grief. You will find the new you, its definatly not going to be the same you. It definatly changes who you are losing someone young, who had so much promise. Do not waste another day of your life, your brother would say, if you feel guilty use that guilt to live a better life for me.

[@jeffwilson3205]

You’re not going to like doing them, but I think it’s really important to do Patience and Crutch. To truly understand Ren’s story, you have to see what he made while he was at his lowest. Everything you’ve watched so far is Ren reflecting back on the worst parts of his life from a place of great improvement. He’s not perfect, but he’s better. He also wrote songs and made videos when he was at the bottom. Imagine the courage. Also, right before Hi Ren came out he shard a Vlog from near rock bottom. It will crush you…but again, the strength and courage to be so vulnerable.

[@jeffwilson3205]

Crutch: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aZimY56na6pog9Esi=EU-VsoUXgzeOkW4-

[@jeffwilson3205]

Patience: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGmXppqkiMSlq7Msi=IiyyfwS0ehJFKfJB

[@jeffwilson3205]

Vlog: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJLPpZiefcSWhNEsi=3wNIoF-gcK6Gq-2-

[@MikeyMike2503]

Agreed!

[@longkesh1971]

I think you tied the songs together perfectly, because in Su!cide he says "when you jumped, my childhood jumped too".

[@kylefrandsen2665]

Don't forget that Ren has some fun stuff too, like his "Love Music" parts 1-4 (separate songs - don't all need to be done in a single reaction). If you want more "therapy issues", then Ren X Chinchilla doing "Chalk Outlines" live is a must. Chinchilla's solo stuff is very much about empowerment - "Fingers (live)", "Little Girl Gone", "Cut You Off", or "MF Diamond" (yes, the "MF" is what you think). If you want Ren empowerment, check out "Power", which will also give you a peak at Samuel Perry-Falvey, the behind-the-camera part of "A film by Ren and Sam". He's driving the car in "Power". I will say that as much as I love them each solo, when Ren and Chinchilla get together, it's not Ren + Chinchilla, it's definitely Ren x Chinchilla - it's more than twice as good.

[@xdaniedx]

As a therapist you HAVE TO watch Ren's One Million Subscriber Thank You video. The things he speaks of will definitely hit home for you and it'll give you even more insight into Ren's thinking and what he's been through.

[@Codex7777]

In the space of a few months he lost his best friend to suicide, lost another close friend to drowning at sea, his illness started to kick in, in a big way, which led to him losing his contract with Sony and he was facing a possibly short future, with whatever time he had left almost definitely filled with unrelenting pain and suffering... When he finally escaped from his bed, 7 years later, he emerged as a great artist! Battered and bruised but not broken! :)

[@markuss7249]

Wow, great, heartfelt reaction. You obviously understood this right from the beginning. Now it should be the right time, to give a listen to "ONE MILLION SUBSCRIBERS - Defining success". Ren's way to say thank you (to you also).

[@andreakinuthia4197]

It's well worth going down the Chinchilla rabbit-hole. Little Girl Gone and Cut You Off are stunning x

[@user-mrs_potts]

💯 would love to see these reactions too

[@E-d1d3]

Elements, Trigger, Cold Water, Lockdown Getdown, Know No, Demand Respect, and a dozen more.

[@EvalenaSheets-of7zb]

Can we just take a second here and talk about how Taylor wasn't afraid talk about God, as a Christian that takes guts especially on the Internet 👍

[@blackheartnation412]

I recently lost my friend of 22 yrs to suicide and this song just IS what I am now

[@cherrybomb1386]

I also lost my best friend of 20 something years *hugs*

[@HeartSupport]

From Lyss: @blackheartnation412 Hey there, First off I just want to say thank you for being open with us here, we appreciate it and don't take it for granted. I am so sorry for your loss. Loss is something that I know too well, but not in this way of suicide. I cannot even begin to think how painful it must be to experience loss in this way. Loss is so hard... a lot of people including myself ask what more could I have done? What more could I have said? I want you to know you did the best you could, and that is okay. There is nothing more you could have done to change the outcome of this. It is important to remember we cannot save people... it is hard to accept, as we just want to so bad especially when we love them so much. But we have to remember that we cannot save people... they have to make their own choices. Please know you are not alone in this, we are always here for you, to listen, to be a shoulder to lean on. When we lose someone it is so hard to get back up, to see the positives... I promise you it gets easier. In the moment I know it feels like this can never get better, but I promise you it does get better. Getting out of bed, or doing every day tasks can be difficult after loss, a lot of people struggle with that. Something that I have been trying to do is make myself just 1% better every day. One percent doesn't sound like a lot but it adds up. Maybe you get out of bed one day, maybe you take a shower one day, every day try to do something that will make you one percent better. When I lose someone I try to remind myself that even though they are not here with me on the plains of earth, they are with me in spirit. For me it can be some kind of solace to remind myself of that. I try to get things to help me remember them by, know that they are there in spirit. I cannot even begin to think how difficult it must be to overcome what comes with the loss of a friend to suicide. I am glad that you have this song to relate to, sometimes music helps me feel less alone. Just lets me know, reassures me, that I am not the only one going through this struggle. It is so hard to see the light, but I promise you there is light out there. There is love and happiness and you are worth it. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to do things you love. I hope that these words can help you in some way... bring a little support. You are not alone in this fight, and you are deserving of all good things. Please know we are always here for you. Take it slow friend. With love, Lys

[@kevincochran9561]

I come from a long line of very strong very stoic men who show little emotion in the face of adversity and through my life unfortunately I've had to face many losses. At least 13 people close to me have passed from things ranging from heart attack, cancer, accidents, old age and suicide. And through all of these events I was always bothered by how little emotion I felt. Like everyone else was distraught, but I just felt numb. I'm not sure if I just subconsciously buried my emotions, because I had to be the strong one. But it all came to a head a few years ago when something triggered all those emotions I've been bottling up and pushing down to burst through to the surface and I experience for the first time in my life both crippling anxiety and horrible depression. I thought I understood what those things were from hearing other people talk about them. But You never truly understand until it happens to you. It was one of the most painful moments of my life and although I never felt suicidal, I could 100 percent sympathize with why someone could feel that taking their own life was the only way out of that feeling. I couldn't imagine feeling like that forever. I now have a new outlook on life and respect for people battling these demons. Luckily I had a good support structure and was able to get help. But not everyone is so lucky. God bless, Ren for speaking his truth.

[@docdurdin]

Musically, Lyrically, and performance of this masterpiece are nothing short of a command performance.

[@gregbeard6057]

What I always love every time Ren and Chinchilla collaborate is that they compliment eachother so well... Its not a battle of the voices. When a male and female vocalist duet, a female singing voice can be so powerful that it can drown out the male vocalist... Not with these two gems -or should i say MF Diamonds!!! Ive listened to their music for 3 or 4 yars now and every new release is an instant classic... And I regularly go to Brighton and all my 7 year old son and 3 year old daughter every want to do is go and look for Ren busking!!! 🥰

[@jeffwilson3205]

Patience is the one that wrecks me the most. He is so full of hope after another partial/mis-diagnosis. He’s so frail and fucked up, but still hopeful. To know that like 10 years later he came out the other side in a much better place is such a victory.

[@ScottDJohnston]

I get chills every time.

[@ziggythecatofficial2161]

When I first heard this song, I was in an abusive relationship and it spoke to me. The song gave me strength to come back to "me".

[@MrNiccholas]

It's crazy that you would release this reaction today, on a day that I'm struggling to continue pushing forward. This is the song that stopped me from ending it all last May. Late one night during a particularly dark period I couldn't sleep. It was about 3 am and I felt I couldn't continue in that much pain and I made the decision to end my pain. I had KZbin just auto playing in the background and I started writing my note and this song started playing and for some reason caught my attention. I sat there silently listening, relating to the lyrics, feeling the music reverberate through my body. When Ren got to that last verse I saw the devastation losing someone to suicide causes. As I rewatched the video I saw my friends and family sitting there singing this song and I realized no matter how much pain I'm in, I can't force my loved ones to go through the pain of losing me like that. That realization has caused no small amount of turmoil in my head and I've had to fight against bitterness and resentment, but I can't put them through it. I do wonder sometimes how long my willpower can last, how much pain can I endure before I becomes overwhelmed and I can't hold on. When my fear of hurting others is the only thing keeping me here through extreme physical and mental pain, how long can I hold on.

[@SandraP3796]

I’m also a survivor and live with chronic pain that takes my breath away, even on major pain medication. I’m a survivor and when I saw my kids and how devastated they were I won’t do it again. Ren and his music has stopped me too. Reach out if you need someone to talk to..

[@MrNiccholas]

@@SandraP3796 I'm sorry that you, or anyone, has to go through and live with chronic pain. I obviously can't know your situation, but one of the hardest aspects of my situation is the element of the unknown. The best the Doctors can tell me is that they think it's an unknown neurological condition. They don't know how to treat me. They have done every test they can think of with no answers. At this point pain management is the only thing they can do. It's hard not knowing when or if this pain will end.

[@SandraP3796]

@@MrNiccholas I have problems with all my joints and a number of other diseases. I've had chronic pain and CRPS in my right damaged arm (caused by doctors). After my arm everything went south. Neck fusion, double hip replacements, Spinal stenosis and problems with vascular and lymphodema in my legs. All the valves have stopped working properly. Need a knee replacement very soon and I'm trying to avoid it. I'm so tired of such severe pain even though I have the most amazing pain management doctor. Sorry for the essay:(. My heart goes out to you xoxo

[@HeartSupport]

From NateTriesAgain: @MrNiccholas Thanks so much for sharing friend. I can relate to a lot of this and have been in suicidal places myself. I recorded a video reply connecting with parts of your story, and I hope you find something helpful in it (~8.5m): www.loom.com/share/39ec7e984a674d068696eab6f36f2885 -nate, heartsupport staff

[@neildonley9626]

I dont know if anyone else mentioned it, but the first part was Ren dealing with his psychosis and dealing with his own suicidal thoughts. Certainly, Joe's death affected him as well. The last bit was directed at Joe. Joe's death played a big part in Ren's rejection of suicide. He never wanted others to feel the hurt he felt when he lost Joe. It gave him the courage and strength to move forward. He mentions it in the song, "For Joe."

[@Adonoabofufu]

I did it like Ren, I learned to suffer. I don’t wanna be alive for a long time. But I know it’s a coward move, so I will suffer until it’s over.

[@KennaAlexander]

Chalk Outlines, like others have said, is a must! Also, Fingers Live by Chinchilla, there’s a line at the end of that song that near enough every female can relate to. She’s a powerhouse is our Chinny 😊

[@punk_floyd_8123]

Chinchilla's pain also comes from a really abusive relationship that she has managed to break away from. Both of these artists bring so much of that emotion into their performances in their music. They are truly blessed musicians to be able to turn such a negative into such sad but also positive music ❤

[@TattooedMamaMeg]

PLEASE do Chalk Outlines next! It's stunning and as much as I love How To Be Me, I think Chalk Outlines is better.

[@johnekare8376]

Great reaction! You need to do For Joe next (or soon). They tie very much into each other. Another great one is Freckled Angels.

[@StefanVillkatt]

I love Chinchilla! Thank you for your reaction.

[@blueelem7372]

Hello heart Support I have quit smoking It has been 2 weeks your videos help me get through the days Thank you.

[@jessietucker9342]

Also, "Penitence"

[@barbaralawrence6226]

I've watched dozens of reactions to this. Yours is by far the most heartfelt and insightful exploration of its many nuances and depth of meaning. I dealt with suicidal ideation off and on for decades as I found my way through healing from immense trauma. So grateful to be alive today and beginning a new, empowered path at age 62. What always stopped me was knowing the pain it would bring to my family and friends that they would carry with them for pethaps the rest of their lives. Also, devastating for the person who'd find me. Thank you and thank you all for the work you do and the healing space you offer others. 💕 Also, as others have mentioned, Chinchilla is a powerhouse in her own right. This song wouldn't work as well without her. Please react to their song 'Chalk Outlines'. Her songs, 'Fingers' Live for Hunger TV and 'Little Girl Gone' (I prefer her live version) as well as her newer videos are amazing! She's all about female empowerment, authenticity, and taking creative risks. I'd love to hear your take on them. 🙋‍♀️

[@TheUnsubScribe]

So “hot” to be me, indeed! 😂

[@TheUnsubScribe]

I mean, okay- or yeh just correct the title and make us look the fool. Fiiiiiine. XP

[@sigally]

Your empathy, authenticity and passion for your work shines through with every reaction. Ren performs in a way that gets inside you. He communicates his emotions very clearly and passionately. He is very meticulous with his work. (His sentiments, not mine) . He is a visionary in music. He's picky about who he chooses to collaborate with and lifts them up. He wants them to shine over himself. He is a powerful positive force combined with passion, self confidence, humility, empathy, and a desire to change the world from our destruction of it. (you haven't heard those songs yet). ❤💜💙. Kind of like you.

[@monodescarado]

"For Joe" hits pretty hard and is worth the listen; it explores things like guilt, blame and how he's grown after his friend's death. Sidenote: You might not know this, but Ren does a lot of interviews with reaction youtubers. He watches you guys break down his stuff and he loves talking honestly about things. Try reaching out - I suspect he will be fully on-board with what you do on your channel.

[@arxMorrigan]

I love this song, but Ren feat. Bibi - "Crutch" has hit me the hardest.

[@TheEverydayPoet]

Ren's POWER video is a terrific example of HALLELUIA.

[@stephenengle9982]

I think you may like Rens "power" song it is a more positive outlook on his trama

[@deangelo95]

Chalk Outlines (Live Version) Ren & Chinchilla 🔥🔥🔥

[@ozzy7109]

Watching my best friend take his life in a violent manner just feet in front of me so suddenly was the worst thing I've ever gone through... He was 21... I was 22 at the time (36 now)... Only the past 2-3 years have I healed

[@RenNotRen]

Is that a Freudian slip with the title? "Hot to be me" 😁❤ Always love the reaction, great emotional song that gets me every time.

[@kellyt5341]

😂...I was thinking the same thing. "I couldn't wait to do another Ren" she says, her brain...Ren is hot!.

[@robmullins]

It's important to know that was recorded on the bridge where Joe took his life.

[@angelaprzybylski1425]

It wasn't. Watch closely again it's the top of a building. He's said it's not a bridge

[@user-cl5jv8xd6e]

I attempted suicide in July of 2017. I been suffering a hemorrhagic stroke March 20th of 2023. I have suffered greatly from a myriad of issues all of my life essentially and I just wanted you to know that you have. You were part of getting me up and starting my life again. You inspired me to want to share my story. I've started a book and a way in the process of doing something on KZbin or a documentary. Probably both but you Taylor specifically this group's. Incredible! You specifically struck such a cord with me and reminded me of some way who is smart and beautiful and passionate about many things. I also started my college career on a vocal music performance scholarship. So music is always held a to your place in my heart. I want to thank you for reminding me of my Muse when I was in my late teens and early twenties. When and the line in this song have I lost the Midas touch? My life was golden. We had everything we wanted and didn't know what to do with what else we had left over and I threw it all away because of alcohol and mental health. Other many very end of issues. That stroke was my wake up. I have no desire for alcohol anymore. I have a new understanding and perspective of life and so I had lost them. Eyes touch but the biggest mistake I could ever have made has been successful in July of 2017 and not had and please understand what I'm saying. Not had the blessing of having nearly died and been in and spent somewhere between 2 weeks and a month not fully back. I was hallucinating living essentially to realities that kind of coincided for a while but that is all getting better and I'm healing quickly and and you were part of my initial inspiration to get out of bed and go to what I needed to do with this new lease on life. Thank you. I hope that I don't know. I don't do this very often. I hope that somehow my contact information is attached

[@twistedpixel756]

i don't know about the rest of you, but this song doesn't just sound like you cant breathe, my diaphragm literally gets so tight i end up holding my breath through most of it. enough so that i sometimes joke about it being my ab workout for the day.

[@Taratara-uc8pn]

Chinchilla is incredible - check out Fingers live for Hunger TV and Little Girl Gone

[@tfodthogtmfof7644]

I have been there. I have felt it. My son who was also diagnosed as emotionally disabled was my anchor to this world. I knew losing me would have destroyed him and I could not do that. I have a semicolon branded on the inside of my right wrist. My children gave me no choice but to get help. 18 years ago I hit that bottom. 16 years ago hormone therapy turned my whole world upside down. Within 2 weeks of getting my brain and body chemistry straightened out the suicidal ideation disappeared. I wear the semicolon so that those who see it and know what it means feel free to talk or reach out for help. I remain.

[@nlp3000]

This song always makes me reflect on the folks I've lost over the years (and how, in some ways, I can count myself among them) and then I remember this quote, which I feel like you're kinda getting at in how you talk about how you are, loving who you are now, shaped by the loss that came before: “We are all our own graveyards, I believe; we squat amongst the tombs of the people we were. If we're healthy, every day is a celebration, a Day of the Dead, in which we give thanks for the lives that we lived, and if we are neurotic we brood and mourn and wish that the past was still present.” - Clive Barker

[@williamkeith8740]

Thanks for that quote - sums up perfectly some of my thought processing.

[@patriciaobrien6600]

WOW. JUST WOW. That quote 😮❤

[@mikeoliver159]

Clive Barker is a creative genius. What an imagination that man has!

[@jorice5528]

This one is my Achilles heal 💔 wonderful reaction & insights x Thank you.

[@finch992]

As someone with an autoimmune disease like ren but not as bad but still. Losing who I used to be with my illness and the pain and energy I have lost plus memory and forgetting the best parts of my children's youngest years kills me. Plus people saying it's not that bad or in your head and rens music connects so much with how I feel and what I go thru all the time. Bless him for bringing his talents and his own health and mental problems to us through his music so we can connect and help us get thru our problems

[@griffonwriter]

Every day, at least once, I feel this way.... How do I keep going? I am a suic*de "survivor". I was engaged to someone who took his own life. We will never completely recover from that loss... all of us who loved him. But I never ever ever want to be the cause of that kind of pain. My spirituality and my spouse are what has most recently saved my life... Today, I find 5 things every day as reasons to stick around. Some days are easier than others.

[@jenneper]

I lost my husband to suicide, Christmas day 1996... I found out I was pregnant with twins the day after he passed. My whole existence switched to raising my kids (we had 5). I suffered with PTSD for 25 years. I just lost my mom and it all comes back. On the plus side, I am a Psychology major now..but I'm exhausted

[@matthewschreiber2421]

So as you noticed Ren is an amazing artist and really any of his songs have meaning. Chalk outlines is a great one. But 7 Sins is another. I think you should check out.

[@Emilie-one]

I get goosebumps and a lump in my throat every time I hear this. So glad you got to this one! ❤️

[@elanorfairbairn]

Ooh,ooh, and Dominoes!!

[@rodgersmith6891]

Am looking forward to seeing a "For Joe" reaction as well and you did a.great job here as well. Their other live duet "Chalk Outlines" is also fire. I would like to point out that so far you have only exposed yourself to Ren's quote unquote "heavy" stuff, so I just want to remind you that there are equally impressive psychological nuggets to be found in his more happier, upbeat stuff. So I hope, sometime along your journey down this rabbithole, that you react to songs such as "Humble," "Hold On," and Mayne "life is funny". Also, it looked like your jaw dropped at some of Chinchilla's vocals, which is good, because hopefully there might be a shot of you listening to her solo stuff. If so, start with the live version of "fingers" for Hunger T.V

[@jjkehrley]

I attempted suicide almost 10 years ago, and since then I learned how to love myself and be me. I'm so grateful I did survive.

[@robert_5974]

This is one of the best live performances ever by any duo IMO! If you listen to the original which this still captures and moves beyond, you will see they emulated the string instruments with their voices and it is magnificent! There is a finely tuned rawness to this performance that hits your soul.

[@Shiroar]

You obviously need to check out their performance of Chalk Outlines too. But if you want more emotional singing from Ren, please check out one of my personal favourites: Crutch feat. Bibi. It’s an older song from before he was finally correctly diagnosed with Lyme disease and was written after a breakdown following multiple emergency trips to the hospital. It is heart wrenching and beautiful.

[@carlymikenna]

You’ve gotta react to Chalk Outlines. This song + Chalk Outlines are unbelievable. Ren + Chinchilla are one of my favorite collabs.

[@maxmacpherson1957]

Ren and Chinchilla write amazing music when they get together!

[@jeremythornton3240]

I literally only watch Ren and Ren's reactions, so I'll never get tired of watching you do Ren reactions or praising them. 🤷‍♂️

[@furbie7918]

I love her already. Whelp, time to binge watch another reactor i guess lol Cant wait!

[@emil5115]

im so sorry for ur loss of a close one, something i read onine a while back that helps me **Love yourself. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to laugh, laugh. There is no one "right" way to do this. It never gets easy, the load is always a heavy one to carry, but our loved ones would not us to miss out on living and loving. Carrying on is not forgetting.**

[@xdaniedx]

When they sing the party, "Over and over we go, over the hills and the valleys below" to me that reminds me of the ups and downs of depression. Some days we're up high and feeling good, and others we're down in the valleys full of sadness and depression.

[@SavelySlezkin]

Thank you for your amazing reaction, looking forward to the next video!

[@jrbush1]

This song is so powerful. What a great reaction.

[@peterveste6976]

thank you for continuing to react and support my favourite artist ever please please please more Ren ❤❤❤

[@Montana_wildhack70]

Crutch is just beautiful. It was done with his girlfriend at the time Bibi. It’s just art.

[@khristianacampbell3356]

My sister died when she was 17 and I was 16! That day separated my life from the day before she died and my life after that day! Almost 10 years to the day later my baby brother drowned! And of course my family like many others who lose children….. well we were hugely dysfunctional! My Mother was not well before all of this and she became downright insane after my sister died! I myself spiraled into alcoholism and drug use! It took me so long to overcome this life….. these tragedies! A lot of therapy- many stays at rehab! I DEFINITELY LOST ANY SENSE OF WHO I WAS. Sometimes life deals you a truly shi… hand! But you can keep fighting to have a beautiful life! My therapist once said to me “Poor kid you never stood a chance”. That saying validated me in a way I could never put into words! He validated my pain! I really needed someone to understand that I had suffered! There was a reason behind my pain! It took me so long but right now I do have a beautiful life and I am immensely thankful for where I am today! It took a lot of work! A lot of therapy….. a lot of AA! And as I got older I realized everyone’s pain is totally significant to them! I am grateful to have empathy to all those who are sick and suffering! I wish everyone is able to find the peace they seek.

[@dottedlinewent]

Paused at 8:13 - I’ve been there before, and gotten out of it. I’m back in that dark room again and didn’t even realize it until watching this reaction and absolutely breaking down. Going through diagnostics for a rare illness and it’s scary, and I don’t feel well 80% of the time. I’m hopeful that I will get through the dark again like I always do, but it’s nice to feel understood when you’re there. This video helped me. Thank you ❤

[@kellenfurbayern2915]

If you love him and chinchilla. Watch the live 1 shot of him and her in chalked outlines. It really touches his psychosis due to his Lyme disease.

[@ellevalh]

After 2 failed attempts, drug induced coma, along with a childhood that would make the devil wince. Ren has been an emotional wedge keeping me going. Keeps my body moving. And since around the game of 12/13. I forgot who I was, how to be truly happy and with the level of medication I am terrified to what I would become if I stopped. Even though I want to, as I feel nothing anymore. And my friend took his own life and I couldn't save him too Sorry for the dump

[@caupain66]

You’re a LEGEND!!!! I’m a lifer with counseling therapy;etc I’m not going to say any more just YOU ARE SPECIAL AND TRUE!!! I for one appreciate your presents on this planet

[@demrickwable]

That is the bridge that Joe jumped from. He has a song Freckled Angels that is dedicated to Joe. Do the one where he plays it live in the bar. Chalk Outlines is also fantastic with Chinchilla

[@roberth7139]

I was so lost interpreting Hi Ren - Your reaction video's, especially Hi Ren - hit a home run! I've since thought of individuals in a room by themselves, this being who they truly are, and if they are flickering back and forth, and I enter their room, I get hurt from them to me, and if they are at the later part of the video, they help me, or we are mutually helpful. Thank you so much for a part of my life I hadn't known existed!

[@smurkusgaming3540]

When I was a teen, I pretty much had one dream, go to live and work and experience life in the states. Went and done that, met a girl, she moved here first, but because it was easier for me to intergrate there I did so. It was amazing, and very difficult as well, but the girl helped me out with that a lot. Then when I lost all that and came back to the Netherlands, it was like my whole world shatterred. It's not like it was my first visit to the Maelstrom, but it was the first time that I didn't see a way out of it anymore. I also wasn't a stranger to having thoughts of ending it all, but when those throughts went from thinking of scenarios, to thinking about what we actually have in the house to do it with, I searched for help. I figured if I couldn't live for myself, the least I could do is not be the cause of other peoples sadness. Learned a lot about myself in therapy, found out that next to adhd, I also have pdd-nos and dysthemia, though I think these days it's called Pervasive depressive disorder. My new goal is to be a carpenter. I've been managing bits and bobs, but's it's still a strugglefest. It feels like my mind is the unrelenting storm that never wavers. The weirdest thing for me these days though, is that the option of ending it all exists, is comforting to me. Like, at least the choice is there, you know. Now let's see what other bs life has to throw at me. Hope whoever ends up reading this has a nice day!

[@jeffwilson3205]

It’s like discovering aliens who were sent here teach us about ourselves through beautiful music.

[@Chrisjb8583]

I am a survivor of sexual and physical abuse and I was going through a rough patch where I was doing self harm to myself and even attempted su*cide. Looking back now I'm glad I didn't succeed but it was a life lesson and going forward to where I'm at now things are looking up.

[@mikegoetz2882]

As others have said.. dominoes.. also depression and insomnia.

[@DogDocKat]

This song is so powerful. Such an amazing performance from both Ren and Chinchilla. I have been through a big loss (sudden death of my brother) and experienced forgetting how to be me for a really long time so this song hits on a personal level. Really enjoyed your reaction. I would highly recommend checking out Ren's song/video Crutch. 💜💜

[@salishseamermaid]

Love your reactions.

[@NanaM1984]

I really enjoyed your take on it!❤

[@Robert_Hugo]

Yes! More Ren reactions. Good form!

[@user-lt5om6nh8b]

Chinchilla is just pure emotion and combined with her musical sibling (term Ren uses for her) its just pure awesomeness , This is music not Taylor Swift there i said it.

[@silentwhisp4r670]

Awesome Reaction as always! Keep doing what you!

[@edualym]

So glad to have found your channel! Love your reaction

[@garychap8384]

As you haven't done it yet : _"For Joe"_ - by Ren Freaking amazing! Both crushingly sad and yet uplifting & hopeful.... Ren revisits earlier work like "suicide", but with a more mature treatment and some positive perspective. As a therapist, you'll love it - guaranteed : ) But I agree with others that you should hear more Ren+Chinchilla. _"Chalk Outlines"_ is a must!

[@BaronRice-ib4ms]

Love this performance. Love your reaction. Your reaction is my favorite one I’ve seen.

[@Quizzy0000]

great reaction didnt dissapoint at all like always :) keep up the amazing reactions.

[@kevinmundis1281]

Love the reaction and Rens music. :)

[@MoreKellBellPlease]

Great reaction to one of my favorite songs ❤ Hugs

[@jasonremy1627]

Such an emotional song.

[@Tessimistic420]

This one makes me ball my eyes out every time ❤

[@onur_polatt]

You should react Ren - Depression and Ren- Insomnia. These are beautiful songs.

[@onur_polatt]

Ren- Dear God Ren- Lost all faith Ren- Seven sins

[@petehutcheon5186]

lol. Have fun watching everything (because I know you will)! I’ll be following along! You have such a great way of mixing and using both your compassion and your knowledge when you react. You’re just so very insightful and relatable! Best I’ve seen. I suspect you’re getting closer into the mind of the writer than most others in your comments. Kudos!

[@andrewwest8334]

My favourite Ren song. And that’s a tough statement to commit to, amongst all of his genius. So great to watch you experience it. x